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<p>Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives.</p> <p>He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others.</p> <p>Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Dr. John Deloney's journey into therapy and coaching was inspired by his father's work as a homicide detective and hostage negotiator.<br /> Anxiety is a smoke signal that something is amiss in our lives, and it is important to face our discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change.<br /> Belief in something bigger than ourselves is crucial for managing anxiety and finding peace and clarity.<br /> It is important to drive our own lives and take responsibility for our own actions, rather than trying to control others.<br /> Self-awareness and recognizing our own part in relationships is essential for personal growth and healthy connections.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>OneSKin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co <br /> #oneskinpod</p> <p>Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/anxiety-as-a-smoke-signal-dr-john-delony/">Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #680</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.</p> <p>They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and growth in the context of a relationship.</p> <p>There is a challenge in navigating sexuality and an importance in creating a safe space for open and honest communication. Overall, our conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency and the potential for growth and healing in our relationships.</p> <p>Learn more about the Therapy Brothers here - https://therapybros.com</p> <p>And https://lovestrong.com</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Addressing the underlying issues is crucial when dealing with betrayal, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.<br /> Honesty, accountability, and transparency are essential for rebuilding trust and creating a healthy relationship.<br /> Individual healing and growth are necessary for both partners to move forward and create a stronger connection.<br /> Navigating sexuality after betrayal can be challenging, but creating a safe space for open communication is key.<br /> Personal agency and taking responsibility for one's own healing are powerful catalysts for change in relationships.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, we get personal as we talk through our own journeys with betrayal and healing. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor Meals: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off your 1st month and 20% off the next month when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/discovery-of-a-spouses-betrayal-tyler-and-brannon-patrick/">Discovery Of A Spouse’s Betrayal | Tyler and Brannon Patrick #679</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships.</p> <p>We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it.</p> <p>It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests.</p> <p>Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessicahiggins.com/</p> <p>Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/</p> <p>Get the free guide here - https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Criticism in relationships can be damaging and erode the bond between partners.<br /> Slowing down and getting curious can help address criticism and reveal underlying needs and requests.<br /> Both partners need to take responsibility for their own reactions and work towards open communication and vulnerability.<br /> Addressing criticism requires a balance between being considerate of the other person's feelings and maintaining a sense of self.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, we also discuss the role of defensiveness and the need for both partners to take responsibility for their own reactions. The main takeaway from our conversation -- the importance of open communication and vulnerability in creating a healthy and connected relationship.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/turn-criticism-into-connection-dr-jessica-higgins/">Turn Criticism Into Connection | Dr Jessica Higgins #678</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality.</p> <p>We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a good lover?</p> <p>And what's the role of presence and initiation in igniting sexual attraction?</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Flexibility is crucial in marriage as it allows couples to face and adjust to the realities of life.<br /> Love languages are important for connection and relationship maintenance, but they may not always lead to sexual desire.<br /> Being a good companion is different from being a good lover, and both aspects are important in a relationship.<br /> Creating an environment that fosters intimacy and desire requires self-awareness, presence, and initiation.<br /> Vacations can ignite passion and desire due to the change in scenery, routine, and relaxation, but it's important to understand and replicate the factors that contribute to the spark at home.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>What make vulnerability in marriage so difficult?</p> <p>Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? I think yes.</p> <p>Let's explore more.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>OneSKin:Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co <br /> #oneskinpod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/love-languages-and-sexual-attraction/">Love Languages and Sexual Attraction #677</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety.</p> <p>He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework.</p> <p>We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship.</p> <p>Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>GS Youngblood's blueprint for masculinity in relationships consists of three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety.<br /> The blueprint emphasizes simplicity, relationality, and applicability in order to be easily understood and implemented by men.<br /> The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions.<br /> The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to oneself and one's partner.<br /> The third element, create safety, focuses on emotional safety, trust-building, emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity.<br /> Embodying the qualities of the masculine blueprint can help men feel more grounded, confident, and connected in their relationships.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, we dive deeper into the 3 aspects of the blueprint. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to both oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, involves emotional safety and trust-building.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-masculine-in-relationship-gs-youngblood/">The Masculine In Relationship | GS Youngblood #676</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections.</p> <p>We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and expectations on sexual relationships and the need for open and honest communication about desires and boundaries.</p> <p>In our conversation, we discuss the importance of emotional connection and collaboration in a marriage. Emily shares her personal experiences and how she learned to rely on her partner for support. She also explains the concept of the emotional floor plan and how different emotional states can affect sexual intimacy.</p> <p>The conversation highlights the need for intentional effort and communication in building a strong sexual connection.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Long-term sexual connections are built on pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability.<br /> Normal sex is defined as an experience where everyone involved is glad to be there, free to leave with no unwanted consequences, and turns towards what's happening with kindness, compassion, and curiosity.<br /> Societal myths and expectations about sex can create pressure and feelings of inadequacy in relationships.<br /> Open and honest communication about desires and boundaries is crucial for maintaining a strong sexual connection.<br /> Sexual experiences can vary greatly among individuals and change over time, and that is normal. Building a strong sexual connection requires emotional connection and collaboration in a marriage.<br /> Learning to rely on your partner for support is transformative and allows for a deeper level of intimacy.<br /> Understanding the emotional floor plan can help navigate different emotional states and their impact on sexual intimacy.<br /> Accepting help and support from your partner is challenging but necessary for a healthy relationship.<br /> Adventurous sex is not just about trying new things, but also about open communication and expressing your needs and desires.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co <br /> #oneskinpod</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/come-together-dr-emily-nagoski/">Come Together | Dr Emily Nagoski #675</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. </p> <p>There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make.</p> <p>We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating. </p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship<br /> Update your map of each other as you grow and change<br /> Avoid common mistakes in initiation, such as getting annoyed or using covert methods<br /> Focus on connection rather than just sexual fulfillment<br /> Communicate with your spouse about your initiation patterns and desires<br /> Take action to improve your initiation patterns and foster a deeper connection</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult?</p> <p>Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both?</p> <p>Let's explore more.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>SMR Getaway: Getaway with your spouse this June 13-15. https://smr.fm/getaway</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/initiation-mistakes-married-people-make/">Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism.</p> <p>We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to minimalism and the importance of the master bedroom as a sanctuary.</p> <p>Joshua also emphasizes the need for love, patience, and humility when approaching minimalism as a couple. </p> <p>Learn more about Joshua here https://www.becomingminimalist.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Minimalism can positively impact various aspects of life, including relationships, finances, and overall well-being.<br /> Approaching minimalism with love, patience, and humility is essential when dealing with a spouse's resistance.<br /> The master bedroom can serve as a sanctuary for rest and intimacy, and decluttering this space can enhance its purpose.<br /> Protecting the master bedroom from tension and negative conversations can contribute to a more peaceful and meaningful environment.<br /> Minimalism involves harnessing what matters most and removing distractions to focus on one's values and priorities.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, Pam and I talk about our journey with the minimalist mindset and how it has played out in our life and marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co <br /> #oneskinpod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/minimalism-and-marriage-joshua-becker/">Minimalism and Marriage | Joshua Becker #673</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable.</p> <p>It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out for a while.</p> <p>It is also important to expand and challenge the script of traditional date nights.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Date nights are important for maintaining a strong marriage.<br /> Having sex before a date night can relieve pressure and create a deeper connection.<br /> Practical ideas for incorporating sex into date nights include getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out.<br /> Expanding and challenging the script of traditional date nights can make them more enjoyable and fulfilling.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>The world of self-help and self-improvement at times only works on one aspect of the equation. </p> <p>There is also self-healing that is just as important. The areas where you work on your shadow self.</p> <p>We explore both today. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/have-sex-first-on-date-night/">Have Sex First on Date Night #672</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality.</p> <p>We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about sex shape our experiences. He highlights the need for individuals to have a sense of agency and the ability to shape their own sexual experiences.</p> <p>We also address common conceptions people have about sex, such as the belief that it should be a continuous, seamless connection, and the exceptionalism around sexuality. He encourages a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality, where not every sexual encounter needs to be transcendent or perfect.</p> <p>We also talk about how foreplay is about getting mentally and emotionally tuned into the sexual experience. It's important to leave behind the cares of the day and focus on the connection with your partner.</p> <p>Plus, as we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure. </p> <p>Learn more about Dr Klein here - https://www.martyklein.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Sex is not just a behavior, but an idea that shapes our experiences.<br /> It is important to challenge and examine our ideas about sexuality.<br /> Having a sense of agency and the ability to shape our own sexual experiences is crucial.<br /> Not every sexual encounter needs to be perfect or transcendent; a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality is needed. Foreplay is about mentally and emotionally preparing for sex.<br /> Planning and scheduling sex can be beneficial for busy adults.<br /> As we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure.<br /> Knowing what you want in sex is just as important as knowing what you don't want.<br /> Sexuality is a local experience, not an express one.<br /> Communication, experimentation, and understanding your own desires are key in a satisfying sexual experience.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co <br /> #oneskinpod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-idea-of-sex-dr-marty-klein/">The Idea Of Sex | Dr Marty Klein #671</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships.</p> <p>Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. </p> <p>The conversation provides practical steps for moving forward and overcoming jealousy, including identifying and changing insecure habits. We also discuss the difference between fear and intuition.</p> <p>Learn more about Shanenn here https://www.topselfpodcast.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Jealousy is a common emotion that can be rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth.<br /> Overcoming jealousy requires self-awareness and a willingness to change insecure habits.<br /> Differentiating between fear and intuition is crucial in addressing jealousy.<br /> Open communication and trust are essential for building healthy relationships.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, Pam and I discuss how the topic of jealousy and insecurity has played out in our life, as well as what can be done about it. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/jealousy-and-insecurity-shanenn-bryant/">Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations.</p> <p>Then we move into the main focus of the episode -- an email from a husband who feels that his wife wants to be wanted but doesn't want to want.</p> <p>There are complexities of desire discrepancy and sexual frustration in every marriage. So waht do we do with them?</p> <p>We also touch on the vulnerability and shame associated with discussing sexuality and the deeper parts of our lives.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Marriage is simple but difficult, and it requires honest conversations and a willingness to face challenges.<br /> Desire discrepancy and sexual frustration can be common issues in marriage, and it's important to have open and honest communication about these topics.<br /> Vulnerability and shame can play a role in the dynamics of marriage, and it's important to create a safe space for discussing sensitive topics.<br /> Resilience and overcoming resentment in marriage require facing negative thoughts and feelings, addressing traumas, and implementing boundaries.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>There are 2 common attitudes people approach marriage and relationships with - an attitude of entitlement or an attitude of exposure.</p> <p>We explore them and how they play out in life today.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>SMR Getaway: Join us June 13-15, 2024 in the DFW area for a fantastic getaway. https://smr.fm/getaway</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/want-to-be-wanted-but-dont-want-to-want/">Want To Be Wanted But Don’t Want To Want #669</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance.</p> <p>We explore the impact of scripts, narratives, and parts in our lives and the need to integrate different aspects of ourselves. Our conversation also dives into the balance between love and boundaries in relationships and the power of acceptance and forgiveness.</p> <p>We wrap up by discussing the importance of taking personal responsibility for our happiness and finding a balance between meeting external expectations and honoring our true selves.</p> <p>Learn more about Tripp here - https://www.tripplanier.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Self-reflection and understanding are key to personal growth and overcoming resistance.<br /> Integrating different aspects of ourselves leads to wholeness and a deeper sense of self.<br /> Balancing love and boundaries in relationships is essential for maintaining an open heart.<br /> Acceptance and forgiveness, both of self and others, are powerful tools for healing and growth.<br /> Taking personal responsibility for our happiness allows us to create fulfilling relationships and lives.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/procrastination-and-resistance-tripp-lanier/">Procrastination and Resistance | Tripp Lanier #668</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples.</p> <p>We have a great conversation about the transition from normal married life to intimacy, the importance of creating margin, and the different desire levels in a relationship.</p> <p>We also explore the role of initiation and rejection in sexual activity, as well as the significance of character and emotional intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, playfulness, and understanding each other's desires and boundaries.</p> <p>Learn more about Decoding Couples here - https://www.decodingcouples.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Transitioning to intimacy requires communication and understanding of each other's desires and boundaries.<br /> Creating margin between different roles and responsibilities is crucial for a healthy sex life.<br /> Initiation and rejection play a significant role in sexual activity, and it is important to navigate these dynamics with empathy and understanding.<br /> Building emotional intimacy and connection is essential for a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In the XTD content, we discuss the importance of initiation and communication in relationships.</p> <p>We each explore how initiation plays out in our own marriages and the challenges we face. We also discuss the power of intimacy school and the importance of understanding the difference between sex and sex with a partner.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>Babbel: Get 55% off a subscription at https://babbel.com/SMR</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/initiating-intimacy/">Initiating Intimacy | Rachel Facio and Stacey Sherrell #667</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr David Schnarch), which refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage.</p> <p>We explore various examples of normal marital sadism, such as poking fun at and embarrassing a spouse, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of your spouse, and manipulating them to establish compliance or gain dominance.</p> <p>Our conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing our own capacity for cruelty and the need to address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Normal marital sadism refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage.</p> <p>Examples of normal marital sadism include humiliating and demeaning others, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of others, and manipulating others to establish compliance or gain dominance.</p> <p>It is important to recognize our own capacity for cruelty and address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage.</p> <p>Denying the existence of normal marital sadism can lead to its prevalence and negative consequences in a relationship.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>What do we do about normal marital sadism? How do I address it? Get rid of it? Or, at the very least limit it's presence in my marriage?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/normal-marital-sadism/">Normal Marital Sadism #666</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the misconceptions and expectations that couples often bring into therapy, as well as the triggers and defensive mechanisms that can lead to negative cycles.</p> <p>We also discuss the importance of recognizing patterns and understanding attachment styles in order to create healthier relationships. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the need for communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges in order to cultivate a satisfying and fulfilling sexual connection.</p> <p>Learn more about Laurie here - https://www.foreplayrst.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Misconceptions and expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration in relationships.<br /> Triggers and defensive mechanisms can create negative cycles in relationships.<br /> Understanding attachment styles can help couples navigate challenges and create healthier relationships.<br /> Communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges are essential for cultivating a satisfying sexual connection.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>In this XTD conversation, we provide an example of a couple's interaction and explore the emotional and physical reactions that can arise. We emphasize the importance of creating space for communication and understanding each other's needs. By expressing vulnerability and making plans, couples can overcome the negative cycle and improve their sexual experiences.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/attachment-styles-and-cycles-dr-laurie-watson/">Attachment Styles and Cycles | Dr Laurie Watson #665</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage.</p> <p>An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not adequately addressed last week.</p> <p>We explore more how both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses, and that there is no hierarchy of pain. We also discuss the importance of regaining a sense of safety in the relationship and the need for both partners to work on themselves. </p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses in marriage.<br /> There is no hierarchy of pain in life and relationship.<br /> Regaining a sense of safety in the relationship is important, but it is not solely the responsibility of a partner.<br /> Recognizing and changing patterns is essential for personal growth and a healthier marriage.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We continue to explore the idea of sexual polarity and look at aspects of masculine and feminine energies.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Babbel: Get 50% off at https://babbel.com/SMR</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/yes-but/">Yes, But … #664</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage.</p> <p>There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of acknowledging others, the reactions to the discovery of pornography usage, motivations for lying, managing fear and shame, breaking the cycle of fear and reaction, recognizing the scripts we carry forward, and seeking professional help or self-reflection. To name a few.</p> <p>Listen to hear us explore them all.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Reactions and perceptions play a significant role in relationships.<br /> Honesty and trustworthiness are crucial in addressing the discovery of pornography usage.<br /> Fear and shame can fuel destructive reactions.<br /> Breaking the cycle of fear and reaction requires self-reflection and seeking professional help.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Sexual polarity plays a large role in the energy found between husband and wife - particularly the sexual energy.</p> <p>What is it? How do I enhance it? Listen to find out.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>2024 Passionately Married Getaway -- June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/more-destructive-his-porn-or-her-reaction/">More Destructive: His Porn Or Her Reaction? #663</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships.</p> <p>We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves. </p> <p>Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships.<br /> Scripts, formed by past experiences, shape the way we perceive ourselves and others.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Jason and I dive into the work of Dr. Schnarch and his theory of traumatic mind mapping, which examines the deeper layers of trauma and the motivations behind it.</p> <p>The conversation emphasizes the need to confront the dark side of ourselves and rewrite our narratives to chart a new course.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/get-past-your-past-jason-vanruler/">Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure.</p> <p>We also dive into the impact of how we relate to our sexuality and the importance of facing responsibility and making conscious choices.</p> <p>The overall goal? Have open and honest conversations about your sexual relationship and to take ownership of your own pleasure.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>There are natural dynamics and pressure in every marriage.<br /> How you relate to your sexuality and sex life is important.<br /> It all boils down to choice - are they consciously and freely made?<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>There are three main components that help contribute to the female orgasm.</p> <p>What are they? Listen to find out.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR</p> <p>Miracle Made Sheets: Upgrade your sleep with Miracle Made Sheets! Click the link to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF https://trymiracle.com/passion</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/who-is-responsible-for-whose-orgasm/">Who’s Responsible For Whose Orgasm? #661</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage.</p> <p>Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling away layers and developing new ones to create a more fulfilling sex life.</p> <p>So what are the practical steps for dealing with pressure and obligation, shifting responsibility, and finding your voice?</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Pressure and obligation can arise in marriage, and it's important to navigate these challenges together.<br /> Religious beliefs and family of origin can have a significant impact on sexuality and the dynamics of a marriage.<br /> Taking the time to evaluate your desires and needs is crucial for personal growth and a fulfilling sex life.<br /> Enhancing sexuality and growing together as a couple requires open communication, understanding, and a willingness to explore and adapt.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>What are the components that help create optimal sexual experiences?</p> <p>We talk through some research that found six factors and work through them and how they overlap.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Babbel: Get 55% off at https://babbel.com/SMR</p> <p>AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-truth-about-pressures-in-sex/">The Truth About Pressures In Sex #660</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships.</p> <p>John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise.</p> <p>We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships. <br /> Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being.<br /> Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts.<br /> Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics.<br /> Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/busyness-and-unhealed-trauma-john-eldredge/">Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lower desire and higher desire spouses?</p> <p>We also discuss the pressure to have sex and how it affects the dynamics of a relationship. As well as a discussion on how to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex, where both spouses are actively participating and enjoying the experience.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Mercy sex is characterized by a lack of initiation, a distaste for sex, a desire to get it over with quickly, and a lack of presence and connection during the act.<br /> The lower desire spouse may feel pressure and guilt when it comes to sex, while the higher desire spouse may accept mercy sex as a way to ease their own insecurities.<br /> Both spouses need to confront their own issues and communicate openly about their desires and boundaries in order to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex.<br /> Facing the pressure to have sex in a marriage is a normal part of committed relationships, and both partners need to accept and navigate this pressure in a healthy way.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Join us in a thought experiment. We all strive for great sex in marriage, or at least many people do. But could great sex actually be a hinderance to good sex in marriage?</p> <p>Listen to hear us explore this idea.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/mercy-sex-marriage/">Mercy Sex In Marriage #658</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In this episode, we address some of the feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it impacts each gender - and we explore the concept of facing dilemmas and making choices in relationships.</p> <p>The key here is the importance of self-validation and differentiation in personal growth. That is the best way to achieve relational growth as well.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Accept and love family members despite their flaws.<br /> Revelations about lost attraction can be devastating, but they provide an opportunity for change.<br /> Facing dilemmas in relationships requires courage and self-reflection.<br /> Self-validation and differentiation are essential for personal growth.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>At the beginning of each new year, we use a process of My 3 Words to help frame our focus in the coming year.</p> <p>Join us as Pam and I go through our words for 2024. And share yours on the https://my.smr.fm platform.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio.</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/the-search-for-intimacy/">The Search For Intimacy #657</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, the husband shared he has no desire or attraction towards his wife.</p> <p>What does she do now?</p> <p>It's important she faces the truth of the system and begins recognizing the underlying dynamics. In this process it is imperative she recognizes the importance of separating self-worth from a spouse's opinion and works to make choices that align with her personal values.