Parenting with Dignity with Evelyn Mendal. Ep. 172

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER TODAY with your special discounted rate: HERE Welcome back! This week we have Evelyn Mendal who is a mom to two strong-willed, different humans, who are seven and a half years apart. She is a licensed Child and Adolescent Therapist providing individual family therapy and parent coaching with her practice, Hatch and Bloom, which she founded in 2012. Evelyn’s areas of expertise are parenting and child development and she founded Hatch and Bloom as a resource for parents who want to parent with the purpose of raising confident, accepted, and resilient children. Tune in! In this episode… Hatch and Bloom Ethos Stereotyping your Child Separating Personal Character Traits vs. Describing Behavior Sibling Dynamics Creating Opportunities to be Collaborative vs Competitive Idea of Fairness Humanizing Emotions Externalizing Meaning for Kids Aspects of Co-Parenting with Kids Perfectionism Boundaries Quotes “The messaging our kids get from the way that they’re treated is how they start to understand who they are” - Evelyn Mendal “Don’t speak to them as who they are, but rather the behavior that you’re seeing” - Evelyn Mendal “You don’t have to make everything fair” - Evelyn Mendal “Kids can handle hard realities, it’s how we deliver it” - Evelyn Mendal “It wasn’t necessarily the child that needed therapy, it was the parents that needed coaching” - Nikki Spo “Pretending to show up with a happy face or a pretended happy face is not serving them” - Evelyn Mendal Timestamps: 0:00 - 0:30 | Reflecting, Letting Go, & Reprogramming ourselves 0:30 - 2:44 | Intro 2:44 - 6:39 | “The way we talk to our Children becomes our inner voice” 6:39 - 7:18 | Having Transparency 7:18 - 9:18 | Falling into Roles 9:18 - 10:21 | Roles in a Family Dynamic 10:21 - 13:13 | Sibling Competitiveness 13:13 - 14:00 | Collaborative vs. Competitive 14:00 - 16:57 | Protecting your Kids Individuality 16:57 - 18:01 | Fairness 18:01 - 24:00 | Acknowledging the Elephant in the Room 24:00 - 25:24 | Internalized vs Externalized Meaning 25:24 - 31:00 | Confident and Capable Attitude with Hard Things 31:00 - 32:25 | One Stable Caregiver 32:25 - 34:38 | Parents Needing Coaching & Kids needing Therapy 34:38 - 35:41 | Learning a New Way to Be in the Face of Triggers 35:41 - 38:45 | Kids Needing to See a Whole Range of Our Feelings 38:45 - 42:00 | Managing Perfectionism 42:00 - 43:30 | “Gentle” Parenting 43:00 - 46:06 | Straight to the Boundary & Cause and Effect 46:06 - 48:43 | Dignity in Parenting 48:43 - 49:32 | Outro — SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW. Join Becoming Her https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Evelyn Mendal https://www.hatchandbloom.co @hatchandbloomco Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappso / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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