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Anonymous was in an on-and-off relationship with his now ex-partner for the last 7 years.  He experienced a lot of betrayal and toxicity in that relationship and it’s left him in a position where he’s struggling to move forward and trust another woman. He’s asking us to help him to be able to open up to a new relationship.

Anonymous has two children and they have different fathers.  She was with the father of her second child for about 12 years and says it took her 6 years to heal from this relationship after things ended between them. She met another guy who was getting a divorce when they met. He cheated on her multiple times, and abused physically and emotionally.  She’s struggling get over the pain and the hurt of this relationship and doesn’t know if she’ll ever be ok.

Anonymous called us back in February and ended up breaking up with guy no.1 because  of the things he was doing in their relationship. Now, months later, she started building something with a man she met six years ago and things are going well, however, guy no.1 is back in her life and wants to make things work, and the prophet at her church told her that guy no.1 is the one for her. She feels like guy no.2 is great but she doesn’t know him that well and guy no.1 is really trying this time, so she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 7 years now.  She didn’t work when they met, however, in recent years she found a job, and lives in another province because of this job.  The problem between them is finances, she is fairly accomplished now and has bought herself a car and a house. Despite this, she expects him to support her financially by helping her with her house, something he doesn’t understand as she has the means to take care of those things.  They are now separated as a result of this conflict in their relationship.

Anonymous was previously in a long-term relationship and has a child from that relationship.  She feels like she was never really happy in that relationship but stayed in the relationship because her partner was very financially helpful of her and her family, which led to her family pushing her to stay in the relationship even though she wasn’t happy.  She eventually chose herself and realised she has a spiritual calling, through that journey she found a new partner…

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 6 years now.  When he entered this relationship, he already had 4 children from his previous relationships, they initially agreed that they didn’t want to have more kids but they now have two children together.  His issue is her style of dealing with conflict in their relationship as she gets physically and verbally violent.  The first time she got physical with him, he said to her that he would leave her if she reacts that way again, however, they got into a fight recently and she got physical again and even insulted anonymous’ first born son.  She went away after this fight but she’s now back home and he is struggling to forgive her and move on.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about 6 years now, they live together and have a child together.  He says they both work, however, she earns more than he does. He adds that he’s very supportive of her and also helps with a lot of the duties in the house, however, she's not very supportive of him, especially when it comes to finances. 

Anonymous and his current partner have been together since 2010.  Early in their relationship there was an incident where his partner saw him hug his ex while they were at a party and that turned into a conflict between them, they moved on but she never really got over that.  Their relationship became long distance when he moved to another province for work and at some point when he went home he found her behaviour suspicious, confronted her and she confessed to cheating on him because of she felt lonely when he wasn’t around….

Anonymous met a guy back in 2021 when she was doing her final year in varsity, she quickly realised that he was in a relationship while they were in the talking stage and decided not to move forward with a relationship with him.  Years later she reconnected with him but once again they didn’t get into a relationship as she felt like he was still recovering from a recent break-up.  They reconnected again this year and this time around they finally got into a relationship.  He said to her that he’s serious about her and wants to marry her one day but she feels like he’s not acting serious because he doesn’t want her to meet his children right now, just months into their relationship.

Anonymous recently started dating guy and says things between them have moved very fast but she’s starting to pick up that his financial problems are worse than what she thought they were. She’s already in love with him and wants to help but this is all a bit too much for her as his financial problems are draining her pocket.

Anonymous says she’s in her mid thirties and has two children. She met a man earlier this year, they have a twenty-year age gap and things were going well. She had her suspicions about the man being married so she asked him if he was and he admitted that he is married but his wife has cancer, they haven’t been intimate and he is looking for someone to be intimate with.  They continued with their relationship, at some point she fell pregnant but miscarried. She then found out that he was actually also having an affair with his neighbour, so broke things off but they got back together.  Their relationship has since been toxic and has affected her mentally and emotionally.

