Shameless Leadership

Elizabeth DiAlto is known for her raw, honest and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, She is the founder of the Wild Soul Movement, author of Untame Yourself, and host of the popular Untame The Wild Soul podcast. She’s been a teacher, leader, speaker, coach and trainer to groups and individuals for 13+ years and she also consults organizations ranging from start ups to large corporations such as Dove UK. Elizabeth and I met through our work in the fitness industry. However, she left the fitness industry a few years ago to untame her wild soul and, ultimately, an entire new life for herself. I was so excited to reconnect with her and hear how she made the transition between career paths, and interpersonal relationships, and how she started living a life that was much more authentically hers. Listen in to hear Elizabeth share: Why it’s important to work IN, rather than work OUT What YES feels like in your body, what NO feels like in your body – and how to start uncovering the truth that lies in your gut The difference between the masculine arts & feminine arts and where you fit Why it’s ok to change your mind and be inconsistent How everything you’ve ever needed has always been inside of you Links Mentioned: Book: Awakening Shakti Book/Cards: Ask your Guides Book: Outrageous Openness Free Resources: Untameyourself.com/companion Podcast: Untame the Wild Soul Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You can look back on 2016 as the BEST year or the WORST year. If you choose to look back on it as the BEST year, you get to own every amazing experience you had – the moments when you pushed your limits, reached a new high, felt magic, saw beauty, learned something new, had a shift in perspective, totally rocked a challenge, modeled strength to your kid(s), and felt power in your core being. If you choose to look at 2016 as the WORST year (as I see a lot of people doing on social media), you negate and dismiss everything above. You walk away from an entire year of your life in defeat, without power. I get it – 2016 threw us for a loop. A big effing loop. I’m right there with you. My year did not go as planned. I’m not pregnant right now. Our next president will not embody a single value of mine. I see pain and suffering at every turn, nationally and internationally. BUT – I did a lot of great things this year. So did you. I grew this year. So did you. I found silver linings that I never even thought to look for. You can too. I am better for 2016. So are you. Let’s celebrate everything 2016 was to us. Let’s have a freakin' party. Let’s own the heck out of our wins. I deserve that. You deserve that. Cheers to a BIG year of challenges and growth and newfound strength & pride. Let’s carry all of this forward into 2017, shall we? We ROCK. Every damn day. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Tune in to hear my biggest wins of the year, in spite of some of the biggest losses of my life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Elise is a high conflict divorce attorney who also has her own divorce story. Elise’s divorce involved Hurricane Katrina, multiple moves around the country, and, ultimately, a co-parenting plan where she lives with her kids and new husband in Seattle and her ex-husband comes out to visit and live with them one week each month. After working through her own divorce, Elise decided to dedicate her law practice to helping other families thrive through divorce. Listen in to hear Elise share: The biggest mistakes most lawyers make in representing people in divorce The power and advantages to mediation How to stay out of court, save a ton of money, and get what is truly best for your children What true co-parenting looks like The truth - you can be a horrible spouse and a great parent Links Mentioned: Book: The Co Parent Handbook, by Karen Bonnell Book: Sisters in law: How Sandra Day O’Connor and Ruth Bader Ginsburg Went to the Supreme Court and Changed the World Blog: (Lagniappe) http://www.elisebuiefamilylaw.com/blog Website: http://www.elisebuiefamilylaw.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently had 2 People Pleaser relapses. One was just for a day. One was for a couple months. Why is it so hard to stop pleasing all. the. people??? I know that as an Upholder (see article below), being a people pleaser may well be something I always struggle with. But, even if it’s a life long challenge, I will kick off 2017 recognizing where I fell short in 2016. I will recognize what I lost by prioritizing other peoples’ needs before my own. In 2017 I will: Say NO more Say YES less Stand up for myself Tune in to my body and really listen Push myself to keep firm boundaries around my time, money, space, goals Start following my intuition in terms of where I really want to go in life over the next few years What will you do to really listen to yourself and your needs as you prepare to enter a new year? Links Mentioned: Article: The Four Tendencies – What Kind of Person Are You?, by Gretchen Rubin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nikki Closser is a Seattle and Michigan based photographer and a new mom. She is madly in love with her work and with her baby. Nikki always knew she would be a working mom. She knew her passion for her work would not diminish in motherhood. However, she didn’t expect her passion for motherhood to be so strong. She admits that while she loves her work, motherhood is magical, and she doesn’t know why she put it off for so long. Nikki’s work photographing women is phenomenal. I had the immense pleasure of doing a shoot with her about a year ago and felt an immediate connection to her and everything she stands for in womanhood, entrepreneurship and motherhood (even though she was only a few months pregnant when we met). She also might love wine as much as me – so we’re basically soul mates. The way Nikki reaches women through photography is breathtaking. Every woman she works with is made to feel like a true supermodel. Nikki is kind and gentle, but assertive and confident in her work, putting women at ease the moment they enter her studio. Doing a shoot with her is an amazing life experience I would recommend to any woman. Listen in to hear Nikki share: Here first Mama Bear moment – just seconds after her son was born How she and her husband envisioned and created a travel lifestyle with Van How she dives deep into work and into motherhood – but doesn’t let the two converge What she sees through her lens as she photographs a woman Why she thinks every woman deserves a lavish photoshoot and gorgeous photos of themselves Links Mentioned: Nikki Closser: http://nikkiclosser.com/ Sue Bryce: http://suebryce.com/ Nikki on Facebook Nikki on Instagram Book: Monique in the Mango Rains SMA Ep 54: Rebecca Michi Children’s Sleep Consultant Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is human nature to keep doing the things we’ve done most recently and most frequently. Showering daily Drinking coffee Getting in a workout Indulging in sugar Drinking that big ass glass of wine As you build new habits, the same holds true. If you starting getting up early to workout, once you’ve done it a few times (made it recent & frequent), you’re much more likely to keep doing it. When you are conscious of the concept of recency & frequency, you can really prove your power in establishing new habits. This can be extremely liberating and assist you in building momentum and confidence with new habits and routines. To improve the recency & frequency of desired behaviors, habits and routines, you can (and should): Plan behaviors Track behaviors as you do them Track wins Plan rewards Self Monitor Always practice discomfort Listen in to hear how to implement all this and use it in the final weeks of 2016 and as you cruise into 2017. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

