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Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine. Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with universal advice for the recently rejected. A woman's mother over-shares about her sexless marriage. What is a helpful daughter to do? And finally! Concrete, informed answers to the question of whether it is bad for a dog to lick your moisturized face. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And, tattoos. Hot or not? 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Dehlia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick. The Magnum has a ton more this week, so indulge. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Spanish-American war, but how does he fare when confronted with questions about naked men running through the halls? Listen to the Magnum to find out. An obese gay man finally learns about chubby chasers! A man discovers that the dream woman he's been dating has a body very altered by cosmetic surgery. It creeps him out. Can he get over it? And more. 206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag. Dan welcomes author and therapist Dr. Marty Klein to advise a woman whose dear friend has cut off all contact with females in his life because he has been diagnosed with sex addiction. What do you do when your new man's belly makes it impossible to fuck? And finally, what would you rather lose: your unibrow or your virginity? Plus a ton more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown. Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead? An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple. And so much more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre. The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests Caitlin Doughty from "Ask a Mortician," comedian Kristine Levine and musical guests the Wet Spots. This show is fantastic and you simply mustn't miss it. The Magnum version features Kristine Levine's hilarious and heartbreaking tale of working in a porn shop when one of the customers dies. Also hear a second set by the Wet Spots, and you're going to want to, because they are truly amazing. 206-201-2720 This episode is sponsored by Babeland, a women-owned sex toy retailer. Get 10% off, plus free shipping when you enter the promo code 52506 at checkout. This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. Remember children: "Mommies can kiss wherever they like." On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass. Her study shows that conservative Christians not only have a higher divorce rate, but anyone who lives near their communities have higher divorce rates too. And, hear the woes of a man who likes blow jobs just a little too much. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage2 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from Orange is the New Black. They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It's really quite something. And more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get 50% off your first order, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance? A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no? On the Magnum, Dan and his brother Billy talking about sports? Pinch us, we're dreamin'! A man in the music industry works with a rising star. But, the singer is deeply closeted. Should the man urge his client to come out for the sake of his career? And more. 206-201-2720 Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at www.stgpresents.org This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage1 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. 206-201-2720 Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US. A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality? On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Jesse Bering, author of Perv, on what percentage of people are truly kinky. Also, a new couple both enjoy swing dancing. But the man is consumed with jealousy. How can he get over it and watch his lady dance with every man in the room? And a lot more. Tickets to the Seattle Valentine's Day show with Dan and guests are at StrangerTickets.com. This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2014 at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SavageHoliday at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage1 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us? 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SavageHoliday at checkout.

In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that. But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SavageHoliday at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by SittinginaTree.co. Create a wedding website you can be proud of. Start a 10 day free trial, and for 10% off your purchase, enter the code SAVAGELOVE at checkout.

A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen. Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend being closeted. But is this specific Christmas the right time to come out to them? Speaking of secrets, a woman works at an abortion clinic. Her husband's family is ultra conservative, and anti-abortion. How long can she keep her job secret from them? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention. A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really. And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage12 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SavageHoliday at checkout.

When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear one of attendees might have used lip balm? Demi-sexuality: Is it a thing? A woman wonders if she should try to explain birth control to her inexperienced cousin, on her wedding night. Continuing on the Magnums, Dan speaks with Sophia Wallace, creator of "Cliteracy" about her art and her message. And more! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell about their new, scandalous status. And, you're going to want to gather 'round the Thanksgiving table with your entire family and listen to the tale of a woman who went a-snooping and discovered that her sister is in a sugar-baby/sugar daddy relationship. Dan chats with the PR lass at a sugar daddy website about how wholesome and innocent this arrangement must truly be. It warms the heart. 206-201-2720 This episode is sponsored by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGEBLACKFRIDAY at checkout.

Is it selfish to have a vasectomy? Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that they coach. Some of the girls are gay, and coupled. Should the girls all sleep in one big dog pile where they can be monitored, or should the couples have their own private suites? A man who blogs about his dating adventures asks if he is morally obliged to tell his dates that they may be written about. On the Magnum version, what should you tell your kids when you're going to have Thanksgiving with some family members who are in a loving triad? Speaking of triads, Dan works himself into a froth trying to figure out how to help a woman realize her fantasy of sleeping with two men. Will she succeed? Stay tuned... And more! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by Sundance Selects, presenting the wildly romantic film Blue Is the Warmest Color, now playing in theaters nationwide.

An erotic masseuse has serviced an estimated 5000 dicks, over the course of 23 years, to support her family. Now what? A gay man engaged to his boyfriend of 7 years tumbled into bed with a woman after getting drunk. His specific question for Dan is "What am I DOING?!" On the Magnum Lovecast this week, Dan chats with Daniel Bergner on foot fetishes and the shame surrounding kinks. Also, Dan works his magic on a woman whose family fears she is possessed by a lesbian demon. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage11 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Tweet your Squarespace URL to http://player.podtrac.com/rules-savage-love. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

Do bisexuals need a new label? Dan interviews Salon writer Anna Pulley on bi nomenclature. Listen in as Dan convinces a mother to leave her conservative, bigoted church because of their anti-gay views. A poly couple have brought a new lover into the fold. But there's a hitch! He's terrified of vaginas. And so much more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky! Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary! And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror. Happy Halloween, ghouls. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGFEAR at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Shoplube.com. Save 10% on Boy Butter, when you enter promo code: Stainless.

Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Go to www.SavageLovecast.com to get yours. On this week's Magnum, Dan interviews Jesse Bering, author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us." They discuss finding the right porn, spanking, "everysexuals," exhibitionism, and amputee fetishists, all while undergoing an experiment in auto-unerotic asphyxiation. Diapers not included. Also on the Magnum, a woman suspects she was filmed during sex. What legal recourse does she have? On the Micro version: An out gay man is accused of being "straight acting," even though he's comfortable with his homosexuality. But, he's attracted to straight guys. How can he meet other guys just like him, and does he have some internalized homophobia to work through? Also, Dan reveals his tried and true tips for overcoming fear of flying. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off nearly any item when you enter Savage at checkout.

Next week is your chance to get in on the full Magnum season from the very beginning. www.SavageLovecast.com A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date. Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention. On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a What You Got on masochism, and how the different genders and orientations relate to sexy, sexy stimuli in a freaky, freaky lab. (Confidential to musicians everywhere: Please send us a clever and short little jingle to play before "What You Got?" Like really short. Under 10 seconds. Send an MP3 to [email protected], won't you?) When secret Santas go off the rails. A woman who organizes her family's secret santa exchange wonders if she should have included her lesbian cousin's wife, when they got married in SECRET. Now the whole family knows, including the conservative Christian side. Ho! Ho! Ho! And a ton more. As always. 206-201-2720 This week's episode is brought to you by Tonx coffee. To give their delicious coffee a free try, go to Tonx.org/Lovecast. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off nearly any item when you enter Savage at checkout.

Season 15 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to go to www.savagelovecast.com then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?" Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom? Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGFEAR at checkout.

There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acceptance from both straight and gay folks. A bi woman who is married to a man wonders how to let the world know she's bi, when the topic doesn't come up all that often. On the Magnum show, strap on your bonnets people, it's Simon Doonan, fashion correspondent, window dresser, and generally hilarious human. (We suspect he might be a homosexual.) He and Dan dish about panties, rimming and what the tech-savvy at-risk youth are wearing this season. Also, 28 miles per hour? Really? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage10 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage9 for a 20% discount and free web domain registration. Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped? A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about his study looking at monogamish relationships among gay men. Also, a woman's boyfriend really, really, really wants to do anal sex. The hitch? He's got the world's most ginormous penis. And more. Yes, we know that "ginormous" is not a word. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend? Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads. A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify against him? On the big, ole Magnum version, Dan and porn actress, director and producer Joanna Angel, talk about the porn industry, and what they do to keep their actors safe from STIs. An unfortunate man is married to a woman who a) won't let him watch porn, b) won't let him masturbate and c) won't fuck him. Guess what Dan's advice is. Do you get boners from the strangest things? We want to hear about it. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman who's snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Shoplube.com. Save 10% on Boy Butter, when you enter promo code: Stainless.

After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now? Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services. A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support? And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman? And a lot more. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course. A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work. Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her. Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess? When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation? And more. On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town. A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown. And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party. 206-201-2720 This Episode is brought to you by IFC Midnight, presenting "Breaking the Girls." Out now, on video on demand as well as at the itunes store and all digital outlets. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink. This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun. Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on? Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story. On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot. In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony. And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time? Will the other subs in the room imprint on her like a mama duckling? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed. A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell? Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend? On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity. This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this? A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you. And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered. On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail. Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea? Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them. And a ton more... This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze. And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community. And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas dinner table. Aso much more, really. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

How soon is too soon for anal? A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation. And more. On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When your unicorn doesn't return your calls, you must let her run free. And a ton more. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to. A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity? 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

This show is for the ladies. First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant. Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her. And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting. There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in. Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-sex-having person. And a lot more. Sisterhood is powerful, you know. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video blackmail, an Australian man who won't go down (under,) yet another open relationship catastrophe and, the deliciously heart-warming tale of a woman who obligingly kicks a man in the balls. You'll feel like you were there. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate. Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank you unicorn with a kind note. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage5 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage

This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage5 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic? Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket? Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men. And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it. And, an avalanche of responses from men and women about accidental lady-buggering. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend. Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak? Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.