Delight Your Marriage

We argued yesterday. Knives were involved. Well truthfully, it was a disagreement at a restaurant. But the actual emotions happened way before the restaurant. My husband is on the show again (back by popular demand!) to tell how he was feeling and what he did and why. Why is this important for your intimacy? A wife wants to make love to a man she feels safe with. If you're arguing in a way that makes her feel unsafe, then you're repelling her from the very thing you crave. I want to share this podcast because I think we have HORRIBLE examples of marital conflict. We take our cues from movies, dramas, chick flicks and sitcoms. All of which have very unhealthy and hurtful aspects. I want to give you a vision of a REALLY GOOD conflict. One where each of us weren't "perfect". But each of us allowed our value of intimacy, connection and love to be higher than our emotions and impulses. I hope this gives you encouragement and inspiration in your next emotional challenge between the two of you. There's another way and there are specific tools you can use to NOT leave you or your spouse bloody and bruised rhetorically. --- If you're a wife and interested in the 5 Tips To Amazing Seduction go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips If you're a husband and interested in transforming your marriage to one of friendship and PASSION, go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/call and sign up for a FREE 40 min call ($500 value) and we will dive deep into what is blocking your intimacy and what are next steps for you!

Your first time having sex, was it just like my experience? A bit awkward, NOT like how the movies portrayed it, and maybe even a BIT uncomfortable? So now that you've done it a lot more, I bet what was uncomfortable in the beginning has started to feel a lot more comfortable, right? So, would you like to ENJOY it more? Have you ever asked yourself these questions: Should I initiate? Should I just go for it and stretch myself and seduce him? Is it okay for me to suddenly change and just go ahead and seduce him and be sexy? Here's what I talk about in this podcast episode: How to enjoy the process of seduction and lovemaking more Why it's okay to be silly before being sexy What EXACTLY you need to do (practical tips and more!) A lot of people say that DATING SEX is BETTER than MARRIAGE SEX. Well, that is what Delight Your Marriage wants to change. It is our mission and we want to change it so that marriage sex is hotter, more enjoyable, and the best sex that anyone will ever have! Absolutely NOTHING in this life stays the same. If you choose to change and stretch yourself to become more seductive, then it's definitely okay! And you will actually ENJOY sex more. If that's not where you are in your marriage right now, it's okay to be gentle with yourself. God is a God of new beginnings. We can always start over and change and grow your marriage into something you enjoy and look forward to! Resources: I'd love to receive your answers to this VERY QUICK survey which will help me give you the kind of content you want to hear! Go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/seductionquestions Also! Get 5 fantastic and practical tips to amazing seduction here!: www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips

I used to think "if I just got thin enough then I'd be confident." But, then I did. And I didn't. Our society tricks us into thinking beauty is only a certain thing. But God made us beautiful. And when you don't love your body your chances of loving sex is far lower. On this episode I want to help you see more clearly and not have the inappropriate expectations of yourself that is inhibiting your joy and passion in sex. I also have some help for husbands on how to help their wives in this area. I used to be bulimic when I met my husband. He has loved me through lots of different shapes of my body and I gotta tell you, that kind of love encourages a wife to be sexually free and pleasured. I answer: How can you feel more confident in your body Why the negativity is stealing your sex drive How you can conquer the inner critic The balance between loving your body and being healthy What the FIRST step is to getting there If you'd like more specific tips on how to seduce, here's a FREE resource for you: The 5 Tips On Amazing Seduction PDF Love, Belah Also, if you are looking to get clear on what's really blocking you from having incredible intimacy, I'd like to invite you to a FREE 40-minute Clarity Call ($500 value) with me to help you uncover what is really going on. If I think you'd be a good fit for one of my programs then we can talk about that. But you'll get fantastic value either way! Schedule here!

For the free resources The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive audio & pdf go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/desire Do you have low drive? Discover the blocks that may be holding you back from a stronger desire for your husband!

When she found out he went to jail because he almost killed his father and was a diagnosed sociopath... a thought struck her: "I will trust him with the lives of my future children". There are so many amazing topics for this week's podcast, I'm not sure which ones should I write here! Marie and I talk more in depth about her relationship with God and her relationship with her husband. These are just some of the things we talk about: what life with a husband who is a sociopath looks like -- and no, it's not what you may think! the defining features of a sociopath and how they got a "psychological miracle" how her husband tried to kill his father and landed in jail her husband was a devout atheist until he started reading the Bible and now millions watch his Apologetics debates defending Cheistianity Marie was back to being a Christian after reading an Apologetics book how their complete honesty helped solidify their relationship how reading the Bible helps David in his daily life Other topics that we talk about how sex should be treated as a spiritual bond and not just as a physical bonding between married couples how there's no aspect of YOUR story cannot be touched by God's grace how deeply and truly God's love can transform and change our perspective about ourselves and our marriages Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org You can watch David Wood's videos here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy5H0uunC2qMk0iOF4SHKUw --- Also, if you'd like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah u-- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what's blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, David Wood--the very famous Apologist. Two of their sons, Reid and Paley, both have a rare, life-threatening condition called myotubular myopathy. It's so rare that it only affects 1 in 50,000 male live births. It causes problems with muscle tone and dangerously affects muscles that control necessary functions like breathing and swallowing. In this interview, I was moved to tears more than once because of the story of Marie and her children. She is an incredible woman who clearly loves the Lord and is such a force for good even in the face of suffering. I know if you listen to this conversation you'll come away in awe that our God can even raise the dead in this day and age! I'm amazed and I pray this will be an empowering and affirming message for you as well. Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org --- Also, if you'd like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what's blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love. You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 delves deeper into the specifics of lovemaking and Ruth and I's thoughts about the different types of orgasm that women would love to experience. Other things we talk about: Just having sex vs. getting to know each other through sex The dynamics of who leads during intercourse The in and out movement for a man, it's good for him. But how about the woman? The three ways women can have orgasms What does the Bible say about sex Is the intercourse you're having with your spouse the kind of intercourse that leads to orgasm? The clitoral alignment technique: what is it exactly? Some helpful things for the wives: What you can do to allow you to discover new and interesting feelings during intercourse The journey you can take to learn more about the orgasms you can experience Understanding new concepts and ideas that are related to orgasms G-spot vs clitoral orgasm The common anxiety wives experience before intercourse Also, if you'd like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. If you're a man or a woman and are seeking for things to be transformed in your marriage and intimacy--this is for you! Here you will get insights into what's blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

I'm so excited to chat with Ruth Buezis (author of Awaken Love) about how to transform your sex life into something much deeper. Ruth started out her journey by talking about sex to 8 of her closest friends! Word spread and she's now sharing her journey to hundreds of women who used to be in the same boat as she was. We talk about Christian couples and the usual questions we get from them: -How do I help my wife orgasm? -How do I orgasm during intercourse (from wives)? -How long should I last (from husbands)? -What EXACTLY should I do (from both!)? ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here. And as Ruth says, men can get so caught up in the mechanics -- but there is so much more to sex than just mechanics! What are the things that husbands and wives can do DURING and AFTER intercourse instead of feeling pressured and worried? There are actually SO MANY things couples can do to help remove the pressure! Whether or not there's orgasm during intercourse, there are lots of things that CAN be done so it's always mutually enjoyable during intercourse. Other things we talk about: - What if a husband finishes earlier? - What about gentlemen who last way longer than the women? - What makes sex better for HER? - How God wants us to be excited about sex with our spouses Also, if you'd like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. Here you will get insights into what's blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

How do you become MORE attractive to your wife? What exactly do I mean when I say "attraction"? Well, it's kind of like having a pull towards yourself. Whatever it is that you're doing, it's going to pull her and cause her to desire you. When you're attractive to her, she'll also have a physical desire towards you. What can you do as a spouse to cause her to be interested again? To be FULLY in the marriage again? My theory? Attraction works outside of marriage like this: You are a whole human being with your own passions and desires and she starts being drawn to your power and confidence. Slowly, through time, you BOTH start to fall in love. It's simple: Chemistry (natural attraction) + spending time with each other = being attracted to someone We'll be attracted to different types of people our whole lives. It's up to us as married people to not spend time with others. So how do you become the whole man that you want to be? By desperately seeking her love? By wishing to spend more time with her? This is the kind of work that I do with the men that I work with in The Masculinity Reclaimed program. If you want to get tailored advice and deep insight into your own marriage, you can do so by scheduling a call at www.dym.as.me. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Over the years listeners have asked for my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence, and oral sex, to be available on paperback. It is now available! And if you get the book, read, and review on Amazon, you can have access to a $97 Masterclass for free! The Masterclass will be September 15, 2019! When you do those three things go ahead and email [email protected] And you'll be on the list! Thank you so so much!

Does sex feel like a duty? When he asks to make love, I believe that he's actually doing a really brave thing. He could be afraid of rejection and is actually insecure about it. What if you have the opportunity to bring out your husband's generosity by being compassionate about his sexuality? As a side: Dear husbands, If you want your wife to work with me, I encourage you to take the first step in transforming your marriage. By doing this, she'll be receptive to transforming herself as well. Wives, I want you to know that if your opinion of sex is that it's a chore or a duty, it's probably hurting your spouse's feelings. AND sex has to start with having an open heart and a good perspective. Otherwise it doesn't feel like making love, it feels like you value it as much as washing the dishes. What if you can go to a place of: Joy, fun and excitement To the point that you physically crave sex I want you to get there. Listen in for encouragement and new perspectives and tools to make love rather than do your duty. If you want to work with me to have the heart and a body (!) that craves sex, go to www.dym.as.me . You'll have 40 minutes of my undivided attention for FREE (a $500 value) so we can talk about your marriage. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

First and foremost, I'm so glad you're planning for sex. Many people let this HIGH priority slip away from their marriage. And they wonder why their marriage turns into a disaster. I am GRATEFUL if you are one who puts it on your calendar--it means you DO prioritize it! So, I'm now encouraging you to go the next step and make it sexy. So often I hear from husbands that they make love the exact same way every single time they make love. And "it's even on the calendar!" Well, 1st- the good news is you're making love (!!) and 2nd- ladies, we can plan sex (just not let him in on it!) ;) Listen in for inspiring ideas on how and why to spice things up and how you can plan sex without making him feel like a To Do List item! Aka...plan it sexily! How EXACTLY do other people even plan for sex? Planning for sex can look different for many people: You can plan for sex in other physical aspects (If you're too full from dinner, you might be too sleepy for sex!) You can plan for sex emotionally (are you emotionally prepared to plan sex?) But planning for sex with a "grin and bear it" mindset isn't good. It would be awesome if you planned sex with a heart filled with joy and excitement. So how do you plan sex with THAT kind of mindset? Well, here's a story. My husband surprised me with something special on our anniversary: a sunset cruise. He made sure that the house was clean, the kids had a babysitter, he had flowers everywhere. Well he got the idea from SOMEONE ELSE. Was I mad that he got the idea from someone else? Of course not. That's the same with you planning sex. Don't feel like you're not being truthful or being a phony when you plan sex. The important thing is the experience you'll both be having, not HOW you got there. How open should you be to your husband when it comes to planning sex? It depends on where you are in your marriage, emotionally speaking. He craves you more when you feel good about having sex. But making love is also about you; your own joy and fulfillment. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

What does it mean and WHY would you actually do it? What if it's COMPLETELY outside of your personality? What to actually do? (Steamy examples!) --- Before we dive in… I run a men's course called Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again. It's a program which helps you understand how to be an amazing husband so your wife wants to do this kind of stuff. It dramatically transforms marriages. I work with men in this program and interview their wives who started out rating their intimacy as a 3 out of 10 and then they move to a 7 out of 10 or from a 5 out of 10 to a 9 out of 10! --- ALL-DAY seduction is: not normal for me I don't wake up thinking I want to be someone who likes playful touching throughout the day I thought it was sinful. "Why think about sex the whole day???" was my question. Well, now I've changed my tune. Here's why… The reason I do this work: I love families I love what children have when it's a safe, loving family The desire for intercourse isn't the motivation. It's the answer to "how do we make the world safer"? We make better children who have parents who love each other so well that they're able to live a trauma-free life God wants children to be raised up in the right, safe, kind environment. And sex is vital to that because that's how your husband receives love. Why do great men of God fall to sexual sin? The sexual sin is great... 35% of internet downloads is pornography "Sex" is the #1 search term Pornography increases marital infidelity rate by more than 300% Adultery destroys your soul God made him with a strong desire And God gave him that desire; the average man has about 11 erections a day! So where do we go from here? I'm not saying you're responsible for his fidelity. But I think you have an opportunity to support him in this really sinful world. Have a system of seduction throughout the day: Bring up intimacy throughout the day! Touch him! Give him a kiss through his clothes --- do it any time of the day! Always change in front of him Tell him "I can't wait to do more" Resources: Late September, I have a women's course called The Delighted Wife: Reclaim Your Sexuality Live In Your Womanly Wisdom And Witness Him Cherish You If you want to find out if this is the right step for you, go to www.dym.as.me so we can speak 1:1 to discuss your situation. No matter what it's a $500 value but free to podcast listeners and you'll get amazing free value and clarity so sign up as soon as you can! ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Good Morning--- I wanted to say a prayer for you. And let you know that whatever situation you're facing He is with you. He is right there beside you. He says: 28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matt 11:28-30 (NIV) God is with you in this situation. Jesus loves you and wants to take your burdens. Love you and praying for you. Love, Belah

Do you wish YOU were into sex more? A lot of things are not mentioned in the Bible: Electricity Vehicles Importance of exercise Internet So much of our daily life is not spoken about in the Bible! And yet we have no problem doing it, every day. In fact, we'd say it was good, though not mentioned in the Bible. So, why don't we have the same view of sex? Art isn't mentioned in the Bible but some like painting, some like sculpture, others like charcoal. As with art, if your spouse would like more variety, that's okay! If your spouse would like more frequent intimacy, that's okay! God can help you with all of this. He can help you physically crave sex. He can help you want to meet your husband's particular desire for that particular style of "art". God cares about being a part of your life --- and your sex life! In a marriage, a man and a woman are free to want to make love with one another. Resources: If you're interested about the women's program to be truly free in the areas of VARIETY, CRAVING SEX and grow in your knowledge of all the HOW-TO's this coming September, you can go to www.dym.as.me to schedule a call to see if it's a good fit for you! ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

This is our (my husband and I) final conversation about being easygoing, playful and fun together. It's a bit of insight into our relationship and we believe it'll give you some inspiration into where your marriage can go. I go through the final keys to making your marriage peaceful and walking through life in a state of calm, rather than rushing in a state of stress. A couple of things you'd be interested to hear... how (and why) my husband responds when he's watching a game (live) and he sees I'm upset. From him. why receiving an apology graciously is just as important as making one. when you're more vulnerable, the spouse will be too! someone called me the "calmest person I've ever met". I was grateful (and shocked), but this conversation may give a bit of insight into why. --- If you'd like to get my newly released on paperback Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex, go here! If you purchase and then review on Amazon before Sept 1, 2019, you'll receive free access to a $97 Masterclass! ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

My darling husband and I continue our chat about becoming easygoing and why it's important to develop this skill. And how it can impact even their relationship with Jesus. We have some playful convo but also some serious and important things to say. My husband" derails" my 15-point plan ;) with a very insightful and emotional commentary that you won't want to miss! This is Part 2 of 3. If you'd like to revolutionize your marriage and your intimacy I want to invite you onto a Clarity Call. This is an opportunity for you to speak directly with me Belah Rose and uncover what is blocking you from the playful, peaceful and purposeful marriage you crave. Sign up now as I have limited availability: www.dym.as.me ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

I think this has been something I've wondered and I know the wives I've worked with have thought their husbands were. Maybe you're a husband and you're concerned that you might be too? Maybe you're a wife and think your husband is. I mean there's a lot less scriptures about sex in the bible than there are about other things right? Well...Have you heard all the scriptures about golf? And yet, people spend a lot of time golfing. Or playing football. Or doing make up or hair or clothes. Or horsebackriding... And yet, we spend a lot of time and energy on our specific hobbies. Yet the Bible does have A LOT to say about sex. The wrong type of sex and how to fill that desire. I want to walk you through scriptures and my own insights over the years, that I hope you God would give you a lot of freedom through this podcast and you wouldn't feel the concern but you would align your heart with the way God views and wants you to view sex with your spouse. I'd LOVE to have you on my LIVE webinar this coming Sunday evening, June 2, 2019. Sign up here! http://delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

"I can't go on like this" "I don't think we can make this work" "I'm at the end of my rope" (what I hear the MOST) I hate these phrases. They're not literal, and they mean this person is in severe pain. I am sad about that. I am sad that you're in such heartache. I'm sorry that you feel so alone, frustrated, discouraged and desperate. But I want you to have hope. I want you to have FAITH for your marriage. Ephesians 6:12 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." If you've been fighting with your spouse... there's stuff you can do. God hates divorce not because He's waiting for you to mess up and wants you to be miserable and live in suffering... but because divorce shreds hearts--what God has joined together--that which has become ONE FLESH. What that disconnects it truly shreds humans, families, children. I love working with people who are on the brink of divorce. Its honestly my favorite--because I get to see God get the most glory from it! From people who are in agony and fear of the future, to people who are living the abundant life and loving God and people to a greater degree than they ever have (and having fun, playful, passionate intimacy on all levels!) If you're where I was before my divorce of my first marriage--I understand you. Now I know that it doesn't have to end that way. It really doesn't. Listen in for more. I'd love to get on a free Clarity Call to hear your story. I'd love to see if I can discern if God would want me to help you. And if it feels like that's the case, I may invite you to work with me. Otherwise, I'd be happy to give you this $500 value session for free anyway. Sign up: www.dym.as.me Love, Belah ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Is easygoing a personality trait or a skill? I am definitely NOT a natural "easy-goer". Most of my life, I have generally had an opinion and if asked I could find one pretty quickly. I generally have had a schedule and way in which I'd like things done. And I'm extremely goal-oriented and don't have a lot of patience for those who aren't. Well, those can be super qualities for productivity and work, they're not necessarily the best for marriage. We've gone through a path. I've learned a lot. And here he and I chat about my journey into the skill of "easygoing" and my conviction that if we want the peace God wants us to walk in, we have to seek to develop this skill as well. -- If you're craving intimacy in your marriage--if you're a man or a woman--I want to help you! God has designed marriage and I believe SEX SHOULD BE BETTER IN MARRIAGE. The foundation of our marriage is God, emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Each are vital for you to do God's work fueled out of the love cultivated in your marriage. I'd like to invite you onto a FREE Clarity Call with me where we explore the hard things that you're going through and get a roadmap together of your next steps--if I feel you're the right fit for working with me I may invite you into one of my programs. But otherwise it's a $500 value for your FREE. I hope you'll join a call with me, sign up: www.dym.as.me ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Sexless + Controlling = miserable husband Sex-Full + Controlling = miserable husband Sexless + Non Controlling = miserable husband Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that are desperate for change. I want to help you! JFYI My husband said this is one of the best podcasts ever---he has only said that 1 other time (!) so I hope this is one that is helpful for you. I talk about foundational truths about men and women that I don't hear people shouting from the rooftops---but they should be! Learn how to strategically change what is going on in your marriage! Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that I work with. I want to help you! 1) Come on my free webinar TOMORROW, Friday, May 24, 2019 at 7:30pm EST: The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ---- 2) I used to be a CONTROLLING wife. And there was a ton of tension. He was miserable and so was I. I didn't like who my husband was. He didn't like me either. When I changed, my husband's joy, the best parts of who he is returned and improved! He's now the most amazing man I've ever met. Seriously. And I'm happier than I could ever have imagined. What can you do as a husband? A LOT! Here are 3 keys that you can change things in your relationship! ---- Here are the resources I chat about: Discover her strengths: www.delightyourmarriage.com/strengths Free webinar: The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Yep... MY husband said this! Like last week. What did he mean? Maybe you're a wife that has insecurities like me? After a wonderfully intimate evening, I came clean about something I had been struggling with for a while. He was able to give ear to my heart and hear that I was feeling pain that I wasn't even aware I was hiding from him. Various husbands have expressed confusion as to why a wife wouldn't want him looking at others while at the SAME TIME she's hiding her curves he LONGS to see! As a wife, I get it and I stumble in this way too. If I am not vigilant I can fall just like the enemy wants us all to. I think it's sin because we're separating ourselves from God and what He wants us to do... (Quite literally) our husbands. :) ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here. Maybe you're a husband who doesn't "get it". I have some important insights for you too! Further... I'm EXTREMELY excited to invite you on a LIVE Webinar with me coming up! On Fri, May 24 & Sun, June 2, 7:30pm EST I'll be hosting a LIVE FREE WEBINAR: WHAT'S BLOCKING HER LIBIDO? The 7 Mistakes you might be making! Sign up: www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

Do you want unity in your marriage? Do you want her to feel safe to be utterly vulnerable and literally naked before you? Then it is NOT helpful for her to know your past sex life. You probably have forgotten plenty of your past, but once you've told her it will stay with her for years--even decades. Whatever sexual sin you've had before (or even the porn you've done while) is sin. It's your job as a man to discipline your mind, and your actions to be faithful to her. But if you're making her your "accountability partner" it's like saying: "honey, I'm trying not to look at other women, imagine them naked and pretend having sex with them". That will hurt her. Get your act together sir, get to a church, get vulnerable with someone--don't do this in isolation but don't load your dirty laundry on her. Because this will make it HARDER for her to make love (and of course that's what would actually HELP you avoid the temptations anyway). So, whether you think you're just "being honest" you do not need to be unwise with your words. Words start forest fires. I speak to women daily about how unloved and ugly they feel because their husband struggles with porn. Women have constant insecurities all around sex. Your job as a man? Gratitude for EVERYTHING she is and does around sex. Tell her and show her how extremely grateful and gratifying her sexuality is to you. And recognize you don't and shouldn't be a victim to your sexual cravings. And I am working with men to change these dynamics in their marriages and have already had incredible results: -Women are now initiating "I can't remember the last time". -"We made love 2 times this week and it was 'making love' not just duty sex". -A man separated from his wife shared that they've now had several sexual encounters. SO! If you want to know next steps with me, if you're a man, I'm opening my Clarity Calls now to you. You can book one here: www.dym.as.me This is a $500 value and I'm not sure how much longer I'll be doing these, so I encourage you to book very soon.

I have been late to get a podcast out to you...for a pretty important reason. My brother was found on the side of the road without a pulse. I raced to the hospital several states away and arrived when the doctors told us he may be brain dead---we found out they were considering putting him on life-support. No one knew how long he was there without blood pumping through his body. But God. My family reached out to loved ones, Christians, churches, friends, friends of friends all asking for prayer in faith for healing. Standing on the word--by His stripes we are healed, the prayer of faith shall heal you, lay hands on the sick and they shall recover... Standing on His promises of Jesus' healing. All asking for God's miraculous intervention. The story of Lazarus came up OVER and OVER again--my sister was in a play, her paster and my pastor in different states preached on it, a Lazarus song came up 2x, and 2 dreams about Lazarus. We prayed that my brother would be raised like Lazarus. It's pretty incredible what happened next. I hope this story blesses you and brings you closer to Jesus and gives you greater faith in His amazing hand in your life. I believe that is what this story is to do. I believe my job is to spread the good news of the miracle-working power of the gospel. I hope you share this story to bring God glory. But I also pray that if your life looks more like John the Baptist (when you hear the podcast you'll understand what I mean) I want to give you hope as well. God has not forgotten you, your situation, your loved ones, your name. He has purposes and they are far greater than we can imagine. Your life has purpose even if it looks different than others. He is the Messiah, He does love you, He has purpose and POWER for you and YOUR life. Love and God bless you, Belah ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

What if you're a wife that has WAY lower libido than your husband? If you feel like this is just physiologically the way you were made, I want to help. I think there's a lot more to you and the way you're set up sexually. I, Belah Rose, "the sexpert", can easily say I have a low libido. Does that keep me and my husband from having an incredible sex life? Fierce, firey, sensual, spiritual... And I get turned on too and get excited about making love! So... I don't think your libido/"natural" sex drive has to prevent you either! Listen in to find out the top 3 things you need to know if you have a LOW sex drive. And how to turn that around. How I did and do. But what if HE is the one with the low sex drive? Ouch! So sorry, I know that's so hard! There are several important questions you need to be asking. I help you to sort through what could be the real source of the issues and how to overcome them. Are you contributing to the issue or COULD be contributing to live the solution? -- What's a Clarity Call: You can sign up for a FREE, 40-minute call (a $500 value) for an opportunity to get clear on the issues you deal with. If you are the right fit for the program this can be a phenomenal opportunity as I can't invite everyone into the program. Clarity Calls are free for now but I'm not sure until when. To schedule, go to: www.dym.as.me Even if we find a program is not the right fit, you'll get a ton of awesome value. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

My husband is a very wise man. Probably the wisest I've met (and I get to live with him! :) :) :) ) Listeners have asked to hear from my husband and I'm glad because he has a lot of wonderful & helpful things to share! I think his message has nuggets that any and every marriage will benefit from! -- If you're a husband... I'm about to pilot a brand new program: Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again! I have SO many men--may be like yourself--whose wives wouldn't dream of hearing my work or considering changing their behavior or even understanding those needs. By Gods grace, I understand men AND women and this would be the program to bridge the gap for MEN to understand their wives and motivate her to WANT sex rather than REPEL her FROM it (as unfortunately, most of them are :( ). It would be an all-male group coaching with me. This would allow men to share their situations and I would advise on the female perspective and give teachings (all this via live video chat) on how to transform their marriages and intimacy within it. I'm only accepting serious, committed, decisive and coachable applicants and this pilot would be the absolute lowest investment the program will ever be. I am either going to pick the best of the applications that come in or if there are a lot (and I plan to blast this all over to gauge genuine interest) then I'll just do first come, first serve of the best ones. If you'd like to be considered for this opportunity sign up for a Clarity Call at www.dym.as.me and we'll dive in quickly to see if you'd be the right fit to get success out of this opportunity. Check out testimonials of my work: www.delightyourmarriage.com/testimonials & also www.delightyourmarriage.com/husbands to read a tiny sampling of the outpouring of men about their sexual needs and need to be respected. I'm REALLY looking forward to helping the men who constantly reach out to me for help (3 just this week!).

Productiveness IS good, but we forget that we're not just human doers -- we're also human beings. Take the story of Martha and Mary. Martha was working hard and being productive FOR JESUS. Mary was calmly sitting, being still and LISTENING TO JESUS. Both were Godly women. And Jesus even defended Mary for "choosing the good part" when Martha accused her of not DOING. Consider how Jesus modeled JOY and DELIGHT -- not just productivity. He certainly "did" a lot, but he also had breakfast with his friends, ate dinner and drank wine (sometimes he was even accused of being a drunkard!) and little children ran to him. He must have been pretty enjoyable to be around if even little children want to run up to the revered Rabbi. If you are ALWAYS thinking that "God wants me to be productive. I need to do this and that..." then I challenge you to sit back, listen to Him, and just take delight in His presence. We can also apply this to our sex lives. What if sex was fun and filled you up? And it's not just about sex. Being FUN and PLAYFUL in the bedroom EXTENDS to how you interact with your husband daily. In this podcast episode, you'll discover... Why sex can actually be fun! Sex doesn't have to be miserable - I encourage you to reverse it even if you've endured it for years and years! It can still be passionate, playful, purposeful --- like how it was in the beginning! How does fun and playful sex affect us: We empathize easier with our husbands and other people too We rewire our brains to see, think, and do as God wants us to When we're not constantly doing and we have margin in our lives that comes through playing We serve a God that loves us. He want us to know that: His love is deeper and wider and truer than we can imagine. He truly wants us to enjoy our lives. He created physical stimuli like laughing when we are tickled. Why? Because all the joys we feel when hugged, kissed, or touched --- it is proof of God's unfathomable deep and true love for us. SCARED to START BEING PLAYFUL? I'm curious where that fear is coming from? I have Clarity Calls set up especially to get at the root of how you feel underneath the behavior. If you go to www.dym.as.me for a 40-Minute FREE conversation with me to understand where you are in your marriage. If you're distraught or even if you're on the edge of divorce, by God's grace, a Clarity Call may be exactly what you need to gain hope and discern next steps FOR YOU.

Words are important. They can cause a wildfire or a passionate flame in your bedroom. Outside of the bedroom: We can be hurtful and careless with our words and say "Oh he's my husband". Does that sound familiar? But is he really JUST your husband? That is God's son you're dealing with. If you want to get your words in line with God's will, one of the first things that needs to be done is to APOLOGIZE. Just get it out of the way. It's hard, especially if it's not part of the culture of your marriage. But it'll get easier the more you do it! When words are on purpose, intentional, and aligned with what God wants your husband to hear, then it's easy to truly become ONE FLESH. Generous lovemaking becomes more natural to both of you. Now onto the SEXY STUFF: What CAN you say in sex? Is God okay with you saying seductive phrases to your husband? Could God even WANT you both to use your words to turn each other on? What is going to encourage the bond between you and your husband? If he's aroused and you're not (and vice versa!) --- how do you turn each other on? If you have a higher drive -- it's not your fault--but what actions can you take? What about fantasy, sexy texts, and whispering attractive things in his ears? So you might say "but I feel like I'm just FAKING IT?" or "It's not my personality". There's plenty you can do! Sexy language is going to feel silly at first. Just like when you study a new language! As you practice it, you get less awkward and you'll push through and take courage in your marriage bed! Resources: I want to invite you on a FREE 40-minute Clarity Call with me if these are things that you struggle with and you feel very far away from being able to feel free in your sexual intimacy. It is extremely gratifying when you have the sexual intimacy you and he crave! Go to this website to schedule a chat with me: http://www.dym.as.me/ What happens at Clarity Calls? Well, we dig deep into what the issues are and I'll listen and take notes. We're going to talk about your dreams and desires and we would go through what would it look like to bridge the gap. I'm going to determine if you would be the right fit for my program and talk through the details and maybe invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month.

A lot of women are under the impression that they need to share everything with their husbands. In fact, they say this is being "honest". I disagree. In EVERY marriage (yes, even VERY good ones), there are many things that are not (and should not) be shared. No one needs to share about tons of bathroom stuff---yuck, not sexy. But there are tons of other things that just wouldn't be useful, helpful, godly, respectful, kind or many other reasons to share. AND it depends on what level of the Marriage Health Spectrum your marriage is to determine what you SHOULD or SHOULD NOT share. If your marriage is awful right now, you shouldn't SHARE what someone who has an awesome marriage can share. You have to be strategic with what you do and do not share. SO that it can BECOME an awesome marriage. Find out... Where your marriage is on the Marriage Health Spectrum Considering that, does he--your husband--deserve "your heart"? How can you still be the faithful, generous wife AND guard your heart? HOW to respond to heartbreaking adulterous situations strategically, like affairs or addictions to pornography If you don't want to lose your marriage, HOW your react is vital! WHAT we can learn from Esther, the woman who changed the heart of the King! Can you believe sex was involved? How to transform zero-affection marriages and get to a place where you're doing God's will in this life How to respond to your husband when he hurts you… Hurt people HURT PEOPLE Understand how your husband is motivated, how he is designed so you can work with that and help him become the man, God wants him to be. And the man that supports you, loves you, allows you to be fulfilled and do God's work Resources: Jump on a free 40-minute Clarity Call with me. To schedule, go to: www.dym.as.me IF I think I can help you, then I'll share with you what the 90-Day Delighted Wife Program looks like!

As a mother, you would do ANYTHING for your children. What does that have to do with making love to their father? Well, A LOT. In fact, their eternity is at stake. Really. Your marriage teaches your kids to treat others, adults and themselves. Your marriage teaches them what a healthy relationship/marriage looks like and that they want one. Your marriage shows them that a relationship with Jesus is fun and worth picking the right spouse and waiting for it! Your marriage shows them what character means. Your sex life is foundational to all of this... Your husband can be an incredible dad He can be focused on his family not the temptations of the world Other things covered: How sex satiety and desire for sex occurs in opposite ways for women and men Why your children need to be well-liked by adults (and that's your job) World-renowned psychologist mentioned: Jordan B. Peterson When you're a whole woman, totally emotionally held and loved in your marriage you have a far greater capacity to be a present, teaching, loving but wise mother (rather than a resentful, haggard and push-over stressed-out mother) Excited for you to dive deep into how to transform your marriage!

What does money have to do with your marriage? Finances are often touted as the biggest reason for divorce... but get this: when you have an awesome sex life studies estimate that it's equivalent to having an additional $100k per year! So... NO financial issues... But there's more, the BIGGEST financial DISASTER that can ever befall someone is divorce. SO an awesome marriage and sex life can either pay big $$$ or cost you a ton of money! With all that said, how well are you prioritizing life so that your marriage is protected and your finances support it? WISELY. The Bible is very specific: wisdom is more valuable than silver and gold... "nothing your heart desires can compare with her". So, how high are you prioritizing wisdom to ensure you have an awesome marriage? The cool thing is that Solomon first asked for wisdom and then God also gave him riches! So if you invest your finances into wisdom the rewards may also be material wealth! I talk about the way to prioritize your life that is accorded with the Bible and how your money should reflect those priorities. Right now I'm doing FREE Clarity Calls (I am not sure how long I'll be able to do these as I have limited space) but on these we go 40 min to uncover the bandaid to discover what is underneath the surface issues of your marriage. If I feel like you're the right fit and I can help you I may invite you to be part of my program: The Delighted Wife: Reclaim Your Sexuality, Live In Your Womanly Wisdom and Witness Him Transform Into Who You've Always Wanted. www.dym.as.me Find out what is preventing you from having the marriage of your dreams? Sign up for a FREE Clarity Call quickly as my schedulle fills very quicly. www.dym.as.me Looking forward to working with you one-on-one soon!

I get so many emails from husbands. I want to send a message to their wives...the wife I used to be. I was a wife who saw sex as Dirty Wrong Ungodly Scary He was sinning for wanting it Too much work I didn't like it / it hurt / I didn't know what to do I don't have time I don't have energy What's in it for me? He's way too interested in sex And so I avoided it and got resentful that the things I was doing wasn't appreciated. He kept asking me to learn more... and I got angrier. Well God has changed my heart on this. I have discovered that God made my husband's member, and I am his wife. It is my privilege to be a part of intimacy with him. I am his only means of receiving this vital fulfillment righteously. I believe this podcast will bring you closer to God. If you're anything like I was, I wish I had known this even before I got married. If I could only understand what sex meant to him. If I could only understand God's purposes for it. I pray this would be something husbands can give to their wives (when she's ready---listen and practice these 3 episodes: Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) 156, 156/157, 157 first). Podcasts I mention: 132-S: The Most Important Piece To Amazing Intimacy with Belah Rose 144-S: The Discipline of "No" with Belah Rose Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) 156, 156/157, 157 Praying for you and your marriage, Belah

Are you having the WRONG type of sex? Why your wife doesn't LOVE intimacy Why sex feels carnal Why sex feels like it's just for HIM Why sex isn't fulfilling (EVEN if you orgasm) I argue that there is a very legitimate reason... You guys haven't made feminine sex....ever Have you ever even been exposed to what feminine sex is? Let me give you a description and then the tools on how to get started! Go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/type for further explanation and a step-by-step guide to feminine sex Resources referenced: Miss Representation documentary If you want to know more about our sexualized culture and how men have defined those you can check this own My very serious warning is there's a ton of very negative visuals--sexually-explicit music videos, movies with very provocative clothing... but they have really educational good content What I would suggest is turning it on your phone and then turning your phone over so you can hear the content without being exposed to the crude and sinful visuals...or just trust that somehow I gleaned what would be helpful for you! A great TED talk which explains how our movies are lacking female influence, thus the feminine values and sexual desires: The Data Behind Hollywood's Sexism FREE (Potentially Life-Changing) Opportunity I am doing a limited amount of FREE Clarity Calls to help wives go deep and truly understand and get clear on what is prohibiting them from getting to the intimacy and marriage God wants for them. The catch? IF I think I can help you (and I don't think I can help every woman I speak with) I may invite you to be one of the few women I coach this month. But if not, you'll definitely get a ton of value from the call, so get on my calendar soon -- right I believe my next Clarity Call is available in 3 weeks from now... so get on the calendar as soon as you can so your marriage can blossom as God wants it to!! www.dym.as.me

So... my husband listens to every podcast before I post them. He often gives me notes on what I need to take out or change. I have been podcasting since Feb 2015 (!!) and by God's grace have been awarded one of the Top 30 Relationship podcasts on the web!! My husband ended up listening and having an entire page FULL of notes. POSITIVE notes! (One negative note--not that it was wrong but that it might be a bit too explicit. I countered "I just don't want wives to be confused with what I'm really talking about". He said well, it's ABSOLUTELY true..." so, I left it it in!) In my almost 200 episodes (!!) my husbands said this is one of the best--maybe THE BEST. So! I encourage you to listen with an open heart and get ready for some (maybe uncomfortable) truth bombs! Here is the site I mention where I have collated a sampling of SOME of the emails I get from husbands WISHING (and some even are crying) because they want so badly for their wives to work with me! Seriously...read it... delightyourmarriage.com/husbands AND if you want to jump in and schedule a FREE Clarity Call where we unpack what's going on in your marriage, in your intimacy, the baggage and start to shed light on how to move it in the right direction, I am offering FREE 40+ min Clarity Calls. You can sign up here: www.dym.as.me I don't know how long I'll be able to do these for free as it's a giant time commitment--but I love being able to help women. And if I think I can help, you're ready, committed and coachable and that I have the specialization to help your SPECIFIC situation I may invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month. (I truly don't take on or even invite everyone who wants to work with me). But either way, you get a ton of clarity and direction towards next steps! So, sign up as soon as you can for a FREE Clarity Call with me, Belah! www.dym.as.me

How could suffering ever be a gift? Why would focusing on suffering be a wise thing? A lot of times the women I coach don't take the time to look at the pain and suffering they're experiencing. But when they do that, they are distracting themselves away from its lessons--the wisdom God wants to teach us through it. And even through our AWARENESS of it. On this episode, I talk about the 13 Gifts of Sufferings and I talk specifically about some of my own sufferings that have given me great gifts and it was because I was aware of them in the moments that God used it profoundly in my life. Jump on a call with me personally to unearth what you're going through and use the suffering to provoke action! Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me It's a 40min call for free with me directly! --- Testimonial: of a husband of 20+ years: I just wanted to say a few things, like...Thank you! Thank you for the time you spent with her, and for your generosity, it is much appreciated. I don't know what the two of you discussed, I haven't asked and she hasn't told. But I haven't seen such a fast change in [her] in, well....ever. It's like she is a different woman. Actually, she is behaving more like the woman I thought I married or wish I had married... The changes I have seen in her are profound... Again, I don't know what you coached her to do, and I don't know if she is doing it all or only doing half. But I do see a changed woman in my life. So again I say "Thank You!" Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me I'd love to speak with you directly for free!

Can things really change? "It's been 5, 10, 25 years, how could this ever be different?" Suffering in marriage makes your whole life suffer---kids, job, ministry, peace, walking in the fruits of the spirit, sexual fulfillment, chastity in thoughts, satisfaction in marriage, covetous thoughts of other marriages, sin in many places, not starting the ministries God has called you to and would thus not touch the many people God wants you too!! It's 2019, packed in this message is lots of hope, and practical steps to make changes in you that will greatly impact your marriage! Here is a testimonial I just received by a wife who has been married 10+ years: "Before working with Belah, my marriage had been to the brink of divorce and separation. My husband and I had continual anger and resentment toward one another. I knew the importance of sex to a man, and felt pressure to be 'enough'. But I felt like I never was. I reached out to Belah, for her to help me be who he needed. Belah listened to my heart, and saw the missing piece- boundaries. Turns out, he needed ME all along. Through Belah's coaching, she helped me with: Healthy boundaries. Loving and respecting myself. Realizing, and honoring what "I" enjoy and desire about sex and intimacy. She gave me wisdom and words to say. Teaching me what a healthy relationship looks like in all areas. The amazing benefits I am enjoying now: LOVE; true love like never before. My husband and I look forward to being around each other, and have such an appreciation and respect for one another. I am cherished and honored, he is respected and lifted up as my man. I am more "me" than ever before, and loving exactly who I am and am becoming. Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful." To God be all the glory. I want to help you get clarity on what is really going on in your marriage and I have limited space to talk with some women one on one to uncover what is really going on in their marriages for transformation! If you're serious about wanting this difference in your marriage, sign up at www.dym.as.me as soon as you can, as space will fill up quickly! www.dym.as.me Love, Belah

WHAT SHOULD YOUR LIFE BE ABOUT AT THE BEGINNING OF 2019? I used to try to cram all of my goals into the beginning of the year. And I would scramble for a few weeks potentially months—at best and then drop all of them by April. I've learned something very valuable that I wanted to share today. I want to talk to you about exactly how I set my priorities throughout every year. It frees me up to focus, relax and listen to God's voice. This year I'm really excited and there's a lot of really good things! And I want that for you as well. If you want to move your marriage to a place of peace and passion and joy and purpose, I would love to jump on a FREE breakthrough call where you can discover solutions immediately. Sign up here: https://dym.as.me/ God bless you in 2019! (If you're not in my FREE private Facebook group where we discuss intimacy and marriage and purpose in life and I walk with God join here!… Wives only! :-) ) www.facebook.com/groups/delightym/

You might think your marriage is too far gone. There is too much strife, emotional and mental abuse, painful memories, WAY too much baggage to ever recover. I encourage you to review this entire series and take a journey with me on this episode. Maybe we've been looking at this whole marriage thing all wrong. And we've been looking at what it means to be man and woman wrong too? What is the masculine nature? What is the feminine nature? Can a man have both, can a woman have both? Is this a sacrilegious framework? Well, I think there is a ton of biblical precedence for thinking of men and women as possessing both masculine and feminine natures and both are good, should be respected and honored. I'm going to share that here. I want to talk about how this shows up in my own marriage specifically and how it can radically change yours! -- Jump on a 40min clarity call with me so we can sort this stuff out. What is going on in your marriage and how can we get to the bottom of it to truly, deeply transform the lives of you, your spouse, your children and what God wants of you in this world! Delightyourmarriage.com/call

1 in 4 women this year will be sexually abused. You may never know who... your sister, best friend, daughter, mother, wife... You may have been the victim. I'm so sorry for your pain and what you have been through. You are not alone and you do not need to feel shame any longer. Today's podcast is to help all women process the pain of abuse. I think it affects all of us whether we ourselves have experienced it or not, we live in a culture where that is the norm... When was the last news show you were able to get through without hearing at least one incident of violence against a woman? 1 in 5 searches on the internet are for pornography and 90% of pornography is violent towards women. Most women who have been abused are not believed even if they have the courage to speak out--so most stay silent. Here's what I cover: Why are women abused? Why the shaming question she is always asking herself: "why didn't I know better?" or "she was asking for it" isn't her fault based on her God-given nature My experiences with sexual abuse Why I think it's vital that we continue to understand women's experiences and give them a voice and let them know we hear them and believe them Why we all need to be speaking about it and not expect only the victims to How does it affect your marriages... What if you have sex without wanting it in your marriage? Why that makes you feel abused even though it might not actually abused It affects sex, her feelings of safety and I have some specific guidance for that (get my specific guide referenced on the show! Send me a message to get the Connection Session Guide here: [email protected])

Here's what is covered in today's episode There are a ton of "submit" verses in the Bible. They were used to abuse me in my first marriage. I think these also have made men feel that they had the right to abuse & justify their actions with the misuse of these scriptures. But what people don't realize is they are reading the Bible (and even translations of the Bible) through a patriarchial lense. Don't believe me? What does "help-meet" mean? This word which Eve is supposed to be to Adam. Well, it's not the supporting, secondary, servant role you may have always thought. The original word in Hebrew is "ezer kenegedo". Ezer is used 21x in the Old Testament When speaking of Eve 2x in Genesis, it's translated as "help" Three times it is used to describe a powerful nation that comes to save the nation of Israel from their enemies The other 16x it's used to describe God as a military warrior, the powerful savior, giving desperate salvation from foes Is that how you see women? Is that how you see yourself? What if more verses are viewed through this patriarchial lense and we just aren't aware? What scriptural references do we KNOW for sure speak of female leadership even in the New Testament (sprinkled among the books including "wives submit to husbands" verses are found): Woman apostle Paul honoring the 10 out of 28 people who have been colaborers Woman deacons As a feminist myself, this material breaths life to my soul BUT, what if there IS something to this "submitting" thing in the 21st century, Christian marriages with powerful, feminist women...? What if there's an empowering message for both men and women when done "right"? This is a morsel of a much larger conversation, but God-willing it will leave all of us with a bit more of a softened heart to where God may be leading us. This isn't easy territory, but I pray that it is an eye-opening episode for every listener. -- It was my husband's birthday this week and I'm asking every listener to take 5 minutes to review the show! If you're not sure how, here's a link for delightyourmarriage.com/itunes

This one honestly wasn't that easy to think through or record. Here's what I cover: how I hold my opinions about women in the church and I think we all should how women showed up in the Bible I think Christian men should be on the forefront of the movement to end sexual abuse against women (Jesus would have been) women in ministry leadership the things I'm still processing around this your sexual abuse story should be believed, heard, processed, given space and the same goes for church abuse (of any kind) the body of Christ needs women in leadership because they are lacking without us

When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don't have boundaries. And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relationships and cause their marriage to thrive instead of the abusive, they have to have boundaries. But it might not look the way you think it will look. I grew up without boundaries myself. And So I never learned that I was responsible for me: my feelings, my thoughts, my choices, my property, my own things, my privacy... So naturally when I got married, I didn't think I owned these things either. And I didn't think my husband did either. Especially hearing the "two will become one flesh", to me that meant that I owned him and he owns me. So we had to be the same. However that doesn't work. How do you create boundaries in your marriage? How do you make sure those boundaries are respected? And should we always be "honest" with our husbands? I don't think so necessarily. I look forward to our conversation! — DYM is sponsored by my new business Couragess: Christian Women's Mastermind group. Would love for you to check out my new site and get my free resource: 3 Habits to Grow Your Confidence immediately! www.Couragess.com

(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!) -- I was abused and I was completely unaware at the time. Because he was spiritually gifted I trusted him. But he wasn't exhibiting the fruits of the spirit. If you're being abused, it's so hard to see what's really going on in your marriage because something that's inherent in abuse is blinders. Today, I talk about my own experience with abuse in my first marriage, and what it took to get the blinders off for me. And then not only removing your blinders, but then what is your next step after becoming clear on what's really going on in your marriage. And then to make wise action towards what I believe can completely transform him. This is the beginning of a series of DYM shows on abuse. There's many different levels, categories and types of abuse towards women in many aspects of life. I want to help a woman who is currently in an abusive situation to think through the really difficult areas to walk the hard strategic road to recovery that I believe is possible. Please note: I am not a licensed therapist or social worker and I cannot provide that "professional" guidance. But this is what I have learned through my story and the suffering I went through and what I have helped some of my coaching clients out of. Regardless of my credentials, we need to be helping women in this extremely common and devastating arena. — The resource I referenced about getting support around domestic violence and abuse is www.nomore.org

Not discussed… but it's common to be attracted to someone that's not your spouse. What do you do about it? First, figure out where you are in your level of attraction and then decide action steps: -1-3 (when you see them/talk to them you feel a chemistry) talk to God, get busy, be an enthusiastic lover with your husband, redirect your thoughts, read the Word, work with your hands -4-7 (find your mind wandering to this person consistently) confide in a mature friend of the same sex–tell them what's going on and be very honest, avoid spending time with this person, journal about their qualities and affirm that your husbands qualities are better because x, y & z, speak affirmations in faith, draw close to your husband -8-10 (if you're considering an affair, divorce or in that spot already) seek counsel of a therapist or counselor, use all sexual inspiration and direct it towards your spouse, be as enthusiastic in the bedroom as you'd be with this new person, pray fervently, be very intentional about falling in love with your husband again, write pros and cons list of this decision and include EVERYONE who would be positively and negatively affected in short term and long term—be honest with what you're dealing with, pretend you're in the future looking back on your life and determine whether you'd make that same choice if you could do it all over again Remember, what you imagine you see now…it's all a fantasy. You are with the right person. And God will give you the grace to see that if you trust in him. —— UPDATE: I have had to postpone this virtual class referenced on the podcast. Feel free to sign up here to hear more about when the class is ready to be open. To men: I have men that reach out to me a lot of direction and support because they wish their wives would be interested in my material. My heart goes out to them and I'd like to give them individual and specific guidance, but I don't feel comfortable working with men one on one. So, I am developing a Delight Your Wife virtual classroom just for men. This will be a weekly class where I will be live with you discussing a particular topic. You can send me your questions or add to the discussion during the call. These will be recorded and ready for you any time you'd like them in the future as well. If you sign up in November 2018, you'll have the lowest subscription fee as the content is still being developed and the virtual classes will just be getting started. Sign up for Delight Your Wife here!

Excited we're back together after far too long! We have got some fantastic episodes coming your way in this new season of DYM! What was the last sex scandal you heard about? What was the last Christian sex scandal? It probably wasn't too long ago. It's really sad. And it happens so much, far too much. Why is this happening? What can we do about this? On today's show, I talk about why this is so common. I describe the problem and then what you can do in your own marriage. What you can do in your own sphere of influence to guard yourself and others. Why I have told my husband if he sins--goes outside the bounds of our marriage--he will be forgiven. That doesn't mean it isn't going to hurt me, and the marriage and plenty of others, but anything less can destabilize us in the long-run. --- You might know me as the author, podcaster and intimacy coach, but I've also helped many women over the years get their goals: writing their books, transforming their marriages, getting a job, starting or leveling-up their business (brick-and-mortar and online). I've worked in entrepreneurship, non-profit and for-profit (with Fortune 50 companies). I am hosting a "Goal-set in God's will" webinar Sunday, October 14, 2018, at 8 pm EST and Tuesday, October 16, 12 pm EST. Discover the 3 questions you need to ask AND goal-set with me on this webinar! You're someone who sets big, hairy, audacious goals, but could they need a bit of tweaking? Let's do something really important and have fun doing it! Sign up for this FREE, live webinar with me!

Hi all, DYM is taking a break for the summer but will be back on late August, early September. Blessings, Belah

Questions Discussed: Is it helpful to fantasize about others? How to get turned on How to have an orgasm Female erections How to rekindle your attraction How to get turned on even if you don't "like" him right now How you can be turned on by him What he can do What you can do Check out this episode's show notes with links -------- I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So, I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy! Check out The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. The 3 Components of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs All Steamy AND Sacred

Part 2: Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions about making your desires known, sex, and some more challenging realities like pornography. Ultimately, its a fantastic conversation which I hope you'll listen in! Resources mentioned: Surrendered Wife Surrendered Single Things Will Get As Good As You Can Stand ——- Ensure that you're infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy: I've released the first 4 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now. The 3 Components of of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs How is it Steamy & Sacred