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Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for four years, and they share a child together. While their relationship has been stable, everything changed when he discovered that his close friend had slept with his partner before they started dating—and that she never told him. Now, he’s struggling to process the betrayal, the secrecy, and whether he can truly move forward. The team unpacks trust, honesty, and whether the past should define the present.

An anonymous listener reconnects with his high school love, but trust is broken after repeated cheating. Now, despite the pain, he’s struggling to move on from someone he still deeply loves, raising questions about closure, loyalty, and letting go.

An anonymous listener shares her story of helping build a church alongside its leader, forming a close bond that later became complicated when his wife arrived and tensions grew. Years later, distance changed their connection — raising questions about loyalty, boundaries, and emotional attachment.

Anonymous has been with his partner for four years now. This relationship started as a result of him cheating on his previous partner.  He had a child with the ex he cheated on and they’ve been co-parenting well this whole time, they got closer again, which led to him sleeping with this ex on more than one occasion.  The ex caught feelings and wanted them to get back together, but he’s happy with his current partner and ended the affair with his ex.  The ex got angry and sent his current partner evidence of their affair. 

As 2025 draws to a close, we’re catching up with some of the people we’ve had on ‘Ask a Man’ over the last year! If you have any Ask a Man anonymous you think we should definitely catch up with, WhatsApp us on 060 552 7303, letting us know which anonymous you’d like to hear from. 

As 2025 draws to a close, we’re catching up with some of the people we’ve had on ‘Ask a Man’ over the last year! If you have any Ask a Man anonymous you think we should definitely catch up with, WhatsApp us on 060 552 7303, letting us know which anonymous you’d like to hear from. 

Anonymous has a problem with how her wife treats him and deals with conflict.  He says she doesn’t listen to him and doesn’t admit when she’s wrong. He adds that she also confronts and shouts at him in public spaces, and he feels like she doesn’t treat him like an equal partner in the relationship.

Anonymous has been with his partner for 15 years now and they a child together.  He moved to another city this year because of a better job offer and says he took this job because finances were a problem in their relationship.  He started to notice that she became emotionally distant when he’d call her and wasn’t giving him much attention….

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 21 years now and they have three children together.  Their marriage has had its challenges over the years, especially the fact that he doesn’t get along with her family.  He’s now confessed to anonymous that he’s been in a relationship with a lady that works in their business for 14 years now and he has 4 children with her.  He told her that he ended up being in a relationship with this lady because of how her family treats him.

Anonymous met a man about 6 months ago and says when they started dated he told her that he was in a complicated relationship with the mother of his children.  She says communication was fine in the beginning but it hasn’t been so great in recent weeks. When she questioned him about his change of behaviour, he told her that the mother of his child is giving him a hard time and that’s what’s affected him.  She’s not sure what to read into all of this and wonders if she should wait it out and see what happens in this relationship, or just  move on.

Anonymous has been married to his partner for 9 years now and things were fine in their relationship until she lost her job. He feels like she blames him for losing her job, he has now also lost his job and feels frustrated by her expectations of him. 

Anonymous has been married to his high school sweetheart for 5 years now and they’ve known each other for 12 years.  The problem he has is the frequency of sex in their relationship. He’d like to do it more, however, she’s not keen to do it as often.  He adds that they’ve also lost two pregnancies and that’s affected his wife to the point that she’s suggested he get a second wife and that’s what he’s grappling with.

Anonymous is in her early thirties and has been married for three years now. Their relationship is generally fine but the issue is in the bedroom.  They met during the Covid-19 pandemic and spent a lot of time together. While they had a hot sex life in the beginning, things died down just before they got married and they haven’t been the same ever since.  She’s not sure where they went wrong and feels like he’s lost interest in getting intimate with her.

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 13 years now and says the problems in their started when she realised he was cheating back in 2021. She says it was hard for her to deal with this, and what made it worse was that his family knew and condoned it.  She has tried to move on from this but he doesn’t seem remorseful and she’s not happy with how his family handled the whole situation.

Anonymous was in an on-and-off relationship with his now ex-partner for the last 7 years.  He experienced a lot of betrayal and toxicity in that relationship and it’s left him in a position where he’s struggling to move forward and trust another woman. He’s asking us to help him to be able to open up to a new relationship.