Delight Your Marriage

This is our (my husband and I) final conversation about being easygoing, playful and fun together. It's a bit of insight into our relationship and we believe it'll give you some inspiration into where your marriage can go. I go through the final keys to making your marriage peaceful and walking through life in a state of calm, rather than rushing in a state of stress. A couple of things you'd be interested to hear... how (and why) my husband responds when he's watching a game (live) and he sees I'm upset. From him. why receiving an apology graciously is just as important as making one. when you're more vulnerable, the spouse will be too! someone called me the "calmest person I've ever met". I was grateful (and shocked), but this conversation may give a bit of insight into why. --- If you'd like to get my newly released on paperback Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex, go here! If you purchase and then review on Amazon before Sept 1, 2019, you'll receive free access to a $97 Masterclass! ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

My darling husband and I continue our chat about becoming easygoing and why it's important to develop this skill. And how it can impact even their relationship with Jesus. We have some playful convo but also some serious and important things to say. My husband" derails" my 15-point plan ;) with a very insightful and emotional commentary that you won't want to miss! This is Part 2 of 3. If you'd like to revolutionize your marriage and your intimacy I want to invite you onto a Clarity Call. This is an opportunity for you to speak directly with me Belah Rose and uncover what is blocking you from the playful, peaceful and purposeful marriage you crave. Sign up now as I have limited availability: www.dym.as.me ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

I think this has been something I've wondered and I know the wives I've worked with have thought their husbands were. Maybe you're a husband and you're concerned that you might be too? Maybe you're a wife and think your husband is. I mean there's a lot less scriptures about sex in the bible than there are about other things right? Well...Have you heard all the scriptures about golf? And yet, people spend a lot of time golfing. Or playing football. Or doing make up or hair or clothes. Or horsebackriding... And yet, we spend a lot of time and energy on our specific hobbies. Yet the Bible does have A LOT to say about sex. The wrong type of sex and how to fill that desire. I want to walk you through scriptures and my own insights over the years, that I hope you God would give you a lot of freedom through this podcast and you wouldn't feel the concern but you would align your heart with the way God views and wants you to view sex with your spouse. I'd LOVE to have you on my LIVE webinar this coming Sunday evening, June 2, 2019. Sign up here! http://delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

"I can't go on like this" "I don't think we can make this work" "I'm at the end of my rope" (what I hear the MOST) I hate these phrases. They're not literal, and they mean this person is in severe pain. I am sad about that. I am sad that you're in such heartache. I'm sorry that you feel so alone, frustrated, discouraged and desperate. But I want you to have hope. I want you to have FAITH for your marriage. Ephesians 6:12 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." If you've been fighting with your spouse... there's stuff you can do. God hates divorce not because He's waiting for you to mess up and wants you to be miserable and live in suffering... but because divorce shreds hearts--what God has joined together--that which has become ONE FLESH. What that disconnects it truly shreds humans, families, children. I love working with people who are on the brink of divorce. Its honestly my favorite--because I get to see God get the most glory from it! From people who are in agony and fear of the future, to people who are living the abundant life and loving God and people to a greater degree than they ever have (and having fun, playful, passionate intimacy on all levels!) If you're where I was before my divorce of my first marriage--I understand you. Now I know that it doesn't have to end that way. It really doesn't. Listen in for more. I'd love to get on a free Clarity Call to hear your story. I'd love to see if I can discern if God would want me to help you. And if it feels like that's the case, I may invite you to work with me. Otherwise, I'd be happy to give you this $500 value session for free anyway. Sign up: www.dym.as.me Love, Belah ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Is easygoing a personality trait or a skill? I am definitely NOT a natural "easy-goer". Most of my life, I have generally had an opinion and if asked I could find one pretty quickly. I generally have had a schedule and way in which I'd like things done. And I'm extremely goal-oriented and don't have a lot of patience for those who aren't. Well, those can be super qualities for productivity and work, they're not necessarily the best for marriage. We've gone through a path. I've learned a lot. And here he and I chat about my journey into the skill of "easygoing" and my conviction that if we want the peace God wants us to walk in, we have to seek to develop this skill as well. -- If you're craving intimacy in your marriage--if you're a man or a woman--I want to help you! God has designed marriage and I believe SEX SHOULD BE BETTER IN MARRIAGE. The foundation of our marriage is God, emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Each are vital for you to do God's work fueled out of the love cultivated in your marriage. I'd like to invite you onto a FREE Clarity Call with me where we explore the hard things that you're going through and get a roadmap together of your next steps--if I feel you're the right fit for working with me I may invite you into one of my programs. But otherwise it's a $500 value for your FREE. I hope you'll join a call with me, sign up: www.dym.as.me ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Sexless + Controlling = miserable husband Sex-Full + Controlling = miserable husband Sexless + Non Controlling = miserable husband Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that are desperate for change. I want to help you! JFYI My husband said this is one of the best podcasts ever---he has only said that 1 other time (!) so I hope this is one that is helpful for you. I talk about foundational truths about men and women that I don't hear people shouting from the rooftops---but they should be! Learn how to strategically change what is going on in your marriage! Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that I work with. I want to help you! 1) Come on my free webinar TOMORROW, Friday, May 24, 2019 at 7:30pm EST: The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ---- 2) I used to be a CONTROLLING wife. And there was a ton of tension. He was miserable and so was I. I didn't like who my husband was. He didn't like me either. When I changed, my husband's joy, the best parts of who he is returned and improved! He's now the most amazing man I've ever met. Seriously. And I'm happier than I could ever have imagined. What can you do as a husband? A LOT! Here are 3 keys that you can change things in your relationship! ---- Here are the resources I chat about: Discover her strengths: www.delightyourmarriage.com/strengths Free webinar: The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Yep... MY husband said this! Like last week. What did he mean? Maybe you're a wife that has insecurities like me? After a wonderfully intimate evening, I came clean about something I had been struggling with for a while. He was able to give ear to my heart and hear that I was feeling pain that I wasn't even aware I was hiding from him. Various husbands have expressed confusion as to why a wife wouldn't want him looking at others while at the SAME TIME she's hiding her curves he LONGS to see! As a wife, I get it and I stumble in this way too. If I am not vigilant I can fall just like the enemy wants us all to. I think it's sin because we're separating ourselves from God and what He wants us to do... (Quite literally) our husbands. :) ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here. Maybe you're a husband who doesn't "get it". I have some important insights for you too! Further... I'm EXTREMELY excited to invite you on a LIVE Webinar with me coming up! On Fri, May 24 & Sun, June 2, 7:30pm EST I'll be hosting a LIVE FREE WEBINAR: WHAT'S BLOCKING HER LIBIDO? The 7 Mistakes you might be making! Sign up: www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

Do you want unity in your marriage? Do you want her to feel safe to be utterly vulnerable and literally naked before you? Then it is NOT helpful for her to know your past sex life. You probably have forgotten plenty of your past, but once you've told her it will stay with her for years--even decades. Whatever sexual sin you've had before (or even the porn you've done while) is sin. It's your job as a man to discipline your mind, and your actions to be faithful to her. But if you're making her your "accountability partner" it's like saying: "honey, I'm trying not to look at other women, imagine them naked and pretend having sex with them". That will hurt her. Get your act together sir, get to a church, get vulnerable with someone--don't do this in isolation but don't load your dirty laundry on her. Because this will make it HARDER for her to make love (and of course that's what would actually HELP you avoid the temptations anyway). So, whether you think you're just "being honest" you do not need to be unwise with your words. Words start forest fires. I speak to women daily about how unloved and ugly they feel because their husband struggles with porn. Women have constant insecurities all around sex. Your job as a man? Gratitude for EVERYTHING she is and does around sex. Tell her and show her how extremely grateful and gratifying her sexuality is to you. And recognize you don't and shouldn't be a victim to your sexual cravings. And I am working with men to change these dynamics in their marriages and have already had incredible results: -Women are now initiating "I can't remember the last time". -"We made love 2 times this week and it was 'making love' not just duty sex". -A man separated from his wife shared that they've now had several sexual encounters. SO! If you want to know next steps with me, if you're a man, I'm opening my Clarity Calls now to you. You can book one here: www.dym.as.me This is a $500 value and I'm not sure how much longer I'll be doing these, so I encourage you to book very soon.

I have been late to get a podcast out to you...for a pretty important reason. My brother was found on the side of the road without a pulse. I raced to the hospital several states away and arrived when the doctors told us he may be brain dead---we found out they were considering putting him on life-support. No one knew how long he was there without blood pumping through his body. But God. My family reached out to loved ones, Christians, churches, friends, friends of friends all asking for prayer in faith for healing. Standing on the word--by His stripes we are healed, the prayer of faith shall heal you, lay hands on the sick and they shall recover... Standing on His promises of Jesus' healing. All asking for God's miraculous intervention. The story of Lazarus came up OVER and OVER again--my sister was in a play, her paster and my pastor in different states preached on it, a Lazarus song came up 2x, and 2 dreams about Lazarus. We prayed that my brother would be raised like Lazarus. It's pretty incredible what happened next. I hope this story blesses you and brings you closer to Jesus and gives you greater faith in His amazing hand in your life. I believe that is what this story is to do. I believe my job is to spread the good news of the miracle-working power of the gospel. I hope you share this story to bring God glory. But I also pray that if your life looks more like John the Baptist (when you hear the podcast you'll understand what I mean) I want to give you hope as well. God has not forgotten you, your situation, your loved ones, your name. He has purposes and they are far greater than we can imagine. Your life has purpose even if it looks different than others. He is the Messiah, He does love you, He has purpose and POWER for you and YOUR life. Love and God bless you, Belah ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

What if you're a wife that has WAY lower libido than your husband? If you feel like this is just physiologically the way you were made, I want to help. I think there's a lot more to you and the way you're set up sexually. I, Belah Rose, "the sexpert", can easily say I have a low libido. Does that keep me and my husband from having an incredible sex life? Fierce, firey, sensual, spiritual... And I get turned on too and get excited about making love! So... I don't think your libido/"natural" sex drive has to prevent you either! Listen in to find out the top 3 things you need to know if you have a LOW sex drive. And how to turn that around. How I did and do. But what if HE is the one with the low sex drive? Ouch! So sorry, I know that's so hard! There are several important questions you need to be asking. I help you to sort through what could be the real source of the issues and how to overcome them. Are you contributing to the issue or COULD be contributing to live the solution? -- What's a Clarity Call: You can sign up for a FREE, 40-minute call (a $500 value) for an opportunity to get clear on the issues you deal with. If you are the right fit for the program this can be a phenomenal opportunity as I can't invite everyone into the program. Clarity Calls are free for now but I'm not sure until when. To schedule, go to: www.dym.as.me Even if we find a program is not the right fit, you'll get a ton of awesome value. ------------------ Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages! She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

My husband is a very wise man. Probably the wisest I've met (and I get to live with him! :) :) :) ) Listeners have asked to hear from my husband and I'm glad because he has a lot of wonderful & helpful things to share! I think his message has nuggets that any and every marriage will benefit from! -- If you're a husband... I'm about to pilot a brand new program: Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again! I have SO many men--may be like yourself--whose wives wouldn't dream of hearing my work or considering changing their behavior or even understanding those needs. By Gods grace, I understand men AND women and this would be the program to bridge the gap for MEN to understand their wives and motivate her to WANT sex rather than REPEL her FROM it (as unfortunately, most of them are :( ). It would be an all-male group coaching with me. This would allow men to share their situations and I would advise on the female perspective and give teachings (all this via live video chat) on how to transform their marriages and intimacy within it. I'm only accepting serious, committed, decisive and coachable applicants and this pilot would be the absolute lowest investment the program will ever be. I am either going to pick the best of the applications that come in or if there are a lot (and I plan to blast this all over to gauge genuine interest) then I'll just do first come, first serve of the best ones. If you'd like to be considered for this opportunity sign up for a Clarity Call at www.dym.as.me and we'll dive in quickly to see if you'd be the right fit to get success out of this opportunity. Check out testimonials of my work: www.delightyourmarriage.com/testimonials & also www.delightyourmarriage.com/husbands to read a tiny sampling of the outpouring of men about their sexual needs and need to be respected. I'm REALLY looking forward to helping the men who constantly reach out to me for help (3 just this week!).

Productiveness IS good, but we forget that we're not just human doers -- we're also human beings. Take the story of Martha and Mary. Martha was working hard and being productive FOR JESUS. Mary was calmly sitting, being still and LISTENING TO JESUS. Both were Godly women. And Jesus even defended Mary for "choosing the good part" when Martha accused her of not DOING. Consider how Jesus modeled JOY and DELIGHT -- not just productivity. He certainly "did" a lot, but he also had breakfast with his friends, ate dinner and drank wine (sometimes he was even accused of being a drunkard!) and little children ran to him. He must have been pretty enjoyable to be around if even little children want to run up to the revered Rabbi. If you are ALWAYS thinking that "God wants me to be productive. I need to do this and that..." then I challenge you to sit back, listen to Him, and just take delight in His presence. We can also apply this to our sex lives. What if sex was fun and filled you up? And it's not just about sex. Being FUN and PLAYFUL in the bedroom EXTENDS to how you interact with your husband daily. In this podcast episode, you'll discover... Why sex can actually be fun! Sex doesn't have to be miserable - I encourage you to reverse it even if you've endured it for years and years! It can still be passionate, playful, purposeful --- like how it was in the beginning! How does fun and playful sex affect us: We empathize easier with our husbands and other people too We rewire our brains to see, think, and do as God wants us to When we're not constantly doing and we have margin in our lives that comes through playing We serve a God that loves us. He want us to know that: His love is deeper and wider and truer than we can imagine. He truly wants us to enjoy our lives. He created physical stimuli like laughing when we are tickled. Why? Because all the joys we feel when hugged, kissed, or touched --- it is proof of God's unfathomable deep and true love for us. SCARED to START BEING PLAYFUL? I'm curious where that fear is coming from? I have Clarity Calls set up especially to get at the root of how you feel underneath the behavior. If you go to www.dym.as.me for a 40-Minute FREE conversation with me to understand where you are in your marriage. If you're distraught or even if you're on the edge of divorce, by God's grace, a Clarity Call may be exactly what you need to gain hope and discern next steps FOR YOU.

Words are important. They can cause a wildfire or a passionate flame in your bedroom. Outside of the bedroom: We can be hurtful and careless with our words and say "Oh he's my husband". Does that sound familiar? But is he really JUST your husband? That is God's son you're dealing with. If you want to get your words in line with God's will, one of the first things that needs to be done is to APOLOGIZE. Just get it out of the way. It's hard, especially if it's not part of the culture of your marriage. But it'll get easier the more you do it! When words are on purpose, intentional, and aligned with what God wants your husband to hear, then it's easy to truly become ONE FLESH. Generous lovemaking becomes more natural to both of you. Now onto the SEXY STUFF: What CAN you say in sex? Is God okay with you saying seductive phrases to your husband? Could God even WANT you both to use your words to turn each other on? What is going to encourage the bond between you and your husband? If he's aroused and you're not (and vice versa!) --- how do you turn each other on? If you have a higher drive -- it's not your fault--but what actions can you take? What about fantasy, sexy texts, and whispering attractive things in his ears? So you might say "but I feel like I'm just FAKING IT?" or "It's not my personality". There's plenty you can do! Sexy language is going to feel silly at first. Just like when you study a new language! As you practice it, you get less awkward and you'll push through and take courage in your marriage bed! Resources: I want to invite you on a FREE 40-minute Clarity Call with me if these are things that you struggle with and you feel very far away from being able to feel free in your sexual intimacy. It is extremely gratifying when you have the sexual intimacy you and he crave! Go to this website to schedule a chat with me: http://www.dym.as.me/ What happens at Clarity Calls? Well, we dig deep into what the issues are and I'll listen and take notes. We're going to talk about your dreams and desires and we would go through what would it look like to bridge the gap. I'm going to determine if you would be the right fit for my program and talk through the details and maybe invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month.

A lot of women are under the impression that they need to share everything with their husbands. In fact, they say this is being "honest". I disagree. In EVERY marriage (yes, even VERY good ones), there are many things that are not (and should not) be shared. No one needs to share about tons of bathroom stuff---yuck, not sexy. But there are tons of other things that just wouldn't be useful, helpful, godly, respectful, kind or many other reasons to share. AND it depends on what level of the Marriage Health Spectrum your marriage is to determine what you SHOULD or SHOULD NOT share. If your marriage is awful right now, you shouldn't SHARE what someone who has an awesome marriage can share. You have to be strategic with what you do and do not share. SO that it can BECOME an awesome marriage. Find out... Where your marriage is on the Marriage Health Spectrum Considering that, does he--your husband--deserve "your heart"? How can you still be the faithful, generous wife AND guard your heart? HOW to respond to heartbreaking adulterous situations strategically, like affairs or addictions to pornography If you don't want to lose your marriage, HOW your react is vital! WHAT we can learn from Esther, the woman who changed the heart of the King! Can you believe sex was involved? How to transform zero-affection marriages and get to a place where you're doing God's will in this life How to respond to your husband when he hurts you… Hurt people HURT PEOPLE Understand how your husband is motivated, how he is designed so you can work with that and help him become the man, God wants him to be. And the man that supports you, loves you, allows you to be fulfilled and do God's work Resources: Jump on a free 40-minute Clarity Call with me. To schedule, go to: www.dym.as.me IF I think I can help you, then I'll share with you what the 90-Day Delighted Wife Program looks like!

As a mother, you would do ANYTHING for your children. What does that have to do with making love to their father? Well, A LOT. In fact, their eternity is at stake. Really. Your marriage teaches your kids to treat others, adults and themselves. Your marriage teaches them what a healthy relationship/marriage looks like and that they want one. Your marriage shows them that a relationship with Jesus is fun and worth picking the right spouse and waiting for it! Your marriage shows them what character means. Your sex life is foundational to all of this... Your husband can be an incredible dad He can be focused on his family not the temptations of the world Other things covered: How sex satiety and desire for sex occurs in opposite ways for women and men Why your children need to be well-liked by adults (and that's your job) World-renowned psychologist mentioned: Jordan B. Peterson When you're a whole woman, totally emotionally held and loved in your marriage you have a far greater capacity to be a present, teaching, loving but wise mother (rather than a resentful, haggard and push-over stressed-out mother) Excited for you to dive deep into how to transform your marriage!

What does money have to do with your marriage? Finances are often touted as the biggest reason for divorce... but get this: when you have an awesome sex life studies estimate that it's equivalent to having an additional $100k per year! So... NO financial issues... But there's more, the BIGGEST financial DISASTER that can ever befall someone is divorce. SO an awesome marriage and sex life can either pay big $$$ or cost you a ton of money! With all that said, how well are you prioritizing life so that your marriage is protected and your finances support it? WISELY. The Bible is very specific: wisdom is more valuable than silver and gold... "nothing your heart desires can compare with her". So, how high are you prioritizing wisdom to ensure you have an awesome marriage? The cool thing is that Solomon first asked for wisdom and then God also gave him riches! So if you invest your finances into wisdom the rewards may also be material wealth! I talk about the way to prioritize your life that is accorded with the Bible and how your money should reflect those priorities. Right now I'm doing FREE Clarity Calls (I am not sure how long I'll be able to do these as I have limited space) but on these we go 40 min to uncover the bandaid to discover what is underneath the surface issues of your marriage. If I feel like you're the right fit and I can help you I may invite you to be part of my program: The Delighted Wife: Reclaim Your Sexuality, Live In Your Womanly Wisdom and Witness Him Transform Into Who You've Always Wanted. www.dym.as.me Find out what is preventing you from having the marriage of your dreams? Sign up for a FREE Clarity Call quickly as my schedulle fills very quicly. www.dym.as.me Looking forward to working with you one-on-one soon!

I get so many emails from husbands. I want to send a message to their wives...the wife I used to be. I was a wife who saw sex as Dirty Wrong Ungodly Scary He was sinning for wanting it Too much work I didn't like it / it hurt / I didn't know what to do I don't have time I don't have energy What's in it for me? He's way too interested in sex And so I avoided it and got resentful that the things I was doing wasn't appreciated. He kept asking me to learn more... and I got angrier. Well God has changed my heart on this. I have discovered that God made my husband's member, and I am his wife. It is my privilege to be a part of intimacy with him. I am his only means of receiving this vital fulfillment righteously. I believe this podcast will bring you closer to God. If you're anything like I was, I wish I had known this even before I got married. If I could only understand what sex meant to him. If I could only understand God's purposes for it. I pray this would be something husbands can give to their wives (when she's ready---listen and practice these 3 episodes: Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) 156, 156/157, 157 first). Podcasts I mention: 132-S: The Most Important Piece To Amazing Intimacy with Belah Rose 144-S: The Discipline of "No" with Belah Rose Encourage Your Wife's Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) 156, 156/157, 157 Praying for you and your marriage, Belah

Are you having the WRONG type of sex? Why your wife doesn't LOVE intimacy Why sex feels carnal Why sex feels like it's just for HIM Why sex isn't fulfilling (EVEN if you orgasm) I argue that there is a very legitimate reason... You guys haven't made feminine sex....ever Have you ever even been exposed to what feminine sex is? Let me give you a description and then the tools on how to get started! Go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/type for further explanation and a step-by-step guide to feminine sex Resources referenced: Miss Representation documentary If you want to know more about our sexualized culture and how men have defined those you can check this own My very serious warning is there's a ton of very negative visuals--sexually-explicit music videos, movies with very provocative clothing... but they have really educational good content What I would suggest is turning it on your phone and then turning your phone over so you can hear the content without being exposed to the crude and sinful visuals...or just trust that somehow I gleaned what would be helpful for you! A great TED talk which explains how our movies are lacking female influence, thus the feminine values and sexual desires: The Data Behind Hollywood's Sexism FREE (Potentially Life-Changing) Opportunity I am doing a limited amount of FREE Clarity Calls to help wives go deep and truly understand and get clear on what is prohibiting them from getting to the intimacy and marriage God wants for them. The catch? IF I think I can help you (and I don't think I can help every woman I speak with) I may invite you to be one of the few women I coach this month. But if not, you'll definitely get a ton of value from the call, so get on my calendar soon -- right I believe my next Clarity Call is available in 3 weeks from now... so get on the calendar as soon as you can so your marriage can blossom as God wants it to!! www.dym.as.me

So... my husband listens to every podcast before I post them. He often gives me notes on what I need to take out or change. I have been podcasting since Feb 2015 (!!) and by God's grace have been awarded one of the Top 30 Relationship podcasts on the web!! My husband ended up listening and having an entire page FULL of notes. POSITIVE notes! (One negative note--not that it was wrong but that it might be a bit too explicit. I countered "I just don't want wives to be confused with what I'm really talking about". He said well, it's ABSOLUTELY true..." so, I left it it in!) In my almost 200 episodes (!!) my husbands said this is one of the best--maybe THE BEST. So! I encourage you to listen with an open heart and get ready for some (maybe uncomfortable) truth bombs! Here is the site I mention where I have collated a sampling of SOME of the emails I get from husbands WISHING (and some even are crying) because they want so badly for their wives to work with me! Seriously...read it... delightyourmarriage.com/husbands AND if you want to jump in and schedule a FREE Clarity Call where we unpack what's going on in your marriage, in your intimacy, the baggage and start to shed light on how to move it in the right direction, I am offering FREE 40+ min Clarity Calls. You can sign up here: www.dym.as.me I don't know how long I'll be able to do these for free as it's a giant time commitment--but I love being able to help women. And if I think I can help, you're ready, committed and coachable and that I have the specialization to help your SPECIFIC situation I may invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month. (I truly don't take on or even invite everyone who wants to work with me). But either way, you get a ton of clarity and direction towards next steps! So, sign up as soon as you can for a FREE Clarity Call with me, Belah! www.dym.as.me

How could suffering ever be a gift? Why would focusing on suffering be a wise thing? A lot of times the women I coach don't take the time to look at the pain and suffering they're experiencing. But when they do that, they are distracting themselves away from its lessons--the wisdom God wants to teach us through it. And even through our AWARENESS of it. On this episode, I talk about the 13 Gifts of Sufferings and I talk specifically about some of my own sufferings that have given me great gifts and it was because I was aware of them in the moments that God used it profoundly in my life. Jump on a call with me personally to unearth what you're going through and use the suffering to provoke action! Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me It's a 40min call for free with me directly! --- Testimonial: of a husband of 20+ years: I just wanted to say a few things, like...Thank you! Thank you for the time you spent with her, and for your generosity, it is much appreciated. I don't know what the two of you discussed, I haven't asked and she hasn't told. But I haven't seen such a fast change in [her] in, well....ever. It's like she is a different woman. Actually, she is behaving more like the woman I thought I married or wish I had married... The changes I have seen in her are profound... Again, I don't know what you coached her to do, and I don't know if she is doing it all or only doing half. But I do see a changed woman in my life. So again I say "Thank You!" Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me I'd love to speak with you directly for free!

Can things really change? "It's been 5, 10, 25 years, how could this ever be different?" Suffering in marriage makes your whole life suffer---kids, job, ministry, peace, walking in the fruits of the spirit, sexual fulfillment, chastity in thoughts, satisfaction in marriage, covetous thoughts of other marriages, sin in many places, not starting the ministries God has called you to and would thus not touch the many people God wants you too!! It's 2019, packed in this message is lots of hope, and practical steps to make changes in you that will greatly impact your marriage! Here is a testimonial I just received by a wife who has been married 10+ years: "Before working with Belah, my marriage had been to the brink of divorce and separation. My husband and I had continual anger and resentment toward one another. I knew the importance of sex to a man, and felt pressure to be 'enough'. But I felt like I never was. I reached out to Belah, for her to help me be who he needed. Belah listened to my heart, and saw the missing piece- boundaries. Turns out, he needed ME all along. Through Belah's coaching, she helped me with: Healthy boundaries. Loving and respecting myself. Realizing, and honoring what "I" enjoy and desire about sex and intimacy. She gave me wisdom and words to say. Teaching me what a healthy relationship looks like in all areas. The amazing benefits I am enjoying now: LOVE; true love like never before. My husband and I look forward to being around each other, and have such an appreciation and respect for one another. I am cherished and honored, he is respected and lifted up as my man. I am more "me" than ever before, and loving exactly who I am and am becoming. Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful." To God be all the glory. I want to help you get clarity on what is really going on in your marriage and I have limited space to talk with some women one on one to uncover what is really going on in their marriages for transformation! If you're serious about wanting this difference in your marriage, sign up at www.dym.as.me as soon as you can, as space will fill up quickly! www.dym.as.me Love, Belah

WHAT SHOULD YOUR LIFE BE ABOUT AT THE BEGINNING OF 2019? I used to try to cram all of my goals into the beginning of the year. And I would scramble for a few weeks potentially months—at best and then drop all of them by April. I've learned something very valuable that I wanted to share today. I want to talk to you about exactly how I set my priorities throughout every year. It frees me up to focus, relax and listen to God's voice. This year I'm really excited and there's a lot of really good things! And I want that for you as well. If you want to move your marriage to a place of peace and passion and joy and purpose, I would love to jump on a FREE breakthrough call where you can discover solutions immediately. Sign up here: https://dym.as.me/ God bless you in 2019! (If you're not in my FREE private Facebook group where we discuss intimacy and marriage and purpose in life and I walk with God join here!… Wives only! :-) ) www.facebook.com/groups/delightym/

You might think your marriage is too far gone. There is too much strife, emotional and mental abuse, painful memories, WAY too much baggage to ever recover. I encourage you to review this entire series and take a journey with me on this episode. Maybe we've been looking at this whole marriage thing all wrong. And we've been looking at what it means to be man and woman wrong too? What is the masculine nature? What is the feminine nature? Can a man have both, can a woman have both? Is this a sacrilegious framework? Well, I think there is a ton of biblical precedence for thinking of men and women as possessing both masculine and feminine natures and both are good, should be respected and honored. I'm going to share that here. I want to talk about how this shows up in my own marriage specifically and how it can radically change yours! -- Jump on a 40min clarity call with me so we can sort this stuff out. What is going on in your marriage and how can we get to the bottom of it to truly, deeply transform the lives of you, your spouse, your children and what God wants of you in this world! Delightyourmarriage.com/call

1 in 4 women this year will be sexually abused. You may never know who... your sister, best friend, daughter, mother, wife... You may have been the victim. I'm so sorry for your pain and what you have been through. You are not alone and you do not need to feel shame any longer. Today's podcast is to help all women process the pain of abuse. I think it affects all of us whether we ourselves have experienced it or not, we live in a culture where that is the norm... When was the last news show you were able to get through without hearing at least one incident of violence against a woman? 1 in 5 searches on the internet are for pornography and 90% of pornography is violent towards women. Most women who have been abused are not believed even if they have the courage to speak out--so most stay silent. Here's what I cover: Why are women abused? Why the shaming question she is always asking herself: "why didn't I know better?" or "she was asking for it" isn't her fault based on her God-given nature My experiences with sexual abuse Why I think it's vital that we continue to understand women's experiences and give them a voice and let them know we hear them and believe them Why we all need to be speaking about it and not expect only the victims to How does it affect your marriages... What if you have sex without wanting it in your marriage? Why that makes you feel abused even though it might not actually abused It affects sex, her feelings of safety and I have some specific guidance for that (get my specific guide referenced on the show! Send me a message to get the Connection Session Guide here: [email protected])

Here's what is covered in today's episode There are a ton of "submit" verses in the Bible. They were used to abuse me in my first marriage. I think these also have made men feel that they had the right to abuse & justify their actions with the misuse of these scriptures. But what people don't realize is they are reading the Bible (and even translations of the Bible) through a patriarchial lense. Don't believe me? What does "help-meet" mean? This word which Eve is supposed to be to Adam. Well, it's not the supporting, secondary, servant role you may have always thought. The original word in Hebrew is "ezer kenegedo". Ezer is used 21x in the Old Testament When speaking of Eve 2x in Genesis, it's translated as "help" Three times it is used to describe a powerful nation that comes to save the nation of Israel from their enemies The other 16x it's used to describe God as a military warrior, the powerful savior, giving desperate salvation from foes Is that how you see women? Is that how you see yourself? What if more verses are viewed through this patriarchial lense and we just aren't aware? What scriptural references do we KNOW for sure speak of female leadership even in the New Testament (sprinkled among the books including "wives submit to husbands" verses are found): Woman apostle Paul honoring the 10 out of 28 people who have been colaborers Woman deacons As a feminist myself, this material breaths life to my soul BUT, what if there IS something to this "submitting" thing in the 21st century, Christian marriages with powerful, feminist women...? What if there's an empowering message for both men and women when done "right"? This is a morsel of a much larger conversation, but God-willing it will leave all of us with a bit more of a softened heart to where God may be leading us. This isn't easy territory, but I pray that it is an eye-opening episode for every listener. -- It was my husband's birthday this week and I'm asking every listener to take 5 minutes to review the show! If you're not sure how, here's a link for delightyourmarriage.com/itunes

This one honestly wasn't that easy to think through or record. Here's what I cover: how I hold my opinions about women in the church and I think we all should how women showed up in the Bible I think Christian men should be on the forefront of the movement to end sexual abuse against women (Jesus would have been) women in ministry leadership the things I'm still processing around this your sexual abuse story should be believed, heard, processed, given space and the same goes for church abuse (of any kind) the body of Christ needs women in leadership because they are lacking without us

When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don't have boundaries. And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relationships and cause their marriage to thrive instead of the abusive, they have to have boundaries. But it might not look the way you think it will look. I grew up without boundaries myself. And So I never learned that I was responsible for me: my feelings, my thoughts, my choices, my property, my own things, my privacy... So naturally when I got married, I didn't think I owned these things either. And I didn't think my husband did either. Especially hearing the "two will become one flesh", to me that meant that I owned him and he owns me. So we had to be the same. However that doesn't work. How do you create boundaries in your marriage? How do you make sure those boundaries are respected? And should we always be "honest" with our husbands? I don't think so necessarily. I look forward to our conversation! — DYM is sponsored by my new business Couragess: Christian Women's Mastermind group. Would love for you to check out my new site and get my free resource: 3 Habits to Grow Your Confidence immediately! www.Couragess.com

(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!) -- I was abused and I was completely unaware at the time. Because he was spiritually gifted I trusted him. But he wasn't exhibiting the fruits of the spirit. If you're being abused, it's so hard to see what's really going on in your marriage because something that's inherent in abuse is blinders. Today, I talk about my own experience with abuse in my first marriage, and what it took to get the blinders off for me. And then not only removing your blinders, but then what is your next step after becoming clear on what's really going on in your marriage. And then to make wise action towards what I believe can completely transform him. This is the beginning of a series of DYM shows on abuse. There's many different levels, categories and types of abuse towards women in many aspects of life. I want to help a woman who is currently in an abusive situation to think through the really difficult areas to walk the hard strategic road to recovery that I believe is possible. Please note: I am not a licensed therapist or social worker and I cannot provide that "professional" guidance. But this is what I have learned through my story and the suffering I went through and what I have helped some of my coaching clients out of. Regardless of my credentials, we need to be helping women in this extremely common and devastating arena. — The resource I referenced about getting support around domestic violence and abuse is www.nomore.org

Not discussed… but it's common to be attracted to someone that's not your spouse. What do you do about it? First, figure out where you are in your level of attraction and then decide action steps: -1-3 (when you see them/talk to them you feel a chemistry) talk to God, get busy, be an enthusiastic lover with your husband, redirect your thoughts, read the Word, work with your hands -4-7 (find your mind wandering to this person consistently) confide in a mature friend of the same sex–tell them what's going on and be very honest, avoid spending time with this person, journal about their qualities and affirm that your husbands qualities are better because x, y & z, speak affirmations in faith, draw close to your husband -8-10 (if you're considering an affair, divorce or in that spot already) seek counsel of a therapist or counselor, use all sexual inspiration and direct it towards your spouse, be as enthusiastic in the bedroom as you'd be with this new person, pray fervently, be very intentional about falling in love with your husband again, write pros and cons list of this decision and include EVERYONE who would be positively and negatively affected in short term and long term—be honest with what you're dealing with, pretend you're in the future looking back on your life and determine whether you'd make that same choice if you could do it all over again Remember, what you imagine you see now…it's all a fantasy. You are with the right person. And God will give you the grace to see that if you trust in him. —— UPDATE: I have had to postpone this virtual class referenced on the podcast. Feel free to sign up here to hear more about when the class is ready to be open. To men: I have men that reach out to me a lot of direction and support because they wish their wives would be interested in my material. My heart goes out to them and I'd like to give them individual and specific guidance, but I don't feel comfortable working with men one on one. So, I am developing a Delight Your Wife virtual classroom just for men. This will be a weekly class where I will be live with you discussing a particular topic. You can send me your questions or add to the discussion during the call. These will be recorded and ready for you any time you'd like them in the future as well. If you sign up in November 2018, you'll have the lowest subscription fee as the content is still being developed and the virtual classes will just be getting started. Sign up for Delight Your Wife here!

Excited we're back together after far too long! We have got some fantastic episodes coming your way in this new season of DYM! What was the last sex scandal you heard about? What was the last Christian sex scandal? It probably wasn't too long ago. It's really sad. And it happens so much, far too much. Why is this happening? What can we do about this? On today's show, I talk about why this is so common. I describe the problem and then what you can do in your own marriage. What you can do in your own sphere of influence to guard yourself and others. Why I have told my husband if he sins--goes outside the bounds of our marriage--he will be forgiven. That doesn't mean it isn't going to hurt me, and the marriage and plenty of others, but anything less can destabilize us in the long-run. --- You might know me as the author, podcaster and intimacy coach, but I've also helped many women over the years get their goals: writing their books, transforming their marriages, getting a job, starting or leveling-up their business (brick-and-mortar and online). I've worked in entrepreneurship, non-profit and for-profit (with Fortune 50 companies). I am hosting a "Goal-set in God's will" webinar Sunday, October 14, 2018, at 8 pm EST and Tuesday, October 16, 12 pm EST. Discover the 3 questions you need to ask AND goal-set with me on this webinar! You're someone who sets big, hairy, audacious goals, but could they need a bit of tweaking? Let's do something really important and have fun doing it! Sign up for this FREE, live webinar with me!

Hi all, DYM is taking a break for the summer but will be back on late August, early September. Blessings, Belah

Questions Discussed: Is it helpful to fantasize about others? How to get turned on How to have an orgasm Female erections How to rekindle your attraction How to get turned on even if you don't "like" him right now How you can be turned on by him What he can do What you can do Check out this episode's show notes with links -------- I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So, I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy! Check out The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. The 3 Components of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs All Steamy AND Sacred

Part 2: Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions about making your desires known, sex, and some more challenging realities like pornography. Ultimately, its a fantastic conversation which I hope you'll listen in! Resources mentioned: Surrendered Wife Surrendered Single Things Will Get As Good As You Can Stand ——- Ensure that you're infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy: I've released the first 4 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now. The 3 Components of of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs How is it Steamy & Sacred

Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions answered like... -What about when you have fundamental differences? -What about different parenting styles? -Marriage therapy ever a good idea? -What about when he's nasty but you don't want a huge issue by saying "ouch" and leaving the room? -When you're vulnerable but he hurts you because you're vulnerable -How do you share your feelings (that are negative) on big things? (Assuming your surrendering the small things) -What if your husband has Low self esteem? Find out more at delightyourmarriage.com ------- Ensure that you're infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy: I've released the first 4 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now. The 3 Components of of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs How is it Steamy & Sacred

Discussed in this conversation: Divorce is an option, for Christians and non-Christians. I hope I can convince you of the importance of this truth. If you are not aware that this is possible for your marriage, you may be blindsided by this reality. But if you believe you both are free beings who choose everyday to remain faithful to your vows, I think you can walk more circumspectly and carefully. How do you shift the way you view your marriage? Well, what are things about your husband that you rely on? How can you be grateful for the things we rely on? How can you be grateful for the man you have instead of the man you wish he was? As I am a woman who got divorced, I wish wives (and husbands) started marriages believing divorce is an option so they would be more careful. So they felt more responsible and accountable for their choices and there are natural consequences to consistently choosing poor behavior towards to their spouse. 1 Corinthians 10:12 "Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall." So how do you turn around a ship heading towards divorce: Gratefulness. Appreciating and respecting and honoring the tiny glimmers and watering those seeds to grow through encouragement and love. How to have habits of gratefulness to help each other grow in noticing the positive. What you focus on grows. Not to be motivated by fear but motivated by freedom. How to be careful to ensure affairs are not blind spots. —— Ensure that you're infusing your marriage with exciting sex: I've released the first 4 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now. The 3 Components of of Seduction Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!) Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically) Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs

What is included in this show: Why is amazing intimacy important in marriage? Why the lure of Sex is so great Marital love making is supposed to be intoxicating Should you try to make your sex life exciting? Could God wants our sex life to be exciting What I think is the biggest barrier to amazing intimacy Why the enemy want to destroy the excitement in your sex life The attitude behind something is actually more important than the action themselves Shift your attitude. Col 3:23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Men get turned on by something they see, women get turned when they feel good about themselves. -Joyce Penner -------- The HOW of making it exciting: I've released the first 3 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 4th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

What do you want your marriage to look like? Is it at the level of the connection and depth of love that you desire? If not, what does it look like? And the follow up question is what you can do to change it? We cannot change what we do not notice. I encourage you to take stock of your intimacy which is your husband's fuel of your connection. How often are you making love and how are you making it a priority in your life? It often isn't as easy as it sounds, but I have some tips and encouragement that will help. When you make love to him, you are loving him the way that he receives love. So, to realize your connection goals, I encourage you to make that a strategy. If you feel far off from where you want to be in your marriage, my husband has a prayer for you at the end. Love you and be encouraged this week! -------- Be intentional about the spice of your sex life: I've released the first 3 parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 4th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

Sex is Better In Marriage. If it's better, why is there so much divorce and so many unhappy marriages? Its better but it's also harder. Here's why sex is harder in marriage: You see the good, the bad & the ugly. You have to be vulnerable and that's messy & uncomfortable. You see them in the mundane...when you're brushing your teeth... how can they be sexy to you? You have to maintain attraction to one person You have to be intentional about passion, spice & excitement Why sex is better in marriage: It's real. Its not a performance where you have to be perfect. It's your real heart and real body. You can let your hair down and be who you are in your sexuality. It's not going to end. So you don't have to have this fear that if you don't please him, he'll leave. Instead your motivation is to make your forever relationship amazing. You find out what he likes, and get to practice that and hone your skills on his particularities for years. No fear of embarrassing yourself. He is the safest person there is. A person who promised to love you through it all and to never leave... feeling silly is something you can do with him. Sex is spiritual. Its not just a physical experience and you get to explore that in marriage. The peace, joy and love bleeds over from life and into the marriage bed and back out into life. Be intentional about the spice of your sex life: I've released the first parts of a new course I'm really excited about: The Seduction Course. I didn't feel I could give the specificity I'd like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I'm including VERY practical understandings and examples you can use immediately in this course! Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 3rd part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

Main Points: The safety and stability of a home is due to the spouses' generosity in the bedroom Making love is God's work. "Yes, God changed me. But he changed me through [our intimacy]." -my husband Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. God was talking about sex.' What a wife needs to make love is a man living out the fruit of the Spirit. The Seduction Course Part 1 is released today!! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up next Tuesday when I release Part 2!) I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really get you to the place of implementing and doing, practically, those things that will really make you feel powerful. Because you will know that you know how to drive him wild.

The specific steps to seduce: Get him to want it Tease him Give him a little bit Pull away Give him what he wants Why Seduction is important, helpful tips on what will help you seduce and next steps. The Seduction Course P1 will be released next week! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up on Tuesday!) I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really get you to the place of implementing and doing, practically, those things that will really make you feel powerful. Because you will know that you know how to drive him wild.

Main points: -God's might and glory is shown in the uniqueness of creation. And in the tiniest of details of your body. -The way you feel about your body affects the way you interact with your spouse and the rest of the world. -Children are released in their bodies. Body insecurity is learned (and its unattractive). -Our self-perception is tied to so many different things. Time of the month, what we've been eating for the last couple of weeks, what stresses are in our lives etc. And this affects the way we eat and look at ourselves. -You can honor and listen to your body. But you don't have to feel pressure that you have to get "there" before you can seduce your husband and be released in your body. -Practical tips on what you can do today to be more released. Check out The Seduction Course presale here for 50% off before it goes live (very soon)!

