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<p>Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction.</p> <p>Why does this happen?</p> <p>What can we do to stop it?</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Author and modern-day monk, Jay Shetty has a 4 E formula for better relationships. We discuss what they are and if we agree with him.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/over-reaction-to-my-spouses-over-reaction/">Over-Reaction To My Spouse’s Over-Reaction #630</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world.</p> <p>Learn more about Debra and find her books here - https://debrafileta.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We continue the conversation and shift it towards what are some steps we can take to address triggers and traumas in our lives.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/triggers-debra-fileta/">Triggers | Debra Fileta #629</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option.</p> <p>We answer her questions, then expand into some different topics that are at play in every marriage.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We do a deeper look at the dynamic of over-functioning and under-functioning.</p> <p>Which one are you?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, episode #626, and the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/divorce-is-not-an-option/">Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Sytsma here - https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>I continue the conversation with Michael about Dr Schnarch's idea of eyes-open-sex.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com</p> <p>Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/a-higher-view-dr-michael-sytsma/">A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing.</p> <p>Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well - Relay</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Pam and I share our story and journey with the struggle and impact of pornography on our marriage and life.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/you-need-a-tribe-chandler-and-jade-rogers/">You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage.</p> <p>Come look back with us.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse's phone or devices.</p> <p>So what's the motivation and results of this path?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/takeaways-from-30-years-of-marriage/">Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this episode.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/menopause-and-hormones-dr-kelly-casperson/">Menopause and Hormones | Dr Kelly Casperson #624</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we answer emails from the Nation.</p> <p>A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn't moving it. What's going on?</p> <p>A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again.</p> <p>On the Extended Version …</p> <p>A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn't know what would liven up her sex life.</p> <p>What can she do?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/unilateral-moves-feedback-wednesday/">Unilateral Moves | Feedback Wednesday #623</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode I'm joined by Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, and we talk about the importance of facing and addressing trauma and pain in order to heal and grow. Our tendency often is to numb or run away from pain - or attempt to manage it, but it is more important to be a witness to one's own story while also having empathetic witnesses in the form of supportive friends and family.</p> <p>Learn more about Jay here - https://jay-stringer.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Jay and I continue the conversation and highlight the importance of facing and processing trauma and pain in order to grow and heal, while also acknowledging the difficulty and complexity of doing so..</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/lust-management-jay-stringer/">Lust Management | Jay Stringer #622</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>This week we are trying something different - this is a conversation from Pam and I while we were driving back from moving a parent into an independent living complex. </p> <p>What are we learning while we deal with issues surrounding aging parents - and teenagers?</p> <p>Listen to find out. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/lessons-in-the-sandwich-generation/">Lessons In The Sandwich Generation #621</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, I'm joined by Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, as we talk about the taboo topic of suicide and the importance of brave listening.</p> <p>Dr. Freedenthal shares her experiences as a suicide prevention expert and her insights on how to talk about suicide with loved ones.</p> <p>We discuss the fear and discomfort that often surrounds this topic and how to overcome it through active listening, empathy, and curiosity.</p> <p>This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who wants to better understand suicide and learn how to support those who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts or ideation.</p> <p>Join us as we provide valuable insights and practical tips on how to engage in brave listening and help others feel seen and heard.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Stacey here -<br /> https://staceyfreedenthal.com/<br /> https://www.speakingofsuicide.com/</p> <p>If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, call 988.</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Stacey and I continue the conversation but look more deeply at the topic as clinicians, then how that fits with everyone else.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/brave-listening-dr-stacey-freedenthal/">Brave Listening | Dr Stacey Freedenthal #620</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Hello, Nation! I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and marriage counselor.</p> <p>In this episode, we discussed a powerful tool for couples called the "Bullseye Question," which can help couples communicate effectively and strengthen their relationship.</p> <p>The Bullseye Question involves setting aside five minutes each day to give and receive constructive feedback from your partner. This allows couples to communicate openly and honestly about what's working and what's not in their relationship, without feeling defensive or attacked.</p> <p>Dr. Fisher explains that the key to making the Bullseye Question work is to approach it with a mindset of growth and self-improvement, rather than criticism or blame. By asking each other "what could I have done better today?" couples can create a safe space for feedback that is focused on growth and improvement.</p> <p>We also discuss its benefits, including how it can help couples develop stronger communication skills, build trust and intimacy, and ultimately create a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.</p> <p>If you're looking to strengthen your marriage and improve your communication with your spouse, I highly recommend listening to this episode. There is a wealth of knowledge and practical tips you can start using today to improve your relationship.</p> <p>Learn more here - https://www.drwyattfisher.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Wyatt and I go deeper into another one of his strategies, the Head and Heart Method for connection.</p> <p>Looking for more intimacy or connection?