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Anonymous says she met a guy while working at a religious organisation years ago and something developed between them but before anything could happen the guy told anonymous that they couldn’t be together due to his position in the organisation.  Anonymous says the guy married someone else about a year later after he told her they couldn’t be. By the time he got married, anonymous had already moved to another province because of work.  Anonymous says she also got married, and after some time the guy contacted anonymous and told her that he missed her and was sorry for everything that happened.  Anonymous says he told her that he was willing to divorce his wife for her but he couldn’t because of his position. Anonymous says they met up and their relationship got sexual but the guy started avoiding her after this.  Anonymous says it’s been a year since he started ignoring her, but she’s struggling to get over him.

Anonymous says she met a guy a month ago and they immediately hit things off. Anonymous says three days into the relationship she snooped around and found out from one her friends that the guy is dating one of her friends in their neighbourhood.  Anonymous says she confronted him about this, however, they’ve continued to date as she says he won’t let her go. Anonymous says she also wants to break things off with him because he might be involved in dodgy businesses.  Anonymous says she also has another guy that she dated previously, who she really likes, but he is married.   Anonymous says dating is showing her flames and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about 5 years, they live together and he’s even paid lobola partially. Anonymous says his partner was pregnant at some point but unfortunately she had a stillbirth. Anonymous says things changed in their relationship from this point. Anonymous says she started drinking and partying more, and would blame anonymous for her stillbirth. Anonymous says he broke things off with her because it was too much but got back together with her months later after she asked him to forgive her.  Anonymous says she continued to be messy and he has now moved out again. Anonymous says he loves her and still wants to be with her but he’s not sure if it can work between them.

Anonymous says she met her partner in late 2023, she says they started as friends and it eventually turned into a romantic relationship. Anonymous says from the onset, they were honest with each other, had great communication and even shared about their past relationship traumas.   Anonymous says things have now taken a turn in their relationship after she found suspicious texts between him and another lady on his phone. Anonymous says she confronted him about this, he said they would talk about it, but that’s never happened.  Anonymous says the communication in their relationship has broken down and she doesn’t understand where they are at in their relationship.  Anonymous just wants him to be open and honest with her so she can better understand what’s happening between them.

Anonymous says she met a guy 4 years ago and 5 months into their relationship he told her that he was in a relationship with someone else, after initially denying this fact. Anonymous says he told that her was with the mother of his child and they live together but their relationship is not great.  Anonymous says despite this fact, he’s a great partner who takes care of her and is always there for her which makes it so difficult to leave him.  She says 4 years later she doesn’t even know where he lives, he’s promised her that their relationship will eventually turn into something more but she’s not tired of the situation.

Anonymous says he his ex partner in varsity in 2019 and they started dating back then. Anonymous says post varsity, they moved in together and he was taking care of both of them financially at the time.  Anonymous says their relationship was tumultuous, there was infidelity and lots of other conflicts in their relationship.  Anonymous says he then got a job opportunity in another area and their relationship became long distant. This added fuel to the fire and they ended up breaking up.  Anonymous suspects that she might have been cheating on him while they were still together. He’s tried to get back together with her, but it hasn’t worked out.  Anonymous wonders if he did the right thing by giving up on their relationship, especially because they have a child together.

Anonymous called last year and told us that her husband can’t seem to keep a job as he finds jobs and then resigns unreasonably after a short period of working.  At the time anonymous was advised to stand by her man, bring in the family and also check if there could be witchcraft involved.  It’s 7 months later since she called Ask a Man and she says she’s tried all that and it doesn’t seem to be helping. Anonymous says she wants to give up now.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years now and and she gave birth to their child late last year.  Anonymous says after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her. Anonymous says they patched things up after the infidelity, however, she’s struggling to move on from the cheating.  Anonymous says she still loves him and wants to be with him but needs help with forgiving him and moving on from his cheating.

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 10 years and they’ve known each from childhood as they grew up in the same area.  Anonymous says a few years ago, while her and her husband were going through a rough patch, she met someone else and says the connection with this person was strong and passionate.  Anonymous says they’ve eventually worked things out with her husband and she agreed with her husband to let the  other guy go and focus on them.  Anonymous says she never really stopped thinking about this other guy and he has now made contact with her after about a year and a half, and their connnection is very intense. Anonymous says things are great with her husband but she feels like the other guy could be the one and wonders if she can live with never trying with this guy.

Anonymous has currently been with his partner of 10 years and they are in a customary marriage. Anonymous says his partner only realised after the fact that because they completed the lobola process they couldn’t sign a prenup as they are already in a customary marriage.  Anonymous says his partner said at the time that she would never be happy in their relationship as she wanted to be married out of community of property because she doesn’t want anonymous’ children to benefit from her assets.  Anonymous says years later his partner separated from him as she wasn’t happy. Anonymous says time has gone by and his partner is still saying she’s not ready to get back together with him.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 10 years and he’s paid half the lobola to her family and 3 years ago and they now also have a child.  Anonymous says her partner once cheated on her and after going their separate ways for about 6 months because of this, she eventually forgave and they got back together.  Anonymous says it’s years later now and he’s been acting dodgy over the last few months. Anonymous says he tends to go out with friends and disappear on her without explanation. Anonymous says they fought about his behaviour last week and he left again and as it stands right now he doesn’t know where he is.  Anonymous says she doesn’t know if she should stay in this relationship, as she suspects that he could be cheating on her again.

Anonymous says he met his ex wife 20 years ago in varsity and they immediately clicked but things came to an end when she dropped out of school. They reconnected 15 years later and ended u getting married.  Anonymous says their relationship was great, however they went through a lot: she lost her parents in consecutive years and he got sick. Anonymous says it became a lot on them and they ended up divorcing.  Anonymous says some time has gone by and they started talking to each other again and sparks are flying. Anonymous says they could get back together, but he’s not sure if he can risk  his heart.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 5 years, they’ve been living with each other for 3 years and they have a 1 year-old child.  Anonymous says she has an 8 year-old child and spoke to him about her child moving from her grandmother and living with them. Anonymous says her partner then went home to see his family and when he came back earlier this year, anonymous’ older child had moved in to their place.  Anonymous says since he’s been back, he’s been offish and she thinks he doesn’t like her older son. This tension led to them fighting and anonymous eventually moved out of that place and back to her own house.  Anonymous says they are not really speaking and are even making arrangements for visitations. Anonymous is not sure how to move forward

Anonymous saying she’s recently moved to a new city  and then things ended in her relationship with her previous partner because of the distance.  Anonymous says she’s now met someone new, soon after the break-up, but feels like maybe she’s rushing into things after the break up.  Anonymous says she feels like the new guy is different to the other guys she’s dated. She feels like he’s dominant, but also bordering on being controlling. Anonymous is not sure if she’s just feeling this way because she’s fresh from a break-up.

Anonymous called last year having troubles in her relationship and adding that she would like to be in a throuple type of situation where she would be with her man, at the time, and another woman, all dating each other at the same time. Anonymous says after calling into the show, she decided to take a break to work on herself, as she felt like she was attracting the same type of guys she doesn’t want to be with.  Anonymous says she’s been doing well on this journey but now feels like she’s still attracting the same type of men that she feels are not good for her and treat her poorly…

Anonymous says she met and started dating her partner in 2020. Anonymous says a year later in 2021 the guy started the lobola process in order to marry her.   Anonymous says they were blessed with a baby in 2022, but after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her while she was at home nursing their new baby.  Anonymous says they separated after the infidelity incident, and got back together after family intervention months later. Anonymous says she’s recently given birth to their child.  Anonymous says her partner is now currently driving her car but she’s noticed, via tracker, that he’s been making some questionable trips to BNBs and when she tracked him down and confronted him about this, he denied having an affair…

Anonymous says she’s speaking on her friend’s behalf…  Anonymous says she met a guy who’s son plays soccer with her son. They knew each other but only started talking when the guy gave anonymous a lift with her son to soccer practice.  Anonymous says the lifts continued and feelings grew between them, even though the guy has a girlfriend. Anonymous says they caught feelings for each other and started having a relationship.  Anonymous says the problem is that he tends to disappear on him and then comes back all lovey lovey. Anonymous is not sure how to deal with the situation.

Anonymous says she’s been dating a guy for about 2 months, after meeting him in November last year. Anonymous says she started dating this guy a while after her previous relationship with her ex who says is a narcissist.  Anonymous says weeks into the relationship he started showing signs of narcissism. She says his behaviour is reminding her of her ex and it’s turning her off. Anonymous says she’s slowly fazed him out of her life and he’s been trying to get back in.  Anonymous says he has now resorted to saying that it’s ok if they don’t to date, they can just have sexual relationship and he’ll pay her for this.  Anonymous says she still kind of likes him and finds herself confused by this offer and the meaning of their relationship.

Anonymous says she has two kids from different fathers and says she’s now in a new relationship with a new guy who she says loves her and her kids.  Anonymous says things have been going well in their relationship until the mother of her partner’s two children found out about their relationship and has now sent those two children to come live with anonymous and her partner.  Anonymous says she loves her partner’s kids but says she’s struggling with now raising 4 children, and says she bares most of the burden of taking care of the 4 children.  Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this.

Anonymous says she was married for 5 years and divorced her husband in 2023. Anonymous says later that year she got into a long distance situationship with a new guy.  Anonymous says communication is a bit of a problem in their relationship, she says he tends to disappear for days without saying anything and she leaves things that way but he has complained that he feels like her behaviour indicates that she is not that into him.  Anonymous is wondering if she really is disconnected in the relationship, she says every other aspect of the relationship is good, and doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she got married to her partner in 2020 after a year of being together and just before they had their first child.  Anonymous says at the beginning of their marriage she noticed that he wasn’t being fully transparent about his finances and she confronted him about that and that’s when he came clean and revealed details of the money he’s spending on his mom.  Anonymous says as time went by, her husband’s mother started calling anonymous, telling her that since she came into her son’s life, he doesn’t support her financially like he used to before he got married to anonymous.  Anonymous says her partner’s mother and other family members don’t have boundaries and are often rude when speaking to anonymous. Anonymous says she’s spoken to her partner about this but he doesn’t seem to be confronting his family about their behaviour.

Anonymous says she met an amazing guy last year in July, after breaking up with a man who she says was toxic and a serial cheater.  Anonymous says the relationship with the new guy has been going well but recently she unblocked her toxic ex and he ended up calling her and they spoke on the phone.  The issue now is that anonymous’ current partner found out about this call and is now angry at anonymous for unblocking her ex and not telling her current partner about this call.  Anonymous says she had told her partner about her ex and how horrible he was to her. Anonymous says her partner is now not speaking to her and won’t hear her out, she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she started dating her partner in 2009 while she was in matric. She says the relationship went well and they eventually got married and now have 3 kids together.  Anonymous says in 2022 while she was pregnant with their third child she found out that her husband had impregnated someone else. Anonymous says this caused a rift in their relationship and she ended up in a situation where she was fighting to get him back and he was refusing.  Anonymous says her husband then lost his job and she took him back in her life an supported him, even when she lost her job, she used the little that she had to help him.  Anonymous says he then found a job, but left her and moved back home to his family’s home, where the lady he impregnated lives.  Anonymous says he’s supporting the children financially but their relationship is strained and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she got married to her high school sweetheart in 2017 and says their relationship was generally great. Anonymous says they had a child in 2019, but things got weird in 2023 when his behaviour changed and he was always irritable and seemed to be annoyed by her. Anonymous says the communication in their relationship also faded.  Anonymous says she eventually caught him cheating on her and after she confronted him about it, he said nothing and just moved out of their home. Anonymous says he’s still with the lady he cheated on her with and has even introduced that lady to his family.  Anonymous says she’s struggling to move on.

Anonymous says he got married to his wife back in 2017 and shortly after they got married she started having an affair with her ex. Anonymous says he confronted her about this and she asked him for forgiveness, which he gave her but told her that something was broken between and that there would be consequences of her actions.  Anonymous says 5 years after his wife cheated on him, he ran into his high school sweetheart and he started having an affair with her. Anonymous’ wife now knows that he’s having an affair with his ex and he feels like he’s more in love with his ex than he is with his wife.  Anonymous says he never got over the cheating and doesn’t know how to move forward from here.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 10 years and they have a child together. When she called in last year she shared how she felt like her partner was not contributing financially in their household.  Anonymous says that situation has persisted and another thing is that they are in a civil marriage but their families are not aware of this situation.  Anonymous says he keeps coming up with financial excuses about why they can’t have an African traditional marriage, but she just doesn’t understand this. Anonymous is worried she might have made a mistake by marrying him.

Anonymous says she met a guy during our singles week here on Break Away last December. Anonymous says after he slides into her DMs things went well and she says he even involved her in many aspects of his life.  Anonymous says when the guy was looking for a new apartment, he roped her in and asked her to pick the apartment as she would also live there with him.  Anonymous says he’s said “I love you” to her and wants to introduce her to his family. Anonymous is worried that things are moving too fast between them.

Anonymous says he was with his ex for a while and they even ended up buying a house together. Anonymous says during the course of the relationship, his partner cheated on him several times and he kept forgiving her until he couldn’t.  Anonymous says they ended up breaking up, however, they still live in the house together and the mood in the house is very tense and they are struggling to live with each other. Anonymous says selling the house is hard because of the current market conditions in their area. Anonymous feels stuck in this situation and doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she met a guy in 2021 and says things were generally good in their relationship to point where they started trying for a baby.  Anonymous says the guy had fertility issues but eventually got medication and she fell pregnant but later miscarried.  Anonymous says she found out the guy was cheating on her and he even impregnated another woman which led to anonymous breaking up with him.  Anonymous says time went by and the guy reached out to her wanting to get back together, however, he now has a second baby with another woman. Anonymous is not sure if she should get back together with him, especially because he now has two children. 

Anonymous says after going through a break-up in 2023, she went through a lot of anxiety and had to do a lot healing from that break-up. Anonymous says the issue now is a friend she’s known for most of her life that she has always sort of had feelings for but they never got together.  Anonymous says after her break-up they became closer with this guy and he eventually confessed his feelings for anonymous but she pushed him away because she wasn’t emotionally ready.  Fast forward to now, anonymous reached out to the guy and they linked up just last night but after anonymous asked, he revealed that he’s now in a relationship with someone else whom he really loves.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for almost 6 years and their relationship has been good. Anonymous says her partner has introduced her to his parents but she hasn’t introduced him to her parents.  Anonymous says this has caused a rift in their relationship because it limits the kind of activities they can do as a couple and that limits their relationship in general.  Anonymous says her partner has brought this up and wants anonymous to tell her parents about him. She’s not sure about that as her parents are very strict and she would rather complete varsity first, before telling them.

Anonymous says he has 3 children with his partner and things were fine in their relationship until he found out, via texts on his partner’s phone, that she was busy with someone at the gym.  Anonymous says he confronted her about this, but she turned things on him and would even insult him. Anonymous says she eventually made it clear that she wanted to be with the other guy and that’s when they went their separate ways.  Anonymous says time has gone by and his financial situation has improved. They now have a good co-parenting relationship, and she wants to get back together. Anonymous says he still loves her but he’s not sure if he should get back together with him.

