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<p>Today we go into the vault.</p> <p>A caller wants to know if you have to believe you're sexy in order to actually be sexy.</p> <p>Another caller wants to know how to connect better with his wife, when up to now it's been difficult due to her being the lower desire for connection and sex.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>What are the ways we could ruin sex this Holiday Season? We've got a list.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off at https://trueclassictees.com/smr</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sexy-and-connecting-revisited/">Being Sexy and Connecting Revisited #601</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>Thank you to all our listeners for being part of our journey to 600 EPISODES!!!!!!!</p> <p>A 50 something husband emails wanting to know how to address the lack of intimate connection in his marriage. Is it too late for them due to their age?</p> <p>A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation and hides it from his wife ... who knows he enjoys it and had forbid him the act.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An academy member shared his journey on the platform about the desire differences between he and his wife. They are making progress together and growing, but in a recent post he seems to get in the way of his wife and her need to confront herself.</p> <p>Let's face it, we all can do this. So why do we do this and how can we do things better in the future?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/getting-in-our-spouses-way/">Getting In Our Spouse’s Way | Feedback Wednesday #600</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An episode from the vault - and everyone gets the full show today.</p> <p>I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex.</p> <p>Our conversations last week were all about the scripts we have in our sex lives. That's what Dr Kerner's book is all about.</p> <p>To learn more about Ian visit his site - https://www.iankerner.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is also brought to you by Better Help - online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/your-sex-scripts-revisited-dr-ian-kerner/">Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>A husband shares his thoughts to the guy who was thinking of giving up ex in the hopes of a relationship reboot.</p> <p>A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation before becoming a Christian, now thinks it may be shameful. And after bringing it up to his wife, she wants nothing to do with it.</p> <p>A wife can orgasm during foreplay but once intercourse begins, what can she do?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A husband and wife had a therapist suggest they should schedule sex, which she immediately set up several appointments with her husband. He kept only one of the appointments.</p> <p>To top it off, she largely has to do most of the work for her enjoyment during the times they have sex together. Is he abusive or neglectful?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sex-scripts-in-marriage-feedback-wednesday/">Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Sean McDowell joins me to talk through the impacts and influence of the purity culture on marriages and young people today.</p> <p>What messages about love and sex did you receive growing up? Or still hear today?</p> <p>And how do these impact our lives and marriages now?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr McDowell here - https://seanmcdowell.org/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/love-and-the-purity-culture-dr-sean-mcdowell/">Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. </p> <p>Everyone wants to feel like they're normal, or at least not abnormal. </p> <p>So, what are some characteristics of normal when it comes to sex?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Every person has some conditions that are necessary in order for them to enjoy sex. What are yours?</p> <p>We go through some of the most common ones today.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/smr and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/normal-sex/">Normal Sex #596</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress.</p> <p>We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing different kinds of struggles in married life.</p> <p>It's not a question of if your marriage experiences struggles but when.</p> <p>To learn more about Gary Thomas check out his site https://garythomas.com/</p> <p>And read more from him here - https://garythomas.substack.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Gary and I talk through the concept of the addiction model and how can we help God's people be more real and honest with each other.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/make-marriage-a-fortress-gary-thomas/">Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR.</p> <p>Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex.</p> <p>Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong?</p> <p>Could it be that what we think makes sex good - isn't actually a good qualifier to use?</p> <p>To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he's made before about how better communication can ruin sex.</p> <p>But I thought we were supposed to learn how to communicate better? Nope.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/doing-sex-wrong-dr-stephen-snyder/">Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. </p> <p>An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault.</p> <p>A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both.</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don't want to participate in or follow through with?</p> <p>How do you do this in your life? Let us know. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/delay-tactics-revisited/">Delay Tactics Revisited #593</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. </p> <p>Touch means lots of things - but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. </p> <p>Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-importance-of-touch-dr-chelom-leavitt/">The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.</p> <p>What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?</p> <p>How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?</p> <p>In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch's Four Points of Balance.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/principles-of-passion-and-desire/">Principles of Passion and Desire #591</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.</p> <p>Let's face it, every woman will face these stages in life - what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/perimenopause-dr-kelly-casperson/">Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/fantasies-dr-justin-lehmiller/">Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.</p> <p>Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sexual-shame-and-brokenness/">Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen.</p> <p>How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness?</p> <p>What is so terrible about men who are passive?</p> <p>What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships?</p> <p>Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com </p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-men-we-need-brant-hansen/">The Men We Need | Brant Hansen #587</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference?</p> <p>A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her.</p> <p>A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby and came home with a different body. At least that's what her husband says.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We've talked a lot about how we get in our own way when you're the higher desire spouse for sex. Could this also be true when you're the higher desire spouse for emotional intimacy?</p> <p>A husband has lost his erection several times and now is struggling while his wife is pregnant. She takes it personally - and so does he. What can they do?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com.</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/different-body-after-baby/">Came Home After Baby With A Different Body | Feedback Wednesday #586</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well?</p> <p>What if it wasn't sexual intercourse every day ... but was simply being sexual every day? Does that change anything in your mind?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A message from a member who is wanting to get the passion back in his marriage after 20 years. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sex-everyday/">Sex Every Day #585</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we're not meaning kind in this episode.</p> <p>What is the Nice Guy?</p> <p>How do you recognize and confront covert contracts?</p> <p>To learn more from Robert -check out his site https://www.drglover.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An extended conversation with Dr Glover about the importance of showing up in your relationships, and setting a good tone.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Also listen to his other episodes on SMR:</p> <p>#326 Positive Emotional Tension<br /> #425 Testing Solidness<br /> #558 Roommates Not Lovers</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/nice-guys-revisited/">Nice Guys Revisited | Dr Robert Glover #584</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Everyone gets the full show today …</p> <p>A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex. </p> <p>Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? </p> <p>To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast - check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/</p> <p>Also listen to her other episodes on SMR:</p> <p>#437 The Lower Desire Wife<br /> #463 Sex For Emotional Attachment<br /> #544 Resentment</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Magic Mind: Get 20% off a one-time purchase or 40% a subscription with our code SMR20 at https://magicmind.co/smr</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/obligation-sex/">Obligation Sex | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #583</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>What does trust mean?</p> <p>Is it a simple concept or a complicated one?</p> <p>What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness?</p> <p>That's our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when it comes to confidence and the preconceived roles each gender plays in marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/trustworthiness/">Trustworthiness #582</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing.</p> <p>How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple?</p> <p>Learn more about Faithful Fling here -<br /> https://www.faithfulfling.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more personal - as well as exploring some of the pitfalls that may be associated with fantasy and role playing.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/role-play/">Role Playing #581</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway.</p> <p>A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his libido may increase and the remedy to any discomfort is ejaculation. This puts his wife is a tough spot.</p> <p>A husband wants his wife to wear lingerie and wants to go down on her after sexual intercourse. His side - he loves it. Her side - not so much.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An encore conversation how to bring up your desires when you may disrupt the status quo.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge …In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/testicular-cancer/">Testicular Cancer #580</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway.</p> <p>A caller has an issue with a statement made from a past show and left us a message asking if we would tell our daughter the same thing I said on the air.</p> <p>A husband is suffering from retroactive jealousy over things his wife did before they were married and even before they had met.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An encore conversation about our fear of being alone.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/retroactive-jealousy/">Retroactive Jealousy #579</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An encore episode of a conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Vanessa and I continue the conversation about sex, only this time we’re focusing solely on the female orgasm.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/encore-of-the-female-orgasm/">Encore of The Female Orgasm #578</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined by Dr Carole Hooven, a Harvard Lecturer, as we discuss her study and work on the science of testosterone.</p> <p>Why is it that this hormone is so important and so divisive?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Carole here - http://www.carolehooven.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Dr Carole and I continue the conversation only get more personal. She even turns the tables on the interview!</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/lets-talk-about-testosterone/">Lets Talk About Testosterone #577</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An encore presentation of the conversation with Dr Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap, why it exists and what couples can do about it.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Dr Laurie continues with me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance.</p> <p>Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemintz.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, and 3 free gifts.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/cliteracy/">Cliteracy #576</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A husband who has had a past struggle with porn and sex addiction is in the midst of an agreed upon abstinence period with his wife. She says it will take a long time before sex is introduced again in the marriage. What can he do?</p> <p>A wife went through old voicemails left for her from her husband while they were dating and he sounds like a completely different man compared to now. How should she react to the heartbreak she feels now?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A more dominant personality wife gets blamed for her husbands decisions and results when he followed her thoughts. He claims "when mama ain't happy, no one is" How can she address this dynamic? </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/abstinence-in-marriage/">Abstinence In Marriage #575</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Pam and I work through a potpourri of questions today ....</p> <p>A husband is struggling with the idea of consent in marriage, even when his wife has given it in some areas.</p> <p>Wife regularly gives her husband a "hand" yet it's feeling too transactional now.</p> <p>A husband told his wife she was great at blow jobs early on in their marriage, yet she's not. Now what should he do?</p> <p>A wife has a husband who has lost lots of weight yet still has more to go and lots of loose skin now.</p> <p>A wife who has never orgasmed and a husband who really wants her too.</p> <p>A woman is saving herself for marriage, but what if she winds up stuck with a micro-penis?</p> <p>Been married for 7 months, and sex sucks.</p> <p>A wife found out her husband struggled with porn and now she is struggling to not worry about what he's thinking about or wanting to do during sex with her.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/qa-potpourri/">Q&A Potpourri: Consent, Oral Sex, Waiting #574</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A best of SMR episode with an email from a higher desire wife that's in a catch 22.</p> <p>An interview with Pam Costa about her journey and research into female desire. How her experience of talking about the topic, taboos, and hesitancies with other women dramatically improved her desire levels.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>I continue the conversation with Pam Costa about the research project she created to study female desire levels and the practical steps everyone can talk to help themselves in this area of life.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, including free<br /> shipping!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/best-of-smr-awaken-female-desire/">Best Of SMR: Awaken Female Desire #573</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An email from a husband wanting to explore some new things during sex with his wife, yet she takes this as she's not enough for him.</p> <p>A husband emails us about his never being attracted to his wife, even while they were dating. What are his options now?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>How do our family of origin patterns play out in our lives and marriages today?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/not-enough/">Not Enough #572</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A followup voicemail regarding episode #569 - what are some better questions and conversations starters to address difficult issues in marriage?</p> <p>An email from a husband who's wife experiences pain during sex, and while it's better, how do they change things up a bit when there's anxiety about possible pain?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Pam and I discuss an email from a listener and their framework of where feelings come from. Which leads to the question, which comes first, the chicken or the egg?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/feelings-and-meanings/">Feelings and Meanings #571</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined by Brad and Marilyn Rhoads, co-founders of Grace Marriage. Hear us talk about their story and how it applies to most every marriage.</p> <p>Learn more about Grace Marriage here - https://www.gracemarriage.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Today we revisit a segment from a prior episode in the archives with this Best Of topic - I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I think you think I am.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/grace-marriage/">Grace Marriage #570</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A husband is stuck in a scary place in his marriage. His wife says she has no attraction towards him, at least physically. Yet she also is fine with the state of their marriage. He's not. What can he do?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>How do we use our time? Where are there spaces (white space) in our days to reset, recharge, or create?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/wife-is-fine-with-being-fine/">Wife Is Fine With Being Fine #569</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today Kimberly Beam Holmes, of It Starts With Attraction, and we dive into the world of attraction. Or as she had framed it ... PIES.</p> <p>Learn more about Kimberly on her sites<br /> https://marriagehelper.com/<br /> https://piesuniversity.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Kimberly and I go into a more personal conversation about growing up behind the scenes in the marriage help world, and living as a couple who helps marriages. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/attraction/">Attraction #568</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today by Tornus and Smartypants, of Full Circle Kink, as they take us on an exploration in the world of kink and BDSM.</p> <p>Communication is king when venturing into today's topic ... and all sexual encounters for that matter.</p> <p>Learn more on their site - https://www.fullcirclekink.com/ </p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We continue the conversation with Tornus and Smartypants and their personal journey into the world of kink. Plus, they give some great tips on equipment or first steps people often think they should take, but not according to them.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, including free<br /> shipping!</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/exploring-kink-and-bdsm/">Exploring Kink and BDSM #567</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A wife suffered from insomnia for a while in her marriage, and it wrecked their sex life. How do they get it back now that the insomnia is no longer the issue? Plus, when she feels desire to initiate, she often doesn't - because he would like that. What's that about?</p> <p>An email and voicemail adding more to last week's conversation about the couple where vacation sex has decreased. A few additional points to consider.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A wife repeatedly hears the message from her husband that she doesn't show him any respect. What exactly does that mean?</p> <p>And are we even owed something like that in our marriage?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/respect/">Respect #566</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A husband is frustrated because while he usually could rely on vacation sex being adventurous and frequent with his wife, something's changed with her and them lately.</p> <p>A voicemail asking some questions about Erich Fromm's book The Art Of Loving. Class is in session.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A wife with the trauma of sexual assault in her past is now struggling with how her husband is sometimes trying to guilt her into more sex. What's her best response?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/even-vacation-sex-has-decreased/">Even Vacation Sex Has Decreased #565</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A husband wants to learn how to change up sexual encounters with his wife so the experience will last longer - but changing it up ruins it for his wife.</p> <p>A follow up to the One Flesh episode from a husband who is the same situation with his wife - she too has not interest in sex or seeking help for their sex life.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Some newlyweds reach out for help in how to get a wife more open to the possibilities of doing more than missionary position during sex.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sex-scripts-and-stories/">Sex Scripts and Stories #564</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today I'm joined by J Parker, of Hot Holy and Humorous, and we discuss the plight of the higher desire wife.</p> <p>It's more common than we think, it's impacting younger people's marriage more than ever and there are several reasons why we think this is the case.</p> <p>What are these reasons? Join us today to hear more.</p> <p>You can find J's work on her site - https://hotholyhumorous.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/higher-desire-wife/">Higher Desire Wife #563</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me as we discuss her research and work on being more sexually mindful. </p> <p>You can find more about Dr Chelom here - https://www.chelomleavitt.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Dr Chelom and I discuss the differences between differentiation theory and attachment theory. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/being-sexually-mindful/">Being Sexually Mindful #562</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording?</p> <p>A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial - where there will be no orgasms for him unless he accomplishes certain tasks or fulfills something set for him by his wife.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>How exactly do you work to better yourself? It's a phrase we often use - but what are some tangible ways this is accomplished?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/orgasm-denial/">Orgasm Denial #561</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world - domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion about how these types of traumas impact both men and women.</p> <p>We also get into how each of us who have been impacted by this type of trauma can heal going forward. </p> <p>Learn more about Colleen here - http://www.colleenramserlpc.com/</p> <p>And check out her course here - https://www.colleenramser.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show! 9g29qpwv</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/domestic-and-spiritual-abuse/">Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine's Weekend.</p> <p>A wife tried out something new in sex, didn't like it, yet her husband keeps pushing for it.</p> <p>A husband wants to introduce a prostate massager during mutual masturbation, his wife isn't ok with it.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>How do you frame healthy conversations around affection, passion and sexual release in marriage? Particularly as it pertains to masturbation?</p> <p>PLUS - XTD feed members get to hear a new version and music in the intro and outro of the show. We'd love your feedback as we kick around ways to keep the show fresh and evolving.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/tried-it-dont-like-it/">Tried It, Don’t Like It #559</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today, everyone gets the full show …</p> <p>Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage.</p> <p>What are the factors at play that cause this to happen? But more importantly, what can we do about it?</p> <p>Find more of Dr Glover here - https://www.drglover.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/roommates-not-lovers/">Roommates Not Lovers #558</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A followup to Episode #555 - what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh?</p> <p>A wife emails as lower desire, yet her husband has given up initiating and expects her to take it over. He's even said to her "when you're interested in it, you know where to find me." </p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We switch gears and discuss the topic of trauma again, only through a slightly different framework.</p> <p>We also give some ideas on what to do when triggers from the past occur in the present.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/one-flesh/">One Flesh #557</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband. </p> <p>What's new, and what has changed in society and the Christian culture since it was originally written?</p> <p>Find more of Dr Juli here - https://www.authenticintimacy.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We all face disappointment in life and marriage- but what if disappointment is actually a path to more intimacy? </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/finding-your-power/">Finding Your Power #556</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex.</p> <p>A wife calls in wanting to know how to address the desire differences between her and her husband. She wants to keep sex special and not so often, after all, it's her body so she should be able to determine when and how often.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Trauma impacts lots of people and creates lasting impacts for some. But has the word trauma changed in meaning and usage?</p> <p>That's what we discuss this week in the Xtended content.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/its-my-body/">It’s My Body #555</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz of Restored 2 More, and how pornography almost destroyed their marriage, and Clinton's life.</p> <p>Along the way, they were given the most destructive advice about how to address this issue as a couple. Luckily, they overcame that advice and have gone on to create a ministry that helps other couples dealing with struggle and crisis from pornography or other issues in marriage.</p> <p>Check them out here - https://restored2more.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We go deeper into their story, but this time we explore how their journey impacted Charity and what they've learned along the way together.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/worst-advice-about-porn/">The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>On the Regular version of today’s show …</p> <p>A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she should have been told to put on her "big girl panties" - and he's right. </p> <p>A husband has asked for some specific sexual favors for his birthday. His wife isn't usually on board with what he's asked for, yet she's done most of them. Should he speak up about the remaining one yet to be done? </p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We believe in setting a course for the new year, but not with new year's resolutions. We love the idea of using Three Words to act as a compass for your life and relationships. </p> <p>We unpack the idea behind the three words, share our words, and ask you to join us with your words. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/birthday-favors/">Birthday Favors #553</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife.</p> <p>A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do with them?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/best-of-smr-masturbation-and-expectations/">Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>