</p> <p>Listen to the XTD to find it.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/5-minutes-a-day-dr-wyatt-fisher/">5 Minutes A Day | Dr Wyatt Fisher #619</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Abby Davidson joins the show as we talk about one of the more contentious topics in married life, money.</p> <p>What are some good ways to address this topic and then make decisions together? Listen to find out. </p> <p>Learn more about Abby here - https://www.abbydavisson.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>We keep the conversation going and get a little more personal. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/money-and-love-abby-davidson/">Money And Love | Abby Davidson #618</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Brianna Carey joins me today as we discuss the common issues women face during the postpartum stage of life and marriage.</p> <p>To learn more about Brianna, check out her site - https://brianna-carey.square.site/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>We keep the conversation going and discuss some of the ideas Brianna uses to maintain a better connection with your spouse, regardless of the season or stage of life.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Passionately Married Academy: Pick your level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/postpartum-intimacy-and-sex-brianna-carey/">Postpartum Intimacy and Sex | Brianna Carey #617</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talk through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage.</p> <p>Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most?</p> <p>What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage?</p> <p>And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities?</p> <p>Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/secrets-of-sex-and-marriage-shaunti-feldhahn-and-dr-michael-sytsma/">Secrets of Sex and Marriage | Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma #616</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships.</p> <p>We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing. </p> <p>To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>We keep the conversation going about the 3 kinds of dynamics we can take in our relationships. Difficult, impossible or shock-absorber.</p> <p>Which one are you?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/be-difficult-tonya-lester/">Be Difficult | Tonya Lester #615</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A husband has emailed us with feedback and his thoughts about Episodes #610 and #611.</p> <p>We go through his ideas point by point, and then land on a conversation about the win-win situations in marriage. Or, to put it another way, do they really exist?</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Pam and I discuss the three different sexual styles according the Dr Schnarch.</p> <p>Which style is yours?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sexual-styles/">Sexual Styles #614</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I had a fun conversation with Mark Rosendfeld, one that just started right when I hit record and simply kept going.</p> <p>We cover lots of aspects about men and women and our relationships with each other.</p> <p>To find more of Mark's work go here - https://makehimyours.com.au/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Mark and I keep the conversation going.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Passionately Married Academy: Pick your level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/conversation-about-men-and-women-mark-rosenfeld/">Conversation About Men And Women | Mark Rosenfeld #613</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Natalie Lue, author of The Joy Of Saying No, joins me as we dive into the trait of people pleasing.</p> <p>But isn't looking out for others and what they want a good thing?</p> <p>Not always. In fact, it can be downright destructive.</p> <p>Learn more about Natalie here - https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Natalie and I continue the conversation, only a little more personally.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house, visit https://hellofresh.com/passion65 use our code passion65 and get 65% off + free shipping.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/people-pleasers-natalie-lue/">People Pleasers | Natalie Lue #612</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's a Feedback Wednesday again, where we answer questions from the Nation and today follow up from our episode last week.</p> <p>A wife emails in encouraging me to re-think my stance and advice regarding last week's segment on if a husband should tell his wife about his struggle with porn. </p> <p>A wife prefers to offload her day, and talk about intimate and even conflictual topic with her husband in bed. He does not. It turns her on. It turns him off. </p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>A husband is married to a wife who goes to be well before him, gets up well before him, doesn't share any hobbies together, and can only pursue his wife sexually at a prescribe day and time. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/we-react-from-our-fear-or-pain-or-preference-feedback-wednesday/">We React From Our Fear Or Pain Or Preference | Feedback Wednesday #611</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday, where we answer questions from the Nation.</p> <p>A wife had a little issue with our Trust vs Hurt episode. She heard our take as possibly blaming the betrayed spouse, not the betrayer.</p> <p>A husband has had a struggle with porn before he married his wife, and it has continued into their marriage as well. He's tried several times to kick it, unsuccessfully. Should he tell his wife about his struggle?</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>A wife emails us about how her husband is very curious and wants to explore more about the swinging lifestyle. This breaks her heart ... and scares her.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/should-i-tell-my-wife-feedback-wednesday/">Should I Tell My Wife? | Feedback Wednesday #610</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>There are many times in life where we may wonder what's the meaning or story behind the things in our lives. What if there is something else going on?</p> <p>Christopher West joins me today as we discuss how our desires and our bodies tell a story. Specifically, they tell God's story.</p> <p>Learn more about Christopher here -<br /> https://tobinstitute.org/<br /> https://askchristopherwest.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Christopher dives into how the writings of Pope John Paul II shaped his learning and path with this message. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Passionately Married Academy: Pick you level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/our-bodies-tell-gods-story-christopher-west/">Our Bodies Tell God’s Story | Christopher West #609</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Juliana Hauser joins me as we dive into her work on the concept of agency.</p> <p>So what is agency? It's the ability to stand on your own two feet. To make decisions in life and face the consequences of them either way.</p> <p>To learn more about Dr Juliana check out her site - https://dr-juliana.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Dr Juliana and I continue to explore her work and the research surrounding her mission and message.