#AskAMan

Anonymous is/was in a long distance relationship with her partner.  She doesn’t have a huge appetite and eats small portions. While she was recently visiting her partner they got into an argument because of her eating patterns, with him saying that her breath smells bad as result of her not eating enough.  He then said he can’t live with the odour of her breath, she left his place, tried reaching out later to speak to him about this but he doesn’t seem interested in discussing the matter further. 

Anonymous met his partner when he was going through a low moment in his life, he says she was very supportive of him and helping him out financially. He’s going through a lot mentally and as a result, he’s struggling to be a good partner to his girlfriend. He loves her a lot but finds himself spiralling and thinks he needs a break to find his bearings . 

Anonymous and his wife have been together for about 22 years, and have been married for about 13 years now.  He feels like his partner is “self righteous”, doesn’t give him an ear and always thinks she’s right in any conflict they have in their relationship. He also feels like she doesn’t give him space to express his emotions.  They are always arguing and their conflicts have gone out of hand, even happening in front of their kids.  He’s exhausted of this toxic relationship and environment they now find themselves in.

Anonymous and his wife have been married for about 18 years now and they have three children together.  Along the way, he cheated on his partner about three times and he was caught each time. His wife then cheated on him in retaliation. Things got messy and about 5 years ago she left their married home with their children, but after two months away, she returned back to their home and they got back together. Things have been ok for the last five years but they are struggling to rebuild trust in their relationship. 

Anonymous met a lady at her local clinic as a client, they spent a lot of time together and says she now finds her self having strong feelings for this lady.  She wants to share her feelings with the lady, but there are some complications…  

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other.  He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number.  They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says things haven’t been the same ever since, as she’s constantly scanning his phone and bringing up things from the past, despite what he describes as a change in his behaviour.