Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE This week we are hearing from Amanda Kuda who helps ambitious women level up their life, career, and relationships, and say GOODBYE to booze while unbottling your potential. This conversation is aimed to help us take a look at, and maybe even reframe our relationships with alcohol so that we can begin to manifest the life that we truly deserve. Let's jump in! In this episode… “Normal” Drinkers vs. Alcoholics Dry January Social lubricant & social crutch SoberCURIOUS Controlled drinking Alcohol “pickling” Disconnection to reality Benefits of becoming sober Glowing UP Quotes “Everything was checking off the boxes on the outside, and it wasn’t that my inner life was unmanageable because I felt like I was doing okay, but that was the part that made it hard. My life was just okay. It wasn’t unmanageable but it was unfulfilling.” - Amanda Kuda “When you go from feeling lackluster to having your wildest dreams start to come true because you just started showing up differently, you feel really badass.” - Amanda Kuda “Quitting alcohol in general has been the glow up of my life.” - Nikki Spo “Curiosity is not placed on you by accident, so what are you gonna do with it now that you have it?” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:20 | Intro 3:20 - 5:00 | Amanda’s journey & dry january 5:00 - 9:40 | SoberCURIOUS 9:40 - 14:25 | Sober growth 14:25 - 21:20 | Shame around not drinking 21:20 - 24:50 | Rediscovering your identity 24:50 - 31:20 | Benefits of becoming sober 31:20 - 36:05 | Bad things still occurs 36:05 - 44:40 | Tips 44:40 - 46:31 | Outro Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Amanda Kuda https://www.amandakuda.com/ / https://www.amandakuda.com/book @amandakuda Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back! This week we have Case Kenny, who you likely follow or are at least definitely familiar with his motivational meme style posts on instagram with the white background and red handwriting, dropping hope bombs and truth bombs and beautiful messages for self-actualization and confidence building. Case encourages millions of people to be true to themselves and believe in their worth. Tune in! In this episode… Tethered to your WHY Your mission Hope Spreading the word Pain into power Glowing UP Point of view Get what you WANT or get what you NEED Quotes “I would rather be the guy who shares his feelings online is too sensitive than being the person who is clout chasing.” - Case Kenny “I think that there's such a redemption arc from pain and frustration.” - Case Kenny “The only way through is through. The healing process is not linear and it is not quick” - Nikki Spo “Healing isn’t about forgetting someone else, it's about remembering yourself.” - Case Kenny Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 7:10 | The mission 7:10 - 10:20 | Tethered to your WHY 10:20 - 15:05 | Staying positive 15:05 - 18:00 | Spreading the word 18:00 - 20:15 | Online hate 20:15 - 22:40 | “They lost you and you got finer, happier, and even more magnetic” 22:40 - 24:10 | Healing 24:10 - 31:00 | Opinions 31:00 - 37:35 | Yes or no 37:35 - 40:40 | If you’re not changing, you’re choosing 40:40 - 42:40 | Get what you WANT or get what you NEED 42:40 - 49:25 | “What people think is the bag” 49:25 - 50:53 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Case Kenny https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-mindset-who-dis/id1383599078 @case.kenny Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back to Part 2 with Jocelyn Sandstrom. Tune in! In this episode… Stuck in indecision Inner power Your story Manifestation Leveling UP Feeling the feels Quotes “I believe that indecision is a core belief system of not knowing yourself. I think that when you know yourself, you already know the answers.” - Nikki Spo “As long as you don’t get stuck in the disappointment, you can harvest the learnings, pivot, and then you can turn it into your superpower.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:00 | Intro 4:00 - 11:50 | Making a decision 11:50 - 21:30 | Attachment to your story 21:30 - 26:55 | Manifestation 26:55 - 30:43 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jocelyn Sandstrom https://wellnessandmetaphysical.com/ @jocelynukosandstrom Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back everyone. This week we have a very magical human joining us, Jocelyn Sandstrom, who specializes in quantum energy, neuro linguistic programming, and neurological reprogramming. She is the founder of Wellness and Metaphysical, which is a community driven platform that promotes a higher level of consciousness through expos and retreats. This is a gem right here so let's get going with Jocelyn! In this episode… How we define ourselves Inner power vs. circumstantial power Teaching and learning resilience EMDR Changing neuro-pathways Reprogramming old behaviors/thought processes Generational programming Creating emotional stability Becoming a “generator” Gene Keys Quotes “The answers are always within us. We keep looking on the outside, but it's always been within us. The more we get to know ourselves, the more we get to live our most authentic truth.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom “You need to ask yourself, how do I feel my inner power and not my circumstantial power.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom “How do we courage a human being, like our children, to shift from what was to what can be, because these neurological pathways are difficult to break.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:10 | Intro 4:10 - 7:05 | Jocelyn’s journey 7:05 - 11:35 | Looking within 11:35 - 20:15 | Changing the narrative 20:15 - 27:45 | Breaking down quantum energy 27:45 - 29:05 | Manifestation 29:05 - 30:14 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jocelyn Sandstrom https://wellnessandmetaphysical.com/ @jocelynukosandstrom Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Whats up my friends and welcome back! This week we are welcoming back a man we know and love who has helped so many individuals as a dating coach, Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart, successful, women create lasting love. The last episode we talked about the dating game which you should DEFINITELY check out, but this week we are talking about relationships… let's get started! In this episode… Adult romance Relationships goals Honesty Optimism Online dating Safe, heard, and understood Confidence Quotes “Dating for some people is such a shitshow but online and off. So sometimes it's really hard for people to break through and feel special when we have created these systems of online dating apps where we basically dehumanize everybody to be products.” - Evan Marc Katz “Good qualities come with bad qualities.” - Evan Marc Katz “If I am going to be with a man for a long period of time, then I do not need to rush into anything.” - Nikki Spo “No man is real until he is your boyfriend. He is just hope, fantasy, projection, and potential.” - Evan Marc Katz “If you don’t have confidence, nothing works. It is the umbrella in which everything resigns.” - Evan Marc Katz Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:20 | Intro 3:20 - 7:05 | Adult romance 7:05 - 8:55 | Creating your own paradigm 8:55 - 11:25 | Honesty 11:25 - 13:10 | Optimism 13:10 - 17:40 | Online dating 17:40 - 27:00 | Good qualities come with bad qualities 27:00 - 32:26 | Dealing with uncertainty 32:32 - 36:15 | Being present while keeping an eye on the future 36:15 - 41:30 | Compromise 41:30 - 45:55 | Collaboration 45:55 - 47:25 | Handling conflict 47:25 - 52:10 | Having the hard convos 52:10 - 58:20 | Recommendations for dealing with self doubt 58:20 - 1:00:25 | What makes relationships last 1:00:25 - 1:02:27 | Outro — SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Connect with Evan Marc Katz https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ @realevanmarckatz Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jamie Ruiz is back for more. If you don’t already know, Jamie is my Lifey….For Lifey. This week we talking about spirituality and co-creation and how we each became expert manifestos and magical AF. It was a weird, wonky road but WE HERE NOW! Tune in! In this episode… The evolution of spiritual experiences No religion or belief judgment Co-creation of life Demanding control Freedom A power greater than yourself Traditional & non-traditional beliefs Different connections Quotes “There's no shade of what you believe in. You believe in what you want to believe in.” - Nikki Spo “What Gd was to me before is what the universe is to me now.” - Jamie Ruiz “The universe is not something outside of me. It is me, it’s within me, and it is without me.” - Jamie Ruiz “I think that the miracles and catastrophes that we experience here are hellish and heavenly.” - Nikki Spo “I believe that we’re all communicating and connecting to the same Gd, we just have different language, different ways of connecting, different relationship dynamics to it, and different organizations to do that through and if we could stop judging each other for whose is right and whose is wrong, we would be living in more of a heaven than a hell.” - Jamie Ruiz Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:20 | Intro 1:20 - 20:30 | The evolution of Jamie’s spiritual experiences 20:30 - 32:05 | The evolution of Nikki’s spiritual experiences 32:05 - 34:00 | Hellish & heavenly 34:00 - 35:00 | Studying religion 35:00 - 36:35 | No right or wrong beliefs 36:35 - 37:43 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming HER: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jamie https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ jameslee4 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back to The Know! This week we have Lauren Brill joining us for a powerful conversation. Lauren has fearlessly told her story of sexual assault and has dedicated her career to creating a space through writing and poetry to amplify healing journeys through relationships, trauma, discrimination, addiction, mental health, illness, and grief with the goal of inspiring thousands of individuals to discover their superpowers so that they can live fulfilling lives. In this episode… Sexual assault Haters Facing the bullies Becky Hammond outworking folks at NBA summer league The power of storytelling Mind & body connections The power of hope Secrecy Quotes “Part of what I try to do with people is make sure that through storytelling we see the humanity in everyone.” - Lauren Brill “Once I started talking about my traumas being okay with my position, is when the awakening really, really happened for me.” - Nikki Spo “Once I got through the anger, then I was able to be like, oh, I'm the toughest bitch I know.” - Nikki Spo “Your body remembers what your mind forgets. And if you don't heal the mind, you'll feel it in your body.” - Lauren Brill Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:45 | Intro 4:45 - 10:25 | Connections (NBA) 10:25 - 15:30 | Standing up for yourself 15:30 - 19:00 | The Unsealed 19:00 - 25:36 | Pushing through the hardships 25:36 - 28:30 | Shared community 28:30 - 34:50 | Secrecy & hope 34:50 - 40:30 | Lauren’s writing story 40:30 - 43:00 | Speaking up 43:00 - 44:55 | It’s all worth it 44:55 - 46:21 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Lauren Brill https://theunsealed.com/ @the.unsealed Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back to PART 2 with the STUD of all studs, Jackson Hightower. Enjoy! In this episode… Being a team Healthy sex life Discipline Foreplay A CLEAN space to be DIRTY Respect Divine masculinity & femininity Does size matter?! Quotes “A lot of us do attach our self worth to what we are able to produce and what we do for a living and the outcome.” - Nikki Spo “If you’re not a disciplined human, I just don’t think that you’re exercising your full potential.” - Jackson Hightower “We're here as humans so that the universe can express itself through us and whatever skills we have.” - Jackson Hightower Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:25 | Intro 4:25 - 8:10 | Healthy relationship sex life 8:10 - 12:20 | Discipline for men 12:20 - 17:15 | Foreplay 17:15 - 21:15 | The sacredness of intimacy 21:15 - 25:40 | Respect 25:40 - 28:20 | Men need to be leaders 28:20 - 29:15 | Does size matter?! 29:15 - 31:40 | Smaller and harder? Or bigger and not as hard? 31:40 - 33:00 | STD test 33:00 - 34:05 | D**k pics?! 34:05 - 37:00 | Communication 37:00 - 38:25 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming HER: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jackson Hightower https://www.jacksonhightower.com/ @getnaturaljackson Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE It’s getting hot in here. Are your hips all stretched out? Are you ready? Bc this week we have Jackson Hightower joining us… and girly pops, you need to hear thisssss. Jackson Hightower is a pioneer in redefining masculinity. He advocates for a holistic and fulfilling approach to male sexuality. This is a two part series so in Part 1 we are chatting about being a content creator in our respective spaces and then we go real… um… deep when it comes to porn’s impact on men and relationships. Send this to your boo. BOO. In this episode… Expectations for public personalities Haters & negativity Parasocial reality Semen retention and… WHYYYYY TF would anyone do that Porn’s impact on men and their intimate performance Addiction to watching porn Quotes “If you are continuously releasing multiple times a day you are getting rid of your life force energetically, it's your power.” - Jackson Hightower “Guys are addicted to porn. It's an addiction and it's nasty because you can’t see it.” - Jackson Hightower “The most difficult part for people who have an addiction problem is delaying the gratification and then continuing to delay the gratification and stay in the moment.” - Nikki Spo “When it comes to addiction you lose your power, and your life force, and creative drive, and your edge.” - Jackson Hightower Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:30 | Intro 4:30 - 8:05 | Expectations 8:05 - 10:45 | Social media haters 10:45 - 13:30 | How Nikki & Jackson met 13:30 - 14:45 | Parasocial reality 14:45 - 20:51 | Jackson's buildup 20:51 - 23:20 | Energy release & preservation 23:30 - 29:35 | Freedom from porn 29:35 - 34:30 | How to bring up the porn addiction to your partner 34:30 - 39:00 | Swallowing your pride 39:00 - 40:37 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming HER: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jackson Hightower https://www.jacksonhightower.com/ @getnaturaljackson Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE I am so excited to host the goddess herself Jayne Gottlieb. She is Aspen Shakti's owner and founder and the creator of Shakti Method. She and I are talking about SHAKTI ENERGY: what it means, the fact that you have it and how you can harness it, live it, love it, and let it guide you home to your inner goddess so that you can walk in the physical world with that gorgeous, potent, powerful, feminine, female presence. In this episode... ● Shakti energy ● Anxiety & Fear ● Courage ● Next right step ● The illusion of self ● Sharing your gift ● Rebalancing Quotes “I've come to define shakti as the divine creative energy of the universe. Shakti is alive, luminous and desirable. It’s that inner magnetism, that inner sparkle, that inner thing that we can't quite touch, but we can see it and smell it and hear it in the way that people speak.” - Jayne Gottlieb “I think a lot of us long to feel at home within any space. Not from an egotistical standpoint where we want other people to notice it in us, but for us to realize it within ourselves.” - Nikki Spo “Shakti is walking the talk of what is the truth of your soul.” - Jayne Gottlieb Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:40 | Intro 3:40 - 8:45 | What is shakti energy? 8:45 - 13:05 | Times without shakti energy 13:05 - 16:00 | Open and honest conversations 16:00 - 17:25 | God is a woman 17:25 - 19:40 | Shifting responses 19:40 - 21:30 | Marianne Williamson 21:30 - 24:55 | Why is shakti so dormant 24:55 - 26:30 | Sharing your gift 26:30 - 29:30 | Rebalancing 29:30 - 31:00 | The responsibility to be yourself 31:00 - 34:20 | Life force energy 34:20 - 41:05 | Aspen shakti 41:05 - 44:42 | Outro Join Becoming HER: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jayne https://www.aspenshakti.com/ @jaynegottlieb_ / @aspenshakti Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HEREThis week I am spearheading a LOADED conversation with Lauren LaRusso About ROMANTIC AFFAIRS 😐We are here to talk about all the things that no one wants to talk about… and we are going to answer the questions that have probably crossed your mind when it comes to ROMANTIC AFFAIRS.Lauren is a psychotherapist specializing in marital affairs. She has helped countless individuals and couples process the unexpected and inalterable impact of infidelity on their lives. Let’s jump right in!In this episode… Inflection points Seeing the signsThe TRUTH behind infidelity Shame, silence, & secrecy Non monogamy Entitlement, vulnerability, boundaries Quotes“As betrayed spouses, we become complicit sometimes because we adjust our expectations based on the slow creep of changes in our partner.” - Lauren LaRusso“As humans, we always want what we can’t have.” - Lauren LaRusso“You have to be hyper vigilant for yourself. You need to be connected and in tune to yourself enough to be looking outside and sending the signals of unavailability of loyalty to your primary relationship.” - Lauren LaRusso“I would recommend handling your shit as soon as you possibly can.” - Lauren LaRusso“I think that the affair itself removes the power of choice for the person who doesn’t know about it.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 6:00 | Intro 6:00 - 9:40 | Does everyone have a role in affairs? 9:40 - 11:15 | Inflection points 11:15 - 15:00 | Laurens background 15:00 - 18:20 | Shame, silence, & secrecy 18:20 - 19:40 | Ethical or consensual non monogamy 19:40 - 22:15 | Secrecy can be enticing 22:15 - 27:30 | The main reasons affairs occur 27:30 - 32:55 | The betrayed spouse 32:55 - 36:00 | Can marriages be saved after affairs?36:00 - 38:00 | How do we get to being happy? 38:00 - 41:05 | Making a choice for YOURSELF 41:05 - 43:50 | Forgiveness & unavailability 43:50 - 46:45 | Being strung along 46:45 - 49:25 | The power of choice 49:25 - 51:35 | Honesty & integrity 51:35 - 54:30 | People who stay in their marriages 54:30 - 57:11 | Outro – This episode of The Know is presented by Pampers, the #1 pediatrician recommended brand. – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming HER:https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Lauren https://www.laurenlarusso.com/ / https://laurenlarusso.substack.com/ @laurenlarusso Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE—Jamie Lee Ruiz is BACK, baby, and this time we are talking about… AGE DIFFERENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS LFG 👀 In this episode…The ”50 shades of grey” guys Open communication Safety Inappropriate age gaps and what makes them inappropriate…When age gaps are goodSettling into adulthoodThe magic of being young, wild, and free Losing your light and reclaiming it. Quotes“Women have to get a lot more comfortable in their own skin to understand what they want, what they like, and what they expect.” - Nikki Spo“Men don’t know what they don’t know. They don’t know what you like or what you want if you don’t say it.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz “I had to grow up very quickly and because of that I’ve learned that children should never be placed in adult roles. Parents sometimes emotionally dump on their children when it's not a child's responsibility to hold the emotional or physical capacity or weight of an adult.” - Nikki Spo“There are men that have healing to do and either don’t know that they have to do it, or don’t want to do it and so it’s easier to get a young woman who is easily manipulated or molded that isn’t going to challenge them to grow.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:05 | Intro 3:05 - 7:30 | The 50 shades of grey guys 7:30 - 9:00 | Open communication 9:00 - 10:30 | Age differences 10:30 - 12:35 | A sense of maturity 12:35 - 13:55 | Emotional and physical parenting as a child 13:55 - 21:43 | What age is the age gap okay?21:43 - 24:35 | Jamie’s POV on age differences 24:35 - 26:45 | Dating older men 26:45 - 30:30 | Young women 30:30 - 34:05 | Losing your light 34:05 - 36:10 | Do we still love older men? 36:10 - 39:35 | What does dating look like with kids? 39:35 - | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming HER:https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Jamie https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ jameslee4 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up my friends and welcome back to The Know! Today we have Marni Battista who is the founder of Dating with Dignity and the Institute for Living Courageously. Marni is one of those women who is walking the talk, she's just doin it all! We have so much to cover today but some of the heavy hitting topics you can expect from this episode is dating after divorce in today's complex social environment, were talking about why women date unavailable men, and how we can move away from suffering through unfulfilling relationships and into relationships that are fulfilling, love centered, want based, happy, and safe. With that, let's get started! I also have some exciting news to share…I know first hand the power of community and shared experience and I am so honored to announce that I have created an online women's community where we talk about all of life's topics. In my group Becoming HER, we are striving to become the best versions of ourselves and realize that SHE is ME and that we can become the her of our highest desires. I have a special promotion for my podcast audience and I want to welcome you all to becoming her where we will do great things together! In this episode…Self worth Shame & embarrassment Dating with DIGNITY Dating from a place of insecurity True self love Your soul's journey Core values & Non-negotiables NOT being a pick me Quotes“Dating with dignity is waking up the next day feeling great about yourself. It's about not taking rejection personally, it's about having an abundant life, it's about setting boundaries and acting on the behalf of your highest self and knowing your value.” - Marni Battista “In this new dating scene post divorce I have had to rediscover who I am as a single woman and what I want in a new relationship moving forward.” - Nikki Spo“If you have dignity, self worth, and self respect and you have the actual tools to communicate appropriately, dating is actually kind of fun.” - Marni Battista “At this point in my life, men now are competing with my peace. I love myself so much and so if somebody else loves me, that's just icing on the cake” - Nikki Spo “You’re creating your soul's journey for a reason, wake up and listen. - Marni Battista “People tend to rule out before they rule in and my invitation is to rule in before you rule out. Let a guy rule himself out.” - Marni Battista Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:55 | Intro 3:55 - 5:35 | What is Dating with Dignity 5:35 - 10:05 | What damages our dignity 10:05 - 15:15 | Finding your self worth 15:15 - 19:25 | Learning the lessons 19:25 - 21:17 | Deep reflection 21:17 - 27:05 | Core values & Non-negotiables 27:05 - 30:40 | The checklist 30:40 - 33:45 | Re-entering the dating world 33:45 - 37:00 | NOT being a pick me 37:00 - 42:50 | Living courageously 42:50 - 45:00 | Outro–SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Marni Battista Institute for Living Courageously / Dating with Dignity @marnibattista_ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to part 2 with Dr. Kat Vigo. Today we are talking about the thing no one really talks about: sex after you have a baby… Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Sex life after a baby Societal pressures Perception vs. reality Progesterone & estrogen FOREPLAYYYYYYY FTW A healthy vagina :)Health concerns Quotes“Returning to intimacy after having a baby does not necessitate penetration and everyone thinks that.” - Dr. Kat Vigo “There are plenty of reasons why a postpartum vagina is not set up for success sexually.” - Dr. Kat Vigo “Our brains are largely rewired during and after pregnancy and it’s 100% focused on keeping that new baby alive.” - Dr. Kat Vigo“We as women should be having the best sex of our lives throughout our lives.” - Nikki Spo“The more we talk about these things the more people are able to ultimately come home to themselves, to feel happy and secure in their bodies and minds, and so that they can go and thrive and be the best versions of themselves.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 - | Intro 1:25 - 2:50 | Sex after having a baby 2:50 - 4:35 | Societal / male pressure 4:35 - 5:40 | Postpartum changes 5:40 - 9:45 | Progesterone & estrogen 9:45 - 13:20 | A healthy vagina for intercourse 13:20 - 16:46 | Rest & digest postpartum 16:46 - 21:55 | Do vaginas go back to normal?21:55 - 24:20 | Making sense out of a postpartum vagina 24:20 - 28:15 | Health concerns 28:15 - 29:20 | Hope & healing 29:20 - 31:50 | What holds women back from having these hard convos 31:50 - 34:13 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Dr. Kat Vigo https://painlesspregnancy.com/ @painlesspregnancy Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back fam to PART 2 of Divorce & Co-parenting with Michelle Dempsey-Multack. If you have not checked out part 1 it is sooo good. Anybody who is going through a divorce or separation or if you know somebody who is, I highly recommend you checking out part 1. Today we are getting started with part 2 so let's do this!In this episode…Rediscovering what you like and who you areBecoming a better parent Guilt vs. shame Social media hate Creating your own identity Finding your co-parenting groove Introducing new partners to your children Quotes“You gotta make sure you’re with somebody you want and not somebody you need.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack“Co-parenting is underrated, it's made me a better parent.” - Nikki Spo“You really have to understand the difference between guilt and shame. Are you guilty of doing something bad or do you feel ashamed because somewhere along the line you believed you weren’t allowed to have your own identity as a mother or a person.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack“Social media has become so black and white but when it comes to divorce you have to live in the gray. Get comfortable in the gray as a co-parent because that's your life” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack“What good co-parenting is is supporting your child's relationship with the other parent, staying in your lane and letting them be the parent they need to be, and following your parenting plan. It doesn’t need to be more difficult than that.” - Michelle Dempsey-MultackTimestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | Intro 1:25 - 6:05 | Staying empowered 6:05 - 11:40 | Co-parenting is UNDERRATED 11:40 - 21:05 | Addressing social media hate 21:05 - 25:55 | Finding your co-parenting groove 25:55 - 30:15 | The importance of introducing new partners to your children 30:15 - 32:33 | Outro —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Michelle https://momsmovingon.com/about/ @themichelledempsey Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Fam fam. This week we are joined by Michelle Dempsey-Multack who has helped me come to my own sense of deep inner knowing as a divorced woman and co-parenting mother. Michelle is a certified divorce and co-parenting specialist, a best selling author of “Moms Moving On,” and is an educator for divorce coaches. She is known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys.This is a two part series you don’t want to miss out on. In this episode…Not repeating patterns Explaining co-parenting to childrenMoms moving on Putting the children firstSeeing past the pain Modifying vs. enabling Quotes “We paint people to be the villains and we want to be the victim ourselves because it’s so much easier.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack “My mission is to keep the child at the center and not put them in the middle.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack“The parenting plan is not for the parents and that’s what everyone forgets.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack“To see parents who might not have been as involved during the marriage show the f*** up and rally in parenthood is truly amazing.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 5:30 | Intro 5:30 - 9:30 | Michelle’s divorce journey 9:30 - 11:10 | Separating 11:10 - 14:44 | Explaining co-parenting to children 14:44 - 16:35 | Moms moving on 16:35 - 19:40 | Keeping your child in the center and not the middle 19:40 - 21:05 | Helping people see past the pain 21:05 - 24:20 | Modifying expectations 24:20 - 28:25 | Mom & dad 28:25 - 29:34 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Michelle https://momsmovingon.com/about/ themichelledempsey Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What’s up fam! I am sooo excited to share some news with you guys. I am going to be hosting a mastermind with my good friend Jamie Ruiz this Friday, August 2nd at 12pm EST. Jamie is a manifestation and life coach and is now helping thousands of women achieve their life goals and dreams.https://www.alchemic-acquisition.com/nikkispo881844Now for today's episode of The Know, we have Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri and I diving deep into narcissism and its effects within a family dynamic. Tune in to find out more!In this episode… Family roles The Golden Child Narcissism legacies The Scapegoat Child IFS & EMDR The Peacekeeper Child The Personal Assistant Child The Invisible Child The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children The Adherent Child Quotes“You can not have an identity for yourself if you want to be a part of a family that is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “I feel that narcissists would like to believe they are immortal. Cognitively they know they are going to die so they need somebody who can continue their legacy which falls onto a child.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “The scapegoat children are most likely to wind up as victims in relationships and are prime to be a partner of a narcissist because of their upbringing.” - Nikki Spo “Let’s not keep revisiting the trauma. Let's really heal from the emotions that the trauma left behind.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri“The peacekeeper child becomes a people pleaser and learns to put themselves last and never take care of themselves.” - Nikki Spo“We should not be placing adult responsibilities, emotional or physical, on children.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps:0:00 - 2:45 | Mastermind2:45 - 4:35 | Intro4:35 - 9:00 | Family roles9:00 - 13:25 | The Golden Child13:25 - 20:15 | The Scapegoat Child20:15 - 25:30 | Trauma from family origin & IFS25:30 - 29:15 | The Peacekeeper Child29:15 - 32:10 | The Personal Assistant Child32:10 - 35:05 | The Invisible Child35:05 - 41:25 | The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children41:25 - 43:00 | The Adherent Child43:00 - 46:35 | Moving away from making choices out of habit46:35 - 49:07 | Outro– https://ifs-institute.com/ https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ @bruxanicare Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up fam! Today I am welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri who we have heard from a few times now on the topic of narcissism. This is part three of a multi-part series in which Dr. Rachna and I are discussing the topic of narcissism. I am really honored to be able to chat with an expert like her and today we are going to be answering some of the spicy Q & A’s that have been sent in after our first two initial episodes. Let’s jump right in! In this episode… Rigid personality traits Vulnerable narcissism Insecurity, shame, rage Narcissism with a friend Narcissistic boss Setting boundaries for YOURSELF VictimizingCo-parenting with a narcissist Building a sense of self Quotes “Not everybody who’s divorcing a narcissist knows that the person is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “A lot of narcissistic characteristics are reinforced by society.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “Narcissism inherently comes from insecurity, insecurity brings shame, and shame takes a form of rage.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “There is no way to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “I think it takes a lot of self-reflection to ask yourself what you are really longing for in friendships and in general. Ask yourself what gives your life meaning, what gives your life purpose, and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled out of your interpersonal relationships.” - Nikki Spo “The boundaries you set are really for yourself and not for them.” - Nikki Spo “You have to not exist to be a part of these narcissistic relationships.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-MirpuriTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:00 | Intro 3:00 - 4:50 | How do narcissists react to divorce? 4:50 - 7:30 | Therapy with a narcissist 7:30 - 10:15 | How to treat someone with narcissistic personality traits 10:15 - 12:20 | Self confidence 12:20 - 15:45 | Insecurity, shame, rage 15:45 - 18:30 | Experiencing narcissism with a friend 18:30 - 21:30 | Setting boundaries for YOURSELF 21:30 - 26:55 | A narcissistic boss26:55 - 28:10 | The word “charming”28:10 - 32:15 | Victimizing 32:15 - 35:30 | How do you deal with narcissists who body shame you 35:30 - 40:15 | What is it like to co-parent with a narcissist 40:15 - 47:45 | How to get a narcissist to apologize 47:45 - 49:28 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ @bruxanicare Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome backkkk ladies and gents- I am so excited to host somebody who I have worked with for a long time and who has become one of my close friends over these past few years, Dr. Kat Vigo.Dr. Kat is the founder of Painless Pregnancy, which provides physical therapy to women throughout every stage of their motherhood journeys. Dr. Kat earned a bachelors and doctorate of physical therapy degrees from the University of Florida and has worked in the hospital setting for the first decade of her career. Get ready because we are going to talk about it ALL! In this episode…Having a painless pregnancy Changing the pregnancy narrative Pitocin and inducing laborPostpartum mental health Pregnancy awareness Healing our female bodies Giving moms hope Quotes“For a pregnant body, we should have the same expectations that a man does. You can be fit and healthy and do what you wanna do while being pregnant.” - Dr. Kat Vigo“A female body is made to grow a baby.” - Dr. Kat Vigo“If you’re experiencing postpartum anxiety or depression you are in this dark cloud that you don’t even know you’re in.” - Nikki Spo “When it comes to a first time post pregnancy experience, you don’t know what you don’t know until you figure it out or until somebody tells you, and that's no one's fault.” - Nikki Spo “I think that when women and men and parents in general are more informed they can make better decisions about their future and their birth plans.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:15 | Intro 3:15 - 7:40 | Can pregnancy really be painless? 7:40 - 10:40 | Alleviating discomforts 10:40 - 17:25 | Pitocin17:25 - 22:20 | Kat’s birthing experience 22:20 - 25:35 | Postpartum 23:35 - 31:45 | How to heal our female bodies 31:45 - 35:25 | Disassociating from your vagina postpartum 35:25 - 43:45 | A correct way to push for vaginal deliveries 43:45 - 45:20 | Involving the baby daddies 45:20 - 51:55 | When to start physical therapy after delivering a baby 51:55 - 53:22 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Dr. Kat Vigo https://painlesspregnancy.com/ @painlesspregnancy Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back! I’ve been thinking a lot about social media, its impact on my life, its potential future impact on my kids' lives, and how to navigate life in a more intentional and less distracted way. So today I'm really excited for my chat with Palak Dave who is a versatile entrepreneur, speaker, and the author of "Beautiful Every Days," a guidebook to living in the here and now. I'm excited to join Palak today to discuss her transformative journey where each day offers the chance to live beautifully here in the now. In this episode…Digital distractions Face to face interactions Human connections Passive connection Community & Connection The nitty gritty Hustle culture Quotes “My goal is to get people to see that we don't have to completely remove the digital parts of our lives, we have to lean into things so that we can fill our cups with more of what we love and what we know we need, but we might not be doing for ourselves.” - Palak Dave “Chances are if you're going through something there are other people going through the same thing and it's just a matter of acknowledging it and raising those topics so that people feel like they can be connected.” - Palak Dave “Ask deep questions from a place of curiosity instead of having an outcome that you're trying to get to.” - Palak Dave “I think that curiosity is a solution to a lot of things, even arguments. Asking for clarification for things can solve so much.” - Nikki Spo“You can reclaim your time and have it be so it's not controlling you.” - Nikki Spo“You can be really intentional without it having to be the f***ing Pinterest board.” - Nikki Spo“I think a lot of us don't know what our deep inner knowing is. Like we have it, but we can't identify it. But for me it's been like a constant pull trying to pull me back home to myself.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:20 | Intro 2:20 - 4:45 | Managing digital distractions 4:45 - 7:15 | Embiria 7:15 - 9:45 | Taking steps to be more social 9:45 - 14:35 | Passive connection 14:35 - 15:50 | European lifestyle 15:50 - 20:44 | Loneliness 20:44 - 22:50 | The nitty gritty 22:50 - 24:40 | Curiosity24:40 - 32:35 | Hustle culture 32:35 - 36:25 | Strategies to stay unplugged 36:25 - 40:15 | The pinterest board stigma 40:15 - 43:30 | Nest, nourish, nature, nurture 43:30 - 44:51 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Palak Dave https://www.embiria.ca/ @embiria / beautiful everydays Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We are backkkkk my friends with Part 2 of Bag… SECURED featuring my bestie Jamie Ruiz. Tune in to hear the rest!In this episode…Modern dating Age differences in romantic relationships Secret relationships Being a girls girl The Miami Heat Dating after divorce Dating with kids Finding peace Ignoring the haters Quotes“Women should be dating and getting to know multiple people. Dating doesn’t mean sleeping with people or hooking up with everybody. When I say I’m dating, I’m getting to know multiple people and I think that it;s really important to clarify that dating doesn’t mean sleeping with.” - Nikki Spo“It’s not the trauma that the relationship brought you, it's the trauma that led you to that relationship.” - Jamie Ruiz “Feeling not good enough while growing up transferred into all my romantic relationships for a while.” - Nikki Spo “I have this theory that if you can take my man, have him. If my man is snatchable, take him. I don’t want that.” - Nikki Spo“Dating since divorce has revealed to me that I still have a huge capacity for love. It did not ruin me.” - Nikki Spo “There's something so cool about learning yourself and experiencing yourself through new people post divorce.” - Jamie Ruiz“I’m living by this new quote now and it's that ‘I’m easy to please but hard to impress.’” - Nikki Spo“I believe we can have it all when it comes to how we feel.” - Jamie Ruiz Timestamps: 0:00 - 7:40 | Are you dating?! 7:40 - 11:20 | Age differences in romantic relationships 11:20 - 12:20 | Secret relationships 12:20 - 13:45 | Girls girl 13:45 - 19:35 | The Miami Heat 19:35 - 23:25 | Being in love since the divorce 23:25 - 27:05 | Dating with 3 kids 27:05 - 28:55 | More kids?!28:55 - 35:10 | Going through a traumatic time period to heal35:10 - 37:35 | Money 37:35 - 40:00 | Finding the good men 40:00 - 43:55 | What does Nikki want the people to know about her43:55 - 50:05 | Jamie’s tarot reading 50:05 - 51:12 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Jamie https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ jameslee4 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Okay so. This week is a little different. My girl, Jamie Ruiz is here interviewing ME to get all the TEA… Jamie and I have been besties for forever and she has been a guest on The Know a few times now. She is a life coach and is helping hundreds of women achieve their goals and dreams and live the life that they have always wanted to live. But yeah. Um… she’s going in on me this week and she’s not holding back. In this episode…“Fumbling the bag”I ain’t sayin she’s a gold digger. Social media haters The struggle bus of money Life experiences Quotes “I don't think I fumbled any bags because my bag is peace, and when peace is involved I don’t think you’re fumbling any bags.” - Nikki Spo “I’m interested in coming home to myself and I think a lot of people want that but they don’t know that they want it.” - Nikki Spo “Life can be good on the other side of a sad experience.” - Nikki Spo “Sometimes you start relationships as one version of yourself and either one person changes or both people change and you’re no longer an energetic match for each other. And that’s okay.” - Jamie Ruiz“Things last however long they need to last and we grow into the versions of ourselves that we need to be and we make our exits where we need to make our exits.” - Jamie Ruiz Timestamps:0:00 - 3:20 | Intro 3:20 - 5:20 | Why Jamie is interviewing Nikki 5:20 - 12:10 | Answering the haters 12:10 - 22:29 | The struggle bus of money 22:29 - 26:40 | The Know 26:40 - 28:45 | Podcast content changing post divorce 28:45 - 34:35 | Dating 34:35 - 41:20 | Finding an outlet 41:20 - 42:36 | Outro – Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Jamie https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ jameslee4 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to The Know! We are on that continuous healing journey vibe so today I am excited to introduce you to Cari Fund who is a passionate advocate for women's empowerment and emotional healing. With a mission to inspire women to turn their pain into potential, Cari encourages them to be the women they were born to be and the parents that they never had. Tune in!In this episode…Leading by example Learning from trauma Healthy mom vs. toxic mom Being your true self Generational trauma Ongoing healing journey Toxic upbringing Quotes“Pain keeps you silent and shame keeps you so silent .” - Cari Fund “It's all about the tiny little shifts. Get a therapist, talk to your friends, don't carry shame, secrets, disappointment, and pain with you because it's going to come out in everything in your life and it's going to take away your joy.” - Cari Fund“If you're a mom and you have kids, your past is going to parent your children if you let it.” - Cari Fund “It's really interesting and fascinating to see who sticks around when you start to speak your truth, because some people really don't like it.” - Nikki Spo “I think about anxiety a lot because I wonder if I’m anxious or am I just operating from a place of fear in my upbringing? Like, am I anxious or is my environment genuinely stimulating this anxiety?” - Nikki Spo “It feels good to feel good so do what makes you feel good.” - Cari Fund Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:20 | Intro 1:20 - 6:10 | Facing challenges 6:10 - 7:50 | Cari’s accomplishments 7:50 - 10:50 | Toxic mom vs. healthy mom 10:50 - 14:25 | Not hiding behind a character 14:25 - 18:40 | Finding people and things that support you 18:40 - 22:13 | Leading by example 22:13 - 29:30 | Recovering 29:30 - 34:40 | Balancing motherhood while healing 34:40 - 40:05 | Sharing family and relationships on social media 40:05 - 41:47 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Cari https://www.cari.fund/ @cari.fund Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What’s up fam! Today we are welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri for another conversation about narcissism and how to navigate it. This is part two of a multi-part series that we are doing and I'm really honored to have this opportunity to chat with her again. In our previous episode together, we talked about some of the different types of narcissism and narcissism in general and today we are focusing on the effects of being in a relationship with a narcissistic person. Tune in!In this episode… Spectrum of personality traits Relationship patterns of narcissism Love bombing The 3 C’sRed flags Trauma bondingDIMMER - what it means and what to look forGaslighting Quotes:“Narcissists come across as being really curious about you, but really what they're doing is they're collecting as much information so that they can use it against you.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “Trauma bonded is trauma occurring within the relationship and that is the bond between the two.” - Nikki Spo “Gaslighting mostly occurs by a person who you trust.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “Lying is a denial of reality and gaslighting goes on to dismantle the target.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “I've learned over the years that I can't control how other people treat me or what they do to me or what they say to me or how they try to make me feel. I can only control my reaction to things and how I respond to those situations.” - Nikki Spo “You can't gaslight me because I know myself. I know who I am. But when you are in a space of not knowing who you are and slowly your self-worth is being chipped away at and that breaks down over and now you feel like your self-worth is completely diminished, that person is easy to gaslight.” - Nikki Spo “Gaslighting is the pathologically insecure person who's preying on the conventionally insecure person.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri “Let's not blame the victim. Let's give them the support that they need. Let's give them the understanding.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 2:10 - 5:20 | Relationship patterns of narcissism 5:20 - 8:25 | Breakdown of narcissistic relationships: Love bombing 8:25 - 11:55 | Identifying the red flags 11:55 - 14:05 | Trauma bonded 14:05 - 15:55 | The devaluing phase 15:55 - 22:40 | Manipulation 22:40 - 34:05 | Gaslighting34:05 - 39:45 | The D and R of DIMMER 39:45 - 42:40 | Hoovering 42:40 - 46:05 | Having a narcissistic partner 46:05 - 48:55 | Cognitive fallouts 48:55 - 51:15 | Emotional or interpersonal fallouts 51:15 - 52:10 | Fallout of identity 52:10 - 53:25 | Physical and behavioral fallout 53:25 - 55:50 | Giving support 55:50 - 57:44 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.–When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs. Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ @bruxanicare Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What’s up fam! Today I am welcoming back a woman who I feel comfortable enough now to call a regular, Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri, for a conversation about narcissism and how to navigate it. Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri is a licensed mental health counselor. With nearly 20 years of experience nationally and internationally, she has worked in government, private practice and school settings. Her approach focuses on providing a safe and empathetic environment for clients to heal and become resilient and empowering them to reclaim their strength. Let’s jump in! In this episode… Education around narcissismNarcissistic abuse Different types of narcissism Self worth/respect vs. narcissistic tendencies Attention seeking The vulnerable narcissist The grandiose narcissistThe malignant narcissist Quotes:“I think the sign of a really great psychologist or any type of professional is somebody who's willing to keep learning about it.” - Nikki Spo“Remember that the arrogance and the envy of others and the grandiosity is really just covering up a deep level of insecurity.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri“I have a self esteem that's not dependent on somebody else. For a narcissist, it's completely and solely based on what other people think of them.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri“Narcissism is a problem in relationships because what it's doing is it's hurting the people in these relationships much more than it's hurting the narcissist.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri“Where it really gets tricky is when you live with a narcissist and you are building meaningful relationships or trying to build these meaningful relationships.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:40 | Intro 3:40 - 6:10 | Education around narcissism 6:10 - 9:00 | Diagnostic and statistic manual 9:00 - 10:55 | Defining narcissism 10:55 - 16:20 | Differentiating having self worth/respect vs. having narcissistic tendencies 16:20 - 26:18 | Different types of narcissism 26:18 - 27:55 | The malignant narcissist 27:55 - 36:15 | Empathy 36:15 - 39:20 | Interpersonal relationships 39:20 - 44:00 | Defining gaslighting44:00 - 47:30 | Understanding the cause of narcissism 47:30 - 50:16 | Outro –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ @bruxanicare Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is upppp! Today we have an awesome episode with my friend. She is the vice president at one of the largest financial institutions in the world who focuses on wealth management and financial education. She's a global sports and entertainment associate director and is a registered financial advisor for the NFL Players Association. She's a woman who is making waves in the world of finance and today we are having a much needed conversation about women's relationships with money and wealth so let's get started. In this episode…Being rich in every part of life Stigmas around women and wealth Wealthy women empowerment Finances with divorce Women vs. men perspectivesLong Term security vs. immediate fun Financial discipline and financial goals Quotes:“It's cool now to ask questions because you realize you're helping yourself and you're helping so many other people.”“I want to be rich in all ways. I want to be rich in the bank account but I also want to be rich in my life experiences. I want to be rich in the relationships I have and I want my wealth and abundance to carry over into all areas of my life.” - Nikki Spo “I can't help people who don't want to be helped and I can't be everything for everyone and those were huge lessons that I wish I would have learned long before.”“You're inheriting your family trauma and emotional and mental behavior but you are also inheriting their financial traumas, and so you've got to be conscious and work really hard and get comfortable being uncomfortable to lean into it”“I trust myself fully to put myself in the best possible scenarios for my life, not for today, but for my life.” - Nikki Spo “I think money can give you freedom of choice and I think that having freedom of choice can bring you tremendous joy.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 1:45 | Intro 1:45 - 4:50 | Understanding the finances 4:50 - 8:10 | It’s okay to not know8:10 - 11:10 | Stigmas around women and wealth 11:10 - 13:20 | Finances with divorce & relationships 14:45 - 17:30 | Women vs. men perspectives with finances 17:30 - 21:38 | Women becoming more interested in finances 21:38 - 23:30 | Long Term security vs. immediate fun 23:30 - 27:15 | Financial discipline 27:15 - 31:00 | Creating an environment where you can trust yourself 31:00 - 40:50 | Tips for women when speaking to a financial advisor 40:50 - | Outro– Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Trigger Warning: This week we are discussing a topic that can feel heavy for some. Our guest is Alreen Haeggquist and we are having a conversation around sexual abuse, assault, healing from trauma, and advocating for yourself and others. Alreen is a seasoned lawyer, author, and advocate on a mission to amplify voices and combat silence around abuse. As always, check in with yourself as this topic can be super triggering, so move through this as you need to🤍In this episode…Women feeling silenced Secrets Emotional triggers GaslightingShame Women as sexual objects Belief Quotes:“Keeping secrets is like drinking poison. It really poisons us from the inside out.” - Nikki Spo “Not staying silent and starting to let out all the trauma is how we can get out of that shameful mindset and stop the generational pattern of keeping it all in.” -Alreen Haeggquist“I was really angry. Not about what happened to me, but angry that I had to deal with the messed up stuff and thoughts that I had to deal with this and that I have to clean it up.” - Alreen Haeggquist“I want women to know you could talk about it and it actually is how you're going to get to the next step and live the life that you didn't think you were deserving of or didn't think you could have.” - Alreen Haeggquist“It is so important to have people in your corner who believe you. I know what it's like to come out and not be believed, and it’s excruciating when you have to try to convince people you've been hurt. It's really such a horrible toxic place to be in.” - Nikki Spo “Sharing what happened to you with other people is healing in and of itself.” - Alreen HaeggquistTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Intro2:15 - 5:20 | Feeling silenced 5:20 - 7:20 | Not keeping secrets 7:20 - 12:15 | Listening to your body 12:15 - 17:15 | Gaslighting 17:15 - 23:21 | Silencing as the biggest form of gaslighting 23:21 - 25:00 | Woman are under attack sexually 25:00 - 27:35 | Identifying and not identifying as the victim 27:35 - 29:40 | Helping women from a lawyers perspective 29:40 - 32:30 | The importance of being believed 32:30 - 39:55 | Steps to healing 39:55 - 42:21 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.– When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.Connect with Alreen https://www.alreen.com/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up fammmm! Today we are getting into the topic of cycles… yeah, our monthly cycles. With over seven years of experience as a registered dietitian and a master's degree in human clinical nutrition, today's guest Kate Morton is dedicated to menstrual health and anti-diet culture education. She founded Funk It Wellness with a mission to empower all menstruators, providing them with autonomy over their bodies and helping them make peace with food and their cycles. Tune in to find out more!In this episode… Menstrual cycle Shame around your period A comforting environment Generational differences The 4 cycles Birth control 4 phases = 4 seasons Seed cycling Quotes:“We make up over half of the population and there's not enough studies about us and our bodies and how we function and we are the life bringers.” - Nikki Spo “Society does not like to honor aging women and so of course we're not going to talk about sex because our society is so twisted.” - Kate Morton “When we're disconnected from our bodies, we don't appreciate them and we don't love them and we don't take care of them the way that we should.” - Kate Morton “There's four phases of your menstrual cycle. You feel different in each phase. Your body needs different care in each phase.” - Kate Morton “I think people need to understand that my menstrual cycle doesn't make me weak. It's actually a super power that I can use to my advantage.” - Kate Morton Timestamps:0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 2:10 - 6:55 | The beginning of the period 6:55 - 11:45 | Birth control 11:45 - 16:55 | Pros and cons of birth control 16:55 - 18:20 | Menopause 18:20 - 20:00 | Body disconnection 20:00 - 23:48 | Perception of menstruation 26:00 - 37:25 | Phases of the menstrual cycle 37:25 - 43:40 | Seed cycling 43:40 - 48:20 | Open communication about menstrual cycles in relationships 48:20 - 50:42 | Outro –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Kate https://funkitwellness.com/ @carbsandkate / @funk.it.wellness Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up my loves and welcome back to The Know! Today we are going to chat about a pretty controversial topic…which is polyamory and consensual non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside of the lines and she is the founder of the Year of Opening. She has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibilities. Keep an open mind and buckle up babes because it's gonna get hot!In this episode… The Jungian approach Authenticity Archetype The child, the self, the shadow, the parent, the otherShadow qualities Ego strength Monogamous person vs. polyamorous person Compersion Quotes:“The Jungian approach is one that looks at everything, every symptom, every symbol as an opportunity to know more, not just about ourselves personally, but also to know about the collective.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton “Some of the things that have gotten me through my hardest times in life and the trauma and the really difficult things that I have faced in recent years, especially, is being able to see the beauty in some of the really, really ugly parts of life.” - Nikki Spo“I need to come to know the child, I need to come to know the parental archetypes, the others, all of the others that we find in our romances, and the shadow. And if I don't recognize the shadow that dark bit that you were talking about in there, that messy horrible evil bit that's in there, if I don't recognize that I'm gonna project it all over other people.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton “You can't share your trauma with everybody because not everybody has the capacity to hold it, and that's okay.” - Nikki Spo “I encourage you to journal, to listen to your dreams, to start writing down what's going on inside of you because if you can start to just sort out what is being projected onto you versus what is authentically yours, that's the beginning of individuation.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton “If you feel called to have multiple partners, let's do it well, let's not cheat, and let’s not lie. Let's build a life where this can be done in a nice way that weaves in just the right amount of openness for you and lets you not hurt other people and treat them like objects.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:55 | Intro 2:55 - 9:50 | What it means to be a Jungian and archetypal psychologist9:50 - 12:05 | The concept of archetype 12:05 - 16:25 | Feeling evil & identifying with shadow qualities 16:25 - 21:35 | Mental health care 21:35 - 27:03 | Having a less conventional life 29:15 - 35:10 | The presence of jealousy 35:10 - 38:05 | ASECT 38:05 - 41:00 | “Yes, No, Maybe” lists 41:00 - 43:15 | Co-parenting relationship 43:15 - 47:20 | Asking the hard questions 47:20 - 49:54 | Outro – Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton https://www.jolihamilton.com/quiz @drjoli_hamilton Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What's up fammm! Today we are talking about money with Amber Frankhuizen, who is on a mission to heal the financial fight or flight response by providing easy investing techniques for beginners. She likes to take the fear out of managing our scary finances. Tune in to hear more about this LOADED topic!In this episode.. Money freedom vs. money buying happiness A healthy & unhealthy money relationship Why women are weird talking about money Confidence with money Financial fight or flight Financial guru Internal vs. external locus of control Quotes: “So while money doesn't particularly buy happiness because we need to find those feelings within ourselves, I will say that poverty can't buy anything at all.” - Amber Frank “You can have all the money in the world and still be a broken ass person.” - Nikki Spo “There's a saying that I love and it's ‘Some people are so poor, all they have is money’”. - Nikki Spo “Create a compelling future for yourself. Tell yourself what your life will look like when you're not in debt and tell yourself what you will feel like when you're wealthy.” - Amber Frank “So if we sit around on our couches and point the fingers at the economy or the president and blame them as to why I'm not successful, there are other people out there getting successful right now. They just have a different worldview than you do.” - Amber Frank “I am not a fearless woman. I am scared of so many things but I think that I am a courageous woman and that courage allows me to face hardships, hard things, difficult things, things that are unpleasant, and things that don't make me happy in the moment.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | Intro 1:25 - 2:30 | About Amber 2:30 - 4:30 | Money freedom vs. money buying happiness 4:30 - 7:50 | Why women are so weird when it comes to talking about money7:50 - 15:40 | Financial fight or flight 15:40 - 21:50 | Coaching tips to healing an unhealthy money relationship21:50 - 23:10 | Outsourcing your power when it comes to money 24:14 - 27:45 | Facing the fear of finances 27:45 - 32:30 | Achieving financial goals 32:30 - 43:05 | Taking those first steps 43:05 - 45:55 | Playing the long game 45:55 - 47:55 | Patterns when it comes to money 47:55 - 50:11 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Amber https://afmktg.com/amber-frankhuizen / https://oldmoneypodcast.com/ @amberincalifornia / @oldmoneypodcast Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up superstars! Today we have the exciting opportunity to speak with Kate Anthony, who is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast, “The Divorce Survival Guide”, while also being the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, “Should I Stay or Should I Go”, which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self work. Tune in to hear about how she does it all! In this episode…Making the D word decision Coping mechanisms & survival tools Trusting your capital S Self When you know, you know Leaving the unhealthy relationship Couples therapy Abusive relationshipsNarcissism within relationships Quotes:“We can acknowledge that lasting relationships happen by compromising your way to success rather than settling into dissatisfaction, and that couples need to be really intentional about growing together and choosing to love each other, which is an action, not just this concept.” - Nikki Spo “The deep self work needs to come first. Connecting with your inner guide, quieting all of the noise and dropping in and hearing what that voice says.” - Kate Anthony “Women are exhausted in their marriage I think because the entire institution of marriage is set up to serve and benefit men on the back of the labor of women.” - Kate Anthony “If you're in an abusive relationship, your partner is not in the relationship for the same reasons that you are. You're in this relationship for intimacy and connection, they're in it for power and control.” - Kate Anthony “Everybody's a work in progress. I am on a continuous journey of healing and getting better.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 2:00 - 4:25 | Wanting a partnership 4:25 - 5:10 | Acknowledging that people change over time 5:10 - 8:25 | The first step when trying to make the D word decision8:25 - 11:00 | Learning to trust your capital S Self 11:00 - 12:15 | When you know, you know 12:15 - 19:45 | Why women are so unhappy in their marriages 19:45 - 22:30 | Couples therapy 22:30 - 27:53 | Differences between narcissist, sociopath & selfishness 27:53 - 32:15 | Placing high value on potential 32:15 - 39:20 | Emotional abuse 39:20 - 42:30 | Grooming 42:30 - 46:10 | Helping women exit their marriage46:10 - 49:10 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Kate https://kateanthony.com/ @thedivorcesurvivalguide Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to The Know! Today we are hearing from skincare industry leader, Allison McNamara. Allison is the founder of Mara, a clean algae-based skin care line, as well as a digital influencer and former TV host. She is a lifelong beauty and wellness enthusiast and is here to tell us all about it.In this episode… Mara startup Taking the leap into different industries Stepping out of your comfort zone Trusting the processMakeup sustainability Beauty industry double standards The “secret sauce” The impact of sampling Quotes: “I think that you really have to have some thick skin and know how to ride the waves and be willing to put yourself out there.” - Nikki Spo “You can't take the small no’s really personally.” - Allison McNamara “I've always felt a passion for finding better ways of doing things and making the world a better place.” - Allison McNamara “I think a lot of people wanna hold on to their secrets, but on this platform we're about sharing the secrets. I want everybody to have access to the information because I think that especially women, when we come together, there's room for all of us at the top.” - Nikki Spo “Figure out what you're really good at and then figure out your weaknesses and spend some time getting to be a little bit better at the weaknesses because we gravitate towards doing things that we're good at when we should gravitate towards the things we need to work on.”- Allison McNamara Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:05 | Introduction 2:05 - 4:15 | The startup of Mara 4:15 - 6:30 | Starting the new chapter of Mara 6:30 - 8:10 | Taking the leap into the next industry 8:10 - 10:10 | Being clear on your mission 10:10 - 11:55 | The beauty industry double standards 11:55 - 13:20 | Family influences 13:20 - 14:40 | Benefits of launching with one hero product 14:40 - 21:30 | Personal connections in building Mara’s presence 21:30 - 23:55 | Sustainable skin care products 23:55 - 28:20 | What’s next for Mara28:20 - 29:10 | How Mara reached Hailey Bieber! 29:10 - 30:55 | Pivoting from challenges 30:55 - 36:35 | Pieces of advice for new entrepreneurs 36:35 - 38:02 - Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Aliison & Mara https://themarabeauty.com/pages/our-story @allisonmcnamara / @themarabeauty Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up fam?! Welcome back to another jam packed episode. Today I am welcomed by a MASTER marketer… Nikki Nash. She is known for crafting mind-blowing strategies, assembling kick butt marketing teams, and freeing visionary CEOs from the marketing grind. With her advice, I think she can help us business owners achieve some of our pro goals and ultimately make 👏🏼 that 👏🏼 money 👏🏼 … honey.In this episode… Understanding marketing roadblocks Making THE plan CEO vs. CMOMarketing conductor & managerial positionsStrategists vs. tacticals & implementers Building your rockstar team Entrepreneurial life vs. mom / personal life Understanding your team’s strengths & weaknesses Feeder programsQuotes: “You have to believe that your plan is going to work for you because one, if it doesn't work, or if you don't believe, it's not gonna work, and two, it's not gonna have the excitement and momentum and passion behind implementing it.” - Nikki Nash “CMO is helping to realize the vision of the CEO, CEO just needs to focus on that vision all day, every day, and talk about it all day, every day.” - Nikki Nash “In order for a company to succeed you really have to know what everybody's doing, how everybody's doing it, where they are, and have the skills and knowledge to be able to pick up and roll with it.” - Nikki Nash“If you have a good strategist, a good project manager, and good doers, you're solid.” - Nikki Nash “The reason I love these entrepreneurial goals and all of these conversations is that they don't just apply to work life, they apply to real life.” - Nikki Spo“I want to encourage entrepreneurs to have the guts to ask the hard questions because I think that guts go a long way.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | Intro 1:25 - 3:40 | Roadblocks when it comes to marketing 3:40 - 7:30 | Coming up with THE plan 7:30 - 9:25 | Why CEOs should not be their own CMOs 9:25 - 13:10 | Marketing conductors 13:10 - 16:45 | Tips of building a rockstar marketing team 16:45 - 20:46 | How smaller businesses should go about building their team 23:23 - 26:25 | How to motivate your team to have the same enthusiasm for succeeding as you do 26:25 - 30:00 | Connecting entrepreneurial life to real life 30:00 - 33:30 | Finding the right staff 33:30 - 39:55 | Balancing nurturing your current team and hiring outside more experienced professionals39:55 - 43:05 | Having a clear marketing message & how to develop it43:05 - 46:45 | Nikki Nash’s clear message 46:45 - 48:59 | Outro —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.—When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.Connect with Nikki Nash https://www.nikkinash.co/ @nikkinashofficial Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up fam and welcome back to The Know! I am SO excited for today’s episode as I am joined by THE OG dating coach Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart 👏🏼 successful 👏🏼 women create LONG LASTING LOVE.Raise the bar, girly. Never again settle for a dissatisfying relationship. Literally, my favorite episode I’ve ever recorded. Don’t miss it. In this episode… Percentages & The Dating PoolBut what do you REALLY want?What does your perfect Saturday look like with your partner?HAVING A ROSTERWhat’s on your relationship checklist and WHYNOT ignoring the red flags 🚩 Relationship CEO energy Compatibility vs. similarities Assume the answer is YESCompromising vs. SettlingSex exclusivity and having THAT convoQuotes: “My belief is that good relationships are easy.” - Evan Marc Katz “One of the things that I find really surprising is that women are supposed to be the more sensitive and intuitive sex, and yet they're more likely to ignore their feelings than men.” - Evan Marc Katz “My central metaphor for my ‘Love You’ course is that women are the CEOs and men are the interns.” - Evan Marc Katz “You settle your way into misery. You compromise your way into happiness.” - Evan Marc Katz Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:20 | Introduction 3:20 - 4:40 | Talking about what you WANT to talk about 4:40 - 7:45 | Differences between being a coach vs. therapist 7:45 - 13:15 | Finding the right one 13:15 - 15:20 | Relationship stigmas against women 15:20 - 18:45 | Getting rid of the relationship checklist 18:45 - 23:30 | Listening to your emotions 23:30 - 25:12 | Opposite of CEO energy in relationships 26:18 - 28:50 | Compatibility 28:50 - 34:35 | Why we always assume the answer is yes with men 34:35 - 36:05 | Compromising 36:05 - 41:40 | Sex for single women 41:40 - 45:10 | Exclusivity 45:10 - 47:58 | Outro --SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Evan Marc Katz https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ @realevanmarckatz Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back, my friends! Today I am excited to host a dear friend and an incredible business person, THE skin savant Amy Peterson. Amy has been a licensed medical esthetician for over 16 years. She was the clinical educator for Solta Medical and is now in Miami with a mission to create a practice that redefines luxury skincare, exudes warm spearheads innovation, and promotes practitioner and client education. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Ideas vs ExecutionNOT conforming Time takes timeNot knowing how to be a bossPerseveranceHandling the “downs” in businessBeing an entrepreneurNavigating competitiveness (even with your partner!)When Dad becomes the “cool parent”When NOT to make big decisionsOvercoming lack of confidenceQuotes: “I had this mindset of never saying no to opportunities that landed and being a sponge for knowledge.” - Amy Peterson“I knew that being a stay at home mom wasn’t going to fill my cup enough and I knew that I would be a better mom if my cup was full.” - Amy Peterson“Big things don’t happen overnight. Time takes time.” - Nikki Spo “In order to kick start your career you need to push forward and persevere through the unknown.” - Nikki Spo“People think that success comes immediately, and it doesn't. I can tell you that the thing that I did that I know moved the needle for me was that I didn't cut corners. Even when it was easier, I always went the longer route.” - Amy Peterson “The rest of the world can criticize me but I know what I'm saying and I feel great about what I'm saying and delivering and I'm gonna put it out there.” - Amy Peterson “My husband and I have learned how to work together within our separate careers. He'll take the back seat when I'm shining and then I'll take the back seat when he's shining and then sometimes we shine together and sometimes we don't shine at all.” - Amy Peterson “You don't know what you don't know until you know it.” - Nikki Spo “You learn your lessons in the amount of time it takes you to learn the lessons and you'll keep repeating the same lessons over and over until you learn it.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction 3:15 - 10:25 | The beginning journey of Amy 10:25 - 12:50 | Time takes time 12:50 - 15:10 | Not cutting corners 15:10 - 18:46 | The truths of being an entrepreneur 21:00 - 27:50 | Dissecting how having a high performing & achieving spouse affecting career trajectory27:50 - 36:45 | Transitioning into the action of a career 36:45 - 39:33 | Outro PAINLESS PREGNANCY AD 18:46 - 21:00 Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Amy Peterson @skincarebyamyp https://www.skincarebyamypeterson.com/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to another episode of The Know where NO topic is off limits! Today we have a spicy episode that features our amazing guest Kim Coffin. Kim is a sex and empowerment coach as well as a best selling author, a podcast host and teacher, and the founder of Get Your Sexy Back. She specializes in sexuality, tantric sex, and relationship transformation while also helping singles and couples with coaching and tools for sexual confidence, self love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with themselves and others. Her mission is to create healthy sexuality with less shame and more pleasure. Let’s jump right in! In this episode… Feeling safe & secure Divine feminine Divine masculine Big & small trauma Believing in yourself Trusting your intuition Filling voids Wielding sexuality as a weaponThe hoe phase Quotes:“We are helping women feel like they can come home to themselves and to their sexualities and to whatever their life has for them.” - Nikki Spo“Divine feminine starts in your body. It starts when we create safety and trust and really learn how to come home in your body to the point that you know your pleasure.” - Kim Coffin“I always say that keeping secrets is like keeping poison in your body.” - Nikki Spo“Nobody ever taught me how to be a woman. I just had to learn it on the fly.” - Nikki Spo“When we can reconnect to our inner feminine, to our sacred pleasure, to Pussy, to our pelvic bowl, what is possible is coming home to that essence of who we are, who we always were. And from there we can create the best life and the best relationships and have the best sex that you have ever imagined.” - Kim Coffin “There's two very different types of hoe phases. There's the hoe phase where you're going and looking for something to complete you. And then there's the surrendering inwards phase, and simply being in your pleasure all day long in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. There's different energies to them.” - Kim Coffin “The pendulum went way too far. And it put women in their masculine energy. And we don't need to be in our masculine, we need to come back to our feminine, come back to our body, come back to our safety and trust.” - Kim Coffin“Pleasure is a nervous system reset!” - Kim CoffinTimestamps: 0:00 - 1:55 | Intro1:55 - 4:20 | Finding safety & security within ourselves4:20 - 8:20 | Divine feminine & divine masculine 8:20 - 12:35 | Defining traumatic events 12:35 - 15:50 | Redefining what it means to be a women 15:50 - 18:15 | Trusting yourself 18:15 - 22:08 | Different energies 24:47 - 30:25 | Training yourself out of masculine and into feminine 30:25 - 31:35 | Step one to coming back into your femininity 31:35 - 35:25 | Listening to your body 35:25 - 40:00 | Bringing pleasure into your daily life 40:00 - 42:50 | Finding the good 42:50 - 46:25 | Outro — When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.—SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Kim Coffin https://getyoursexyback.ca/ / get-your-sexy-back @get_your_sexy_back_coach Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back! Today we have a loaded episode with Kathy Batista as we consider that there are opportunities to create magic all around us and that maybe, just maybe... it isn’t actually a mid-life crisis.Kathy Batista is the go-to coach for midlife women. She believes midlife isn't just based on age but that it's a phase of life, and that it can be your best one yet. By tapping into your values and skills, you can take aligned action to create purpose and joy, leading to that often missing sense of fulfillment. Guys It’s time for some mid-life MAGIC, and we are just a perspective shift away from creating the life we’ve always wanted.In this episode…Unhealthy & healthy coping mechanisms Sense of communityFighting that sense of controlGetting out of your own wayLeaning into the unknown Envy Mood, mindfulness, & mindsetQuotes:“We now need to work with that gut instinct and approach people that we instinctively have a feeling of safety around.” - Kathy Batista “I have gotten to the point where I don't even care what the why is anymore. I'm just ready for a change, a whole change. I'm ready to do it and I think it takes a lot of courage for people to get there.” - Nikki Spo “I realized that my envy was a tool in revealing to myself where my alignment might be.” - Nikki Spo “Envy is recognizing the oneness in other people. We are all one.” Kathy Batista Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:30 | Introduction 2:30 - 7:15 | Kathy’s background 7:15 - 11:15 | One day at a time 11:15 - 16:00 | Trusting your gut 16:00 - 21:30 | Getting out of your own way21:30 - 23:29 | Making the change 25:42 - 29:20 | Envy 29:20 - 31:25 | Making decision for YOURSELF 31:25 - 36:45 | The 3 pillars 36:45 - 42:30 | Mindfulness 42:30 - 44:59 | OutroConnect with Kathyhttps://www.kathybatista.com/@coachkathybatistaConnect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoPROMO: Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back everyone! I am so excited for today's episode as we are joined with the amazing Shiri Sarfati. Shiri is a beauty and wellness expert as well as a licensed esthetician. She is the founder of 23Skin, a beauty brand based on natural and clean ingredients that provide spa quality results at home, and is a partner and executive vice president of her family-owned professional skincare brand. Her thought is that we don't need to buy into the societal pressures of looking perfect, and that skin care should be about wellness and feeling good and glowing from the inside out. Tune in to hear more! In this episode…Entrepreneurial lifestyle Environmental stressors Lifestyle pivots Clean beauty Motivation Big & small wins Finding inspiration Finding a support team Believing in yourself Beauty standards Quotes: “Being an entrepreneur is a mindset.” - Shiri Sarfati “We have these environmental stressors and we really have to dig deep and say, ‘What do I need to do at this moment in order to accelerate and know where I'm heading towards?’ And those pivots are game changing.” - Shiri Sarfati “It is important to celebrate the wins because they are what lead us to the next big thing.” - Shiri Sarfati “You have to love yourself. You have to believe in yourself and have people around you that believe in you.” - Shiri Sarfati“I definitely find myself having to walk the talk. The things that I talk about on my podcast, I say to myself, ‘you better be ready to back this up with your actions.’” - Nikki Spo“What I would love for people to do is just to look at themselves and say, ‘I look beautiful. My skin is glowing, I have my health, I feel vibrant.’ And from that place is where you WILL look vibrant. The most gorgeous people in the room are the people that have wonderful confidence.” Shiri Sarfati “Instead of a vicious cycle of neglect and lack of self-care, you need to do the reverse. You need to say, ‘I love myself, I take care of myself and because I take care of myself, I love myself.’” - Nikki Spo Timestamps:0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 5:55 | Shiri Sarfati & 23Skin background 5:55 - 10:25 | An entrepreneurial lifestyle 10:25 - 12:00 | The effect of covid 12:00 - 14:10 | The pivot to being an entrepreneur 14:10 - 17:35 | Environmental stressors, big or small 17:35 - 19:05 | Defining “Clean Beauty” 19:05 - 21:50 | Having a breakthrough moment 22:31 - 24:15 | Staying motivated to accomplishing your mission 24:15 - 27:15 | Finding inspiration to pull yourself out of the rut 27:15 - 31:05 | Having a supportive partner 31:05 - 37:00 | The ever changing beauty standards of society 37:00 - 38:25 | Taking the leap 38:25 - 40:04 | Outro—SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOWConnect with Shiri Sarfati & 23Skinhttps://23skin.com/ / repechage.com @shirisarfati Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back light seekers and truth speakers! Today my guest, Michelle Suarez, and I are going to talk about what seems to be a hot topic lately, which is… DIVORCE.Michelle Suarez is a mom of three and an attorney who founded The Divorce Broker, which is a boutique firm for professional guidance and legal consulting support to women who need general advice, are contemplating or navigating the challenging process of divorce, pre and post-nuptial, settlement agreements and beyond.In this conversation, Michelle gets candid about the most common fears and hesitations she encounters when coaching her clients through a divorce process, along with how she helps her clients feel empowered and confident through the phases of their journey.This is one of those convos that you’ll be grateful to hear without having had to ask the questions yourself ;)In this episode…Divorce Financial changesFamily changes Finding a sense of controlWomen empowerment Support system Loneliness Different experiences Loss of community FinancesImpact on kids Quotes: “After my divorce was over I knew this is what I wanted to do. This is my calling. I want to sit down and I want to help women.” - Michelle Suarez “The hardest part is being able to think clearly, being able to set your emotions aside, and watching your whole life change.” - Michelle Suarez“I read something recently that said, ‘You're not my competition. Everybody's assignment is different.’ And so women need to come together and start turning towards each other instead of away from each other to help lift each other up in whatever capacity that is.” - Nikki Spo“I wanted to focus on women because we need each other. And I think we're amazing beings. I think we're smart and I think all of us have something to offer each other.” - Michelle Suarez “I love to see women coming together to support each other, but I think there's also something hugely powerful when men come up and rise up to support women in their journeys to you.” - Nikki Spo“Divorce is hard on everyone. Whether you want it or not it rocks your world.” - Michelle Suarez “You need to find a place where you can have your feelings supported and controlled so that you can make clear decisions. And that's why I'm doing this to make that place for other women.” - Michelle Suarez“I think that a lot of people feel alone in general, not just in divorces, but with whatever they're going through. So finding a community of people that can support is so important.” Nikki Spo“I think that in general, regardless of marriage, divorce, or relationships, more and more women need to come to a sense of awareness and awakening within themselves that they deserve to have a seat at the table when it comes to their own finances.” - Nikki Spo“It's never going to be easy because divorce is not an easy thing. But I think if you prioritize your children and let them be the center and make your decisions around them, it is much better.” - Michelle Suarez Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction 2:15 - 5:30 | Michelle’s background 5:30 - 9:00 | The hardest part about divorce 9:00 - 12:05 | Women working together 12:05 - 13:40 | Universal truths about the divorce process 13:40 - 16:05 | Addressing the BIG feelings 16:05 - 18:50 | Compartmentalizing 19:55 - 23:30 | What Michelle is REALLY doing for women 23:30 - 27:40 | Finances 27:40 - 28:30 | Every marriage is different! 28:30 - 33:30 | Dissecting stigmas 33:30 - 35:30 | Biggest fears of divorce 35:30 - 36:55 | Impact on kids 36:55 - 38:45 | Tips for women 38:45 - 41:04 | Outro — SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Michelle Suarez & The Divorce Broker https://thedivorcebroker.com/ @divorcebrokerofficial Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispoSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up light beams, truth speakers, and amplifiers! You are listening to a mini episode of Nikki Spo UNVEILED where I get deep-ER and talk about topics that are very personal to me. Today we are going to dive into a creepy little topic that messes with all of us, the loneliness epidemic. Tune in and don’t forget that no one is alone in this wild journey called life! In this episode…Loneliness epidemic Connections Social media Self awareness Validation Higher power Having a different outlook Quotes“I think a lot of people are just really just starving for connections of any type.” - Nikki Spo“You can feel lonely even if you have a lot of people around you because loneliness isn't about the quantity of your relationships, but about the quality of your connections.” - Nikki Spo “I think it's crucial that we start to become more self -aware and that involves taking a personal inventory of sorts. Being able to humbly, vulnerably, and honestly look at ourselves and our respective situations.” - Nikki Spo “Looking within and connecting with a higher power as you understand that higher power is really the antidote for loneliness.” - Nikki Spo“Another antidote for loneliness is helping other people, connecting with people, places and things that make your insides feel good.” - Nikki Spo “Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it. It is poison for our own soul.