3 years ago Debbie and her family moved from Seattle to the Netherlands. At that time, Debbie and her husband made the decision to homeschool their son Asher, who is “differently wired”. Asher is profoundly gifted and has ADHD and Aspergers. He is extremely intelligent, curious and compassionate – in short, an amazing kid. When Debbie decided to homeschool Asher, she stepped aside from her traditional author role and began a authoring a new story – the story of the life she and Asher were building as they navigated through the huge transitions of an international move and A LOT of togetherness in their homeschooling adventure. Through this journey Debbie and Asher created TiLT – an incredible online resource for families with differently wired kids. Listen in to hear Debbie share: The advantages and challenges of homeschooling a differently wired child (in a new country) The power of personal development for kids – and how to get them started How to lean in to your child’s uniqueness rather than fight it or try to fix it Steps to creating an impenetrable bond with your child who is differently wired than you Links Mentioned: SMA Ep 59: How to Create Your Own Miracle Morning Carol Dweck’s TED Talk: “The Power of Believing That You Can Improve” TiLT Parenting: http://www.tiltparenting.com TiLT Parenting on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/tiltparenting Debbie’s Author Site: http://www.debbiereber.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The holidays can be fun. So fun. Friends. Family. Food. Drinks. Giving and receiving. Joy and magic. The holidays can also be stressful, isolating, depleting and sad. Loss, regret, and defeat can feel amplified at this time of year. Whether you are filled with holiday cheer or trudging through the days with holiday blues, here are 6 ways your can have happier holidays: Give Have a budget Be ok with ok Rewrite history Create moments that can become traditions Know thy family Plan your partying You can read the full show notes at www.shamelessmom.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Michelle Duncan-Wilson became a mom for the first time at 17 years old. She now has a 17 year old daughter and two sons, ages 8 and 3. Michelle will tell you she was “not meant to be a mother”. While she is now thriving it took her years to arrive. She had to find her mothering soul and give it some room to grow. In this episode Michelle shares: What life was like as a teen mom How she crammed 40 years of life experience into her first 25 years of life What she wants her 17 year old daughter to know about being a 17 year old mom How motherhood has been different, but not easier, in her thirties Why we are not meant to mold our children, but to accept them in any shape they are Why mothering pain is not for nothing How she is currently thriving in “evolution through motherhood” Links Mentioned: Michelle’s Website: soulworkformoms.com Facebook Group: soulworkformoms.com/community Instagram: @soulworkformoms Book: Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Menton Book: Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton Book: Tears to Triumph by Marianne Willamson Book: Shift into Freedom by Loch Kelly Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is so easy to get stuck in our old stories: I can’t find a husband because of my daddy issues. I will never be fit because of my family genetics. I will never make very much money because no one in my family makes very much money. I’ll never go to college because we can’t afford it and no one in my family has gone to college. I can’t start my own business because I don’t know anything about business. My life will never feel complete with just one child – I’ll always feel a sense of loss over this. I have told myself some of these stories. I have seen others tell themselves some of these stories. We get stuck in our stories and don’t progress in certain areas of our lives because we are COMMITTED to our stories. We can see past them, or around them, or through them. But, the truth??? You can find the man of your dreams. You can get in amazing shape. You can make unlimited amounts of money. You can go to college – and grad school. You can start your own business. You can be 100% happy and fulfilled with just one child. To create a new story, you have to start changing the conversation in your head. You have to start talking to yourself differently. You have to be open to new and different influences. You have to be open to growth and discomfort to find the magic that lies juuuust outside your current comfort zone. Our old stories are comfortable and familiar – which is why we hold them close to our hearts. By getting challenging yourself to get a little uncomfortable in new conversations with yourself, you will push you right through your old stories and into new ones that will change your attitude. Your new attitude will change your behavior. You new behavior will change your outcomes. Your new outcomes will change your reality. Start telling yourself new stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kathy Fettke didn’t set out to build an empire. But when her husband’s major health scare threatened to cripple their families financial situation, she did got to work…. She rented out rooms in their family home to pay the mortgage. She started cold calling people who might sponsor her radio show. She forged ahead and created a path that lead her family to financial freedom. Now she educates others how to do the same. Listen in to hear Kathy share: how her breakdown lead to a breakthrough how she serves others by offering hope Tips for tapping into your higher self (like Heart Math) The importance of being guided by your values and your vision Whether or not you should buy a house right now The power of small real estate investments How rentals can make you rich The direction she sees the housing market heading in the next 4 years Links Mentioned: Book: Retire Rich with Rentals Website: RealWealthNetwork.com Heart Math: https://www.heartmath.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is my birthday! On one’s birthday, one should wear a unicorn onesie and drink from a jeroboam (4 bottles of wine in one big ass bottle). #truth I planned a few ways to kick off my 41st year. Cause let’s be honest, after you have kids, the only birthday celebrations you’re gonna get are the ones you plan yourself. I mean, my 4 year old would love to throw me a party – but I think we all know he’s better at throwing a tantrum than a party… Plus, the magic to planning your own birthday is that you get to do any damn thing you want, right? Listen in to hear what I planned for myself! It is also Thanksgiving week. We’ll talk about my Thanksgiving blueprint here - how to navigate the food and the family drama. There can be so much of both… I’m also sharing some listener emails with you. Getting your messages is magic to me. I love reading your stories and hearing how the Shameless Mom Academy has impacted you. Thank you to everyone who has written to me. I adore you. And special thanks to Shameless Moms Audra, Patty and Jessica, who let me share their letters today. Lastly, in this week of giving thanks, know that I’m so thankful for all you mamas who make up The Shameless Mom Academy. You are my people. xoxo Links Mentioned: Facebook: The Shameless Mom Academy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cierra Seay is an entrepreneur running multiple business and the host of The College Dropout Podcast”. She believes there are many roads to success and we don’t need to be limited by a traditional path. Cierra is also the mother to two little boys, Christian and Caleb. When Christian was just 1 year old, Cierra unexpectedly lost her mother and grandmother, the two most significant women in her life. Of course, this shook her to her core. For about a year and a half after these losses, she told everyone, “I’m fine.” And then she found herself not fine at all. Listen in to hear Cierra share about her loss & grief, how she coped, and how she has come out stronger on the other side of grief. She also shares what she learned from her mother and grandmother and how she is living these lessons and passing them along to her boys. Links Mentioned: Podcast: The College Dropout Podcast Book: Greatness Is Upon You Cierra on Facebook Cierra on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I know there is a lot of sadness, anger, pain and fear pulsing through our country right now. I wanted to use this episode to give you some thoughts on how to honor your feelings and your grief, while taking steps to continue showing up in all the areas of your life where you are needed right now. There is tremendous strength, power, and hope on the other side of grief. But you have to work through the grief to find it. Right now, any chance you have to prove yourself strong and capable is an opportunity. This might start with a workout, or a letter to a public official, or attending a gathering in support of a cause you wholeheartedly support. Action is important, no matter how small. It will let you find your legs and your voice. Action will allow you to heal. Action will show your kids you are a fighter. Action will slowly unravel the knot in your belly. Listen in for some inspiration (and a few laughs) that might help you take a few step forward. Links Mentioned: SMA Episode 68 with Kim Ades – on how to have a family meeting Website: Tolerance.org Articles on how to talk to children about Trump and the election: How Do You Talk To Your Kids About The Election? How A Gay Mom Explained Donald Trump To Her Sons What Do We Tell The Children How You Can Find The Good In A Nasty Election Cycle 4 Key Lessons Your Children Need To Hear The Day After The Election Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This time of year is notorious for overwhelm, yes?!? The demands on your time only get worse and more pressing as we get closer to the holidays. Here are some tools for you to put in place if you’re already feeling the overwhelm of the season. If you’re not overwhelmed yet, I promise you will be… Take notes! Get up 15-30 min earlier Make a List, Check it Twice Prioritize Crucial Results and High Anxiety Items Understand Parkinson’s Law Turn off all notifications, buzzers, dingers, get friendly with Airplane Mode Shut down social media (use a social media timer!) Unschedule low priority commitments Get creative with delegation – it doesn’t have to be expensive Learn and remember… Links Mentioned: Book: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we move from Halloween toward Thanksgiving, and then Christmas, I already hear women saying: “I’m going to be good until Thanksgiving.” “I’m going to reign it in for a couple weeks.” “No more sugar until Christmas.” We tend to make a lot of rules for ourselves in relation to food at this time of year. In many cases we feel frustrated and defeated by a holiday, based on what we ate, which is such a bummer. You shouldn’t feel less joy about Halloween because you ate some candy. In this episode I teach you the philosophies and habits I teach the women at my gym in regards to using food for fuel – rather than punishment. Fueling tour body with food is ridiculously empowering. It helps you move away from a deprivation mindset. It helps STOP using food as punishment. Listen in to learn about these 12 tips that will help you reframe your relationship with food and how it food can positively impact you as we enter this season of celebration! Use propro as a cornerstone for every meal Understand and utilize the concept of volume eating Get in 20-30 grams of protein for breakfast Live between 2-4 Stop at 80% Know Your SFs Only eat things you enjoy, but also try new things Be open to quitting sugar. For now. Designate drinking days Crowd out crap carbs Drink the water Plan everything Links Mentioned: SMA interview with Jill Coleman: How To Eat Every Damn Day Website: skinnytaste.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Creating confidence is something that comes with practice, experience, and well, faking it. That whole “fake it till you make it” concept – it’s true. Although, I like to say, “fake it till you become it.” Sometimes you have to try on a new and improved version of yourself to see how it fits. From there, you can tweak, evolve and grow into the person you want to be. Practicing is critical. Without practicing being the new, confident, self assured you, you will NOT become the new confident, self assured you. So, get out there and try her on for size. It’s ok to strive to be the person you truly want to be. It might feel a little awkward at first. Others might wonder what’s going on. That’s ok. Just keep being the you YOU truly want to be. You will grow in to the role. Your life and landscape will evolve with you, which is fabulous. Know there will be uncomfortable moments. Anticipate them, prepare for them, own them. As you start to behave more confidently, you will actually become more confident. Then others will see you as more confident, and you will, in turn, continue to carry yourself more confidently. See that beautiful cycle?! Listen in to learn more about: How to be the boss How to stop blending in How to raise your hand How to take the stage How to get comfortable being uncomfortable In order to: Take more leaps in life Upgrade your quality of life Get what you actually want Change your reality and perspective for the better, permanently Show your kids how to be brave, bold, courageous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The end of last week was almost laughable when it came to how many unexpected things were thrown my way – from a sick kid, to a craiglist scam, to a possibly broken foot (damn yoga), my days got thrown upside down over and over. Historically, I suuuuuck at being spontanteous and managing the unexpected, but when you’re a mom, you’re not left with much choice. You gotta rock the unexpected every damn day. I love this quote I read Friday morning by Jen Sincero (from her book, You Are A Badass) – I stumbled upon it EXACTLY when I needed to hear it most: ““Life is an illusion created by your perception, and it can be changed the moment you choose to change it.” So, I’m sitting her recording this episode, icing my foot, and texting with my doctor friend – then running (gimping) upstairs to put on my unicorn costume for Vinnie’s school Halloween party. Cause that’s how Shameless Moms roll – even when we’re broken, we’re ON IT. Listen in to learn how you can rock the unexpected even when you think you cannot manage one more thing flipping your world upside down. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Debbie Page Whitlock is a business and personal finance expert committed to the financial success of start-ups, solopreneurs and small business owners around the world. An internationally recognized and award winning business coach in Seattle, Debbie wants you to create the prosperity and good fortune you deserve. Debbie has been a mentor to me for a few years now. Her conversation around women and money is something every woman needs to hear. I am elated to have her join me on the show. Debbie’s expertise will support and guide you, no matter what your current relationship with money is. Listen in to learn about MONEY and: The 3 Amigas: Fear/Doubt/Worry How to get out of “the loop” by changing your physical state Why an unhealthy relationship with money is not terminal The power of a quarterly Family Financial Summit Debbie and I also dive deep into money and marriage. Debbie shares her personal story of how money impacted her marriage and why money was part of the demise of her marriage. We all have a relationship with money – and it started when we were very young. Your relationship with money impacts your marriage, your family/friend relationships, your children, and your daily decision making. This conversation will help you no matter where you stand with money. Links Mentioned: Debbie’s Website Debbie on Facebook Debbie’s private Profit Lab Facebook group Article: The Biggest Money Differences Between Men and Women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Know Thy Triggers. I say this to my gym members all the time. You have to know what triggers you, if you want to really own the heck out of your life. Knowing your triggers allows you to say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things. Knowing your triggers helps you identify what you want to fight for and what fights are a waste of your time. Last week I put up a fight. A couple times. I defended my child. I defended all women. Then I wrote a manifesto. At the end of the week, I came to see there are things I will always fight for. There are people I will always defend, even if I take a beating in the process. I know what’s right for ME. I hope this episode helps you define what’s right for YOU. Here’s my manifesto: Nasty Woman Manifesto Stand for women Stand for children Stand up to bullies Take the high road Where there is not a path, create one When you listen, truly hear Share Fight for the underdog Don’t back down Work for the greater good Connect Do not fear your enemy Challenge the status quo Empower the powerless Pay your fair share Will you do yourself a favor and write your manifesto? You can use any of mine you want to get you started! Send me your manifestos to: [email protected]. I would love to share some other Shameless Moms’ manifestos on an upcoming podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kim Ades is the president and founder of Frame of Mind Coaching and JournalEngineTM Software. Author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mother of five, Kim is recognized as one of North America's foremost experts on performance through thought mastery. By using her unique process of integrating online journaling in her coaching, Kim helps her highly-driven clients to examine and shift their thinking in order to yield extraordinary results. I was so fascinated to learn about Kim’s family. She and her husband married 8 years ago and brought together 5 children, ages 9-14, to build a new family. Kim quickly learned a lot about what it took to function and thrive as a blended family. Listen in as she shares: The significance of traveling as one unit The power of new traditions (like hot dog stuffed turkey) The importance of the Family Meeting and the format she recommends (what’s working , what would you do different, what is one request) The difference between parenting and childing The truth about parenthood and self management Professionally, Kim has taken her work with Frame of Mind Coaching to a different level than many of the coaches I have spoken to. Listen in to hear Kim share: The specific and unique formula she uses to help through major life breakthroughs The significance of journaling in her practice and why it is crucial for growth Why we have to go back and rewrite out own stories if we want to move forward in our current space Lastly, Kim invites you to assess your own frame of mind with her online assessment. This assessment will give you a sense of what's keeping you stuck, and how our coaching can help get you past it. Links Mentioned: Kim’s Website Free, no obligation Frame of Mind Assessment Resilience Radio Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I first heard of Happiness Boosters from the amazing Gretchen Rubin (author of The Happiness Project). In the last few months I’ve given considerable thought to how we can create joy or boost happiness on a whim. Sure, I would love to do a weekend of wine tasting in Napa to boost my happiness. But that requires a lot of planning, travel, and money. It’s important to have big Happiness Boosters like this from time to time. But ,it’s also important to consciously create small happiness boosters for yourself, on a moments notice. There is no end to the quick (and cheap) Happiness Boosters you can create for yourself – TODAY. Take a few minutes to rearrange a space in your home or office so you really love spending time in it. Get rid of something that has been annoying you forever and replace it with something that functions the way you want it to. Invest in a little things that make a big difference in your quality of life or at least the quality of your day (like my cordless vacuum.) Do something little to make your home or office more comfortable. Create something that elicits an emotional response (frame those baby pictures you’ve been holding on to forever!) These little things make a big difference in your daily happiness. This, in turn, impacts your overall quality of life. Don’t underestimate the little things. They are BIG. Listen in – and then go get yourself a new soap pump! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rachel Adams, an extremely successful real estate agent, was living a picture perfect life – until someone called her out, accurately suggesting that Rachel’s picture perfect life was not nearly as perfect as it seemed.… One conversation changed Rachel’s game forever. That one conversation helped Rachel open up about her quiet (almost secret) divorce, shed 30+ pounds, and create a new life that is not picture perfect, but 100% the life she wants. In the course of creating a new and much more real life, Rachel learned a lot about herself and realized she had the tools to help other women. So, she partnered with the woman who called her out and wrote a book to guide other women through, Lost to Found in 90 days: Your Journey to Self-Discovery and Ultimate Happiness. transformation. Listen in to learn: Why you need Solution Based Lenses The magic password trick that can the course of your life How to determine if a friendship is for a season, a reason, or a lifetime – and why breaking up with girlfriends is important sometimes How to define your legacy and start living it Links Mentioned: Book/Video: First 3 chapters of Rachel’s book and first weekly video Rachel on Facebook Website: www.lost2found90.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently attended Lewis Howes’s Summit of Greatness. I went to see how he would create greatness and give greatness. I know he is someone who receives other people in the world in a very unique and special way. I wanted to see that magic in person. And I did. Over and over. And over. To create Greatness, you must be a giver, through and through. You must give love, unconditionally. You must create confidence in those you want to give to. You must be compassionate and empathetic. You must show up with humility and grace. To receive Greatness, you must be open and willing. You must be listening. You must be at least a little bit vulnerable. You must be considerate of your surroundings – allowing in the things that make you a little uncomfortable, knowing they will make you better. At The Summit of Greatness, I saw Greatness created and given over and over. I saw it received in a million different ways. I received it myself through connections with new friends, trying things out of my comfort zone, and listening attentively to everything and everyone. In this episode I share my transformative experience of receiving Greatness. Links Mentioned: Lewis Howes Podcast: The School of Greatness The Shameless Mom Academy, Episode 13: How to Be A Better Stalker and FanGirl. Fully Raw Kristina on Instagram Book: The Truth About Style by Stacy London Kyle Maynard’s website Event: Summit of Greatness 2017 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nisan Trotter has been inspiring others onstage since his youth. His mother and mentors saw a gift in him and encouraged him to shine, even when he didn’t feel up to it, even when his peers were making fun of him. Today, Nisan inspires people on stage across the country with his passion and drive, gifting others with motivation and inspiration. However, Nisan admits his most important role is not speaking on stage. It is speaking at home – as he raises his two sons. If you follow him on Facebook, you’ll see what an adoring daddy he is to these two. Listen in to hear Nisan share: How he overcame bullying and found his voice How his most challenging relationship, the one with his father, has also been a gift How you can turn a bad day and a bad attitude into something positive The power of YOU, that no one else can do Why it is essential to find what makes you shine and then actually DO that thing Links Mentioned: Nisan Trotter on Facebook Ep 16: Craig Ballantyne, The Perfect Day Formula Ep 59: How to Create Your Own Miracle Morning Ep 61: Be Here Now. Mostly. Ep 62: Carrie Wilkerson Shameless Mom and Barefoot Executive Book: The Story Factor by Annette Simmons Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have been getting the most amazing emails with feedback and love from our Shameless Mom listeners. I chose 2 recent emails to share with you today. Claire and Kati are two Shameless Moms who sent me their stories and shared how the SMA has impacted their lives. I was touched and honored to receive their love and support. Listen in to hear how the Shameless Mom Academy has impacted these two mamas daily lives. In different ways, they have learned to take baby steps, every day. They have learned to think a little bigger and start considering their own stories and their own legacies. This is the good