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code SMR at https://www.honeylove.com/smr #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-importance-of-agency-dr-juliana-hauser/">The Importance of Agency | Dr Juliana Hauser #608</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today I am joined by Dr Alexandra Stockwell, AKA the Intimacy Doctor, and we discuss the common passion killers in marriage and long term relationships.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Stockwell on her site - https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We dive deeper into the idea of an uncompromising marriage. What exactly does that mean and how does it help?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/passion-killers-dr-alexandra-stockwell/">Passion Killers | Dr Alexandra Stockwell #607</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we are joined by Dr Emily Nagoski as we discuss how sex works in the brain.</p> <p>During the pandemic she rewrote her best selling book, Come As You Are.</p> <p>What lead to this decision? What exactly did she update?</p> <p>What has changed in the science over the years since she first published the book?</p> <p>To listen to the other episode with Dr Nagoski you can find it here - Responsive Desire #606</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Passionately Married Academy: Pick you level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/how-sex-works-in-our-brain-dr-emily-nagoski/">How Sex Works In Our Brain | Dr Emily Nagoski #606</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Welcome to the new digs ... Passionately Married.</p> <p>Today we discuss a great cake recipe .... as in a recipe for creating a great life and marriage.</p> <p>What are the ingredients that make up a great cake of life and marriage?</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>For the past 6 years we've used the 3 words model of setting the course for a new year. Rather than New Year's resolutions, we have 3 words that help chart our goals and paths.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/a-great-cake-recipe/">A Great Cake Recipe #605</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The whole show we are talking about trust and hurt ... and how there is a tremendous difference in handling these two aspects of betrayal, lies, and broken promises.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/trust-vs-hurt-revisited/">Trust vs Hurt Revisited #604</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we pull a show from the vault and listen again to Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life.</p> <p>To earn more about Dr Kelly visit her site - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/</p> <p>On the Extended Version ...</p> <p>Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain!</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/smr and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/you-are-not-broken-revisited-dr-kelly-casperson/">You Are Not Broken Revisited | Dr Kelly Casperson #603</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined by Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner, pioneers in the world of Christian sex educating, coaching, teaching and help. Join us as we talk about how things have changed over the decades of their work.</p> <p>Learn more about the Penners here https://passionatecommitment.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We've talked about some changes that are coming to SMR, today hear about what exactly is happening.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/how-things-have-changed-clifford-and-joyce-penner/">How Things Have Changed | Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner #602</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we go into the vault.</p> <p>A caller wants to know if you have to believe you're sexy in order to actually be sexy.</p> <p>Another caller wants to know how to connect better with his wife, when up to now it's been difficult due to her being the lower desire for connection and sex.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>What are the ways we could ruin sex this Holiday Season? We've got a list.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off at https://trueclassictees.com/smr</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sexy-and-connecting-revisited/">Being Sexy and Connecting Revisited #601</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>Thank you to all our listeners for being part of our journey to 600 EPISODES!!!!!!!</p> <p>A 50 something husband emails wanting to know how to address the lack of intimate connection in his marriage. Is it too late for them due to their age?</p> <p>A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation and hides it from his wife ... who knows he enjoys it and had forbid him the act.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An academy member shared his journey on the platform about the desire differences between he and his wife. They are making progress together and growing, but in a recent post he seems to get in the way of his wife and her need to confront herself.</p> <p>Let's face it, we all can do this. So why do we do this and how can we do things better in the future?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/getting-in-our-spouses-way/">Getting In Our Spouse’s Way | Feedback Wednesday #600</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An episode from the vault - and everyone gets the full show today.</p> <p>I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex.</p> <p>Our conversations last week were all about the scripts we have in our sex lives. That's what Dr Kerner's book is all about.</p> <p>To learn more about Ian visit his site - https://www.iankerner.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is also brought to you by Better Help - online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/your-sex-scripts-revisited-dr-ian-kerner/">Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>A husband shares his thoughts to the guy who was thinking of giving up ex in the hopes of a relationship reboot.</p> <p>A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation before becoming a Christian, now thinks it may be shameful. And after bringing it up to his wife, she wants nothing to do with it.</p> <p>A wife can orgasm during foreplay but once intercourse begins, what can she do?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A husband and wife had a therapist suggest they should schedule sex, which she immediately set up several appointments with her husband. He kept only one of the appointments.</p> <p>To top it off, she largely has to do most of the work for her enjoyment during the times they have sex together. Is he abusive or neglectful?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sex-scripts-in-marriage-feedback-wednesday/">Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Sean McDowell joins me to talk through the impacts and influence of the purity culture on marriages and young people today.</p> <p>What messages about love and sex did you receive growing up? Or still hear today?</p> <p>And how do these impact our lives and marriages now?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr McDowell here - https://seanmcdowell.org/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com</p> <p>Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/love-and-the-purity-culture-dr-sean-mcdowell/">Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. </p> <p>Everyone wants to feel like they're normal, or at least not abnormal. </p> <p>So, what are some characteristics of normal when it comes to sex?