Shameless Leadership

Last week I woke to a Facebook memory from 8 years ago that totally threw me for a loop. This memory was a video of me teaching boot camp in a park in Seattle. I was immediately taken back to that time – when I was so excited and so nervous as I tried to sell spots in my little program that no one had heard of. Fast forward 8 years and I have accomplished so many tings I never though possible - from owning an award winning gym to having a baby to launching a successful podcast. So, here’s what really hit home for me a few hours after seeing that FB memory… If the last 8 years are any indication, SO MANY exciting, fun, terrifying, challenging, glorious unknown things are going to happen in my life in the next 8 years. This got me really pumped up for the next 8 years. Ok, your turn… I want you to think about a specific memory from 8 years ago. Where were you? Who were you with? What were you doing? How did you feel about it? Then play back everything that has happened since then. Look at everything you have accomplished, earned, and learned since then. You are not the same person as you were then. With what you know now, how will you make the next 8 years count? How will you push yourself? How will you grow and thrive? Here are some of my suggestions to keep you motivated for the next 8 years – addressed more deeply in the episode, of course! Take risks Connect with those who have gone before you Work with a coach or therapist Ask for support at home Be the person you want to be even if you’re not her yet Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 13: How To Be A Better Stalker and FanGirl with Lewis Howes Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Sponsor: http://www.kindsnacks.com/sma (use this link to get 10 KIND Snacks for $10 + free shipping) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jadah Sellner is an author, international keynote speaker, poet, and the creator of the Mentorship Lab™ & Build Your Challenge™ at jadahsellner.com. Since 2009, Jadah has started 3 businesses (including one brick and mortar) and now helps creative CEO’s, visionary entrepreneurs, and social change companies build communities with love, so that you can connect to your bigger vision, reach more people, support your family, and grow your income while NOT adding more work for you. (You may also know her from her work as co-founder and co-author of Simple Green Smoothies, which has been featured on The Doctors TV show, Oprah's O Magazine, Target and the Wall Street Journal.) When Jadah’s not helping world changers build their tribes with the Love Over Metrics™ movement, you can catch her reading Shel Silverstein poems at the dinner table. She lives in the San Francisco bay area with her husband, daughter, and their little “chiweenie” dog, Clementine. Jadah is someone I have admired since hearing her on a podcast interview a couple years ago. I was immediately drawn to her story and her calm, warm energy. While soft in nature, Jadah is a strong, persistent and powerful in her work. She embraces all aspects of entrepreneurship while constantly seeking opportunities to serve women in a deeper way. Listen in to hear Jadah share: The specific steps you can take to discover your passions Why you need to start dating yourself – and how to do it How to change course without risking it all Why you have to be ok with not-so-sexy transitions How to unhook your self worth from the outcomes in your life Links Mentioned: More about Jadah: jadahsellner.com Work with Jadah: jadahsellner.com/build-your-challenge Jadah on Facebook: facebook.com/jadahsellner Jadah on Instagram: instagram.com/jadahsellner Jadah on Twitter: twitter.com/jadahsellner Book: Simple Green Smoothies Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Sponsor: http://www.kindsnacks.com/sma (use this link to get 10 KIND Snacks for $10 + free shipping) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that maaaaaybe you have put too much time into planning summer for your kids and family and not enough time into planning summer for YOU. Am I right?!? I want you to love your summer. Like really LOVE it. I want you to cherish time that is only for you. I want you to OWN your space this summer. Can we do that together? I promise to make it simple and enjoyable! I want to look at 4 areas you might consider when it comes to taking care of YOU this summer: How will you move? How will you fuel yourself? How will you create down time? How will you create fun? Listen in to learn creative ways to stay consistent in your summer self care through some simple tricks and tactics. I’ll share ideas on how to keep exercise short & sweet, how to enjoy the best summer fuel without feeling guilty about an summer indulgences, and how to create time that is just for you to enjoy the season doing what YOU want to do (read: not chasing kids around a pool!) Links Mentioned: SMA interview with Jill Coleman: How to Eat Every Damn Day Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Sponsor: KINDsnacks.com/sma (use this link to get 10 KIND Snacks for $10 + free shipping) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Married for 23 years, with 4 children, Kori Reed and Mike Becker are on a mission to “Reimagine family stereotypes so that all modern families can thrive.” They are so committed to this mission that they wrote a book about it - Zag Zig Parenting: (Mis)Adventures of a Career-Driven Mom and a Stay-at-Home Dad ZagZig Parenting invites you to explore a married couple’s contemporary perspective on parenting through comical vignettes that share their differences, struggles and mistakes. Written by Kori, a career-driven mom of four children, with commentary from Mike, a twenty-year, at-home dad, this book shows work-life integration from a different lens, and creates a positive environment to reimagine the family framework. These vulnerable stories about life as a non-traditional family aim to paint a picture of everyday chaos provide comic relief and permit parents to thrive as they embrace their perceived shortcomings in the context of work-family flow. Parenting issues don’t discriminate. Listen in to hear Kori and Mike share: How Mike and Kori both started defying traditional gender roles at the age of 16 How parents with two very different personality types can successfully find their parenting groove What family management looks like for a stay-at-home dad and career driven mom The power and purpose of therapy How a Kori learned to juggle being a present parent and career focused mom What Mike loved about staying home with 4 kids over the course of 20 years Mike’s biggest parenting secret when it comes to minimizing overwhelm and chaos Links Mentioned: Find Kori and Mike here: www.ZagZigParenting.com But the book here: Zag Zig Parenting on Amazon Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After recording last week’s episode I realized I made a mistake. I told you all about Summer Bucket Lists and then I quickly added that since Vinnie is in full time childcare this summer, we didn’t need a Bucket List. That was dumb. Very dumb. We actually DO need a Bucket List this summer. Two in fact. Listen into hear how I came to this realization moments after finishing last weeks’ episode. I’ll share exactly how we created a Family Summer Bucket List and how I created my very own Mommy Summer Bucket List. This one little project has me so pumped up for summer. I highly recommend you do it too. I give a lot of helpful pointers in the episode, so you can make your Bucket Lists 100% relevant to all your hopes and dreams for Summer 2017. You’ll learn: Why you and your family need separate Bucket Lists What areas/ideas you might want to cover on your Bucket List How to get crafty with your Bucket List Parameters for play vis work on your Bucket List How creating a Bucket List is different than goal setting How to make your Bucket List about YOU, not them! Links Mentioned: Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After graduating at the top of her MBA class and landing an interesting job, Barb Anderson suddenly found herself staring directly in the face of every parent's worst nightmare when her 18-month old son, Jude, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. With this diagnosis, Barb was thrown into her new role as a "Momcologist," a position where she serves as chief advocate, medical officer and public relations expert for her family. Jude's journey has defied all odds, surviving three relapses, two bone marrow transplants and travel across the United States for groundbreaking clinical trials. He is now approaching six months after his second bone marrow transplant (for which Barb was the donor) and recovering well. Barb loves living in the kind, vibrant city of Tucson, Arizona with her husband, Aidan, Jude and younger son, Finn. When not serving as a Momcologist, Barb loves to cook, drink wine, brew kombucha, and connect with friends & family. She is a double graduate of the University of Arizona with an undergraduate degree in Marketing and an MBA in Entrepreneurship. I asked Barb to come on the show to talk about her story as a momcologist. She is going to walk us through the last 3 years of her life since Jude was diagnosed with Leukemia at just 18 months old. Listen in to hear Barb share: How Jude was diagnosed What life looks like with the ups and downs of pediatric cancer What kind of emotional turmoil remains even when the cancer is gone What it’s like to raise a sibling of a child with pediatric cancer What NOT to say (or send) to people fighting cancer The alarmingly low research funding that supports pediatric cancer Links Mentioned: Jude’s Man and Woman of the Year Leukemia and Lymphoma Donation Page Team Jude inspirational merchandise order form Book: The Emperor of Maladies Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you find yourself easily disappointed or frustrated by relationships and/or situations in your life, it’s time to take some #radicalresponsibility, friends. You create your own experiences, for better or worse. You have more power than you think. Cause, let’s be honest, you’re a badass. But even the baddest of asses hits a rough spot every now & then, right?? Here are a few tips to help you manage expectations: Assume nothing Create win/wins Communicate, communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more Be assertive (not aggressive) Set boundaries Expect hiccups When you put these practices in place, you will be able to much more accurately create the exact experiences you desire. You will also open the door for the people around you to do the same. Win/Win!!! This is especially valuable and helpful as we enter summer. What do you really want this summer? How are you going to get it? It’s up to YOU. Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 8 with Lori Kennedy: Is Work/Life Balance Possible? Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sage B Hobbs is the author of Naked Communication. Sage spent more than ten years in counseling, education, and community outreach. Her work has spanned diverse communities, from public schools to a residential treatment program for teens. Her experience ranges widely, including life transitions, personal empowerment, work/life balance, education, family dynamics, youth behavior, fertility struggles, cancer recovery, and more. When not geeking out on coaching and business development, Sage can be found playing in the mountains with her adorable children and husband, on her yoga mat, or talking at length with a girlfriend. This was such a fun conversation. Two minutes into my conversation with Sage I felt like we had known each other for years. You’ll hear this throughout the conversation as we piggy back off each others thoughts. How interesting to have such a great connection when talking to someone about CONNECTION! Sage is helping women show up, well, more naked. Before you panic, know that Naked Communication will mean different things to different women. But, embracing some of Sage’s philosophies and practices will really empower you to be more strong, powerful and capable in your conversations and your connections. Listen in to hear Sage share: What Naked Communication means and why you more of need it Why the goal of every interaction should be connection (and how to make that happen) The power of mental flexibility and how to make it a game The truth about forgiveness and why it’s for YOU, not someone else The steps to a powerful and productive apology How to have One minute moments of courage that can transform your life and conversations How to pushing yourself can actually alleviate anxiety Why Ah-Ha moments are never really ah-ha moments Links Mentioned: * Website: SageBHobbs.com * Book: Naked Communication by Sage B Hobbs * The ASK Formula Cheat Sheet: How to ask for what you want... and get it. http://www.sagebhobbs.com/ask-formula-cheat-sheet/ * Learn about your own communication styles and patterns with free book chapters at http://www.sagebhobbs.com/naked-communication-book-free-chapters/ * Sage on Facebook * Sage on Instagram * Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I very unexpectedly ended up on crutches last week. Although, I guess it’s rare that anyone plans to be on crutches…. In any case, crutches were NOT in my plan as I trained for an upcoming 10K or planned a trip to the beach for the holiday weekend. But, I fell on my way to the bathroom in the middle of the night (#41goingon86) and badly sprained my ankle. I spent the night at the ER – like the overnight – from 2:30-7:30am on a Saturday night - the best time to land one’s self at the ER, right? I came home totally cool with my prognosis: no break (phew!!!), but a bad sprain, crutches for the foreseeable future, no weight bearing until I can get in to the orthopedist. There is a time in my life – ok MOST of my life – that this whole turn of events would have sent me into a massive tailspin. I’m not one to live life spontaneously or embrace roadblocks. I like control. Like, all. the. time. I have done a lot of work on myself in the last few years – work that allows me to take life in stride, even though that is not my nature. This work has pushed me to live my life in a Growth Mindset – seeing opportunity at every turn – even when I’m on my bedroom floor, screaming, in the fetal position, and about to barf because I’m sure I’ve broken my ankle in the middle of the night. Listen in to this episode to hear how YOU can adopt a Growth Mindset and get rid of your Fixed Mindset tendencies that might be holding you back. I share 7 different practices and mindset examples that illustrate the difference between a Growth Mindset and a Fixed Mindset. Understanding how to embrace a Growth Mindset will change everything about your life – from the way you parent (I give you some great examples) to the way you follow your professional ambitions. This is good stuff, friends. Links Mentioned: Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lauren is on a mission to bring inclusivity and empathy to the forefront of fitness and health. She co-owns and operates Achieve Fitness in Boston with her husband, Jason, where they work daily to fulfill that mission. Lauren has been a personal trainer and strength coach for over 10 years, and she draws on her own past battle with body dysmorphic disorder to relate to and help others who may be going through similar struggles. When Lauren's not at the gym, she can be found spending time with her dog, Diesel, playing football, or relaxing on the beach in Cape Cod. Lauren wrote an article on her experience with Body Dysmorphic Disorder a few months ago and I was just blown away by her honesty and openness with her experience. I would venture to guess that most women have had body image struggles at one time or another. In Lauren’s experience, her struggles became pervasive and paralyzing. I found myself able to relate to Lauren’s story in many ways. If you’ve ever struggled with body image, eating disorders and/or disordered eating, I think you’ll be inspired by Lauren’s journey. Listen in to hear Lauren share: What daily life is like with BDD How she was paralyzed by BDD and her weight even though she was never actually overweight Why it is so hard for people with BDD and body image struggles to talk openly about it How sharing her story was a crucial part of her healing Her recommendations to other women who are struggling (…and why she doesn’t give advice) How she wants to revolutionize the gym experience for women and marginalized populations Links Mentioned: Achieve Fitness website: www.achievefitnessboston.com Personal website: www.lauren_pak.com Facebook (business): www.facebook.com/achievefitnessboston Facebook (personal): www.facebook.com/laurenp22 Instagram (business): www.instagram.com/achievefitnessboston Instagram (personal): www.instagram.com/laurenpak22 Lauren’s blog post: My Experience with Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Depression Book: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth Book: The Broken Mirror: Understanding and Treating Body Dysmorphic Disorder by Katharine A. Phillips Website: https://bdd.iocdf.org/about-bdd/ (an awesome resource that provides you with professionals as well as groups and programs based on your geographical location.) Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By now you have heard me share all about how motherhood knocked me on my butt – BIG TIME. It took me longer than I like to admit to adjust to my new life as a mom and to resolve myself to the idea that I would never get my old life back. My old life wasn’t really any better than my new mommy life (except for there was more time for sleep and wine) – but my old life was a life of predictability and all things KNOWN. So, basically the opposite of motherhood. Over the last few years, I have been able to see how one rebuilds their identity – because I rebuilt mine. The coolest part of the journey is that one the other side of the fear of the unknown is power and strength I didn’t know I had. Listen in to learn The 4 Cs of (Re)Building Your Identity: Character Courage Collaboration Confidence Walking through these 4 areas will give you the direction you need to build a life you love without feeling overwhelmed (and/or terrified…) Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 69: How to Be A Nasty Woman Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tay & Val are the spiritual consultants and soul mentors that executive coaches of Fortune 500s and founders of multimillion-dollar public companies go to, to answer their "What's Next?" question. Everything they do is grounded in the intention to help you lead your best life. Award-winning filmmakers, Tay and Val left successful media careers, closed their production company, wrapped work on their nationally televised television series P.S. I’m Sorry, and set off to travel the world by bicycle for a documentary project to inspire dreams. Six years, three continents, more than 400 public