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Facing the truth and recognizing the underlying issues in a marriage is essential for personal growth and relationship development.</p> <p>Separating self-worth from a spouse's opinion is crucial for maintaining a healthy sense of self.</p> <p>Choosing to stay in a marriage while not feeling stuck requires personal growth and self-reflection.</p> <p>Marriage is a people-growing machine that demands constant self-confrontation and growth.<br /> On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Questions from a recent Q&A session regarding what do you do when attraction has disappeared or never really existed in the first place?</p> <p>There is a natural ebb and flow of attraction and desire in marriage, but facing this dynamic requires a great deal of self work. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/husband-doesnt-desire-me/">My Husband Doesn’t Desire Me #656</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning into parenthood and the triggers that can lead to destructive anger. Natalie emphasizes the importance of recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way, and she dives into the SIT and PRAY method.</p> <p>We also explore the concept of anger as a covering emotion and the need for forgiveness and personal growth in healing relationships. We all as parents need to take responsibility for our actions and possibly offer empathy and compassion for our own parents' struggles.</p> <p>Learn more from Natalie here https://nataliehixson.com/</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Transitioning into parenthood can be challenging, leading to feelings of anger and anxiety.<br /> Recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.<br /> Anger can be a covering emotion, masking deeper feelings of sadness, fear, or insecurity.<br /> Forgiveness and personal growth are key to healing and breaking generational patterns.<br /> Taking responsibility for our actions and seeking support can lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships.<br /> Helping yourself is the key to helping your kids.</p> <p>Episode Chapters</p> <p>00:00 Introduction and Mission<br /> 05:32 The Challenges of Motherhood and Marriage<br /> 06:40 The Transition into Parenthood<br /> 08:23 Recognizing the Need for Change<br /> 11:42 Seeking Therapy and Personal Growth<br /> 13:13 Differentiating Destructive Anger from Normal Anger<br /> 16:29 Clarifying Emotions and Communicating Effectively<br /> 20:06 Anger as a Covering Emotion</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>The conversation goes deeper as we explore the importance of personal growth and self-improvement in the context of marriage. We can only change ourselves and our reactions, which can lead to positive changes in our relationships.</p> <p>We touch on the fact that there is often resistance to change and fear of uncertainty that can arise in relationships. But it is important that take responsibility for our own lives and actions.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/overcome-destructive-anger-natalie-hixon/">Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let's explore the concept of 'good naked' and 'bad naked' and how it can impact erotic energies.</p> <p>It is important to maintain energy and tension in your relationship. One way to do this is through the process of flirting with your spouse. How you ask?</p> <p>We go over several tips today - including being congruent with who you are, using playful teasing, complimenting each other, and showing genuine interest. We also discuss the role of body language and physical cues in flirting.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Does bad naked negatively impact the connection and energy between spouses?</p> <p>It is important to maintain tension between spouses.</p> <p>Flirting is a playful and subtle way of expressing romantic interest.</p> <p>There are several ways to flirt - but most importantly it must be genuine and authentic.</p> <p>Instigate - Escalate - Isolate</p> <p>Episode Chapters</p> <p>00:00 Welcome to the show<br /> 01:25 Topics: How to Flirt<br /> 04:30 Discussion on 'Good Naked' and 'Bad Naked'<br /> 05:32 Does 'Bad Naked' Impact Erotic Energies?<br /> 08:17 Maintaining Energy and Tension in a Relationship<br /> 09:37 How to Flirt with Your Spouse<br /> 11:42 Defining Flirting and Being Congruent<br /> 12:47 Playfulness and Teasing in Flirting<br /> 14:14 Complimenting and Genuine Interest<br /> 21:36 Body Language and Physical Cues<br /> 24:45 Instigating, Escalating, and Isolating</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>An email from an Academy member who is in a dilemma having his wife's reactions to his attraction towards her as him being gross or untrustworthy. </p> <p>We unpack how there are moves every person makes in marriage. So how do you become more aware of your moves while also making better ones in response to your spouse's moves? </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/how-do-i-flirt-with-my-spouse/">How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in a couple's sex life. We also touch on holiday etiquette and the role of sex toys as stocking stuffers. It is important to have open and honest communication in marriage and the benefits of using tools like the Our Intimate Choices worksheet can enhance both intimacy and understanding between spouses.</p> <p>Takeaways</p> <p>Be aware of your surroundings as overnight guests in someone else's home.<br /> When giving sex toys as gifts, keep the recipient's comfort level and preferences in mind.<br /> Open and honest communication is essential in a marriage, especially when it comes to discussing boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in the bedroom.<br /> The Our Intimate Choices worksheet is a great tool for couples to explore and clarify their desires and expectations in their sex life.</p> <p>Episode Chapters</p> <p>00:00 Introduction to Sexy Marriage Radio<br /> 01:27 Today's episode topics<br /> 06:40 Holiday etiquette and sex<br /> 12:19 Exploring the Our Intimate Choices worksheet<br /> 23:03 Benefits and reflections on this exercise</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Every November there is a growing number of people who participate in No-Nut November. Not sure what this is?