Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Do you constantly second-guess yourself, shrink back in relationships, or feel like you’re never quite “enough”? Insecurity has a way of creeping into every area of our lives—our marriages, careers, friendships, and even our faith. But the good news? Confidence isn’t about perfection. It’s about knowing who you are and "whose" you are. In today’s episode, I unpack the root causes of insecurity and offer practical, faith-based steps to start rebuilding your confidence from the inside out. You’ll learn how to identify the lies that fuel low self-worth and replace them with life-giving truth that aligns with your God-given identity. If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of self-doubt, this episode will help you break free—and believe again in the version of you that God designed. This episode originally aired on July 16, 2024 and is your sweet repeat for today.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: Learn to Communicate Without Fighting. Take My New Course – From Conflict to Connection  Follow Dana Che on the socials!  Instagram  Facebook  YouTube   Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

This was one of our highest-rated episodes of the Q & A series and, therefore, deserving of a "sweet repeat." Many spouses can relate to the feeling of "falling out of love" with their spouse, yet not wanting to divorce their spouse. If you have ever experienced prolonged resentment or boredom in your relationship, listen up.  Learn how to overcome feeling stuck in your marriage while working on communication. If you're struggling to find motivation to stay married or are unsure about the next steps for your marriage, this episode is for you. We discuss how resentment happens, its relationship to unforgiveness, and some practical steps to take when living in a boring marriage.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗 Ep. 88: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships 🔗 Protect or Rebuild Your Marriage from Infidelity  🔗 Want to See How Connected You Are to Your Partner? Take Our Free Quiz Follow Dana Che on the socials!  Instagram  Facebook  YouTube Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you going through something in your life and need to be reminded that you're not alone? I am so grateful to know that God sees, provides, and is always with me. In this episode, I'm helping you to discover this God, to truly know Him intimately and personally—the difference between head knowledge and heart experience. Drawing inspiration from a recent meeting with a group of women leaders I mentor, we'll explore some of the powerful names of God from scripture, illustrating how each name reveals a distinct aspect of God’s character that directly impacts our lives and marriages. Key Points & Topics: The Meaning of "Knowing God" The Power of God's Names Affirmations from the Word of God Learning Through Trials   Resource Mentioned: Get Your Free "Speak Life" Audio Affirmations Here   Video: When You Feel Unnoticed, Invisible, and Unappreciated Follow Dana Che on the socials!  Instagram  Facebook  YouTube   Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I love today's listener's question about the different travel styles she and her husband have. Our listener, Carrie, wants to know how to vacation when she and her husband have different vacation interests and travel needs. In this episode, I discuss the importance of travel as a means to reconnect and recharge, while also discussing the necessity of compromise and individual preferences during vacations. Plus, I share some personal anecdotes and practical tips for making travel enjoyable for both spouses, ultimately highlighting the value of creating lasting memories together. It's a fun and funny episode today. Enjoy!  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Here are the 7 Secrets of a Fulfilling and Lasting Marriage Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Submit your marriage questions here.  Follow Dana Che on the socials!  Instagram  Facebook  YouTube Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Does it seem like your spouse doesn’t listen to you? Maybe you find yourself wondering how to talk so they will listen and understand you. Listening skills are an essential part of communication in relationships, and one that trips many people up. Today’s episode (a sweet repeat from 2023) will teach you the right communication principles to guide you toward a better understanding and better conversations with your partner. I discuss common communication mistakes partners make when communicating and the importance of listening skills. I also offer practical and “pro” tips for better communication. We also explore how to approach sensitive topics, the importance of timing and mood, and how to influence your partner to listen to you when you communicate. It's a good one! Let's dive in.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get my FREE Communication 101 Podcast Playlist here. Check out my From Conflict to Connection Course here.   Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you considered a separation in your marriage? A listener wrote asking about the right way to do a separation. How long should it be? What are the "rules of engagement"? We're discussing reasons for separation, establishing clear rules, and knowing the realities of the situation, including the need for a timeline and the significance of having a plan for reconciliation (or not!).  Takeaways:  A separation doesn't necessarily solve the problem. Know your why before entering a separation. Establish rules of engagement prior to separation. Separation can be beneficial if done correctly. Seek professional help before deciding on separation. A plan is better than no plan at all. Resources are available to help couples reignite their marriage Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Let me show you how to create a more connected marriage: https://danache.com/ultimatecouple  Want to discuss marriage coaching? Schedule your call at https://danache.com/getstarted.    Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships. 🔎 What you’ll learn: What enabling REALLY is (and why it’s not the same as grace!) The difference between peacemaking and “peace-faking” ✌️ How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships & even parenting Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses 💪 4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!) 👉 Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Lysa TerKeurst’s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: https://amzn.to/43V94wj Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend: https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm “Peacemaking or Peacefaking?” Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: Listen here. 📝 Like this episode? 👉 PLEASE leave a 5-star review and a few sentences about how this podcast has helped you. Your reviews help more people find Rebuilding US and strengthen their marriages! 💕 Need help with your marriage? Download my FREE 7 Secrets to Know Before You Say I Do or I Did! https://danache.com/7secrets  Follow Dana Che on Instagram, Facebook, and watch these episodes on YouTube! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're addressing a listener's question about how to support a loved one experiencing domestic abuse. It's essential to understand the victim's perspective, maintain open communication, and take proactive steps to ensure safety. This episode offers practical guidance on how to approach the situation with empathy, while also encouraging the victim to seek help and report the abuse. The episode also serves as a crucial resource for anyone looking to support someone in an abusive relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing physical abuse in your relationship, call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).  To connect with Dana Che, follow on Instagram, YouTube, or Facebook.  Learn more at https://danache.com.  Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Email or send a direct message on Instagram.  Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW, and leave a five-star rating and review!    Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you gone through a season of brokenness in your life, or are you being triggered by a painful event in your past? Today's guest, Frank Meadows, is here to help shed light on triggers, the brokenhearted, and inner healing. Along with this powerful conversation, we discuss strongholds and how they manifest as addictive behavior in people's lives.  Frank Meadows is a licensed clinical social worker and marriage therapist whose books and work have been featured across multiple platforms. He joins marriage coach and the Rebuilding Us podcast host, Dana Che, for an insightful and healing conversation that will help shape the trajectory of inner healing from a faith-based perspective.  For more info on Dana Che, visit https://danache.com. Follow Dana Che on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Learn more about Frank and his books at https://frankmeadows.com.  Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating and write a helpful review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Guest host Shaun is stepping in for his wife and regular host, Dana Che, who is under the weather helping a husband to know if he and his wife should tell their kids their marriage is in trouble and that they're considering a possible separation. Shaun delivers Dana’s thoughtful response, providing practical advice on how parents can approach difficult conversations with their children and emphasizing the value of seeking coaching before making any permanent decisions about separation. Key Topics Covered: Only discuss separation with children when a decision and plan are definite, to avoid creating insecurity. Since the kids are already aware of tension, address the arguments with honesty, take responsibility, and reassure them. Use this as a teaching opportunity: model healthy ownership of mistakes, and avoid putting adult worries onto children. Strongly consider seeking marital coaching before proceeding to separation. Resources Mentioned: Start those hard conversations with Dana Che's Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict.  Need Marriage Coaching? Schedule Your Discovery Call today. Notable Quotes: “First, it's important that you and your wife take responsibility for the role you're playing in the communication breakdown.” “Don't jump into a separation before you've done all you can to reset your marriage.” Connect with Us: Send your questions: danache.com/contact Follow Dana Che:  on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube Like the show? Please share, rate, and review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's guest, Tweeny Randall, helps to shed light on the concept of soul ties. Maybe you’ve felt ‘stuck’ after a past relationship, or perhaps you’re curious how soul ties form—even outside of a romantic relationship. Tweeny and I share experience and research on how soul ties affect us in relationships.  Episode Highlights What is a Soul Tie?Tweeny breaks it down simply: Soul ties are spiritual connections between people, formed not just through romantic or sexual relationships, but even in deep friendships or parent-child bonds. There are healthy soul ties, and there are unhealthy ones that can hold us back. Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns:Unhealthy soul ties often look like idolatry or dysfunction—when someone’s mood or approval dictates your happiness, or when a past relationship leaves you unable to move forward. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I get over this person?”—this might be why. Freedom Through Forgiveness & Spiritual Release:Tweeny shares her real-life process helping a young woman break free from an unhealthy connection. Practical Tips for Your Marriage:Even strong couples need boundaries. Tweeny suggests radical honesty—especially when attractions or resentments pop up. Keep secrets out of your relationship and invite accountability. Prayer for Breaking Soul Ties:For those ready to be free, Tweeny leads a powerful prayer (also available on her blog!) to help you sever unhealthy spiritual connections and restore your joy in Christ. Resources & Next Steps Tweeny’s Blog & Website Ep. 264 - Is Your Marriage an Idol? For Non-Married Couples or Premarital Counseling:Make breaking unhealthy soul ties part of your marriage prep—you’ll be amazed at the peace it brings. Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you let yourself go or perhaps lost yourself in your marriage? Today's episode will help you find yourself again. A listener struggles with finding the motivation to find herself again, having let herself go, and seeks advice on how to rediscover who she is in her marriage. This episode originally aired in Dec. 2024 and was one of our highest rated episodes that season. Listen in for encouragement, practical steps, and a simple 4-week blueprint I share to help you reignite your spark and your sense of self-worth in and out of your relationship. Learn more at https://danache.com.    Have a relationship or marriage question for the show?  Email or send a DM on Instagram.  If you like the show, please give it a 5-star rating and write a review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Infidelity is one of the most heart-shattering experiences anyone can endure in a marriage. It shakes the bedrock of trust and can leave spouses grappling with pain, betrayal, confusion, and fear for the future. If you’re reading this, you may be right in the middle of this storm—or you know someone who is. Take heart: your story is not over, and healing truly is possible. We’re bringing our “Healing After Infidelity” series to a close with an empowering message and a transformative resource for those walking the difficult road of recovery. In this episode, I unpack both the challenges and opportunities that arise after infidelity and introduce my comprehensive online course, “Infidelity Intensive.” Here’s what you need to know if you’re trying to rebuild after betrayal.   Learn more at danache.com/infidelityintensive.  Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever felt like you are the only one putting in the work, or maybe you're putting in a significantly more amount of work than your spouse is? That can feel very unjust. It can feel unfair, and most of us get tired of doing that. We have a question that I think all of us can probably relate to at some point: What if I'm doing more work on my marriage than my spouse? Key Takeaways: Change Your Step:Alter your approach in the relationship. When you change how you respond, your spouse will also have to adjust, breaking unhelpful cycles. Be Patient:Trust takes time to rebuild—don’t expect overnight results. Your consistency over time demonstrates commitment. Play the Long Game:Rebuilding a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. Focus on progress, not perfection. Fix Your Focus:What you focus on grows. Shift your attention from what your spouse isn’t doing to the positive changes you’re making and what you want for your marriage. Featured Resource: Infidelity Intensive—a step-by-step online course designed to move couples from pain to restoration after betrayal. Learn more at danache.com/infidelityintensive. Submit Your Questions:Have a question for Dana? Reach out here or DM on Instagram @mrsdanache. Thanks for listening!If you found today’s advice helpful, share this episode with a friend and leave a review. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Can an emotional affair be just as damaging as a physical one? Research says yes. Yet, the topic of emotional affairs is complex because of their impact on the psyche and the marriage. This episode (a sweet repeat of ep. 284) focuses on understanding, prevention, and healing, providing valuable insights for couples navigating this challenging terrain. Key Highlights: Defining Emotional Affairs: What constitutes an emotional affair? We emphasize the need to clearly distinguish between emotional and physical affairs. Recognizing the Signs: Learn to identify the indicators of an emotional affair, such as inappropriate emotional investment or intimate sharing with someone outside your marriage. Research Insights: Research suggests that women are more likely to engage in emotional affairs. And other kinds of vulnerable people.  The Role of Disconnection: Discover how disconnection within a marriage can lead to emotional affairs, often occurring in workplaces or through digital channels, where individuals present idealized versions of themselves. Normalizing Terms: We're critiquing casual terms like "work wife" that could normalize inappropriate emotional connections. Rebuilding Trust: For those who have experienced an emotional affair, we outline four crucial steps for rebuilding trust, emphasizing the importance of severing ties, honest communication, self-reflection, and establishing boundaries. Setting Boundaries: We discuss three boundary guidelines designed to prevent future issues. Cooperating in Rebuilding: Not all relationships may be able to withstand the impact of an emotional affair. Will yours? Take Action: Get my brand-new course, Infidelity Intensive, a restoration roadmap for healing after infidelity.  Find the full show notes for this episode here.  Like the show? Be sure to give it a 5-star rating and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're tackling a sensitive yet common issue in some marriages: what to do when your spouse’s hygiene (or lack thereof) is causing tension in your relationship. A listener wants to know how to respond without hurting their partner or furthering the disconnect. Key Takeaways: It’s Not Uncommon: Hygiene issues are not as uncommon as one might think. Yet they can be a dealbreaker for many couples when it comes to physical closeness. Direct but Kind Communication: Be honest yet gentle. Approach the conversation with love—focus on how hygiene affects the closeness in your marriage rather than making accusations or using harsh language. The "We Over Me" Approach: Frame the issue as a shared problem impacting both spouses, not just a complaint from one person. Gift What You Want: Subtle actions like buying body wash, cologne, or tissues can serve as positive hints for change. Set Clear Boundaries: Define what you need (e.g., brushing teeth before kissing) and stick to those boundaries for your well-being. Resources: Do you have a marriage or relationship question for Dana Che? Submit it at danache.com/contact or DM Dana on Instagram @mrsdanache. Check out the "Infidelity Intensive" online course for couples seeking restoration: danache.com/infidelityintensive.  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As we continue our Healing After Infidelity series, a commonly asked yet sensitive topic is how to re-engage in sex after an affair. If you’ve experienced infidelity in your marriage, you’ve likely wondered this too.  I'm offering grounded, compassionate wisdom on when and how couples should consider re-engaging sexually after infidelity. With a blend of personal stories, biblical guidance, real-life coaching experiences, and practical steps, this episode aims to support couples in making informed, healthy decisions with restoration at the center. What You’ll Learn Should you have sex after an affair? I address why immediately resuming sexual intimacy may not be healthy or helpful. The importance of time and boundaries: Why jumping back into sex too soon can lead to more harm, and why it’s not “sinful” to abstain while healing.  Trust, safety & STI checks: The crucial steps every couple should take for health and peace of mind. Deconstructing sexual idols: How sex can become an unhealthy replacement for deeper intimacy following infidelity—and why this “idol” must be torn down before true restoration. Practical tips for re-engaging: When you’re ready, how to reintroduce sex in a safe, pressure-free way. Safety, boundaries, and autonomy: Advice for betrayed spouses if they feel pressured to resume sex, and the importance of reclaiming agency and setting healthy boundaries. Resources & Next Steps FREE Masterclass: Register for “Beyond Betrayal: Three Keys to Healing After Infidelity”—available at danache.com/masterclass Upcoming Infidelity Course: Details and registration at danache.com/infidelityintensive Show notes & links: Find this episode’s resources at rebuildinguspodcast.com Subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen or on YouTube, and join the Rebuilding US community for ongoing support and encouragement. Thank you for listening! If you found this episode helpful, remember to leave a review and share with anyone who might need this support.  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What do you do when your spouse just won't say those three little words, "I love you"? A listener wrote in with this exact issue, sharing how her husband never actually says "I love you," even though it's her love language. She's looking for some advice, and I can actually relate to this.  It's important for us to hear "I love you," especially as children. I share a bit about my experience vs my hubby, Shaun's experience with these words.  I also give you tips on how to use "I statements" to let your spouse know what you need without making them feel attacked. The key is explaining how you feel and what you need in a way that encourages positivity and open communication. I also gave some advice to all you parents out there. Even if your kids roll their eyes or just hit you with a "thanks" or a text like, keep telling them you love them! It helps create a sense of belonging that we all need. If you want to chat more or have questions you want me to tackle in a future episode, DM on Instagram or swing by my website. I’d love to hear from you! Learn more about my Upcoming Masterclass: Beyond Betrayal Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

The aftermath of infidelity in marriage is painful, to say the least. Chances are you, or someone you know, is dealing with the fallout of an affair. Whether you're the betrayed or the betrayer, or if you're simply offering support to a loved one, this episode aims to provide practical guidance on navigating this tumultuous time. It’s critical to acknowledge the emotional upheaval that accompanies the revelation of an affair. You're likely to experience a whirlwind of emotions—disappointment, fear, shame, anger, and sorrow, to name a few. Instead of avoiding these feelings, it’s important to validate these feelings. It’s perfectly normal to feel like a stranger to your own emotions. The key is recognizing that your marriage has suffered significant trauma, which requires both patience and understanding.  In this episode, we discuss the five critical decisions both the betrayed spouse and the unfaithful spouse should avoid making after infidelity comes to light.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Register for my upcoming masterclass: Beyond Betrayal  Want to go deeper? Learn more about my Infidelity Intensive Course Ep. 334 - Our Advice to the Unfaithful Spouse - with Shaun Williams    Like this episode? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A husband wants help in seeing eye to eye with his wife, more specifically how they can be on the same page during disagreements. This is a common struggle in marriages: finding common ground despite a couple's differences. Understanding the purpose of communication is key here. Listen in as I remind this listener (and you) that it's not about agreeing on everything but about understanding one another's perspectives. I shared practical advice on aligning your values, choosing your battles wisely, and utilizing your different perspectives as strengths. Highlights from the episode: Communication is about understanding, not just agreement. Find common values when facing different approaches to problem-solving. Use differences to your advantage for a stronger connection. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Ep. 296: Are You a Peacemaker or a "Peacefaker" in Your Relationship? Join my upcoming free masterclass, "Beyond Betrayal: Three Keys to Healing After Infidelity."    Your questions and insights fuel our conversations—keep them coming! Reach out on Instagram or my website. And be sure to give this podcast a five-star rating and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When an unfaithful spouse is discovered to have had an affair, there are certain things they need to do to repair the breach if they want to rebuild their marriage. My hubby, Shaun, is back on the podcast and is sharing his insights, as a former unfaithful spouse, and our journey through our season of infidelity. As ones who have walked this path, we want to offer guidance, especially to those who broke their marriage vows, and who might be facing this storm.  Key Takeaways include what "doing the work" on yourself and your marriage actually looks like, the importance of walking this journey with a skilled professional, taking inventory and accepting responsibility, and more.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Sign up for my FREE Masterclass: Beyond Betrayal: 3 Keys to Healing After Infidelity  Learn more about my online course, Infidelity Intensive  Ep. 326: Why Did This Happen? Healing After Infidelity   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Have you ever been concerned about your spouse's social media activities . . . or in our listener's case, lack of social media activities? I'm addressing a listener who feels unsettled that her husband never posts about her on social media and even occasionally unfollows her, while sharing other aspects of his life online. Episode Highlights: Marriage Advice: I emphasize the importance of communication. Ask, don't assume your partner's intentions. Use "I statements" to express your feelings without being accusatory. Key Strategies: Understand that everyone expresses affection differently, especially on public platforms like social media. The significance of clear communication around personal expectations in a relationship is critical. Directly address concerns with your spouse to gain clarity rather than making assumptions. If you find yourself facing similar a marriage concern, this episode provides a blueprint for addressing issues with empathy and directness.    Resources Mentioned: Heart-to-Heart Conversation Starters: danache.com/conversationstarters Submit Your Marriage Questions It's Not You; It's Me: The I Statement Formula Love the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Infidelity recovery is not a DIY experiment. It hit my marriage like a tidal wave, knocking me down and leaving me in a sea of emotions I never thought I’d have to face. It was one of the most heart-wrenching experiences I ever had to endure. In those early days of shock and disbelief, I quickly realized something critical: I couldn't and shouldn't try to handle this alone. In my journey and through conversations with my clients who are rebuilding their marriages after an affair, I've discovered the invaluable importance of surrounding yourself with what's known as an “A-Team.” This isn’t just any group of friends or well-meaning family. Your A-Team is a carefully chosen group, equipped to provide you with support, wisdom, and encouragement. In this episode, you'll learn how I learned to build my A-Team and why each member is crucial. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Healing from an affair? Get your Free Affair Recovery Checklist today! Learn about my new course: Infidelity Intensive and dramatically shorten your healing time.   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and leave a great review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When things aren’t going well in marriage, it’s easy to fall into a cycle of complaints, but gratitude can be a powerful antidote to bitterness and resentment.  Here’s a quick recap of tips on maintaining gratitude: Acknowledge Small Wins: Start your day by focusing on one positive aspect of your partner or something they did that you appreciate. Focus on What You Can Control: Control your attitude, words, and actions. Be grateful for the choices you have, even in trying times. Look for Lessons: Every challenge can be a learning opportunity. Consider what valuable lessons or growth your current circumstances might offer. Remember, gratitude isn’t just an attitude; it’s a practice. Incorporate these and other gratitude practices throughout your day and watch your relationship bounce back.  Have a marriage question you want answered on the podcast? Email or send a DM on Instagram.    Resourced Mentioned in this Episode:  Struggling to heal after infidelity? Get your FREE Healing After Affair Checklist Here. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

After an affair, most spouses want to know if they should stay or leave their spouse. Infidelity, I know, can be incredibly painful, but it is oh-so-important to discuss. As part of our ongoing miniseries, "Healing After Infidelity," I'm here to tackle a question that many of you have likely grappled with: "Are you committed to rebuilding your marriage?" Whether you're in the thick of betrayal or still grappling with the aftermath, I hope to offer guidance and encouragement as you navigate this challenging terrain. Infidelity, as many of us know, can tear at the very fabric of a relationship, leaving a trail of hurt and confusion. When I think about the conversations I’ve had—whether through coaching or discovery calls—one thing is clear: the question often emerges, "Do I put forth the effort to save my marriage, or is it time to move on?" In this episode, I share five critical questions you need to consider before making such a profound decision. Be sure to listen to the very end and get my free resource to help you rebuild your marriage.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Healing from Infidelity? Get my "Affair Checklist" to guide you along your journey. Ep. 102 - 12 Steps to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage Ep.236 - What To Do If My Spouse Has Had Multiple Affairs Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

It's a common dilemma in marriage: how to turn your spouse down for sexy time without feeling guilty. What do you do when one spouse isn't in the mood for sex yet doesn't want to hurt the other's feelings? That's the question of one listener who shared her experience and sought advice on saying no without guilt. Key Takeaways: Understanding Your Feelings: Take a self-assessment to identify why you might not be in the mood. Factors could include tiredness, stress, or emotional disconnect. The Power of Honesty: It’s crucial to communicate openly and kindly with your spouse about your feelings. A simple, honest conversation can prevent feelings of rejection. Offering Alternative Connections: Suggesting other forms of intimacy, such as cuddling or a massage, can help maintain the bond with your spouse without feeling pressured into having sex. Checking Emotional Responses: For the spouse who feels turned down, it’s important to reflect on one’s emotional response to ensure that sex doesn’t become an idol in the relationship. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Reeling from an affair? Get my Affair Recovery Checklist & begin your healing journey today. Ep. 21 - When You're Not in the Mood for Sex If you have questions about relationship or marriage topics, email or reach out on Instagram.  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today, we dive deep into the intricacies of healing after infidelity with our guests, Matthew and Joanna Rabsmith who've been married for fifteen years. They opened up about their experience with infidelity just three and a half years into their union. Matthew bravely shared his struggle with sex addiction, which was primarily linked to pornography.  Both licensed marriage counselors and marriage coaches, they share their journey through infidelity in their marriage and how they emerged stronger on the other side. Matthew opens up about his battle with sexual addiction, shedding light on the challenges and breakthroughs along the way. Joanna provides invaluable insight into the role of the betrayed spouse and how relinquishing control can drive healing. We also explore the Rabsmith's intimacy pyramid, detailing the steps necessary to rebuild trust and intimacy in marriage. Their journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of faith and commitment. Whether you're navigating these waters yourself or supporting a friend through it, this episode is packed with wisdom and resources for moving forward. So, grab a notebook, settle in, and let's get into this crucial conversation!   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Connect with the Raabsmiths Get your free Affair Recovery Checklist here   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and a positive review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A new listener, Gina, feels like she's putting all the effort into her marriage while her husband seems perfectly content with where things are. I totally get where she's coming from—I’ve been there! We'll talk about how to navigate this situation and discuss why behavior follows belief. I’ share some personal insights and strategies on how to motivate change in someone who doesn't see there's a problem by shifting those underlying beliefs. Whether you're trying to improve your marriage, your parenting skills, or your friendships, today's episode is packed with practical advice. So grab a cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dive in to help transform those connections into more fulfilling relationships. I'm so glad you're here! Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Struggling to overcome an affair? Get my 12-Step Affair Recovery Checklist here. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

One of the questions every betrayed spouse grapples with when dealing with infidelity is, "Why did this happen?" Infidelity can be one of the most challenging obstacles a marriage may face. Understanding the 'why' is crucial because every affair has a reason. It’s essential here to distinguish between a reason and an excuse. While reasons offer insights into underlying issues, excuses deflect responsibility. The truth is infidelity is always a choice, a willful decision, in nearly every case. This episode outlines five reasons that commonly underlie affairs, including: emotional disconnection unresolved personal issues lack of boundaries  unmet needs personal crises. It’s important to note that while these reasons might explain why an affair happened, they don't excuse the betrayal. We also discuss “What now” after an affair has happened. If you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of infidelity, there is hope and healing is possible whether you stay in or leave your marriage.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Reeling from Infidelity? Get my “Affair Recovery Checklist” and take the first next steps toward healing.  Ep. 49 - 5 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

When it comes to meeting our spouse’s needs, marriage can feel like a complex game of tug of war. Today’s listener question brings us into the nuanced territory of communication and expectations between spouses. Our listener shares her frustration about feeling overwhelmed by her husband's evolving needs. She explained that her husband, previously very passive in communicating his needs, has transformed since starting therapy. While therapy is inherently a positive journey, in this case, it's brought a seemingly endless list of requirements from her husband, inducing feelings of inadequacy and frustration in her. If you’ve ever had unmet needs in your marriage or felt like you weren't meeting your spouse’s needs, this conversation is for you. Let’s discuss the dynamics at play and explore strategies for navigating this emotional challenge while working toward meeting your spouse’s needs.   Other Helpful Episodes:  Ep. 225 - Navigating Core Needs in Marriage Ep. 281 - How to Encourage Change in Your Marriage Without Encouraging Complaints   If you enjoy the show, please be sure to leave a five-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We’re off the heels of our marriage conference and I have some insights to share for those looking to attend a marriage conference in the future. Information is only good if you have a revelation that causes transformation. And when it comes to strengthening our marriages, this couldn't be more true. So let's explore why attending a marriage conference might be the game-changer you've been looking for. Why Make the Commitment to Attend? You might be wondering, why attend a marriage conference? Aren’t those just for couples in crisis? Absolutely not! Like successful entrepreneurs attend business conferences to stay on top of their game, thriving couples attend marriage conferences to sustain healthy relationships. It’s all about growth, connection, and gaining new insights. For first-timers, choosing the right conference is crucial. Not all conferences are created equal, and some might leave you feeling discouraged if they’re not a good fit. I’ll share some tips on finding the right one so you come away feeling inspired and equipped.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get Your Free "5 Simple Steps to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship" Couple's Guide Learn more about the XO Marriage Conference Learn more about Family Life's Weekend to Remember    Like the show? Be sure to give it a 5-star rating and write a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A listener who describes her marriage of eleven years as "routine" and feels she's outgrown her husband needs advice. She says that while her husband is a good man, she feels a lack of attraction due to his complacency with routine life. This includes his responsibilities at work, caregiving for his mother, and domestic duties, all of which have led their marriage to feel stagnant. She admits to being drawn to other men but remains committed to her marriage because of their children and shared responsibilities, yet she struggles with the feeling that her marriage may have run its course. Many spouses feel this way . . . disconnected from their spouses. Over the years, their interests, values, and goals sometimes diverge, leading to feelings of loneliness and frustration. This sets the stage for the episode's central focus: addressing these feelings and fostering growth in marriages. Listen and learn four marriage tips to help overcome disconnection and reignite a sense of shared meaning in your marriage.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Take the "How Connected Are You" Partner Quiz Need Marriage Coaching? Schedule a Call Here   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a positive review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How do you build a stronger marriage? Often, marriage is often seen as a path to happiness and companionship. But through my experiences and insights shared in this episode, I challenge this notion by inviting you to see marriage as a tool for personal and spiritual growth. This episode wraps up our three-part mini-series, "Mended: God's Plan for Marriage," where we explore the deep-seated essence of marriage, emphasizing resilience, growth, and alignment with your divine purpose. The episode begins with a recent sermon I preached at my church, highlighting the importance of resilience in marriage. The power of marriage often remains untapped because people focus too much on personal happiness and having their needs met rather than understanding the greater purpose of marriage . . . what I call the "secret sauce" of marriage: realizing that marriage is about more than just personal satisfaction—it's about helping each other become more like Christ. This is a powerful episode with the potential to change how you view your spouse and your marriage forever.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Listen to the full sermon here.  Learn more about my brand new course: Infidelity Intensive    Remember to give the podcast a 5-star rating and write a review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Is your marriage on the line but you’re trying to win your spouse back? Rebuilding your marriage isn't easy, especially when your spouse isn't on the same page. In this episode, we address a listener's question about how to effectively communicate his desire to reconcile after a difficult time in his marriage. Despite being separated for three months due to past traumas and ego, he's actively working on self-improvement and seeking advice on how to win back his spouse without putting undue pressure on her. Key Discussion Points: Taking Responsibility: It’s important to take responsibility for the choices we make in our marriage. Our listener acknowledges his shortcomings as a husband and is encouraged to be specific about the changes he's implementing. Healing Past Traumas: If we don’t understand the role of past traumas in our marriage conflicts, we are likely to not fully heal from them. Genuine healing often requires professional help. Asking for Forgiveness: Sincere and specific apologies are significant, not as a means to an end, but as a genuine show of remorse for past hurt we’ve caused.  Respecting Boundaries: If the spouse decides not to reconcile, respecting her decision is crucial. While working towards reconciliation, we must acknowledge our spouse's free will and potential decision to move on even if it hurts.   Got a marriage-related question you want answered on the podcast? Email your questions or submit a direct message on Instagram.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Get Your Free Heart to Heart Conversation Starters here. Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a positive review!    Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If you’ve ever questioned what marriage is truly about beyond friendship and happiness, this is the episode for you. We're continuing with part two of a mini-series dedicated to exploring some hidden truths about marriage. We begin by addressing the misconceptions society and culture often hold about marriage, such as its purpose is primarily happiness or getting our needs met. When we misunderstand the purpose of something, it leads to misuse and abuse. So buckle up. Christian marriage, in particular, has been called "a great mystery" because of what marriage truly represents. Marriage is both an agent of holiness and healing, providing a space for mutual growth and spiritual connection. In this way, marriage can be a living testament to God's redemptive power and love. If you feel overwhelmed or trapped in your marriage, this episode offers hope that transformation and redemption are possible through faith and surrendering to God's plan. Key Takeaways: Why marriage is not solely about personal happiness How holiness and healing go hand in hand How marriage unlocks the potential for deeper connection and spiritual growth. Marriage as a living example of Christ's redemptive love and commitment. Want to connect more in your marriage? Take my free "How Connected Are You" Partner Quiz at https://danache.com/partnerquiz. If you know someone engaged or considering marriage, share this episode with them so they can get their marriage started off on the right foot!  Remember to give the podcast a 5-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Valentine's Day is upon us! I'm answering a listener's question on whether women still care about Valentine’s Day gifts and what makes the perfect present. What are some gift ideas to make your special someone feel loved and appreciated? I've got a few suggestions up my sleeve. Highlights: Do Women Still Expect Gifts? I polled my friends to learn about their Valentine’s Day expectations—and the results were hilarious. Creative Gift Ideas: It’s not about how much you spend, but the thought and creativity you put into it. Hear about my most memorable Valentine's Day. Understanding Love Languages: Discover how knowing your partner’s love language can elevate your gift-giving, whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, or quality time. Balancing Gift Traditions: My thoughts on how the commercialization of holidays might affect genuine gift-giving and why it’s better to focus on creative intention. Special Resource for You: Don’t forget to download my Ultimate Couples Checklist—a free guide with five simple steps to rekindle intimacy and connection available at danache.com/ultimatecouple. We’d love to hear from you! If you have a marriage-related question, don’t hesitate to reach ask here or drop a message on Instagram. Thank you for being a part of our community. Don’t forget to subscribe to the Rebuilding Us Podcast on your preferred platform so you never miss an episode!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

"The Problem of Marriage” is the first part of my three-part mini-series, inspired by a sermon I recently preached at my church, focusing on some profound aspects of marriage—the marriage problems we face, the purpose behind marriage, and the incredible power marriage holds. Today, I'll be sharing insights on the problem of marriage, and I hope you find these reflections as enlightening and transformative as I did when preparing this series. Today's episode uncovers the roots of all marriage problems, confronting passivity in marriage, the ripple effects of sin, decoding the curse of conflict and control, and more.  Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Watch the Full Sermon Mended: God’s Plan for Marriage Get Your Free “7 Secrets to a Happier, Healthier Marriage” Audio  Looking to Connect Better in Your Marriage? Check out My “From Conflict to Connection Course”   Like the show? Be sure to write a review and give it a five-star rating! Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

  I received a question from a listener whose husband wants to leave the marriage to seek “personal happiness.” She faces the difficult decision of whether to wait for him to find clarity or to move forward with divorce after their 24 years together, of which 13 were spent in marriage. Here are some of the highlights from the episode: Understanding Where Happiness is Found: I discussed the common misconception that happiness is a destination. In reality, happiness is a choice you make. Chasing after it without internal work is often fruitless. Purposeful Separation & Marriage Goals Even Here: If separation is the route chosen, it should be approached with clear goals. Arranging a separation with a mutually agreed-upon purpose and timeframe can help both spouses understand what they truly want from the future. Working on Yourself No Matter the Outcome: I applauded my listener for seeking therapy and emphasized the importance of continuing personal growth, regardless of her husband's decisions. The Power of Forgiveness: Even when reconciliation is not possible, pursuing forgiveness can free individuals from bitterness and resentment, enabling them to heal and move forward positively. When considering separation, it’s important to ask whether everything that could be done to save the marriage has been tried before deciding on divorce. This way, even if the marriage ends, you’ll know you gave it all you could give. If you have any questions or issues in your marriage that you'd like me to address, feel free to reach out via my website or on Instagram.   Links Mentioned in this Episode:  The "7 Secret Marriage Rules" audio For those of you considering a similar path, I suggest listening to my episode with Dr. Kim Kimberling, "Five Boxes to Check Before You Divorce" (Episode 245), to thoroughly evaluate your decision.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What is the real reason so many marriages are failing? It’s not often addressed in mainstream marriage advice. When we take a look at the core issue of marriage problems and look at scripture, personal experiences, and real stories, we see one main culprit as the number one reason marriages break up.  Key Discussion Points: Understanding Apathy in Marriage The Core Issue: Hardness of Heart Indicators of a Hardened Heart The Path to Restoration and Healing Real-Life Application Resources Mentioned: Get My Free Audio: 7 Secrets to a Healthier Marriage  Dive Deeper with My "From Conflict to Connection Course" Episode 88: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse  Episode 68: How Passivity & Apathy Are Silently Killing Your Marriage   Be sure to give the podcast five stars and write a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A truly sensitive yet relatable marriage topic is what to do when you feel a lack of physical attraction to your spouse. It can be embarrassing to admit to ourselves, much less talk about it openly, but it's necessary if we want to find solutions and improve our intimacy. A listener reached out to me, sharing her struggle. She explains that despite taking care of her own appearance, her husband has gained weight, which has affected her physical attraction to him. She has moments when she can overlook his flaws, but the inconsistency in attraction makes sustaining intimacy challenging. She wants to know how to continue keeping her husband sexually satisfied even when she's not feeling that attracted to him. In response, I explore several avenues to help address her concerns by digging to find the cause of her unattractiveness, having a courageous conversation with her husband, seeking help from the Lord, putting herself in remembrance of her husband’s strengths, and “making love” where love doesn’t seem to exist.  Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Ep. 310 - 5 Types of Intimacy Your Marriage Can’t Live Without Get My Free “Conversation Starters” for Couples in Conflict  Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a positive review. Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you struggling to keep praying for your marriage but not seeing evidence of change? In this episode, I open up about my own journey in marriage and faith. Like so many of you, I've had to grapple with trusting in God when everything around me seemed unchanged or even worsening. My husband, Shaun, and I have been through our share of struggles, and it wasn't until I truly learned to let go and surrender my own desires that I began to see God's work in our lives. Throughout this episode, I outline five strategies that are crucial for maintaining faith, especially when you see no evidence of change: Continue to Pray Refocus Your Vision Imagine Positive Outcomes Act in Faith Surrender to God's will Links Mentioned in this Episode:  5 Ways to C.O.V.E.R. Your Marriage in Prayer Ep. 214: If God is For Me, Why Am I Suffering? Ep. 216: How to Walk by Faith When Life is Hard   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and write a positive review so others can find the show too!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today’s marriage question is about relationship gift-giving and communication. After receiving an unexpected Peloton bike from her husband for Christmas instead of the spa package she desired, a listener feels hurt and confused. Essentially, she is left to wonder does my husband think I'm fat? Listen in as I provide insights and practical advice on how to interpret such gestures, manage insecurities, and communicate unspoken expectations effectively in a marriage. To read the full show notes for this episode, visit danache.com/podcast. Have a relationship or marriage question you want me to answer on the show? Email or connect with me on Instagram. Download my "7 Secrets to a Lasting Marriage"Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Hard conversations are often necessary in marriage. You can be loving and truthful at the same time. However, it can be easy to forget how to balance the two in relationships. It’s no secret that marriages, like any close relationships, thrive on open and honest communication. Yet, the art of conveying truth with care often eludes us. Today, we’re diving into this intricate dance and learning how to be honest without causing harm to our spouse or significant other, further driving a wedge in our unity. In this episode, you’ll learn about:  Potential consequences of withholding the truth - how withholding the truth can lead to bitterness and resentment in marriages. Setting intentions for conversations - how to have a positive outcome in mind and center your spouse in conversations rather than yourself Developing the courage to confront marriage problems and find mutual solutions. A powerful acronym T.O.N.E. – Timing, Outcome, Necessity, and Empathy – and how to navigate these discussions successfully. We also highlight the necessity of empathy in relationships as a means to understand and deepen genuine connections. Links Mentioned in this Episode: Download my free audio: "7 Secret Marriage Rules to Know Before I Do and After I Did.” For more marriage resources visit danache.com. Like the show? Be sure to give it a 5-star rating and write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Marriage is one of life's greatest teachers. What marriage teaches you, however, depends on how wise of a student you're willing to be. One of my listeners put me in the hot seat, asking, "What have you learned over the course of being married to Shaun for 25 years, and what has your marriage taught you about yourself?" I'm sharing several candid insights from my 25-year marriage journey, including: My Not-So-Pretty Self-Discovery: Marriage unveiled a side of me I never knew existed. Learn the importance of being aware of your tendencies and always working on yourself. Following God’s Blueprint: I have learned throughout my marriage the value of following God's ways in building a successful marriage. Or keep trying it your way and let me know how it goes. Understanding the Purpose of Marriage: My marriage has helped me grow into who God has purposed me to be. I'm sharing how.   The episode goes beyond surface-level advice and offers heartfelt and practical insights, empowering you to approach your marriages with the right mindset and intentions. Whether you're newly married or have been on the journey for years, this episode provides valuable perspectives on how to make marriage a fulfilling and transformative experience. Remember to grab my free "Ultimate Couples Checklist" to help you build a healthy and thriving marriage at danache.com/ultimatecouple. Have a relationship or marriage question you want me to answer on the show? Email or connect with me on Instagram.  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Intimacy is often a misunderstood concept in marriage and is traditionally reduced to just sex. However, there are five different types of intimacy that can cultivate a healthier and more wholehearted marriage. Five Types of Intimacy in Marriage: 1. Spiritual Intimacy: The importance and practicality of being spiritually aligned with your spouse. 2. Emotional Intimacy: Recognizing and embracing your emotional self and providing a safe spouse for your spouse 3. Physical Intimacy: Going beyond sex to understand your spouse’s physical touch needs. 4. Intellectual Intimacy: Engaging intellectually with your partner and continuous learning and sharing of ideas. 5. Recreational/Experiential Intimacy: Building shared experiences and memories while maintaining friendship and fun in your marriage. Through today’s episode, you’ll learn practical ways to nurture and enhance each intimacy type in your marriage. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take my “How Connected a Partner Are You?” Quiz Ep. 52: Making Love Outside the Bedroom - with Shaun Williams   Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and please write a review if listening on Apple Podcasts!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What do you do when your words of affirmation miss the mark? This is a concern a listener and many spouses face, especially when trying to love an "unappreciative spouse." If you’ve ever felt like your heartfelt compliments are being met with sarcasm or jabs rather than gratitude, this episode is for you. Topics We Discuss: Understanding Communication Gaps: Learn how to bridge the disconnect between expressing words of affirmation and your spouse's reception. Hear how genuine affirmations rooted in appreciation for 'who they are' rather than 'what they do' can make a big difference. Building Emotional Well-Being: I Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” Explore how encouraging and uplifting words contribute to emotional well-being.  Handling Resentment: Gain insights into addressing potential resentment that may be present underneath the snide remarks. Learn how to better support your spouse, recognizing their efforts in everyday moments. Practical Tips for Meaningful Affirmations: From the warmth of eye contact to understanding your spouse’s preferred mode of communication, discover various methods to make your appreciation felt and acknowledged.   You Might Also Like:  Get My Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict FREE Guide Here  Ep. 123 - 5 Gifts Your Spouse Will Love  Ep. 282 - Burnout of the Busy Wife- When Giving Too Much = Loving Less   Like the show? Please give it a five-star rating and share a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Are you ready to transform your marriage and bring back that sense of wonder? Here’s a sneak peek into what you'll discover in this episode: - Embrace the New: We explore how the new year offers a perfect opportunity to hit the reset button on your relationship and breathe new life into your marriage. - Finding Joy in the Ordinary: Learn how noticing and appreciating the little things your spouse does can reignite wonder and admiration in your partnership. - 4 Practical Steps to Rediscover Wonder: From cultivating gratitude to prioritizing fun and adventure, I've laid out four actionable steps to help you and your spouse reconnect and experience newfound joy. - Must-Read Resource: Discover insights from Tim Keller's book, "The Meaning of Marriage," and why prioritizing spiritual intimacy can deepen your emotional and physical bond. - Special Offers: Don’t miss out on our free Heart-to-Heart Conversation Starters PDF and my new ebook "Relationship Reset" to jumpstart your journey towards a more fulfilling marriage. Are you feeling burnt out and exhausted, struggling to find time for your relationship? It's time to create margin and prioritize what truly matters. Remember, your marriage can be as wonderful as you're willing to work for it to be. Reflect on this: When was the last time you looked at your spouse with awe and wonder? If it’s been a while, let's change that this year. Like the show? Be sure to give it a five-star rating and wrte a review!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I received a heartfelt question from a wife who feels underappreciated in her marriage She wants to know how to get her husband to pay more attention to her and if she needs to play hard to get to do so. Together, with thoughtful insights from my husband, Shaun, we explore practical steps to re-engage a distant spouse . . . the real way. Key Takeaways from the Episode: Discover how to effectively communicate your needs and desires in your marriage. Learn to set healthy boundaries that garner mutual respect. Explore ways to bring balance and authenticity to your marriage. Understand the importance of continual pursuit in marriage and how it mirrors our spiritual journey of seeking and growing in faith. Faithful Fridays: Our New Approach Starting this year, every Friday episode will blend relationship advice with a faith perspective, empowering you to build marriages that are not only rooted in love but also in purpose and divine guidance. Resources to Help You Further: Don't miss out on my Heart to-Heart Conversation Starters. They're designed to help you approach difficult conversations with confidence and clarity. Ep. 169: Tricks are for Kids: 7 Mind Games to Stop Playing in Your Relationship Have a relationship question you want answered on the show? Email me or send me a DM on Instagram.   If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review to help more couples discover tools to enrich their marriages.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What a year it has been! As we wrap up 2024, I can't help but reflect on all the moments that have shaped us this year. Whether you're celebrating the goals you crushed or learning from the challenges you faced, let's take a moment to acknowledge the journey. In this episode, we explored the highs and lows of the year, shared stories of triumph and growth, and looked ahead with hope for what 2025 may hold. Here's a glimpse of what we discussed: The importance of celebrating both big and small victories. How to carry forward goals into the new year with optimism. The significance of shared goals and renewed commitments in relationships. Encouragement to have unwavering hope and faith for the future. As we step into 2025, I invite you to renew your commitments, both personal and relational, and to navigate the new year with intentionality. Remember, if you did it before, you can do it again! Wishing you a happy and fulfilling new year, filled with purpose and legacy! Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get Your Free “Ultimate Couple’s Checklist” for Creating Lasting Intimacy in Your Marriage How to Create a Vision for Your Marriage Like the show? Please give it a 5-star rating and share a positive review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

It's a common marriage conundrum: how to deal with a messy spouse. In this episode, a listener, Sam, has been feeling overwhelmed by her husband's messiness. Newly married, she's discovering new realities of cohabitation that many of us can relate to. If you've faced similar struggles, or are facing them now, this episode is for you. Here’s a sneak peek into what we covered in the episode: Setting Boundaries: Learn how to set personal boundaries that respect both you and your spouse. It might mean creating a new space for yourself or simply refusing to pick up after your spouse. Remember, boundaries are about what YOU will or won’t do. Creating Systems: Implement a household chore chart to divide responsibilities fairly. We could all use a little structure to ensure tasks don't fall through the cracks. I offer my premarital counseling clients this resource. Uncovering Hidden Causes: Explore with your spouse the root of their habitual messiness. Sometimes, clutter is a mask for deeper emotions like stress or feeling out of control. Addressing the root causes can bring about lasting change. Person vs. Performance: Separate your spouse’s behavior from who they are as a person. Understanding this distinction can ease frustration and foster more compassion in your marriage. As always, we're here to support you in rebuilding and nurturing your marriage. If you have a marriage question you want to be answered on the show, reach out via Instagram DM  or email here. Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Get your FREE "Ultimate Couple's Checklist": 5 Simple Steps to Create More Intimacy Like the show? Give it a five-star rating, and I'd love for you to write a review!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.