talks and national radio and TV appearances (in twelve countries), and 2 TEDx talks later, Tay and Val settled in the Pacific Northwest as City Artists of Seattle. Committed to helping visionary leaders meet their call to greatness with clear-eyed vision, groundedness, and deep trust - they work with leaders and businesses around the globe who hear the call to rise and say yes. More recently, their work has also appeared on Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, and Thrive Global. They are also co-founders of M Meditation. Their signature program, Propel Your Purpose, sherpas a soulful tribe of multipassionate, multitalented, and multifaceted millennials (at heart) to bring their whole selves to the table, create a thriving life, and make the impact you’ve always envisioned for yourself and the world. Listen in to hear Tay n Val share: Why they left their award winning careers to journey the world on bikes How one man’s dream changed their dreams forever The power of their pivotal question, “What’s Your Dream?” How an 8 year old girl helped us define our #soulpurpose and set us on a path aligned to it The surprising (and enlightening!) thing Moms around the world shared with us, that shifted our guilt for being the daughters who left home to live our dreams Links Mentioned: Discover your #soulpurpose: Taynval.com/soulpurpose Video: How 2 Ordinary Girls Chose To Be Extraordinary Video: Tay & Val TEDx talk Tay & Val on Facebook Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I’m going to give you my Bloomsday Race Report and share my weakness – The Messy Middle… Whenever I set out out to accomplish something I start out 100% inspired, motivated, excited, strong, powerful, eager, peppy, spirited – and eagerly anticipating success. Then I get about 60 % toward my goal and I CRASH. This is where things get uncomfortable, uncertain, not-so-strong, less powerful, way less motivating, uncertain and ugly. I often feel self doubt, fear, and negative self talk. Welcome to the Messy Middle. Have you ever been??? Once I push through the Messy Middle I once again feel optimism, motivation, excitement - all those initial feelings come flooding back. I feel powerful as I approach my finish line or deadline. When you’re in that Messy Middle, you want to BAIL. Maybe you actually do bail sometimes. I know I have. Listen in to hear the strategies I use to take control of my Messy Middle and reach my goals (including my Messy Middle at Bloomsday last weekend). These are simple things that will take you far. The Messy Middle is where you will make something of your goals and dreams OR where you will lay them down to die. The choice is yours. Understand the power of that decision. You can do anything – but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to do anything. It’s never easy. It’s rarely pretty. But it’s always worth it. Lastly, SHOUT OUT to the Bethany and Katie, the mamas in the photo for this episode. They were the best Bloomsday running buddies! Links Mentioned: Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Melissa DaSilva is a clinical social worker and founder of the group practice East Coast Mental Wellness in Providence, RI. She serves as an individual and couples therapist, as well as a group facilitator. She has spent many years working in schools as a school social worker and has an upcoming podcast titled Pride Connections. Melissa is an expert in the field of transgender topics, and works with many trans and nonbinary youth to provide support throughout their transition. She collaborates with outside providers to ensure comprehensive care for those who wish to pursue physical transition. Melissa enjoys working with clients on LGBTQ topics, academic issues, bipolar disorder, and personality disorders. She also has experience supporting clients with anxiety, depression, and life transitions. Her practice is welcoming towards all genders and sexualities, as well as poly and kink couples. She uses a variety of approaches in her therapy including pet therapy, meditation, and places a lot of focus on sleep and nutritional health. When Melissa isn't running her business she is creating art and selling it at local markets. Listen in to hear Melissa share: What all the letters mean in LGBTQQIA (they are all different and all important) What the terms cisgender, non-binary, gender-expansive and gender fluid mean The difference between sex and gender How to talk to explain sexual orientation and gender to kids in very simple terms How can you and your family be supportive of LGBTQQIA children How to can you be supportive if you suspect your child might be LGBTQQIA How to ask someone about their sexual orientation and/or gender expression How to use gender pronouns correctly and appropriately Links Mentioned: Podcast Website: PrideConnections.com Private Practice Website: eastcoastmentalwellness.com Melissa’s Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Change is the WORST. Or at least that’s what I used to tell myself – for like 30 years. After becoming a mom I spent a full year feeling completely run over by all the change and unpredictability of my new mommy life. I kept wait for everything to “go back to normal.” As you can guess – that never happened. I had to resolve myself to the constant change that is motherhood. As someone who thrives on routine and predictability, that was a tough pill to swallow. But then I looked at some of ways I had embraced change in other areas of my life over the last 10 years and I was able to slooooooowly start embracing motherhood and change in a new and more positive light. Before I tell you how to get over your fear of change, let me help you understand why you’re afraid of change: The known is always more comfortable than the unknown We live in a fear based culture – so we’re programmed to be afraid of what we do not yet know We like consistency, predictability and control We’re scared of failure, mistakes, and of wasting our time and energy And now – the good stuff - how to get over your fear of change: Recognize that you are already in constant flux and transition Consider change an opportunity for a “software upgrade” Know there will be moments of panic and doubt and possibly a sense of complete failure and/or regret Know that practicing and embracing change makes it feel less burdensome Understand that the best way to conquer fear and anxiety is to prove to yourself you CAN do the things you are afraid of change is not bad – it’s just different Links Mentioned: Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for a free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tracey and Joanne are mothers and sisters who are living the healthiest, happiest life possible. Together they created Sistermixin’ to improve their families health and spread the word of their life changing discoveries. They are on a mission to share how you can improve your health and your life by removing toxic additives and preservatives from your diet. Their mission all started when Joana’s young daughter was having significant health and behavior issues. Desperate for answers and willing to try anything, Jo removed additives from her daughter’s diet and saw her daughter change before her very eyes. Shortly after this life changing discovery, Joana shared her tips with Tracey and they have never looked back. Listen in to hear Tracey and Jo share: How Jo was able to completely change her daughter’s health and behavior by changing her diet What kinds of preservatives your kids are eating that you don’t know are harmful What to look for when reading food labels What additives should be most avoided The truth about food dyes and MSG (and how they are hidden everywhere…) Simple steps to get started with additive free eating How to support your child’s special eating habits in social settings Links Mentioned: Website: sistermixin.com Podcast: The Whole Circle Sistermixin on Instagram Study: Southhampton Study of Food Dyes and Hyperactivity in Children Course: Additive Free Made Easy Food App: ChemicalMaze.com Episode Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use the code SMA30 to get your free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I think one of the hardest parts of motherhood is all. the. things. I don’t mean physical things – although there is SO MUCH STUFF. Everywhere. Books, legos, art, clothes, balls, more legos, petrified snacks… But I’m talking more about all the things you need to keep track of on a daily/weekly/monthly/yearly basis. Your brain is constantly firing in multiple directions and that makes it hard to actually forge a path in any one direction for any length of time. I think this is why we often feel so stuck. We intend to be really productive, but we get distracted or sucked into something unexpected and our best laid plans fall to the way side. Over and over and over. To the point that we don’t even remember what are best laid plans were…. On a small scale this happens every time we get interrupted by a text or we open out inbox. On a larger scale, this happens when we don’t have built in #tinyhabits to create space in our lives and our heads daily. In this episode I’ll share 5 quick and simple #tinyhabits that will give you energy and help you create the MOMENTUM you need to move forward in any area of your life you choose! Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 102: Scott Colby – Say It With Gratitude Episode Sponsor: Aaptiv.com (use the code SMA30 to get your free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Melissa Fox Lehman (layman) is the CEO and co-founder of Pogo Rides. For the last 15 years, she’s been helping Fortune 50 companies and nonprofits develop strategy and roll-out global programs. She loves developing actionable strategy and seeing those strategies brought to life. When she became a mom she knew she wanted to focus her energies on building something to make life easier for busy parents. This was the genesis for Pogo. Melissa and her team are committed to helping families find safe and flexible transportation for their school-age children. As a mother of two, she understands the logistical challenges faced by busy parents of busy kids and believes in the power of communities to help each other live fuller and less stressful lives. Safety, community, and ease are the core tenants of Pogo Rides. I wanted to have Melissa on the show to talk about how her view of work changed after she had kids. She very consciously chose to shift directions and build a business that could support other families. Her professional mission has evolved right along side her path in motherhood, as I think often happens. Listen in to hear Melissa share: The power of sharing in your community Why it’s ok to outsource duties Why asking for support helps you and your community How we can create a lot more win/win opportunities among our neighbors How to revolutionize your carpool network Links Mentioned: Website: Pogorides.com Melissa’s Email: [email protected] Sponsor: aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ok, I’ll admit it… I was hard on myself last week. HARD. I have a lot going on and I let it get to my head. Sometimes when we have too many things going on we feel we’re not doing any one thing really well. That was me. Just feeling all sorts of mediocre… AND super frazzled. I had a pity party. I even invited a few people to join me. Luckily, they were kind and helped me get out of my head. I also practiced KINDNESS toward myself. Being kind to yourself is important. No, it is crucial. Especially when things are chaotic, frantic, overwhelming… Here are 5 ways to be more kind to yourself when the going gets tough: Practice personal development, even if just for a few minutes Create ME time – especially when you don’t think you have it Catch yourself as you’re falling Move – sweat, if possible Ask for help Links Mentioned: Book: Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes Book: Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton Book: The Desire Map By Danielle LaPorte Book: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson Book: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown Sponsor: aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for free 30 day trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Lang is a childhood sexuality expert and parent educator who helps parents talk to their kids about sex and sexuality. Her engaging, humorous and inspiring style shows parents how to turn conversations they dread into something they look forward to and embrace whole-heartedly. Though her business, Birds + Bees + Kids® Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sex with their kids. She is the author of Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and Dating Smarts – What Every Teen Needs To Know To Date, Relate Or Wait. Amy has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post Live and Babble.com. Learn more about her work at www.birdsandbeesandkids.com I have been dying to get Amy on the show for awhile now because I knew there might be things I was already behind on in talking to my 4 year old about sexuality. In this interview, Amy helped me get my ducks in a row and she’ll help you too! Listen in to hear Amy share: How her discomfort in talking to her own 4 year old about sexuality catapulted her into a career as a childhood sex expert At what age you should be talking to your kids about sex and sexuality (hint: NOW) Why talking to your kids about sex includes talking to them about masturbation (especially girls) How you can become more comfortable and less awkward as you venture into territory that might be uncomfortable for you The reality of why were seeing more sexualized behavior and mature dress in younger children and how you can protect your child The 3 ways you can protect your kids from sexual abuse Where Radical Responsibility comes into play with parenting and how to find your boundaries between being the parent and being accepted by other parents Links Mentioned: Amy’s Website: Birdsandbeesandkids.com Birds+Bees+Kids on Facebook Book: It’s Not the Stork App: Aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 for free 30 day trial!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The truth about failure: Failure does not have to suck. In fact, it is 100% possible to WIN while failing. As with most things, it’s all a matter of perspective. I firmly believe you should fail often and fail fast. That is how you open more doors to see all the possibilities that lie ahead. Listen in to learn: Why failure can make goals seem less attainable Why failure makes creates FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) How failure can lead to self sabotage Then learn my top tips in failing: Fail often Expect hiccups Be ready to pivot ID #tinywins Silver linings Model failure to your kids Failure is not a loss. It’s an opportunity. Links Mentioned: Psychology Today Article: 10 Surprising Facts about Failure Shameless Mom MOMENTUM Mastermind: https://smamastermind.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship learning community. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. Shasta is a 10 year Friendship Expert. She knows all the research on friendships – and on loneliness, which is plaguing us even though we are more virtually connected than ever before. Shasta is joining us in The Shameless Mom Academy to share the keys to building friendships and sustaining friendships, which can be a challenge in motherhood. Yes, your time is limited, but the truth is you friendships have never been more crucial. Listen in to hear Shasta share: The 3 S’s of a satisfying friendship Why it is essential that we feel loved, known, and supported The epidemic of loneliness that doctors are saying is the biggest health epidemic of our time How our relationship with our spouse is different that our relationships with girlfriends – and why you need BOTH The power of modeling friendship to your children and how to make sure boys are especially aware of the power and necessity of friendship The 3 requirements that must be present for a healthy friendship Links Mentioned: Join Shasta: Girlfriendcircles.com Resource: Frientimacy Quiz Book: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The TRUTH about fitness is that our society perpetuates a ton of myths that make exercise very confusing. That confusion leads to us wasting our time at the gym or not exercising at all because we don’t understand the truth of how easy and simple exercise can be. Listen in to hear: Three fitness LIES that are damaging your results A BONUS tip that impacts weight loss The dangers in using exercise as punishment How long you need to exercise to make it effective The difference between exercising for health benefits and exercising for weight loss The significance of food intake compared to exercise when it comes to using exercise for weight loss Links Mentioned: Today’s sponsor: aaptiv.com (use code SMA30 to get a free month trial) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jill Simonian is the author of The FAB Mom’s Guide: How to Get Over the Bump & Bounce Back Fast After Baby. The FAB Mom’s Guide celebrates motherhood while poignantly and candidly exploring the spectrum of emotions and real-life challenges women face from pregnancy through the first year of baby’s life - beginning with Jill's unexpected first pregnancy within her first year of marriage just as her career was taking off (which originally involved plenty of tears and swear words), to giving birth to two daughters in two years. Jill offers easy tools, tricks and humor she and other women actually used to help new moms successfully bounce back mentally and physically within a matter of months, ultimately finding the right balance between home, career and family. Jill is also known for her work as a TV Host & Entertainment Journalist turned Parenting Lifestyle Expert & Contributor. She is currently on CBS Los Angeles twice a week. She has also worked with the TODAY Show, HLN, and the Hallmark Channel. Listen in to hear Jill share: How she found her self unexpectedly pregnant (twice) How she tried to hide her first pregnancy (and failed) Here stance on nursing – and her no guilt approach to formula Why she believes life only gets better after motherhood Why you should stop negotiating everything with your kids How tiny professional steps, taken while being a stay at home mom, built a foundation for her current career Links Mentioned: Blog: TheFabMom.com Book: The FAB Mom’s Guide: How to Get Over the Bump & Bounce Back Fast After Baby by Jill Simonian Book: The Pie Life by Samantha Ettus Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am not a great decision maker. I can admit to being 100% paralyzed by the decision of what kind of bibs to buy for Vinnie on Amazon a few years ago. BIBS, people. However, I don’t identify myself as being indecisive, because that label would be crippling for me. That would make me more indecisive. Labels matter. They impact our decisions. So, I do my best to identify as someone who makes decisions quickly and makes decisions that serve me well. I also set limits around my decision making, so I don’t get analysis paralysis. Being indecisive is disempowering. If keeps you stuck. It gives you permission to stay in your safe little cocoon of all things known & comfortable. Growth and change do not happen among the indecisive. Indecision invites in fear and doubt. When you are stuck in indecision you think of all the bad things that could go wrong with Decision A vs Decision B vs Decision C. If you just make a damn decision, you would learn that you are capable OWNING Decision A OR Decision B OR Decision C. In reality, it might not even matter which one you choose as long as you own the one you choose and make it serve you. If you struggle with decisions or analysis paralysis or feeling stuck, this episode is for you. Be a badass decision maker. Today. And everyday moving forward. Just make a damn decision. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is an extremely special one. We have our first Shameless Kid joining the show! Joshua Apparicio is a 12-year-old seventh grader who has partnered with Be Strong, an anti-bullying organization. Joshua works with Be Strong to share his story of being bullied regularly for 6 years. In addition to working with Be Strong to help other kids impacted by bullying, Joshua is a published poet (he was first published at age 7) and he recently took his SATs – yes, the ones you’re supposed to take when you’re 16. You could say Joshua has a very bright future… I recently saw Joshua do an interview with my friend Scott Colby (from our Say It With Gratitude SMA episode) and I was blown away. Joshua is wise and insightful well beyond his years. He is sweet and compassionate and brilliant. I knew I had to have him join us in the SMA. I am so excited to have such a dynamic young gentleman on our show as our first Shameless Kid. I am also extremely grateful to Joshua and his mother, Shirmin, who were so enthusiastic and thoughtful about this interview. I was fortunate enough to be able to talk to Joshua’s mom, Shirmin, after we stopped recording, and I was so touched by her grace and strength, qualities she has clearly passed down to her son. Joshua, wherever you go in life you will make a positive difference. You already are. Please listen in to hear Joshua share: What it was like for Joshua to be bullied on a regular basis for 6 years How Joshua and his mom were finally able to put an end to the bullying How his Mayor became his mentor when his school district failed to protect him How his mom coached him every night to help his mindset around his situation His advice to other kids who are being bullied The surprisingly kind and compassionate thoughts he has about kids who demonstrate bullying behaviors Why being a victim of bullying actually positively impacted his life Links Mentioned: Be Strong: BeStrong.global SMA Episode 102: Scott Colby – Say It With Gratitude Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I don’t think aging is a bad thing. I like to embrace my signs of aging: The burning desire to go to bed earlier A few wrinkles to prove I’ve smiled and laughed a lot Some forehead lines, cause apparently I raise my eyebrows excessively – which really enhances my eyes More cellulite – but who even cares anymore?? A more carefree attitude about imperfections (see #4) The complete disregard of cultural messages about aging and beauty (thank you #5) Increased awareness to stop and smell the roses, because now I get it – there is no guarantee that the roses will be there tomorrow A more shameless attitude about chasing dreams & desires, in spite of others opinions Dark circles under my eyes – which are just proof that I got to cuddle with my child on three separate occasions during the night last night Aging doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It doesn’t need to take you down. It is not cause for pills, serums, syrups, lotions, potions, or creams. But you do want to have some awareness about the quality and quantity of your life as you age. There are 6 KEY ingredients that will slow down the aging process, so you can live LONGER and live BETTER. Listen in to hear my Top 6 All Natural Anti-Aging Secrets. PS: I feel qualified to give advice on this because I got carded today and I’m 41 and a half. Cheers! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Main Questions: Liz Nead is a force. She is a speaker, coach, a television host, and an expert in Bringing Life Back to Everyday Life. She is also a mom to 7 kids in her blended family – yes, 7. Liz is impacting the lives of thousands of people worldwide by speaking the truth, pushing boundaries that need shifting, and modeling how delightful everyday life can be. I reached out to Liz because she is an inspiration to me as a woman, a mother, and an entrepreneur. Liz doesn’t shy away from the truth, or hard work, or her destiny. She makes good things happen all around her, all the time. Listen in to hear Liz share: How unexpectedly becoming a mother to twin sons shaped her life How to live in the moment, be alive, and not be fake Why a less full life is a better life The power of pushing physical boundaries and the connection between athleticism and motherhood The reciprocal role of parents teaching kids and kids teaching parents Why she took her clothes off on stage that one time… How “diversity training” has harmed our society What you need to know about being “racist ready” Links Mentioned: Book: The 100 Day Journey: Spark the Shift to Your Best Life by Liz Nead Huff Po article Website: http://www.liznead.com/ Book: Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m just a few days back from a life-changing week in the Philippines. This journey half way around the world was not an easy choice for me. But it was the right choice, and I’m so glad I did it. I left on this trip alone, sick, and feeling pretty intimidated. I returned with a new tribe, with newly inspired motivation in multiple areas of my life, and filled with gratitude for such a powerful and positive experience. Tune in to hear me share: How I have failed miserably with transitions and new experiences in the past My 4 goals leading up to this trip The dilemma of the Imposter Syndrome (for me and everyone) Why you should take a chance on new and uncomfortable experiences Suggestions on how to start taking steps outside your comfort zone in order to find your tribe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hilary Hendershott has an impressive resume as a financial planner. She owns Hilary Hendershott Wealth Management and is the host of Boss Profit Radio (an awesome podcast). She’s a TEDx speaker. She has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, NBC, ABC, FOX, Forbes, and various other media outlets. She has made over 30 expert television appearances and she’s been recognized as a Top 40 Under 40 Entrepreneur in Silicon Valley. But, what you’ll probably most enjoy about Hilary is that she is REAL. She tells it like it is and she’s not afraid to be 100% forthcoming with her own story of hitting her debt rock bottom. I know you’ll all appreciate her # 1 Rule: No Financial Drama. She’s not in the biz to shame people or scare people. She wants to help you neutralize your relationship with money so you can make decisions that empower your life. Listen in to hear Hilary share: What it’s like to be a female in a male driven industry The 6 (quick & easy) daily steps you can take to simplify your finances How to stop hiding from debt Ways to take the fear out of money How much you should really have in savings (and why it shouldn’t all be cash based) How to be more Shameless with your money Hilary also gave some really helpful tips on getting involved in the stock market (where more women NEED to play!), and she shared “The 3 F’s in Finding a Financial Advisor:” Fees Fiduciary Philosophy (ok, technically a PH!) Links Mentioned: Website: http://www.hilaryhendershott.com/ Email: [email protected] Free Guide: Mind Over Money Stock Market Training: Investing With Freedom for Smart Women Article: Fiduciary Podcast: Profit Boss Radio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We recently got back from a weeklong trip with 4 other families. Our group consisted of 10 adults, 5 four year olds and 3 two year olds. We had a blast. But, don’t mistake fun for rest. I wouldn’t say it was relaxing…. This is the second year we have traveled with this group. After doing this twice, I can say I wholeheartedly endorse group travel when you have little kids. BUT – you must be prepared and know what you’re getting into. This episode will highlight my 8 lessons learned traveling with 8 kids: Snacks all the time, everywhere Eat in vs eating out Meltdowns Adult free time Daily down time The beauty and fallout of treats and screens Buffer day Nothing is as great as it seems, nothing is as bad as it seems Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have to start this by letting you know this was easily one of my favorite interviews ever. You are in for the most gut wrenching story, told by the most amazing heroine and SuperMom, Leanne Kabat. Leanne moved to From Ottawa, Canada to Sammamish, Washington in January 2016. Before she had a chance to make any friends, her husband left on a week long business trip. Leanne was home with her 4 year old and her 2 year old, and she was 5 months pregnant. Her husband had been gone a for a few nights when Leanne woke up to pee one night (remember all the pregnancy peeing?!?) When she got out of bed, she passed out, falling on her belly, and woke up on her bedroom floor paralyzed. She would lie there for hours unable to move or speak. After hours of willing herself to GET UP, she finally regained enough mobility to get up and get herself, kids in tow, to the hospital. What followed were months of testing, the birth of her third baby, tons more testing, and ultimately this prognosis, presented by a large panel of doctors and medical experts: “We don’t know what you have. But we can tell you that based on the brain damage we are seeing from your ‘incident’, you only have 5 years to live.” Listen in to hear: what Leanne’s life was like after receiving a death sentence her ultimate breaking point 3 years after her diagnosis how drugs ruined her and mindset saved her how she finally stumbled upon her MamaCon tribe and how life changing and life giving this tribe has been why she chose to buy MamaCon based on “the utterly unshakeable belief that no mama should mama alone” Links Mentioned: MamaCon website: www.mamacon.net MamaCon on Facebook Book: Harold and the Purple Crayon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have been working with goal setters for the last 14 years. Working in the fitness industry, goals are always part of the conversation with clients. I’ve witnessed women on top of the world because they just crushed a goal. I’ve also witnessed women set the same goal over and over, feeling defeated and deflated in their self-proclaimed failure to ever reach said goal. This can be a viscous cycle that is really damaging to one’s mental health. Here are 4 reasons I frequently see women fail to meet their goals: 1. You haven’t seriously considered how amazing your life would be if you actually met your goal. Have you really deeply considered what your life would be like if you meet your goal? Would you be more patient with your kids, more productive at work, have more desire to fuel your body well? Would you have more energy and less anxiety? Would you feel more in control of your life and more assertive in your relationships? 2. You’re not putting enough structure around them. If you’re not specific about your goal and the EXACT steps you need to take to accomplish it, you’re not going to succeed. A blueprint of sorts is essential. 3. You’re holding out for a quick fix or next week, next month, next year. Stop waiting and start taking action. It is really as simple as that. A quick fix is a temporary bandaid. It will wash off after just a few days. Life will always be busy. The “right time” will never present itself. If you’re serious about accomplishing something, you must START. 4. You don’t believe in yourself and you’re quick to give up. Self-limiting beliefs are the silent killer of most goals. You must take steps to improve your head game and tell yourself you ARE worth it. Talk out your plan with a friend or mentor you know would be a great cheerleader. Seeing someone else’s confidence in you will give you confidence in yourself. You must be kind to yourself every damn day – telling yourself you ARE worth it and you CAN do it. Listen in to this episode to hear exactly how you can combat these hiccups and roadblocks. I have seen women and moms just like you turn their lives around because they made a plan and committed to working the plan. You truly can do anything – as long as YOU believe you can. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susan Weeks is a podcast producer who helps other entrepreneurs get started in podcasting or step up their game in podcasting. Susan’s work online started out of her desire to stay out of the corporate world that had been a part of her past. After becoming a mom unexpectedly at 39, while newly divorced, Susan’s life changed in every way you could imagine. With a partner who struggled to stay in one place long enough to put down roots, Susan spent years raising her son in many different homes in many different countries. In hindsight, she can clearly see how she lost herself in her relationship and in motherhood. In recent years, Susan has put down roots and built a life that is true to her identity as a leader and guide to those around her. She has built a business that can be flexible with motherhood and also allows her to put to use her best attributes to serve others. Listen in to hear Susan share: How she dealt with divorce, selling her house, walking away from her job and then discovering she was pregnant all in one month. How she moved all over Europe living someone else’s dream and lost herself The steps she took to build an online business around her strongest personality traits and her best skill sets from her corporate experience Why being selfish in motherhood is appropriate and sometimes necessary Links Mentioned: Susan’s Website: www.PodcastProgress.com Susan on LinkedIn Susan and Podcast Progress on Facebook Susan on Twitter @sueweeks Freebie: The Podcast Launching Kit Freebie: Using the 12 Week Year with Trello Book: 12 Week Year Book: The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months By Brian Moran Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can we all agree to tear off our Busy Badges and chill out a little. Life is only as hectic as you make it. If you find yourself living in constant overwhelm, it’s because you are allowing that to happen. Let’s all start taking Radical Responsibility for our time and our priorities. And for goodness sake, stop indulging your ego by telling others how busy you are. When I started taking Radical Responsibility for my busyness, I became a LOT less busy. I was able to slow down and simplify my life in a number of ways. I no longer wear my Busy Badge. I tore it off and stomped on it until it was no longer recognizable. Here are 7 secrets to help you slow down & simplify: Meal Plan – do not be a slave to the 4:45pm “what’s for dinner” trap. Listen in to hear my top tips on how to make meals suuuuper simple forever. Time Block Chores – stop doing chores everyday. Yep, I’m giving you permission. It’s a waste of your time and an energy drain. Listen in to hear how to do less laundry and less bathroom cleaning (and stop dusting!) Divide & Conquer – you are not the only capable person in your family or your neighborhood or your children’s school. Listen it to hear how to enlist help and support. Social Boundaries – Your kids have social boundaries at school, right. There is a time for play and a time for work and a time to chill. You should have the same at home, especially on the weekends. A go-go-go lifestyle is not good for your kids or for you. Listen in to hear how to create some rules around your social calendar. Stop Over Scheduling – you and your kids don’t need to be involved in everything. It doesn’t make them more well rounded. It doesn’t make you more important. It just makes everyone a little more nutty. For real. Stop. Listen in to hear how to pick and choose activities. Quality Quiet Time – this is my best secret. You have to do it. I promise you’ll thank me. Outsource (groceries, yard work, laundry) – free up mental space and create more time and energy by getting help. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Listen in for cheap tips! If you can follow any of these 7 steps, you will: free up mental space reduce decision fatigue create space for peace and calm model good habits to your kids tear off your Busy Badge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Adele inspired me in a million ways at the Grammy’s. But what touched me most deeply were her comments on motherhood. In today’s episode I’ll share more about what Adele said and why it was so important, as well as go in depth as to why we lose ourselves in motherhood. I’ll confirm for you that you are KILLING it, even though no one has thanked you in a really long time. I will touch on how you do all you do - that you don’t even know you are doing – making you a superhero of the most invincible kind. I’ll discuss your supreme and extreme sense of responsibility that no one else in your household can relate to. I’ll award you with your Masters Degree from Newborn University that you gained overnight, while you were in labor, since everyone else probably forgot to give it to you. I’ll give you permission to be more shameless and more selfish #everydamnday Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 22: Erin Brown - Letters to Lola Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Scott Colby is an adventure lover who has created businesses around his passions. Although he has spent over a decade in the fitness industry helping people create transformations, it is his love of international travel and thirst for adventure that has led him create his favorite brands - Say It With Gratitude and Unplug and Play Adventures. I invited Scott to come on the show because I wanted to talk to him about the power of gratitude in his life and how he has used it to fuel his career. Scott recently launched Say It With Gratitude, a movement designed to help people have more gratitude and happiness in their lives. It starts with thank you cards, designed by kids impacted by charity. Scott’s mission with Say It With Gratitude is powerful. The impact gratitude is having on his life and on those he serves is profound. Scott is also quick to clarify that gratitude, while it should be practiced consistently, can be practiced imperfectly. There are no strict rules or “right” ways to do it. The power is in doing it in a way that you are reflecting positively on your own life and touching others in a positive way. Ways to practice Gratitude: Say Thank You out loud and often Appreciate the little things in your daily life Acknowledge what you DO have in rough times Acknowledge people with your words and actions Notice simple pleasures Notice, take in, and appreciate your surroundings Get out in nature Not comparing yourself to others – embrace your unique path and own it Live your life as if everything is a miracle Smile at others and make eye contact Make small talk with strangers Give compliments freely Volunteer Impact on your community Listen in to hear Scott share: How gratitude can change your life How to practice gratitude in new, simple, easy ways Why we need to resurrect Thank You cards The power or pivoting The magic of asking for help Make sure to check out Say It With Gratitude and the charities and people Scott is currently working with. I was particularly touched by Joshua’s story and Be Strong, a charity to fight bullying. Links Mentioned: Website: SayItWithGratitude.com Scott’s fitness website: ScottColby.com Scott’s Podcast: The Power to Change Book: Evolved Enterprise By Yanik Silver Book: Miracle Morning By Hal Elrod Book: The Gratitude Connection By Amy Collette Book: Deep work, Rules for Focused Success In A Distracted World By Cal Newport App: Insight Timer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last weekend Vinnie had two friends overnight for a sleepover. For 24 hours I played mom to 3 kids. DAMN. That is serious business, friends. It was a very action packed 24 hours, to say the least. And at the end of it all, I learned something really valuable about myself and my current life. I suddenly felt grateful that our IVF experience over the summer had not resulted in a pregnancy. I saw the simplicity of our current life in a new light. I fell a little more in love with my life than I have in a long time. Over the last week, I have been thinking about what it takes to Fall In Love With Your Life. It takes a lot, but it also takes very little. Listen in to this episode to hear my 6 Steps to Fall In Love With Your Life: Embrace a Growth mindset Quite the comparison trap Practice daily gratitude and wins Take radical responsibility for your joy Find the cracks Keep your shield up It is entirely possible to fall a little more in love with your life every single day – if you choose to do so. Let these 6 steps be your guide. Links Mentioned: Book: Mindset By Carol Dweck Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Moses is a physical therapist who works exclusively in women’s health with a specialty in pelvic floor physical therapy. I met Amy a few years ago when she was my pelvic floor PT. I quickly developed a huge girl crush on Amy, as she made me feel so comfortable at such a vulnerable time in my life. She helped me heal my body and become stronger as a women and a mom. Amy and I dive deep into the world of pelvic floor rehab today – discussing incontinence, pain with sex, and pelvic pain that happens to most women after giving birth (as well as to women who have never given birth!) Amy is on a mission to normalize these kinds of conversations and to bring pelvic floor rehab to all moms. Perhaps the best part of this conversation and Amy and I disclosing our own personal experiences with pelvic floor dysfunction after having babies. It’s not pretty, friends…. But it’s TOTALLY NORMAL. I think you’ll get a few good laughs as we share our personal journeys – and perhaps you’ll be able to relate! Listen in to hear Amy share: The truth about incontinence, pain with sex, and pelvic pain the most of us experience Why understanding this major women’s health issue is critical in the current political landscape How Kegels can make everything worse Why the pad/panty liner industry is making a KILLING off you What you can expect when you go to pelvic floor physical therapy How to find a pelvic floor PT near you Links Mentioned: Amy Moses on Facebook Amy Moses at Moye Physical Therapy near Memphis, TN Directory of Herman Wallace Pelvic Floor PTs Directory of Women’s Health PTs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am celebrating our first 100 Shameless Mom Academy episodes with you. I am toasting you and thanking you for everything you have taught me over the last 100 episodes. Here is want I know: You are stronger than you ever thought You are more powerful now than ever You are a fighter You are tough, but gentle You are saying NO more so you can say YES more You are telling new stories You are standing up and speaking out You are speaking more and listening more You are walking away from shame and owning YOU, all of YOU Listen in to share some special milestones with me. Also, head over to Instagram for our 100th episode giveaway! Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 79 Start Telling New Stories Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Holly Rigsby is a Lifestyle Design Coach for Moms over at HollyJoiRigsby.com. Over the past 11 years Holly has coached over 29,500 women to become the best version of themselves through her programs and products. Holly also has two sons, Tyler and Alexander, who inspire her to live in joy (JOI) everyday. In this interview, Holly openly and bravely shares how she has found herself at different times in her life unable to find the joy she knew she wanted. Holly has always worked in service to others – as a teacher, a personal trainer, an online fitness expert to moms, and a mom. Serving others is extremely rewarding, but it can come at the expense of creating joy for one’s self at times. When Holly looks back at her boldest moves in life – to leave her first husband when her son was still very young, to change careers, to make a dramatic shift in her business, she can identify that she makes a move when she is searching for a new level of joy. This is the inspiration for her most recent professional move, the launching of her Lifestyle Design Coaching programs and creation of her new Everyday Joi community. Listen in to hear Holly share: How she has become a sought after leader, even though she never identified as one Why leaving her first husband was an imperative step in finding true joy in all areas of her life How she built a powerful online community for women to “walk side-by-side, encouraging each other” to reach their goals How the traumatic loss of her sister inspired her to make a bold professional change Why the pursuit and acknowledgment of Everyday Joi is essential Links Mentioned: Holly’s Website: http://hollyjoirigsby.com/ Holly on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is so much to say about my Women’s March on Washington experience. I want to share my story. I want to share the global impact of this movement. I want to tell you what it was like to spend 8 hours with over 1 million marchers. I want to capture it perfectly for you. But I cannot. It was so big and so impactful, I can’t find all the words. And you know I’m not one to be at a loss for words… Because I’m still feeling totally overwhelmed by the magnitude of this event a week later, I asked a few of my March friends to help me explain what it was like to March on Washington. Listen in to hear the most memorable moments of the day from 4 of my friends – and some of the raddest women I know. Listen in to hear how the logistics of the day played out, from getting off a red eye, to not peeing all day, to marching with Macklemore, to making friends with Trump supporters. Then keep listening. Hear about the haters I’ve encountered this week – the comments and conversations I saw online, and continue to see: “I don’t really get it. Women already have the same rights as men.” “I don’t see how this movement is helping anything.” “From the news coverage, I just saw a lot of angry women who didn’t have a unifying theme/message. It didn’t even make sense.” “I know a lot of really successful women. No one’s holding women back.” I’ll tell you what I told the haters – and hopefully you’ll find it useful information that you can share with any haters you encounter. From where I sit, I see the largest movement of global solidarity ever. I see action. I see power. I see hope. **Special thanks and huge hugs to my friends Dana, Beth, Angela and Christine who shared their March perspectives in this episode. And thanks to Angela for letting me march with your sign.** I will not normalize the behavior of this president. Links Mentioned: Article: Racial Gender Wage Gap Persists in US Despite Some Progress 6 year old Sophie Cruz’s speech on YouTube My March pics on The SMA Facebook page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stacy Tuschl started her first business in her parents’ backyard at the age of 18 and turned that company into a 7 figure business. She is a #1 international bestselling author of, “Is Your Business Worth Saving?”. In her book, Stacy reveals proven strategies for pulling entrepreneurs out of a rut and launching them toward business success. Stacy is also the host of the top-rated podcast She’s Building Her Empire. Stacy loves her businesses (yes, she has multiple) and is extremely passionate about her work. She is also madly in love with her two daughters, ages 4 and 17 months. You could say she’s a little busy. But, it does not feel like too much. It feels right. Stacy is unapologetic in her approach to business and motherhood and where the two collide – or don’t, because she won’t let them. Listen in to hear Stacy share: How she built a 7 figure business that started in her parent’s backyard What she did as a 21 year old entrepreneur to connect with other like minded, successful people Why investing in yourself and your business or career, even though risky, is the wisest thing you can do How to make a plan to START if you want to pursue a new goal or dream Why daycare is magic Links Mentioned: Website: shesbuildingherempire.com Facebook Group: shesbuildingherempire.club Book: The Power of Habit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I wanted to put out this episode at this exact time because this is about the time that we start to reconsider our New Year Resolutions and/or give them up all together. I would like to offer an alternative. I would like to give you a PLAN. Just because you don’t knock a goal out of the park immediately does not mean you should put that goal on the back burner. In fact, the best way to approach a goal is through small steps over time. So, if you have already given up on a health goal for 2017, I’m hear to give you permission to put that goal back on the table. Your goal wants to be met. It wants to be realized. It wants to improve your life. Your goal needs you. So let’s get started, together, shall we? If you’ve been struggling to make fitness stick in the new year, I year you. While there is a lot of hype about fitness in January, it is usually a very transitional month for people, making it challenging to take on new habits and make them stick. LISTEN IN if you need help getting your rear in gear! 4 Tips to making exercise stick Have an accountability planHINT: This can involve any of the following: a calendar, your fridge, your family, your friends, your boss, your co-workers, a sticker chart Do something you enjoyHINT: You won’t always enjoy it in the moment, but you should enjoy the overall experience and the benefits that begin the moment you are done Tell other peopleHINT: Learn how to brag (yes, there is a “right” way) Be in it for the long haulHINT: you gotta create some hype around your plan and your plan needs to be evolve-able to keep you engaged for the rest of your life Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 92: Pratima Aravabhoomi - From Arranged Marriage to Independent Woman SMA Episode 69: Nasty Woman Manifesto Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m delighted to have Halley Bock back as a second time guest on The Shameless Mom Academy. She is here today to talk about her new brilliant book, Life, Incorporated. A couple years ago, Halley was approached to write a book honing her expertise in organizational leadership. But, when her personal life started to implode her book took on a different purpose. She started writing about herself and her story, instead of how she led organizations. In Life, Incorporated she shares how she put herself back together and how any person or organization can create a better, more powerful and positive existence by learning to live from the “Inside Out”. Listen in to hear Halley share: What happened when her mother fired her as CEO of her company What she learned from looking inward instead of outward for validation and growth What baby steps she took that changed the course of her life and her work The importance of letting go of busyness What practices can heal your soul so you can truly live a life you love Links Mentioned: Book: Life, Incorporated: A Practical Guide to Whole Hearted Living Resources: Life, Incorporated Resources SMA Episode 30 with Halley: Passion vs Purpose Life, Incorporated on Facebook Life, Incorporated on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nothing is as bad as it seems. Nothing is as great as it seems. I have been taught this lesson over the years and I needed it this week – a few times. Life threw me for a few loops this week. 5 loops to be exact. There was the mold scare, the car scare, the dog scare, my mom’s medical emergency, and Vinnie’s trip to the ER. My tendency is to PANIC when I get hit with these curve balls. While I’m outwardly very calm, internally I am planning for the worst in every way. I jump to conclusions, let my mind race endlessly, and assume my pretty little life will be irreparably harmed. Do you do this? Please tell me I’m not alone. But, here’s the TRUTH….. Just to the left (or right) of your internal freak out is this: It will all be ok You are strong – phsycially, mentally, emotionally You have a great support network – husband, friends, family, fan club You are resourceful You are adaptable You are a fighter You are resilient You will learn from every challenge You will grow from every challenge Therefore, it is imperative that when faced with a challenge or hardship, you must: Be up for the challenge Be ready to dig deep Be ready to stretch yourself in uncomfortable ways Take the space and time you need Ask for help Make concessions Process Tune in to hear by 5 crises and how I my perspective saved me from my panic. Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 62: Carrie Wilkerson – The Barefoot Executive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pratima met her husband when she was 20, shortly before their arranged marriage in India. Almost immediately after their wedding, they moved from India to Alabama. After 8 years of marriage, Pratima found herself preparing to take her own life. She could no longer survive in her arranged marriage and she didn’t yet see a way out. Out of sheer will and determination to create a different and better life for her daughter, Pratima saved herself. She credits one quote with saving her life, “the darkest hour is before dawn.” Pratima got out of her marriage, created a career path for herself, never having worked before, and built a life inspired by words that she kept close to her heart and always visible to her eyes. Listen in to hear Pratima share: What life was like inside her arranged marriage The steps she took to start her own life from scratch How she worked her way out of $92,000 of debt in 6 months Where she found inspiration and power on her darkest days What her job with Apple taught her about running her own business The biggest obstacle she sees women facing Links Mentioned: Website: craftstreetdesign.com Instagram: @craftstrtdesign Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ve been thinking about the Attitude Adjustments that are necessary in life when one wants to move forward to accomplish great things. Cause we all want to move forward and accomplish great things this year, right?! Here are 3 Attitude Adjustments you need to make now (warning: controversial!) What you focus on expands. You are only as busy as you think you are. You can’t have it all – right now – and that is ok. Perspective is everything. I challenge you to look for new perspectives in this fresh, new year. Don’t let yourself stay in one place. Move – just a little bit forward every day. Work on your head space and your actions will reflect your new attitudes. This is crucial. And you deserve it. Because you deserve to have the best year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Carmen Sognonvi is founder and publisher of Top Flight Family, the leading online destination for luxury family travel. Her insights on travel have been featured in TravelPulse, HOTELS Magazine, Seatrade Cruise News, Luxury Daily, Hotel News Now and TravelDailyNews International. Carmen firmly believes that you can (and should) travel with your kids from a young age. She offers family practical solutions for travel, as well as tips on how to travel in luxury without luxurious price tags. Listen in to hear Carmen share: The tops myths of family travel - and the truth behind them How to start small with family travel The 3 most common mistakes families make when you traveling (I bet you’re guilty of at least 2!) – and how to fix them The best upgrades that are worth splurging on How to get Global Entry for free The 10 best vacation for families in the US Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Free guide: Top Flight Family Guide to the 10 Best vacations For Kids in the US Website: http://topflightfamily.com/ Top Flight Family on Instagram Top Flight Family on Pinterest Top Flight Family on Twitter Top Flight Family on Facebook Article: How to Get Free Global Entry Website: The Points Guy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you noticed the Anti Resolution Revolution? I’m a big fan. Huge. Quite frankly, resolutions suck. They are too big. They are too vague. They are not “bite sized” enough. They are framed as punishments. They are designed to make us fail. Every year…. If you really want to improve your life you have to look at tiny habits. You have to implement small changes that build confidence and improve motivation. You need to be excited and positive about the potential and possibility that lie ahead of you. In this episode, I share: Why resolutions suck Why your brain literally cannot handle your resolution Why habits are better than resolutions and how they are totally different in nature What 3 steps you must take to make a new habit successful Tips to start a new habit, whether you want to eat better, lose weight, be less stressed, manage time better, or just generally love your life more Links Mentioned: Article: The Science of New Years Resolutions: Why 88% Fail and How To Make Them Work SMA Ep 82: The Power of Recency and Frequency Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices