Inner Bonding

Do you want to be in a relationship but have a fear of commitment? Are you afraid to commit to a relationship for fear of losing yourself or losing your partner? Most of us desire the deeply fulfilling experience of intimacy, yet many people have two fears in the way of intimacy. Are you ready to have the wonderful experience of emotional intimacy in your life?

Do you believe that someone, other than you, has to give you compassion for you to manage your painful feelings? Do you have false beliefs getting in the way of self-compassion? Do you understand the difference between self-pity and self-compassion? Discover how to be compassionate with yourself, and how this choice moves you into your personal power and emotional freedom.

Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication. Discover which forms of communication work and lead to conflict resolution.

Are there odd or different things about you that you judge about yourself and try to hide from others? Discover some of the more common quirks and how to start accepting and embracing them.

Addictive behavior is often an attempt to avoid the deeply painful feeling of loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness concerning others and outcomes. Unmanaged feelings of loneliness can get you off track and into addictive behavior. You can learn to move beyond addictions and stay open hearted and connected with yourself, others and spirit by being open to learning the vital lessons of loneliness.

What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming you? Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince the other person to see things your way? Has this ever worked out well? Speaking with child-like sweetness is another common form of subtle control, as is blaming statements and turning things around on the other person. Discover some of your subtle forms of control and how else to communicate.

Discover the vast difference between personal power and power over others. Discover how you can achieve the personal power to manifest your dreams and the power to stay centered in the face of fear. Do you have the common false belief that if you become personally empowered, you will end up alone? Discover that nothing could be further from the truth!

Full-bodied laughter is a wonderful way to relieve the stress of life, and that often underlies illness. When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with both laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Are you able to belly laugh with your whole body?

Really listening to someone and caring about their feelings is a great gift, but it is important to understand when listening is appropriate and when it is not. Discover when it’s kind to yourself to listen to someone and when is it kind to yourself to walk away. And what about when you get trapped with an over-talker or you are the over-talker?

Aloneness and loneliness are actually very different, yet people often confuse them. Have you ever been around people, yet felt both alone and lonely? Have you ever been alone, yet didn't feel lonely? Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. Discover the information loneliness might be giving you, and whether or not you need more time alone.

What are you most devoted to in your life? What lights you up and gets you moving every day? Perhaps you don’t know the answer to this and this podcast can be of help to you in discovering what your passionate purpose is - lights up your heart and soul.

Have you learned how to keep your heart open to your feelings and your guidance so that you can respond to challenging situations from your loving adult rather than from your ego wounded self - from love rather than from fear? This takes practice, but it’s what will create your sense of safety.

Are you brave enough to take the risk of staying true to yourself with your family and friends, even at the risk of being rejected by them, or do you cave out of your fear of rejection and of ending up alone?

Today we want to speak to the issue of being willing, or not, to work hard to get what you want. It seems that hard work is a challenge for many of today’s young people, and this is what Erika has often been encountering.

Knowing when you are being manipulated is a challenge for all of us. In this podcast, we share with you what we’ve learned about how to know when someone is being authentic or lying and manipulative.

Do you advocate for yourself with the important people in your life, or are you allowing fear and a desire to control others to guide your actions? Are you aware of the stress you might be causing yourself due to not speaking up and advocating for yourself?

Many achieve wealth through competition, but are the emotional consequences worth it? And do you know that even more success can be achieved through the creativity that results from cooperation? Discover how to successfully manifest your dreams and have fun doing it!

Are you aware of your relationship system? Is your system full of love, kindness, and support, or is your system rife with strife or distance? It’s often hard to see your own end of a dysfunctional relationship system, but this is essential if you have a chance of healing it.

Who makes your decisions - your wounded self, another person in authority, or your higher guidance? Did you grow up learning to not trust yourself? Do you believe that others know more about what is right for you than you do? Are you ready to become your own guru? The course of your life, and whether you are anxious or peaceful, is vitally affected by this choice.

Are you creating the life you want, or do you feel a victim of a disappointing life? Why are you on the planet? What is your life about for you? If you feel like you are done with life, you are likely missing the point of life.

How often have you shared your feelings, and the other person became angry and defensive? When is the sharing of feelings important information and when is it manipulative? Discover how important it is to be aware of your intent when sharing your feelings with a partner, friend, or family member.

Is there someone in your life whom you love and whom you keep hoping will change if you love them enough? Are you staying in an unloving or abusive relationship thinking that the problems are your fault? Do you think that if you change your partner will change? Or are you staying for the children?

Happily ever after can be a reality, but you need to be in reality about what it takes to create a happily-ever-after relationship. Are you willing to do the inner work necessary to create a truly loving relationship? Even soulmates have to do this inner work to live happily ever after with each other.

Sometimes we get stuck in our wounded self and we can't see how to get back into our loving adult. Often, once we get triggered into our wounded self, it is sometimes a challenge to get back in an intent to learn. But we do always have a choice, and in this podcast, we offer you some choices that may help you.

Are you stuck in procrastination or apathy, unable to do what you need to do to create safety, or get thing done, or get to places on time? Are stuck in not being able to organize your time and space? Do you often feel overwhelmed with trying to get organized? This podcast can help you understand what it means to show up as a loving adult – with ‘the force’ to guide you!

Do you make New Year’s resolutions, and if you do, are they from your loving adult or your wounded self? Are they just about goals, or also about who you want to be? This New Year is a great time to learn how to offer the best gift you can give a loved one. And discover the one New Year's resolution can change your life, heal your relationships, create health and wellbeing, and heal our planet.

Are you living in integrity with your own soul, or are you operating from "bad faith"? Do you think that you can go against yourself and still find joy? Do you have the courage to act with honesty and integrity, or would you rather sacrifice your integrity to avoid conflict in your relationships? A lack of integrity is rampant in our society. This podcast begins to explain the deeper causes of this lack of integrity.

This holiday season let’s focus both on peace on earth and on inner peace. It’s by learning to create inner peace that we can extend that out to others and create a wonderful holiday experience, regardless of your circumstances. Even if you are alone or with challenging family, you can be an agent of peace.

How do you end up feeling when you try to convince someone that you are right and they are wrong? Are you afraid to be wrong and be accountable for your choices? Does this lead to power struggles in your relationships? Discover the blessings in making it okay to be wrong and to make mistakes, and the relief in not having to be right.

Do you feel trapped in some area of your life – trapped in your relationship, trapped in your work, trapped financially or with family issues or in a friendship? Do you feel trapped by your own procrastination and resistance? It’s time to free yourself!

It’s fall here in the U.S., which can be a metaphor for how we can see the beauty of our falls – our stumbles, mistakes, and failures. Do you judge yourself for your falls, or do you compassionately embrace yourself and open to the seeds of learning within them? Judging yourself keeps you stuck. Compassion and learning move you forward toward peace, joy, and success.

Sometimes, reaching for the help you need takes bravery and courage because of the fear of rejection and the heartbreak that follows this rejection. And it’s vitally important when asking for help from others or from your spiritual guidance to make sure you are asking from your loving adult rather than from your wounded self.

Are you addicted to perfectionism? Do you believe that if you are perfect, you can control how others feel about you? Are you aware that trying to control what you can't control makes you feel anxious and unhappy? Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs.

Do you know what your passions are? Do you know what you're here to offer the planet? Are you unhappy with your work? Do you have a sense that you have a calling, but you don't know what it is or how to find it? Discover what you need to notice that can lead you to your passions and life purpose and a life of joy and wellbeing.

Are you loving, caring, and supportive of your loved ones, or are you giving to them to get their approval? Are there people in your life who support you in being all you can be, but others who want to limit you from being in your personal power? Do you also limit yourself in being all you can be?

Do you trust your own feelings, perceptions, and knowing, or do you believe that others, especially others who may be arrogant about what they think they know about what is right or wrong for you? Trusting our inner knowing can be challenging when someone we are close to, or someone we admire, or someone who insists they are right, tells us what is best for us.

Do you want freedom from anxiety and depression, a high sense of self-worth, loving relationships, an inner sense of safety, balance in your life, resilience in the face of challenges, freedom from past trauma, and inner peace? Discover how learning to love yourself creates all of these and more!

Are you an enmeshed, controlling, or helicopter parent? Do you have challenges setting appropriate limits and consequences for your children? Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover what to do and what not to do to raise responsible

Do you receive joy from others’ joy? Or does being competitive get in the way of sharing the last cookie? There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life.

Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people, often saying to yourself, “Why me?” or “It’s not fair.” Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Find the way out of feeling like a victim.

Discover how you can know the difference between the truth that comes from your spiritual guidance and the lies that come from the programmed mind of your ego wounded self. It's easier than you think to learn to discern the difference!

When you believe you are your wounded self, you end up with low self-worth, which can lead to feeling invisible and actually being invisible to others. Discovering that you are your soul essence, instead of believing that you are your ego wounded self, is a major step in becoming truly humble rather than invisible or arrogant.

Discover how to manage the major challenges of life when it seems like the lights go out, rather than get stuck in the dark night of the soul. Learn about the underlying causes of the dark night of the soul and how to move back into the light.

In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul and Erika Chopich, creators of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talk about the conscious choice of kindness, and how it’s shaped them. Many people believe that kindness makes you weak, but that’s not true when it comes from the loving adult. The ego wounded self however, is.

Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone, feeling like a victim of another's choices? Are you keeping yourself miserable by holding on to anger? Are you confused between the difference between condoning and forgiving? Have you tried to forgive yourself and others, only to discover that you are still angry or judgmental toward yourself or them? Discover the path toward forgiveness.

Do you have the courage and grit to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you? Do you have the courage to love yourself and others, even when you might encounter others’ uncaring or angry behavior, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Do you have the courage to go deeper into personal growth and learning, face your wounded self and discover your true soul essence?

Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" If you have the gift of high sensitivity, or if you are partnered with a highly sensitive person, it's vitally important to understand this soul gift.

Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? Are you still trying to figure out how to deal with a critical mother? Is there still a place within that yearns for loving mothering? The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.

Do the fears of rejection or engulfment control your life? Do you isolate yourself to protect yourself from the fears of rejection or engulfment? Are you constantly trying to control how people feel about you? Discover how you can heal these fears.

Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Do you believe that you don’t have the right to be happy when someone you love is unhappy? Discover how to be happy when someone you love is unhappy.