stuff, friends…. Claire shares her story of successful IVF and unsuccessful IVF. Claire lives in France (and has invited me to come drink wine with her – YES, PLEASE). She explains how the French healthcare system handles infertility differently than US healthcare system, which I find fascinating. Kati shares her story of being a stay at home mom for the last 18 years while raising 4 children. She talks about the pressure she has put on herself over the years – and how she is starting to live bigger and better by letting go of her self imposed expectations. Thank you Claire and Kati for sharing with me and for allowing me to share your stories with our community! Much love to you both! Links Mentioned: Ep 31 Wine Not: The Truth About Alcohol and Fat Loss Ep 59 How to Create Your Own Miracle Morning Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Year ago, one of my mentors told me to look up Carrie Wilkerson. He thought I would be impressed with the way she built a business on her own terms, from her own home, keeping her own family as her #1 priority. Always. You all know, I love doing Facebook “research.” So, I looked Carrie up, “Followed” her (as her Friends were at capacity, no surprise), and was immediately very impressed. What drew me to Carrie was her story. Through various Facebook posts over the years, I saw her post these intimate snapshots into her life and her history. Her posts about her family routinely left me teary eyed. While I was trying (desperately) to grow my little family, she filled me with hope as I learned her story of how she grew her (not so little) family. I could feel love and grace and strength in everything she shared. When I started the Shameless Mom Academy, I knew I wanted to interview Carrie. She is tough but gentle; firm, but kind; loud, but soft. My kind of girl. 100%. I have heard some of Carrie’s stories a few times now (yes, I totally sound like a stalker). Yet, she still gave me goose bumps over and over in this interview. Listen in to hear Carrie share: How she became a Barefoot Executive and how you can be one too Why your competition is not your competition How she overcame 6 figures of debt and lost over 120 pounds How you can divide & conquer and create boundaries in all areas of your life in order to prevent resentment from others How to say NO and why you should say NO Why your kids need to be on a stage with a mic, sooner than later Links Mentioned: Carrie’s Website Carrie’s 7 Day Business Blitz (free download!) Carrie on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had an entirely different episode ready to record for you. But then I found myself in a parking lot cranky as all get out, fighting with 26 mylar balloons in the wind and a new episode came over me. I suck at living in the moment. Big time. When I got pregnant the first time, I was excited, yes. And I was also immediately panicked about how I would ever get pregnant again since the first time took forever and I was already ummmm, old-ish. I’ve always been really good at worrying about things years in advance. Yesterday, right after my Mylar Moment, I turned on exactly the podcast I needed to hear in that moment – 100% unintentionally. It was a Chalene Johnson podcast about family/work balance that really spoke to me – especially the parts about living in the moment. As it turns out Chalene also struggles with that. We’re basically twins. Listen in to hear my 4 tips on how to Be Here Now. Mostly. *Implement Time Blocking *Improve your Mental/Emotional Prioritization and Separation *Stop Mind Hustling (you know you do it!) *Make a Family Plan with Clear Expectations Links Mentioned: Chalene Johnson Build Your Tribe Podcast (select How to Balance Family and Business) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I was so excited and admittedly super curious about the conversation Michele Lisenbury Christensen, a sex and relationship coach, and I would have. Michele was a fun person to interview and maybe not quite what you would expect. Michele is a mom, wife, and sex & relationship coach. Her life evolves around many things, not just sex and having sex. I most ways, she’s a mom, just like you and me. But she has some expertise that will fascinate you. And guide you. In this episode, Michele shares: How we can all improve our marriage by introducing “wagging” today Why relationships, marriage and sex are more complicated after having kids The real reason you don’t want to jump in the sack at the end of the day Simple steps that can be taken to improve your relationship and sex life, starting now The 5 Keys To Intimacy for New Parents Links Mentioned: Michele’s website and services: http://www.lisenbury.com/ Video: 5 Keys to Intimacy for New Parents Michele on Facebook Michele on Instagram Michele on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your morning routine is KEY for owning your day. Back in Episode 16, I spoke with Craig Ballantyne about his Perfect Day Formula and we discussed the importance of a morning routine. Today, I am diving deeper with this concept and sharing exactly how to format your Miracle Morning, based on Hal Elrod’s book, “The Miracle Morning: The Not So Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life Before 8am.” This book was transformative for me, so I knew it was well worth sharing with you. Hal has a specific (awesome) formula for The Miracle Morning that can easily be adapted to a 6-60 minute routine that will allow you to start your day on the right foot, every damn day. I have been practicing elements of Hal’s protocol since January and I love it. In this episode I will tell you Hal’s exact Miracle Morning formula and how any mom can tweak this formula to make it work for you and your family. You need a Miracle Morning routine for 3 important reasons: 1. How you start the day impacts your entire day (remember: how you do anything is how you do everything) 2. You will accomplish a lot more and ENJOY it all if you start your day from a place of being PROactive rather than REactive 3. This routine will create opportunities for growth in multiple areas of your life I challenge you to start with a 15 minute Miracle Morning practice right away. And you have to let me know how it goes! You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at: www.shamelessmom.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aimee Blair is the mother to three adorable little girls. Her oldest daughter, Julia, has Down Syndrome. Aimee shares her story of learning Julia’s diagnosis early in her pregnancy. She talks about the doctor who told her to terminate her pregnancy and the excruciating 10 days she waited for conclusive test results to find out if her daughter would survive pregnancy. Aimee also opens up about the hardest day of her marriage amidst Julia’s diagnosis and the scariest day of her life when Julia was just 3 months old. Aimee wants other moms to know: The truth about Down Syndrome myths regarding maternal age How children with Down Syndrome are just like other children, and how they are different The power of inclusion in education How moms of children with special needs want to be treated Why she became a Shameless Mom faster than the most moms I’m so grateful to Aimee for reaching out to me with her story. She is strong and brave. It was an honor to do this interview and help Aimee share her experience with prenatal diagnosis. This is a sensitive topic and Aimee shares with total grace, in hopes of helping other moms who might walk this journey. Links Mentioned: Aimee’s Facebook Group for Families with children with Down Syndrome in Connecticut: CDSC Hartford County Website: The National Down Syndrome Congress new and expecting parent page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have recently shared. A lot. I’ve told the long story of our IVF journey and ultimately, our IVF failure. In the process I have learned a lot about the power of sharing our stories. Sharing stories: * Connects us * Creates bonds where there was not one * Is cathartic and therapeutic * Creates a more empathetic culture * Humanizes everyone * Allows us to not be alone * Destigmatizes all sorts of conditions – infertility, addiction, mental health, death, sex, loss, grief At the end of the day, my life is made up of many stories… My podcast is part of my story. My gym is part of my story. My marriage is part of my story. My child is part of my story. Divorce is part of my story. Family Estrangement is part of my story. Body image struggle is part of my story. Infertility is part of my story. IVF failure is part of my story. In most cases, the deepest connections I make with other people are from struggles I have shared, not because of a perfect image I have conveyed. Listen in to this episode to learn how you can start sharing just a little bit more in order to create better relationships, and attract the people you want to attract. I also share a very powerful excerpt from Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton that I think every woman should hear. Links Mentioned: My personal Facebook profile: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had the pleasure of interviewing Nicole Calloway Rankins. Nicole is a wife, mother, physician (ob/gyn), and integrative health coach. Nicole juggles many important roles in her life. When she’s not work nights as a Labor & Delivery doctor, she’s working with her integrative health coaching clients. In between those two jobs, she’s taking care of her family. I was excited to talk to Nicole about life as an OBGYN. I imagine there is a lot to love – so many babies! I also wanted to hear about the not so lovely side of her work. She shared openly about loss, sadness, and poop. In addition to sharing about her work as an OBGYN, Nicole opened up about her own birth experiences with her two daughters – the trauma of her first birth and the regret of her second one. I appreciate all she had to share here. Birth is a big deal and I love to hear women sharing their stories openly, so we can all learn and grow from each other’s experiences. Nicole’s role as an integrative health coach really fired me up. She gets to assist women all over the country who are really struggling with things like weight loss, nutrition, stress and spend the necessary amount of time with them to make a difference. She helps women create goals and map out a plan. She walks with her patients step by step, week by week. This is a really amazing job, much broader than a traditional doctor role. I love that Nicole is bridging the gap between medicine and wellness to help so many woman. Make sure to listen in to hear Nicole’s story and learn how she might be able to help you or other women you know. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is easily the most difficult episode I have recorded. I knew there was a strong chance that IVF would end without a baby. In fact, I planned for it. I planned to be relieved (I don’t have to be pregnant! I don’t have to nurse! I don’t have to be an exhausted hot mess!) I planned to be excited (Let’s book a European vacation!) I did not plan to feel really, really sad. We experienced a lot of sadness when it took so long to get pregnant with Vinnie 5 years ago. It felt constant. This is different. It feels final. And so permanent. There are things to be happy about with this outcome. There are things to be grateful for. But we’re not there yet. We’ll get there. But not today. And probably not for awhile. But we will be ok. Here’s the thing… we won the lottery on September 23, 2012. We were given all we could have ever hoped for – a healthy, perfect baby. That is enough. Vinnie is more than enough. In every way. So, from here we row our little family boat forward, one paddle at a time. There will be some waves and things might feel a little topsy-turvy for awhile, but there will undoubtedly be amazing views, the best destinations, and all the love & laughter we could ever ask for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rebecca Michi (Mickey) is a Mom of two, Wife of one and children's sleep consultant who would not ever dream of telling you to leave your children to cry-it-out. Rebecca loves helping families turn drama into dreamland. When she's not Momming, Wifeing, or consulting you can find her either running (rather slowly) or sipping coffee in Seattle. I have been so excited about this interview because Rebecca was immensely helpful to me when Vinnie was a teeny, tiny tyke. Through stalking Rebecca on Facebook and participating in her Facebook Q&As for a number of months, I learned everything I needed to know about getting Vinnie on schedule, how to put a sleep routine in place, and what I should expect as he grew. Rebecca provided me with tremendous relief over and over again. In this interview, Rebecca shares: When a baby is old enough to get on a sleep schedule What a sleep routine looks like Why you don’t have to suffer through crying-it-out The 2-3-4 Rule (I swore by this with Vinnie!) How to get your child to go to bed earlier and/or sleep in later Links Mentioned: Rebecca’s Website Rebecca on Facebook Program: 28 Day Easy Sleep Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently received an email from Shameless Mom Rachel that brought me to tears. She talked about her experience with Postpartum Depression and suicidal ideation and how The Shameless Mom Academy has been part of her healing. Her words of gratitude were humbling, to say the least. Rachel’s email inspired me to create this episode on gratitude. I am so grateful Rachel shared her story. Her story will help Shameless Moms, for sure. Our stories connect us to each other and inspire us to reach out of our comfort zones. Our stories are essential for learning and healing and growing. This is why I share so many of my stories. In addition to my gratitude for Rachel’s story, I want to share 10 ways gratitude can improve your life. If you think gratitude is a little too “woowoo” for you, this list is for you! Last, but not least, I want to share my friend Scott Colby’s upcoming event, The Ultimate Gratitude Challenge. Scott will be sharing interviews with 35 of his colleagues (myself included) over the course of 35 days. Scott’s interviews are all about how gratitude helped people out of addiction, loss and grief to improve self worth, relationships and overall quality of life. Scott has a fabulous line up of interviewees. This entire summit is online and free. Links Mentioned: Article: The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life Scott Colby’s Ultimate Gratitude Challenge Shameless Mom Interview with Jen Briggs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 51, I talked about how to find your passion by: Defining what you love Defining where you thrive Defining what stifles you Defining who you want to be Be sure to listen to Episode 51, if you haven’t already! Today I’ll build upon finding you passion by discussing: Transitions between passions and life plans How to create time and space for building your passion How to hustle, smarter Where your support is Be kind to yourself, but also fierce How to find mentors and follow those who have gone before you The idea of “following your passion” sounds really nice – but actually following your passion takes #ladyballs and a serious plan. This episode will help you put some pieces together so you can move forward, daily; so you can feel confident and excited; so you can finally do that thing you’ve been dying to do. I also share all the amazing, inspirational and informational podcasts I have learned from – that have allowed me to follow my passion of starting and building a podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Finding your passion is no small thing. After you become a mom, you forget what you enjoy and you lose track of past hobbies. When you make an effort to former passion projects, whether it’s on a professional or personal level, you likely find that the things that totally filled you up and fueled you before kids don’t do that any more. It’s all… just different, somehow…. My work has shifted in many ways since becoming a mom. My hobbies have too. My time is different – and way more valuable. So, I’m really picky about how I spend it. I only want to do the things that add value to my life in some way. It has taken me some time to figure this out and define things. Today, I’m going to share with you the things I’ve learned in the last 4 years of mothering and working and living a life that fulfills me. Here is the basic framework, be sure to listen in for a much more detailed explanation: Know