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Anonymous says his marriage is ending and his wife has separated from him. Anonymous says he has anger issues and that’s led to him being emotionally and physically abusive. Anonymous adds that over the years they’ve both cheated on each other, their families don’t get along and he even had a child with someone outside of his marriage. Anonymous says it’s a messy situation as their kids also don’t live with him or his wife. Anonymous wants to put his family together but he doesn’t know how to repair the situation.

Anonymous says she moved with her husband he found a job in another area and they moved with their two kids. Anonymous says things fell apart in their relationship when she fell pregnant with their third child and her husband lost his job. Anonymous says during this time she found comfort in another man at her workplace. As time moved anonymous’ partner got a new job but it was in another area and he moved away on his own this time around. Anonymous says things are not the same with her husband and she barely sees him, Anonymous says she’s now fallen in love with her colleague. She doesn’t know if she should fight for her marriage

Anonymous says him and his partner live very different lives, while he’s outgoing, she’s prefers to be at home and doesn’t go out much. Anonymous says often when he’s on his outings he’s found himself cheating on her with women he meets while there. Anonymous says he feels like they both want to change each other so they can be more similar. Anonymous says he loves his partner and wants to be with her but their differences are limiting to their relationship.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for the last 7 years and they live close to each other. Anonymous says over the years they have had their issues and they have hurt each other in various ways and they’ve both acknowledged these. Anonymous says she’s frustrated by her partner who always accuses her of not having regard for him, something she feels like he’s exaggerating. Anonymous shares an example of him doing this by getting upset at her for not giving him attention even when she’s really busy. Anonymous says this keeps happening despite the fact that they are generally always in communication and it’s draining her.

Anonymous says she was in a “situationship” with a guy when she fell pregnant early in the situationship. Anonymous says the guy found the timeline of her pregnancy suspicious which caused turmoil between them, leading to the guy wanting DNA tests. Anonymous has now had the child and the guy wasn’t involved in helping her with the child. Anonymous says the guy consulted spiritually and they told him that it’s happening because he rejected the child. They haven’t done the DNA test yet, anonymous says he keeps postponing. Anonymous says they are now back together but she’s not sure if she should remain in the relationship.

Anonymous met his partner 3 years ago and says he was still reeling from a previous relationship at the time that they met. Anonymous says this partner comforted him in his time of need, however things got bad for him when he lost his job and moved back home to the villages. Anonymous says they continued to date long distance and she continued to support him. Anonymous says he eventually moved back to the city and he found a job. He says he then met someone at work, they connected and he ended up impregnating this new lady. Anonymous says he has told her partner about the pregnancy and they are still together despite this. Anonymous says he’s thinking of breaking up with his side because she has a child, anonymous has 2 children of his own, at the same time he’s not sure if he and his partner will have a good relationship following his infidelity.

Anonymous is in a relationship with the father of her second child however she says she’s still in love with the father of her first child. Anonymous says she broke up with the first baby daddy because they cheated on each other and the relationship broke down. Anonymous says the father of her second child is great and wants to marry her but she’s not sure if she wants to marry him. Anonymous says the father of her first child still wants to be with her as well and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says he started dating a lady when they were both 19 and she had a daughter. Anonymous says he later found out that the father of this lady’s daughter is his cousin. Anonymous says that this caused a lot of strain on the relationship which led to him finding comfort in other women. Anonymous says they eventually got back on track and had child together. Anonymous says they became on and off again which led to him finding another girlfriend whom he impregnated. Anonymous says he’s still on and off with his first girlfriend and things are toxic in the relationship with his new girlfriend...

Anonymous has been in a relationship for 5 years with the father of her child and things have been going well. Anonymous says her and her partner are very open with their communication in the last 2 months her partner told her that he’s taken a liking to a new intern that’s started at his workplace. Anonymous says her partner says he’s not intending on doing anything about those feelings and he was just telling her so she knows what he’s going through. Anonymous says she’s disturbed by this and feels betrayed and is not sure how to deal with this.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years and things were fine in the beginning but she says he actually started becoming a burden on her after he lost his job and moved in with her. Anonymous says she asked him to leave because he was a burden and initially refused but eventually left without telling her. Anonymous says they got back together after 7 months and she says the finances are still an issue to this day. Anonymous says he was supposed to visit her recently but they ended up fighting because anonymous told him that it’s ok for him to come but she wouldn’t have money for him to use to return home. Anonymous says her partner went cold on her and later explained that he feels like she is always complaining every time he visits.

Anonymous says she broke up with her partner of 3 years a year ago after she cheated on him. Anonymous says she was already pregnant with her partner’s child at the time of breaking up. Anonymous says she moved on from that relationship and continued to date the guy she had cheated with. Anonymous says this new partner now wants her to cut the father of her child out of their lives and says he wants to marry her and take in both her and the child as his own. Anonymous says on the other hand the father of her child wants to be with her and doesn’t have a problem with her. Anonymous adds that her current partner can’t really afford to raise her child, something the father of her child is cabable of doing.

Anonymous met a guy in her neighbourhood back in the day and she wasn’t really sure about him. She says after things fell apart with the father of her child she finally gave this guy a chance even though she wasn’t really attracted to him. Anonymous says she didn’t really want to marry him but completed the process of getting married after she found out she was pregnant with the guy’s child. Many years later they’re still married but anonymous says she still doesn’t have feelings for him and it’s not getting better. Anonymous says they’ve gone 5 years without kissing. She says she’s tried to leave him but he always begs her to stay and she’s remained every time.

Anonymous says she was in a relationship with a man who was younger than her and says when she lost her job he found a job and then changed on her and even broke up with her. Anonymous says after they broke up he downgraded his maintenance of their child, even moving the child from private school to public school. Anonymous says he now currently is not even making those reduced maintenance fees they had agreed to. Anonymous says she’s scared of going the legal route because she thinks he might threaten her and her child’s life.

Anonymous says he found out late last year that his partner is having an affair with the father of her child. Anonymous says he found out because his partner didn’t return home but in fact she was sleeping at her baby daddy’s family home. Anonymous says he doesn’t know how to deal with this as he feels like she only started doing this when he lost his job and couldn’t care for her financially. Anonymous says he loves her & feels like she can still change.

Anonymous has a wife and two kids and met a woman in 2021 who intended to make his second wife. Anonymous says the woman agreed to become his second wife and things were fine she even met anonymous’ first wife. Anonymous says he made her a director in his company. Anonymous says they got married and had a child in 2023, but says his second wife changed after they got married and she was not even taking good care of her duties in the company. Anonymous says she then started accusing him of cheating, something he denies… Anonymous says she then started suggesting that he leaves his first wife, and anonymous refused. Anonymous says she did a few dodgy things at the company and then filed for a divorce, anonymous was ready to divorce but says she now wants to get back together.

Anonymous has been married to her high school sweetheart for 3 years. Anonymous says things are weird because her partner has been cheating on her and has now impregnated another woman. Anonymous says she has a spiritual gift and it’s believed that when her partner cheats on her, her ancestors punish his family, to a point that her partner’s family believes that her partner’s mother died because anonymous’ ancestors were angry about the cheating. Anonymous says her partner’s family now dislikes her because of this. Anonymous says she loves her partner and doesn’t know if he should break up with him.

Anonymous says she met her partner in 2015 and they got married traditionally in 2017. Anonymous says she was pregnant when they got married and they Both came into the relationship with children. Anonymous says she has found out that he’s cheating and impregnated another woman…

Anonymous recently rekindled things with a guy she used to be in a ‘situationship’ with after many years. They now both have kids and have come out of serious relationships. Anonymous says he’s a good guy and they have a good relationship however anonymous says he has said to her that he’s not interested in getting too serious and doesn’t want to get married.

Anonymous says she was at the Metro FM Music Awards this past weekend with her partner and they had a great time however after the Love Movement party on Sunday her partner went to another venue to party while anonymous stayed back at their accommodation. Anonymous says he only came back the next morning after 7am. Anonymous says as she was readying the car for them to return home, she found lipgloss in the car that doesn’t belong to her. Anonymous says his story explaining the lipgloss keeps changing, the last one he told her that he borrowed some other couple the car to use while they were out. Anonymous says he did cheat back in 2016 but has changed ever since then.

Anonymous says back in his matric year in 2004 he had sexual relations with a student teacher at his school. Anonymous says it happened once and she left anonymous’ school for another one. They ran into each other 8 years later in 2012, when the teacher told anonymous that she had actually fallen pregnant and they have a child together. The child is now about 20 years old and still doesn't know anonymous as their father. The teacher was married when she had relations with anonymous and her husband thinks he's the father. Anonymous says the lady now wants to have another child with him secretly.

Anonymous has been married to his wife for 8 years now and they have two kids together. Anonymous says he’s currently dating 3 different ladies at work and two of them are now pregnant. Anonymous says none of these ladies know about each other, his wife also doesn’t know. Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this or how to reveal the truth to his partners.

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and things were going well in the relationship to a point were this lady bought him a car. The car turned out to be a poisoned chalice as anonymous’ partner uses it to track him and continuously threatens to take it away from him when they fight.

Anonymous says he met a woman earlier this year and they hit off early on. Anonymous says at the beginning of their relationship they agreed to hold off on having sex for a few weeks and did start getting sexually intimate two months into the relationship. Anonymous says during this time his partner had a birthday and he found out that she’s 21 and not 24 like anonymous had thought. Anonymous says 3 months into the relationship he realised that she was having relations with other men and he then confronted her about it but she denies having the affairs.

Late last year anonymous started dating a guy that she’s known since 2014. Anonymous says 2 months after they started dating she fell pregnant. They spoke about the pregnancy and both decided they were not ready for a baby so she terminated the pregnancy. Anonymous says after the termination he went cold on her and when she visited him recently he was offish and said to her that he feels like she’s too much and loves sex a lot.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 3 years and has now paid for her lobola. Anonymous already has two wives and this partner was going to be his third wife. Anonymous says after he paid lobola for her she cancelled the wedding celebration and said she didn’t want to complete the marriage process because she no longer wants to be in a polygamist marriage, something she was aware of in the 3 years that they’ve been together. Anonymous doesn’t understand why she’s behaving like this and anonymous has also heard of a few false things that this lady is sharing about him.

Anonymous says her partner of 7 months is great and he’s a good guy but she feels like he’s boring. She says she’s very outgoing and he isn’t and likes to stay at home. Anonymous says she’s spoken to him about being a bit more out there but he doesn’t seem to be changing. Anonymous says she also feels like he’s a bit stingy and won’t even spend much on going out.

Anonymous says she hadn’t been dating for about 5 years when she met a guy online. Anonymous says they eventually started dating after a few hiccups in starting the relationship. Anonymous says they dated for a year and then he broke up with her saying that she has a big ego and has, quote, feminist tendencies. Anonymous says she’s heartbroken and she’s not sure if maybe his reasons for breaking up with her were valid. She’s missing him and doesn’t know if she should try getting back together with him.

Anonymous is in her early 20s and is married to a guy who’s in his late 50s. Anonymous came into the marriage with two kids and they don’t have kids together. Anonymous says her problem is that she doesn’t feel free in the marriage. She says he doesn’t allow her to go out, have friends or visit her family. Anonymous says when she speaks to her family about this they don’t support her and say she just wants to be with younger boys and have fun. Anonymous says she got into the relationship because of the financial support she would receive but she’s now tired.

