Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Expectations play a vital role in shaping marriages. In part two of my conversation with Mark and Jill Savage, we explore how four expectations in marriage can set a couple up for success. Expectations will either bring two people closer together or create a rift between them. This is why it’s important to learn to manage expectations within marriage. As a marriage coach, I've had the privilege of excavating the intricacies of marriages that, at their core, are molded by the expectations we hold. The Savages and I share personal experiences from our marriage journeys of rebuilding after infidelity. Listen and learn how understanding and realigning expectations can greatly impact and enhance your marriage. Key Takeaways:  See Conflict as a Catalyst for Growth:Conflict should be expected and embraced in a relationship.  Learn to Navigate Disappointments:Accept that disappointment is part of any partnership.  Continue Investing in Your Marriage:Just like any worthwhile endeavor, marriage requires ongoing education and investment.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download my "Ultimate Couple's Checklist": 5 Simple Steps for Building More Intimacy in Your Marriage Learn More About Mark & Jill Savage's marriage resources Love the show? Be sure to give it a 5-star rating, and I'd love to read your positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever had suspicions that your spouse was being unfaithful? A listener, triggered by her friend's trauma with infidelity, is in a dilemma. She looked through her husband's phone and didn't like what she saw. We're discussing one of the toughest challenges any marriage can face: the breach of trust when unfaithfulness comes into play in this Q&A segment.  Here's what we cover: Privacy vs. Suspicion Spotting the Red Flags: Empowering the Wounded Spouse Addressing the Infidelity Epidemic: Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Download my "Ultimate Couples Checklist" and bring that spark back into your marriage! 12 Signs Your Spouse is Having an Online Affair  Join the Conversation: I always love hearing from you! If you have your own marriage or relationship questions, send them my way here. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When trust is broken in a marriage, many couples feel like marriage restoration is impossible and all hope is lost. However, Mark and Jill Savage’s journey reveals how marriages can heal and even thrive after infidelity. In this episode, they share their incredible testimony of a renewed marriage after a period marked by betrayal, depression, a mid-life crisis, and near-divorce. Their story offers incredible insights and encouragement for anyone who feels hopeless in their marriage. Their marriage restoration story is nothing short of a miracle and an incredible testament to the restorative power of forgiveness and repentance.  This was such a great conversation that I had to break it up into two parts!  Listen to part one today and be encouraged that ANYTHING is possible to the one who believes. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  No More Perfect Podcast Learn More About Mark & Jill’s Story & Services Get Your Free Ultimate Couple’s Checklist  Thanks for listening! Please give the podcast a 5-star rating and write a review is this episode encourages you. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How do you reconnect emotionally in marriage when the feelings just aren't there? I’m answering this listener’s question on today’s episode. First, I just have to say how grateful I am for her transparency; I, too, have walked through seasons in my marriage where I felt disconnected. I’m sure many of you can relate to knowing the right actions to take but not feeling the emotions align with those actions. There were times when I simply didn’t want to do what I knew was right. Over the years, one thing I've learned is that actions often lead to feelings, not the other way around. This is called behavioral economics. Emotions are unpredictable, and they shouldn’t drive our decisions. Listen to find out how to respond to your spouse in love when you're not feeling the love.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  How Connected Are You Really? Take the Quiz and Find Out! Ep. 80 - Feelings Aren't Forever Like the show? Please leave a five-star rating and review to help others find this helpful marriage resource!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In our 300th episode, we’re discussing the popular yet often misunderstood topic of "Marriage Goals" and how to live united in marriage. Social media paints a picture-perfect image of what marriage goals should look like – those idyllic photos on a beach or atop a mountain with captions like #MarriageGoals. But today, we’re venturing beyond the Instagram facade to explore how you can truly create the marriage of your dreams – one that’s deeper, united, and undivided. The hashtag-ready pics may draw likes, but genuine marriage goals focus on unity and purpose, not perfection. You may wonder, "What are the true goals of a marriage?" I created an acronym for UNITY that will help you remember to pursue unity in embracing your marriage goals. Inspired by Ephesians 4, I am taking you on a journey to uncover the real meaning of marriage and how to reset your marriage to its intended goal. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get Your Ultimate Couple’s Checklist Here. ALSO SEE: 5 Marriage Goals for a New Year If you enjoy the show, please be sure to leave a five-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve let yourself go or lost yourself in your marriage, this will encourage you. A listener is struggling with self-image and motivation after having three kids in five years. She feels that she has let herself go and seeks advice on how to rediscover herself and get back to feeling like her old self. Listen in for encouragement, practical steps, and a simple 4-week blueprint I share to help reignite her spark and sense of self-worth. Episode Highlights: Grace and Gratitude: Giving voice to what is going right Mental Health Consideration: Could this be postpartum depression? 4-Week Blueprint to Finding Yourself Again: Including a simple morning routine, making time for self-care, prioritizing time spent with her husband, and reflecting on the four-week experience. Have a relationship or marriage question for the show? Email or send a DM on Instagram. If you like the show, please give it a 5-star rating and write a review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Entering into marriage is undoubtedly one of the most significant decisions you'll make in your life. But it comes with a cost. With the joys of the engagement season heightened by holidays like Christmas and Valentine's Day, many find themselves caught up in the excitement of wedding planning. However, while beautiful ceremonies and Instagram-worthy moments are cherished, the essence of a marriage lies in its longevity and health. This podcast episode details nine important questions to ask before you get married and emphasizes the importance of counting the cost before tying the knot, ensuring that you're prepared for a lifetime commitment, not just a memorable wedding day. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get Your FREE "7 Secrets to a Lasting Marriage" Audio Download Here. If you enjoy the show, please be sure to leave a five-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're addressing a listener's distressing experience of financial abuse within her marriage. Despite having a stable job and a good income, her husband refuses to pay household bills and indulges in personal expenditures. This has brought about financial strain and an emotional toll. Listen as we discuss the nature of financial abuse and what she can do to "fix" her situation. Key Discussion Points: Understanding Financial Abuse: I elaborate on how financial abuse is a form of control, likened to physical, emotional, verbal, and other types of abuse. Potential Solutions: Best and worst-case scenarios are discussed, including the importance of courageous conversations with her husband and engaging a financial planner or counselor for intervention. Practical Steps: I outline actionable steps for our listener to protect her financial assets if her husband doesn't change. Legal Advice: I stress the importance of understanding her legal rights in marriage and documenting all financial decisions she makes. Resources Mentioned: Episode 119: "Financial Peace in Your Marriage" with Austin Black Episode 137: "What is Financial Infidelity?" with Chad Willardson Get Your FREE Ultimate Couples Checklist: 5 Simple Steps to Build More Intimacy Got a question you'd like answered on the show? Submit your relationship questions via email or on Instagram. Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating, and I'd love for you to write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Being a peacemaker is one of the greatest qualities to have in a relationship. As the holiday season approaches, many of us are preparing to gather—whether with family, friends, or even by ourselves—and the pursuit of peace in our relationships becomes more relevant than ever. In this episode, we discuss the value of peacemaking in relationships and discuss the many differences between peacemaking and “peacefaking.” Key Topics: The Differences Between Peacemakers and Peacefakers The Importance of Starting with Reconciliation in Mind How Conflict Can Be a Tool for Growth How Listening Impacts Your Influence Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Learn About my online course: From Conflict to Connection Get your Free Conversation Starters to Bash Conflict If you enjoy the show, please be sure to leave a five-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever felt like your spouse was a shell of a person and you couldn't emotionally connect to him/her? I'm addressing a pressing concern shared by a listener and many couples - the struggle of feeling emotionally disconnected in their marriage or relationship. Many in similar situations will resonate deeply with this discussion. Episode Highlights: Create a Safe Environment: I address the importance of creating a space where couples feel safe to share their emotions. Understanding a partner’s background and upbringing can offer insight into their emotional responses. Meet Him Where He Is: Engaging in activities your spouse or partner enjoys can naturally open the door to deeper conversations and connection. Lead with Vulnerability: By sharing your own struggles and vulnerabilities, you can encourage your spouse to do the same. Affirm Small Steps: Acknowledging and affirming small instances of vulnerability can help build trust. Have a marriage-related question for the show? Send your questions here or DM on Instagram. Links and Resources: Take the "How Connected Are You Partner Quiz" Tune in next week for another episode of relationship insights and advice!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Can you guess the divorce rate of arranged marriages? The stats might shock you. As an Indian immigrant and an insightful storyteller, Sherene Joseph joins me to discuss the nuanced world of arranged marriages. We’re debunking some common myths and exploring the profound impact of family involvement on choosing spouses, providing listeners with valuable relationship advice that transcends cultural and modern marriage boundaries. Key Discussion Points: Intentional Parenting: Emphasizing how parents can be intentional about helping their children prepare for marriage. Family Dynamics: Sherene shares her personal experience with arranged marriage, the importance of understanding family dynamics, and the reality of such marriages versus common misconceptions. Love and Commitment: Is love enough for a successful marriage? Matchmaking: The episode touches on informal matchmaking practices within communities and the role of family in suggesting compatible partners. Surprise Divorce Statistics: Modern marriages are often rife with divorce. We discuss the divorce stats among arranged marriages vs other marriages. Resources Mentioned: Find Sherene's Writings Online Ep. 151 - What If Married the Wrong Person? Get Your FREE Ultimate Couple's Checklist Here! Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

One listener feels overwhelmed by marriage problems and doesn’t know where or how to start addressing them. In today’s episode, we will discuss how to identify and prioritize marriage issues more effectively. Knowing where to focus can be challenging. How do you tackle your marriage problems without feeling buried under them all? Shaun is also here to give his take and offer guidance on finding patience and purpose amidst the turmoil. Key Discussion Points: Finding Personal Purpose: the importance of recognizing one’s value beyond your career or marital status Shaun’s Perspective: developing patience with an at-risk marriage while focusing on self-improvement Prioritizing in Marriage: actionable advice on dealing with marriage problems one step at a time, including the importance of recognizing what is currently working and building upon it, while gradually addressing other areas in need of improvement. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Submit your marriage or relationship question for the show here. or send a DM on Instagram Get your FREE Ultimate Couples Checklist here. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or your preferred platform. Your feedback is invaluable! Tune in next time for more insightful discussions on rebuilding and strengthening your marriage!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We've all heard it said—marriage is hard. But what about marriage is so hard? Specifically, what is about your marriage that makes it hard work? In this episode, I’m sharing five reasons your marriage may be harder than it should be. Also, can we reframe that belief? What if instead of seeing marriage as hard work, we saw it as heart work? Key Points: Changing Your Perspective on MarriageReframe the mindset from "marriage is hard work" to "marriage is heart work." Commit to becoming more resilient and seeing challenges as growth opportunities. 5 Reasons Marriage Is HardLearn to recognize these common marriage problems: trying to change your partner, wishy-washy commitment, external influences, relying on your own strength, and focusing too much on problems. Guarding Influences On Your MarriageDiscover the importance of guarding your mind, media consumption, and the words you use about your marriage. Choose Your HardMake peace with the fact that good things are often hard. Challenges will exist in all areas of life, but “choosing your hard” will help you value what really matters. Get the full show notes at danache.com/podcast. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 288: 7 Traits to Create a More Resilient Relationship Get Your “Ultimate Couples Checklist” to Develop Greater Intimacy Interested in 1 on 1 Marriage Coaching? Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A husband is seeking advice on how to communicate to his wife that her nurturing behavior sometimes feels smothering and he needs space. They have been together since high school and married for three years. In this episode, we discuss compassionate and clear ways to communicate when you need to tell your spouse something that may be hard to hear. Key Points Discussed: Understanding the Source Smothering Behavior Identifying the Love Languages of Your Spouse Encouraging Personal Space Without Distancing Yourself The Importance of Honest Communication: What to Change and Preventing Resentment Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Download my "Ultimate Couple's Guide" to reignite the spark in your relationship. Ask your marriage & relationship questions here or on Instagram. Like the show? Give it a five-star rating and write a helpful review so others better their relationships too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We all want lives of meaning. But building your life and relationships on a solid foundation is more complex than simply desire. This topic hits home for pretty much all of us—whether you're hustling in the business world, running after little ones at home, or working a 9-to-5. We all need to pause and ask: What am I living for, really? I reflect on a time I spoke at a business leaders conference; I spoke about the need to shift our focus from simply achieving success as per worldly standards to building a life on a firm foundation. But this dilemma isn’t applicable only to entrepreneurs and pastors. All of us can be tempted to sacrifice what’s most important for what seems most important. Listen as I share three practical steps on how to build a life of meaning--a life that is built on a firm foundation that will stand the test of time and trials. Find the full show notes at danache.com/podcast. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get your free “Ultimate Couples’ Checklist” for a more connected marriage today. 7 Traits of a Resilient Relationship Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When you're best friends with both halves of a splitting couple, as listener Sherry is, things can get messy. Divorce is one of those life events that not only impacts the couple involved but also sends ripples through their connected circle of friends and family. So how do you show love and support without finding yourself stuck in the middle, or worse, causing unintended strains on your relationships and own marriage? In this episode, we dive into these questions and explore ways to maintain healthy boundaries and communications while also supporting your friends through a divorce. Here are some key takeaways from the episode: Love as Individuals Respect Proper Boundaries Model Good Communication Forge a New Way Forward Prepare for New Relationships Remember, it's essential not to let your friends' issues seep into your own marriage. Keep their struggles separate from your relationship, and focus on maintaining harmony at home. Find the full show notes at danache.com/podcast. If you have a relationship or marriage question you’d like answered on the show, email me or send a DM on Instagram.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In marriage and relationships, it’s crucial to understand how to build resilient relationships. Resilience isn’t about never facing challenges; it’s about facing them, growing through them, and becoming better because of them. Not everyone who faces hardship in relationships develops resilience; many become bitter and disillusioned. Having been married for 25 years, my husband Shaun and I have faced numerous marriage problems. From infidelity and financial crises to family losses and parenting struggles, we've endured it all. If you’ve followed our journey, you know that these challenges have fortified our resilience in profound ways. Listen as we discuss the seven character traits of building or rebuilding marriages and relationships of resilience. Find the full show notes and helpful resources in this episode at danache.com/podcast. Get Your FREE New Resource! The Ultimate Couples Checklist: 5 Simple Steps to Build More Intimacy Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Chris, a husband of three years, is seeking advice on managing his friendships while maintaining harmony in his marriage. He shares his struggle with balancing time spent with friends and his wife's apparent displeasure with it. In this episode, we discuss what to do when your spouse has trust issues, the important balance between friendships and marital commitments, and other practical advice for couples facing similar situations. Key Points Discussed: Trust Issues Healthy Friendships in Marriage Balancing Social Time Couple Friends Open Communication Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Download my free “Ultimate Couples Checklist: 5 Simple Steps to Build More Intimacy” to rekindle the spark in your marriage. Email to ask your marriage and relationship questions here or DM on Instagram. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Life is busy! Now more than ever is the time to stay connected as a couple. Shaun is back on the podcast and we’re discussing how to maintain a strong connection as a couple in the midst of busy schedules and seasons. Whether you’re juggling careers, family, life changes, or personal growth, listen as we share insights we’ve learned (and are in the process of learning) on effective communication, finding moments of quality time, and appreciating your current season of life, no matter how busy life is right now. Find the full show notes at danache.com/podcast. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: New Resource! The Ultimate Couples Checklist: 5 Simple Steps to Build More Intimacy Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I received a heartfelt email from a listener struggling with the aftermath of his wife’s affair. His words resonated with me, and I found myself reflecting on my own journey through such tumultuous times. In this episode, I share some insights, offering guidance and support for anyone walking this difficult path, including: Understanding the Aftermath The Importance of Time and Patience Avoid Triggering Media Forgiveness Goes Both Ways Turning Your Sorrow to Prayer If you or someone you know is facing similar struggles, I encourage you to reach out. You’re not alone, and as I often remind you, healing is indeed coming. Stay the course, my friends; brighter days are ahead. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Emotional affairs are entanglements that can quietly wreak havoc on marriages, so understanding and addressing them is critical for rebuilding trust and intimacy in our relationships. Too many couples allow unmet desires or longings to be fulfilled in other people and, as a result, introduce dysfunction in their marriages. Rebuilding trust after an emotional affair is possible, but first, let’s dismantle how these breaches in trust happen in the first place. We’re talking about the who, what, when, where, how, and why, and, most importantly, where to go from here if an emotional affair has rocked your marriage. Rebuilding trust after discovering an emotional affair is challenging, but it’s definitely achievable with the right steps and commitment. Here’s a roadmap to guide you: Sever Ties Completely.Be Completely Honest and Transparent. Reflect on the Open Door.Set Relationship Boundaries. Get the full show notes at https://danache.com/podcast. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Work Wife? When Infidelity Happens at Work - YouTube Take My Free Partner Quiz & Rebuild Connection in Your Relationship 6 Keys to Rebuild Trust After an Affair Like the show? Please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever felt an unexpected attraction towards someone who should be off-limits, like a friend's spouse? In today's episode, we answer a listener's dilemma about finding herself attracted to her best friend's husband—all while she's navigating a rocky marriage of her own. In this episode, I'll walk through steps on how to handle these sensitive situations without jeopardizing friendships and marriages. We'll discuss: Understanding the nature of attraction, and why it's not inherently wrong. How to identify what might be lacking in your own relationship. The importance of not idolizing or comparing and keeping things in perspective. Practical advice on how to limit interactions and keep temptations in check. The value of confiding in a trusted friend to disempower unhealthy fantasies. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Deepen your understanding of real love with the Love Is devotional. Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating and a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you a wife who feels overwhelmed and exhausted? If you're a busy woman trying to juggle multiple roles, you’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the burnout epidemic affecting many women (especially wives) today. In "Burnout of the Busy Wife," I share my personal journey and provide invaluable insights on how to detect and combat burnout effectively. Let’s unpack the differences between stress and burnout. I not only share personal experiences but also provide actionable steps to combat burnout, particularly among wives and working women. Overcome burnout in community. ⬇️ Join our Thrive Wives group coaching today! Get Your Free Speak Life Audio Here. **Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating, and I’d love it if you’d write a review! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In today’s Q&A episode, I’m addressing a relatable question from Shannon, a listener who feels that her “decent” marriage could use a change, but she doesn’t want to sound like she’s complaining to her husband. After twelve years of marriage and three kids, Shannon is eager to reignite the spark in her marriage but finds communication challenging when her husband perceives her concerns as complaints. Here’s the marriage advice I give Shannon broken into three main parts that include identifying the change she wants to see, reflecting on the change she can bring, and a new conversation starter to help her see effective communication for the change she desires in her marriage. Resources and Links Wives, join my upcoming workshop, where we’ll cover three keys to getting unstuck in marriage. Find more details and register for the Wives Workshop here. Download your free guide to enhance communication and find common ground in your relationship. Have a relationship question you’d like answered on the show? Submit your questions to danache.com/contact. Like the show? We'd love if you'd give it a 5-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If you've ever struggled to forgive, you'll find the hope and help you're looking for in one of my most inspirational episodes yet. It's time you find the will to forgive and, in the process, find yourself again. When I was healing from infidelity, I found it difficult to lay down my need to be justified and have my pain validated. Because of this, I kept myself stuck in a cycle of pain, bitterness, and unforgiveness. But when I learned how to release the pain, I realized peace and true joy were waiting for me on the other side. I've had to repeat this process in my life with different people, but the results are always the same---the way back to you, the whole, healed you, is only found on the path of forgiveness. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Take my "How Connected a Partner Are You Quiz" Wives, register for our upcoming Wives Workshop on forgiveness and more. **Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating, and I'd love it if you'd write a review! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Allison, a listener who's torn between her husband and her family of origin, wrote to ask my advice on navigating how to honor her marriage while also honoring her family, as her husband "hates" the family she grew up with. Because of past family trauma, Allison was estranged from her parents when she and her husband married. She has since reconciled with them, but her husband's not on board. Listen as I share relationship advice about how to avoid becoming a defacto mediator between the two. If you've struggled with setting boundaries with family, unforgiveness, or feeling in the middle of spouse and others, this episode is for you. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Learn more about my Thrive Wives group coaching program Have a relationship question you want me to answer on the show? Submit your question here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow, too! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Should you divulge every detail of your life to your spouse or keep certain things in the pocket? Let's talk about the importance of openness, trust, and friendship in a healthy marriage. Marriage is a beautiful journey of mutual love, trust, and companionship. However, whether we should tell our spouse everything often looms large. Are secrets always a bad thing? In this episode, you’ll hear insights and actionable tips for building a more intimate and honest relationship with your spouse. Key Takeaways: Oneness: Emphasizing the united front in marriage and the importance of sharing every part of your life with your spouse. Trust and Accountability: Being open about even the small details to build a foundation of trust and avoid potential pitfalls. Volunteering information. Friendship: Developing a deeper friendship with your spouse to enhance the quality of your marriage. Practical Tips: Being proactive in sharing information, rebuilding trust, and communicating effectively even if your marriage is standoffish. Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Learn more about Thrive Wives Group Coaching Check out my YouTube channel for video podcasts and more relationship tips **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow, too! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Dating your spouse is oh-so-important, but what if your finances are on the struggle bus? I'm sharing four budget-friendly getaway ideas you'll want to try in your marriage. All of these tips are an invitation to the adventure of consistently dating your spouse . . . for a longer time stint. No money? No problem. Listen as I share some tips on how you can utilize the people in your circle to plan creative ideas for spending time with the one you love. Want to submit a relationship question for the show? Email or DM me. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict here. Ep. 52 - Making Love Outside the Bedroom **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow, too! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever feel like your relationship is running on a treadmill? Moving, but not really getting anywhere? It’s a common concern, whether it’s in a marriage, a long-standing friendship, or a new romantic relationship. Sometimes, the stagnation can make you question the viability of your connection. But don't worry—your relationship isn’t doomed. In fact, every relationship experiences hills, valleys, peaks, and stop points. In this episode, we’ll explore five reasons your relationship is stuck. We’re also going to dive deep into actionable steps you can take to get things moving again. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Join our upcoming Thrive Wives Group Coaching Episode 126 - How to Create a Step-by-Step Vision for Your Marriage **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** And remember to rate and follow the show!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

It can be a complicated adjustment when a marriage ends in divorce. How soon is too soon to "get out there?" A listener asked if it's too soon to date after divorce and how to know when it's the right time. I share my thoughts on determining the right time and process to dating after divorce, including ensuring the marriage that ended is left in the best condition possible before beginning a new relationship. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 224 - Releasing the Weight of Relationship Baggage Submit your relationship questions here. Follow Dana Che on Instagram **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the PodcastSupport the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We’re telling the truth about lying in today’s episode. It's an oxymoron, isn’t it? For most people, lying is a behavior learned in childhood and, unfortunately, carries into adulthood. From telling white lies to avoid minor inconveniences to engaging in more elaborate fabrications to protect ourselves, lying has become an almost reflexive coping mechanism. But make no mistake; lying is a form of betrayal that sows distrust, instability, and insecurity in any relationship. But why do we lie? When we were children, lying often served as a tool to evade punishment or avoid disappointing our parents. This behavior stems from an inherent fear of repercussions and an unrefined sense of protecting ourselves. Interestingly, lying doesn’t stop there. We carry this survival tactic into adulthood, whether to protect ourselves or someone we love or to avoid conflict. We also discuss how lying destroys relationships and tips on rebuilding trust after lying. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Join Our Upcoming Thrive Wives Group Coaching! Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you have a strong-willed child that makes parenting hard at times? Today, a listener wants to know how she can get through to her strong-willed, stubborn child while keeping her love on. I can relate to this mom because all four of my children are strong-willed. My mom says they get it from their mama, but I have no idea what she's talking about. Listen in as I share some helpful encouragement, parenting advice, and resources to help you parents who feel you're on the struggle bus of parenting at times, just trying to love your kids and raise them to be the best they can be. Links Mentioned in this Episode: I Hate My Teenage Daughter YouTube Video Get your FREE Conversation Starters for When You're in Conflict Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you been around someone or do you struggle with having a critical spirit? We all need to be challenged sometimes, but criticism is rarely ever helpful. What is the difference between criticism and feedback and how can you cultivate an honest, authentic relationship that isn’t conflict-avoidant but one that values kindness even in the “critique?” This conversation will help you to reframe and readdress conflict in a more healthy, helpful way. Key Points: Intention Matters Tone and Specificity Tips for the Criticizing Individual Coping with Criticism Links Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 88 - Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships Ep. 86: It’s Not You; It’s Me (I Statements) Get Your Free Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Being misunderstood can be a frustrating reality of a disconnected relationship. When someone hears something you didn't say or doesn't properly understand what you mean, it can wreak havoc on your communication. Today's listener question comes from a woman whose boyfriend consistently misunderstands what she means, especially when in disagreement. He even thinks that to disagree is to disrespect. 👀 Listen in as I share how she can ask better questions to get to the heart of the matter. And remember, Proverbs 18:13 says, "Those who answer before they listen are foolish and disgraceful." Ouch but true. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Take My Online Course: From Conflict to Connection Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, we are uncovering gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that distorts reality and causes people to question their perceptions and memories. It’s intense, pervasive, and can wreak havoc in relationships. But fear not, because we explored the roots, manifestation, and impact of gaslighting to help you combat this toxic behavior head-on. We also debunked the common misconception that gaslighting is just a form of disagreement. It’s not. It’s a manipulative, intentional distortion of reality leading to doubt and confusion in the victim's mind. This is the essence of gaslighting, and recognizing it is the first step to overcoming it. Listen as I share four key tips to avoid or correct gaslighting in a relationship. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 266: Triangulation: Are You the Victim, Villain, or Hero in Your Relationship? Ep. 260: Love, Respect, and the Fallacy of Biblical Submission Build a Deeper Connection with my Free "How Connected Are You? Quiz Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever wonder why you seem to make the same mistakes in relationships or attract the same type of people, especially when those people aren't good for you? Today's question comes from a listener who wants to ensure she doesn't make the same mistakes in her new relationship that she did in her old ones. Listen as I share five keys with her about relinquishing the past and moving forward with a clean slate. If you've struggled with the same cycles of behaviors in relationship after relationship, this episode will remind you that you can truly begin again, unscathed, unashamed, and unhindered. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Take My Free "How Connected a Partner Are You" Quiz Here Ep. 224: Baggage Claim - Releasing the Weight of Relationship Baggage Get My "Love Is" Interactive Devotional Here **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever been told you're passive-aggressive or been in a relationship with someone who was? We're continuing our "toxic truths" series and discussing this often unspoken and confusing communication pattern. Passive-aggressive people have a hard time being direct and opt for more indirect ways of showing their disapproval, leading to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict in relationships. This episode addresses how to handle and confront passive-aggressive tendencies like nonverbal cues and silent treatments to connect and communicate better in your relationship and offers practical advice for both individuals struggling with passive aggressiveness and those dealing with it in their relationships. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Get Your Free Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict Here Ep. 87 - The Silent Treatment vs Silence Anniversary Special: Get Your FREE "Love Is" Interactive Devotional Here! Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever wonder if staying in your marriage just to please God is a good enough reason to endure? Today's question from a listener who is wondering this very thing sparked a great conversation about what are the valid reasons to separate or divorce your spouse if you're a Christian. Is staying with your spouse just because the Bible says so or you feel pressure because of your church or religious beliefs enough? Listen as we broach this very timely and important subject that every Christian marriage needs to hear. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 135 - How to Know When It's Time to Divorce Get your FREE Speak Life Audio Affirmations Here Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you heard of the concept of triangulation in relationships? In essence, triangulation involves three people: a victim, a villain, and a hero. It is a method of relating that can involve manipulation and power plays that often ensnare individuals in various types of relationships. Whether it's romantic entanglements, friendships, or a parent-child relationship, triangulation creates a triangular communication pattern between three people, leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a deep sense of disconnection. If you've ever found yourself caught in the web of triangulation, you'll resonate with the roles we explore in this episode: the victim, the hero, and the villain, and, more importantly, learn how to break free from the triangulation trap and develop. healthier relationships. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Episode 140: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage Episode 48: Setting Realistic Expectations in Marriage Get Your Free Conversation Starters Couples Here Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sexless marriages are on the rise, leaving both husband and wife frustrated, lonely, and hurt. Today's question comes from a listener who's been married for 30 years and sexless for one year. He describes in painful detail how his wife's rejection has him leaning toward divorce and how he is tempted consistently. This episode is not for the faint at heart. Listen in as I encourage this husband and anyone else who may be experiencing a sexless marriage how to overcome it and become free to enjoy the physical pleasure your marriage needs. Links Mentioned in this Episode: 76: 8 Reasons Why Women Won’t Initiate Sex (Shameless Sex Series) 27: Lopsided Libido – How to Deal with Different Sex Drives (All About Sex Series) Are You in a Sexless Marriage (YouTube) Get My FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Most Christian couples would never think of their spouse or their marriage as an idol. But chances are good that that is exactly what happens in many relationships. On this episode we define what idolatry is in our modern world and how we easily fall into it. What is idolatry in the context of marriage? What are the dangers of making marriage an idol and how do you destroy the idol without destroying the relationship? Throughout the episode, I discuss the dangers of making marriage or a spouse an idol and the potential pitfalls when God is not in the rightful place. The discussion also warns against maintaining a "transactional" relationship with God, seeking him just for needs instead of an ongoing relationship just because. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships and seek God's presence to address any idols in their lives. Links Mentioned in the Show To listen to a sermon I preached on “Idols in Disguise,” click here. Don’t forget to download your “Speak Life Audio Affirmations” here. Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever been told you don't speak up enough or you're not "assertive" enough in a relationship? Today's listener question comes from a woman whose husband wants her to not be so submissive but to stand up for what she wants in their marriage. He puts a different spin on submission, which leads her to want to know how she can start asserting herself more in her marriage. It's a great question, and I hope she finds encouragement in my answer. Do you have a relationship question you want me to answer on the podcast? Email your question to rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a DM on Instagram @mrsdanache. Freebies this Episode: Get your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict here. Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today, we’re talking about a different kind of AI: not artificial intelligence but “artificial intimacy.” Why do some people settle for inauthentic, shallow relationships instead of real ones? Drawing parallels between the impact of inauthenticity in relationships and the lack of uniqueness in AI-generated articles, I explained the irreplaceable value of genuine human connection. People choose not to embrace authenticity in their relationships for many reasons, including the fear of rejection. I share four keys to creating real, intimate relationships as we debunk the notion that artificial intimacy can ever substitute for the real, deep connections we all yearn for. Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com Links Mentioned in this Episode: Take my FREE “How Connected Are You” Quiz Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If you've ever loved someone struggling with addiction, you know how lonely and difficult a journey it can be. Today's question comes from a wife who wants to know what to do about her husband's drinking, especially since he won't admit he has a problem. I share four key points and a few resources with her in hopes of encouraging her to seek help for herself even if her husband won't seek help for his addiction. If you are in a relationship with someone who is addicted to alcohol or other substances, there is hope and healing for you. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those crushed in spirit." Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Alcoholics Anonymous Celebrate Recovery Ep. 98 - The Difference Between Nagging & Reminding Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Biblical submission has been misinterpreted and misunderstood for ages. Today, the topic can be taboo and controversial, which is why we’re going there! I want to bring a balanced viewpoint to a conversation that is worthy of another godly perspective. My husband, Shaun, is back for this episode, and we begin with a candid discussion about decision-making in marriage. How would you define the concept of mutual submission in marriage? The episode's engagement with biblical passages about wives' submission to husbands explores the literal interpretation and application of such scriptures in a modern context. It calls attention to the need for a nuanced understanding of biblical principles and their relevance in contemporary marriages. Visit rebuildinguspodcast.com for the full show notes & resources Helpful Resources to Continue the Conversation: What Does Submission in Marriage Look Like? By Rev. Dr. Toornstra Take My FREE “How Connected a Partner Are You” Quiz Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE and leave a 5-star rating and review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Submission in marriage is a controversial topic, especially among Christians. Should wives submit to their husbands in these days or is submission a thing of the past? A listener asked me this question, and I am addressing this topic on the podcast today. Scriptures such as Ephesians 5 can long be used to support women submitting to their husbands, so let's talk about it. Whether you believe that women should submit to their husbands or not, this episode is sure to be a great conversation piece. Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Take My Online Course: From Conflict to Connection - How to Communicate Without Arguing **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Do you ever find yourself triggered by the thought of not being enough? Perhaps you believe your abilities fall short, your self-worth is under attack, or your identity is somehow flawed. It's a pervasive feeling that can linger in our minds, affecting both our personal and professional lives. We’re getting into the nitty-gritty of combating those "I'm not enough" thoughts in this universal struggle and shedding light on the roots of these beliefs by providing four powerful keys to overcoming the “I’m not enough” syndrome. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Want to Learn to Communicate Without Fighting? Take My New Course - From Conflict to Connection **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Marriage counseling is a widely accepted way of receiving marriage help. However, marriage coaching is on the rise, and many couples have experienced lasting and effective results from this process. Today's podcast listener question comes from a guy who thinks his marriage is pretty good yet his wife feels they need marriage counseling. He wants to know the difference between marriage counseling and marriage coaching. Listen as I share six differences between the two and which one might benefit you the most. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Take My Online Course: From Conflict to Connection - How to Communicate Without Arguing Need Marriage Coaching? Schedule Your Free Discovery Call Today **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Prayer is fundamental to any healthy, Christian marriage, so why don't more spouses pray for their marriage? Weariness, disappointment, and apathy are all obstacles we must overcome to develop loving, resilient marriages. Today, I'm sharing five ways to pray for your marriage, using the acronym C.O.V.E.R. If you practice what you hear in today's episode, I am confident your marriage will exponentially change for the better. The key to prayer is trusting in God's timing and His ways. I still remember when I prayed for the things I have now . . . that's not only a sign in my office, it's my testimony. Enjoy this sweet repeat that originally aired in January, 2023. Linked Mentioned in this Episode: Pray These Three Prayers for Your Life & Relationships Get Your Free Audio download: Speak Life Affirmations **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's relationship question comes from a listener who wants to hear she's on the right track healing from the emotional damage of her husband's affair. In this episode, I share five key signs to know if you're on the right track from healing from any relational hurt. I liken healing emotionally to healing physically. The effects are very similar. Remember, everyone heals at a different pace, so be gracious with yourself as you courageously journey forward to healing your broken heart after it's been wounded by someone you love. Have a marriage-related or relationship question you want answered on the show? Email me or DM me today. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.