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Every person has some conditions that are necessary in order for them to enjoy sex. What are yours?</p> <p>We go through some of the most common ones today.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/smr and get on your way to being your best self.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/normal-sex/">Normal Sex #596</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress.</p> <p>We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing different kinds of struggles in married life.</p> <p>It's not a question of if your marriage experiences struggles but when.</p> <p>To learn more about Gary Thomas check out his site https://garythomas.com/</p> <p>And read more from him here - https://garythomas.substack.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Gary and I talk through the concept of the addiction model and how can we help God's people be more real and honest with each other.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/make-marriage-a-fortress-gary-thomas/">Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR.</p> <p>Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex.</p> <p>Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong?</p> <p>Could it be that what we think makes sex good - isn't actually a good qualifier to use?</p> <p>To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he's made before about how better communication can ruin sex.</p> <p>But I thought we were supposed to learn how to communicate better? Nope.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/doing-sex-wrong-dr-stephen-snyder/">Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. </p> <p>An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault.</p> <p>A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both.</p> <p>On the Xtended version ...</p> <p>Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don't want to participate in or follow through with?</p> <p>How do you do this in your life? Let us know. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/delay-tactics-revisited/">Delay Tactics Revisited #593</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. </p> <p>Touch means lots of things - but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. </p> <p>Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-importance-of-touch-dr-chelom-leavitt/">The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.</p> <p>What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?</p> <p>How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?</p> <p>In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch's Four Points of Balance.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/principles-of-passion-and-desire/">Principles of Passion and Desire #591</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.</p> <p>Let's face it, every woman will face these stages in life - what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/perimenopause-dr-kelly-casperson/">Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/fantasies-dr-justin-lehmiller/">Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.</p> <p>Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sexual-shame-and-brokenness/">Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen.</p> <p>How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness?</p> <p>What is so terrible about men who are passive?</p> <p>What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships?</p> <p>Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com </p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-men-we-need-brant-hansen/">The Men We Need | Brant Hansen #587</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails.</p> <p>A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference?</p> <p>A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her.</p> <p>A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby and came home with a different body. At least that's what her husband says.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We've talked a lot about how we get in our own way when you're the higher desire spouse for sex. Could this also be true when you're the higher desire spouse for emotional intimacy?</p> <p>A husband has lost his erection several times and now is struggling while his wife is pregnant. She takes it personally - and so does he. What can they do?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com.</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/different-body-after-baby/">Came Home After Baby With A Different Body | Feedback Wednesday #586</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well?</p> <p>What if it wasn't sexual intercourse every day ... but was simply being sexual every day? Does that change anything in your mind?</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>A message from a member who is wanting to get the passion back in his marriage after 20 years. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sex-everyday/">Sex Every Day #585</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we're not meaning kind in this episode.</p> <p>What is the Nice Guy?</p> <p>How do you recognize and confront covert contracts?</p> <p>To learn more from Robert -check out his site https://www.drglover.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An extended conversation with Dr Glover about the importance of showing up in your relationships, and setting a good tone.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Also listen to his other episodes on SMR:</p> <p>#326 Positive Emotional Tension<br /> #425 Testing Solidness<br /> #558 Roommates Not Lovers</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/nice-guys-revisited/">Nice Guys Revisited | Dr Robert Glover #584</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Everyone gets the full show today …</p> <p>A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex. </p> <p>Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? </p> <p>To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast - check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/</p> <p>Also listen to her other episodes on SMR:</p> <p>#437 The Lower Desire Wife<br /> #463 Sex For Emotional Attachment<br /> #544 Resentment</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Magic Mind: Get 20% off a one-time purchase or 40% a subscription with our code SMR20 at https://magicmind.co/smr</p> <p>Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/obligation-sex/">Obligation Sex | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #583</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>What does trust mean?</p> <p>Is it a simple concept or a complicated one?</p> <p>What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness?</p> <p>That's our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when it comes to confidence and the preconceived roles each gender plays in marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/trustworthiness/">Trustworthiness #582</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing.</p> <p>How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple?</p> <p>Learn more about Faithful Fling here -<br /> https://www.faithfulfling.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more personal - as well as exploring some of the pitfalls that may be associated with fantasy and role playing.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/role-play/">Role Playing #581</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>