Delight Your Marriage

Darcy is a busy business owner, mother, and grandmother--married 28 years. She loves God and has had a better than average marriage all that time. A friend of hers invited her to listen to the podcast--saying it had brought them to tears. And when she listened, she too was brought to tears with a very different understanding of intimacy than she had ever realized. God did an utter miracle in her heart and her marriage. For days she had a voracious appetite for intimacy with her husband. She says it gave her insight into how a man feels all the time. And she feels a oneness with him she's never felt previously. Her husband changed! His low-grade depression disappeared! He is becoming a better father and man of faith. He is thriving before her eyes. Their daughter even asked: "Mom, what happened to dad??" If you're a wife, I encourage you to listen with an open heart. God may want to speak to you through Darcy's story of love for Jesus. Which fueled a change of heart towards her husband. I encourage you, if you know someone who may need to hear this story, send this to them. That's how Darcy's life changed. Someone had the courage to share it with her! God bless you, Belah PS - I have MANY free resources! I would love to invite you to check them out: delightyourmarriage.com/free

I love new years because everything feels fresh and energized. Even though practically speaking it's the same as every other day, you just have to start training yourself to use a new number at the end of your dates. But I am all about using whatever energy there is to increase my chances of growth and change--in God's will. So, that's what today's podcast is about. Becoming stronger in your vision. It's about realizing that you're going to stand before Jesus and He'll be curious what you did with your days, which lead to weeks, which lead to years and then decades. We must be cautious about how we spend our time, and spend it in priority to God's will. I will show you the specific document I have used since 2013 and review at least quarterly to align my life with how I perceive God wants me to live. I will also discuss the process I use to discern God's will for my life every quarter. Because I think we need to be considering God's will consistently in our lives and move towards it more and more every day. I think you'll love the conversation and I look forward to hearing from you! Blessings, Belah PS, if you'd like the free resource I mentioned to help you understand how to love your spouse the way they are craving, go to delightyourmarriage.com/framework

There are too many marriages flirting with divorce. You may be one, if not you probably know several. Maybe you're at a spot where you don't want to be there. ...you want to run away. ...you're exhausted. ...your spirit is broken. Maybe you've only ever thought it or maybe you've admitted it to others. I want to invite you to take the power you have to see that there may be a real strategy to get this thing turned around. The podcast I released is a roadmap on how to get to a place this thing turned aroundce where you maybe, could possibly want to stay married. It's not easy when you have been beaten down, neglected, rejected, controlled... What can you do? I want to give you 5 Steps that if followed in order, can quite possibly save your marriage and actually make you want to stay in it! I don't have to convince you that your life (your kids' lives...) would be better if your marriage became healthy and loving again. I hope you'll take the encouragement to focus on this and make these important changes. Blessings, Belah If you want to find out about my live coaching & accountability programs... For wives: Intimate Freedom (accepting enrollment now) or For husbands: Masculinity Reclaimed (accepting enrollment in mid-March) you can email me at [email protected] Sign up for the free PDF Framework here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/framework

When we have a warm, loving culture in a family, passionate intimacy is the result. Or is it the cause? -- If you're listening to this in the present, our world is in many challenges and the holidays may look different than they ever have for your family. How can we see this as a gift? If you're a husband... ​-you have an opportunity to shift the culture of your marriage to one that attracts your wife towards frequency, engagement, and freedom in intimacy. If you're a wife... ​-you have an opportunity to shift your intimate interactions to one which attracts your husband to be a man of the fruits of the spirit, romantic, and the spiritual leader. Either party can make important changes. ​​But changes are hard and risky. Risking looking silly. Risking being laughed at or judged because this is outside of your "norm". ​​Luckily in the midst of the challenge, there is a huge opportunity to redefine your "norm". Redefine the culture of your marriage. ​ ​​Making a culture that actually brings you two together rather than tears you two apart. That's my invitation today: look at this challenge as a gift. During a challenge, everything can change. ​​ You can use this as a jumping-off point for your entire marital culture to change: warmth, laughter, playfulness, and safety as well as passion, freedom, and frequency in intimacy. This challenge is truly a​​n opportunity for dramatic changes in your marriage. ​​ Love and blessings, Belah PS - Husbands, I have advice for you if you'd like to get your wife involved in my material: www.delightyourmarriage.com/advice PPS - Wives, I have a Free (for now) training for you about Seductive Confidence... head over to delightyourmarriage.com/sc

My conversation today is with a wife who had a persistent husband. After he worked on himself (!) he highly encouraged her to work with me in a program. At first, she wasn't happy about it and she felt pushed into it. But through the process of understanding who her husband is... different than who she is, she discovered that God may be asking of her something that she didn't expect. For wives: if you feel "pushed," (assuming there's not abuse and your husband is a good man) Diana's encouragement is to come at it with an open mind. "What do you have to lose? ...Your marriage" I believe this conversation is one you won't want to miss! For wives... Right now I have FREE training series for wives: Seductive Confidence, you can get it at delightyourmarriage.com/sc (Be sure to sign up right now so you can have access to the training!) For husbands: here's some free advice if you'd like to invite your wife to listen to my trainings: delightyourmarriage.com/advice

This is part 2 with my husband where we're talking about what seduction means to men. Husbands: I encourage you to "catch" my husband's heart. That's what's so attractive. That spirit is what encourages me to be generous in the ways my husband desires. If you want more insight, on how to introduce your wife to my material, I have a special FREE Advice for Men To Invite Their Wives training. Wives: If you're a wife and want to get access to a FREE training called Seductive Confidence Masterclass. I am excited to encourage more women to grow in their God-given right to be free, playful, and loving through intimacy! Blessings, Belah

Hi there, Today is extra special because I have on the most amazing man I've ever met. Ehemm... my husband. :) If you want to know why I am the way I am (well, regarding the generous things in intimacy), it's because this gentleman loved me really, really well and continues to every day. It's not necessarily intuitive, but it is God's way. This conversation will be instructive for wives -- who feel insecure and challenged by seduction -- and husbands -- who want to be pursued with playful and fierceness. For men - You'll find out that gentleness and compassion are the keys to her heart as well as specifically what to say to her that makes her want to make you happy intimately. For women - You'll hear from a really good man, what seduction means to him and why it's important. If you'd like to get a free download of some of my favorite seduction tips, you can go to delightyourmarriage.com/tips and you'll be signed up for the Free Training on Seductive Confidence coming soon! Blessings, Belah

As a wife, this is something I really struggled with. Why would he want me to do such embarrassing things? Does it remind him of sin? I don't want to be associated with his past. Also, it's not my personality. And in general, I'm not comfortable. I had SO many more hang-ups around this. But, one thing kept knawing at me. Why is this all over our society? Specifically seduction. Yes, the act is in certain movies and x-rated things that I don't watch. But seduction is almost unavoidable (even in PG-13 movies). Whether it's a glance, a teasing, and revealing advertisement...it's everywhere and unavoidable. It's in every culture all around the world. Yesterday, I received an email that Delight Your Marriage is ranked as the #1 Podcast in the categories of Sexuality as well as the category of Health & Wellness in several African countries which (is really cool!) means that culture doesn't make a difference. These philosophies go across cultures and all over the globe. Why does seduction matter? This podcast is directed at wives, but if you are a husband I think you'll get a glimpse of what's holding her back. Get the Seduction Tips here and a free training on this! www.delightyourmarriage.com/tips

If you're new to Delight Your Marriage, this is the first episode you should listen to. Many people come to my resources with a question on how to make their marriage better but they really don't know where to start. This is a rundown on the most important philosophical underpinnings of Delight Your Marriage. This gives the best introduction to the foundational principles that I use with people from all over the world--by God's grace--to transform their marriages and families. Just a few things included: What a husband needs and what a wife needs to feel fulfilled in a marriage Why intimacy is so important to a husband and that's reflected in the brain's physiology Why, I believe, God made men & women's drives so different The underlying reasons emotional and physical intimacy isn't strong in a marriage When people are struggling in their marriage they often get advice which makes it all worse. What's the missing piece? Strategy. Listen in and go to delightyourmarriage.com/resources to find out about all the courses I offer to totally transform your marriage! There are courses for husbands or wives to receive the love you're craving in your marriage. Blessings, Belah

So, today's a pretty important day. And you may listen to this in the future which will be relevant. More than ever, our land is divided and we have strong convictions on right and wrong. In Jesus' day political issues based on power, oppression, greed, and con... plagued everyone he interacted with. They were impacted at a personal level. Jesus' sights were different than those experiencing political suffering. He taught us how to love from our hearts. He brought enemies together to pursue God's kingdom over an earthly kingdom. I don't know what is going to happen in this election. I know I voted according to my convictions. More importantly, I know that if the other side wins, God is still my King. He is bigger than me. His timeline is far bigger than the number of years I am on this earth. So, if the next 4 years needs to look different than I hoped, I will not take that out on God. Because He knows better than I do. Instead, I will pray for those who I might consider enemies right now. I will also live in thanksgiving. It is a command far too often in the Bible for me to ignore. I encourage you to not let your heart be troubled. I encourage you to look like Jesus in this time. Remember when Peter cut off the ear of the soldier coming to take Jesus to kill him (some might say "self-defense")---Jesus rebuked Peter and healed the soldier. I don't know what God is up to necessarily, but I trust Him. And I will be faithful to His teachings even now. If suffering is going on in your marriage, this exact message applies to you. Having hope, faith, and love--even now. It's a choice. A hard one. But the right one. Blessings, Belah

Hi there! I hope things are going well for you. I have an inspirational story to share with you today. It's a story of challenge and ultimately hope and healing. Alexis and Justin (re-definingnormal.com) grew up in homes that had significant abuses, including sexual and drug abuse. By societal expectations, they wouldn't have gotten through that pain. But God intervened. Both went through the foster care system and by God's grace, amazing things have changed for them. AND they're now founders of organizations that help others who have gone through similar challenges. They've written a book about their story and today, we focus on how Justin helped his wife heal from her trauma by his reliance on the Lord. My encouragement is to listen in and be encouraged and inspired to continue your journey. And I think it will encourage you that people like Justin and Alexis are doing amazing things for people---Jesus' hands in the earth. Check out all the links we reference here! Blessings, Belah PS I have some resources for women coming (I know I focused on the men for a while) so I encourage you to get the 6 Tips for Seduction here: delightyourmarriage.com/tips

I'd like to give you a view of communication that isn't repressing feelings but also isn't open with all of them, at least not all at once. And when you are open slowly, you are in a way that encourages the good rather than discouraging everything. I think in our fast-paced society nowadays, we feel this inappropriate pressure to share all the feelings we have about a topic (sex is a big one!) with our spouse because we need to get that checked off of our mental burden list. Or we need to finally unload or get it off our chest. So we pile on all these painful complaints, criticisms, and unacknowledged feelings all at once. And it causes huge divisions between partners and can take years to heal, if at all. My encouragement in today's podcast is to think of your relationship not as a 30-minute conversation but as a 90-year conversation. There is no need to address everything right now. There is a need to be respectful, kind, gentle, grateful, and loving in all your communication with your spouse. When that is your "normal," then there is an opportunity to strategically place encouragements towards a general movement in a direction that is important to you. "But that could take months, even years." Luckily, you have that. And you are strong enough to shift things slowly but surely in the right direction. The shocking thing is if you are disciplined and you are careful, it may take way less time than you think. One important piece is you can make yourself happy during that time and happier as you wisely encourage and compliment in the direction you desire. (More on that in the podcast). This is giving the truth in love. We don't need to rhetorically cut each other because we're lazy or we're "good at fighting." We can be gentle, humble, meek, self-disciplined, and patient with the truth--even in response to our partner's accusations. This way is harder and requires Jesus' strength and character, but it will actually move you farther faster. The other can set you back for years to come and may undermine the very thing you're trying to improve. I hope you'll listen to this podcast with an ear for what Jesus wants for your marriage and interactions in it. Blessings, Belah PS If you haven't yet rated and reviewed the podcast, I'd love to receive a screenshot and give you a $97-value training for men--for free! Send me a screenshot of your review to belah at delightyourmarriage.com If you're not sure how to do that and you listen vai iTunes, you can find out how at delightyourmarriage.com/itunes

Hi there, This podcast is for men (or the women who want to peer inside of hearts of men) it's all about the specific Stages to Sexual Freedom that a husband can employ to transform his marriage---even if he's the only one doing the work. If you're an action-taker once you know the process you're going to start and fix this once and for all, this is the podcast for you. I believe that those who listen will feel empowered to do what God wants them to do in their marriage to truly transform it. In the second half of the episode I'll be sharing more about the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy, and love being married again program. We'll even hear from Vikas who went from a sex-starved frustrated marriage with a young child to a place where she often initiates 3+ times per week and she doesn't' even know he did the program. To learn more about the program he went through, go to delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp Blessings, Belah Enrollment is open now but won't be open for long. Find out all the details here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp

This interview is with a man who had suffered in intimacy in his marriage for 14 years. She had intense anxiety (I've been there!) and it made intimacy very difficult for both of them. Sex would happen maybe 1x a month, but it was never something they could talk about. And masturbation was something he turned to alleviate the loneliness. Now they make love 3x per week--and she initiates 90% of the time! That is a manifestation of both of their courage and healing for both of them. What happened? Well, it all started with Steve the rooster. This is a good story. So... Step #1 - Buy a rooster Step #2 - Invite your mom over Step #3 - Just kidding... :P But, there are fantastic keys in his story and the process they went through to get to the other side. One important note I share at the end: If you are a husband and you want your marriage transformed like Captain's be sure you... ...don't accidentally undermine your wife's confidence. That is exactly the topic I'll be speaking to on this weekend's Men's Masterclass. If you're not already, sign up for LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday! Looking forward to speaking with you soon! Love, Belah PS Don't forget to sign up for the LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass, sign up here with me THIS weekend!

