Find Your Feminine Fire

In this episode, I'm talking with Sara Giita Flores on blossoming your voice and sovereignty, and how by doing so you're more able to tap into your innate creative gifts and joyfully express in the world, really transforming silence and shame into radiant self-expression.

Woohoo! We're celebrating 200 podcast episodes over here, so for this week's pod my husband Mark wanted to ask me some questions on some of the fave moments from the pod. Enjoy and thank YOU for listening and being a part of this celebration!

If you're ready to enhance your sex life, you're going to LOVE today's episode. I'm your host Amanda Testa, and I'm thrilled ot introduce to my guest today, Taylor Sparks. Taylor (aka Mariposa) is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior. With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops. Organic Loven specializes in improving adults' sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, and erotic educational seminars.

Everyone has something in their lives that they'd like to improve, whether that's managing stress more effectively, developing healthier relationships, building more confidence—the list can be endless. The problem is often finding the time to address these issues and then, having done that, knowing the right tools and techniques to use to integrate the solutions into your life. The mere thought of change can be overwhelming, but today on the podcast I'm talking with Linda Bonnar, and her mission is to address the root cause of that fear so that you can tackle anything that life throws at you by making simple, easy changes to our everyday routines.

Do you feel you only allow yourself to recieve goodness after you've done all the things? Tune into this week's episode as I share how to allow yourself to have more fun, how to trust and develop your intution, and how this creates more clarity and focus to get what you want.

In this week's pod I'm sharing some great tips on resolving conflict in your relationship, and also kind of understanding how we may play a part in our relationship conflicts unknowingly, and what to do about it.

Want to move from frustration to confidence in your relationship? If you're looking to feel epic connection in your relationship, then grab your partner and listen to this episode! This week on the podcast you'll discover the secret to bringing in more wildness and pleasure into your relationship, and what you're doing wrong when it comes to making your woman happy. Men, listen in to this one for some gems on how to get your partner to truly open to you. I'm talking with Ananya Harvey, PhD, Scientist and Shadow and Sexuality Coach for men, and founder of Bliss Science. After a successful 10-year career as an academic research chemist, she broke free of lab life to pursue experiments in consciousness.

All of us experience pain at some point in our lives, and it can sometimes feel impossible to move past hurtful experiences, however when we can open to the possibility that our pain can in turn become our greatest power, miracles can occur! This week I'm talking with my friend and colleague Cory Scott. Cory is a partner, mother of two, and lover of the elements. She fancies herself a performance coach for witches and a liberator of inner children. Formally, she is a licensed clinical social worker, a certified EMDR therapist, VITA™ sex, love, and relationship coach, and 500 RYT yoga instructor. She is fascinated by the relationship between ancient tantric teachings, our human experiences, and neurobiology. She shines most brightly in the darkest places, although she is often caught dancing in the light, and loves to plant seeds and watch them grow. All of us experience pain at some point in our lives, and it can sometimes feel impossible to move past hurtful experiences, however when we can open to the possibility that our pain can in turn become our greatest power, miracles can occur! This week I'm talking with my friend and colleague Cory Scott. Cory is a partner, mother of two, and lover of the elements. She fancies herself a performance coach for witches and a liberator of inner children. Formally, she is a licensed clinical social worker, a certified EMDR therapist, VITA™ sex, love, and relationship coach, and 500 RYT yoga instructor. She is fascinated by the relationship between ancient tantric teachings, our human experiences, and neurobiology. She shines most brightly in the darkest places, although she is often caught dancing in the light, and loves to plant seeds and watch them grow.

When you want to want to, but you just don't. Do you ever struggle with desire, or wonder what you can do to boost your libido? This week I'm bringing back to the pod a delightful guest, my friend Susan Bratton, the "Intimacy Expert to Millions". She is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Flashes of brilliance pop like paparazzi as Susan rolls out one relationship epiphany after another. When she describes how love and intimacy can transcend what media portrays, you see how you can have way more intimacy and pleasure than you've been getting.

In this episode, I'm addressing something I hear often from clients. What do you do when you want to make changes in your relationship, but your partner does not? Listen into this episode where you'll discover the importance of personal growth for fostering deeper connections, strategies for effective and compassionate communication with your partner, the significance of aligning your actions with your inner values and desires, and the role of understanding and creating a safe emotional space for each other. I'll also share some journaling prompts you can use to when you want to discuss this with your partner, and how to have the conversation. Time and time again, I have seen that when one person in a relationship makes changes in themselves, there is a ripple effect that happens that positively impacts the relationship.

In this episode, I'm talking with Reketta Peterson, LPC, PMH-C, a licensed professional counselor, and BIPOC health equity consultant. She is a HEAS Health at Everysize advocate, and a member of the associate for size diversity, and health. We dig into supporting mothers postpartum, how to deal with parenting burnout, relationship survival tips, dismantling medical racism, perinatal health disparities, and common blind spots for professionals and patients in healthcare. We talk about what changes are needed, what that can look like, and what you can do to get involved. So much goodness in this episode!

So many clients and friends have been asking me about the Netflix series Sex, Love and Goop. I wanted to share some reflections on what I loved, and how you can use this series as a conversation starter in your own relationship. I want to shout out those brave couples who were willing to go on camera, as these are issues I see all the time with my clients as well. Parenting has killed the spark, couples have different styles of connection or "mismatched" desire, and people who want more skills and confidence in their bodies and in the bedroom. We often struggle in this area because these are things we aren't taught coming along! The good news is that if you have a desire to improve things in this area of your life, it is so possible!

Nourishment as sensual self care? YES PLEASE! In this weeks pod episode I'm talking with my friend and Sensual Chef, Kiele Jael. She is the founder of Kiele Jael wellness, and helps women tap into their sensuality and focus on self love through the arts of ancient food wisdom, and sensual cooking. As we move into the colder months, now is a perfect time to focus on nourishing ourselves from within, and in this episode Kiele shares some easy tangible ways to create rituals to honor ourselves and nourish our bodies.

Looking for some simple things you can do to enjoy better sex, starting tonight? I so often work with women and couples who just want that desire, that spark back, and especially after an extended period of stress with the pandemic, lock downs, etc, often it feels hard to feel back to normal in the bedroom. Today I'm sharing 5 easy and quick tips to help you have better sex, starting now.

In this week's pod, I'm explaining 4 big reasons women struggle in their sexuality, and what you can do to find more satisfaction in your sexuality.

Do you just wish you had a BFF who was also a triple board certified OBGYN to run all your sex and hormone questions by? Well you're in for a treat in this week's pod, as I am so pleased to welcome back Dr. Anna Cabeca, aka the girlfriend doctor, and we're diving into how to make the transition to menopause magical, and still enjoying vibrant sexual health as we move through life's transitions. Do you just wish you had a BFF who was also a triple board certified OBGYN to run all your sex and hormone questions by? Well you're in for a treat in this week's pod, as I am so pleased to welcome back Dr. Anna Cabeca, aka the girlfriend doctor, and we're diving into how to make the transition to menopause magical, and still enjoying vibrant sexual health as we move through life's transitions.

Want to bring back the chemistry and inspiration in your relationship? If you're looking to bring back the spark, then listen into this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast. Today I'll be talking with romance and relationship expert Alicia Davon, about how to create the relationship of your dreams, even when life is busy and you feel you can never find the time to connect.

ow can so many women feel "good and mad" yet still reluctant to speak up in a meeting or difficult conversation? Why do women often feel like they're too much--and, at the same time, not enough? What causes us, at the most critical moments in our lives, to freeze? In this weeks' episode I have the immense pleasure of talking with Kasia Urbaniak, the author of Unbound: A Woman's Guide To Power, and the founder and CEO of the Academy, a school that teaches women the foundations of power and influence. Based on insights from her experiences as a dominatrix, her training to become a Taoist nun, and the countless women she has taught to expand their influence, she has a unique perspective on power. Listen in to learn more about how you can ask for, and get, what you want.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, tired, and overwhelmed at the collective chaos, and wanting to feel more vitality and empowered safety, then listen in. In this week's pod I'm talking about the power of surrender, and creating routines to tend to your needs so you can move into fall feeling less stressed, and more turned on.

If you're craving an energetic reboot, deep connection to desire, or a place to prance in all your glory - grab your glitter. Let's ride. In this episode I'm talking with the amazing Elizabeth Claire De lune Sex, Love, and Relationship coach with a Ph.D. in Folklore and a passion for magical realism, And we're diving in to reconnecting with your Unicorn Blueprint to fully reclaim the power that's lost when we externalize our magic, projecting it onto big stories "out there" instead of realizing the truth of it "in here."

Listen in to this week's episode as I interview Wholistic Sexuality teacher Sheri Winston, about Secrets of Female Pleasure: Women's Anatomy of Arousal. Sheri is one of my superheroes when it comes to sex education and her book was life changing for me (note you can enter to win one of 5 copies of the book at amandatesta.com/arousal. I mean - in my 30s I was shocked about what I didn't know about my own anatomy. Don't miss this episode as we jam on her model of genital anatomy that goes far beyond conventional models, the female erectile network, what women can do to develop orgasmic mastery, what the key things partners should know about how to turn women on and please them sexually, transition rituals and how they can transform your experience, and how you can make the most of your sexual experience even if you only have 10 minutes. Wholistic Sexuality teacher Sheri Winston is a groundbreaking, award-winning author, and teacher who offers empowering entertaining erotic education for everyone. Sheri is the author of the award-winning Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (which won the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists' 2010 Book of the Year) and Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice. She's the founder of the Intimate Arts Center. Sheri offers pleasure-centered sex-ed for grown-ups with a wide variety of practical and transformational intimate arts education. She delights in inspiring people to have a lot more pleasure, fun, and fulfillment! Find out more HERE.https://intimateartscenter.com/about/sheri-winston/

It's easy to be in love when things are smooth sailing, but how do you keep the compassion and kindness alive when things get rough? Tune into this episode as Mark and I share some tools that support us to reconnect and choose love in our relationship even during the challenging times. Mark and I just celebrated our 11th anniversary, and it certainly didn't look like we expected it too. We have however had a powerful year of growth and challenges, that have made us closer. Recording this episode was a little slice of real life, and some of the tools that have helped us navigate the waves. If you feel like you could use some extra support in your relationship, you can book a support call HERE.

Do you feel like you always have to get it right? Maybe you feel the constant urge to keep up with the "go go go" mentality of our Western culture, and you feel you struggle to just BE? If you feel ever feel weighed down by life, and want to expand your capacity to be with life itself, and to fully inhabit and enjoy life's pleasures, then tune into the episode as I talk with embodiment coach and somatic healer Marina Nabão on how embodiment is a revolutionary way to access liberation and healing.

If you are looking for some fun ways to increase your sexy confidence, then you're going to love this episode because I'm going to be diving into some sexy rituals for self-confidence and how pleasure and tuning into yourself boosts your self esteem.

When you think about summer, what comes to mind? In the seasonal cycles, summer is about maturing, full blossoming, expansion, fullness, and orgasmic potential. What better time to play with having better orgasms! If you're looking to add more bliss to your summer, then listen in to this week's episode as I share 3 key components for a better O! Complete transcript available www.amandatesta.com/osummer/

Do you WANT to want to ... but just don't? Are you missing your libido, and the spark you once had? This episode is going to share some simple tips to reclaim your desire starting today! (and hint...it's not as hard or scary as you may think)

Do you WANT to want to ... but just don't? Are you missing your libido, and the spark you once had? This episode is going to share some simple tips to reclaim your desire starting today! (and hint...it's not as hard or scary as you may think)

Sometimes as we move through challenging times, it's important to honor your experience, and tend to yourself as you cope. In this episode, I'm sharing how using the power of ritual can help you in honoring the seasons of your life. If you've been following me, you know that this past year has had it's share of challenges, and sometimes you aren't really aware of all you were holding until you are shifting into a new time, and realize the imprint the experience left on your nervous system. Today I'm sharing one of the powerful ways I move through these challenges and how you can too.

Hot sex is understood universally, no translation needed. Hard. Wet. Eager. Carnal. It's the biological design of the human body, but how do we ensure that our bodies experience optimal sexual function at any time and at any age? The answer is diet. This week on the podcast I'm thrilled to be talking with acupuncturist, herbalist, and author, CHRISTINE DELOZIER, L.Ac. Christine's new book DIET FOR GREAT SEX: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health dives deep into the true catalysts of what makes our bodies fire on all cylinders and the best steps to maintain them through diet for as long as possible.

Why is humor so healing? In this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, my guest Pasha Marlowe and I dive into what it really takes to infuse pleasure into difficult times, even when supporting a child with chronic pain, and how humor can heal. Pasha Marlowe is a therapeutic comedy coach, pleasure podcast host, and author. She artfully blends her unique life's experiences with her life's work in healing through psychotherapy, embodied emotions, holistic wellness, life coaching, theater, and comedy. Pasha is known for her authenticity, intuition, resiliency, and ability to connect. Her work is the culmination of 50 years of radical truth telling, heroic self loving, and pleasure activism, even in the face of adversity. Pasha has a passion for empowering others to be courageous, vulnerable, and fierce in their quest for joy.

Are you tired of dealing with the limitations of pain and leaking? In this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Krystyna Holland, Pelvic Floor PT, who's mission is to help individuals who feel anxious about their pelvic pain feel confident in their ability to live without leaking and have intimacy without fear. Listen in as she shares some powerful tips on healing from painful sex, and what you can do to improve your pelvic health starting today.

Whether single by choice or actively looking for a partner, single adults face unique challenges in their sexual and sensual lives. In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Sexologist and relationships expert Megan Stubbs is here to kill the stigma attached to single lifestyles and provide advice on how to not only embrace single sexuality but make the most of the time while single. If you are looking for a long-term partner, actively dating, or happily single, there can be difficult aspects to single sexuality. But there are also ways to optimize your pleasure, improve your interactions, feel sensual and erotic, and have an empowered sex life while still single.

What do Pollinators have to do with Self Love? A lot, actually! I this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, I'm talking with artist Ali Beckman of @soflytaxidermy all about intimate belonging, pollinators, confidence, and more. In her debut book, Bee a Good Human: A Pollinator's Guide to a Better Life, Beckman illustrates the importance of pollinators along with a healthy dose of body positivity and mental health awareness through her witty comics featuring actual insects in everyday situations. Through the cartoons, Beckman shares a narrative of self-growth and finding confidence within, all while making people laugh. The genius behind her work is that the insects many people fear reflect back our own insecurities and hopes, allowing us all to see our significance in the world.

It's time to create your own definitions and rules about sexuality. If you're looking to grow your connection to your sensual self, then tune in to this week's Find Your Feminine Fire podcast! This week I'm talking with Anjua Maximo, Life + Sensual Embodiment Coach on the power of embracing the Electric Feminine within. Recently I found myself craving connection, and feeling very blah. I tuned into an incredible movement class that Anjua led, and even with my dog and daughter jumping around, was mesmerized by her medicine, and felt so transformed.. back into my body, my power, and myself. Tune into this episode as Anjua shares her wisdom on helping women feel whole in their bodies and in their lives.

Whether you want to lose weight, balance your hormones, or just stop hating your period, The Betty Body is your blueprint for your best feminine health. In this week's podcast episode, I'm talking with Dr. Stephanie Estima, a doctor of chiropractic with a special interest in metabolism, body composition, functional neurology, and female physiology. She's been featured on Thrive Global, of the Huffington Post, has over 3.5 million article reads on Medium.com, and has helped thousands of women lose weight, regulate hormones, and get off medications with her signature program, The Estima Diet. You can hear her every week on her podcast, Better! With Dr. Stephanie. Listen in as she shares her secrets to unleash your inner Goddess, stop starting diets, take control of your hormones, and feel amazing in your skin.

Trauma Resolution- what is it? Can we ever be fully resolved of our trauma? The key may lie in the connection you hold to your body and its truth. My guest this week is an incredible expert in the field of somatic trauma healing, Denise Chang. Denise is a queer enby femme, somatic trauma resolution guide, and co-creator of consensual culture- a community collective and relational healing ecology for trauma resolution and QTBIPOC liberation. Denise is an immigrant of Malaysian-Chinese decent, who came to the U.S. at age 21 to attend college. After experiencing the American culture of self expression and sexuality, Denise discovered repressed trauma and shame in her heart that would lead her to learning more about how she could learn to trust herself as she uncovered layers leading to her true self. The discovery of the layers of protection around her heart due to the conditioning and messaging she received around her identities gave Denise the clue she needed to begin exploring the spiral path through the parts of herself that needed more love, more attention, to simply be met and held. This journey took Denise deep into the realms of somatic trauma healing where she learned that when the conditions are safe enough for us to express, our bodies respond and we can find deep healing and authenticity. In this week's episode, Denise brings her wisdom of somatic trauma resolution, spiritual embodiment and the uncanny ability to sense systems of oppression that exist within our culture and relational field to light.

Flipping the switch! On this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, my dear friend and Business Coach Carrie Koh is interviewing me! I'm excited to share a little more about my own journey in this episode and answer the question, how does a Southern Belle from Georgia become a sex and relationship coach? Listen in as I share my journey from being a postpartum mom with a one year old daughter, looking in the mirror wondering where the woman I used to be had gone. It was from this moment that I began my return to loving all the parts of myself that I was taught to be ashamed of and learn how to embrace and express what I truly wanted. In this episode, we're going to dive a little deeper into what drives me in my work and an exciting new offering that I CAN'T WAIT TO SHARE MORE ABOUT that is the culmination of my years of doing this work around sexuality, around trauma resolution, body confidence, and living with pleasure first.

If you are on the path of growth and empowerment, you most likely have experienced on some level, a low that marked a turning point for you in the way you cared for yourself and found your resilience and strength. It may have felt like an insurmountable journey back to your peace, joy and comfort. My guest this week on the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast is Jacqueline Phillips, the author of Comfortably Uncomfortable. I'm so excited for you to hear her raw, unbridled account of who she was just two years ago and the remarkably uncomfortable journey she embarked on to find peace, joy and comfort in the life she lives today. ⁠ In her journey, Jacqueline experienced stress, isolation and the feeling of being trapped day in and day out that pushed her to her breaking point. She is here to share how she broke free and reinvented herself from the top down. Her metamorphosis from a self-loathing, socially toxic, suicidal person to the happy, peaceful, confident person she is today is a story that will inspire you if you have found yourself overwhelmed with stress, or living a life that somehow didn't turn out the way you planned.

How we connect to our sexuality says EVERYTHING about how we see ourselves, our relationships, and the world. Sexual agency is the game changing concept. And the skills we build doing the work of discovering our sexuality translate into every other area of our lives. This is big work that has the power to completely transform us from the inside out. Tune into this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast to understand more about what it really means to examine your sexual story and tap into your sexual agency to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity in your life. My guest this week is an incredible expert in the field of sexual health, Dr. Juliana Hauser. Dr. Hauser is all about helping women rethink sex, sexuality, and pleasure, and taking the taboo out of these topics so that they are easier to talk about and implement in our lives. In her work, Dr. Hauser has provided a safe place, a tested, true, and relatable process for all to heal past experiences and empower their sexual future.She is an approachable, non-judgy friend to women, men, couples and trans individuals and is passionate about creating a safe, exciting and meaningful sexual culture for all people.

Do you struggle with random hormonal symptoms, difficult periods, or hot flashes, or are you just curious about what's actually going on with your hormones? Then tune in to this week's episode as I talk with estrogen dominance expert Magdalena Wszelaki, CH, HHC. Women can experience symptoms such as melasma, hot flashes, thyroid nodules, fibrocystic breasts, or lumpy breasts, fertility issues, insomnia, and weight gain. We are made to BELIEVE that the commonality of these symptoms are normal. They are not. With the right education and resources, we have the power to balance our hormones and feel amazing again Magdalena is the founder of Hormones Balance, an online community dedicated to helping women balance their hormones naturally, author of the book Overcoming Estrogen Dominance, a certified health coach, chef, endocrine specialist and certified herbalist.

As a mom, do you recall after giving birth, feeling like a walking zombie, disconnected from who you once were sexually, and running on fumes as you take care of your newborn? Well in this episode you'll gain some tips to reclaim your sexuality after kids. My guest in this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Casey Johnson- Aksoy, is here to share her experience and her tips on reclaiming pleasure after giving birth. Casey is the founder of Pleasurable Motherhood and the Pleasurehood Summit. She's also a new mama who is dedicated to the healing and reclamation of women's bodies, sexual identity and joy.Casey works with women on building their self-esteem, confidence, and intuition through deep body connection.

What if you could naturally turn on your body's ability to heal? In this episode I'm talking with founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, Jodi Cohen. In this episode we're talking about how you can use oils to help ease anxiety, boost immunity, and support your brain. Jodi is the founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, where she has combined her training in nutritional therapy and aromatherapy to create unique proprietary blends of organic and wild-crafted essential oils.

If you're ready to find freedom around food, feel more confident in your body, then tune into this week's episode as I talk with my friend Audra Baker about loving your body, even if that includes losing weight, in a SANE way while ditching diet culture. Audra is a triple Certified Trauma Informed Master Coach, Yoga Teacher, and Breathworker specializing in Eating Psychology, Love, Sex, & Relationships.

Join me and my guest Natasha Riley on this week's episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast as we dive into how to really begin loving your body- as you are, with no shame and instead with empowerment, love, and patience. Learn how to give voice to what it is that you really need in your intimate relationships and take the time to listen to the signals of the feminine body instead of rushing through intimacy.Tune into this episode to discover What really happens to your body post baby and how to love it no matter what Letting go of what you think orgasm "should" look like to find greater enjoyment. How to create an intimate relationship with your own body Defining your "non negotiables" to get what you want How to voice what you want in the bedroom How to move past insecurities around your genitals What is a sex doula? Natasha Riley is a Licensed Sex Therapist in Georgia and a Certified Sex Coach for women. She is the CEO/Founder of Javery Integrative Wellness Services and Natasha Chentille Sex and Intimacy Coaching. Natasha loves helping women identify their mind, body, and sexual necessities through confidence and boundary building. "I love talking to women who have come out on the other side of selflessness becoming self-aware sexually and making their pleasure a priority." When she's not working, she is spending time with her partner and her 2 boys or planning her next trip out of the country.

What do cooking and sensual awakening have in common? If you're looking to take the stress out of cooking, this podcast episode is going to invite you into the possibility that preparing meals can be a sensual, meditative and peaceful experience. I'm your host, Amanda Testa, and I'm thrilled to introduce you to Kiele Jael Wellness Chef and Sensuality coach who's focus is Helping women tap into their sensuality and focus on self love through food, self love and cooking.