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Anonymous says he’s been in a relationship for 4 years and he says they have two kids with his partner. Anonymous says he liked a different lady before meeting his partner but that lady friend zoned him and he moved on. Anonymous says that lady then came back into his life while he was already with his current partner and he had a bit of an affair with the lady. Anonymous says the affair ended when his wife fell pregnant but his partner later found the messages between him and this lady. Anonymous says they got passed this with his partner but as time went by his partner got very angry and always lashing out at him. Anonymous says they went through a few things after this, emotionally and financially, which strained the relationship, anonymous even had an affair with someone else. Anonymous has now broken up with his partner, but is not sure if he should get her back.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for a year now. Anonymous says his partner is great, however, recently he saw his partner’s social media status and she had posted about how she buried her previous long term partner and hasn’t been the same ever since. Anonymous says he was taken aback by this status and they don’t really talk about her past relationship. Anonymous confronted her about the status and she has apologised to him for how it made him feel. He’s not sure if he’s overplaying the whole thing.

Anonymous says she’s been in a relationship with a man for a year, she’s 56 and he’s 59, she has two kids and he has 5 kids. Anonymous says she makes more money than the guy and he’s constantly spending her money on him and his grown up kids. Anonymous says she feels like he’s using her because she’s financially more capable. She’s loves him but isn’t sure if he loves her in the same way.

Anonymous says says he dated girl no.1 from 2017 to 2021, he then started dating girl no.2 in 2022 and things faded between them earlier this year, they are still together but they are not really on good terms. Anonymous says he’s now back to having a relationship with girl no.1, however girl no.1 is now in the process of being “lobolad” by another man who she now has a baby with. Anonymous says they are still carrying on with their affair with girl no.1, he’s not sure if he should remain in this situationship with girl no.1.

Anonymous says his partner caught him cheating on her late last year with another woman, which he did in reaction to her cheating on him. Anonymous says they initially broke up after this but got back together looking to work things out. Anonymous says since they’ve been back together his partner keeps bringing up the fact the he cheated on her and she doesn’t seem to be getting over what happened. Anonymous says he wants to be with her but doesn’t know if he can live like that.

Anonymous says he’s married with 3 kids and is currently dating 3 different women and has been with them for a few years now. Anonymous says they all support him financially and they know he’s married. Anonymous says he’s tired because this puts him on a very hectic schedule of handling all 4 of his partners and he doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she met her partner in September last year and they moved in together in January of this year, and got married in February. Anonymous says everything has been fine however she feels like her husband is lazy, she basis this on the fact that he keeps quitting his jobs and doesn’t give any valid reasons. Anonymous says this puts a huge financial burden on her. Anonymous says she’s calling today because he has once again quit his job, she doesn’t know what to do because he’s generally a good husband in all other departments.

Anonymous says she got married to her now ex husband in 2019 despite him finding out that she had cheated on him in the early stages of their long distance relationship. Anonymous says just before they got married her partner cheated on her and impregnated another lady. They continued their relationship and got married. Anonymous says this time last year she found out he was cheating on her again and broke up with him. Anonymous says she started a new relationship with someone else but ended it and got back together with him, however he still cheated again and they’ve gone their separate ways. Anonymous says he continues to reach out to her and she also tends to stalk him on social media. Anonymous says she’s now started talking to him about getting back together again, however he’s in a relationship with someone else and has promised anonymous that he’ll leave the other woman for her. Anonymous says she feels like this happened because she cheated at the beginning of their relationship. They are still married.

Anonymous says he met his partner late in 2022. Anonymous says 4 months into their relationship his ex started texting him because the ex had a miscarriage during their relationship and she needed them to do a cleansing for that miscarriage. Anonymous says his partner found out that he was in contact with his ex and he explained the reason for this, which she understood but told anonymous to now cut all contact with his ex. Anonymous says months later after seeing his ex, he started texting with her again and his partner found out about these texts which caused a rift between them, however they managed to keep the relationship going. Anonymous says while on a recent vacation he realised that his ex might be watching his social media stories, which led to him posting more of his partner for the ex to see. Anonymous told his partner about this and she later got upset and says she feels like he’s just using her to get to his ex. Anonymous says his partner wants to end their relationship and he doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous has been with his partner for 16 years and they now have 3 kids together. Anonymous says he did start lobola proceedings before they moved in together however the process wasn’t completed because he focused on buying a home for them in their village. Anonymous says he’s since tried to complete the process of lobola but says his partner’s family has been postponing having a meeting with his family. Anonymous says a few months ago his mother passed away and his partner didn’t come and she didn’t even send his kids to come and bury their grandmother. Anonymous says his partner then suddenly moved out of their home and moved to her parent’s house with the kids. Anonymous says her partner’s mother then told him that her partner is sick but they shared very little information with him. Anonymous says he managed to get his kids to come back home so they can go to school and 2 weeks ago she came back to their house unannounced. Anonymous says she’s still not sharing information about why she was gone. Anonymous is note sure if the relationship is worth salvaging.

Anonymous says she feels like she’s constantly getting cheated on in relationships. She says she keeps giving her all in her relationships but her partners always cheat on her. Anonymous has also shared about being abused in one of her relationships and adds that her partners also leave her for women who are more economically successful than her.

Anonymous says she’s had a long friendship with guy no.1 and over the years they’ve hooked up a few times but they are mostly just friends and anonymous is not interesting in dating guy no.1. Anonymous says in 2020 she started things with guy no.2 and they were living together during the pandemic and their relationship was going well and she eventually moved in with guy no.2 because she was waiting for her own place. Anonymous says things got shaky with guy no.2 in 2021 because of her relationship with guy no.1 and they spent most of that year trying to rebuild their relationship. Anonymous says later that year she found out that guy no.2 had been dating another person for two years while they were together. Anonymous says they tried to work on their relationship but they ended up breaking up. Anonymous says they rekindled things in 2023 but she realised he was still cheating on her with other women. Anonymous says she's wondering if she should remain in this relationship.

Anonymous has been with his partner since 2007 , however, he says he cheated on his partner in the early days of their relationship which he thinks has led to her being sceptical about marrying him even now years later. Anonymous says their relationship has been generally ok however he lost his job in 2019 and she became the sole breadwinner which led to him realising that she has a gambling problem. Anonymous says they’ve had various financial challenges over the last few years that have strained their relationship and anonymous says she hides a lot about her finances. Anonymous says his partner has now asked him to get a vasectomy but he’s not sure he wants to do it for his partner who doesn’t want to marry him. Anonymous feels like he’s not being heard in the relationship and doesn’t know what to do about all these issues they are having.

Anonymous says she met the father of her child back in 2017 and she moved in with him early on and they had a child together. Anonymous says he had started the lobola process but their relationship soured and they broke up. Anonymous says she moved back home after this and their first child died while they were separated. Anonymous moved back to the same city and they started dating again. Anonymous says things tensed up in their relationship because they couldn’t agree on how they want to live and the type of home they want to live in. Anonymous says she moved to her own place and built herself a house since he was refusing to do this. Anonymous says they separated but they got back together and he moved in with her at her house as he was now broke. Anonymous says they are now separated again because she found him speaking to a strange woman on the phone. Anonymous says she doesn’t know if she should stay with him as she also feels like he’s taking advantage of her because she’s now more financially capable than he is.

Anonymous says she’s currently separated from her husband, who she’s been with for almost 20 years. Anonymous says over the years in their marriage they’ve had issues with her husband’s family who don’t approve of anonymous. Anonymous has insinuated that her husband has been cheating on her many times over the years and they’ve had many issues. Anonymous says she has since separated from him and months after their separation he is now texting her and claiming that he misses anonymous. Anonymous has now reconnected with another guy in the middle of their separation and they are now dating. Anonymous says the new guy is a bit too much and demands a lot from her. Anonymous says she still loves her husband and doesn’t know if she should let go of him or continue with the new guy.

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for the last two years and all has been well however a few days ago she was able to see messages on his computer of him chatting to another lady. Anonymous says she confronted the lady and this lady then told anonymous about the relationship she has with anonymous’ husband. It turns out he’s been dating this lady since last September, to a point where this lady even fell pregnant. Anonymous says this all happened while she was pregnant with their now newborn baby. Anonymous is not sure what to do about this.

Anonymous says her relationship with her partner was fine until she gave birth to their child and he changed on her and wouldn’t even update her about his whereabouts and would avoid her. Anonymous says she confronted him about his changed behaviour and he promised to change but he didn’t really change. Anonymous says she’s recently found out that his behaviour changed because he had actually entered into a new relationship with someone else and impregnated that person. Anonymous says she’s walked away from him and wants to know how to go about moving on from this relationship.

Anonymous says he was married to his ex for 8 years. When they came into the relationship she had two children and he had one child. Anonymous says he became and ill and his wife couldn’t handle it and asked for a divorce while he was in hospital. Anonymous says his ex then went on her own but her son, who was also ill at the time, stayed with anonymous. Anonymous says a couple of years after his ex wife’s disappearance, her son is now thriving and she has come back in the picture wanting to have a relationship with him. Anonymous says his step-son doesn’t want anything to do with his mother, despite anonymous encouraging him to do so, anonymous doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she had an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart because their families were against it, claiming that the two were related. Anonymous says she eventually got married to someone else and they have children together. She says things soured in her marriage and she rekindled things with her high school sweetheart and she was ready to leave her marriage for him, but he died a month ago which spoiled her plans to leave her husband. Anonymous says she has now been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and moved back home after her husband said he would’ve never married her had he known she has mental health struggles. Anonymous is not sure if she should still leave her marriage.

Anonymous says she’s in her early 30s with a 5 year-old son. Anonymous says she’s trying to get back into the dating game but says she thinks she struggles with getting in touch with her feminine side in relationships and instead she’s very masculine and wonders if she’s not giving men the chance to be a “man” in the relationship. Anonymous says she suspects she’s this way as a result of her being sexually abused when she was 6 years old.

Anonymous has been with her partner for 10 years and says her mom never approved of their relationship from the beginning. Anonymous says they’ve had a child for the last 3 years and her family has still not changed their attitude towards her partner. Anonymous says she moved out of home because of the tension her relationship was causing at home and found her own place, however, she says her moving out of home changed the dynamics in her relationship and shortly after she moved, her partner broke things off with her saying he needed time by himself and to heal from everything that’s happened. Anonymous says her now ex says he still loves her and she sees him everyday when he comes to see their child. Anonymous says she doesn’t know if she should keep pursuing something with him.

Anonymous is married with 4 children and she’s been with her partner since high school 20 years ago. Anonymous says in the beginning years of their relationship, anonymous’ partner cheated on her and she wanted to leave but he convinced her that he was serious about her by completing the lobola and finalising their marriage. Anonymous says the issue now is that her husband lost his job and as he was struggling to find his feet they consulted with a traditional healer who told anonymous and her husband that the lady anonymous’ husband had an affair with affected has put some sort of spell on him that won’t allow him to become financially successful.