Anonymous says her and her man met randomly and they had a good relationship at the start but things have now changed. Anonymous says one of the things her partner discussed with her in the beginning is that he uses isolation as a way to cope with challenges in his life. Anonymous says he’s recently gone through some hardships in his work which has led to him becoming isolated and absent in their relationship. Anonymous says she doesn’t know how to react to him since she knows he does isolate himself when faced with challenges. Anonymous says reassurance and being present is an important thing for her in relationships, so she doesn’t know how to deal with this.

Anonymous has been on and off with her now husband for the last 18 years. They met when she was young and she fell pregnant straight out of high school. Anonymous says even when they started, he was older than her and was with another woman who he impregnated. Anonymous says their relationship has been quite bumpy throughout the 18 years and says the spark is completely gone in their marriage and she feels like they are just sticking together for the sake of their 3 kids. Anonymous wants to leave but doesn’t know how to go about.

Anonymous got into a relationship with a guy who is in a relationship with guy who’s in a relationship, they met at work. Anonymous says the guy’s girlfriend has found out about their affair about 3 times and they’ve continued with the affair each time. Fast forward to now, the girlfriend called anonymous and basically told anonymous to leave her man alone. Anonymous spoke to the guy and they spoke about this call and discussed what they, anonymous & the girlfriend, spoke about on the call…

Anonymous has a child with her high school sweetheart and they ended their relationship a few years ago after their relationship got toxic. Anonymous says her ex became distant after their break up and didn’t even support their child. Anonymous says he’s now back in their lives and does support their child but not enough as she says. Anonymous says she’s thinking of having another baby with him as she knows and would rather have his child. Anonymous says she’s single but she’s not sure if he’s single.

Anonymous met a lady on a dating app and says they decided to start a relationship after their first date. Anonymous says their relationship has been a little bumpy because the partner lacks good communication skills and says she doesn’t speak to her in a respectful manner. Anonymous also says the partner has mentioned that she was born with two sexual organs and had one removed. Anonymous says she's scared of visiting the lady as she thinks she has problems with her sexuality and her family doesn't accept her. Anonymous is worried that the lady has a toxic relationship with her family and doesn't know if she should get involved in this.

Anonymous has been with his partner for 4 years and says he feels like he’s been a good partner towards her and has supported her in many ways. Anonymous says the problem is that she has cheated on him multiple times and he’s forgiven her each time but he’s tired of this and doesn’t know what to do because he loves her deeply and doesn’t know how to let her go.

Anonymous has been with his now wife for 10 years and says she’s been a great partner and even helped him grow. Anonymous says he loves his wife but he doesn’t quite enjoy their sex life and feels like she’s not coming to the party sexually. Anonymous says they’ve tried therapy but it hasn’t helped much and he has cheated on her with 6 different women and his wife has found out about these affairs. Anonymous doesn’t know what to do as he loves her but he isn’t satisfied in the bedroom .

Anonymous has been with her partner for 3 - 4 years and says she’s been the breadwinner for most of these years. Anonymous says he tends to steal her bank card to go out partying and isn’t very apologetic about it. He has stolen her Anonymous says he’s threatened her life on more than one occasion and can be irrational when he’s drinking. Anonymous has described how he’s hit her and sexually abused her as well.

Anonymous has been vibing with a guy for the last 5 years and it’s going fine, however, she has now caught strong feelings for him and doesn’t know if she should tell him how she feels. Anonymous also suspects that he might feel the same way. Anonymous also adds that they haven't been sexually involved over those 5 years.

Anonymous says her and her partner had a good relationship and her partner even promised to marry her, however when it was time, anonymous’ partner sent his friends as his representatives to her family and anonymous’ family chased them away because the friends were not serious. Anonymous came into the relationship with two kids and now has 1 child with this partner. Anonymous says recently her sister had to move in with them but his partner has issues with this. Anonymous adds that her partner is also not financially supportive in the household.

Anonymous’ previous partner past away 6 years ago after they’d been together for 20 years. Anonymous says she was having an affair with another man while her partner was still alive and their relationship with this man continued after her partner’s death. Anonymous says this man was with someone else when they met and has dated two people in the time that they’ve known each other, which is 14 years. Anonymous says she’s still with this man and doesn’t know if she should just let him go.

Anonymous to a new city 3 years ago and met a guy 3 years ago. Anonymous says they started having a relationship, however the guy was in a long distance relationship with some other person at the time. Anonymous says the guy’s attitude seems to have changed when he went back to school to upgrade his qualifications. Anonymous says he became distant and this pushed her to eventually getting on a dating site as they weren’t really official. Anonymous says he found out that she was on dating sites and he now wants to end things and doesn’t even want to see her. Anonymous says he went quite on her for 3 months, after that he called her and they met up at his place…

Anonymous and his estranged wife have known each other since 2009 and they got married in 2011. Anonymous says they got married very young and he was having lots of fun then which included many long nights out and about. Anonymous says he cheated on his wife in 2016, however, their marriage recovered from that. Anonymous says they moved to a new province and after they had a second child together, he feels like his wife started to change and their relationship wasn’t the same, even though he had changed his ways. Anonymous says in the last few years they went through a major financial loss which affected their relationship because he became emotionally unavailable. Anonymous says his wife started becoming more financially successful and that affected her attitude towards him and she started meeting new and younger men…

Anonymous met her partner less than 2 years ago, and she says everything was find but sometime late last year he started giving her less attention and she says sometimes she’ll even call him 30 times without him getting back to her. Anonymous says she also found out that he has a child with another woman, something he had lied to her about. Anonymous says her period is now late and he won’t even come with her to the hospital to do tests.

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago at work and they started being friends and that quickly turned into a situationship. Anonymous says everything was going well until she found out that the guy is dating another lady in the same workplace. Anonymous says they are still in their situationship even though he still has a girlfriend. Anonymous is not sure if she should continue being a side chick or leave this situation.

Anonymous is a widow who lost her husband a few years ago and at the same time her friend and colleague at work lost her mother and due to this anonymous’ colleague linked her up with her father as they had both lost their partners. Anonymous is now dating her colleague’s father but the problem is she has had sexual relations with her colleague's brother who is her now partner's son. She had this affair way before meeting the colleague.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for a year and the relationship has been going well generally however she feels like things have gotten cold in the bedroom over the last few months as they don’t have sex as much as they used to. Anonymous says he’s also not the most adventurous in the bedroom and doesn’t like foreplay which is something she likes.

Anonymous has been with her partner for 2 years now and his situation at home is affecting their relationship. Anonymous says her partner lives with his siblings and their children and takes care of them as the sole breadwinner in the household. Anonymous says she feels like he is over extending himself in how he’s going about supporting his family and neglects helping and supporting her financially as his partner.

Anonymous says a lot of her friends say her partner of one year is a narcissist, and anonymous agrees with this assessment and wants to break up with him but she’s struggling to get rid of her feelings for him. Anonymous says he’s a bit of a bully and is a very jealous person, he even gets angry when she hugs her male friends.

Anonymous met a man back in 2019 while they were living in the same apartment complex. Anonymous says at the time they were both in long distance relationships that were a bit shaky, however, anonymous broke up with her long distance partner and they became sex buddies. She fell pregnant but aborted the baby because their situation wasn’t stable at the time. The man eventually broke up with his girlfriend and started dating anonymous, they then had a child together. Anonymous says in the last couple of years they’ve been facing financial issues...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 6 years now and they a child together. Anonymous says his partner is not not a very sexual person and he has a bigger sexual appetite. Anonymous says her partner once attempted suicide thinking that anonymous was cheating on her because of their sex life. Anonymous says he has now met someone else who he says matches his sexual appetite. Anonymous says he still loves his partner but wonders if he should just give up on their relationship.