Anonymous says he’s been dating his partner for a few years now and back in 2021 she said to anonymous that she no longer want’s to have sex for religious reasons and wants them to save themselves for marriage.  Anonymous says despite this, he found out that she was actually sleeping with someone else. Anonymous says he forgave her and they moved on with the relationship. Anonymous says time went by and she once again said she wants to pause on the sex and he realised that this time around she was serious about her religion.  Anonymous says he then cheated on her with someone else and she ended up finding out...

Anonymous says she met a guy last year and things were not too serious when they started as they were both in relationships with other people.  Anonymous says they ended up agreeing to break up with their partners, she broke up with her partner but later realised that he hadn’t broken up with his partner.  Anonymous says he’s still in a relationship with the other lady and he can’t seem to decide what he wants and has floated the idea of continuing with dating both of them. Anonymous is not sure if she should stay in a relationship with him, as she really loves him.

Anonymous says she’s been with her current partner, guy no.1,  for about 8 years and says he has a child with another woman who she believes he might be married to traditionally.  Anonymous says guy no.1 also cheated on her multiple times and threatened to kill anonymous if she ever leaves him. However, she says they ended up separating at some point and that’s when she met guy no.2, who is a married man and they’ve been together for about 3 years, she says he’s very supportive and there’s conversations about getting into a polygamous marriage.  Anonymous says she then met guy no.3 about 5 months ago, their relationship has been going well, she gets along with his family, and she feels like she’s in love with him, however anonymous says she thinks they are not really compatible and she’s not sure about building something with him.

Anonymous says he met his partner about two years ago and they dated for a while before she fell pregnant.  Anonymous says things have gotten a bit weird in their relationship and he confronted his partner about feeling a gap between them. Anonymous says during that conversation he asked her what he did wrong and she responded that she feels like he’s too soft for her and doesn’t really enjoy anonymous’ personality or his dress style. Anonymous says she now wants to break-up with him, he doesn’t want to break-up with her. Anonymous says he’s not sure if he should fight for her.        

Anonymous says she got married in 1994 after knowing her partner for 3 months. Anonymous says months into the marriage she noticed strange things at her partner’s family home, including a small snake, at which point she moved back home.  They eventually moved into their own place and even had children. Anonymous says after up-skilling herself and getting a job, her partner started financially and emotionally abusing her and things were never great in their relationship from that point.  Anonymous says this went on for years and she eventually filed for divorce in 2020. Anonymous says it’s been a few years now since the divorce and she’s feeling lonely but struggling to get back into the dating game.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 6 years and they a 2 year-old daughter together and she came into the relationship with a child who’s now 6 years old.  Anonymous says things were fine but over the years she feels like her partner has become emotionally abusive and manipulative. Anonymous says a lot of the abuse is towards her 6 year-old child and he’s always chiding her child for various unreasonable issues.  Anonymous says she’s spoken to him about his behaviour towards her child but he’s not changing and even physically abuses her son. Anonymous says she want’s to end things but is not sure how to go about doing that, especially because they have a child together.

Anonymous says he was in a relationship with a lady for many years and things were fine until her ex came back into he picture and wanted to be with this lady.  Anonymous says this caused a lot of conflict in their relationship, however, the situation was muted when this lady realised she was pregnant. Anonymous says after the baby was born the lady went back to her cheating ways and it led to him breaking up with her.  Anonymous says she’s not allowing him access to their child and when he threatened to bring in social workers, she insinuated to him that the child might not even be his. Anonymous is not sure how to go about determining the paternity of the child or how to process the fact that the child might not be his.

Anonymous says the relationship with his ex was great and they had access to each others phones. Anonymous says he would see pictures of other guys on her phone but she denied there was anything happening with those guys.  Anonymous says things took a turn when she went on what she said was a vacation with her cousins and some other guys, but anonymous later realised that she was actually on vacation with her other boyfriend.  Anonymous says they fought about this and she essentially isn’t sure what she wants to do, anonymous says he has removed himself from the situation but now he’s not sure if he wants to try again with her.

We switched things up a little on the last episode of Ask a Man for the year; We requested listeners to share their relationship good news and stories of supportive partners. 

Anonymous says she was married to her husband for 10 years when he passed away in 2022. Anonymous says her late husband’s friend got close to her and was supportive and they eventually kissed.  Anonymous says shortly after this they made an arrangement, anonymous would have sex with her late husband’s friend and the friend would support anonymous financially. Anonymous says the friend is married. Anonymous says the arrangement continued but in June this year she met a new guy who she really likes and she ended things with the friend. Her relationship with the new guy was going well until this new guy found out about anonymous’ relationship with her late husband’s friend who was still calling anonymous.  Anonymous is not sure if she should fight for the relationship with the new guy.

Anonymous says she’s been married to her partner since 2021, after knowing the guy for a year. Anonymous says when she met him, she was aware of his wild ways in his previous relationship where he cheated multiple times and had children outside of that relationship.  Anonymous says he became even worse in their marriage, where he even cheated on her with her best friend and would bring all kinds of girls to their place, anonymous says he’s fathered 3 children outside their marriage.  Anonymous says she eventually moved to another province so she could fade away from their relationship but her husband packed up and joined her in that province saying he loves her and she assumed he was serious.  Anonymous says he’s continued with his shenanigans but she’s struggling to leave their relationship because she feels like she’s too financially linked to him.

Anonymous says he was with his partner for 6 years and they met in varsity. Anonymous says at some point their relationship became a long distance relationship after leaving varsity, and for many years they were living in separate areas.  Anonymous says they were eventually both able to live in the same area, however, things took a turn in their relationship when he realised that his partner had been cheating on him by going on dates with other people.  Anonymous says he broke up with her because cheating is a dealbreaker for him. But months later he’s struggling to get over his love for her. Anonymous says he tried therapy and journaling but the only thing that makes him feel better is chatting to her.

Anonymous says he started dating his partner in 2022 and in the same year he found out that she was having an affair and cheating on him. Anonymous says his partner denied this and they moved forward. Anonymous says in 2023 he once again found out that she was cheating on him and yet again, his partner denied the cheating. Anonymous says she then fell pregnant with his child late last year. Cut to 2024 and anonymous says he found out once again that she was cheating on him and this time around she finally admitted it and admitted to anonymous that she had been cheating on him all those other times. Anonymous says she now wants to start on a clean slate, he still loves her but is not sure if he should continue with the relationship.

Anonymous says she was a dating a guy about 5 years ago and he was cheating on her and the girl he was cheating on her with would harass anonymous, to a point where anonymous got a restraining order against her but the guy said to her that he didn’t want any involvement in the situation. Anonymous says they eventually broke up however she fell pregnant with this guy’s child and says he wasn’t supportive and only came back into anonymous’ life 8 months after the child was born and tried to get back into anonymous’ life, but that didn’t work out. Fast forward to now, anonymous says she’s now been in a relationship with someone else for 3 years and the father of her child is back in her life again and the same girl is back to harassing anonymous again. Anonymous says the guy wants to be back together with her, and said he’ll support the child only if they are back together.

Background: Yesterday anonymous called and spoke of a guy no.1 and a guy no.2. She said things were not great with guy no.1 because he was always cheating on her. Anonymous then met guy no.2 and dated both of them at the same time but eventually broke up with guy no.1, anonymous said she’s now with guy no.2 and called about their current issues. This morning we’re speaking to guy no.1 who says he needs to set the record straight: He says he wasn’t a serial cheater and things weren’t great between them because of the financial issues he was facing. Anonymous also says guy no.2 is someone he knows and used to hangout with. Guy no.1 says he found out from a friend that anonymous was cheating on him with guy no.2 and he broke up with her. Guy no.1 says he’s back together with anonymous currently and after calling Ask a Man yesterday, anonymous told guy no.1 that she’s done with guy no.2 and they spent the night together last night. Guy no.1 is not sure what to do in this situation.