Anonymous is in love with two guys. She says she met one guy while they were volunteering for an organisation, she says they lost contact with guy no.1 after he disappeared for weeks. Anonymous met guy no.2 at her new job and she decided to go with it as guy no.1 was not getting back to her. Anonymous says things are great with guy no.2 who takes care of her. Anonymous says 9 weeks after disappearing she ran into guy no.1 at her local shopping complex and he hadn’t told her he was coming back, anonymous says his excuse was that he lost anonymous’ no. and that’s why he couldn’t get hold of her while he was gone…

Anonymous says she dated a certain lady, lady no.1, back in 2011 and they never actually broke up, their relationship just faded. Anonymous says they recently reconnected and lady no.1 told anonymous that she’s currently married but she’s frustrated in her marriage and wants to have a relationship with anonymous. Anonymous says they then started dating but along the way anonymous says she had to find her own girlfriend because lady no.1 is married and not giving anonymous all the attention she needs. Anonymous says she told lady no.1 that she now has a girlfriend and lady no.1 is not happy with this. Anonymous says lady no.1 has asked anonymous to break up with her girlfriend, but lady no.1 refuses to divorce her wife. Anonymous says things have gotten sour between them and she doesn't know what to do.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for a few years and they moved in together in order for her to be closer to her tertiary institution. After she was done, she moved out as their parents said they need to do things right way in order to live together. Anonymous says they had some troubles in their relationship and he says he’s been verbally abusive towards her which affected their relationship. Anonymous says he also felt like his partner was too sensitive even when he’s trying resolve conflicts in their relationship. Anonymous says he eventually broke up with his partner out of frustration. He now wants her back and says she’s being advised not to get back together with him. Anonymous says he’s not sure if he should continue pursuing her.

Anonymous says she has 3 kids with three different guys. She says things are ok with the father of her first child as they were together at a young age. Anonymous says she broke up with the father of her second child after he cheated on her after she fell pregnant. Anonymous then moved on and had a third child, she says things were initially fine with the father of her third child but they’ve now broken up because of his cheating ways and the way he treated her second born child.

Anonymous says he got divorced in 2021 and after about a year and half last year he started dating again. He says things were fine but her partner started behaving in a weird manner, not taking his calls and avoiding him. Anonymous says they now live together but earlier this year she started ignoring him more and wasn’t as responsive to his calls and messages. Anonymous says she then complained about him sending her ‘check-in messages’ and asked him to stop. Anonymous says he started spying on her phone and found out that she was in fact chatting with three other men. Anonymous says she seems to have dodgy dealings with these guys and she’s also currently having an affair with one of them.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since around 2017 and says this past Good Friday he visited her place and after she left for work he stayed behind, and wanted to surprise her by cleaning her place. Anonymous says as he was doing that he found ARVs hidden in a shoe box. Anonymous says about two months have gone by and he hasn’t gotten the courage to speak to her about this.

Anonymous says when she called us last year she had broken things off with guy no.1 who had slowly stopped giving her attention and she moved on from him. A few months after that she started dating another guy no.2, who was the perfect partner until she discovered that he was lying about being in the process of divorcing his wife. Anonymous says she broke things off with guy no.2, she got reconciled with guy no.1 but things ended because guy no.1 wasn’t happy about how messy her situation was with guy no.2. Anonymous says she went into depression after all this and she now feels like she’s struggling to date other men.

Anonymous says his marriage is ending and his wife has separated from him. Anonymous says he has anger issues and that’s led to him being emotionally and physically abusive. Anonymous adds that over the years they’ve both cheated on each other, their families don’t get along and he even had a child with someone outside of his marriage. Anonymous says it’s a messy situation as their kids also don’t live with him or his wife. Anonymous wants to put his family together but he doesn’t know how to repair the situation.

Anonymous says she moved with her husband he found a job in another area and they moved with their two kids. Anonymous says things fell apart in their relationship when she fell pregnant with their third child and her husband lost his job. Anonymous says during this time she found comfort in another man at her workplace. As time moved anonymous’ partner got a new job but it was in another area and he moved away on his own this time around. Anonymous says things are not the same with her husband and she barely sees him, Anonymous says she’s now fallen in love with her colleague. She doesn’t know if she should fight for her marriage

