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Welcome all overthinkers! This episode talks about how improv translates into the real world by inviting you to play, be silly, and create a non-judgemental space.. All of which will help you with your overthinking tendencies. Public Speaking Expert and founder of Improvly Speaking, Dayna Gowan, breaks down her relationship to Improv and how it’s made her a more confident person. We talk about the power of “Yes And,” what happens if you make a mistake, and why being present is the best way to get out of your own head. If you’re like me and are burdened with overthinking what you say, this episode is for you!Key Takeaways:The most important improv skills that carries over to real lifeWhat you can do to improve your workplace comfortability and cultureWhat to do if you’re overthinking what you saidWhy you don’t need to take an improv class to be an improviser The power of “Yes And”How to take off the jacket of judgement Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 3 Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximizeEmail Me: [email protected] to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Dayna Gowan:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/improvlyspeaking/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daynagowan/ Website: improvlyspeaking.com Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode breaks down the 10 sneaky red flags to watch out for in your relationship. Not the obvious things like cheating or abuse, but the quiet ones that don’t seem like a big deal at first but slowly change how you feel about yourself. I share personal experiences and real examples to help you see what’s actually happening behind the scenes in your relationship. If you’re looking for a sign to stay or leave your partner, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:The person you date will determine how you feel about yourself and your lifeSubtle red flags are often more dangerous than obvious onesConsistency matters more than apologiesRepeated patterns are information, regardless of the reason behind their behaviorYou don’t need proof something is “bad enough” to leaveHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] to stop spiraling:https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

There’s no one “right” answer when it comes to how far you should live from work, there’s only the choice that best supports the life you’re trying to build right now. This episode breaks down the real factors that matter when deciding on a commute, from time, money, and energy to community, lifestyle, and what your priorities look like in this current season. I talk about how to survive a longer commute if you choose one, when a commute becomes a problem, and why optimizing your entire life around a job you won’t have forever can backfire. You’ll walk away knowing your number, what trade-offs you’re actually making, and how to decide where to live based on work, play, and everything in between.Key Takeaways:Your commute impacts more than time; it affects your energy, money, mood, and how much life you actually have after work.Choosing where you live based on lifestyle and community can matter more than weekday convenience, especially in your early twentiesIf you choose a longer commute, you need to work with traffic patterns Write down your priorities for this season of life, and make a decision that supports themHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Tickets March 28th: tedxsugarcreekwomen.com Use code: VIP25 at checkout3 Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

In this birthday episode, I’m reflecting on my last year in my twenties and why, despite everything I’ve been through, life really is getting easier. Not because life stops throwing curveballs, but because you get better at handling them. I talk about why your twenties feel so hard in the first place, how every experience is brand new, and why learning to recover from breakups, job loss, friendship changes, and identity shifts on your own is so overwhelming.Key Takeaways:Life doesn’t get easier because problems stop… it gets easier because you trust yourself to handle themYour twenties feel so hard because everything is new A lot of growth comes from experiences you didn’t ask forAs you get older, you stop taking everything so personally and start separating situations from your worthHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Tickets March 28th: tedxsugarcreekwomen.com Use code: VIP25 at checkout3 Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode breaks down the coping mechanisms most twenty-somethings use when life feels overwhelming and what those habits actually say about you. I run you through the top 10 coping mechanisms ranked in order from worst to healthiest while calling you out in the process. Consider this a wake up call to start paying attention to how you cope with stress, discomfort, and hard emotions so you can begin replacing the habits that hurt you with ones that actually help.Key Takeaways:Coping mechanisms are not necessarily good or bad, they are survival tools you picked up for a reasonEveryone has coping mechanisms, whether they realize it or notThe habits you reach for under stress say a lot about what you are avoiding or soothing.You cannot eliminate a coping mechanism without replacing it with something elseSome coping mechanisms look productive or healthy but still keep you stuckHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Tickets March 28th: tedxsugarcreekwomen.com Use code: VIP25 at checkout3 Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode breaks down the quick fixes we’re constantly being sold and why they don’t actually work when it comes to obtaining results. I explain why these tactics feel productive in the moment but leave you burnt out, frustrated, and stuck long term. Think 75 Hard, going on a diet, a new workout regimen, dating apps, and online job applications.. All of these AND MORE are quick fixes. This episode is your wake-up call to stop searching for the fastest way out and start building routines, systems, and habits you can actually maintain. Because if it’s something you can’t do on your worst week, it’s probably a quick fix.Key Takeaways:Quick fixes gives you results right away, but will not lead you to your goalsIf something promises results without requiring skill, structure, or consistency, it’s not sustainableQuick fixes help you feel better right now while keeping you stuck long termIf it’s something you can’t do on your worst week, it’s not your long-term solution.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

You are nothing without a routine! This episode is all about building one up from scratch so you create one that’s actually going to work for you. From nighttime and morning routines to daily and weekly ones, as well as adapting your routine to changing schedules, how you structure your life is crucial to your success and goals. Whether you’ve never had one, the one you had fell apart, or you’ve always resisted routines altogether, it’s time to build up a realistic schedule that takes you out of overwhelm and chaos and into a place of control.Key Takeaways:Your nighttime routine is more important than your morning routineThere are different ways to a create a routine that doesn’t leave you feeling trappedRoutine helps with decision fatigueAssigning tasks to specific days helps prevent procrastination You don’t need to remember everything - write it down as a list!Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

If you’ve communicated clearly, calmly, and more than once, and nothing has changed, this episode is for you. It isn’t about learning how to communicate better in the moment; it’s about recognizing when communication stops being the problem and becomes a decision point. We’ll talk about boundaries, changing expectations, and why sometimes leaving is the answer, so you can keep the right people in your inner circle and walk away from the rest. If you’ve ever felt stuck having the same conversation on repeat, this episode is for you, because at some point, it’s time to believe the behavior, not the potential.Key Takeaways:Believe the behavior not the potentialWhat boundaries you can set when you’re constantly repeating yourself and what you needSomeone can hear you, validate you, agree with you, and still choose not to changeApologies over time need actionYou’re not under-communicating, you’re overcommunicatingHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode breaks down why being picky is not a bad thing and how this doesn’t only apply to dating. The truth is your friendships, career, and relationship with yourself all deserve the same level of discernment. This episode is about learning to communicate your needs, noticing when something never fully feels right, and giving yourself permission to walk away even when nothing is “that bad.” Because you’re not too picky.. you just have high standards, and honoring them will make your life a whole lot healthier.Key Takeaways:Being “too picky” is usually just another way of saying you finally have standardsIf someone consistently leaves you feeling drained, confused, anxious, or disappointed, it’s time to walk awayHow someone shows up early on is who they areThe wrong someone is not better than no oneHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode breaks down why we all fear wasting our twenties. The pressure to travel, date, go out every weekend, and have life “figured out” can make it feel like one wrong choice will mess everything up. There are two sides I discuss when it comes to this fear: fear of missing the fun parts and fear of falling behind the milestones your peers are hitting. If you’ve ever worried that you’re behind, doing something wrong, or running out of time, this episode is for you. Because changing your mind, starting over, and choosing what feels aligned isn’t wasting your twenties, and this episode breaks down why.Key Takeaways:The fear of wasting your twenties usually shows up in two ways: having fun and hitting milestonesThere is no universal blueprint for how your twenties are supposed to lookComparison will always make it feel like everyone else is aheadThe only real way to waste your twenties is by staying in situations that no longer serve you because you’re afraid to start over.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest money myths twenty-somethings fall for: the idea that more money will magically fix your financial stress. The truth is that most of us go from living within our parents’ means to suddenly trying to replicate that same lifestyle on an entry-level salary. I walk you through why side hustles and second jobs are usually just bandaid solutions, how more income actually magnifies your spending habits, and what it looks like to finally live within your means instead of someone else’s. If you feel like you’re scraping by and don’t want to give up all of your favorite things, then this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:If your spending isn’t intentional now, a bigger paycheck will only magnify what’s already happeningYou need to know your real monthly expenses—rent, utilities, groceries, subscriptions, everythingChoose 3–5 things you’re unwilling to give up, and allocate money toward them intentionally instead of impulsivelyYour early twenties are financially unfair.When you build a realistic foundation that matches your income, that’s when making more money actually starts to help.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode is for you if you’re facing a season of discontent. Whether it’s career dissatisfaction, friendship shifts, relationship anxiety, and even how the city you live in can make you feel stuck, it’s important for you to figure out what’s in your control, how to give yourself a deadline, and how to take action without burning your life down. My goal is to help you stop tolerating a life that feels “meh” and start recognizing unhappiness as a sign that it’s time to make changes in your life. Key Takeaways:A deadline can help you stop tolerating situations you’ve been settling forThere are always more options than the extreme ones your brain offersNothing changes until you get honest about what is in your control.The three questions to ask yourself when it comes to becoming happierYou are only in control of yourself: your own actions and reactionsHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

This episode guides you through a real rewind and reflection of my 2025 — the wins, the hard stuff, and how I’m using both to set more intentional goals for 2026. I share some of my biggest highlights, most painful losses, and help you pause, reflect on your own, and actually celebrate what you’ve done instead of brushing it off. I also walk you through how I’m setting goals for 2026 and share some pretty exciting announcements about what’s coming next (including my first ever TEDx Talk). My hope is that this episode helps you reflect with honesty, get clear on what you want, and feel excited about the version of you you’re walking into this year.Key Takeaways:Walking away doesn’t mean you failedWhy you need to look back before you can look aheadWhere most people mess up when setting new years resolutionsThe different types of reflectionsHow to set yourself up for the year aheadHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

What happens when nothing sounds like a good idea and you feel completely stuck in your life? This episode talks about how we usually end up in one of two places: the Land of No or the Land of I Don’t Know, and how both keep us stuck even though they look different. It’s filled with real stories from my life and my clients' lives and how we’ve worked to book our one way ticket out of these lands. If you feel like you’ve been the mayor of either land, this episode will help you start building momentum again and finding your way out.Key Takeaways:The Land of No shows up when you reject every idea immediately because you’re trying to protect yourself from disappointment or failure.The Land of I Don’t Know disguises itself as overthinking, caution, or being “open-minded,” when it’s really fear of choosing wrongHow being in a funk can keep you in your respective landThe tiny actions you can take today to find your way out of your land.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

If you’re always tired, you’re not alone, but you also might be the reason for your exhaustion. From shorter days and less sunlight to sitting for 10 hours straight, I explain how our modern world completely goes against the natural rhythms our bodies were built for. Getting around this exhaustion looks like getting back to the basics, while also recognizing that being an adult is exhausting!Key Takeaways:Inheriting all of the responsibilities once held by your parents means all of the mental load falls on youOur society expects consistent productivity year-round, but humans were designed to ebb and flow with the seasonsSitting all day tells your body it only needs enough energy to sit — which is why you feel wiped out after workEveryone’s tired, but if you want to feel less drained, you have to master the basics: sleep, nutrition, and movement.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I’m walking you through everything you need to know to prep for your next interview: what to do before, during, and after. I share how to make a strong first impression, the key research steps that’ll help you stand out, and how to answer common questions without sounding rehearsed. I also talk about managing nerves and how your body language can make or break your confidence. Plus, what to do after the interview so you keep learning and improving, no matter the outcome. My goal is to help you show up as the most prepared, confident, and professional version of yourself.. And not a robot.Key Takeaways: The more you research and practice, the more natural and relaxed you’ll feel going into the interview.Know the company’s mission, values, leadership, and recent projects and how to connect it back to you.Research the people interviewing you and find professional things in commonThink of interviews as dress rehearsals until you find your perfect fit companyDon’t forget to follow up after your interview is done!Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

Networking… something we all know we need to do, yet are so turned off by the idea of small talk and dead end connections. Which is why it’s time for you to learn how to network, redefine what it means to network, and how to build meaningful professional relationships that will help you achieve your career goals. Networking is for more than when you’re looking for a job, it’s part of every relationship you will ever have in your life. Dana Alfirevic, founder of Charlotte Networking Knowledge and a professional networking coach, breaks down all the inside knowledge you need to have when it comes to networking.Key Takeaways:Why networking is important in your twenties What effective networking looks likeEveryone’s time is valuable; know why you’re connecting with someoneEven professional relationships need to be reciprocal The worst mistakes you can make when networkingHow to get yourself to show up when you really don’t want toThe best conversation starters to avoid awkward silence Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 3 Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximizeEmail Me: [email protected] to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Dana Alfirevic:Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/Charlottenetworkingknowledge   Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/Charlottenetworkingknowledge   Tiktok: https://www.TikTok.com/@Clt_networking_knowledge   LinkedIn: https://www.Linkedin.com/in/Dana-Alfirevichttps://www.LinkedIn.com/company/charlotte-networking-knowledge      Website: https://www.networkingknowledgeandgrowth.com Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

If you’ve ever called yourself lazy or felt guilty for not having the energy to keep up with your “good habits,” this episode is for you. Laziness gets a bad rap, but what if it’s actually a sign that your brain is trying to make life easier? In this episode, I share how to use your lazy tendencies to your advantage by creating systems that remove friction, reduce decision fatigue, and make your good habits effortless to maintain.Key Takeaways:Laziness doesn’t mean you lack ambition, it means you’re trying to be efficient with your time and energyYour decision fatigue is making your good habits harderGood habits should work even when you’re tired, unmotivated, or out of routineStop relying on discipline, willpower, and motivation – you’re setting yourself up for failureAutomation, planning ahead, and reducing barriers make “lazy” the smartest strategyHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

Show notesIf you’ve ever caught yourself spiraling about outcomes that don’t even exist yet, you’re not alone. We all want answers before they’re ready to come, but that need for control only creates more anxiety. In this episode I share why this happens, how it shows up in different parts of your life, and what to do when you find yourself jumping the gun. Key Takeaways:How your fears and impatience is encouraging you to get ahead of yourselfBrains predict outcomes to feel safe and in control (even if it doesn’t benefit you)Play out every good or bad scenario that feeds into your what ifsJumping the gun actually means you’re early, not behind Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to maximize your 5-9 after your 9-5: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/maximize Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I talk about the fine line between being selfish in a healthy way… the kind that protects your energy and honors your needs and the kind that starts to isolate you or hurt the people around you.In your twenties, everyone tells you to “put yourself first,” but few people teach you what that actually looks like in practice. So today, I unpack what it means to choose yourself without disconnecting from others, how to tell when your boundaries have become walls, and why true emotional maturity isn’t about always getting your way; it’s about being aware of your impact.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being selfish or just self-respecting, this one’s for youKey Takeaways:There’s a difference between protecting your peace and avoiding discomfort.Boundaries should connect you to yourself and make space for others, not push everyone away.“Selfish” isn’t always bad; sometimes it’s the first step toward learning what you need.Emotional maturity is noticing how your choices impact the people around you.Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you always come first.Healthy selfishness creates balance; unhealthy selfishness creates distance.Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

How do you know if the person you’re with is your forever person? This episode dives into what to look for in your relationship and ends with the number one question you should ask yourself if you’re doubting your relationship’s longevity. Knowing when to walk away, how to manage conflict, what to look out for as red and green flags in your partner, and how to break the bad relationship patterns that keep following you.  Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Rebecca Williams, shares her insight and expertise to help you determine if your partner is the one or if it’s time to run.Key Takeaways:Being selfish in a relational wayActions speak louder than words when it comes to conflict resolutionWhy your relationship patterns keep following youWhy conflict isn’t bad, but a necessary part of any relationshipWhat’s going on behind the rose colored glassesAre you comfortable or fulfilled in your relationship?Create your dream first and then decide if your partner matches that dreamThe number 1 question you should ask yourself if you’re doubting your relationshipHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Walk into any room with confidence: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidence/ Email Me: [email protected] to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Rebecca Wiliams:Website: www.iecouplescounseling.com Queer Mental Health Website: www.qmentalhealth.comPodcast Website: www.notwhatithought.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccarelationshipexpert/ Facebook: NotWhatIThought podcastMusic: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

Friendship in your twenties is messy, complicated, and always changing. In this episode, I’m breaking down what it actually means to be a good friend and how to avoid falling into the trap of being a “shitty” one. I share my own struggles with wondering if I’m a bad friend, what reciprocity looks like, and why communication matters more than constant texting. From how you respond when someone initiates plans, to listening without judgment, to showing up in both the big and small moments, these are the habits that make friendships last. If you want strong, healthy, long-lasting friendships, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:Being a good friend isn’t about constant communication, but about intentionalityThe way you respond to your ‘friends’ can either lead to a weak and fragile relationship or a strong and healthy oneFriendships should be well-balanced - recognize when it feels one-sided and when to walk awayShow up in your friendships in the same ways you expect other people to show up for youConsistency, honesty, and reliability are the three key indicators to being a good friendHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

No one warns you about the different types of loss that comes with growing up. It’s not all bad, but it is bittersweet. You lose old versions of yourself, friendships that don’t fit anymore, jobs that once felt stable, and even the direction you thought your life was headed in. This episode is to help you identify where you’re experiencing loss in your life and why you’re going to be confused around your feelings. Your grief also represents your growth and both can be true at the same time!Key Takeaways:You grieve two things at once: who you used to be and the people who were beside you during that version of your lifeLosing your job, your sense of direction, or friendships doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrongIt’s okay to miss what’s gone and still be proud of where you’re headedYou can outgrow timelines, expectations, and versions of yourself you once thought were permanentHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