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction 3:15 - 6:20 | Understanding the loneliness epidemic 6:20 - 8:25 | Social media’s impact 8:25 - 9:45 | Self awareness & looking within 11:55 - 12:40 | Craving validation 12:40 - 13:35 | Connecting with a higher power 13:35 - 14:45 | Finding connections that make you feel good 14:45 - 17:00 | Dissecting resentment 17:00 - 18:20 | Feeling entitled to our emotions 18:20 - 19:48 | Outro —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo https://www.npr.org/2023/05/02/1173418268/loneliness-connection-mental-health-dementia-surgeon-generalSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Episode 131’s guest, Monica Del Valle, is a woman who I genuinely look up to and admire. She has been through some sh*t and has made lemonade out of lemons. She owns a powerhouse yoga studio, the Break Free Movement. Before that, she was a health coach passionate about wellness that inspired her to open her studio. True to all guests on The Know, there is MUCH more to her.In this episode we are discovering so much more as we take a glimpse into the real essence and story about Monica Del Valle. In this episode…Who is Monica Del ValleWhat Yoga means to MonicaThe story behind Monica’s success story Creating a welcoming healthy environment The importance of being present Learning from being a motherBalanced life Postpartum Normalizing therapy and medication Timestamps0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction2:15 - 7:00 | Who is Monica Del Valle7:00 - 10:20 | Consciousness and awareness 10:20 - 15:50 | What Yoga means to Monica15:50 - 20:20 | Monica’s dark times20:20 - 24:30 | Healing to break generational trauma 24:30 - 27:45 | How becoming a mother impacts views on life, love, work and sense of purpose27:45 - 31:25 | Creating a balanced life 31:25 - 38:20 | Postpartum experiences 38:20 - 41:50 | Pelvic floor therapy 41:50 - 43:40 | No woman is alone! 43:40 - 49:53 | Co-parenting advice Quotes:“A big part of what you are doing, with adults even, is bringing them to a sense of consciousness and awareness and keeping them centered.” - Nikki Spo “When I am going through a hard time I give myself a hug and I am like ‘dude I got you. You are safe here.’ As parents we can teach our kids to do something similar.” - Nikki Spo “Yoga was really there for me when I needed it. It took my mind off of what was going on at home.” - Monica Del Valle “A person who heals his or her self is not just healing the generations that came after them, they're healing the generations of their lineage above.” - Nikki Spo“Although I work, I make sure I carve out time for my daughters and make sure I am there for that play or pick them up from school because it’s important for them and it’s important for me.” - Monica Del Valle “My daughters have taught me the meaning of love. They are my heart beating outside of my heart.” - Monica Del Valle “You can get a divorce five hundred times but your kids are yours.” - Monica Del Valle “Even if we are co-parenting, we are still a team and we are still a family. My kids will always come first.” - Monica Del Valle QUOTE: “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross--Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Monica Del Valle https://www.instagram.com/thebreakfreemvmt/ @monicadelv / @thebreakfreemvmtConnect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

HAPPY NEW YEAR truth speakers and light seekers! Today I am joined by Joe Huff, a longtime friend and the co-author of the book “Experiential Billionaire.” In this convo, we talk about what it means to be an experiential billionaire and how to build a life that is RICH in EXPERIENCES.Joe huff is one of the most positive humans I have ever met and during a time in my life that was kinda chaotic, Joe was a positive “seed planter.” He is obsessed with experiences and I am so excited for you all to tune into this amazing conversation.In this episode…Experiences Exploration “Experiential Billionaire” Not taking life for granted Shared experiences Importance of a positive mindset Valuing personal experiences “What am I doing” vs. “What do I want to be doing” Learning from & appreciating your lows Quotes: “We build relationships through shared experiences.” - Joe Huff “There’s a tremendous power in story telling and that is part of why I have this show, to tell the stories of people like you and the amazing things you do.” - Nikki Spo “It is so important to move away from a fear based mindset and into an abundance mindset where you truly believe you are always going to be okay, you’re always going to receive something from the world and be provided for, and you will not be left stranded.” - Nikki Spo “What we are trying to do is show people the experiences that they will truly value and coupling that with a sense of urgency to go after those things. That leads to a life of limitless possibilities and less regret.” - Joe Huff “The lows of your life are where you do the most learning.” - Nikki Spo “These life experiences, the bad ones and the good ones, ultimately bring us a sense of peace, wholeness, and fulfillment in life.” - Nikki Spo “When passion and purpose collide, that’s where you find that happiness.” - Joe Huff “We have this crazy ability to overestimate the negative possibility’s and underestimate the positive potential.” - Joe Huff “It’s not about climbing Mount Everest or running a marathon, it’s about finding the magic around you everyday.” - Joe Huff Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Introduction 2:50 - 14:30 | Joe’s catalyst of sharing his experiences 14:30 - 16:55 | Finding a purpose in what you do 16:55 - 18:40 | Money vs. experiences - not mutually exclusive 18:40 - 21:10 | Learning from your lows 21:10 - 25:20 | Giving people a sense of urgency 25:20 - 30:45 | How society defines wealth 30:45 - 33:35 | “The cave you fear holds the treasure you seek”33:35 - 36:10 | “Believing in the make believe”36:10 - 43:15 | Complacency 43:15 - 45:45 | How to turn negatives into positives 45:45 - 47:58 | Outroduction Connect with Joe Huff / Experiential Billionaire https://www.experientialbillionaire.com/ https://joehuff.com/ Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up superstars! Today we have a Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode where I am going to get into it with you all about being sober during the holidays. At the time of this podcast episode I have 1,334 days of continuous sobriety. This is my fourth holiday season without alcohol or drugs and I hope to help anyone in the audience who is currently sober, is sober curious, or anyone who knows someone who is either of those. In this Episode:Sobriety Sober during the holidays Sober curious Unhealthy coping mechanisms Sobriety does not make you perfect Sitting in discomfort Observing rather than reacting A vicious cycle Sobriety tips The power of journaling Quotes:“Even the most magical times of the year have often also had its fair share of anxiety.” “Two opposing concepts can be true at the same time. We can love the holiday season but also feel really anxious or triggered by them too.” “Just because I am sober and haven't had a single sip of alcohol in all this time does not mean that I am all of a sudden a saint. No, I still mess up. And I really want to drive that home because what's not cool is having an air of superiority when it comes to sobriety.”“Allow yourself to make progress rather than strive for perfection.” “So in a world where I was drinking and over drinking for the purpose of escape of any sort, I was not able to simply be. I think that now without alcohol in my life it has been less about coping with my life without the crutch of alcohol and more about actually experiencing my life without it.” “My last tip is probably the most important one is to check on your friends. I think in general, not just sober people, but just as a friend. Check on your friends. It's the kindest thing that somebody can do in any scenario really.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:30 | Introduction 1:30 - 2:35 | Escapism through consumption during the holiday’s 2:35 - 3:50 | Self reflection & self awareness 3:50 - 4:55 | Feeling triggered around the holidays 4:55 - 6:10 | The art of being 6:10 - 12:10 | Sobriety tips 12:10 - 15:25 | A message to friends and loved ones of sober and sober curious people15:25 - 16:56 | OutroductionConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo —SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What is up light beams! We have a very special Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode today. These segments of the show are here to create a space to have deeper dialogues around topics that are important to me, and that is exactly what I will be doing today! This is an episode that carries a deep message that is really important for us to hear especially during the holiday season, and that is… that love is not dead because it is ALWAYS within us. In this episode…UNVEILED Responding to online hate “Love is dead” stigma Evolving perceptions of love Wanting to have love vs. forcing love Vulnerability Human connection & love Focusing on genuine connectionHealing a broken heart Quotes: "Love is not dead. It's not dead for me and it's not dead for you either. I want you to really believe that and lean into that on a soul level. Love is not dead for me because love is within me.”“Love is probably one of the scariest things because it requires us to be vulnerable and put ourselves out there to possibly get hurt for the risk of building these deep and meaningful and potentially romantic relationships with people or a person.” “I have experienced so many different kinds of love. Big love, fast love, long lasting love, short and sweet love, weird love, wild love, rooted love, hard and tough love, butterflies love, safe love, and truly just all kinds of love. And I believe that I have had that because I have wanted to have that and that I believe that it exists.” “There are no limits on love or connection.” “For anyone who might be healing from a broken heart here, the healing journey starts with the love that we have for ourselves.”Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 4:00 | Online hate 4:00 - 5:30 | Personal perception of love 5:30 - 8:45 | Love exists everywhere 8:45 - 11:10 | Viewing love & genuine human connections11:10 - 11:55 | Opportunities for love is unlimited 11:55 - 12:50 | Believing in love 12:50 - 14:13 | Outdroduction Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back, beautiful people! Today I'm going to be circling back to a special episode from a couple of years ago because I truly think it needs revisiting, especially around this time of the year. It’s called Boundary TF Up with the conscious mom, Erin Morrison. It’s all about the ins and outs of setting boundaries with family during the holidays. Check it out! In this episode… Trauma during the holidays Family How to handle our BIG feelings How to handle setting boundariesHow to make the holidays a time to joy Sense of control Understanding family is not perfect Setting boundaries stigma Steps to setting boundaries Boundary backlash Quality time vs. quantity In-laws not parenting or grandparenting how we wantQuotes: “Oh, the weather outside is delightful, but family time can be frightful, and since there's nowhere else to go, just bring it home, bring it home, bring it home.” - Nikki Spo“It's not about what your family does. It's how they make you feel.” - Erin Morrison “I think all of us really all want a sense of control. We're all trying to control what the energy is or the way the day goes, but the real control is you.” - Erin Morrison “I always say that your feelings are like the waves of the ocean. They come, they go, they ebb, they flow. They will not be there forever, and it's so beautiful to remember.” - Erin Morrison “Pick one boundary for yourself. Start small so we can be successful and we can dip our toe in the pond and see how it feels.” - Erin Morrison “You need to take the elevator from your head to your heart. Drop in there and see what is it that's going to serve me. What do I need this holiday so I can feel good?” - Erin Morrison “Getting on a united front with your partner is one of the biggest steps or precursors to setting said boundary.” - Nikk Spo“A lot of times when we haven't spoken our truth in our families two things happen. One, we just stay silent or two, we let it build and build and build and build. And then one little thing happens and we are exploding like a volcano and everythings on fire.” - Erin Morrison Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:10 | Introduction 4:10 - 6:45 | Understanding why we tend to get hesitant, nervous, and anxious as we approach the holiday season6:45 - 10:05 | Revisiting holiday family trauma with a new sense of inner knowing 10:05 - 19:50 | Handling our BIG feelings 19:50 - 22:30 | Handling setting boundaries 22:30 - 23:30 | Getting over the scary and overwhelming stigma of setting boundaries 23:30 - 27:00 | The precursors to setting boundaries 27:00 - 30:50 | Boundary backlash 30:50 - 33:00 | How to respond to boundary backlash 33:00 - 34:25 | Hot topics about family boundaries 34:25 - 35:40 | Survival guide 35:40 - 37: 30 | Outroduction Connect with Erin Morrison https://theconsciousmom.com/ @itstheconsciousmom Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Hello my friends, welcome back to The Know! I am so thrilled to host today’s guest all the way from across the pond in the UK, Paul Scanlon. Following 30 plus years in the not-for-profit sector, Paul Scanlon now has a focus on empowering and educating people through his online content, courses, mentoring, and speaking. His ability to make complex things simple is a hallmark of his skill as a communicator as well as his belief that it is more important to grow people than things. Today we get to experience a unique one-on-one conversation with him, and we talk about a lot… but the main message here is: YOU ARE NOT HARD TO LOVE. In this episode… Where our beliefs systems come fromWorth & value Nature vs Nurture Identity Difficulty with loving & being lovedNeeding an awakening voice EgoThe Great AwakeningFinding your light switch When the student is ready, the teacher appearsQuotes:“You are not hard to love, Maybe the issue isn't that. Maybe the issue is you're looking for love from the wrong people. This doesn't mean the people that you're looking to love can't love you at all, but they have this cutoff point beyond which you feel no one can love you fully.” - Paul Scanlon “I've had a reckoning with myself about who, what, when, where, and why. All the things about myself came into question. I don't see it, like you said, how many people do as a midlife crisis. I do see it as a midlife unraveling and a reckoning, and an awakening of sorts that I'm very privileged to have arrived at.” - Nikki Spo “I think people need an awakening voice in a book, podcast, conversation, or a movie or TV show. Something random that wakes them up away from their attachment to their egoic identity.” - Paul Scanlon “For the lights to come on for someone through what I do It is the most exhilarating, rewarding thing because I was that person. I got no help. All of my awakenings came from struggling and stumbling more than I should have done. That's why now I love to help people turn the light on, but most importantly, my job isn't to keep turning your light on for you, It's to show you where the light switch is.” - Paul Scanlon “I want to be publicly and openly sober because I think people need examples of what it can look like, even if it’s not perfect.” - Nikki Spo “People don't know that they're not conscious. That's the problem we all have. Everybody thinks that they're conscious. So when we talk to people about being unconscious, they don't know what we mean.” - Paul Scanlon “There's this saying that when the student's ready, the teacher appears. What this ancient Eastern wisdom means is that your growth and your education and your waking up, is far more to do with your readiness than it is to do with teachers.” - Paul Scanlon “If you can encapsulate your why, your purpose, your wake-up mantra in a piece of jewelry or clothing or a piece of artwork or a tattoo, then go ahead and do that because it's not random. Getting something in your life or on your body that is your story or reminds you of what this cost you is a part of waking up.” - Paul Scanlon Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction 2:10 - 6:40 | Stuff happens to all of us! 6:40 - 11:35 | Feeling hard to love 11:35 - 16:55 | Coaching people to happiness / Ego identity 16:55 - 18:25 | Leading by example & finding your example 18:25 - 22:10 | Guiding people to their own sense of consciousness and awakening 22:10 - 26:40 | Time and place of reading a book 26:40 - 31:15 | Long term love & partnership 31:15 - 34:45 | Being comfortable in your own skin34:45 - 36:28 | Outroduction Connect with Paul Scanlon https://www.paulscanlon.com/ @paulscanlonuk / @PaulScanlon Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back, my friends! I am SO excited about this episode with Sonni Abatta. She is the host of the podcast We Gotta Talk, as well as an Emmy-nominated and AP award-winning journalist. Sonni is a true connoisseur of the art of staying untriggered in our media-dense world while upholding her simple yet powerful mantra, "Real Talk, Big Topics.” Tune in as we will be diving into some of the “Real Talk, Big Topics.”In this episode… The Second Amendment How to talk to your kids about school shootingsGun controlCheat-proofing your marriage Getting outside of your “echo chamber”Stay-at-home mom vs. working momBeauty standardsRaising girls Understanding technology & online information Tolerance Activators vs. mediatorsParentingQuotes: “I really developed a knack for taking big topics and turning them into digestible and easy-to-understand conversations.” - Sonni Abatta “What works for me to remain calm is to look at people with opposing opinions as humans rather than objects of my anger or ire. Remembering the human behind the story.” - Sonni Abatta “I don't want to be surrounded by people who are like me. I want to be friends with people who are from different places, who believe different things.” - Sonni Abatta “Every marriage is so unique and it has its own ways of operating, its own rules, its own systems in place. There are too many variables for anybody to really, truly opine on what they would do or what they should do.” - Nikki Spo“I remember when I had my kids… Being at home every day felt like it was like Groundhog Day every day. I am grateful that I've been able to create this work life for myself where I get to do something I love.” - Nikki Spo “I wanna tell my kids, especially my daughters, you owe no one any explanation for who you are or how you are. As long as you're respectful, following the law and not promoting hate, you owe nobody an explanation for who you are and why you are who you are. It took me 40 years to actually feel that when I say it.” - Sonni Abatta Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:00 | Introduction 3:00 - 5:30 | About Sonni Abatta & We Gotta Talk podcast 5:30 - 7:20 | Digesting & processing online information & technology 7:20 - 10:50 | Raising girls in today's world 10:50 - 14:45 | Being able to remain untriggered 14:45 - 16:00 | The beauty of being a mediator 16:00 - 20:40| The Second Amendment 20:40 - 23:25 | Tips on how to talk to your kids about school shootings 23:25 - 28:25 | Different ways of parenting28:25 - 32:15 | Whether or not couples can cheat-proof their marriage 32:15 - 33:35 | Stay-at-home mom vs. working mom 33:35 - 41:15 | Feminism 41:15 - 47:00 | The contradiction of caring about how you look vs. raising a girl & body positivity 47:00 - 49:18 | Outroduction Connect with Sonni Abatta https://wegottatalk.com/ @sonniabatta / @wegottatalkwithsonni Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to another week of Nikki Spo // UNVEILED. Last week, I focused on the importance of vulnerability and staying true to your emotions. Today, I want to talk about a topic that has been paramount in my life, quite literally life-changing, and something I think is the most powerful emotion or action that someone can have or do, and that is forgiveness. The ability to forgive is a superpower, and I want to share this power with all of you! In this episode…The ability to forgive Myths about forgiveness Elements of humility Empathy Being a forgiver who wants to be forgiven Forgiving people & systems NOT Convincing someone to be sorry Humbly asking for forgiveness Self-worth Brené Brown on forgiveness Never giving up on yourself Pain & resentment Expressing your feelings Healthy release of emotions Quotes:“I want to address some myths about forgiveness. One, is that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. Two, forgive and forget is the rule. Three, forgiveness is immediate. And four, you can only forgive someone who is actually sorry.”“Love is a part of forgiveness. Empathy is a part of forgiveness. Humility is part of forgiveness. Forgiveness is this all-encompassing, all-inclusive, super emotion or super ability.”“Holding on to pain, anger, and resentment only poisons your own well.”“Numerous times in my life I had to forgive people who weren't sorry for hurting me. Truly, I don't even think of it as had to anymore. I think of it as I get to or got to.” “From personal experience, being on both ends of the forgiveness spectrum, I know that forgiveness most benefits the forgiver because it grants the forgiver space to release their resentments and live a more happy, joyous, and free life.” “You get to choose to forgive, and you get to choose with whom, what, when, where, why, and how you move forward.”“Forgiveness is a process that does not exclude hatred and anger.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:20 | Introduction & myths about forgiveness 1:20 - 3:45 | Myth 1: Forgiveness makes you weak3:45 - 5:35 | Myth 2: Forgive and forget is the rule 5:35 - 6:30 | Myth 3: Forgiveness is immediate 6:30 - 9:00 | Myth 4: You can only forgive someone who is actually sorry 9:00 - 10:10 | Courage, humility, & empathy 10:10 - 11:00 | Being the forgiver & being forgiven 11:00 - 12:00 | Having a strong sense of self-worth 12:00 - 14:55 | Words from Brené Brown 14:55 - 15:40 | Pain & resentment 15:40 - 16:47 | OutroBrené Brown brenebrown.com Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to another episode of Nikki Spo // UNVEILED. I am digging DEEP into my personal life and discussing things that really hit home for me. Join me as I dive into the importance of being true to yourself and your feelings. Vulnerability is a word I hold close to my heart. Over the years, I have learned to enjoy my vulnerability so much that I created a show around the idea of people finding and celebrating their deepest sense of inner knowing. In this episode…The power of vulnerability Brené Brown Myths about being vulnerable The impact of social mediaFalse realities Comparison and external validation Curated social media world Community Finding joy in vulnerability Using sensitivity as a power Shame Connectivity Speaking your truth Right to privacy Attention seeking Learning to withhold judgmentCourage & Bravery Freeing from the chains of shame Quotes: “Becoming vulnerable publicly has been very liberating.” “I think I've had an innate desire to speak my truth with a fearless sense of vulnerability ever since I was a child.” “We can’t really see and accept other people if we ourselves do not feel safe enough to be ourselves.”“Tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.”“Am I still worthy of forgiveness, love, compassion, empathy, and respect? On a soul level, I knew and continue to know that the answer is yes.”“I want to encourage you just to be open to the idea of being vulnerable. To not close your heart in the hopes of avoiding pain but to open your heart so that you can feel freedom and peace.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 0:50 | Introduction 0:50 - 1:50 | Brené Brown's collection of teachings on authenticity, connection, and courage1:50 - 2:30 | Letting your guard down 2:30 - 3:40 | The impact of social media 3:40 - 5:20 | Sense of community 5:20 - 6:35 | Having a crutch 6:35 - 7:50 | Allowing ourselves to be seen 7:50 - 8:30 | Connectivity 8:30 - 10:00 | Giving meaning to my platform 10:00 - 10:55 | Understanding different perspectives 10:55 - 12:40 | Courage & bravery are two different things 12:40 - 13:20 | Courage to be vulnerable 13:20 - 15:07 | Be open to the idea of being vulnerable Brené Brown: The Power Of Vulnerability Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This week on The Know, we are tapping into another episode within an episode! I have been having SO much fun as a guest on these podcasts and being on the other side of the questions. I recently had the privilege of being hosted on The Mindful Corner podcast by Dr. Erika Velez, a previous guest on episode 101 of The Know with Nikki Spo.In this episode I am opening up about my sobriety and how I have found hope. We explore various aspects of self-forgiveness and moving forward in life during our discussions. My goal, along with Dr. Velez, is to touch the lives of others by sharing this impactful and personal episode, even if it resonates with just one person.In this episode… The power of storytelling Searching for safety in our mind & body Addiction Sexual abuse Parental love Escapism Trauma psychology Divorce Finding maturity at a young age Financial Independency Child vs. Adult Resentment Alcoholism“Mommy wine culture” Unhealthy coping skills Personal rock bottom Sober curious & controlled drinking A 12 step program & therapy Pride within yourself Quotes:“The whole premise of this show is to share our experiences with the hopes that someone out there listening can relate and can draw something from these stories.” - Dr. Erika Velez “It doesn't matter what your rock bottom looked like. You could have a rock bottom on the floor of your penthouse apartment in the middle of Manhattan, or you could have your rock bottom underneath a bridge homeless. Your rock bottom is your rock bottom. Whatever it takes to make you say, I have to make a change in my life.” - Nikki Spo“I came to a place where I was able to admit to myself and to another human being that I was powerless over alcohol and that my life had become unmanageable.” - Nikki Spo“I feel like I know who I am because of my sobriety. I did not know who I was when I was drinking. I was able to start my business in my sobriety, my own podcast, where I feel like I'm helping hundreds of thousands of people.” - Nikki Spo“Honestly, being part of a 12 step program is one of the most amazing experiences I've ever taken in my life.” - Nikki Spo“Do I need to look at my coping skills and question whether I need to readjust them? Do I still need to be living in survival? Or is it time to readjust and say, okay, what do I need now instead of to survive to actually thrive?” - Dr. Erika Velez “I see that like the phoenix, you know, rises from the ashes and alchemizes their story, uses it, turns that pain into some type of purpose. That's what I'm gathering from you Nikki.” - Dr. Erika Velez“I always say there's no coincidences. So if you're listening and something inside you is saying, this is my call to action. I hope that you answer.” - Dr. Erika Velez Timestamps: 0:00 - 1:25 | The Know Introduction 1:25 - 6:15 | Nikki’s personal history 6:15 - 8:55 | Finding an escape 8:55 - 11:10 | Dealing with divorced parents 11:10 - 15:35 | Independence 15:35 - 21:15 | Alcoholism & unhealthy coping skills 21:15 - 24:20 | Finding sobriety 24:20 - 27:10 | How to address your own alcoholic problem 27:10 - 28:30 | Taking it one day at a time 28:30 - 30:30 | Still having a need to escape 30:30 - 34:30 | Tools to finding peace 34:30 - 36:15 | Forgiveness 36:15 - 37:20 | Being proud of yourself 37:20 - 41:30 | Understanding what is true Connect with The Mindful Corner - Dr. Erika Velez https://themindfulcorner.libsyn.com/ @themindfulcorner Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.