Anonymous has been with his partner for two years now, they have a child together, and he says the relationship has been great for the most part.  His problem is that she’s always going out with her friends and he feels like she’s neglecting him & their relationship. He says she also gets very drunk and isn’t a considerate human being when she gets like that.

Anonymous says after his marriage ended he got involved with another lady but quickly realised after they went away together that she’s not the girl for him.  After breaking things off she told him that she was pregnant, they agreed to terminate the pregnancy and went their separate ways. He blocked her after this but unblocked her months later only to realise that she kept the pregnancy.  They were co-parenting well until she moved to another province and started avoiding anonymous. Her strange behaviour and rumours that she was seeing another guy led to him asking for a DNA test.  She agreed to the test but has been dodging it for a couple of years now. He stopped supporting the child as a result of not being sure of paternity. He’s struggling to move on with this big question mark.

Anonymous says she got married very young, her husband is generally a good guy and her family & friends love him but she’s says something has always been missing in their relationship.  She feels as though her loved ones never really listened to her when she would try to express this. She has now moved out from their home as a result of how she feels in this marriage.

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Anonymous moved to a new province for work purposes, she met a guy at the office, they hit it off and started dating.  She soon realised that this guy has a partner and she is a side to him. She gave him an ultimatum to decide whether he moves forward with her or his partner.  She started engaging with another guy while he was still deciding on them. The guy found out that anonymous was busy with someone else and he got upset especially because she was pregnant.  She terminated the baby as result of all this chaos…

Anonymous’ fiancé got arrested 8 years ago and has been in prison since then.  This situation put a strain on their finances and has affected their relationship. He also got into a seemingly transactional relationship with another woman that he met on social media. He said this is to help them financially but she feels like she’s not benefitting from this.  She feels drained by the situation and is not sure what to do.

Anonymous has been with the father of her two children for about 17 years now.  He’s cheated on her multiple times over this period and she’s forgiven him each time. She found out about two years ago that he’s been married this whole time, and still struggles to let go of him.  Despite all of this, she says she loves him a lot and can’t imagine herself dating anyone else.

Anonymous has been with her current partner for over a year now and says they had a child together after being together for about a month.  At the beginning of their relationship her partner told her that he had just broken up with the mother of his child. About a month ago she realised that he has actually continued his relationship with the mother of his other child despite being in a relationship  and living with anonymous.  He has now said that relationship with the mother of his other child is over. But she’s struggling to live on from this.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 9 years now and in the last two months she’s found herself in a relationship with a woman.  She says he’s been cheating on her but she let all of that go. She feels like she’s discovering herself and her sexuality right now. She’s cheated on him before with other women but this particular relationship is more intense & serious.  Her partner wants to marry her and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about six years now and says their relationship has been going well and he’s the man she prayed for.  Her problem is that he never pays attention to his phone when he’s out with family and friends and doesn’t give her any attention when she tries to reach him.  They’ve recently had a fight about this and as usual, he’s now giving her silent treatment. They have also been together for 6 years now and she’s yet to meet a member of his family. 

Anonymous has been with his wife for about two years now and they are in a long-distance relationship. They recently had a fight because he found out, for the first time, that she’s in communication with the father of her child. While their chats were mostly about their child, there are also texts where he refers to anonymous’ wife as “my love”, however, she doesn’t reply in the same way.  They got into a fight because of this and he ended up saying to her that this is why he didn’t want to marry someone who already has children. She was hurt by this and has now blocked anonymous.

Anonymous and his partner have together for a while and they live together.  They often go out together and recently, while they were at a party, his girlfriend joined her friend, who was with some other guys.  He spotted her flirting with one of the other guys and at some point it looked as if she wanted to leave the party with the other guy. This angered anonymous, he confronted her, and even got physical with her, and they needed up going home together.  He’s frustrated and angered by this behaviour and it’s even led him to violent acts and thoughts against her.

Anonymous and her partner were together from the time they were in varsity and they have a child together.  She got a job first and made more strides in her career, while he struggled and was doing well financially which affected their relationship. She ended up breaking up with him because of his financial problems. She then met a woman, who she fell in love with, things were going well in that relationship but she ended up going back to her ex because of her need to have her child living with their mother and father.  This has now become a cycle and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous has been dating a guy for about a year and a half now and he’s a great partner for the most part but the thing that annoys her about him is that he seems to be a bit of a pathological liar, especially when it comes to his finances….

Anonymous says there’s lots of drama in her mother-in-law’s life. Not only is she hiding her relationships with younger men, she’s also in fraudulent dealings that have affected her son, who’s anonymous’ partner…. Her mother-in-law seems to always go out of her way to derail her partner from getting work or making things work for himself.  She doesn’t understand this behaviour and it’s now putting a strain on their relationship. Her and her partner are also intertwined in spiritual rituals that have complicated their relationship. 

Anonymous has been married to her partner for four years now and says they resolved some of the issues they had before they got married but those seem to be coming back into their relationship.  She feels like her partner is too relaxed about how other women behave around him, he downplays it when they get touchy with him, with some of it happening in front of her.  There’s also messages that she’s seen on his phone that she feels cross the line. He has given her full access to his phone. She’s worried about why they are so comfortable behaving that way with him.

Anonymous rekindled things with her ex about a year ago. He broke up with her the first time they dated because he felt like he couldn’t provide for her “as a man” should. After getting back together they spoke about expectations they have of each other but she now feels like he’s expecting too much from her, especially in terms of house chores.  They don’t live together and he expects her to perform all kinds of chores at his place and she doesn’t understand this. She wonders if this is a red flag.

Anonymous got back together with her ex recently after they broke up back in 2018 after he said to her that he didn’t feel like he was emotionally available.  Things initially went well after they rekindled their relationship but then he started pulling away from her. She thinks he’s feeling pressure and emasculated by her because she’s doing better than him financially and in her career. 

Anonymous feels like she’s not satisfying her partner sexually, and thinks the reason is because his previous partner had stretched her labia.  She’s now thinking of stretching hers as well so she can satisfy him, but she’s not sure.   She also thinks this is the reason why he’s cheating on her.

Anonymous has known his friend and colleague for about three years now and says when they initially met they were both in relationships.  Their friendship has grown a lot over the last couple of years and he has realised in recent months that he has romantic feelings for her.  They are now both single and he adds that she is struggling to let go of her abusive ex, and she’s also currently engaging with other potentials sexually.  He doesn’t want to jeopardise their friendship by revealing his feelings for her.

Anonymous has been with his partner for over a year now after they met on social media. They have a big age gap between them, he’s in his 30s and she’s in her 50s. Their relationship is generally fine but she has two children in their twenties, and she’s always hiding anonymous from her children and other people in her life.  She’s also very paranoid and is always accusing him of cheating on her, because she’s struggling to believe that a guy as good looking as anonymous would be with her. 

Anonymous was with her baby daddy for about 11 years, and they currently have one child together, after losing their first child.  The father of her child was constantly cheating on her and it all became too much for anonymous, so she broke up with him, especially because she wa now rekindling things with her ex partner.  Anonymous is now back together with that ex partner but he is struggling with the fact that anonymous has a child with another guy.

Anonymous has been in a relationship with a married man for the last three years and says it’s been a rollercoaster. She has now met a new man, who’s single, seems great, and ticks a lot of boxes. She would like to pursue something with this new guy but says she’s struggling to let go of her married boyfriend.

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 10 years now and says their relationship has been generally good. A few weeks ago, while at a party, he met another lady, they hit it off, and he started having an affair with this lady. While he is just having a fun sexual relationship, this lady, who is married, wants things to get more serious between them. Anonymous is not sure what to do as the only reason he entwined this affair is because the sex between him and his partner has become dull.