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How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such an imbecile? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Law Professor Alexander A. Boni-Saenz about the tricky concept of sexual advance directives. A man's mother has Alzheimers. His step-father is taking care of her, and confessed to carrying on an affair with his mother's dear friend, who also helps with her care. Should he tell his mother? Heavy, right? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A woman asks her boyfriend to tell her erotic stories when they are having sex. Is this too much to ask? He's running out of plots. A distraught woman discovers that her ex from years ago put up naked photos of her online. Is there anything she can do? On the Magnum, a long discussion about some pros and cons of pornography with sex therapist and author Dr. Marty Klein. And, hear the sad tale of an overweight beagle that nobody wants. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. This episode is also sponsored by Clone-A-Willy. Clone-A-Willy is a kit that comes with everything you need to make a vibrating, silicone replica of any penis in the comfort of your own home. Visit cloneawilly.com right now, to receive an exclusive deal for Savage Love listeners. Enter promo code: SAVAGE at checkout for 10% off your order.

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insists she take a shower every time they have sex. Is she a germophobe or... what? And, a man's girlfriend has announced that she wants to take up smoking. Nicotine. Not even weed. Why? Because her father smoked... AND, a man working on a political campaign wants to fuck his intern. Good idea? Bad idea? These campaigns can be STRESSFUL, man. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savagelove and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her husband want to take the plunge and have a three-way with a woman. But there are some logistics to work out. How do they find a girl, and do they have to get a babysitter for the night? Dan chats with Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, and co-host of the (rival) Dear Sugar podcast about sex on the Pacific Coast Trail. Hear the sad, sad story of a sad, sad dancer-girl who is in love with a man who won't dance with her, and won't fuck her either. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Ring, the app-based home security system. For a limited time, get $150 off a Ring of Security Kit" by going to www.ring.com/savage.

A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and activist Mistress Matisse about SWOP Behind Bars- a project to support incarcerated sex workers. And of course she helps answers some questions about KINKY SEX. Get your naughty ass over to SWOPBehindBars.org this instant. A woman is dating a man who makes her come like a champ. But he never reaches orgasm, like...ever. Do we have a problem here? And more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .com/savage.

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with transsexual porn star Bailey Jay about how to approach a transwoman without making her feel objectified. And so much more. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savagelove and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?" showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to say "Hi there!" the friend disappeared and blocked him. Awkward? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .com/savage.

Hey Chicago! We were in you! And we recorded the whole thing. Have a listen to our live show from last Spring at the Music Box Theatre. On the Magnum, Dan dares to argue with Heather Havrilesky (a.k.a "Ask Polly" from New York Magazine,) about the role of honesty in relationships. Also, a gay man saw someone he knows in some online porn. Should he tell the guy? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.

A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest list? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYT columnist Rob Walker, of the Workologist, about how to deal with some sexist, bigoted schmucks at the workplace. A bi woman started seeing a super-sexy bi gal. But! She only gets to sleep with her when the boyfriend is in the room watching. And he's kind of a jerk! A true dilemma, yes? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or confront him? On the Magnum, author, feminist pornographer, and sex educator Madison Young chats about making the porn you want to see. Also, Dan advises a woman who has been HIV positive from birth, on how to disclose her status, and own it without shame. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by . Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 15% off your first order. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .com/savage.

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that. On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through hard times. Thank goodness for Linda, his mother-in-law who is there to help. Except...she's always there! How can our caller carve out some Linda-free time to fuck his wife already? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage.

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A woman is in a new relationship with a wonderful man! But! His ex keeps coming around leaving love notes, Victoria's Secret receipts and otherwise marking her territory. How can the caller flush out the intrusive ex? What is the etiquette in asking out a guy at the gym to join you and your husband for a threeway? Should your husband be present for The Ask? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the creators of Tickled- a documentary about a seemingly harmless fetish, that turns strangely sinister. Also, should you go and get that vasectomy already? Dan and author/Professor of Sociology Eric Klinenberg, discuss male vasectomy hangups. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 15% off your first order. This episode is brought to you by Third Love- they make the most comfortable bras ever. Choose a bra from their website, try it for free for 30 days, If you love it, keep it and they’ll charge your card. If you don’t love it, send it back, and your card will not be charged. Start your free trial NOW at www.thirdlove.com/savage.

Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all the wrong people. So is it a good or bad idea to open their relationship? On the Magnum, Wonkette's Rebecca Schoenkopf takes some calls about the continuing rift between Bernie supporters and Hillary supporters. Also, should a woman get a harmless-but-ugly mole removed from her vagina, or learn to love it? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.

A woman with Catholic in-laws tires to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in conservative Muslim communities. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with trans activist Parker Molloy about the problematic connection the clueless make between transwomen and drag queens. And, another marriage falls apart as a man discovers his wife textin’ and sextin’ snorting blow, lying and meeting strange men in bars. Can this one be salvaged? No, it cannot. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a screeching halt? A married woman has been getting it on with her married female friend, but neither husband can handle it. Should they continue in secret? On the Magnum, It’s Emily Galati, live at our show in Madison, Wisconsin. This is some seriously funny shit, people. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Also, why do all the men in this woman’s life have a problem with her adorable, fuzzy, little teacup puppy hopping up on the bed to sniff around when they’re trying to fuck? 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .com/savage.

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discussion, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” about how your grandparents viewed dating and going steady. And finally, hear the sordid tale of man who finds himself cat-fished by his own girlfriend. Oh, the people. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/Savage. Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 15% off your first order. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage.

Please listen to Dan’s heart-rending response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Ring, the app-based home security system. For a limited time, get $50 off by going to www.ring.com/savage.

A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a veterinarian for some expert advice. Why does Dan need a vet? You’ll have to listen to find out. (Cat humping.) On the Magnum, Dan and sex blogger Ella Dawson are here to SMASH THE HERPES STIGMA once and for all. Glad that’s out of the way. Also, a woman wonders if she let her boyfriend wax her pussy, would it kill the romance a bit? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/savage, and enter the promo code savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.

Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs it openly, all the time. It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to see a single penis- not even her dear boyfriend’s. How can she get her father out of her sex-head? Man. What is going on out there? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Bazelon and Mistress Matisse about decriminalization of prostitution. And, even though gay marriage is finally legal in this country, a lesbian still finds the concept of a lesbian wedding ridiculous. Dan helps her tease her discomfort apart. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.” Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party. A 24 year-old Texan woman worries that if she breaks up with her boooorrring boyfriend she’ll be called an “old maid.” And, guess who sashays in to harsh our mellow with “science?’ It’s Doc Barak! 206-302-2064 Thanks for listening for so long, you guys. Stick with us, won’t you? This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage.

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend to DTMFA? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jillian Keenan, author of “Sex with Shakespeare” about vetting a dom, and her new book. Also, a caller wonders how to help his 96 year-old grandmother experience sexuality in her life. It’s Joan Price to the rescue! She and Dan discuss sex for the senior set. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationshipfor 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what shethinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting inher boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author ofThe Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex inthe Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year olddaughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask agirl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on thetrain. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com.They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, andif you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount andfree web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is alsosponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premiummattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deservesa great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase byvisiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo codesavage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you byMeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies.Get 20% off your first order when you go toMeUndies.com/Savage.

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock ring? How do you keep a dildo clean? What's the best restraint to start out with? Do sex toys carry emotional baggage? All these questions and more are answered for you. And additionally, on the Magnum, a man out on parole wonders when and how to tell the story of his crime. 206-302-2064 Thanks to the folks at She Bop, Babeland, Come As You Are and Womens Ware. Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out.

Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attraction- the furry community’s sex and relationship advice podcast. Meow. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at This episode is also brought to you by - the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by , the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .

Let’s just say your girlfriend gets turned on by listening to you talk to other people on the phone. Would it be so, so wrong to keep the customer service agent from Verizon on the line, just so your girlfriend can listen to you from the other room, masturbating furiously? A woman in an open marriage has started to see a woman. Her husband is fine with it. The caller is fine with it. The girlfriend is fine with it. So what’s the problem? Her friends! Her friends are NOT FINE WITH IT. Dan chats with Dr. David Frederick in a “What You Got?” about the successful strategies straight couple employ to have lasting relationships. And on the Magnum, Dan interviews the director and producer of “Give Me Sex Jesus” a documentary about the Christian Purity Movement. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns right, will you please? In a classic conundrum, a woman is attracted to her husband’s best friend. And Snapchat isn’t helping… On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with Allena Gabosch, Founding Director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She and Dan discuss strategies for making polyamorous relationships work. The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by , the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Start your FREE TRIAL today at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by , the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to . This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This episode is also brought to you by . Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. Today’s episode is also brought to you by , the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .

Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY. Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their plans for the future. These two are twin forces of nature and you should listen to the whole raucous conversation. Also, if a guy sends you a dick pic with some possible evidence of an STI, should you speak up? Or giggle demurely? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

It’s the Valentine’s Day show! We recorded this at Portland’s Revolution Hall on February 14 in front of a very live audience. With musician/force of nature Rachel Lark, comedian/force of nature Bri Pruitt and three game straight boys. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at

A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A woman’s boyfriend tells her to be quiet when they are having sex. “Shhhhhh,” he says. How can she get him to cut that shit right out, and also get a little freaky in bed? Dan welcomes Seattle journalist Eli Sanders to discuss his new book, While the City Slept. Eli stuck around in the Magnum to dole out the kind of sex advice you would expect from a couple of homos who have worked side by side for years. A Jewish man is attracted to religious Jewish women. But he is an atheist himself. How can he meet secular Jewish hotties? 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.

A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a bigger picture? We are honored to welcome Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood to help answer a plethora of medical and reproductive questions. Herpes! HPV! Birth control for transmen! We’ve got you covered. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he have to come out again as straight? On the Magnum, Dan and writer Ephi Stempler do a deep dive on companionate marriage. And a woman watches horrified as her friend gets ready to marry her lying, cheating fiancé. Should she and her friends stage an intervention? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Check it out by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A gay man wants nothing more than to watch strong men flex their muscles for him. His straight friend is willing…but would it be too weird? A woman recently got broken up with by her boyfriend. She used to pay all the bills and float him cash. How can she ask for the money he owes her? Dan chats with the absolutely fabulous Midori about learning to embrace your kinky side and play the dom, even if your spirit animal is a sub. And, a gay man has been chosen by his friend to police the behavior of a bunch of straights guys at a bachelor party. Thank god for refundable plane tickets. And many responses to “Drippygate.” 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and has burned through all of her allowance, and now has $3 to last her all month. The young man is beginning to doubt the wisdom of dating this hot mess. And…football! Mike Pesca from The Gist joins Dan to sportsplain the complicated psychology behind being a “Bengals” fan. A woman and her father’s relationship depends on this. It is very important. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Ilir Agalliu on his new HPV study. And a ton more. 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off if you order before Valentine’s Day when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.

A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent it to her girlfriend and then they broke up. Although things are friendly, should the caller make that awkward ask? Don’t you just love horses? Enough said. On the Magnum, Dan chats with porn star Bailey Jay about the pleasures and perils of sharing dirty photos and camming. Be careful out there, people. 206-302-2064 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Check it out by visiting Naturebox.com/savage

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. Todays Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.

What to do when your drunken cousin starts blabbing about all the affairs she’s having and all the cocaine she’s snorting and all the traffic accidents she’s having? A professor is in anguish because she is about to sleep with a much younger, very good looking FORMER student. A couple of her (male) colleagues think this is a bad idea. Most of them (all women) say “ Go for it.” What do you, dear listener, think she should do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto, about a woman’s numb clitoris. She feels nothing, poor thing. And, a college student wonders if it’s a good idea to chat about her schoolwork naked with a man she found on Craigslist. He would pay her. What could go wrong? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Start your FREE TRIAL today at headspace.com/savage This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage

In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t trust her. She comes home late from her bar job and he assumes she’s cheating on him. She’s never been unfaithful. How can she turn this ship around? On the Magnum, Dan gets a Second Opinion from Mallory Ortberg, Slate’s delightful, new “Dear Prudie” advice columnist. Dan throws Mallory in the deep end with a call from a woman whose 60 year-old housesitter might have riffled through her sex toy drawer, and concludes with a call from the brother of a child rapist. Welcome to the advice business, Mallory! 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman has started “living her passion” by working as a webcam girl. But she’s nervous about telling her mother about her new career. How can she break the news? A woman fulfilled a lifelong fantasy of having a super-hot threeway with two bi men. But now, she wants to escalate the situation and get with some gay men. How can she troll for homos while still respecting their boundaries? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller for a “What You Got?” about lower STI rates among the non-monogamous. Who’d a thunk it? Dan also chats with Robby Soeve from Reason.com about the hideous phenomenon of police persecuting kids who send sexts to each other. Doesn’t it just make you SO MAD? Happy New Year! 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Start your FREE TRIAL today at headspace.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to Club W.com/savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage.

A woman’s husband makes unpleasant sexual innuendos and gropes her right in front of the kids. How can she get him to stop? Are you into puke porn? OMG so am I! Anyway, a very kind hearted, GGG woman wants to help her husband to realize his fantasy of having her throw up on him. But that might not be a healthy kink in the end, right? Dan chats with Cass King of the Wetspots (creators of our fabulous “What You Got?” stinger) about their upcoming burlesque musical. Also, are men becoming more modest in the locker room? Mark Stern from Slate weighs in. On the Magnum, all hail Roberta Kaplan! She is the attorney who brought a welcome end to the despicable Defense of Marriage Act. She comes on the show to help answer a question from a lesbian who is applying for a job which only provides benefits to spouses of the “opposite gender.” Wha? Oh no you din’t. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage. Todays Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to Club W.com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out.

It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. Also, Nancy gets riled up! On the Magnum, the long-suffering Dr. Barak gently explains that no, men cannot get bacterial vaginosis, and answers a requisite question about pee. 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you will feel thankful: Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things are true for you, well then this show will offer company for your misery. It’s the Families Show! Also, the preternaturally delightful Ken Jennings, 74-time winner of Jeopordy!, for heaven’s sake, explains how he can reconcile his big, big brain with his Mormon faith. And, on the Magnum, Dan breaks some disturbing news to his big brother Billy. Listen in, won’t you? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage. Todays Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to Club W.com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out.

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pedophiles and the people started freaking. And, Dan brings on OB/GYN and writer Dr. Jen Gunter to discuss abortion and concept of a “little soul.” Do you have a family? Do you want to ask a question about them? Call us! 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also sponsored by Clone-A-Willy- everything you need to make a vibrating, silicone replica of any penis in the comfort of your own home. Enter promo code: SAVAGE at checkout for 10% off your order.