How to enjoy sex as a woman. We as women have so much going on. So many commitments and responsibilities. Busy. For women its a slow process to transition from life to physical intimacy. (For men, not so much). For us, its slow and it should be. Its an opening. Its a releasing. Its a being invited into her divinely orchestrated womanhood. What does it feel like to be in touch of your body? Why does touch matter? Being in your body. Being attentive to the touch of your body will help you enjoy making love. I explain what I mean and how you can do this practically. I give you some centering practices that will move you into a centering place where you can receive and be fully with the love making experience. Letting yourself experience it all. What to do when your mind wanders. What if there is whole other way of experiencing sex than you and your husband have tried--and it is a more spiritual experience that you might have imagined. Touch outside the body, but what are you feeling on the inside of your Ressa. Not your clitorous, but your inner Ressa. I'll be talking more about experiencing that pleasure on this podcast. Homework: What kind of touches do you want from your husband? Game plan: write out exactly what you want to say. Make love in a slow, intentionally receiving way.

Embodying your Sexuality P1 & P2, Episode 160 & Episode 161. "Save sex for marriage". A wise piece of advice. But because I didn't learn anything about it's value, I just assumed it was nasty. But I never learned about my Ressa. Why your Ressa needed to be reframed and renamed: Ressa = Receiving him into your Essence (Feel free to keep the name you feel most comfortable with. However, I don't feel comfortable using the words publicly on this show, that to me either evoke negative/pornographic connotations or are medical terms that don't include all the areas and don't capture the radiance of your essence.) We as Christian women often don't respect it or honor it as wonderful good. A lot of negative and embarrassing things happened while learning how to grow up with a Ressa. You may have a negative view of it just because of the way you grew up. Episode 110 Luke Gilkerson how to raise healthy sexual kids. Is it awkward to consider God coming into the room with your husband and you making love? He's not surprised. God made it all. He made it to be filled with blood and become sensitive when its touched. Embracing the fullness of your Ressa is foundational for you to walk in pleasure in your intimacy. For you to relax and receive him into your essence. Next week builds upon this one, so be sure to do your homework! 176-Body P5: Value Touch

When you're confident in your body you're not being prideful, you're humbly acknowledging His gift of your body. Your beauty is not a question is a statement. God knit you together, counted your hairs. He cares about all the incredible intracacies of your body. It matters what you do with it. God is all about the spirit and mind and soul. But He also says love the Lord with all your strength. Your body is important to God. Jesus talked about the body when describing a husband and wife. Sexual immorality is not ok. It matters to God how you use your body. What you do with your body matters to Him. And the way you think about your body matters to Him. Your body valuable. Every time you look at the mirror you're judging your body. You're seeing if you look ok or if you're pretty enough. Stop looking in the mirror. What space of your life, energy, time, desire is taken up by the desire to be the world's standard of beauty? Is that going to matter in eternity? Why are we obsessed with it now? I think you'll enjoy the homework ;) Flaunt it girl! Next week: 175-Body4: Honor Your Ressa

I thought my body was gross. I thought God didn't give me a good one. God changed my perspective. Now that insecurity has become fierce respect for this wonder God has given me. Now I'm convinced that we as women are jewels. Our bodies are of the highest value. And we should not put our jewels before swine. Your body should be adored by someone who deserves it. By someone who serves you, respects you and makes you feel worth it. Your husband (though he himself is a work in progress) is the only one who fits the bill. Tips: Assume the attraction is there. Practice affirmations. I do this with my clients and this is one of the most effective strategies. Spend time journaling rather than eating. Eating allows us to numb ourselves from the difficulties of life. We stuff ourselves with food so we don't feel. You are not being cocky by telling yourself you're gorgeous. Your body is God's work of art. He gets the credit. God made you beautiful. When you get compliments, receive it and give the glory to God in your heart. You don't have to let that puff you up in pride, you can give that to God. It is a discipline to have confidence. And it takes discipline to get there. Write through the hard times, rather than stuff the hard time with food which make the enemy distract you from life and God's voice. Resources: Women Food and God (Though not a Christian book, amazing principles that we can apply through a godly lense can be gleened.) Next week: 174-Body P3: Flaunt It, Don't Ask For Approval

Welcome to this brand new series all about body. Body image, food issues, body acceptance, comfort in sex... all of it affects how you make love. But who made it? Is it yours? Are you responsible for how it looks? My body image struggles caused me great pain throughout my life. It was my "project." It was my obsession. It was my thing that made me feel OK but also horrible. But as my eating increased, so did my body. And I hated it. I wanted to get liposuction. I prayed God would make me thin. I prayed He'd increase my metabolism. I ordered many ridiculous contraptions that were supposed to make me lose the weight. I binged. I purged. I share about my eating disorder and what God has brought me out of. Even the times I did lose the weight, did it fix my life? Or were there still things underneath that were still broken? You can imagine what this all meant about my sex life and connecting to my husband. If you're anything like me, this is a journey. And in this series where I want to join with you on this struggle. I think this is a huge barrier to a fulfilling sexual intimacy in your marriage. But where is God in all of this? What might He want you to know about your body? Do the work to actively engage in this series to change. Homework: What's your food story and your body image? Where are you now? Where do you want to go, what do you want to feel, what do you want sex to be like? And make love to your man this week ("do before you feel") Next week we continue with Body P2: Know Your Worth, Freedom With Food

In the long view of your 100 years on earth, what is going to matter in THIS season? I had an abrupt and unsettling realization when I had a parent teacher conference a few weeks ago. Though I believe I was discerning God's will and way for my life. I don't believe I was pursuing it in God's timing. And that is one of the central themes around today's podcast. What is your season (mine is a quarter inch) in the grand scheme of life? And what matters most right now. From there, what do you do with that understanding? How does it become practical and lived out? Some topics covered: The enemy wants to distract you from what matters in eternity Parenting requires focus, I was allowing other "priorities" take that focus.. which now I realize was foolishness given my season Distractions include Netflix, Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, food (a personal struggle I'll talk more about in the new year)... just to name a few. — Check out Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual for passion and confidence in intimacy delightyourmarriage.com

Sexual intimacy should be a place of rest. It can even become a "haven for me". In this interview, Juli Slattery, of Authentic Intimacy, talks about the spiritual priority of sexual intimacy in marriage and the passion involved in covenant love. She also discusses which Sexual acts are ok? How do you know if it's a conscience thing or just a comfort thing? Has God said no to this? Is this loving and beneficial, is it good for us? Is it only us? We don't grow in anything unless we push past our comfort. Learn how to become great lovers. How to be able to lose control? Either a fear or a lie. --- Check out Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual for passion and confidence in oral sex