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It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal in Colorado, you see. Does pot enhance sex? Does lube infused with THC actually work? Will Dan and his weed-addled panel end the show sounding even vaguely coherent? You’ll have to listen to find out. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trapped with her unkind family. You guys are the best. Donate! To the following organizations: Ali Forney Center: www.aliforneycenter.org Lucie’s Place: www.luciesplace.org The True Colors Fund: https://truecolorsfund.org Albert Kennedy Trust: www.akt.org.uk 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to Club W.com/savage. Todays Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena Williams, a.k.a The Perverted Negress. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to Club W.com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he attended a wedding as his pal's plus-one, would that be crossing a line? A woman's new boyfriend told her he's into cuckolding. But how soon is too soon to indulge this complicated fetish? A self-professed sex addict jerks it so hard and so often that he has a raw dick with scars to show for it. But is this really sex addiction? Dr. David Ley, author of "The Myth of Sex Addiction" begs to differ. Dan chats with that hilarious, half-mulleted lesbian Cameron Esposito! They talk about shaving down there, letting go of exes and desperate, sex-starved, pregnant straight ladies. Some of their conversation is on the Micro and the whole dang thing is on the Magnum. Cuz that's how we hook you in. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by Harrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ coverage of trans issues. She and Dan discuss what she found. And finally, Christopher Frizzelle from The Stranger talks about the amazing social/sex lives of orca whales and plight of Lolita, an orca trapped in hell for the past 40 years. FREE LOLITA! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.” He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Check it out by visiting Naturebox.com/savage

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…) And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com. Also, you’ve heard what Dan thinks about the Republican field, but what does he think about the Dems? And, how would you deal with a roommate who shows up in your room wearing nothing but a lecherous smile? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by OxyBump- all natural oxygen-based relief from sore throats, colds and allergies. For 20% off, go to oxybump.com and enter code SL20.

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend? Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby. A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is? On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about his new podcast “Unorthodox,” and the Jewish-Mormon connection. Also, dating a chronic liar; super- fun or super-exhausting? 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by OxyBump- all natural oxygen-based relief from sore throats, colds and allergies. For 20% off, go to oxybump.com and enter code SL20.

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks. How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes? On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your willing sub. If, by some freak of life circumstances you haven’t yet heard Mistress Matisse, you simply must tune in, so hard does she rock. Also, If you are the godmother to your best friend’s child, and you are also a swinger, are you honor-bound to disclose this to your friend? And more. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum. Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you? A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship. On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still very much ON. A man keeps his past open relationship secret. How can he be an ambassador for open relationships without broadcasting his personal business? And more! 206- 302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle. Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom. New Number! Use it. Live it. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage equality struggle. Also, a pestering professor asks his former student to sleep with him, right after she asked him for a recommendation. How should she handle this bit of unpleasantness? And more. Call us at our new number! 206-302-2064 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This episode is also brought you by JustWorks.com. Justworks helps businesses take care of their benefits, payroll and HR. Get 15% off your first year when you sign up with code LOVECAST.

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must. Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach. 206-201-2720 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out.

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-2720 Please sign the Change.org petition to exonerate Zachery Anderson: http://chn.ge/1Jed8oG This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much? A woman was sexually abused by her mother. Is she obligated to explain this to her 16 year-old son? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with PhD neuroscientist and data scientist Matthew Baggott about the therapeutic uses of MDMA. A.k.a ecstacy,a.k.a. the LOVE DRUG. Does it have a place in your therapists office? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ran screaming. How can she help her husband to get over the loss of this friend? And more, more, more. 206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage.

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum. Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association? And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea? Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining. On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic. Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have aftershock orgasms when you pee after sex? Tell us all about it. 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 20% off your first order.

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents? A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what? On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity? Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the whistle. Also, a woman is dating a man who happily accepts blow jobs, but won’t go down on her because he only does that for “slender ladies.” And tons more. 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 20% off your first order.

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!) And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,” how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed. This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage"

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers. A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen. A woman used to cut herself when she was depressed. She's better now, but has many scars to show from her dark times. How can she warn her new lovers and get over the shame and embarrassment she feels? 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues. How should straight men act at gay pride parades? Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withhold sex. Is this a strategy, and how can he make it stop? And a ton more. 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face? A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role? On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, witness Dan vs. the mighty Cheryl Strayed from the Dear Sugar podcast in an ADVICE SLINGING CLASH OF THE TITANS. Send us your one minute or less calls! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out.

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better. On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu. When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly? On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person. And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he have to turn in his gay card? And MORE. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one. Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with Sex and Family Educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating. 206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. From now until Valentine's Day 2015, get 50% off almost any item, plus a romance kit, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along? A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so. Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC) about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historian of Sexuality Alice Dreger to talk about her brave new book, "Galileo's Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and the Search for Justice in Science." Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy. We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot. Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…) So much. Always so much. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive? A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics? How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them? On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so. A woman is horrified to discover that her boyfriend has been sending off dick pics to anyone who will look on Craigslist. Dan gently talks her off the break-up ledge. 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?! On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability. And more! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "55506" at checkout

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation? A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties. And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over? What a way to go. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't believe. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself? And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo. And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport? Both ways? 206-201-2720 This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. From now until Valentine's Day 2015, get 50% off almost any item, plus a romance kit, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one. Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will come to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know. How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend? Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for Cialis? Nancy weighs in! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he has support without outing or embarrassing him? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie. A woman is willing to be a sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders in the kitchen, well, that's not cool! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?" A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results. And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out.

Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza! Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scientific method to prove once and for all that Christmas. Isn't. Sexy. But you be the judge. Photos are at www.thestranger.com/LovecastChristmasPics 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong? When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence? In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to grapple with some serious poly drama and super-freaky, non-communicative parents. Also, all hail Evan Wolfson! He's the architect of the national gay marriage legalization campaign. He and Dan discuss the plight of a gay, married man who has to move to a state that doesn't recognize his marriage. All that…and more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" at checkout This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A bi man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a female student masturbating in class. How can he teach her the timeless lesson that wanking in pubic is more trouble than it's worth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with a researcher on the science of teen sexting. (Spoiler: Teens be horny.) And, a gay man is attracted to transmen. Where can he find them? And so much more. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it? In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn't "get" bondage. How can he find a woman who isn't interested in 50 Shades of anything? On the Magnum, Dan spars with family therapist Damon L Jacobs on the PREP controversy. And a sad tale of yet another rape at a fraternity, with a victim who didn't report it. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage12 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his "job." He's gonna have a rough holiday this year. Stay tuned. Dan welcomes Erika Moen, graphic artist and creator of "Oh Joy, Sex Toy," a must-read comic. And, Dan issues a public service announcement for all you pee drinkers out there. And so much more. 206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage