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Ngibingelele Mam Lady-D kanye ne thimba lakho,ngingumlalel wokhozi FM... ngicela ukungadalulwa igama ..ngino Baba wenganesisebancane sobabile ngina 20 iminyaka no mntwana wethu usemncane, mina MaKhoza ngaqala ukudla imishanguzo yesandulela ngculaza from ngisazalwa kodwakusukela siqala ukuthandana kwami naye azange ngimtshele ukuthi ngidlaimishanguzo ngoba bengingazi nokut singagcina siba nengane nokuthi uzimisele yiningami nganingakaboni lutho, namanje ngisamfihlele, kodwa manje lento iyangidlaangazi ngizomtshela kanjani ngoba sixabana njalo sibanga nento engekho manjengiyasaba angazi ngizomtshela kanjani ... Kodwa ngibona sengathi uyangithandakodwa ukumtshela angazi ngizomtshela kanjani ngicela owake waba nenkingaenjengalena angisize angicebise , ngiyazi angingedwa baningi abantu abangakazebabatshela ophathina babo ukuthi badla imishanguzo yesandulelangculazi..Ngiyazibuza kulabo abaphumela obala babatshela, bona benza kanjani ..ngiyabonga Mam Khzoa nakumallei woKHOZI FM.

Ngiyabingelela mam Khoza nethimba loKHOZIFM nomlaleliohmab phambili, ngenkinga Mah angazi noma ngiqale kuphi angazi,ngingowesifazane ona 29,ngifundile nje impela yikho nje ukthi umsebenzi angutholi. Nayi inkinga yami Mah, ngi first born ekhaya sizalwa sibabili, ubaba sewashonasasala no Mah, uBaba wayeyi phoyisa, sasijabule ekhaya then wa cheater uBaba ,emuva kwalokho lokho impilo yajika waba physical abusive ku mama wethu...Kwaze kwaba uyadlula emhlabeni uBaba ngo 2009.(angazi noma ngifela ukufana nobaba yini)Sakhula nje sikhuliswa uMamah ngaphasa uMatric ngayofunda Ongoye, by Godgrace ngathola I bursary ngaze ngaqeda ukufunda.Into eyenza ngithi uMah uyangizonda nayi, lomfana pngilamayo ongilamayo una 23unezingane ezu 4 zonke lezingane zonke zondliwa umama, wathi emithise leyesithathu ngathi mina akabuye esikoleni azogada ingane yakhe " amazwi ka mamaathi ngeke abuye ngoba uzophazamiseka esikoleni" nakhona uze ayofunda eNkandlaingoba ubesehluphile ezikoleni ezingasekhaya, bayiletha abokubo kantombazane lengane Ine nyanga eyodwa nje VO,Ngiyazama ukwenza yonke into ukujabulisa umama but not even once wake wathiuyabonga, ngonyaka ka 2022 July kwaphuma imali kwi policy ka Baba it was thatmuch kwaku R12000 uMama mina wanginika uR200 wayithatha leyomali wenzela loongilamayo ukuthi ambulwe ingubo, 2023 May kwaphida kwaphuma enye imaliwanginika R500 yena wamnika R3500 excluding le enikwa Lezi ngane Zakhe ezu 4.Noma nginganzama uMah asoze mina wangikhetha uncamela abantu bangaphandlekunami, angiqashwa ngisho ezindawen ezidinga only Matric, kwathiwa nginenkingayemimoya/imimoya ka mama ayiganiswanga, uMama uyazi kodwa akakhathali, 2weeks back ngicele ukuthi angiphe imali yokuya kwa Nongoma komunye uBabawesiZulu okuthiwa uyasiza... Wangnika u R200 a day after lapho lo ongilamayowafona, umah wamfakela R1500 same time.Mah lendaba inde futhi ngiyabon amandla asengiphelele, ngicela ningsiza...uma kunjkwezniwa njani.Abazali bethu bayasiqatha ngendella abaenza ngayo, ukuthibasikhethe basibangela inzondo engenzsidingo ngoba akasiphathi ngendlela efanayonjengezingane zakhe. ..Ngicela ukuzwa kumlallei nakwabanye abazali ukuthi intoenje yenziwa njani? Angibonge futhi ngixolise ukuba mude mam KHOZA.

: Sawubona sis Thembeka, ngiyabingelela kuwena nomlaleliwoKHOZI FM. Ngike ngizwe niyabasiza abantu ababhekane nezinkingaezahlukahlukene khona lapha emskaazweni. Ngicela usizo lana, ngiyintombazeeneminyaka ewu 29, ngaba nenkinga ngadlwengulwa ngabantu engibabizangokuthi ngoMalume , babili labantu , konke lokhu bakwenza ngesikhathi ngihlalakubo emakhaya.Ngicela ningisize ngolibo fuzo phecelezi DNA test, ngidinga nokuthi bajezengabakwenza kumina futhi kunengane eyaba umphumela yalokhu okuthi mangabeingivakashele ngiyibuke ngivele ngibone bona ngqo abenzi bobubi,umoya wamiawuzixoleli, sengike ngazama nokuthi ngithathe impilo yami kodwa akuphumeleli, nginokuzinyanya abakwenza kumina. Sebake bazama ukungisizaesibhedlela kodwa angikhulumanga ngokuningi, ngidinga nokululekwa minanengane yami, kunjalo nje nengane abayinakile iyasokola. Ngiyafisa ukuyixoxaindaba ngomlomo wami ngicela ningifihle igama lami.

Sawubona mamkhoza ngicela ungifihle nginenkingaLana ngihlushwa umntwana, ingane yomfana enenminyaka ewu 15,uyaganga kakhulu ungenelwe ubugebengu utshotsha imali angene emziniyabantu ayiboleka, kuningi mam Dudu akwenzayo, uganga kakhuluamaphoyisa athi ( he is under age) udinga ama (social worker) if ngiyakuwo awangisizi nawo. Ngihlukumezekile kakhulu emoyeni ngisanda kwedlulelwaumama ongizalayo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule kwathiwa une depressionnayo edalwe nguye lomntwana ethatha imali kamama, even nase bankuthatha imali ayitransfere, Umama washawa istroke ne depression wadlulaemhlabeni,manje uhlukumeza wonke umuntu even ekhaya angisazi manjesengifisa ngisho ukufa makunje angisazi ngenze njani ngisizeni, ngidinganingicebise ukuthi ngenze njani makunje.Lommntwana uno 15yrs amaphoyisa awangisizi ngicela usizo noma Ilanaokugcinwa khona abantwana abangezwa please manje nami angikho safetylana engikhona kufika umphakathi uzomfuna ngilele ebusuku angisazi manjengenze njani. Ngicela ningisize ngingenza njani uma kunje ngoba lomuntuusazokhula manje ngiyabuka kusaya phambili nalomkhuba. Anonymous.

Ngibingelele Mam Khoza nabalaleli bomsakazo UKHOZI FM, ngicelaukuba u-anonymous udaba lami lumi kanje ngingowesifazane oneminyaka ewu 40 kushukuthi ngo2019 ngahlukana nobaba wabantwana bami abathathu kwathi 2020 ngathola omunye ubhuti wazibikawathi kimi naye unabantwana abathathu bomama oyedwa...Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngazitholela ngokwami ukuthi wayeqamba amanga zizalwa omamaabahlukene bobathu. Kanti angibuzanga elangeni ngisazothola ezinye ezintathu ngaphezulu kushukuthiseziwu 6 enye yesi 7 kune story eside ngayo nakhona azange angitshele ngazitholela ngokwaminakhona eqale wayiphika nomama abawu 7 ngathula angangambuza for 2 years ngisazitshela ukuthikushukuthi usalinde ukuthi athole isikhathi esiryt sokuthi angitshele, ngaphinda ngazitholela ngokwamiukuthi wayeqamba amanga nangalomsebenzi athi uyawenza nendawo asebenza kuyo usho ikhelielingekho.Akugcinanga lapho ngisamangazwe ilokho ngathola nokuthi udla ama ARV's akangitshelangangaqhubeka ngathula ngifuna ukumbona ukuthi ungumuntu onjani ikahlekahle ngathula futhi unyakasenginabo nobufakazi balokho sengazi ngisho idate yokuyolanda eclinic imishwanguzo, aqambeamanga kimi athi akayi emsebenzini uyaphumula ngimubuke nje ngoba ngabengazi ukuthiuyangikhohlisa..Kulonyaka sekungunyaka wesithathu ngambuza ngakhokonke lokhu waphika mam Dudu waphikaakangavuma ngisho okukodwa ngathi sengimkhombisa bonke ubufakazi bakho engangenza sho ngiyabuqoqa kwaba ima evuma yonke into wangibuza ukuthi ngikuthathaphi lokhu ngathiakubalulekile lokho..ngabe sengiya eclinic ngenhlanhla unkulunkulu unami ngathola ukuthi ngiNegative ngidla uprep ngabuya ngamkhombisa icard namaphilisi futhi ngiyawalanda inyanganenyanga.. enjalo nje akakwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu uvele akhulume noma ikanjani mangithingiyamtshela ukuthi indlela akhuluma ngayo nami angiyithandii ��athi ngifuna ukumphatha..Ngicela abalaleli bokhozi fm abangahlulwa yilutho bangibonise ukuthi into ekanje imiswa kanjaningoba angiliboni ikusasa la ngibona impilo yamanga kusuka ekuqalen ngicela ningilaphe ngixolisekakhulu ukuba mude.

Sawubona mam Lady-D nethimba lakho. Mah wamingokuhlala ngise Mthwalume kwaqolqolo igama ngicela ukuligodla.Indaba yami ikanje mah nginenkinga nginengane eneminyaka elishumi10yrs manje shukuthi ngaba sebudlelwaneni uBaba wayo kuthe sengina4months ngikhulelwe wathi angisikhiphe isisu, ngoba ethi yena akahlangenenaleyo ngane yena, ethi unomama wengane yakhe.Mam Khoza ngaye ngavuma wanginika imali yokuthi angihambengiyokhipha isisu ngayithatha kodwa angizange ngiye laphongangayikhipha ingane ngaze ngayoteta engekho empilweni yengane.Kuthe isikhona ingane yangaphila kahle ifuna lezinto zamasiko akubokwayongagcina ngiyihambisile khona kubo wayivuma uBaba wayo ngabanethemba lokuthi usezoyondla ngoba ubengayondli engenandaba ngobayayingaziwa nakubo manje seyaziwa shukuthi sezoyondla kantingiyaziphuphela nje waqhubeka nokungayondli ngatshela ukhuluh wenganeukuthi akayondli ingane uyise, wathi umuntu omdala wathi uzokhulumanaye kuthe kusenjalo ngambona eseyikhipha imali uBaba wenganeeyondla ngo R300 ngathula ngamukela lokho noMawakhe athi angamukeleloku anginika kona. Kuhambe kwahamba ingane yagula kwadingeka ukuthiiyohlala khona, yahamba ingane yohlala khona kubo,impela yaba ngcono.Kunesivumelwano mina noBaba wengane esaba naso, isivumelwanosokuthi mhla ethatha unkosikazi angitshele ukuze ngizothatha ingane yamiibuyele ngakumina ngoba angithandi ukuthi ingane yami ihlale ne-stepmother ngikhona ngoba ngiyazazi iz-tepmother ukuthi zinjani ngihlalenazo kakhulu wavuma kahle.Kwenzeka wayakolobola wangangitshela njengesivumelwano sethungazitholela mina ukuthi unonkosikazi ngase ngiyasuka ngayolanda inganekubo ngoba unkosikazi wehlala kubo futhi kanti lowo nkosikazi yilowo mMahwengane engangibanga naye. Manje mah akasayondli nhlobo inganenangenkathi ihlala kubo wesho umama wakhe ethi akayikhiphi imaliyengane ubaba wayo kwenye inyanga ngicoshacoshe izinto zenganengihambise.Kemanje ma akasoyondli nhlobo uma ngimfonela ngimubuza ngemaliyengane uvele athi uzoyondlelani ingane angayiboni. Manje angisazi ukuthingenzenjani ngicela ukuboniswa ngididekile. Ngiyabonga

ngithanda nobaba wezingane zami ezimbili sesine minyaka eyishumi sithandanasaqala kuthanda ngisafunda, yena ubengasafundi ngoba mdala kimi ngeminyaka since nginayesekukaningi engithembisa ukungilobola uthi angisho ekhaya mase kufika isikhathi uvele ajike njesekwenze kwaze kabili hhayi ukuthi imali akanoyo unayo if ube serious ngabe kade ngagana sedlalengami khakhulu engijolela ngakubo ngibe nikhona kubo ngiya naye njalo ngo december manjeangisathandi ukuya ngakubo ngoba bayangibuka nje ukuthi nasi isilima manje angazi yini ekumelengiyenze ngididekile ngapha akafuni ngiyosebenza ulokhu ethi ulungisela ikusasa lethu ,minanezingane zethu.Uma ngimbuza njalo kuthi i future kanjani singashadile akangiphenduli ngicela i zeluleko kubalalelibomsakazo Ukhozi

Ngingowesifazane onemunyaka ewu 36, nginabantwana abawu 3 from obaba abehlukene,owokuqala ngamuthola kwa Matric,owesibili kumyeni engaba unkosikazikuye owesithathu ku boyfriend engamuthola emnva kokuthi ngithatheisinqumo sokushiya umyeni wami.Loludaba Lude mhlampe mayikhona indlela singaluxoxa ocingweni Kodwa inqikithi ithi sinomyeni simbaxa mbili sifisa ukulungisa izinto kodwamanje umyeni wami uyamesaba umama wakhe kakhulu.Ngapha ngino boyfriend ngiyamthanda konke engikuthanda ngomuntuwesilisa uyikho uyakwenza kahle ngeneliseke ngakho konke lokhuengangikuswele kumnyeni, inkinga yaqala mhla esengibeka isandla ngizenginezibazi zakhe kodwa okunye okuyinkinga kakhulu kuye he went throughserious depression ngenxa yokulahlekelwa umsebenzi and abuse yasukalapho.As for umuyeni wami as much as sayona mina bengizimisele ukudela konkebuyele kwami kaze yekele kumuthanda nengane yami iyangidinga nezintozesizulu zithi impela dadewethu ikukhomba emumnva naloyamundenisangithanda inkinga ngaye soze ashitsha.Umubuzo omile uthi what about me? what about what I want ?what aboutwhat I need? What about how I feel? What about what makes me happy. Cela ukuyibeka ezithebeni kumndeni woKHOZI FM.