Q & A : How Do I Handle My Messy Spouse?

It's a common marriage conundrum: how to deal with a messy spouse. In this episode, a listener, Sam, has been feeling overwhelmed by her husband's messiness. Newly married, she's discovering new realities of cohabitation that many of us can relate to. If you've faced similar struggles, or are facing them now, this episode is for you.

Here’s a sneak peek into what we covered in the episode:

1. Setting Boundaries: Learn how to set personal boundaries that respect both you and your spouse. It might mean creating a new space for yourself or simply refusing to pick up after your spouse. Remember, boundaries are about what YOU will or won’t do.

2. Creating Systems: Implement a household chore chart to divide responsibilities fairly. We could all use a little structure to ensure tasks don't fall through the cracks. I offer my premarital counseling clients this resource.

3. Uncovering Hidden Causes: Explore with your spouse the root of their habitual messiness. Sometimes, clutter is a mask for deeper emotions like stress or feeling out of control. Addressing the root causes can bring about lasting change.

4. Person vs. Performance: Separate your spouse’s behavior from who they are as a person. Understanding this distinction can ease frustration and foster more compassion in your marriage.

As always, we're here to support you in rebuilding and nurturing your marriage. If you have a marriage question you want to be answered on the show, reach out via Instagram DM  or email here.

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