Your twenties are basically one big pivot, so let’s talk about how to handle them without losing your mind.From careers to relationships to moving cities to changing habits, pivots never feel easy in the moment. In this episode I share some of my own pivots, stories from my clients, and why your brain freaks out every time you’re about to make a change. Most importantly, I’ll walk you through how to take small steps forward so the unknown doesn’t feel so overwhelming and you can start building a life that actually fits you.Key Takeaways:Why pivots feel so uncomfortable and why your brain resists themExamples of common pivots in your twenties (career, relationships, moving, habits)How avoiding a pivot keeps you stuck in a life that doesn’t fit youSmall steps you can take to make a pivot feel less overwhelmingThe importance of letting go of the “perfect plan” and embracing the unknownHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest living decisions you face in your twenties: should you live with roommates or live alone? I share stories from my own experience,  the real pros and cons of both options, and what it takes to be a good roommate versus a bad one. Whether you’re craving independence, trying to stretch your budget, or figuring out how to not lose a friendship over dirty dishes, this episode will help you think about what living situation makes sense for you in this season of life.Key Takeaways:Living with roommates can save money and provide built-in companionshipLiving alone gives you total freedom, peace, and control over your environment, but comes at a priceA good roommate communicates, respects boundaries, and follows through on shared responsibilities; a bad roommate does the opposite.Safety and lifestyle matter as much as finances – know whether you thrive in companionship or solitudeYou can change your mind multiple times over between living alone or with other peopleHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I’m diving into the big question we all ask at some point: what’s the point? Whether it’s about college, your 9–5 job, dating, or just life in general, it’s normal to hit those crossroads where you wonder why you’re even doing what you’re doing. I talk about why this question shows up most when we’re burnt out, bored, or in a season of transition, and how you can start to uncover your own reasons for showing up. By the end of this episode, you’ll have tools to figure out your “why,” decide who you’re really showing up for, and remember that your point is going to continue to change.Key Takeaways:Understanding why the question ‘what’s the point?’ comes up so often in your twenties“Finding your point” doesn’t have to mean discovering your life’s purposeYou have control over your point and uncovering what that means to youHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I’m diving into all the things no one really tells you about being an adult. I share the story of my very first “oh crap, I’m an adult” moment and how that experience set the tone for learning that adulthood is full of unexpected challenges. From jobs that don’t feel like your calling, to the struggle of making and keeping friends, to the identity shifts that make you feel out of place, I cover the hidden parts of your twenties that no one prepares you for. Adulthood comes with a lot of responsibility, but also the power to create the life you want for yourself, and this episode breaks down all the secrets and steps that no one tells you about. Key Takeaways:Your first full-time job is more about learning how to work than finding your life’s callingAdulthood is full of unexpected crises, and part of the job is learning what you can and can’t controlJob loss, quitting, or career pivots are common in your twentiesMaking and keeping friends as an adult takes far more effort than it did in school or collegeFeeling out of place and questioning your path is normalYou’re responsible for your life and futureHelpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

This episode talks about the gut-punch feeling of “everyone is hanging out without me,” why it hits so hard in your twenties, and how to tell the difference between being excluded and just not being included. I share my own stories (past and very present) of feeling left out, the way our brains love to spiral into the worst-case scenario, and why social media is the absolute worst for feeding that narrative. We’ll dig into how to stick to the facts, communicate what you need without playing the blame game, and create connections for yourself instead of waiting for someone to hand you an invite. So if you’re tired of feeling left out and letting your spiraling thoughts take over, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:The difference between being excluded and not being includedUnderstanding friendship cycles as you move through your twentiesWhy social media isn’t the mind-numbing resource you think it isWays to communicate your feelings without sounding accusatoryWhy it’s usually not about youStop waiting for the invite, create the eventHelpful Resources: It's Me, I'm the Problem 9/22: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/problem/Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] Ways to walk in a room with confidence: jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidenceContribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US 

In this episode, I’m breaking down what it feels like to be in the in between—that frustrating, uncomfortable space where you're actively working toward your next thing but not there yet. Whether it’s a new job, a relationship, a body goal, or a big life shift, this episode is for anyone stuck in that “not quite yet” phase. I’m sharing five powerful reminders to help you stay grounded, patient, and hopeful as you bridge the gap between where you’ve been and where you’re going. I talk about why it’s so tempting to put your happiness on hold, how to actually measure your progress in the meantime, and what it means to reshape your identity before you arrive at your next milestone.Key Takeaways:You’re going to encounter multiple different in between moments as you grow through your twentiesWhy “it’s not forever, it’s for now” is the most powerful motto to adoptUse this time to prepare, plan, and gather the tools you’ll need for your next moveHave an end date to getting out of the in betweenClaim who you’re becoming, not where you’re currently atHelpful Resources: It's Me, I'm the Problem 9/22: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/problem/Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success Email me: [email protected] to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US