New View Advice

In this episode, I answer a question from someone wondering, “why am I ok with being the other woman?” And I offer advice to someone who recently found out that they were “the other woman” and is debating whether or not to tell his girlfriend that he cheated on them.Timestamps:0:00: Intro3:20: Listener Question 123:04: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/40For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Everyone experiences feelings of sadness throughout their life. In this episode, I answer a question from someone feeling sad that they are almost 30, and another question from someone who is sad that they are still single. I also spend time at the beginning of this episode talking about my own healing journey with self-trust.Timestamps:0:00: Intro 3:09: Amanda’s Healing Journey14:40: Listener Question 132:00: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/39For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Grief is one of the best teachers for the human experience. We learn so much from grieving the death of loved ones, but it’s not an easy journey. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with grief, and answer two questions about feeling the feelings of grief.Timestamps:0:00 Intro7:59 Listener Question 126:16 Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/37For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Feelings of resentment in romantic relationships can leave us feeling hopeless and bitter. In this episode, I explore the causes of resentment and how to let go of resentment. I answer one question from someone who resents their partner for giving away their cherished possessions, and another question from someone struggling with feeling resentment towards an ex who they have chosen to remain friends with. Timestamps:0:00: Intro5:11: Listener Question 121:06: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/36For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Healthy communication creates safety, trust, and intimacy in relationships. Unfortunately, many of us did not learn how to communicate in healthy ways when we were younger, and can end up playing out unhealthy communication patterns when we are adults. In this episode, I talk about codependency, what it is, and why it’s often the culprit to unhealthy communication patterns. I also answer a question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate with an anxious partner, and another question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate about sensitive issues.Timestamps:0:00: Intro14:00: Listener Question 136:33: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/35For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I answer questions from listeners who are questioning whether they should get back together with their ex after a break up. The first question is from a listener whose long-term relationship ended because of infidelity, but is now wondering whether they should take back their ex. The second questions is from a listener who feels torn between giving his partner another chance or letting the relationship go. Throughout the episode, I offer different perspectives and questions to ask yourself when deciding if it’s the right choice to get back together with your ex and tools for healing hard feelings.Timestamps:0:00: Intro3:52: Listener Question 130:47: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/34For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Many people who cheat on their partners find it hard to move on and forgive themselves. They can often live with regrets for years. In today’s episode, I answer two questions from people carrying around the burdens of the past and who are having trouble moving forward. I answer one question from someone wondering if they should send a letter to their ex about their cheating, and another question from someone who finds that the waves of regret about how they handled their break up still arise in their life years later.Timestamps:0:00: Intro 3:30: Listener Question 1 19:08: Listener Question 2 For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/32I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

This episode focuses on questions about how to heal from cheating on your partner, specifically when alcohol was involved. Over the past few months I have received many questions from listeners who cheated on their partners when they had been drinking and now regret it. Today I start with focusing on how and why it’s important to become curious about our relationship with alcohol in order to heal. I also answer a question about how to start this journey of healing from cheating in a relationship, and another question from someone who doesn’t know why they cheated and is looking for help forgiving themselves.Timestamps:0:00: Intro8:13: Teaching 23:57: Listener Question 135:51: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/31I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

This episode is a follow up to Ep 29: How to Heal from Being Cheated On in Relationships. In this episode, we continue the conversation about healing from being cheated on. We discuss is emotional cheating as bad as sexual cheating, what to do if you’re only staying with someone who’s cheated because children are involved, and how to heal from emotional and sexual rejection.Timestamps:0:00: Intro 3:54: Listener Question 129:05: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/30I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Healing from being cheated on in a relationship takes time, patience, and a lot of self-love. In this week’s episode I answer two questions, one from someone who was cheated on in their relationship and wants to know if taking someone back who’s cheated is the best choice for them, and one about why do people who were cheated on return to the relationships that hurt them. I also talk about forgiveness and why we choose to forgive for ourselves, not for anyone else.Timestamps:0:00 Intro7:51 Teaching17:59 Listener Question 132:27 Listener Question 251:07 OutroFor this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/29For more free resources including journal prompts, poems, blog posts, and more, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Often times we don't give ourselves the time we need to fully move through past relationships, so the patterns and beliefs from old relationships can end up affecting our present day lives. In this episode, I discuss how traumatic past relationships can be and how to heal and move forward. I also answer a question from someone who is just now see the effects of a past relationship, and someone healing from a toxic relationship.Timestamps:0:00: Intro 6:31: Teaching 20:13: Listener Question 135:53: Listener Question 255:25: OutroFor this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/24I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Unfortunately in today's world, having an unhealthy relationship with our body can be all too common. I, for one, have felt like I am at war with my body for many years. Today I talk openly about my own struggles with body image. I also answer 2 questions: one from someone who has always felt like the "fat friend" and one from someone who has stopped eating due to anxiety.If you feel like you need help with an eating disorder, please reach out to the National Eating Disorder Hotline at (800) 931-2237 or visit their website here.Timestamps:0:00: Intro 5:13: Teaching18:18: Listener Question 1 29:19: Listener Question 240:24: OutroFor this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/23I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Cheating can be traumatic for all people involved. Not only does it involve heartbreak, but it involves an extra layer of betrayal that can take time to heal. In this episode, I discuss the cheating wound, and I answer a question from someone who cheats and is looking to change, and also someone who is having a hard time moving on from being cheated on.Timestamps:0:00: Intro5:12: Teaching25:35: Listener Question 141:41: Listener Question 257:16: OutroFor this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/22I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

The holidays are a great time for healing. Oftentimes our families can trigger childhood wounds, and by bringing awareness to these triggers we can begin to heal our family patterns. In this episode, I discuss family patterns and triggers, and how to heal them. I also answer two questions about how to stay sane this holiday season, and how to start healing your relationship with your family. Timestamps:0:00: Intro4:14: Teaching 14:25: Listener Question 126:45: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/21I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

The effects of bullying can manifest in our lives in all different ways. In this episode, I dive into the details of how I recently healed layers of my bully wound by looking at the effects of “mean girls” from my high school, and what it looked like for me to do the inner work around this trauma. I also answer a question from someone with low self-esteem from childhood bullying, and someone who wants to move forward and stop caring what childhood bullies think of them today. Timestamps:0:00: Intro5:46: Teaching26:10: Listener Question 1 41:53: Listener Question 2Looking for more on healing from bullying? Check out Episode 15: Healing from Bully: How Being Bullied in the Past May be Affecting Your Present.For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/20I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

With a world filled with social media, many of us find ourselves comparing our lives to others more than ever before. The result of this is comparison syndrome. In today’s episode, I discuss why comparison holds us back, what I’ve learned about comparison in my own life, how to start looking at our triggers around comparison and jealousy, and why it’s important to not let comparison stop you from following your dreams.Timestamps:0:00: Intro4:14: Teaching14:25: Listener Question 127:19: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/19I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

Sobriety has been such a gift I’ve given myself, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. In this episode, I give an update of where I’m at with my sober journey, and I discuss the moment I knew I needed to change my relationship with alcohol. I also answer two questions - the first is from a person looking for advice on how to stick with sobriety (especially when times are hard) and the second is about how forgiveness is a key step throughout our sober journeys.Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:31 Teaching26:02 Listener Question 142:48 Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/18I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I discuss why I believe life isn't fair and how when we can let go of the lie that life was ever supposed to be fair, we can empower ourselves to move forward and heal. I also talk about how healing from childhood sexual assault taught me this lesson and how by realizing life was never meant to be fair, I was able to move forward. I also answer 2 questions - one about someone's relationship with their alcoholic mother and an athlete who's injury has left them no longer able to play sports and how this has left them feeling sad and that life isn't fair. Timestamps:0:00: Intro6:58: Teaching24:50: Listener Question 142:37: Listener Question 2*This episode contains discussion of child sexual assault. Listener discretion advised.For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/17I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!Sending you so much love!

When healing from the death of loved ones, the feeling of guilt can often arise. In this episode, I talk about how guilt is normal while grieving, and different times when I felt guilty throughout the grieving process. I also answer questions from a person who feels guilty dating after the loss of a husband and a listener who feels guilt for not being so grief-stricken.Timestamps:0:00: Intro4:54: Teaching21:44: Listener Question 134:55: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/16I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Bullying can be very traumatic and have long-term effects in our lives. In this episode, I talk about how bullying from my past was affecting my present, how being raped manifested as a bully wound, and how I recognized my trigger and healed this pattern. I also answer questions about how a past rumor can still affect the present, and how to heal from the trauma of being bullied by a "mean girl."Timestamps:0:00: Intro 4:09: Teaching20:34: Listener Question 144:22: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/15I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

This episode is in response to a TikTok I created that went viral about what she's learned during her first 6 months of being sober. In this episode I discuss why I decided to go sober for 12 months, how often I was drinking before, how to handle boredom, the upsides and downsides of sobriety, advice for feeling your feelings, and if I plan on drinking again.Timestamps0:00 Intro3:10: Question 110:29: Question 217:47: Question 325:22: Question 430:22: Question 5For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/14I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Trust is essential to the healing journey and connecting to yourself. Many people don't know how to trust themselves after trauma, so in this episode, Amanda discusses why learning to trust yourself is so important, what it means when you feel unsupported by the universe, how to connect to your intuition, and how to trust yourself when making a big decision.Timestamps:0:00: Intro1:01: Teaching 10:46: Listener Question 122:31: Listener Question 238:00: Listener Question 3For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/13I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Friendship breakups are really common, but often are filled with shame and can be left unhealed. Though these breakups are painful, friendships can be one of our greatest teachers and it's important to take the time to heal and move through the grieving process. In today's episode, I answer questions about the end of friendships, healing from gossip culture, and how to know when it's time to end a friendship.Timestamps:0:00: Intro0:36: Teaching9:42: Listener Question 124:07: Listener Question 2For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/12I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

On average, people spend 30% of their lives working. Because of this, it is so important to find a career that is fulfilling and can bring you happiness. In this episode, I answer questions from someone who is unhappy working 24/7, a teacher who feels burnt out, and a person who finds themselves unhappy in their first job. Timestamps:0:00: Intro9:36: Listener Question 124:56: Listener Question 2 38:38: Listener Question  3For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/11I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Many of us use unhealthy coping strategies as a way to avoid feeling our feelings. In today's episode, Amanda answers questions about three different unhealthy coping strategies - using alcohol, food, and shopping to cope with difficult feelings - and how to become curious about why we may be using these unhealthy coping mechanisms and how to start finding healthy ways to engage with life and process our feelings.Timestamps:0:00: Intro8:01: Listener Question 123:00: Listener Question 2For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/10I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Anxiety can make it difficult to live in the present moment. In this episode, Amanda talks about why so many people suffer from constant anxiety, how to start looking at your fears and anxiety, how to start grounding and relieving your anxiety today, and how to start healing your anxious thoughts.Timestamps:0:00: Intro5:59: Listener Question 123:21: Listener Question 2For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/9I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sexual Assault and rape is all too common. These traumatic events often leave survivors feeling lost, confused, and hopeless. In this episode, Amanda discusses why it was not your fault, how to move past self-blame, how to forgive yourself, and the importance of healing this immense trauma. *Trigger warning - this episode goes into detail about sexual violence.Timestamps:0:00: Intro3:25: Teaching13:39: Listener Question 1 36:52: Listener Question 259:29: OutroFor this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/8I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Heartbreak is inevitable. Everyone experiences heartbreak at one time or another, and it's important that we allow ourselves to move through the feelings and to go through the stages of grief. In today's episode Amanda answers questions on break ups, ghosting, and how to forgive yourself for breaking up with someone.Timestamps:0:00: Intro6:16: Listener Question 122:47: Listener Question 236:55: Listener Question 3For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/7I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Relationships can be challenging, and also very rewarding. In this episode, Amanda offers advice on how to become more conscious in your relationship, as well as answers questions about how to let go of controlling your partner, what to do when you've been in an on and off again relationship, and what to do if your partner doesn't support you making changes in your life.Timestamps:0:00: Intro5:08: Listener Question 126:34: Listener Question 2For this episode's shownotes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/6I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Amanda decides to go back to basics for this episode, and discuss what self-love, how to get in touch with your inner child, and why forgiveness is so important. Timestamps:0:00: Intro2:29: What is Self-Love and Why is it important?20:06: What is the Inner Child?37:50: Why is Forgiveness important?For the episode show notes, visit: https://newviewadvice.com/5I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Suicide and suicidal thoughts are all too common in today's society. In this episode, Amanda answers questions about how to heal from the death of loved ones who have died by suicide and how to handle and ask for help when suicidal thoughts arise.For this episode's show notes, please visit: https://newviewadvice.com/4If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Please take care of yourself.I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Grief can be one of life's greatest teachers, but if we don't deal with our grief it can start to wreak havoc in our lives, which is why Amanda is so passionate about discussing grief and the grieving process. In this episode, Amanda answers questions about grieving the death of a parent, balancing grief and motherhood, and how to transmute our anxieties about death into momentum to live life to the fullest in every present moment.Timestamps0:00: Intro9:12: Listener Question 123:24: Listener Question 2 35:57: Listener Question 3For the full show notes, visit https://newviewadvice.com/3I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

No one expected to live through a pandemic. We have spent a lot of time discussing our physical health, but in this episode, Amanda dives into how the pandemic has impacted our mental health. Amanda answers questions on dealing with feeling depressed, being in a relationship while quarantining, and becoming sober curious. Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:57 Listener Question 117:12 Listener Question 2For the full show notes, visit https://newviewadvice.com/2I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In this first episode of New View Advice, Amanda introduces herself and the podcast. You’ll learn why Amanda started New View Advice and how it’s different from other advice columns, her goals for the podcast, topics you can expect moving forward, and how to submit questions for future episodes. Timestamps 0:00 Intro1:06 Why did I start this podcast?11:25 What kind of topics can you expect to hear?13:09 How can you submit a question?Check out the full show notes at https://newviewadvice.com/1I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

In “New View Advice,” host Amanda Durocher answers listener questions by offering healing-centered advice about various topics, including relationships, trauma, rape, grief, mental health, and so much more. I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!