Hi there, Not sure if it was for you... but for me it was a whirlwind of a weekend. I put on a church conference on Saturday (in Spanish--eek!) which was scary, but God came through in an awesome way, which was so cool! Also, on Friday I had the chance to interview 3 different graduates from my Masculinity Reclaimed program. Today's podcast is of Charles. His story is hard to believe---but one that will surely give you hope. To be transparent, I have 2 ulterior motives for sharing his story: 1- To invite you to my Free & Live Men's Masterclass coming up really soon, sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining My prayer is that men's lives are utterly and forever changed just by attending the Free Men's Masterclass Live. And possibly, deciding after that training to enroll in the Masculinity Reclaimed program, which is what Charles went through. But my plan on the Free Men's Masterclass is not going to be a "hide-the-ball" presentation, but to genuinely help your marriage turn around! 2- To listen to the man who came into marriage and throughout his marriage with sadly, huge measures of infidelity. And yet, God did an incredible work of grace and healing in their marriage---reflected in their intimacy. And now, he can scarcely believe what his wife is doing for him in intimacy. (Bucket-list, before-he-dies-type-stuff!) Wild, right? I think you won't believe it unless you hear it, here. Plus he drops some serious golden nuggets you can apply immediately to your marriage, that you won't want to miss. God is good! He gives great advice, and if you listen, he'll share some important keys that turned everything around.​​ Blessings, Belah PS Don't forget to sign up for the training now, so you don't forget! www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining You'll want to put that on your calendar and clear your weekend to make sure you can attend live!

Hi there, If you're going through hard times, this is particularly applicable because we need a lot of love right now. The right kind of compassion and care from our spouse and those around us. The best way to encourage your spouse is to attract them. I find it clear in the Bible that people have to be attracted towards Jesus by us living like him. Jesus did miracles and was compassionate to people before he ever rebuked them. Jesus dealt with people differently based on where they were spiritually. When someone was demon possessed he healed them and didn't rebuke them for dabbling in whatever caused the possession. However, when the rich young ruler who practiced righteousness--and clearly was at a different place spiritually--came and asked about eternal life, Jesus let him know he needed to give all he had to the poor. Jesus calls us higher, based on where we are right now. And it's unique to each individual. If he spoke to the demon-possessed man like he did the rich young ruler, the demon-possessed man wouldn't have been attracted to him. Instead, he loved that man the way he needed to be loved in that moment. And the man then followed Jesus and became an incredible evangelist of the gospel. My invitation is to attract your spouse not to force or push them the way you think will help them get to Jesus. When Jesus said the golden rule "so whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them." I think he means love them in what they need right now. In who they are. In the way they receive love. It was my birthday and I shared with my closest friends that I wouldn't appreciate gifts, but I would love letters and donations to World Vision. If a friend likes to get gifts on their birthday and decided to give me a gift, I wouldn't feel loved. I would feel like they didn't really care about me. So, I encourage you to love your spouse the way THEY receive love. What do they like? It's different for men and women. I share what specific differences between men and women in particular. Treat your partner the way they want to be loved. Because you would want them to do that for you, right? Love and blessings, Belah PS I'd love to invite you to join me at a Men's Masterclass at October 9 - 11, 2020 www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining

Hi there! Hoping your day is going well? There's a lot of difficulty you may be facing right now, and one of the best gifts I can give you is rest. Well, not me but God. It seems strange to think rest could help you cope with the intense struggle you're dealing with, but you may be quite surprised. I'd like to share a podcast episode that is dear to my heart and my growth. Why does rest matter to your life? Well, Jesus by no means hurried through life. He practiced Sabbath. He enjoyed His day to day life. Even children wanted to be around Him. If we're stressed we don't spend the time to connect with our partner in a meaningful way, in or out of the bedroom. For women, usually stress kills her libido but can increase her need for emotional connection. For men, it often makes them crave the release sex brings but he has low capacity to be present to her emotions. How can any of us not stress? There are bills to be paid, kids to raise, food to prepare, chores to accomplish every single day. Rest doesn't fit into our lives. But I would posit, as followers of Jesus, we can't NOT rest and be aligned with His will. We need rest to ensure we're on track. It's easy to be on the rat race for years and have no perspective to see what does God actually care about in your life. If you don't have pause to calm your heart and mind, you can't discern what that is. It's not work, it's rest. I am looking forward to sharing this with you. Good news: when you're rested, your intimacy in all ways increases. Love and Blessings, PS I am inviting you to save the date for the free LIVE Men's Training Oct 9 - 11! You can sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining

In this episode, I have a former student who is in his 70s and has been married over 45 years. Not only has he and his wife used some of these interventions themselves, he is also very well-versed in the research behind it. He nor I am a doctor and this is not meant to be taken as medical advice, but it is worth asking your doctor about these possible solutions. He also talks about the important health choices their family has made to keep them healthy sexually and vibrant even in their latter years. For links to the many resources mentioned, go to the show notes page. To understand the Framework that I taught he and his wife when they worked with me, go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/framework

I'm excited to bring you an interview with a former student, Ben. His upbringing was tense and he tried to stay away from home. His parents' relationship left a lot to be desired. His wife didn't have a man in the home to understand what marriage could look like. Outwardly their marriage was very successful--but Ben knew that if he wanted his marriage to be passionate he was going to have to change. Which is what he did when he worked with me in my men's coaching program. He made drastic changes to himself and it impacted his wife's response to him. Both in their 70's is it really possible for them to have passionate intimacy -- physically speaking? As a doctor of orthodontics, he knows the rigor of academic research. He has done quite a lot in this area and not only has implemented medical interventions but also natural lifestyle remedies that help both he and his postmenopausal wife. This is part 1 of our interview where he shares his suggestions for passion even after 45 years of marriage!