</p> <p>They commit to go one month without masturbating/orgasming. What began as an online fad has grown quite a lot over the years.</p> <p>But what if it's actually dangerous?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SMR at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod</p> <p>Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/no-nut-november-may-be-dangerous/">No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm</p> <p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>Today we revisit a segment from the archives - A wife wants to know more how to help her husband and his struggle with pornography usage.</p> <p>A husband wants to know how to talk about sex more with his wife - who was raised by her grandfather and never taught anything about the subject, even how to talk about it.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Is sex a normal function?</p> <p>we unpack this more in the Xtended content - because how you answer this question determines how you face the struggle this act will create in life and marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/is-sex-a-normal-function/">Is Sex A Normal Function? #652</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>Everyone gets the full show ...</p> <p>We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, about how sex works in your brain.</p> <p>There is updated science, so she updated her work.</p> <p>What changed?</p> <p>Listen to find out.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Nogowski here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Honeylove: Get Up to 60% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/your-brain-on-sex-dr-emily-nagoski/">Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>I'm joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Therapist. </p> <p>We dive into the world of money and marriage and meanings. </p> <p>Learn more about Bill here - https://pacesetterplanning.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Pam and I discuss our take our takeaways from the conversation with Bill. It's all about the meanings of things - not the things.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/what-money-means-bill-nelson/">What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm</p> <p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation. </p> <p>You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here - https://connectioncodes.co/passionatelymarried </p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Pam and I discuss our take on the Connection Codes tool. Is it good for everyone? Are there things to look out for if you use it?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Honeylove: Get Up to 50% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/connection-codes-dr-glenn-and-phyllis-hill/">Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm</p> <p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>Why do people get married? Let's explore several reasons and motivations.</p> <p>Plus, what do we most often expect from our marriage and life as it pertains to others?</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Can you marry the wrong person?</p> <p>Is this even the best question to ask?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/what-if-i-married-the-wrong-person/">What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm</p> <p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>Apologies are a part of every life and relationship. But what about the times when we think we're apologizing but we're really not?</p> <p>We listen into a recent mastermind group call where the guys are talking about saying I'm sorry and addressing the hurt.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We unpack the first segment a little more, then jump into the steps towards a genuine apology and repair in relationships. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/sorry-not-sorry/">Sorry Not Sorry #647</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Everyone gets both versions again ...</p> <p>Today we revisit a conversation from the archives. I’m joined by colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here?</p> <p>Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life?</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Jennifer here – https://www.finlayson-fife.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/resentment-revisited/">Resentment Revisited #646</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm</p> <p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock </p> <p>Everyone gets both versions ...</p> <p>Is there such a thing as unconditional love and aspects in marriage or other relationships?</p> <p>What if we all have conditions?</p> <p>That's what we explore this week.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/conditionally-unconditional/">Conditionally Unconditional #645</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock </p> <p>In this week's episode Pam and I answer a listener's email about his trouble coming to terms with his spouse's past, as well as some of their present.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Is it possible that our spouse knows us better than we know ourselves?</p> <p>Yes - and we will go through all the ways we fool ourselves.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/fooling-yourself/">Fooling Yourself #644</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married.</p> <p>What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?</p> <p>How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?</p> <p>In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance.</p> <p>On the Xtended version …</p> <p>We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/creating-a-passionate-marriage/">Creating A Passionate Marriage #643</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Registration is now open for the 2024 Passionately Married Getaway - smr.fm/getaway</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>We go back in time to revisit an episode with Dr Lori Brotto.</p> <p>We to discuss how stress impacts life and sex - specifically sexual desire.</p> <p>Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website – www.debunkingdesire.com also find her on social media using this #debunkingdesire</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Lori and I talk more in depth about her research and the myths surrounding sexual desire.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/revisiting-stress-and-desire-dr-lori-brotto/">Revisiting Stress and Desire | Dr Lori Brotto #642</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>Everyone gets the full show today ...</p> <p>Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive into the world of re-storying, also could be termed restoring, our past and our lives.</p> <p>What exactly does this idea mean?</p> <p>Listen to find out.</p> <p>Learn more about Chris and his work here - https://www.restorationproject.net/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/re-storying-our-lives-chris-bruno/">Re-Storying Our Lives | Chris Bruno #641</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning signs of problems in marriage, and any relationships for that matter.</p> <p>What are the various signs to watch out for in a relationship?</p> <p>What if I see many of these in my marriage or life?</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We answer the question of what to do if some of the warning signs are visible in y life or marriage.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/marriage-warning-signs/">Marriage Warning Signs #640</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex?</p> <p>This conversation is really less about one moral compass for all and more about the impacts of whatever it is you desire and seek in your marriage and sex life.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>What are the steps towards creating a great sex life?</p> <p>We share 8 of them.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/8-steps-towards-great-sex/">8 Steps Towards Great Sex #639</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost. </p> <p>Learn more about Nellie on her site - https://www.nellieharden.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>I ask Nellie a question based on something mentioned in the regular version of the show ... Do parents really do the best they can?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PASSION at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/doing-the-best-you-can-nellie-harden/">Doing The Best You Can | Nellie Harden #638</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.</p> <p>On the Regular Version ...</p> <p>An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ago - and he and his wife haven't had sex since.</p> <p>A question about how to talk about masturbation, wet dreams and pornography with adolescents.</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Trust. We all believe it is vital to relationships. But what if it's not what we think it is?</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/trust-isnt-what-we-think/">Trust Isn’t What We Think #637</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's work focuses on the emotions that are triggered from things in our past, or fears, or worry.</p> <p>How do you actually heal from them, or make them stop happening?</p> <p>That's what we discuss. Learn more about Cedric here https://www.cedricbertelli.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>We keep the conversation about EmRes going - only turn it a little more personal.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/emotional-resolution-cedric-bertelli/">Emotional Resolution | Cedric Bertelli #636</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept.</p> <p>What exactly does this mean?</p> <p>Are we each capable of this?</p> <p>What do we do when see see this?</p> <p>And, what if it's actually better viewed as cruelty?</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Author Kate Bowler has some helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else's grief or loss or struggle.</p> <p>Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/intimacy-anorexia-or-is-it-cruelty/">Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #635</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally with a fitness-focused class that turned out to be more challenging and beneficial than he expected.</p> <p>We discuss how yoga is often overlooked by men who prefer intense workouts for building muscle, but Dean emphasizes that yoga's slow, controlled movements, body awareness, and breathing also lead to functional strength and improved mobility. He highlights that yoga not only helps address weaknesses and build muscle differently from traditional weight training but also makes the body more efficient and less prone to joint strain during other workouts.</p> <p>Learn more about Dean here - https://manflowyoga.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Dean and I switch gears a little and focus more on the sexual wellness aspect of men and how yoga can assist in our experiences in sex. You won't want to miss this conversation.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50.</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/mens-sexual-wellness-dean-pohlman/">Men’s Sexual Wellness | Dean Pohlman #634</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car growing up.</p> <p>Learn more about Ellen here - https://www.ellenychute.com/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>Ellen and I keep the conversation going, only the tables are turned and she uses my childhood as a look into how her metaphor plays out. In other words, let's get personal with my life. </p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/what-drives-you-ellen-chute/">What Drives You? | Ellen Chute #633</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire.</p> <p>They happen to us, and we choose them.</p> <p>They naturally ebb and flow.</p> <p>And how do we get them back if they are lost?</p> <p>Learn more about Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/attraction-and-desire-dr-jennifer-finlayson-fife/">Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #632</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>

<p>I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography.</p> <p>Learn more about JK here - https://elevatedrecovery.org/</p> <p>On the Xtended Version ...</p> <p>JK and I get personal and talk about our journeys as well as the concept of betrayal trauma.</p> <p>Enjoy the show!</p> <p>Sponsors ...</p> <p>HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod</p> <p>Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com</p> <p>The post <a href="https://smr.fm/podcast/high-speed-porn-jk-emezi/">High Speed Porn | JK Emezi #631</a> first appeared on <a href="https://smr.fm">Sexy Marriage Radio</a>.</p>