what you love Know where you thrive Know what stifles you Know who you want to be You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For our 50th episode I wanted to do something a little fun and a little special. I actually recorded this in the 30 minutes before my IVF egg retrieval. I’m not sure it reinforced the idea that I truly want to go for #2, haha… My mom has always done a great job of painting motherhood in a beautiful picture: “Your children will always be your proudest accomplishment.” “There is nothing like a mother’s love.” “I don’t remember you ever waking up at night.” “You are your sister were easy babies.” Moms have a knack for making it look like we just wake up every day and knock everything out of the freakin’ park. As our children age, that is how we remember it too. “You were the happiest baby in the world.” “The days just flew by.” “Nothing compares to being a mom.” You know what else nothing compares to? Sipping wine with my husband on a beach without a small child in site. Or spending a day all alone with no one needing a damn thing from me. As our children age, we idealize the past and it gets better and better. As NewbornLand becomes a distant memory, we find ourselves falling in love with the memories, rather than recalling the reality, which was survival, barely. This episode is dedicated to the first 50 episodes of the Shameless Mom Academy and the nearly 50,000 downloads of Shameless Moms listening in to learn and laugh together every week. Thank you for the love and support. You make my motherhood journey so much better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I received some amazing feedback from Episode 47: I See Someone Handsome (How To Look In The Mirror). I wanted to take some time to go through a couple messages specifically, as they were powerful and deeply impacted me. As a direct result of the feedback I got from Shameless Moms Anne and Meg, I felt compelled to be a little more bold than normal in a recent social media post and in sharing the photo that goes with this episode (the internet has never met my bare belly before!) I’m so glad Episode 47 was impactful for you, my lovely and super rad listeners. I’m so glad you’re looking in the mirror and seeing things a little differently than just a week ago. I want to inspire you to recognize your radness every damn day. It can take time and practice to change your self talk. It can take a tremendous amount of humility and courage to “fake it till you become it”. But it is entirely possible to change your relationship with YOU by taking Radical Responsibility in your self care and self love habits. It starts today. It starts with you. It starts with just a little inspiration. I hope this episode, in conjunction with Episode 47, are the inspiration you need to See Someone Handsome. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I am talking with my friend and colleague Shawna Kaminski. Shawna is a fitness professional, former teacher and single mom. She is as focused and determined as they come. She works from a place of passion and she pushes herself out of her comfort zone as often as possible. This has allowed her to reach great heights professionally, while raising two teenagers. I admire Shawna for her tenacity and determination to RISE when the going gets tough. I’ve watched her push herself and grow like crazy in the last few years. She is a force. Today, Shawna will share: How changing professions has made her feel like she never has to “work” again How following her passion carried her through her toughest parenting moments What it’s like to build multiple businesses while raising teenagers The benefits of baby steps How she is impacting and improving women's relationships with their bodies as they age You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The other day, Vinnie stood in front of the mirror brushing his teeth and exclaimed, “I see someone handsome!” When is the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and shouted with glee? Let’s all get better at looking in the mirror. How you talk to yourself in the mirror reflects how you talk to yourself in all areas of your life (remember, “how you do anything is how your do everything.”) Listen in to hear some shocking statistics on how children view their bodies. Then follow these 7 steps to love your body a little more: Pull yourself out of the comparison trap Divorce the D word Disengage from people who make you feel LESS, build relationships with those who make you feel MORE ID three likes, with no “buts” Buy clothes you love, that flatter you as you are Own your wins and share them Be vulnerable Also in this episode: an update on my first 8 days of IVF meds! Links Mentioned: Psych Central article: Why Do Women Hate Their Bodies Rockstar social media influences: Molly Galbraith, Erin Brown, Jill Coleman Buzzfeed Article: Getting Rid of Clothes I Hated Help Me Love My Body Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Portia Smith is a writer, influencer and all-around obsessed-aficionado over at Obsessed By Portia. Finding the #MomLife balance is her forte – ensuring style, fitness and happiness are well-maintained. The Obsessed by Portia brand is about channeling your inner #Superwoman – find your passion, be adventurous, and always arrive looking damn good. In this interview, Portia shares: How she got started as a mommy blogger (in secret) Her best tips for following your passion and starting your own gig How to build relationships and connect with your “competitors” Ways to engage your family in your passion The superpower she wants to give you: Sincere Undeniable Confidence, Always Links Mentioned: www.obsessedbyportia.com Obsessed By Portia on Facebook Obsessed By Portia on Instagram Obsessed By Portia on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re at a time of year when people are preparing for transitions. Maybe you’re getting ready to send your child to a new school – or maybe his/her first school ever (tear…) Maybe you’re getting ready to send your child off to college. Maybe you’re preparing to return to school yourself. Maybe you’re getting ready for a new job or a new season or position in your current job. Maybe you’re getting ready to add a child to your family (I’ve learned I have some “secret pregnant” followers – sending you toooons of love, mamas!) You probably know by now that I’ve been preparing for IVF. It’s been a long process of preparation, as nothing happens quickly in The Land of the Infertile. I sat down to note the steps I’ve taken to prepare, as I thought this might be helpful to you as you anticipate a change or a transition in life. These are the things I’ve done to mentally prepare for IVF, but you can apply them to many other situations. I would love to hear how they might apply to something big you have coming up. Shoot me a message [[email protected]] and let me know! 6 Ways to Mentally Prepare for Anything Don’t be tied to outcomes Plan rewards for all outcomes ID all pros and cons in advance Know your strengths and weaknesses ID your support system Clear extra “stuff” out of your life Listen in and see how you can apply these to your life. Please share this episode if you think it might help someone else who is facing a big event or transition. For those of you about to tackle big things, know I am with you and I have your back. Always. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have known a few women impacted by Postpartum Depression (also known as PPD). It hits moms in different ways - some mildly, some very severely. It hits moms at different times. Some women experience symptoms almost immediately after giving birth. Some women don’t experience symptoms until their babies are a year old. There is not a pattern or blueprint. It can look like depression. It can feel like anxiety. It can be short lived. It can last for years. Sometimes drugs are necessary and helpful. Sometimes drugs are not necessary. Sometimes drugs make things worse. Every women’s experience is a harrowing journey, often filled with overwhelming emotions. I am so grateful to Caroline Kwash, the host of the podcast Being Carefull, for coming on the show to talk about her journey with Postpartum Depression. She shares her story from the time she gave birth 18 months ago until today. She tells us about the roller coaster she has been riding and how she has learned to manage the twists and turns over the last year and a half. Caroline is brutally honest about her experience, which I hugely admire. I know her story will help many other moms. Please share this episode with other communities of moms so the women who need help and inspiration can find it in Caroline’s story. Caroline kindly shares many tips that help her navigate her daily life and have helped her heal tremendously over time. Her tips are extremely helpful for any moms dealing with PPD. Additionally, her tips are GOLD for any new mom navigating the adjustment into motherhood. Links Mentioned: Caroline’s podcast: Beingcarefull.com Caroline’s Etsy Store Carefull Candles (use promo code HELLO to save 25%!) Being Carefull on Facebook Carefull Candles on Facebook @CarolineKwash on Instagram @CarefullCandles on Instagram Book: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Book: Cured By Nature by Tara Mackey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have worried about having a second child every single day since Vinnie was born. Every. Single. Day. It’s no secret that motherhood has kicked my butt. Especially that first year. Sweet Baby Jesus… After 4 years of thinking, worrying, and weighing the pros and cons, Vince and I have finally come to a decision. Our decision doesn’t guarantee any outcomes. But we have a definitive plan. For now, at least. That feels good. Finally. Listen in to hear how I weighed baby snuggles, magical mommy moments, and a backup for my senior care against all the barf, poop, and sleeplessness promised by a second child. Also, I’m in need of your fertility juju. Please send it on over <3. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Angela Arsenault is a writer and editor at Parent.co as well as the host of the new podcast, Where Was I. Angela has recently written a fantastic series of articles about raising boys and girls and the unique needs of each. Additionally, she has fantastic advice about raising children and young adults in this insane digital age. Angela’s podcast is on a different yet equally valuable topic. On Where Was I, Angela talks through the process of re-entry into the work force. As many of you know, there is an evolution to your role as a mom. Angela explores what happens when moms switch careers from work to home to work again. It’s a fascinating conversation. On this episode, Angela shares: The navigation back in to work after being home for any length of time How boys will be the boys we teach them to be 4 behaviors to model that will make the world better for your daughter How to manage privacy and social media with your teens When to address the dangers of social media with your kids Links mentioned: Angela’s podcast: Where Was I Angela’s articles on Teens and Sex in the Digital Age Angela on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let’s get real… We would all die for our kids. We love them so much our hearts physically ache at the mere thought of something bad happening to them. And we know we could not survive without them. But, sometimes we don’t like them. When Vinnie smacked my upside the head with a toy car recently, I didn’t really like him for a few minutes. The next day when he kicked me in the mouth, I didn’t adore him so much. Sometimes at bedtime, when I’m heading upstairs for the umpteenth time to give another sip of water, or help him try to poop one more time, or find a misplaced toy, or adjust the cracked door so it’s not too open and not too closed, I want to gouge my eyes out. On today’s episode I talk through 5 Ways to Love Your Kids When You Don’t Like Them. We’ve all been there. And sorry to break it to you – but you’re gonna be there again – probably sometime today. Here’s how you can love your child when his/her behavior has you dreaming of solo beach vacation with unlimited drinks: 1. Speak their language Know where they are developmentally Talk about feelings & emotions Invite cuddles and conversation 2. Learn their currency Toys Food Activities – parks, games, shows, etc 3. Take space Tag team with your partner Have routine time off/help Use back up care as needed 4. Take care of YOU Sleep Exercise Nutrition 5. Keep Learning Read books Attend talks Connect with parents who have same age kids (live parent groups or FB groups) Take time to reflect on what’s working and what’s not We’re all doing the best we can, but you can’t do it all without your tool box. Ask for help and support. Know you’ll screw up. Stay open to learning and evolving. Be committed to doing your best. Keep the wine close by. You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.shamelessmom.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susan Hyatt is someone I have admired since hearing her speak at an event a few years ago. At that event, she told the raw story of the day she was sexually assaulted as a young woman. She owned the stage as she shared her story – even in tears, at her most vulnerable, she was a pillar of strength and fortitude. After that event, I immediately started following everything Susan was doing online. Over the last few years, I have adored her for all she stands for, for all she fights for and for her 100% shameless attitude in every damn thing she does. Listen in to learn from Susan: How two teenagers and Beyonce inspire her everyday How she sets boundaries around her work to improve her work life and family life How motherhood and your life work/passion can evolve together What the one crack in Susan’s foundation is – and why it will probably never go away How to be shameless in work and motherhood Links mentioned: Fast Company article: Beyonce, Inc: How Airbnb, Warby Parker, and Others Are Finding Inspiration in Lemonade Book: Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed Susan’s Website: http://www.shyatt.com Susan on Facebook Susan on Instagram Susan’s podcast: GO! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently, I have been asked repeatedly to do an episode on mommy judgment, specifically on moms who judge other moms. Let’s just call this what it is - Mommy Wars. And please know – it’s an ugly place for you. And it’s damaging to your kids. I’ll be honest, before I was a mom I sat in judgment of my mom friends. I noticed and quite comfortably critiqued: How Johnny should could benefit from more time outs The atrocity of little Susie’s frequent hitting The obvious problem that was Bobbie’s french fry addiction Then, I had a kid. My kid’s behavior is not impacted at all by time outs. So we don’t really use them much. Last week, my kid smacked me upside the head with a metal toy car and gave me a goose egg. The next day he kicked me in the mouth. On any given Sunday, when we’re out for brunch, you can find my kid eating a well balanced meal of bacon and French fries. So, who am I to judge….. I can no longer comfortably critique. I am IN. IT. One of the quotes that is always, always close to my heart is, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” When a horrific accident happens involving a child, let’s not judge. We do not know the story. We do not know the circumstances. And there is no reason to think you are a better mother than any other mother. I firmly believe we are all doing the very best we can. It is easy to get caught up in community gossip or media mayhem over news stories involving kids. It’s very easy and very comfortable, sadly, to stand on a holier-than-thou pedestal pointing out the short-comings of another mother. And all this does is continue to build walls between moms and walls between women. At it’s best, it’s fun gossip between moms. At it’s worst, it’s women discrediting and devaluing other women in front of their kids. Let’s do our kids a favor and acknowledge that being a mommy is hard and we all do our best everyday. Sometimes things don’t happen the way we want. Sometimes horrible things happen. In those moments, we have an opportunity to be kind and supportive and gentle. We have the chance to listen and learn and practice empathy. I’m gonna screw up a lot as a mom. A lot. So are you. It’s ok. I’m here for you. And I hope you’ll be there for me. This is what I want my kid to see. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices