Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

There are some emotions that are so deeply tied to the human experience that it’s impossible to avoid them. One of these is grief, which we have yet to discuss in detail on the podcast. On this episode we’re changing that, and have the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Joanne Cacciatore to the podcast to explore how we can bear the unbearable, and heal the trauma associated with grief. As with all of our episodes associated with traumatic experiences, please be kind to yourself. Be aware that the material explored here includes descriptions of traumatic events - including bereavement. Dr. Cacciatore is an Associate professor at Arizona State University and founder of the MISS foundation, a volunteer based organization providing counseling, advocacy, research, and education services to families experiencing the death of a child. Dr. Cacciatore is also the author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Her research has been published in a number of peer reviewed journals, and she’s been featured in the New York Times, Boston Globe, CNN, NPR, and the Los Angeles Times. If you’d like to support the MISS Foundation, you can make donations to their Selah Carefarm here. Dr. Cacciatore and the MISS Foundation offer a variety of wonderful resources, including: Grief resources and self-help guides. An online course to help individuals through their traumatic grief. Clinical support for traumatic grief, or to become a CBC provider. Connect with the show: Support us on Patreon! Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 03:30: Joanne's journey. 11:39: How can we accept and make space for our positive moments even during times of intense suffering? 16:10: Developing resources to cope with challenging emotions. 17:48: Ways to bear the unbearable. 24:42: Trauma and grief. 34:59: Working with anger. 41:02: If you could speak to a younger version of yourself, what would you say? From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this short episode, Dr. Shauna Shapiro shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. Shauna's newest book Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy is now available. If you'd like to continue to receive these Just One Thing episodes, you can now support the podcast on Patreon! Follow the link to learn more and sign up. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Shauna Shapiro, clinical psychologist, author and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and self-compassion, joins Rick to discuss how we can grow and include compassion alongside mindfulness. About Our Guest: Dr. Shapiro is a professor at Santa Clara University and has published over 150 papers and three critically acclaimed books, translated into 16 languages. Her TEDx Talk, The Power of Mindfulness, has been viewed over a million times. Her newest book Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy is now available. Follow these links to find Shauna's Website l Instagram l Facebook From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 07:34: Shauna's personal story. 12:26: Strengths and traits that support mindfulness. 14:21: The attitudes we should build. 21:32: “Good morning, I love you.”. 23:31: A practice of mindfulness. 28:19: Working through self-criticism. 32:56: What can people do practically if they're feeling helpless about the state of the world? 36:59: Applying mindfulness in the day-to-day. 41:06: How do you keep growing every day? 43:16: A message to your younger self Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode Dr. Kelly McGonigal shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know that exercise is good for us, but that doesn't always make it easy to do. Dr. Kelly McGonigal joins Dr. Hanson and Forrest to share some of the surprising benefits of activity, and how to find ease and joy in movement. About Our Guest: Dr. McGonigal is a health psychologist, lecturer at Stanford University, and award-winning science writer. She is the author of several wonderful books, including the international bestseller The Willpower Instinct, The Upside of Stress, and her newest book The Joy of Movement: How exercise helps us find happiness, hope, connection, and courage. Today we explore: How movement draws us into social connection. The lasting biological benefits of any movement practice. How to access willpower and align with our values. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:13: Movement as a cure for loneliness. 12:48: How can movement help us express agency? 18:40: Moving past blocks around exercise. 23:31: Why is it that people tend to struggle with sticking with exercise, and what can we do about it? 28:56: How can we work toward success? 33:50: How can people work with their internal inhibitions related to movement? 38:26: Bringing conscious movement to the rest of our day. 43:33: A message to your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode Jack Kornfield shares the most important thing he does, each day, for his own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jack Kornfield, one of the key teachers who introduced Buddhist mindfulness practice to the West, joins Rick and Forrest to discuss practice, mindful awareness, and how to view reality altogether. Jack is the co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts, and the Spirit Rock Center in Woodacre, California. His books have been translated into 20 languages and sold more than a million copies. His most recent book is No Time Like the Present: Finding Freedom, Love, and Joy Right Where You Are. If you'd like to learn more about Jack's mindfulness teacher training with Tara Brach, follow this link. New Sponsor: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Key Topics: 01:25: What was it like to go to Southeast Asia in the 1970’s and be a monk? 12:20: When you emptied out everything, was love still there? 22:10: Integrating your teachings into the day-to-day. 27:47: When you find yourself stuck in a certain headspace, what do you do to get yourself out of that? 34:08: What draws your heart? 43:16: Bearing the state of the world. 49:44: If you could back in time and tell yourself one thing, what would that be? From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode Dr. Tina Bryson shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson joins Dr. Hanson and Forrest to share how we can become better friends, parents, and people. About our Guest: Dr. Bryson is the bestselling author of The Whole Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. She’s also the co-author of a new book The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired with Dr. Daniel Siegel. Tina's website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Key Topics: 03:45: Why focus on “showing up?” 08:27: Why is it so important to be “predictable?” 13:01: The 4 S’s. 21:02: How do you respond to parents who hear your information and realize they handled their kids poorly? 29:19: Describing what it means to be “Soothed” and “Secure” 35:27: For those who were in imperfect environments growing up, how can they become more securely attached as adults? 40:12: How can we approach people who aren’t equally good to us? 49:12: What would you tell a younger version of yourself? Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On the final episode of 2019, Forrest and Dr. Hanson discuss their favorite episodes from the last year, what they've learned, and their resolutions for 2020. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 5:30: Who Am I? 15:00: Differentiating parts from the whole. 19:20: Guest experts and interviews. 27:00: What truly changes the brain. 29:20: Resolutions for the new year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotionally abusive relationships are sadly very common. Today Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore a subset of those relationships with Dr. Rhonda Freeman, who shares her own journey to recovery from a toxic relationship with a malignant narcissist. Dr. Freeman is a clinical neuropsychologist. She works with patients diagnosed with neurological conditions, and focuses much of her work on helping people who were involved in toxic or abusive relationships. She is also the founder of Neuroinstincts, and writes for Psychology Today and the Huffington Post, among others. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 02:13: Differences between sociopathy, narcissism, and psychopathy. 04:48: How do sociopathy and narcissism interact? 08:01: Subtle signs of malignant narcissism. 11:12: What kept you in this type of relationship, despite the warning signals? 15:18: Releasing a trauma bond. 23:30: Helping yourself heal. 33:08: Differences between working with a mild and malignant narcissist. 42:14: A message to your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alex Korb shares the most important thing he does, each day, for his own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alex Korb joins the podcast to explore the relationship between depression and the brain, including practical tools for intervening during a depressive episode. Dr. Korb is the author of The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time. He’s studied the brain for over 15 years, and later earned his Ph.D. in neuroscience from UCLA. He’s also published over a dozen peer-reviewed journal articles on depression, neuromodulation and other topics. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 02:30: Do we really care about how others feel? 07:14: Coming to terms with not being able to do everything. 13:15: How does depression work in the brain? 21:20: What is an “upward spiral” or “downward spiral?" 29:54: Have you ever experienced depression? 31:07: Key traits for a happy life. Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liz Fosslien shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The modern workplace can be an emotional minefield. For most of us, about a third of our lives will be spent at work. Learning how to work with and manage our internal lives, including our emotions, in that setting is a huge part of becoming a happy, healthy, emotional intelligent human. On this episode Forrest is joined by the Wall Street Journal best-selling co-author and illustrator of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, Liz Fosslien. Liz is also the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:52: Why focus on emotions in the workplace? 06:12: Why you should be less passionate about work. 12:10: Shifting workplace culture. 15:48: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries. 22:32: Useful and not-useful emotions. 25:54: The importance of “psychological safety.” 31:45: Managing unusual power dynamics. 38:31: What is “forced positivity,” and is it problematic? 42:20: A message to her younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Marc Lesser, Forrest, and Dr. Rick Hanson share the most important things they do, each day, for their own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a natural tendency to view different elements of our lives as being unique and distinct from one another: what we do at home, or what we do as part of our personal growth journey, is somehow fundamentally different from what we do at work. So what can we do, both as individuals and a collective, to bring those same mindful traits into the workplace? That's the question we explore today with Marc Lesser, founding CEO of the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:01: From Zen to NYU. 03:27: Stories from the Zen kitchen. 08:51: Compressing “big” lessons into understood words. 11:32: Does “no-gaining mind” work in a capitalist context? 18:08: What moves you from your home base? 20:23: What is the benefit of having more mindful leaders? 23:35: Critiques of mindfulness. 27:30: The most common questions, and most powerful tools. 32:04: If you could go back in time and tell yourself something, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their conversation on therapy with a discussion ranging from how to pay for it to getting the most out of what happens in the room. As a practicing clinician for over 30 years, Rick's had a lot of people wander through his office. Some of them grew more from the experience than others, and there were some common traits - both on their side and on mine - that tended to lead to the process being particularly beneficial...or particularly not. Today we’re exploring that, alongside a host of other topics. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 02:20: How do you find a therapist? 05:09: What is an “agency”? 06:21: Determining if a therapist is a good fit. 11:06: Affording therapy. 23:00: Managing the experiences of shame associated with seeking help. 29:52: What can someone do to get the most out of therapy? 38:01: Common pitfalls. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the first of two episodes dedicated to a topic near and dear to Dr. Hanson's heart: therapy. Today we're exploring how to start therapy, including different therapy modalities and how to approach seeking out a therapist to work with. Of course, therapy can be profoundly helpful for acute issues – for instance, the tendencies a person might have related to our series on pathology. But what gets lost sometimes in our general social conversation around therapy is how useful it can be as a general tool for personal exploration and inquiry. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 04:08: What does therapy look like in real life? 09:34: Different kinds of licenses and what they do. 13:50: Reasons people might go to therapy. 24:38: The traits of good therapists. 35:51: What are the different kinds of therapy? 43:50: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this short episode, Lori Gottlieb shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well being. Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins the show to explore the therapeutic process, the gifts and challenges of being a therapist in therapy, and why you should consider talking to someone. Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is a deeply personal, yet universal, tour of what it means to be human. It examines the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:25: The challenges of seeing our own difficulties. 03:04: Going back to being a "client." 05:56: Accessing our deeper, younger layers. 10:35: How we can exit a repetitive cycle. 12:42: Shame and self-punishment. 14:22: Relating to your present, past, and future. 17:23: Taking charge of your own learning and growth process. 18:20: How has being in therapy affected your own therapy practice? 20:07: Loneliness, isolation, and gender differences in therapy. 30:40: Overcoming shame around therapy. 33:04: When someone’s in therapy, what can they do to get the most out of it? 34:22: If you could back in time and say something to a younger version of yourself, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabrielle Bernstein shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well being. Gabby is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of seven books including her newest: Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams. She’s been named a “new thought leader” by Oprah on her show SuperSoul Sunday, and been featured on a wide variety of media outlets, including ELLE and The Today Show. Super Attractor is a journey of remembering where your true power lies. If you'd like to learn more about Super Attractor, follow this link. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabrielle Bernstein joins the show to discuss the fear that stops us from being who we truly are, anxiety and moral outrage, and how to become a Super Attractor. Gabby is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of seven books including The Universe Has Your Back, Spirit Junky, and her newest book Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams. She’s been named a “new thought leader” by Oprah on her show SuperSoul Sunday, and been featured on a wide variety of media outlets, including ELLE and The Today Show. Super Attractor is a journey of remembering where your true power lies. If you'd like to learn more about Super Attractor, follow this link. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:03: Relating to the pressure to perform. 05:52: Key blocks to becoming a Super Attractor. 07:38: The role of fear, and our addiction to it. 09:24: Are we afraid of feeling good? 14:28: What can someone do if they want to move into the mindset of wanting to be more happy, despite the current struggles they’ve encountered? 17:36: What does the line look like between “wise effort” and “manic manifester”? 20:32: Could you share a time recently where you dropped out of alignment, and how you got back into it? 32:40: Moral anger, appropriate outrage, and building a safe container. 42:53: Moving into a stance of appreciation even when things are hard. 44:32: If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself anything, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the second part of our conversation with Dr. James Gordon, we focus on caregiver fatigue, helplessness, and unwinding from trauma at the collective level. Dr. Gordon is founder and executive director of the nonprofit Center for Mind-Body Medicine. For more than 25 years. His latest book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma, guides us step by step in a comprehensive evidence-based program to reverse the psychological and biological damage that trauma causes - bringing together the latest scientific research, 50 years of clinical experience, timeless wisdom, and inspiring stories. If you'd like to support the Center for Mind-Body Medicine, please follow this link to donate. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Subscribe on iTunes Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Timestamps: 02:00: Staying free inside your own mind. 07:17: Managing care-giver fatigue. 11:09: How do you deal with anger? 17:52: If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself something, what would that be? 21:06: What’s the most important thing you do, each day, for your own well being? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people will experience some form of trauma during their lives. Today we explore what we can do to recover from those experiences with a world-class expert on the subject: Dr. James Gordon. Dr. Gordon is a Harvard-educated psychiatrist, and internationally recognized expert on using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is founder and executive director of the nonprofit Center for Mind-Body Medicine. His latest book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma, guides us step by step in a comprehensive evidence-based program to reverse the psychological and biological damage that trauma causes - bringing together the latest scientific research, 50 years of clinical experience, timeless wisdom, and inspiring stories. If you'd like to support the Center for Mind-Body Medicine, please follow this link to donate. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 03:04: The Transformation 09:21: The physiological impacts of trauma. 14:53: Recovering from traumatic events. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In part two of Dr. Hanson and Forrest's conversation on Loneliness, they move on to the practical question of what we can do in our lives to overcome experiences of loneliness, and deepen our connection with other people. This is covered by Rick’s “three point plan” for loneliness, which includes: Taking action Cultivating compassion in ourselves Internalizing readily available social supplies Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:53: The "three point plan." 02:54: Taking action. 08:03: Cultivating compassion. 17:02: Internalizing social supplies. 23:58: What are the roots of loneliness? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Vidyamala Burch shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest speak with Vidyamala Burch, co-founder of Breathworks, which offers mindfulness-based approaches to living well with chronic pain, illness or stress. The organization grew out of her own experience with chronic pain as a partial paraplegic, and adapts principles from Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction and Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy. Click here if you'd like to give to the Breathworks Foundation, the charitable wing of Breathworks. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:58: Vidyamala's story. 04:55: The story behind Breathworks' approach. 12:08: Basic techniques and practices Breathworks teaches. 15:51: Why doesn't mindfulness make pain worse? Why would I want to be mindful of my pain? 19:20: The power of fully coming into an experience of self. 26:58: General advice for managing chronic pain. 32:45: How to keep going through the bad days. 38:20: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this short episode, Forrest shares his personal journey with loneliness as a young person - and the importance of developing a coherent developmental narrative. We've spent many episodes on this podcast discussing the importance of childhood experiences. We may understand this in a general sense, but things can get a lot trickier when it comes time to put our own story together. Part of the process of becoming a mentally healthy person is creating a coherent narrative about how we became the way we are. This allows us to put our current traits in their proper perspective, while also putting us back in touch with our deep nature. Sometimes it's possible to see a disconnect between the person we are now and the things that brought us joy as a young person. Reclaiming that deep nature can be a major source of increased well-being as an adult. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore how we can be surrounded by other people, and still feel alone. They cover the genetic and developmental roots of loneliness, and how loneliness can creep into even our most connected, important relationships. During our ongoing series on “Who Am I,” we’ve explored psychological conditions of various kinds – many of which are stigmatized and pathologized. You can find them in the DSM - the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the primary diagnostic tool published by the American Psychiatric Association. It’s worth noting that there are a lot of very unpleasant parts of life that no reasonable person would categorize as “disorders.” For instance, there’s no DSM entry for sadness or loneliness. Or frustration, rage, general lack of fulfillment, and so on. There’s a real risk sometimes of over-medicalizing perfectly normal parts of the human experience. Today we're focusing on one of those parts: feelings of loneliness. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Jennie Rosier shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attachment theory is one of the most influential frameworks in psychology for understanding how people behave in their relationships with others. In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Jennie Rosier explore what attachment theory is, how we can identify our attachment style, and what we can do to build a healthier relationship with our own style and that of others. Dr. Jennie Rosier is an Associate Professor of Communication Studies at James Madison University, the director of The Relationships, Love, & Happiness Project, and the author of two books: Make Love, Not Scrapbooks, and Finding the Love Guru in You. She focuses much of her teaching and research on the communication skills needed to maintain healthy romantic and parent-child relationships. Dr. Rosier's Adult Attachment Series If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:05: A summary of attachment theory. 04:15: The attachment styles. 08:26: What do these styles look like practically in relationship? 17:08: How can people self-diagnose what their attachment style is? 20:13: Can you attach yourself to different care-givers differently? 26:22: Are any of these attachment styles more compatible with any of the other styles? 31:46: What can someone do to work with their attachment style, or help their partner work with theirs? 38:49: What do good communicators "look like" in these different attachment styles, as opposed to poor communicators? 43:58: A message to her younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have something we KNOW we should do...but that doesn't mean we actually do it. On this episode Dr. Hanson, Forrest, and Dr. Judy Ho explore the roots of self-sabotage, the four key elements that fuel self-sabotaging behavior, and how we can use tools from cognitive therapy to overcome those behaviors. Dr. Judy Ho is a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, and is Associate Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology. She’s appeared as an expert contributor on over 100 shows, including Dr. Drew, CNN Tonight, and Outside the Lines, and co-hosts the CBS daytime talk show Face The Truth. Her new book is Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way, It's one of the best explorations of the practical application of CBT we've read - and it has our full recommendation. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:52: Why did you choose this particular topic? 01:57: What are the evolutionary roots to self-sabotage? 04:44: Primary ways people self-sabotage. 09:59: Working with self-concept. 13:13: The power of the "dreaded experience." 15:40: Managing social fears. 25:00: The roots of the six triggers. 28:19: How to update your self-concept. 33:00: How can we get better at learning. 37:00: What’s the most important thing you do inside your own mind each day for your own well-being? 40:13: When your virtues are not valued. 45:41: If you could go back in time and tell yourself something, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're continuing our focus on bipolar disorder by exploring some tools and strategies that people can use to help manage their symptoms, or help loved ones do the same. As with all of the episodes in this series, please remember that bipolar disorder is best diagnosed by a licensed professional. Here's the Daylio app that was mentioned during this episode. Key Topics: 00:43: Is bipolar disorder considered curable? 05:16: How can someone begin managing their bipolar symptoms? 06:49: Is it possible to manage a manic episode? 09:18: The power of establishing routines. 10:50: Recognizing our vulnerabilities. 15:05: Managing stress and exercising self-control. 18:00: Shame, and recognizing our worth. 21:00: Self-harm. 28:00: Recap Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Marie Forleo shares the most important things she does, each day, for her own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you’d like to purchase Marie's new book, Everything is Figureoutable, just follow this link. Find more from Marie at MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we had the pleasure of speaking with Marie Forleo, named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation. She’s the star of MarieTV and host of The Marie Forleo Podcast, and has spent time with a who’s who of thought-leaders and personal development experts, including Tony Robbins, Richard Branson, and Brene Brown. On this episode Forrest, Dr. Rick Hanson, and Marie explore how we can build a "figureoutable" mindset that allows us to meet our challenges from a place of determination, ingenuity, and openheartedness. If you’d like to purchase Marie's new book, Everything is Figureoutable, just follow this link. Find more from Marie at MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:55: Where the idea behind Everything is Figureoutable came from.07:27: What do you mean by, “figureoutable?”12:36: For those who don’t have it so easy in life right now, what would you suggest practically for them so they can move into that “figureoutable” mindset?15:36: Practices for managing fear.23:13: What Marie would say to a younger version of herself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their ongoing series on “Who Am I” by focusing on a subset of the depressed mood states which we covered in our last episode in this series: bipolar disorder, formerly known as “manic depressive.” Depression and depressed mood are major problems for many people, and the material we’re going to get into today will be sensitive in nature. If things start to feel uncomfortable, feel free to skip around or turn it off altogether. As with all of the episodes in this series, please remember that bipolar disorder is best diagnosed by a trained mental health professional. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 01:30: What distinguishes bipolar disorder from clinical depression? 05:07: Is there a reason why the name “Manic Depressive” was changed to “Bipolar Disorder”? 06:59: What are some of the diagnostic criteria for a manic episode? 14:46: The different kinds of bipolar disorder. 23:36: What bipolar disorder looks like day-to-day. Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Ramani shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we have the pleasure of speaking with a true expert on many of the topics we’ve exploring during our series on “Who Am I?”, including borderline personality disorder, sociopathy, and narcissism: Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, and expert on the impact of toxic narcissism. She is a Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and also a Visiting Professor at the University of Johannesburg. She is the author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist, and her new book, DON’T YOU KNOW WHO I AM? How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility will be coming out October 1st. Today we explored a range of topics with Dr. Ramani including: What distinguishes true NPD from someone just “being a jerk.” Techniques for interacting with “10% narcissists” more effectively. The importance of drawing clear boundaries. The different places narcissism can come from, and the different ways we can interact with different kinds of narcissists. Working with narcissism inside of our cultural framework. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 02:01: Where did your interest in narcissism come from? 04:27: The difference between someone who truly has NPD and someone who is just a jerk. 07:05: What is it like to be on the receiving end of someone who’s a narcissist? 09:04: Advice for those in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies. 15:56: The different places narcissism can come from, and the different ways we can respond to each type. 26:41: What can we do to avoid acquiring narcissistic traits, and how can we help our friends manage these traits more effectively? 30:43: Human evolution, social pressure, and narcissism. 41:07: If you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their exploration of depression and depressed mood with an episode focused on some of the tactics and strategies people can use, both in their own mind and out in the world, to help manage, and even overcome, a depressed mood. Depression and depressed mood are major problems for many people, and the material we’re going to get into today will be sensitive in nature. If this is sensitive territory for you, please be kind to yourself. Feel free to skip around or turn off the episode altogether. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Ideas: 02:50: The causes of depressed mood, and some places where we can intervene to create positive changes. 05:59: Why it’s so challenging for someone with depressed mood to make psychological changes. 16:22: Using mindfulness to work with a current episode, or prevent relapse. 21:52: Other psychological interventions. 26:30: Overcoming the lack of motivation that accompanies depressed mood. 27:43: How do you get out of the depression slump? 37:37: What can we do to help other people with their depressed mood? 42:40: Recap If you've been enjoying the podcast, please rate and subscribe to it through the platform of your choice! Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Additional Resources: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff The Noonday Demon by Andrew Solomon The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher Germer Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Made Simple by Seth Gillihan Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re continuing our ongoing series on “Who Am I” by focusing on a huge topic: depressed mood, including clinical depression. Today's episode is the first of two parts, and explores what depression is, where it comes from, and how it differs from sadness. Depression and depressed mood are major problems for many people, and the material we’re going to get into today will be sensitive in nature. If this is sensitive territory for you, please be kind to yourself. Feel free to skip around or turn off the episode altogether. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 03:12: What is the difference between "feeling down" and clinical depression?07:03: How can someone tell if they’re depressed?20:29: What is the difference between depression and sadness?27:30: Where does depression come from?38:10: Recap If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Roshi Joan Halifax shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. Purchase Roshi Joan's most recent book Standing at the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet here. We’d also like to let people know about the Upaya Institute’s general fund, which allows Upaya to provide a wide array of workshops, trainings, and retreats for thousands of people each year. If you would like to give to the fund, please follow this link. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Though there is no more human experience than death, it’s one of the most challenging topics to explore. Today we have the pleasure and privilege of learning from a true pioneer in the field of end-of-life care: Roshi Joan Halifax. As you may know, “roshi” is a title for the honored teacher of a Zen Buddhist community. Roshi Joan is a Buddhist teacher, Zen priest, and doctor of medical anthropology. She is Founder, Abbot, and Head Teacher of Upaya Institute and Zen Center in Santa Fe, New Mexico. She’s also the author of several classic books, including most recently publisehd Standing at the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet. We’d also like to let people know about the Upaya Institute’s general fund, which allows Upaya to provide a wide array of workshops, trainings, and retreats for thousands of people each year. If you would like to give to the fund, please follow this link. Timestamps: 2:09: Roshi Joan's childhood experience, and how it shaped her. 4:42: How has your work with the dying informed the way that you’ve lived your life? 8:17: In your experience of sitting with people who are going through the dying process, what have you found they particularly valued or regretted? 