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A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush? Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500. This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Casper, a sleep brand that continues to revolutionize its line of products to create an exceptionally comfortable sleep experience, one night at a time. For a limited time, visit and save up to $225 off your order. This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life.

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea. Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life.

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the buddy asked, "So is it true you like to get peed on?" Don't you hate it when that happens? How should she spread the word among her old friend circle that in fact, this isn't to her taste? On the Magnum, look out! It's a lesbian take-over! The delightful ladies from the Lez Hang Out podcast are here to take on some lezbo questions. And, a woman wonders how to come out to her family as a stripper. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at .

Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other every few months. And when they do, hoo boy! They have sex every few hours. By the end of their time together she feels sore. Right? She wants to try pegging him so he can understand what it's like to be penetrated so frequently. He wonders if this is even analogous. Dan brings a bit of clarity to this fraught situation. And, oh my god speaking of fraught! A father asked his daughter to lie to mom about the earring in the hot tub and say it was hers, when it WASN'T. At first the daughter agreed to lie for her dad, but then wisely changed her mind. Now what? And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Evan Urquhart- a trans guy who covers LGBTQ issues about dating trans folk. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a trial month of everything you need to keep your hair - for just $5 by going to For . This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum, it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up." And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of : Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during the woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to . This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a trial month of everything you need to keep your hair - for just $5 by going to For . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, at , and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out Dr. Brotto's book . And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage.

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. John Scott, a sociology Professor from Brisbane, Australia about his work studying male escorts. And, a married woman bemoans the fact that her husband won't throw her around and take his pleasure. He won't consent to an open marriage. What's this libidinous lass to do? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast, and creators of the Sex with Sunny Megatron TV series on Showtime. Clown orgies? Check. Piss Play? Most definitely. Beet juice? Yes, beet juice. And, is it damaging to tell a newlywed couple to "have sex every day?" 206-302-2064 Thanks to Zola for supporting Savage LoveCast. Zola is reinventing the wedding registry and planning process to make the happiest moment in couples’ lives even happier. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry at Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she returns home to her husband who gets the job done. Should she tell the lover that he is inadequate when it feeds such a hot dynamic with her husband? On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Town! The wonderful Cunning Minx, host of the Poly Weekly podcast, is on to answer a couple head scratchers. How do you merge families? Get one giant house? What about kids? Also, how to do poly real, real wrong. Finally, a woman newly broken up with her boyfriend discovers that he's been looking at YouTube videos with titles like "How to win back your stubborn girlfriend." Should she cut cut him out of her life a little bit, or a lot? What do you think? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a trial month of everything you need to keep your hair - for just $5 by going to For . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, at , and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at

A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard! Call us at 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 20% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.Aaptiv.com/Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to MVMT.com/Savage

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with a couple and not inviting her. No, crying is not a solution. Sometimes you gotta reach out to a dick doc. (The more dignified word is "urologist." ) On the Magnum, Dan does just that, chatting with the good Doctor Stephen King, to answer a couple questions about curved dicks, and a mysterious clit-like growth. Hot! And, the Madonna/Whore Complex: It's not just for breeders! The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neighbor and the négligé. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500.

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check it out. And, did you know that Dan has some strong opinions about guns? The usually shy and retiring Dan Savage offers his take on the argument that "if you ban guns only criminals will have guns." This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to .

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on folks who get dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend. 206-201-2720 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing. Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,) is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn now! Erotic film director, screenwriter and producer Erika Lust is on to raise the alarm about our dystopian porny future. After a lot of seriously GGG effort, a woman has finally learned to enjoy anal sex. The problem is she comes too fast, and then wants that dick OUTTA THERE before her man can get his orgasm. Dan has some power bottom tips to share. Got real just there didn't it? 206-302-2064 ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP,com/SAVAGE This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones. And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to .

Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things up their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage. This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's yucky Trump-supportin' mama. If, by some weird fluke you have not yet donated to Planned Parenthood, you are commanded to do so immediately. Also, a woman and her husband don't quite know how to ask a couple they are friendly with if they would like to watch them have sex. It could be awkward. 206-302-2064. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage.

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, that he can't even. Should he explain his sudden absence to her? Break up cleanly? Try to make it work? On the Magnum, racial erotics ahoy! It would appear that white men want black men to fuck them. But what of the black man who just wants to get fucked? Dan enlists Marquis- a black man who knows what the hell is going on here. And Dan explains the nature of the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship to a nervous lady. Don't be nervous. Take a deep breath and call 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at .

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at http://www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE.

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a long time ago. The woman in the couple pretended it wasn't them. Was this a) wrong, b) chicken, c) sex shaming to man who noticed them, or d) all of the above. On the Magnum, Dan chats with feminist writer Vonny Leclerc on how hard men have it now that they aren't allowed to flirt with underlings. And, a woman is terribly nervous about the Prince Albert her husband wants to get. Dan offers gentle reassurance. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by STDTest.com. Visit and get tested today. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at .

The kinksters have their "aftercare"- time after a rough sexual encounter to reconnect and comfort each other. But what about after casual vanilla sex? A woman wants to instigate an aftercare revolution for all. Dan gently, patiently explains away some men's rights nonsense to a man incensed at at a fictional "double standard." On the Magnum, a woman who tends to choose abusive men wonders how she can prevent herself from making this mistake over and over again. Dan brings on Lynn Fairweather, domestic violence consultant, speaker, and author of "Stop Signs: Recognizing, Avoiding, and Escaping Abusive Relationships" to help pick this lock. A caller used to be a terrible person with terrible friends. How can she start over? It starts by calling 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will there be strings attached? Oh my god? On the Magnum, Dan chats with stand-up comedian Cameron Esposito. And, a woman had some awesome group sex at an Air BnB. The owner gave her a very public negative review. Was she sex-shamed? Should she be more discreet next time? 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

"Why won't my girlfriend go down on me?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan and Google's powerhouse Distinguished Scientist Blaise Agüera y Arcas discuss artificial intelligence, facial recognition software, privacy and other deeply creepy topics. A woman and her husband of 6 years have discovered that they share the same rare kink. But this kink is so kinky that she's being kink-shamed by her kink-phobic best friend. "WHAT IS THIS KINK?" you ask. You'll have to listen to find out. It's really quite something. 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by the Netflix original series: Easy. Easy returns for its second season this December on Netflix. Watch Easy Season 2 on Netflix starting December 1st.

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy. YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by , an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to .

It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional. Or not. Whatever. Hey did you hear? We made 's list of the top 50 podcasts "right now." So there's that. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains are the sexiest, what to do if you NEED marijuana to get off, and more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to . This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT. What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is... 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/SAVAGE to start your free trial today.

A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography and domestic violence abusers. She is a hero. On the Magnum, how can a woman stop masturbating to thoughts of her ex? Finally, a father worries that his children's idea to go as "gay rights" for Halloween might be...misguided? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first meal by going to . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years. But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game." 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at .

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at .

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semitism. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a 10% discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout.

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bondage and human trafficking. She broke up with him because she just couldn't go there all the time. But now he feels shamed. Poor baby. Dan welcomes comedian Amy Miller to talk about the inadvisability of fucking comedians. Also, hear the tale of the woman with a dark power. We shall call her The Boner Killer. She didn't ask for this. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at slash Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at .

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today.

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can the caller counsel her pal on how to improve her sex life...with her father? 206-302-2064 Thanks to RXBAR for supporting Savage LoveCast. RXBAR is a whole food protein bar with no B.S. Get 25% off your first order at and use the promo code SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman gets cold easily and likes to wear socks during sex. Her lovers tell her to take them off, because...visuals. Dan enlists science to defend this shivering lass. 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sarah Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intelligence. That's Planned Parenthood. Did you know that you can give some money to Planned Parenthood? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Society 6 -incredible art printed on phone cases, wall art, pillows, apparel and more. Go to and enter the code savagelove at checkout to receive 20% off your order. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove.

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. How can she keep him happy but also fly off-script? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club- fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today.

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter? A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed... On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and confirms the maxim: "Everything is a thing." Also, if your boyfriend calls you a monster for learning that you are into hardcore porn, (after SNOOPING ON YOUR PHONE,) can the relationship be salvaged? Should it be? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by - fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at when you use the offer code Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .

A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her girlfriend. Her girlfriend wants her to talk dirty and tell her to shut up. But our lesbian feels uncomfortable in their small apartment with thin walls. What's a GGG girl to do? On the Magnum, how much fisting is too much fisting? A University of Washington gynecologist is here to help. And, From Frumpy Father to Hot Daddy: A former Mormon has come out, lost a bunch of weight and is finally living a fulfilling life. The hitch? He can't come with other men. Not yet... 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove.