New View Advice

This is the last episode of New View Advice podcast! This is truly the end of an era for me, and I am so grateful for every single person who has ever listened to this podcast. In this episode I share my gratitude, talk a bit about my decision to end of the podcast, and I offer my last 10 pieces of advice for the journey of healing, and also life in general.TimestampsIntroduction to the Last Episode - 0:00What to Expect Moving Forward - 5:07My 10 Pieces of Advice - 13:04Outro - 20:15Ways to stay connected with me:Visit newviewadvice.com for updates, blog posts, poems, and moreSend me an email at [email protected] to my Youtube channel - @newviewadviceThank you so much for being a part of this journey with me. It wouldn't have been possible without all of you. I am forever grateful and cheering you on as you continue your healing journey 🩵

In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question about feeling conflicted between being with someone special and embracing a period of independence.We’ll explore indecision, fear of the unknown, and the pressure to make the “right” choice. I’ll also talk about how many women are sold the idea that independence means being alone, and why committing to your choice is so important.I also offer many different questions throughout the episode to reflect on to help you to decide what path is most aligned with you and your heart. My intention is to help you to find clarity and a new view on your own crossroads and life.🕓 TimestampsIntroduction :05Listener Question: 2:29Outro: 38:13🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/141❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Welcome back to New View Advice! After taking a short break, I’m excited to return with an episode all about courage. In this episode I share – What is courage? What does it really mean?Why is courage important for the healing journey?Why do so many of us struggle to be courageous even though we know we want to be brave?4 Steps for stepping towards courage todayThis episode is inspired by my own life. Recently, I’ve noticed that many loud and performative people are labeled as courageous, and I’ve found myself wondering – is that true courage? And if not, what is true courage? So in this episode we discuss how  I believe true courage is often quiet and vulnerable. It shows up in those small, everyday moments—like feeling your feelings, setting boundaries, or choosing to show up for yourself even when it’s hard.I hope this episode helps you to see you’re more courageous than you know, and helps you to continue on the brave path of healing and following your heart.🕓 TimestampsIntroduction :05Courage Discussion 3:50Outro: 30:41🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/140❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a coworker she trusted and saw as a close friend and mentor. We explore the painful reality that sharing a similar cultural background does not guarantee safety. I also explain what grooming looks, discuss workplace grooming, and outline key characteristics. Throughout, we discuss the complex feelings of broken trust, self-blame, and the unique grief when harm comes from someone familiar.As a rape survivor myself, I emphasize the importance of releasing self-blame — if you’ve experienced sexual violence, it is not your fault. While everyone’s healing journey is different, I offer guidance and advice on how to begin moving forward.I also share a poem.Please listen at your own pace. If you are a survivor, know you are not alone and healing is possible. Sending you all my love.🔗 Resources & Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/139❤️ Sexual Trauma Healing Hub: https://www.newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma✍️ Poem Shared in this Episode: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems-for-the-healing-journey/do-you-live-with-regrets-poemI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about burnout at work—what it really feels like, how to recognize the signs of burnout, and how to begin healing without rushing to quit.We’ll explore:What burnout actually is (beyond just being tired)The most common burnout symptoms and causesWhy people-pleasing, over-empathizing, and perfectionism can lead to burnoutHow difficult coworkers can influence burnoutReflective questions to help you better understand your burnoutHow to slow down, set boundaries, and begin true burnout recoveryWhether you're questioning your job or just feeling drained, this conversation will help you reconnect back to yourself and help you to begin to heal.🕘 Timestamps:Intro: 05Listener Question: 1:40Outro: 29:25🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/138🎶 Choosing a New View Music Playlist to Help You Feel InspiredI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic relationships, identity loss, and old wounds that heartbreak can reopen. I discuss why healing can feel so hard, share new perspectives, and offer gentle, actionable tips to help you start moving forward.🕘 Timestamps:Intro: 05Listener Question: 2:20Outro: 25:29🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/137✨ For more resources, check out the New View Advice Heartbreak Healing HubI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends.Whether you're experiencing a friendship breakup, a "friends-to-lovers" heartbreak, or navigating unspoken feelings, I offer compassionate advice to help you process the pain, find closure (even if it's one-sided), and validate your emotions.🎙️ In this episode:How to grieve a friendship breakup with romantic feelings involvedWhy blurred boundaries can deepen the heartbreakSelf-blame, red flags, and learning to trust yourself againHealing after queer friendships and relationships endTips for protecting your heart and rebuilding your social supportUnique challenges in queer friendships and relationships — and how to navigate them with care🕘 Timestamps:Intro: 05Listener Question: 2:02Outro: 25:33🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/136✨ More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.comI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself.Timestamps:Intro: 05Listener Question: 2:26Outro: 36:48Show notes: newviewadvice.com/135More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.comI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. This episode is focused on healing and restoring inner-balance. I also talk about the importance of self-compassion and inner child work, while offering guidance for anyone dealing with unsupportive or judgmental in-laws. To round out the episode, I read one of my own poems inspired by small-mindedness, reminding us all that other people’s cruelty is rarely about us. Join me as I hold space for both heartbreak and healing on your journey.Timestamps:Intro: :05Listener Question: 1:46Poem: 29:03Outro: 30:13Show notes: newviewadvice.com/134More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.comI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love.If you need support:RAINN 24/7 Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgFree online community: aftersilence.org/forumNeither of these resources are affiliated with New View Advice. They’re simply here in case you need support today. Please take care of yourself. 🙏Timestamps:Intro – 0:05Listener Question – 2:14Outro – 28:44Show notes: newviewadvice.com/133Reflections #2: Check It Out on YoutubeMore free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.comI am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up.For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?TimestampsIntro :05Listener Question: 1:41Outro: 16:23For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey.TimestampsIntro: :05Question: 2:10Outro: 20:30For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups.TimestampsIntro: :05Poem: 2:28Question: 3:42Outro: 24:11For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often become the foundations of our most aligned lives. My intentions is to provide comfort and actionable steps for anyone feeling stuck or lost. Tune in for a compassionate conversation on embracing change, letting go of unfair expectations, and stepping into newfound hope—no matter how tough the reset. You’re not alone, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 3:00Outro: 25:53For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/129For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:44Outro: 27:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:58Outro: 29:25For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About RapeFor more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 3:19Outro: 28:28For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/126For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at [email protected] and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening!TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45Outro: 53:15For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such as anger, hopelessness, and disappointment. I talk about the importance of understanding the root causes of our frustration and offer advice on how to process and work through it. As always I emphasize the value of being kind to oneself, acknowledging feelings as part of the human experience, and finding ways to relax and calm the nervous system.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:13Outro: 22:03For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/124For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child and looking at childhood wounding can help us understand infidelity and relationship patterns better.Check out the New View Advice Infidelity Hub - newviewadvice.com/infidelityhub TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:50Outro: 27:56For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/123For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections. For anyone embarking on a second chance for love, this episode is here to reassure you that you are worthy of love. This episode is a great follow up to episode 120 – Why Am I Scared of Love?TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:53Outro: 22:31For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/122For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, and now that things are on the up and up, they find themselves afraid of everything falling apart. I discuss why we struggle to be happy, the importance of compassion, and how to navigate anxiety and other hard feelings when things feel too good to be true.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:04Outro: 27:29For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/121For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.” This episode is for anyone who’s afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If you’ve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears. You deserve the love you desire, and it’s time to lean in.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:58Outro: 25:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/120For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycles, and strategies to move past them.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:14Outro: 26:10For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/119For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences.  We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first session if you have never been ro therapy and what we believe the most important thing to remember is when beginning your therapy journey. TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Conversation with Katie: 2:25Outro: 40:14For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/117For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggestions that have helped me to improve my mental health on a daily basis.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Mental Health Convo: 2:26Suggestions for Improving Mental Health: 16:16Outro: 29:57For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/116For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support!TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Listener Question: 2:12Outro: 21:38For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/115For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing. Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:37Outro: 28:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/114For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:47Outro: 30:44For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/113For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love <3

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 1:45Outro: 35:28For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family after sexual trauma, the importance of creating safety, and why sometimes we need to set boundaries.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 3:09Outro: 31:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/111For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challenging and important life decisions. We also discuss why it’s important to take the pressure off these large decisions, the importance of empathy in relationships, and practicing self-forgiveness.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Listener Question: 1:43Outro: 24:20For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/110For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long time, but now see it happened because I had a lot of anger I had been ignoring for a long time, and that it is perfectly normal to have a lot of hard feelings.Timestamps0:00 Introduction2:31 Story - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t6:45 Final ThoughtsCheck out my website: www.newviewadvice.comMentioned in this episode:Listen to Reflections: Stories Healing from RapeListen to the entire series here - https://feeds.captivate.fm/reflections-newviewadvice/ Or on Youtube here - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2jlhvzlnUvYEc3tkwYy2bd9P-buRo7la&si=mDX1OWUpHlQCw4wR

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, processing difficult feelings such as shame and guilt, and leveraging creativity as a healing tool.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:06Outro: 28:58For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/109For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate the journey towards a new normal. Drawing from my own personal experiences and a listener question, I provide heartfelt guidance aimed at helping survivors feel less alone and more empowered on their healing journey. TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Poem: 2:00Listener Question: 3:27Outro: 26:30For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/108For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer guidance on how to process our feelings of regret and how to let go of past burdens.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:04Outro: 26:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/107For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter where you are on your healing journey. I also give a life update, and discuss my own healing journey.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Life Update: 4:07Listener Question: 16:54Outro: 41:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/106For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about the grief we feel at the end of a relationship and how so often the grief stage lasts longer than we expect it to. I offer a new view on healing from a broken heart and why this process will take as long as it’s going to take, and that there is nothing wrong with that. My intention is to assist you in feeling less alone, letting go of judgement around your situation, and offering you a few tools to help you grieve the end of your relationship.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Question: 1:24Outro: 17:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/105For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to love yourself one step at a time. Through self-love you will remember your worth, enoughness, and lovability, and feel confident attracting the love you are seeking. My intention is to assist you in remembering your own worth and helping you to feel confident in finding love. TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Poem: 2:21Question: 3:436 Pillars of Self-Love: 9:01Outro: 25:20For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/104For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time when you ever loved yourself. I also talk about why so many struggle with self-love and why self-compassion is the key. I also share a poem I wrote and that can be found on my website.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction:  0:15Poem: 2:20Question: 3:28Outro: 19:22For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/103For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren’t technically dating? We will explore the feelings of guilt and learn why avoiding difficult conversations with partners and lovers can lead to unforeseen difficulties down the road. By the end of this episode, you will have a new view on guilt and new tools for processing guilt and handling tough situations in relationships.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Listener Question: 1:15Outro: 22:37For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/101For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In honor of New View Advice’s 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learned on her healing journey. Amanda discusses her passion for helping trauma survivors and anyone seeking guidance along any type of healing journey. This episode features questions about starting new view advice, entrepreneurship, and the continued support of the new view advice community. Thank you to everyone in the New View Advice community for your support as we reach 100 episodes!TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Questions: 1:18Outro: 27:18For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/100For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Imposter syndrome is often a form of self-sabotage and self-doubt and we don’t even realize it. By the end of this episode, you will learn to embrace self-kindness and identify the root causes from your past that are causing you to feel like an imposter at work.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Listener Question: 1:26Outro: 24:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/99For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the experience of being a sexual assault survivor and also assist you in navigating this difficult situation. After this episode, I invite you to check out the episode shownotes for this episode (link below). Also, if you are a survivor of sexual violence, I invite you to share this with loved ones so they can learn how to better support you throughout your healing journey.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:06Outro:  26:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/98For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life can leave an impact on us and our hearts. My intention is to help you to see that vulnerability can be scary, but it’s also really courageous. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. My hope is that through this episode you see your own bravery and feel inspired to be yourself. There’s no one like you and you deserve to express yourself in your own unique way.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:45Outro:  24:21For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/97For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to yourself so you can have confidence in what is best for you. Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:32Outro:  23:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/96For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey.For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents’ behaviors in the book, but through self-reflection they realized they too possess some of these immature behaviors. In this episode, I outline 4 steps on how to develop emotional maturity. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to build emotional maturity, embrace your humanity, practice self-compassion, and lean into feeling your feelings.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 2:07Outro: 23:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/94For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will help you to better understand how EMDR can help to desensitize the really intense feelings attached to the memories of traumatic events, but also how EMDR may fall short in other areas. Full disclaimer - this episode is based on my own experiences using EMDR over the last 5 years. I am not a medical professional and this is not medical advice.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 02:08Outro: 23:01For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/93For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt for leaving behind their suffering and trauma. Healing generational trauma involves taking the wisdom, lesson, and pearls from our ancestors, and being comfortable leaving behind the suffering. In this episode, I discuss how and why we honor our ancestors, and how doing this will help us to free ourselves of the guilt and shame so many of us are carrying. I discuss how generational trauma often feels like baggage and what we can do to begin to let go of that heavy burden.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Honoring Our Ancestors Teaching: 01:57Outro: 22:54For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/92For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!