Inner Bonding

Confused about what to eat? Do you find yourself resisting or procrastinating taking loving care of yourself? Are you oblivious of the physical and emotional effects of food in your body? Do you eat well and exercise, yet still find yourself lacking the health and vitality you want?

Are you approval addicted? Are you often anxious about what others think of you? Are your good feelings dependent upon how others feel about you? Are you giving yourself the love and approval you need, or are you pulling on others for approval?

Are you feeling sad, empty, anxious, stressed, angry, addicted, or depressed? Discover exactly what you are doing to cause your suffering and what you can do about it.

Are you looking for a loving partner, or do you want to improve your current relationship? Are you already in a healthy relationship and you want to make it even better? Loving relationships don’t just happen, so discover the actions people in successful relationships take.

Have you wondered about the difference between legitimate needs and neediness? Are you aware of the system you have created with your partner that may be causing you pain and not meeting your needs? Do you take responsibility for your partner's needs while ignoring your own?

Do you frequently feel that you do so much for others, yet end up feeling unappreciated by them? Do you yearn to be listened to and seen and understood and appreciated by someone? Discover the real source of this yearning and how to heal it.

People who are very different from each other are often attracted to each other. Discover why this can be a very positive thing in your relationship and how to resolve the conflicts that may arise. Our unhealed issues come up in all our relationships - with partners, at work, with friends and family - giving us the opportunity to do our inner healing work.

The feeling of belonging is an essential part of experiencing a full life, yet many people walk around with the painful feeling of not belonging. Discover how to create a deep sense of both inner and outer belonging.

Learn to practice awareness of your intent so you can move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Discover the power and potency of your intent in creating loving relationships.

Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? Discover how you can influence people to want to change, rather than trying to control them, which doesn't work at all. Learn about the things you might need to change in yourself in order to have a chance at creating change in your partner and in your relationship.

Which part of you do you put your trust in to guide your life - your mind or your soul? The spiritual journey is one of moving from ego wounded self being in control to heart and soul guiding your life. This shift is the key to inner peace and joy.

Relationships offer us a wonderful arena to learn, grow, and become more loving to ourselves and others, but whether or not this happens depends on your intention.

There is a huge difference between authentically caring for the joy of caring and caring to get something or avoid something. Discover the path to true authentically and connection with yourself and with your family and friends.

You were likely not taught that your feelings are a very powerful source of inner guidance. That you need to listen inside, being aware of your feelings so you can be present for the vital information they are offering you.

Do you have a pattern of attracting narcissists into your life? Discover why! Are you currently in a relationship with a narcissist and need help navigating it? Have you been in love with a narcissist and are now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learning process. Learn it now!

Discover some of the processes and activities you may be using addictively, to avoid your feelings and avoid responsibility for them. You can heal from your addictions!

Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection in your life.

No matter how much time you spend with your children, if you are tense instead of present and peaceful, they will not be getting what they need from you. When you are open to learning with your children and with yourself, you will not need to resort to authoritarian or permissive controlling behaviors.

I know that there is one choice we can make that will heal the divisions and conflicts and wars that we are current experiencing – one choice that will also heal animal abuse and climate change. Are you ready to make this one choice?

Is your wounded self in charge of your money? Are negative feelings about taking personal responsibility limiting you? Are conflicts over money causing problems in your relationships? Do you trust yourself to love yourself enough to take personal responsibility for your finances? Which do you believe comes first - happiness or financial success? You might be surprised at the answer!

Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation? The answer to whether or not you are really in love depends upon which part of you feels in love and which part of the other person you are in love with. Do you find yourself attracted to the same kind of person over and over and it never works out? Learn why!

If you are in a verbally or emotionally abusive relationship, awareness of it is the first step. Discover how you might be compliant in this relationship, what there is to learn, and how to know if it’s in your highest good to stay or leave.

Do you and your partner, family, or friends find yourselves in the blame game, blaming each other or blaming yourself? Does conflict resolution between you and another person get stuck in the blame game? Discover how loving it is to yourself to understand the profound difference between blame and personal responsibility.

The practice of the presence of love is one of the most powerful things we can learn to do, and it take courage to open to this practice. The practice of Inner Bonding and the practice of the presence of love will gradually move you out of fear and resistance and into peace and joy.

Take a lesson from Elvis Presley: Learn to define your own worth, instead of having to ask others, "Who am I?" While many people believe that self-worth comes from outside - from others' love and approval, as well as from financial success - this is not the case at all.

Do you get overwhelmed when too much is coming at you at once? When you feel overwhelmed, do you believe that it is about external circumstances? Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks, and life in general? Do you ever feel stressed that there will never be enough time to get everything done? Learn how to love yourself in the face of overwhelming and challenging situations.

Your anger can teach you many things if you choose to learn from it rather than use it as a means of controlling others. Anger at others is often a manifestation of a lack of self-care. Is your inner child angry at you for your lack of self-care and then projecting this onto others? Discover a powerful process for learning from and healing anger rather than dumping it on others or suppressing it.

If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty, or shamed, you are likely abandoning yourself both physically and emotionally. Learn how having compassion for yourself, rather than ignoring or judging yourself, can totally change your inner and relationship experience.

When you are acting out in ways that are unloving to you and to others, your wounded self is in charge. Learn how do you stop indulging your wounded self. Do you sometimes wonder if what you are hearing is actually from your guidance? Are you afraid that if you surrender to your spiritual guidance, you will be controlled by your guidance, lose your motivation, be taken advantage of or feel even more alone? Discover what really happens when you surrender!

Are you stuck being a slave of your wounded self, or do you trust your intuition? It is easy to trust and have faith when good things are happening, but it's harder when bad things happen, or things don't go our way. Life is much less stressful when we trust that we are always being guided in our highest good by the intelligence of love.

Mass murders, violent teens, school violence, drugs, greed - why? You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true? The greed and violence of the wounded self needs research and healing, and I'm offering some ideas regarding what needs to happen to heal.

Do you get impatient? Would you like to become a more patient person? When others are behaving in annoying ways, what do you do? If you get impatient, annoyed, irritated, judgmental, or angry, you are reacting from your wounded self. Discover how to become patient rather than react to others when you feel irritated by their behavior.

Are your adult children disconnected from you? Are you lovingly managing the grief of their disconnection? Are you taking your children's behavior personally and ending up feeling rejected by them? Many parents want to think that they have more control over their children than they do. Rather than feeling a victim of your children’s disconnection from you, discover how to begin finding the heart connections you may want in your life.

What are your beliefs about what another's love will give to you? Most of us grew up believing that another person should be our dependable source of love, yet this is the very thing that destroys many relationships. Are you using a partner or other people as your dependable source of love? We all need love. Discover the true dependable source of love and learn how to share love rather than always trying to get love from others.

Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Are you being loving to yourself and others, and walking your talk, when you tell your truth or withhold your truth? Would you rather know the truth with a partner, family, and friends, even if it's very painful, rather than continue to avoid knowing what you know?

If you spend all of your time just getting things done and do not allow time for your everyday creativity, you will not feel alive and content within. The old saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy" applies to all of us. We feel dull inside when we don't allow time for play, for creativity, for kindness to ourselves and others. Creativity is a wonderful form of play.

Are you tired of being overweight and/or food addicted? Do you find yourself unable to stop using food to fill your emptiness or assuage your anxiety and loneliness? Are you addicted to self-medicating with food? Have you tried unsuccessfully to heal a sugar addiction? Food addiction is challenging because you can't just abstain for long. Discover underlying causes of food addiction and how to begin healing.

Are you an emotional victim, pushing others away with your complaints? Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people? Are you in a relationship playing out the dance of victim, perpetrator, and sometimes rescuer? Do you know how to love yourself in the face of someone complaining to you and being a victim?

Do you find yourself automatically blaming yourself or others? Are you aware of the problems that blaming anger is causing you and your relationships? Find out what is behind the need to blame and what you can do about it in this podcast.

Do you feel a deep sense of self-worth? Do you know how to validate yourself or are you dependent for your sense of worth on others approval and validation? Changing from external definition of yourself to internal definition can move you out of anxiety, depression, and the fear of failure and into a deep sense of inner peace and joy.

People who experience Divine love have a sense of vitality and fullness of being, while those who don't often appear empty and lack vitality. Your spiritual guidance is always here for you, but do you know how to access it and achieve the wonderful feelings of oneness, peace, and joy? Learn the 'directions' from my guidance that can bring you much peace, joy, and the manifestation of your dreams!

Many people struggle with their spiritual connection. They want to hear their guidance, but this experience eludes them. Is it supposed to be this hard? No! But there are secrets to at-will Divine connection, which you will learn about in this podcast.

Do you struggle with knowing when to communicate with your partner about a problem and when to disengage? Are you reactive in conflict with people who are important to you, and you often end up feeling angry and miserable? Discover the two choices you need to make to lovingly disengage in conflict and what the process of lovingly disengaging looks like.

Caretaking is an addiction - giving to get something back rather than giving for the joy of it. Is your addiction to caretaking stopping you from knowing yourself and knowing what you want? Learn the difference between caring, caregiving, and caretaking and discover the various ways you might be caretaking.

Loving yourself does NOT mean sacrificing yourself! Giving yourself up is NOT the way to create a loving relationship. Learn how to love yourself and create a sense of safety regarding others’ passive-aggressive behavior, a partner’s withdrawal, a partner’s neediness, a person’s rage, and physical violence.

Are you aware of how your energy affects others, and do you care about this? How often do you ignore your inner feeling experience of someone - instead, allowing your outer, behavioral experience to govern your choices? Like does attract like, so focus on keeping your frequency high and you will attract loving people and manifest your dreams!

Crazymaking interactions lead to anger, frustration, confusion, and feelings of loneliness, heartache, and helplessness over the other person and over the interaction. Learn about what crazymaking is and what to do about it. Discover the only thing you CAN do!

How often do you scare yourself with your false beliefs? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe. But instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear due to our programmed thinking. But there is a way to feel safe! Discover what creates a true inner sense of safety.

Healing from trauma and childhood abuse is possible, but it’s not about “getting there.” It’s about letting go of unconsciously re-traumatizing yourself and being in the ongoing process of evolving in love. Discover some powerful processes for dealing with abuse memories, and for connecting with your higher guidance, which is vital for healing from our wounds.

We all want to be seen and heard accurately for who we really, and it’s heartbreaking when we are not seen or heard by the important people in our life. Learning to stay open to learning and lovingly manage this heartbreak, rather than trying to control the other person, is a major challenge in our relationships, as is even being aware of our intent. We often convince ourselves we are being loving when we are really trying to avoid facing our fears.