10:14: Handling existential dread. 11:48: We only have one "big" death, but we may have many "small" deaths throughout life. What lessons can we take from the "big" death and apply to those? 18:18: Can we know our own true nature? 20:56: Do you have any counsel for those who are grieving? 26:43: A teaching from indigenous cultures. 28:17: If you could go back in time and speak to yourself as a child or young adult, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore questions from listeners related to managing our relationship with ourselves, and particularly our tendency toward self-criticism. If you’d like to submit a question to be answered during a future mailbag, use the form on this page. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:05: What is the most productive way to deal with a life-changing diagnosis?11:16: What can I do to break through my fears of participating in social activities?20:17: How can I better assert and protect myself during everyday interactions with others? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, professor Gaylon Ferguson shares the most important thing he does, each day, for his own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we explore the rich topics of fear and fearlessness with professor Gaylon Ferguson. Professor Ferguson is a member of the faculty at Naropa University in Bolder, Colorado. He is a graduate of Exeter and Yale, and holds a doctorate in cultural anthropology from Stanford. He’s also a senior teacher in the Shambhala Buddhist lineage, and has been a teacher in residence at the San Francisco Zen Center and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California. He is also the author of two books: Natural Bravery: Fear and Fearlessness as a Direct Path of Awakening, and Natural Wakefulness: Discovering the Wisdom We Were Born With. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:58: When did you begin to explore fear and fearlessness? 03:25: Why do you think that courage is our basic nature? 05:57: How can someone experience innate courage? 10:30: The "fear of ourselves." 12:55: What are some of the best practices that people can use to address a feeling of emptiness? 17:04: Becoming more comfortable with groundlessness. 22:59: Handling acute, in the moment experiences of fear. 29:03: Outside of self-awareness, are there certain tactics you have found that help move people into a stance of welcoming? 32:07: If you could go back in time and talk to your younger self, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's mailbag episode we answer two questions related to our series on "Who Am I," with a general focus on helping people learn how to better manage their relationships with challenging family members. If you’d like to submit a question to be answered during a future mailbag, use the form on this page. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 00:59: How can we help manage our reactions to, and even support, family members that we find challenging to be around? 20:04: What are some key differences between Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are so busy these days that it’s great to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Adam Markel shares the most important thing he does, each day, for his own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to "go with the flow" during our often busy lives. When things are going well this is great, but when our lives are less satisfying inertia can be a powerful enemy. To get out of a rut, we need to learn how to "pivot" in order to make the big changes that can point us in the right direction. If you feel that it might be time for a change, this is the episode for you. Our gust today is Adam Markel. Adam is the author of Pivot: The Art and Science of Reinventing Your Career and Life. He’s given a popular TED talk, has been interviewed by the Wall Street Journal, Fox News, and Forbes, and is the host of the Conscious Pivot podcast. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 01:04:Two pivots from Adam's life. 06:20: What were some of the things that contributed to your pivot? 08:03: What helps people when a pivot is shocking or surprising? 14:07: What are the enduring and stable attributes of people that enable them to be resilient, or pivot well? 18:07: How do we know when a pivot is good for us? 22:09: How can people who are less resourced internally call upon allies in their life? 28:44: If you could back in time and tell a younger version of yourself anything, what would you say? Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have good days and bad days. Our mood naturally trends up and down in response to the events of our constantly changing worlds. But some people change more frequently, and are hit harder by change than others. On today’s episode, Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their series on “Who Am I” by exploring at a particularly intense, and surprisingly common, version of this: Borderline Personality Disorder. Today's episode is a bit longer and more technical than normal. I hope you stick with it, but feel free to skip around! Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 03:01: What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)? 18:09: How do people with BPD respond to everyday issues? 22:52: What are the traits of somebody who has “10% BPD”? 32:10: How can people with tendencies toward BPD learn to manage it more effectively? 40:40: If we are in a relationship with someone who has some level of BPD, what can we do to support them or otherwise make our relationship with them as healthy as possible? Overcome Anxiety: Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices