Inner Bonding

Self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! But the ego wounded self in all of us exhibits some degree of narcissism, and discovering where you fall on this continuum can lead to deeper learning and healing. Also, discover how you can likely know a narcissist in advance of getting involved.

Are you stuck in some aspect of your life, or stuck with depression and a lack of motivation to take the loving actions for yourself? Discover some of the false beliefs that may be keeping you stuck and what to do about it.

Were you taught to believe that loving yourself is selfish? Discover the difference between taking care of yourself from your wounded self or from your loving adult. Also, discover whether you are inadvertently contributing to the darkness of our planet, and what you can do about it.

Failure! What do you feel when you think about failing? Inadequate? Unworthy? Unlovable? Have you learned to link failure to your value as a person? Does the fear of failure stop you from doing what you really want to do?

Do you know when you are being needy? Do you know the difference between needs and neediness? We all have needs that can only be met by another person, and this is vastly different than neediness. Learn what creates and heals neediness.

Are you paralyzed with fear in some aspect of your life? Is this keeping you stuck? Is the fear of the unknown keeping you stuck, not doing the things you really want to do? How are you viewing success or failure that might be keeping you stuck? Discover how to get yourself unstuck – how to feel the fear and do it anyway!

Many people are confused regarding what a boundary is. Discover the big different between what you may believe is a boundary that come from the fear of your wounded self, and an actual boundary that comes from the love of your loving adult. Discover the major difference between actions that are controlling but that you might be calling a boundary, and actual boundaries.

Discover the underlying reasons you might be fearful of committing to a relationship, or to a job, or even to your personal and spiritual growth. Learn how to heal commitment phobia.

In this podcast Dr. Margaret Paul talks about both physical and emotional vitality and how connected they are.

Mucking your life is like mucking a horse stall of pooh. It about learning to clear out the pooh - the fears and false beliefs of your wounded self that are limiting you. It’s about moving beyond resistance and procrastination regarding learning to love yourself enough to create a life of love and freedom, rather than a life filled with the muck that comes from self-abandonment. Are you ready to learn to clear out the muck in your life?

Whether or not you have pets or other animals in your life, you can learn much about yourself from how animals react to you, and you can learn much about others from how their pets react to others. Discover the many good reasons for having animals in your life and how they can contribute much to your physical and mental health.

Most people who are not in a relationship want to attract a loving relationship, but often find themselves, over and over, attracting a needy, unloving, or unavailable partner. Discover what you need to do to attract a loving and available partner – a partner who is not needy, who is emotionally available, and who is available for a commitment.

We all want to experience real love, but how do you know when what you are experiencing is real love, or if what you are experiencing is infatuation or emotional dependency? Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation or emotional dependency? They are light years apart!

How often do you find that there are not only things you know you have to do, but things you want to do and somehow never get around to doing them? Do you find yourself procrastinating over and over and you can’t figure out why?

You might be emotionally dependent without knowing it – many people are. Discover in this podcast what emotional dependency is and how to attain emotional freedom and loving relationships.

Dr. Margaret Paul explores how to resolve conflict in ways that bring you closer to your loved ones. She teaches you how to learn from conflict rather than avoid it or give yourself up to keep the peace.

In this podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, uncovers the two secrets to connect with your higher guidance. Not only will these two secrets help you achieve at-will divine connection, but they will also help you manifest abundance and lead a happier and healthier life. Dr. Margaret also gives specific tips on how to raise your frequency, which will allow you to have healthy thoughts and a healthy lifestyle. By sharing a few case studies of her clients, she also teaches you how to overcome challenges when it comes to accessing your inner guidance.

Discover what creates those awful feelings of inner emptiness and aloneness, and how inner emptiness affects relationships. In this podcast, learn what you can do to feel the fullness of love within, so that you can share love with your loved ones.

In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul says that in the face of great suffering, such as the war in Ukraine, it doesn’t help to take on the suffering of other people. She continues that what does help is becoming a spiritual flashlight, which she explains further in detail in the podcast. She also shares the concept of collective consciousness and the hundredth monkey theory where once a number of people or animals learn a certain behavior or think a certain thing, suddenly more and more people are thinking or doing this thing. When we’re aware that we can be the person to tip consciousness, we can focus on being a spiritual flashlight that shines a light on others. Dr. Margaret also explains the differences between operating from the left side and the right side of the brain, and how it’s affecting what’s happening in the world.

In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talks about how your intention, as well as others’ intention, affects your energy. She cites how compassion can handle both negative energy that you’re sending to others and negative energy that others are sending to you. Additionally, Dr. Margaret provides several tips on how to tune into the people in your life and determine whether they energize you or deplete your energy. She also shares ways how to protect yourself from being depleted.

Dr. Margaret Paul starts this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast with the story of the childhood of Dr. Erika Chopich, the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Despite growing up in an abusive environment, Dr. Erika has an extraordinary lightness of being. Dr. Margaret then explains that lightness of being are those moments of enlightenment. It’s when we’re deeply connected with our beautiful soul and our higher guidance and receive the love, peace, and joy that spirit is always giving us. More importantly, she shares what we can choose to be our guiding lights so that we can experience moments of lightness of being.

In this podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talks about the difference between the intent to control other people and the intent to be loving to ourselves and to others. She cites several controlling behaviors people use, including being nice and asking questions, and how these could affect our relationships. Dr. Margaret also shares a few stories about her clients that help us better understand what it means to be loving rather than controlling. She also teaches us several ways to determine whether we’re being controlling or being loving in any situation.

What makes you feel connected with or disconnected from the important people in your life? Do you believe that in a good relationship, it is your partner's job to make you feel loved and worthy? Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship?

Do you believe your self-worth is in your looks and performance and if you do, is this working for you and bringing you joy? Do you fully understand the difference between your ego wounded self and your essence - your soul self? You might not know the truth of who you are, but if you have a pet, your pet knows!

Do you have problems speaking up for yourself when others are being uncaring? Do you even know what it looks like to speak up for yourself? How often to you withhold your truth from someone important to you because you are afraid of their anger? Get clear on when it's appropriate to speak up for yourself and when it isn't, and the major difference between speaking up to love yourself or to control the other person.

Are you love or approval addicted? Many people are. If you frequently feel alone and empty inside, and you often seek to get love, attention, and approval from others, you might be love-addicted. The good news is that you can heal from love and approval addiction.

How do you respond to your own and others' anger, hurt, anxiety, depression, fear, shame, and guilt? Do you believe you are responsible for causing these feelings in others, and others are responsible for causing your feelings? Discover some of the more common ways we dump our feelings onto others, and ways we take responsibility for others’ feelings, and what to do about this.

This year, make two New Year's Resolution lists - one for your external goals and one for who you want to be. And there is one New Year's resolution can change your life, heal your relationships, create health and well-being, and heal our planet.

Is conflict something you do anything to avoid, or do you embrace conflict as a wonderful opportunity to learn? Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Learn how to avoid fighting in conflict situations and what needs to happen to resolve conflict.

Do you sometimes feel unseen and unheard? Do your conversations with others or with your partner sometimes feel like a one-way street? We become invisible to others regarding our feelings and needs and being heard and seen when our feelings and needs are invisible to ourselves.

Are you in a relationship with a partner who is addicted to sex or porn? Is it okay to say no to sex? While the answer to this question might seem simple, discover the subtleties within this question, and learn what would be loving to yourself with a sex addicted partner.

Do you know what triggers you and why? What do you do when a person or situation triggers your stress response? We create conflict and unhealthy communication when we act out in response to our triggers. Discover how to heal your triggers so that you can stay centered and connected rather than reactive.

Discover that opportunities to choose love occur in each moment, and that loving yourself and sharing your love with others is not about nature vs. nurture, but about nature and nurture. Each moment that you choose to make loving your highest priority, you will feel wholeness and joy.

Are you aware of the limiting beliefs that may be controlling your life? Discover some of the false beliefs that you might not be aware of, and how to heal them. Operating from truth rather than from your programmed false beliefs is life-changing!

Were you adequately mothered? Do you still have a little baby within you who did not receive loving holding? Do you feel a deep need for affection and holding that you don’t know how to get met? Are you confusing this need with sex? Learn about the difference between the need for mothering and sexuality, and how to heal the empty place within that may still need loving holding. The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.

Are you sometimes mystified when you believe you have been loving to your children, to a partner, to friends and family, and they don’t feel loved by you, or they disconnect from you? Discover the underlying reason others might not feel your love and what to do about it.

Who do you trust the most - other people, your wounded self, or your Guidance? Do you believe that your Guidance is controlling - that if you open to your Guidance, you will be told to do things you don't want to do? Or are you afraid to open to your Guidance for fear that is nothing there? Learn how to shift out of being guided by your wounded self and into trusting your guidance.

Discover why you can’t heal without a spiritually connected loving adult, and what to do when you get triggered into your ego wounded self. Becoming a trustworthy loving adult is essential for healing yourself and your relationships, and you become trustworthy as you learn to love yourself and share your love with others.

Most of us want loving relationships, but many people are doing the opposite of what they need to do to create loving relationships. Discover what you might be doing that’s ruining your relationships and what else you can do.

Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Does the communication between you and your partner often get confusing? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication, and that they can’t resolve their problems. Discover the good reasons for this, what to do about it, and which forms of communication cause problems and which work to resolve issues and create intimacy.

Do you have the courage to love both yourself and others, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love, and why it's so important to make love your highest priority. Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life, but without it, life is empty. If you feel some inner emptiness, it’s likely because you are allowing fear to stop you from loving yourself and others.

Do you sometimes find yourself angry and blaming in your relationships and you have no idea why you are behaving this way? Find out what is behind the need to blame. Discover the physical and emotional issues that your anger, blame and judgment are causing you, and what you can do to heal an addiction to blame.

Do you believe that if you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? Were you brought up to believe that taking care of yourself is selfish, and that to be a good person you need to be self-sacrificing? Discover what might be stopping you from learning to love yourself and take loving actions on your own behalf.

Most of us like to think we are honest people, yet how often do you deny or withhold your truth to get approval or avoid conflict? Wouldn’t you rather know the truth, even if it's very painful, rather than be lied to? Isn't it even more painful to be lied to? Part of authentic love is being willing to tell the truth and receive the truth.

It’s more important than ever to learn how to access our right mind – our right brain spiritually connected loving adult. But once we get triggered into our lower left-brain fear-based programmed wounded self, it can be a challenge to get back in our right mind. It’s vitally important to know the pathway back because personal and planetary healing can happen only when we operate from our right mind.-

Have you lost the wonderful feelings of love and intimacy you had at the beginning of your relationship? It's never too late to reclaim them, but first you need to understand why they are gone. Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship, but do you have trouble giving and receiving love? Discover what fears might be in the way of this for you.

Do you sometimes keep trying to connect with someone who is unavailable? Do you believe that you need to be connected with others in order to feel validated and connected with yourself? Do you have a connection addiction? Connection with others is vital for all of us, but when we disconnect from ourselves to avoid pain, we lose the possibility of connecting with others.

Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.

Have you been trying hard to think positively and visualize what you want, yet manifestation is eluding you and you’re staying stuck in your life? Are you getting frustrated that nothing you try is working to manifest what you want? Discover what might be in the way and learn about the deeper level that is essential for manifesting your dreams.man

When a loved one gets stuck in the state of feeling like a victim, and may be angry or raging, you might be able to be a lifeline for them. It can bring you great joy to learn to be a channel of love for them when they are in the rabbit hole of the darkness, fear and despair of their wounded self.