Anonymous says him and his partner live very different lives, while he’s outgoing, she’s prefers to be at home and doesn’t go out much. Anonymous says often when he’s on his outings he’s found himself cheating on her with women he meets while there. Anonymous says he feels like they both want to change each other so they can be more similar. Anonymous says he loves his partner and wants to be with her but their differences are limiting to their relationship.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for the last 7 years and they live close to each other. Anonymous says over the years they have had their issues and they have hurt each other in various ways and they’ve both acknowledged these. Anonymous says she’s frustrated by her partner who always accuses her of not having regard for him, something she feels like he’s exaggerating. Anonymous shares an example of him doing this by getting upset at her for not giving him attention even when she’s really busy. Anonymous says this keeps happening despite the fact that they are generally always in communication and it’s draining her.

Anonymous says she was in a “situationship” with a guy when she fell pregnant early in the situationship. Anonymous says the guy found the timeline of her pregnancy suspicious which caused turmoil between them, leading to the guy wanting DNA tests. Anonymous has now had the child and the guy wasn’t involved in helping her with the child. Anonymous says the guy consulted spiritually and they told him that it’s happening because he rejected the child. They haven’t done the DNA test yet, anonymous says he keeps postponing. Anonymous says they are now back together but she’s not sure if she should remain in the relationship.

Anonymous met his partner 3 years ago and says he was still reeling from a previous relationship at the time that they met. Anonymous says this partner comforted him in his time of need, however things got bad for him when he lost his job and moved back home to the villages. Anonymous says they continued to date long distance and she continued to support him. Anonymous says he eventually moved back to the city and he found a job. He says he then met someone at work, they connected and he ended up impregnating this new lady. Anonymous says he has told her partner about the pregnancy and they are still together despite this. Anonymous says he’s thinking of breaking up with his side because she has a child, anonymous has 2 children of his own, at the same time he’s not sure if he and his partner will have a good relationship following his infidelity.

Anonymous is in a relationship with the father of her second child however she says she’s still in love with the father of her first child. Anonymous says she broke up with the first baby daddy because they cheated on each other and the relationship broke down. Anonymous says the father of her second child is great and wants to marry her but she’s not sure if she wants to marry him. Anonymous says the father of her first child still wants to be with her as well and she doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says he started dating a lady when they were both 19 and she had a daughter. Anonymous says he later found out that the father of this lady’s daughter is his cousin. Anonymous says that this caused a lot of strain on the relationship which led to him finding comfort in other women. Anonymous says they eventually got back on track and had child together. Anonymous says they became on and off again which led to him finding another girlfriend whom he impregnated. Anonymous says he’s still on and off with his first girlfriend and things are toxic in the relationship with his new girlfriend...

Anonymous has been in a relationship for 5 years with the father of her child and things have been going well. Anonymous says her and her partner are very open with their communication in the last 2 months her partner told her that he’s taken a liking to a new intern that’s started at his workplace. Anonymous says her partner says he’s not intending on doing anything about those feelings and he was just telling her so she knows what he’s going through. Anonymous says she’s disturbed by this and feels betrayed and is not sure how to deal with this.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years and things were fine in the beginning but she says he actually started becoming a burden on her after he lost his job and moved in with her. Anonymous says she asked him to leave because he was a burden and initially refused but eventually left without telling her. Anonymous says they got back together after 7 months and she says the finances are still an issue to this day. Anonymous says he was supposed to visit her recently but they ended up fighting because anonymous told him that it’s ok for him to come but she wouldn’t have money for him to use to return home. Anonymous says her partner went cold on her and later explained that he feels like she is always complaining every time he visits.

Anonymous says she broke up with her partner of 3 years a year ago after she cheated on him. Anonymous says she was already pregnant with her partner’s child at the time of breaking up. Anonymous says she moved on from that relationship and continued to date the guy she had cheated with. Anonymous says this new partner now wants her to cut the father of her child out of their lives and says he wants to marry her and take in both her and the child as his own. Anonymous says on the other hand the father of her child wants to be with her and doesn’t have a problem with her. Anonymous adds that her current partner can’t really afford to raise her child, something the father of her child is cabable of doing.

Anonymous met a guy in her neighbourhood back in the day and she wasn’t really sure about him. She says after things fell apart with the father of her child she finally gave this guy a chance even though she wasn’t really attracted to him. Anonymous says she didn’t really want to marry him but completed the process of getting married after she found out she was pregnant with the guy’s child. Many years later they’re still married but anonymous says she still doesn’t have feelings for him and it’s not getting better. Anonymous says they’ve gone 5 years without kissing. She says she’s tried to leave him but he always begs her to stay and she’s remained every time.

Anonymous says she was in a relationship with a man who was younger than her and says when she lost her job he found a job and then changed on her and even broke up with her. Anonymous says after they broke up he downgraded his maintenance of their child, even moving the child from private school to public school. Anonymous says he now currently is not even making those reduced maintenance fees they had agreed to. Anonymous says she’s scared of going the legal route because she thinks he might threaten her and her child’s life.

Anonymous says he found out late last year that his partner is having an affair with the father of her child. Anonymous says he found out because his partner didn’t return home but in fact she was sleeping at her baby daddy’s family home. Anonymous says he doesn’t know how to deal with this as he feels like she only started doing this when he lost his job and couldn’t care for her financially. Anonymous says he loves her & feels like she can still change.

Anonymous has a wife and two kids and met a woman in 2021 who intended to make his second wife. Anonymous says the woman agreed to become his second wife and things were fine she even met anonymous’ first wife. Anonymous says he made her a director in his company. Anonymous says they got married and had a child in 2023, but says his second wife changed after they got married and she was not even taking good care of her duties in the company. Anonymous says she then started accusing him of cheating, something he denies… Anonymous says she then started suggesting that he leaves his first wife, and anonymous refused. Anonymous says she did a few dodgy things at the company and then filed for a divorce, anonymous was ready to divorce but says she now wants to get back together.

Anonymous has been married to her high school sweetheart for 3 years. Anonymous says things are weird because her partner has been cheating on her and has now impregnated another woman. Anonymous says she has a spiritual gift and it’s believed that when her partner cheats on her, her ancestors punish his family, to a point that her partner’s family believes that her partner’s mother died because anonymous’ ancestors were angry about the cheating. Anonymous says her partner’s family now dislikes her because of this. Anonymous says she loves her partner and doesn’t know if he should break up with him.

Anonymous says she met her partner in 2015 and they got married traditionally in 2017. Anonymous says she was pregnant when they got married and they Both came into the relationship with children. Anonymous says she has found out that he’s cheating and impregnated another woman…

Anonymous recently rekindled things with a guy she used to be in a ‘situationship’ with after many years. They now both have kids and have come out of serious relationships. Anonymous says he’s a good guy and they have a good relationship however anonymous says he has said to her that he’s not interested in getting too serious and doesn’t want to get married.

Anonymous says she was at the Metro FM Music Awards this past weekend with her partner and they had a great time however after the Love Movement party on Sunday her partner went to another venue to party while anonymous stayed back at their accommodation. Anonymous says he only came back the next morning after 7am. Anonymous says as she was readying the car for them to return home, she found lipgloss in the car that doesn’t belong to her. Anonymous says his story explaining the lipgloss keeps changing, the last one he told her that he borrowed some other couple the car to use while they were out. Anonymous says he did cheat back in 2016 but has changed ever since then.

Anonymous says back in his matric year in 2004 he had sexual relations with a student teacher at his school. Anonymous says it happened once and she left anonymous’ school for another one. They ran into each other 8 years later in 2012, when the teacher told anonymous that she had actually fallen pregnant and they have a child together. The child is now about 20 years old and still doesn't know anonymous as their father. The teacher was married when she had relations with anonymous and her husband thinks he's the father. Anonymous says the lady now wants to have another child with him secretly.