With so much going on in the world, I think people are making big changes in their lives. Given that people are becoming more aware of their own mortality, I think its making them decide to take action. My encouragement in today's podcast: 256-How to Not Fail at Marriage, comes from a failure at marriage --ehemm --me! When my first marriage failed I blamed him. When my second marriage was on the rocks, I realized I was the common denominator. When I transformed myself, I witnessed this man change before my very eyes. Now, that I work with many men and women from around the world, I wish I understood these truths and the essential Framework a wife and husband needs to not fail at marriage. And in fact thrive. This episode is for you if your marriage isn't what you think it could be. I'd encourage you, if you know someone in that spot, this may be the perfect opportunity to send them insights that very well may transform their marriage. None of us know when it's our time and God calls us home. But right now, God has given us our spouse as the most important human relationship and I hope you honor it as such. On today's show I cover: -The 3 things men need to feel fulfilled in marriage -The 3 things women need to feel fulfilled in marriage -This Framework is what men and women need to understand to love each other the way the other receives love (hint: it's different for each spouse) -What I wish I had known about sexual intimacy in my first marriage -Why we are more respectful to strangers than our own life partner If you are new to the Delight Your Marriage philosophies, this is a really good introduction. If you've been around for a while "repetition is the mother of learning" so I encourage you to take these insights too! Find a deeper understanding of the Framework here! Love & blessings, Belah PS - I'd love to invite you to send this to a friend if they're facing marriage challenges right now, this could save their marriage.

Most people don't use that word anymore. But I think "coveting" is still very relevant to our world today. And is still an egregious sin we need to take seriously for our benefit and God's Kingdom. When I look at the Ten Commandments, I used to think they weren't all that related to one another... and they didn't have much to do with marriage or sex. 1- But looking at them again, there's a thread that runs through them very beautifully: contentment with God's will for you. 2- Sex is even directly indicated. But the one about "do not covet your neighbor's wife," if taken seriously, guards against the "do not commit adultery" commandment. Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously. It causes your sex life to dwindle if either partner is doing it. Though men and women covet differently around sex, if given to that temptation, it has a huge impact on the bedroom. God cares about our hearts. He cares about how we think and how we judge. And when we covet, we are taking our eyes off of what God wants us to focus on and consuming our attention with things that just don't matter as much and maybe they are even egregious sins. Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously. Also, I talk about the sins of sex addiction and greed in this episode because I think they're very related as well. Coveting and adultery are equal sins. But the former leads to the latter. Adultery is an outward sin while coveting is a sin of the heart and it happens first. Coveting is where we should be vigilant so the outward sin can't even come close. When women covet the "neighbor's wife", it's still sin. Maybe we're jealous of another woman's flat stomach or some other standard of beauty we think is better than our own. It causes us to hide, feel insecure and go away from intimacy with our spouse. Leaving our marriage more exposed to potential destruction. (Also, ladies, I still have to fight against this! That's our fight to win--the fight in our hearts and minds.) I have actionable recommendations to help you avoid this temptation for your benefit and to serve God and His people better. I hope you'll listen in. Wishing you a wonderful week! Love and blessings, Belah PS If you want the specific Framework I use when working with my clients to help them love--the way their spouse receives love. When you discover how your spouse receives love, and fulfill them in that way, they will naturally naturally love you the way YOU receive love (men differently than women)! So go to delightyourmarriage.com/framework for the free download!

Have you been hurt? Have you been disappointed? By your spouse. By those you love. By God. I think the answer has to be yes. Disappointment is part of the human experience. Jesus was disappointed and hurt by those he loved. But he somehow put his disappointments in a category where it didn't slow down His mission to do God's will. In this episode, I share how I felt disappointed by my husband and went about things the wrong way. And I share what I should have done (for your benefit :) Yes, I'll share how to motivate your spouse to do what you want, but more importantly what to do if they don't. It's a perspective shift that's required if you're going to have a healthy and happy marriage. But also I share how to have less disappointments and be less hurt by your spouse. If you've been disappointed by God, I want to speak to that as well. Especially as this pandemic is taking it's toll on so many in so many different ways, we can easily get disappointed at God. How could he do this? How could He allow this? How does He not stop this? I want to speak to this. I aim to comfort you and help you process your disappointments and give you a road map of how to have a much better sense of control when you are seeking to heal things with your spouse. Love & blessings, Belah

Hi there, Hoping you're well? In challenges, my aim is to keep showing up and helping inspire and empower you to have a wonderful marriage and intimacy in it. To that end... This is Part 2 of my Interview with my husband about his perspectives on fatherhood (and why that makes me so attracted to him!) Is it his ripped abs and amazing biceps? ​ Well... let's just say he's got a very healthy "dad bod" going on right now. :) Truth is, the attraction may have started out physical, but became emotional. Because that emotional attraction is there, it flows back into a physical desire for intimacy. So, if you're concerned that the "Quarantine 15" (aka weight you put on because of being in the house all the time) has left you less attractive to your spouse, I'd say worry more about your character, which will attract her to you. To answer the question: what makes me so attracted to this man? His sincerity. Kindness. Genuine care for me and our family... that makes me want to love him in all the spicy ways possible. Just by tuning in, I think you can "catch" his heart and emulate it. ​​Check out the episode: 253-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 2 And as an added bonus: it's more efficient than the hours in the gym... it's about what's inside. Blessings, Belah

Like the title? LOL. I know, I know... I'm too much. But it was intriguing right? If not... pretend it was something more mature like: "How to Be the Man Your Wife Is Attracted To, Hint: Fatherhood Matters." That's what today's podcast is about. Here's a story that's not in the episode... Last night, our just-turned-7-year-old insisted that we relax on the couch with our wine while he made us dinner. He found a recipe for tacos in his school book and asked daddy to buy the right ingredients, so he could make it! Then when the 5-year-old finished showering, he taught his younger brother how to scoop the salsa, avocados, beans and lettuce into the shells. Between the two of them, about 1/8 of the ingredients landed on the floor... But golly---we ate dinner and didn't have to make it! You better believe those boys got some serious compliments and encouragement for treating mom and dad to a "feast"! And because of our reaction I'm sure it won't be the last time! (You should have seen those boys puff out their chests!) Am I bragging? Well, maybe. I think there is purpose to it. I'm hopefully casting a vision of what's possible when you have an amazing marriage. I never saw or heard of such things. EVER. Growing up. So, maybe this is me sharing a vision of what I wish I had had. Here's what I've learned... My son treats us that way because he imitates his dad. His dad treats me that way. And (I fail plenty... but..) I sure try to treat my husband that way. So, today, I invite my husband on to share his insights on fatherhood (and I share why that makes him irresistible to me!) In the past when he's come on I've received comments like: "I listened to a three part series about being peaceful and laid back [Episode 214-Transform to Be Easygoing Part 1 of 3]. As I listened to her husband talk I fell to my knees in tears. I have been teaching men for a long time, and have been thirsting for someone to look up to. Yes, it's Jesus. But I heard Jesus's character in these two's hearts. It was beautiful hearing Belah laugh at and affirm him. I loved it when he spoke so highly and with gratitude of her and listened to her sounds in the background. Their interactions and emotion while speaking is novel in a world where we are so used to sarcasm and selfishness and calloused feelings about our kids and loved ones." First of all, we are honored and humbled and feel unworthy of such praise. But are grateful that God could use our weak words to draw people to Himself. If you listen closely, curiously, carefully... I think you'll understand why I'm so attracted to this man and do all the "sexy stuff" because of who he IS. God bless! Belah

You have an Assignment (1 Cor 7:17). A plan a purpose God laid out for you to do. A set group of people He wants you to impact. Jesus didn't assign you to everyone. He even had limits on himself. Jesus himself limited his prayers: "I am not praying for the world, but for those whom you have given me" John 17:9 But if we think that we're supposed to be doing everything, we'll miss who He is really assigning us to. Thus, His perfect plan doesn't go forward. This impacts your sex life, and is impacted by your sex life. Whether you're a woman or a man this has impact. I think this allows us to all take a breath and say, "Lord help me to know who you have given me. Help me to be content with who you have given me. Help me to truly serve, love and impact only those you have given me". And if all of us did that... then the world would look a lot different, I think. I share how I'm doing that in my life, with my family and in my current launch of the renewed Masculinity Reclaimed program right now. I share how men I've worked with (who I believe God put in my assignment) have been able to stop "burning with passion" even though they're married and get on with what God wants them doing. Because after my program they are more Christ-centered men. One--maybe surprising--thing I share in this episode is how I wish my ex-husband took the Masculinity Reclaimed course. It's basically written for a man who thinks like that to help him become a man who thinks like my current husband...a man by his behavior and heart motivates me to want to make love to him. (I'll tell you it works!) I hope this encourages you to deeply reflect on your Assignment and the role sex plays in it. And I pray that will help direct your steps. Enrollment for the Masculinity Reclaimed program is open now, but is closing very soon, so I hope you register now. Delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp Once enrollment closes, it won't be around again this year.

This is probably THE question I hear in one way or another over and over again. Lights off, sheets up and "vanilla" sex is the refrain that is very frequent. Why is she like this? How can this change? What about specific things she's squeamish about like "intimate photos of us", anal sex, and mirrors? If you'd like more insight on anal sex: delightyourmarriage.com/sod All that is covered in our conversation! Especially for men, but helpful for women! --- In the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again! You'll learn how to strategically transform your marriage so she WANTS to enjoy sex with many new positions, visuals and variety... ...a 92% success rate! We are launching very soon (and won't be opening up the doors til next year!) so go to delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining to get all the details!

To my beloved listener, I want to encourage your heart in trying to understand what's happening and why. I know you're doing hard work to figure out what your role is and should be in all of this. And I commend that so much. Also, as you're going through so much right now, I hope you rest. I invite you to practice self-care especially right now. I hope you'll read, write by hand, & meditate on Matthew 7:12-24 & Galatians 5:19-24 (Further reading: Further resources: I recommend this interview you listen to and interview with Brene Brown and Ibram X. Kendi and a message from Bishop TD Jakes.) By Gods grace... We're going to get through this. Love, Belah PS If you're signed up for the Men's Training: from her "duty" to her desire, delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining it will be released Saturday and the rest next week! If you're not signed up, be sure to soon (it'll only be available for a limited time!)

Playfulness doesn't seem important now that life is so busy and stressful, but it's actually central to a good marriage and a PASSIONATE marriage. When you think about what your relationship was at first, it probably was full of laughter. Right? The value of playfulness- Laughter makes you smarter Makes you more creative Improves your immune systems The JOY of the Lord is our strength Rejoice... is a constant refrain in the Bible even in the WORST circumstances, we are invited to rejoice in the Lord. There is power in joy. Sex can be awkward, uncomfortable, and embarrassing just to name a few. And if there's a playful culture in your marriage, it causes laughter. If there's not, it causes distance because you both are trying to look better than you feel. For both parties, they're insecure around sex, so if your marriage is more playful... You're not trying to be perfect in front of the other. You're not trying to compete with the other. You're not trying to change the other. You're staying present and looking at the joyful parts of life together. I think this episode will not only convince you WHY but also HOW to make your marriage, playful, safe and passionate. Get the Wild Romance At Home video training ($97 value) for FREE by leaving an iTunes Review and sending me a screenshot to belah at delightyourmarriage.com If you need more instruction on how at https://delightyourmarriage.com/itunes

(Note: Free resources offered in this podcast for a review are no longer available.) As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights went from your first months or years. Your wife may be wondering where the romantic DAYS went. But, maybe you're stuck at home and it feels like you're not able to do any kind of romance given the circumstances. I hear you... I will add that I live in NYC, in a 1 bedroom apartment with two sons (age 5 & 6) during quarantine. Which means we've probably left our physical apartment 5 times in the last 7 weeks... ...and I'm here to tell you, you can DEFINITELY have a Wild Romance even during this season. (You'll understand more on this show). I want to gift (for FREE) two valuable resources from a $297 course that I have only offered to my current students... Because it's almost Mother's Day & I think you need to understand the template on How To Be Romantic while at home... And this will help you forever understand what your wife wants when she says she wants to be "wooed". There's a catch. I give you a behind-the-scenes-look at how the business of Delight Your Marriage works. And how the podcast is made and why I think it's God's will for me to rely on people like you. If you jump through some hoops to post an iTunes Review, you'll get the resource for FREE. Don't worry, I'll guide you step-by-step on how to "jump through the hoops"--we'll do it together! If you still have questions, I have a specific step-by-step guide, here! THANK YOU, so much. If you've been a listener for a while, I am SO honored that you would take the time to listen all the way through this episode. As you know DYM doesn't have ads because I care more about your impact than the revenue that comes in that way. So THIS is how you can make sure the podcast continues. And if you pray for DYM, please pray that people would listen to this podcast and do the steps so it can grow. The podcast is listened to in 155 countries worldwide and that's because you have spread it--or done what I request in this podcast! So, thank you! I have included valuable encouragements and insights for you but also an ASK from me. It means A LOT that you would do this for me and for the spread of this work. I love you. Belah (PS -- We'd still love a 5-star review, however, over 3 years later we no longer offer the free training. Head to delightyourmarriage.com and see what is available now!)

So, what I've noticed is that all of us are insecure. For some of us it's more obvious than others. It shows up in life, and it shows up in the bedroom. I want to talk to you about what men are insecure about around intimacy and I want to talk about what women are insecure about around intimacy. We have the opportunity to help our spouse feel more secure. But how do we help our spouse when we ourselves are struggling with fear of judgment, rejection and body image (to name a few)? Well, I think we need to understand where that fear is coming from. And that's what we explore together on today's show. Do you feel worthy? Do you treat your spouse like they are worthy? How can you help your spouse not be so insecure... -around sex, -around professional things, -around the ways that they are in the world? Hint: it's different for men and women. (To understand more about this framework, and get a free PDF download go to delightyourmarriage.com/framework ) So, on today's show I want to tell you about what I think will be helpful for you to love your spouse in a way that will make them -take down their guards, -be less perfect (yep perfection is a mask for insecurity) -be more vulnerable, -be more messy & real, -be more kind & loving, -be less awkward, -be more open, and -be more secure. And you too.

Addiction runs rampant... for most of us. Myself included. Especially when we're facing tough things: anxiety, pain, loneliness, vulnerability, identity, significance. During a stressful time we are trying to avoid the pain... so we move towards the pleasure of distraction, entertainment, alcohol, gossip, food, video games, cigarettes... God has specific insight into what to do on a consistent basis to bring us to PEACE. Specifically, I'm thinking about this scripture... Psalms 37:7 "Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him". That makes me what to squirm and run away and pretend I didn't read it and that it's not in the Bible. If I'm really honest my response is "but I'm too important to wait" or "there's too much to do to wait" or "waiting is not going to help anything" Waiting feels like facing the tiger that's chasing me. The truth is when I wait, when I'm patient, when I am still... I discover over and over again that it's a paper tiger. Is meditation new age / non-Christian? I talk about that... and how to ensure your meditation is Christian. I share what I do to be still and be present in intimacy and OUTside the bedroom to impact my pleasure in intimacy. Also, when "Receiving" in intimacy is too hard, there are other ways that are easier at times and bring us together in beautiful ways. A few resources I mentioned: The Craving Mind by Judson Brewer MD, PhD Deep Work by Cal Newport International House of Prayer - 24-hr worship streamed online Live a Life Worthy of Your Calling (the song starts at 1:18:15) Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex by Belah Rose -- I'd like to invite you to be on my email list. I send emails a couple times a month and I'd like to offer you some free resources for you... For wives, you're welcome to get "8 Tips to Stay Present" in the bedroom: www.delightyourmarriage.com/present For husbands, you're invited to get the "7 Blocks to Her Libido" which clarifies what may be keeping her from desiring intimacy in your marriage. www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

I'm very excited to share this interview with Dr. Kahn a renowned cardiologist (seen on Dr. Phil and The Doctors tv series among other great accolaides). This is my second time having him on the podcast and you're in for a treat! What you put in your mouth affects your intimacy. (And I mean outside of the bedroom! :) From libido to sexual response, our diet helps or hurts. We also talk about COVID health and how the studies are showing there are specific things you can do to help your immune system (and of course be very focused on prevention). On our last podcast I shared what I'm doing health-wise and how I think those things helped my health when fighting COVID -- some of those things Dr. Kahn encouraged (and some of them he DIScouraged!) I encourage you to listen in to discover what may be most helpful for your intimate-life and your overall health. You can find more about Dr. Kahn's work at drjoelkahn.com Check out some of his books: Vegan Sex, The Plant-Based Solution, and his newest one Lipoprotein(a): The Heart's Quiet Killer

Hi there, Happy Good Friday. It feels a bit strange going to service online, but the beautiful thing about Jesus is we get to meet Him anywhere because of what He did for us on this day so long ago. I am curious how you're doing? I've been praying for you and hope you're doing ok. We haven't chatted for a while because I've been a bit behind. My husband and I got COVID. The real one. You probably have heard of plenty of really sad stories. I wanted to share ours to hopefully encourage you and add one story to the "FAITH pile" in your heart. How do we know we got it? Well after a grocery store cashier sneezed on my husband a few days later we got flu-like symptoms and then we both lost our taste and smell! ​​(JFYI it's SO weird to not be able to taste or smell anything). For me, I had super mild symptoms (thanking God!) and my husband has fairly mild symptoms though he's yet to be 100%. When she found out me, my husband or my 2 sons (ages 5 and 6) hadn't crossed the threshold of our cozy NYC apartment in 13 days and we've had a peaceful and contented existence throughout, (by God's grace)... a friend asked "what is your secret weapon?" Well, that's what I share in our conversation today, so you have it too: "Your COVID Secret Weapon". I think there are a few things you can focus on amidst the chaos, anxiety and stress that will benefit you, your marriage, your health and ultimately the Kingdom of God. (At the end of the broadcast I share the specific health things I do that I think helped our situation as well, in case you're interested in hearing my opinions on it -- immune health is a personal passion of mine.) Spoiler alert: I talk about intimacy being vital during this time. ​​So I would love to have you listen for encouragement and PRACTICAL insights on how to use this time to HEAL your marriage. Blessings & love, Belah

Corona virus, COVID-19, has impacted you. For so many the fear is tangible. I know it's impacting your marriage. Sadly the divorce rates in China have skyrocketed as a result of the quarantine. I don't want that to continue or become worse. I want to help you. In your marriage, in this time, is it possible to be a soft landing DURING this crisis? How can you get better? How can you and your spouse grow into the people God wants you to become DURING this crisis. Many of us have a lot more time on our hands. (If you're in the medical field, please know we're praying for you). How are we using that time? I want to invite you to a FREE online workshop: SOFT LANDING Webinar: Be encouraged & be loved by your spouse DURING crisis On that webinar I'll be launching a brand new group: Delight Groups to help you stay encouraged DURING the crisis. You don't have to do this alone. If you want to sign up for the THRIVE webinar or learn more about the groups, sign up here.

Fear activates. Over the Christmas break my son had a very serious health crisis. And we cried out to God. And God moved. My faith was increased and everyone who has heard the story was impacted to trust God more. Have you ever heard, "There are no atheists in foxholes"? People want hope to grab onto. And when reason fails to give that hope, the power of God can come in to help people experience His love. This is an opportunity to be an example to all who you know. Don't be the victim who numbs your fear, but the leader who stands in faith. Believe me I've been the former, but I am want us to stand up and encourage and pray and love those who are in fear right now. As Jesus-followers, we are lucky to know that this earth is not the end. But how do we encourage and pray for our neighbors? How can you start now? You may have a lot more time on your hands. How can you start to encourage and help others even RIGHT NOW? Encourage your spouse. Love them generously so they can do their best in the world right now. Prioritize peace in your home so the storm isn't ALSO raging in your home. Sign up to my newsletter for more encouragement during this time: www.delightyourmarriage.com/present And you'll also get my 8 Tips to Stay Present in Intimacy Love you and I'm praying for you, Belah

In the midst of the storm that you both would be bound together. That any worry or fear would be replaced with faith, hope and love.

So, I messed up. I'm throwing myself under the bus here. I'm having trouble having grace with myself. I share what happened here. Maybe you can totally relate to my situation, or maybe you can't. Hopefully you'll at least be amused by my humbling... We all have thorns in our flesh to keep us humble so hopefully this will be encouraging to you... to see me hum-iliated :) Also... I want to help you be motivated toward intimacy. Whether you're a wife who needs motivation to love your spouse with sexual intimacy or you're a husband who needs motivation to care about your wife's emotional desires... or anywhere in between. This is how to be motivated to intimacy: emotional, physical and spiritual in your marriage! Enjoy! A couple of FREE resources I mentioned (after you're motivated of course) is learn to seduce! The 5 Amazing Seduction Tips delightyourmarriage.com/tips Also, for men to understand their wife and how to remove the blocks that are keeping her from intimacy: delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks The 7 Blocks to Her Libido Thanks so much for listening--looking forward to speaking again next week!

So, I hear you. And I validate your desire. I wish wives would understand the importance and privilege she has to love him the WAY HE RECEIVES love. With that in mind, I want to encourage you, dear husband. Jesus KNOWS about your high sex drive. In fact, God is responsible for it. It's very clear in the Bible that He knows and designed you with it. So, when I am encouraging you in how to view your wife, it's actually the most PRODUCTIVE thing you can do to bring you both at a better place in intimacy. It's not the last step, but it's the FIRST and has be there BEFORE anything else. If you want to understand the next 12 steps (literally), you can sign up for a FREE Clarity Call (worth $500!) where you and I will talk about what your SPECIFIC situation is. You'll get clarity and great value and as I'm listening and discerning whether or not you'd be the right fit for me to expect amazing transformation in your marriage: -like a husband who was celibate for several years because his wife shut him out now they're making generous and enthusiastic love several times every week! -like a husband who walked on eggshells hoping his wife wouldn't reject him at night and she hadn't initiated in 20 years - now she's the ONLY one initiating and they're making passionate on a consistent basis! If that's what you'd like to see in your marriage, I'd love to consider your story on a Clarity Call and IF I think you're the right fit I may invite you to work with me. Go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/call (Due to capacity, I am only offering this call for husbands at this time though I have some options that may include them if I feel it's the right fit.)

You may have an inkling, but I bet you'll be surprised by my guest Sharon Jaynes (sharonjaynes.com) and the interesting topics we dig into to help others understand in what ways the Song of Solomon was speaking about intimacy between husband and wife. (Hint hint, they're not talking about the farmer's market). :) Sharon Jaynes has authored over 20 books and is passionate about women walking confidently and freely in their God-given calling. She loves marriages and seeks for women to be free in intimacy as well as love their husband through prayer. Sharon and I had a lot of fun talking about how the Bible specifically gives us the green-light to do far more in sex than most Christians realize. Listen in! Be sure to get Sharon's new book: Lovestruck: Discovering God's Design for Romance, Marriage, and Sexual Intimacy from the Song of Solomon to find out even more! -- A couple of free resources I mentioned on the podcast that I'd love to offer you: delightyourmarriage.com/present - for wives the 8 secrets to stay present in intimacy delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks - for husbands to understand the 7 reasons she is blocked from having a higher drive

Why did she heal? What motivated a woman who was a size 0, undernourished, had been abused horribly to decide it was worth the challenge to heal? How did she heal and now have a thriving intimate life with her husband? Catherine gives us insight, hope and practical tools for you. You too can be healed, by God's grace. Whether you were abused or your spouse, this will be helpful to understand the process and know that complete healing and restoration is possible for you! Catherine is incredibly inspiring and has used her story to bring light and safety to so many through her organization Stop Trafficking Us (stoptraffickingus.org) which helps people out of being trafficked. If this resonates with you and you'd like some additional tips on how to stay present during intimacy, I'd love to also give you a free resource: "8 Secrets to Stay Present during Intimacy". You can get it here: delightyourmarriage.com/present

Today's interview is a story of resilience and hope. Catherine goes into her story lightly because her full story is extremely difficult to take in. HOWEVER, there is hope. Catherine is a living example that God can heal you. 1 in 4 women AND 1 in 6 men have suffered some form of sexual trauma. So, the healing needs to happen for SO many of us. What can you do as a wife or husband to heal? What can you do to help your spouse heal? What are the underlying causes for pain for the person who is trying to help their spouse heal? There's a lot of great insights even for practical and fun ways to heal... yeah it doesn't have to be another exercise in pain to heal. God can help even when the mood is light! To find out more about Catherine Wilson's work, visit: https://www.stoptraffickingus.org/ If thoughts are inhibiting you in the bedroom and you're a wife, I'd like to get my 8 Secrets to Staying Present in Intimacy for FREE, you can go to this link! Part 2 is coming out next week, I hope you'll come back for that on Thursday!

So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about. But because I have the honor of speaking to women and men about some of the stuff they have never told ANYBODY, this comes up. I want to share this episode because I want to help you. I don't want you to feel alone and icky and like you're sinning. Maybe you're not OR what are the specific Biblical boundaries? Maybe there are small tweaks you can make to your thought-life that will align them with God's will. Maybe there are wees growing in the garden of your mind and they need to be pulled up and we'll talk about that. But you may be surprised by some of my thoughts even around homosexuality. It starts in the mind and what we focus on grows. Just because someone has same-sex attraction doesn't make them gay. I want to clear about that because that's an insecurity a lot of people have. I believe we all have proclivities, it's what we do with those proclivities that matter. Some of us are more violent, some of us easily lie and some of us have other proclivities we need to keep in check. What you focus on grows. So if you're focusing on the ways God wants you to be attracted and turned on by your spouse, I think you might be quite surprised by the way God will redirect your thoughts, feelings and even stimulation just by directing your fantasy-life. -- I am SO excited to invite you to my 3-part FREE Online Seminar, people had amazing things to say about it! www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew There's only a couple of days left to go and get the replay! "Belah, your webinar was absolutely amazing, we both enjoyed it and can't wait for the other 2! You have such an incredible insight on the male - female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert! Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction. Where were you 25 years ago!!!!!!!" - Husband "Thank you so much, Belah, for the distilling a lifetime of wisdom and teaching about God's plan for marital happiness, family harmony and personal fulfillment into one webinar!!!" -Wife of 32 years

"Belah , your webinar was absolutely amazing , we both enjoyed it and cant wait for the other 2! ​You have such an incredible insight on the male -female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert ! ​Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction . Where were you 25 years ago !!!!!!! Lol"​​​ -Husband I was very grateful to receive this review! Hope you can make it to TOMORROW's PART 2 and bring your spouse! www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew You can see Part 1 for a LIMITED TIME here!: www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew_replay

Wives: As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it! But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wrong, sinful, perverted, from the pornos, etc etc etc. But he kept caring about this. And he wasn't the only one. And now I hear from husbands all the time about how important this is to them. And these guys aren't jerks, pigs, or abusers. They're God-honoring gentlemen, who love their wives, they're good fathers and they want to enjoy their lives and their marriage and LOVE HER THE WAY SHE FEELS LOVED TOO! -- Husbands: On this episode I have some practical (VERY ehemmm practical) tips for you. This can be something for you guys in your marriage even if you've been married many years! If you're tempted to ask your wife to listen to this... consider for a bit. Will it make her feel forced? Instead, I want to invite you to my live, free webinar series coming up! This is an awesome opportunity to get your wife introduced to my work. It'll have intimacy sprinkled in but it won't be as focused (and possibly alarming to someone not really on board with my concepts). But you'll want to attend the webinar too because it'll have golden nuggets for you two! What can YOU do to encourage your wife in this? ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy! -- The other free resource I mentioned is The 7 Blocks to Her Libido resource! Looking forward to having you at the Webinar Series. (Also, if you are seeing this in the future, you can go to the same link and gain some kind of helpful material!) ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy!

Oh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/) has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist. We dig into what conflict is, why it happens and how to deal with it. But also that it is GOOD for your marriage. However, MOST couples do conflict WRONG---thus it's BAD for theirs. Don't let yours be in this category! He has been featured on: Psychology Today, Fast Company, Chicago Tribune, The Huffington Post to name a few... and it shows! Some things may SURPRISE you. How could conflict be good? How do you MAKE conflict good? What does it mean to be independent but also dependent in your marriage? Aren't you supposed to be vulnerable with your spouse? So, why would you also be independent? Is there some kind of manipulation here? My hope is it will challenge you to think way differently about conflict and your connectedness with your spouse. Oh, and Larry and I have a conflict about something. I think you'll be really interested to hear! Neither of us backed down and he says we did it right. -- Also, I mentioned that I'd like to invite you and your spouse to attend my Live and Free webinar series: New Year, ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy! Sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew2020 This is for couples (or people to watch on their own) and a ending segment JUST for wives. If you're looking for an easy segue-way to invite your wife to be interested in my work THIS IS IT. Or if you have friends that need this work but you don't know how to talk to them about DYM because you know... sex. I get it! This is a easy to digest and hints of truths about intimacy but nothing as strong and explicit as I have on my podcast or other material. Its a super easy intro as well as extremely helpful relationship tools. Looking forward to having you! Love, Belah

If you've listened for a while you may be at a spot where you're really hoping your spouse would tune into the content. Especially if you're a husband there is a way that may be really effective around the holiday. "Honey, for my Christmas present would you [read this book, watch this video training with me...]?" I have seen this be an effective way to encourage your spouse towards listening and recievubg some of this content that isn't always the easiest to invite her to listen to or read. If you'd like to sign up for the free, limited offered 3-part video series go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/video If you'd like to read my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian Wife's manual to confidence, passion and oral sex, you can find it onAmazon in ebook or paper book. I'm working on the audiobook so that'll be available soon! God bless you this Christmas season! Belah

The new year is just about upon us! But how are you prepping for it? How are you making sure you're growing in the ways God wants you to? In this podcast, I invite you to think about the ways God may be asking you to reflect on the year you've had. I encourage you to have a pen and paper handy so you can jot down what comes up for you. Why is this a difficult task? I discuss the 3 reasons people don't reflect, but then the way it's vitally important if we're going to be the people God wants us to become. Don't go through a difficult season and NOT learn the lessons He wants you to. You'll just be doomed to repeat that same sad, painful situation. But when you reflect effectively, it gives you hope, peace and faith that God is going to guide you in the next season as well. When you go through this exercise you'll be able to know how you should focus for the new year. I encourage you to spend the time before the new year focusing on what He wants you to. With that in mind, I'll be taking 3 weeks off from the podcast so I can focus and listen and plan for 2020. During this time I hope you'll prep yourself for the new year (feel free to relisten to podcasts you may have missed or wanted to listen to again!). I'll speak with you in the New Year! Merry Christmas and God bless!

It's that time of year. Happiness and fun and joy is expected. Is it reality for you? Do you have joy in your heart? CAN you have it? I want to talk about this because the holidays can be extremely difficult. And I want to invite you to think about the things you can do even today that will change your perspectives. How do you make your life aligned with your deepest values and highest vision? I speak specifically about tools that will help you get there. If you'd like the Prioritize Your Life chart I talk about you can email me at belah at delightyourmarriage.com If you'd like to listen to an extremely inspiring story of marriage and love, check out this podcast with Joni Eareckson Tada - When Disability Challenges Your Marriage I'd love to have you on my 3-part Video Training that will be up for a limited time: The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence Happy Thanksgiving! PS Don't forget to sign up for the video training! The 3 Keys To Seductive Confidence

I've been asking women about hope they feel about seduction because 1-that's what I hear so often from the husbands I coach. They crave to be seduced by their wives. 2-that's what I hear so often from wives... I'm not comfortable. I don't know what to do. Is God even OK with it? We have been married for so many years, how do I start? How do I get over feeling silly? I want to encourage you. Because the third reason I wanted to record this is because this is how I have felt MANY times over. It's only since I've understood where my husband is coming from that I began to prioritize this. And when I started to see the holiness and God's approval of more fierce intimacy did I seek to walk in this with confidence. I want to give you encouragement in this podcast. And I want to give you practical tools. You can get that from my favorite 5 tips: www.delightyourmarriage.com/5tips then when the email gets to you, respond to me with "I want in" and you'll get on the list to receive my 3-part video training on seduction.