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Anonymous has been with his partner for five years. He supported her financially as she was unemployed when they met.  She eventually found a job in another province and moved there. He then lost his job and decided to move in with her but when he got there he realised she was cheating on him.  He forgave her and they moved on but she continued to cheat on him. He wants to leave her, but he’s financially reliant on her and he’s not sure if he can break things off with her. 

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 19 years and married for 17 of those years.  Her husband cheated on her twice with the same woman from work, and he wasn’t very remorseful at the time, but they eventually reconciled due to his change in attitude and behaviour.  He then moved to another company, however, that lady now also works at that same company and this is giving her a lot of anxiety, as she wonders if he’s still in a relationship with that other woman.

Anonymous has been married for 5 years to his current wife, they have one child together and he has one other child he had many years ago. Yesterday he found out that he has a 16-year-old daughter he didn’t know about.  He revealed this to his wife and she’s upset about this development, to a point of wanting to break up. Anonymous is confused by her behaviour and adds that his wife has been unfaithful multiple times in the past. 

Anonymous has been married for about three years now but she’s not happy in this marriage. She’s attempted to leave, but didn’t go through with it.  She’s been feeling this way since she caught him cheating on her. They moved on from this infidelity but she feels like he’s probably going to cheat again based on how terribly he treats her now.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for almost 9 years now.  She says in the early years of their relationship she ended up getting a loan for him to be able to purchase a car, on his request. He had said he’d pay it off, but he had financial struggles and she needed up paying off the loan.  They eventually got married and decided to get a house together but he didn’t qualify for a mortgage so she ended up getting the house under her name. They are married in community of property…

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Anonymous has been with his partner for four years now. This relationship started as a result of him cheating on his previous partner.  He had a child with the ex he cheated on and they’ve been co-parenting well this whole time, they got closer again, which led to him sleeping with this ex on more than one occasion.  The ex caught feelings and wanted them to get back together, but he’s happy with his current partner and ended the affair with his ex.  The ex got angry and sent his current partner evidence of their affair. 

As 2025 draws to a close, we’re catching up with some of the people we’ve had on ‘Ask a Man’ over the last year! If you have any Ask a Man anonymous you think we should definitely catch up with, WhatsApp us on 060 552 7303, letting us know which anonymous you’d like to hear from. 

As 2025 draws to a close, we’re catching up with some of the people we’ve had on ‘Ask a Man’ over the last year! If you have any Ask a Man anonymous you think we should definitely catch up with, WhatsApp us on 060 552 7303, letting us know which anonymous you’d like to hear from. 

Anonymous has a problem with how her wife treats him and deals with conflict.  He says she doesn’t listen to him and doesn’t admit when she’s wrong. He adds that she also confronts and shouts at him in public spaces, and he feels like she doesn’t treat him like an equal partner in the relationship.

Anonymous has been with his partner for 15 years now and they a child together.  He moved to another city this year because of a better job offer and says he took this job because finances were a problem in their relationship.  He started to notice that she became emotionally distant when he’d call her and wasn’t giving him much attention….

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 21 years now and they have three children together.  Their marriage has had its challenges over the years, especially the fact that he doesn’t get along with her family.  He’s now confessed to anonymous that he’s been in a relationship with a lady that works in their business for 14 years now and he has 4 children with her.  He told her that he ended up being in a relationship with this lady because of how her family treats him.