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Anonymous has been married to his wife for 8 years now and they have two kids together. Anonymous says he’s currently dating 3 different ladies at work and two of them are now pregnant. Anonymous says none of these ladies know about each other, his wife also doesn’t know. Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this or how to reveal the truth to his partners.

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and things were going well in the relationship to a point were this lady bought him a car. The car turned out to be a poisoned chalice as anonymous’ partner uses it to track him and continuously threatens to take it away from him when they fight.

Anonymous says he met a woman earlier this year and they hit off early on. Anonymous says at the beginning of their relationship they agreed to hold off on having sex for a few weeks and did start getting sexually intimate two months into the relationship. Anonymous says during this time his partner had a birthday and he found out that she’s 21 and not 24 like anonymous had thought. Anonymous says 3 months into the relationship he realised that she was having relations with other men and he then confronted her about it but she denies having the affairs.

Late last year anonymous started dating a guy that she’s known since 2014. Anonymous says 2 months after they started dating she fell pregnant. They spoke about the pregnancy and both decided they were not ready for a baby so she terminated the pregnancy. Anonymous says after the termination he went cold on her and when she visited him recently he was offish and said to her that he feels like she’s too much and loves sex a lot.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 3 years and has now paid for her lobola. Anonymous already has two wives and this partner was going to be his third wife. Anonymous says after he paid lobola for her she cancelled the wedding celebration and said she didn’t want to complete the marriage process because she no longer wants to be in a polygamist marriage, something she was aware of in the 3 years that they’ve been together. Anonymous doesn’t understand why she’s behaving like this and anonymous has also heard of a few false things that this lady is sharing about him.

Anonymous says her partner of 7 months is great and he’s a good guy but she feels like he’s boring. She says she’s very outgoing and he isn’t and likes to stay at home. Anonymous says she’s spoken to him about being a bit more out there but he doesn’t seem to be changing. Anonymous says she also feels like he’s a bit stingy and won’t even spend much on going out.

Anonymous says she hadn’t been dating for about 5 years when she met a guy online. Anonymous says they eventually started dating after a few hiccups in starting the relationship. Anonymous says they dated for a year and then he broke up with her saying that she has a big ego and has, quote, feminist tendencies. Anonymous says she’s heartbroken and she’s not sure if maybe his reasons for breaking up with her were valid. She’s missing him and doesn’t know if she should try getting back together with him.

Anonymous is in her early 20s and is married to a guy who’s in his late 50s. Anonymous came into the marriage with two kids and they don’t have kids together. Anonymous says her problem is that she doesn’t feel free in the marriage. She says he doesn’t allow her to go out, have friends or visit her family. Anonymous says when she speaks to her family about this they don’t support her and say she just wants to be with younger boys and have fun. Anonymous says she got into the relationship because of the financial support she would receive but she’s now tired.

Anonymous says her and her man met randomly and they had a good relationship at the start but things have now changed. Anonymous says one of the things her partner discussed with her in the beginning is that he uses isolation as a way to cope with challenges in his life. Anonymous says he’s recently gone through some hardships in his work which has led to him becoming isolated and absent in their relationship. Anonymous says she doesn’t know how to react to him since she knows he does isolate himself when faced with challenges. Anonymous says reassurance and being present is an important thing for her in relationships, so she doesn’t know how to deal with this.

Anonymous has been on and off with her now husband for the last 18 years. They met when she was young and she fell pregnant straight out of high school. Anonymous says even when they started, he was older than her and was with another woman who he impregnated. Anonymous says their relationship has been quite bumpy throughout the 18 years and says the spark is completely gone in their marriage and she feels like they are just sticking together for the sake of their 3 kids. Anonymous wants to leave but doesn’t know how to go about.

Anonymous got into a relationship with a guy who is in a relationship with guy who’s in a relationship, they met at work. Anonymous says the guy’s girlfriend has found out about their affair about 3 times and they’ve continued with the affair each time. Fast forward to now, the girlfriend called anonymous and basically told anonymous to leave her man alone. Anonymous spoke to the guy and they spoke about this call and discussed what they, anonymous & the girlfriend, spoke about on the call…

Anonymous has a child with her high school sweetheart and they ended their relationship a few years ago after their relationship got toxic. Anonymous says her ex became distant after their break up and didn’t even support their child. Anonymous says he’s now back in their lives and does support their child but not enough as she says. Anonymous says she’s thinking of having another baby with him as she knows and would rather have his child. Anonymous says she’s single but she’s not sure if he’s single.

Anonymous met a lady on a dating app and says they decided to start a relationship after their first date. Anonymous says their relationship has been a little bumpy because the partner lacks good communication skills and says she doesn’t speak to her in a respectful manner. Anonymous also says the partner has mentioned that she was born with two sexual organs and had one removed. Anonymous says she's scared of visiting the lady as she thinks she has problems with her sexuality and her family doesn't accept her. Anonymous is worried that the lady has a toxic relationship with her family and doesn't know if she should get involved in this.

Anonymous has been with his partner for 4 years and says he feels like he’s been a good partner towards her and has supported her in many ways. Anonymous says the problem is that she has cheated on him multiple times and he’s forgiven her each time but he’s tired of this and doesn’t know what to do because he loves her deeply and doesn’t know how to let her go.

Anonymous has been with his now wife for 10 years and says she’s been a great partner and even helped him grow. Anonymous says he loves his wife but he doesn’t quite enjoy their sex life and feels like she’s not coming to the party sexually. Anonymous says they’ve tried therapy but it hasn’t helped much and he has cheated on her with 6 different women and his wife has found out about these affairs. Anonymous doesn’t know what to do as he loves her but he isn’t satisfied in the bedroom .

Anonymous has been with her partner for 3 - 4 years and says she’s been the breadwinner for most of these years. Anonymous says he tends to steal her bank card to go out partying and isn’t very apologetic about it. He has stolen her Anonymous says he’s threatened her life on more than one occasion and can be irrational when he’s drinking. Anonymous has described how he’s hit her and sexually abused her as well.

Anonymous has been vibing with a guy for the last 5 years and it’s going fine, however, she has now caught strong feelings for him and doesn’t know if she should tell him how she feels. Anonymous also suspects that he might feel the same way. Anonymous also adds that they haven't been sexually involved over those 5 years.

Anonymous says her and her partner had a good relationship and her partner even promised to marry her, however when it was time, anonymous’ partner sent his friends as his representatives to her family and anonymous’ family chased them away because the friends were not serious. Anonymous came into the relationship with two kids and now has 1 child with this partner. Anonymous says recently her sister had to move in with them but his partner has issues with this. Anonymous adds that her partner is also not financially supportive in the household.

Anonymous’ previous partner past away 6 years ago after they’d been together for 20 years. Anonymous says she was having an affair with another man while her partner was still alive and their relationship with this man continued after her partner’s death. Anonymous says this man was with someone else when they met and has dated two people in the time that they’ve known each other, which is 14 years. Anonymous says she’s still with this man and doesn’t know if she should just let him go.

Anonymous to a new city 3 years ago and met a guy 3 years ago. Anonymous says they started having a relationship, however the guy was in a long distance relationship with some other person at the time. Anonymous says the guy’s attitude seems to have changed when he went back to school to upgrade his qualifications. Anonymous says he became distant and this pushed her to eventually getting on a dating site as they weren’t really official. Anonymous says he found out that she was on dating sites and he now wants to end things and doesn’t even want to see her. Anonymous says he went quite on her for 3 months, after that he called her and they met up at his place…

Anonymous and his estranged wife have known each other since 2009 and they got married in 2011. Anonymous says they got married very young and he was having lots of fun then which included many long nights out and about. Anonymous says he cheated on his wife in 2016, however, their marriage recovered from that. Anonymous says they moved to a new province and after they had a second child together, he feels like his wife started to change and their relationship wasn’t the same, even though he had changed his ways. Anonymous says in the last few years they went through a major financial loss which affected their relationship because he became emotionally unavailable. Anonymous says his wife started becoming more financially successful and that affected her attitude towards him and she started meeting new and younger men…

Anonymous met her partner less than 2 years ago, and she says everything was find but sometime late last year he started giving her less attention and she says sometimes she’ll even call him 30 times without him getting back to her. Anonymous says she also found out that he has a child with another woman, something he had lied to her about. Anonymous says her period is now late and he won’t even come with her to the hospital to do tests.

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago at work and they started being friends and that quickly turned into a situationship. Anonymous says everything was going well until she found out that the guy is dating another lady in the same workplace. Anonymous says they are still in their situationship even though he still has a girlfriend. Anonymous is not sure if she should continue being a side chick or leave this situation.

Anonymous is a widow who lost her husband a few years ago and at the same time her friend and colleague at work lost her mother and due to this anonymous’ colleague linked her up with her father as they had both lost their partners. Anonymous is now dating her colleague’s father but the problem is she has had sexual relations with her colleague's brother who is her now partner's son. She had this affair way before meeting the colleague.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for a year and the relationship has been going well generally however she feels like things have gotten cold in the bedroom over the last few months as they don’t have sex as much as they used to. Anonymous says he’s also not the most adventurous in the bedroom and doesn’t like foreplay which is something she likes.

Anonymous has been with her partner for 2 years now and his situation at home is affecting their relationship. Anonymous says her partner lives with his siblings and their children and takes care of them as the sole breadwinner in the household. Anonymous says she feels like he is over extending himself in how he’s going about supporting his family and neglects helping and supporting her financially as his partner.

Anonymous says a lot of her friends say her partner of one year is a narcissist, and anonymous agrees with this assessment and wants to break up with him but she’s struggling to get rid of her feelings for him. Anonymous says he’s a bit of a bully and is a very jealous person, he even gets angry when she hugs her male friends.

Anonymous met a man back in 2019 while they were living in the same apartment complex. Anonymous says at the time they were both in long distance relationships that were a bit shaky, however, anonymous broke up with her long distance partner and they became sex buddies. She fell pregnant but aborted the baby because their situation wasn’t stable at the time. The man eventually broke up with his girlfriend and started dating anonymous, they then had a child together. Anonymous says in the last couple of years they’ve been facing financial issues...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 6 years now and they a child together. Anonymous says his partner is not not a very sexual person and he has a bigger sexual appetite. Anonymous says her partner once attempted suicide thinking that anonymous was cheating on her because of their sex life. Anonymous says he has now met someone else who he says matches his sexual appetite. Anonymous says he still loves his partner but wonders if he should just give up on their relationship.

Anonymous comes from an abusive household and eventually left home and eventually started dating his current partner who supported him until he found his feet and even got a house. Anonymous then moved in with his partner and things were generally fine however they faced some financial troubles. Anonymous started having an affair with another woman who used to give anonymous money that he would give to his girlfriend, anonymous eventually confessed about this and they moved on from it. Anonymous then had some incidences with other women and says he needs help because he keeps sleeping around.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for 8 years and they got engaged this year. Anonymous says her partner has cheated on him a few times over the years and he has forgiven her each time. Anonymous says she had stopped her cheating ways for a couple of months after they got engaged this year, however, anonymous says yesterday her partner disappeared and switched off her phone and when he queried her about that she confessed that she was away sleeping with another man because he gave her money and she needed money, despite the fact anonymous had already sent her money.

Anonymous met a man online two weeks ago and things were going well and she met up with him at his place last week Saturday. While on this meet they went into his prayer room where they prayed and then he showed her a hut in the same room which he uses to praise & communicate with his ancestors. Anonymous says he invited her back this past Wednesday and they prayed in the room but this time around the ancestor responded and she could hear the ancestor’s voice saying he accepts her into the family. Anonymous says something is not adding up and she feels like this guy is too good to be true.

Anonymous and his partner have been together for 5 years and they have a child together. Anonymous also notes that they have a 6 year age gap between them. Anonymous says during the course of their relationship they ran into some financial issues and even ended up separating when his partner moved to a different city. Anonymous says they eventually got back together but things haven’t been the same since then and anonymous says they are constantly in conflict and he feels like his partner won’t hear him out. Anonymous is also feeling a bit insecure because his partner once cheated on him. Anonymous is not sure if the relationship is still worth it.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 6 years now and they have a child together who stays with her parents. A few weeks ago her partner was supposed to fetch their son for a weekend visit and her but delayed all of this because he was out with his colleagues. Anonymous brought it up and asked that he doesn’t inconvenience her but he turned it around and accused her of being nagging partner. Anonymous says he’s been repeating that sort of behaviour, gaslighting her and never taking accountability for his actions.

Anonymous broke with with her ex last year, however, in recent times she started having a thing with her ex’s friend and says they both want to be with each other but the friend is scared of getting together with her and making it official publicly because of his friend who’s anonymous’ ex. Anonymous says they are still friends.

Anonymous was seeing a guy last year and they broke up because the guy wasn’t treating her well, this is guy no.1. Then anonymous got back with her ex, guy no.2, and she fell pregnant in the early days of getting back together. Anonymous says guy no.1 was then trying to get back together with her and she shared this information with guy no.2’s sister who told her brother that anonymous had some relations with guy no.1 who even had food delivered to her while she was pregnant. They broke up because guy no.2 now suspected that the baby might not even be his. Anonymous says guy no.1 still wants her back and thinks the baby might be his.

Anonymous moved to a new place with her new born last year where she met a new neighbour and got into an “entanglement” with him. Anonymous says in the course of this she fell pregnant late last year with this man’s child and she hasn’t told him. She tried to terminate the pregnancy but she struggled to terminate successfully because of finances. She currently has two kids and doesn’t know how to deal with the fact that she’s now pregnant, she still hasn’t told the guy and also can’t tell her family. Anonymous is now considering adoption

Anonymous says he’s cheated on his partner multiple times during the relationship, his partner would forgive him and they kept on being in a relationship. Anonymous says he realised that what he was doing was wrong and affecting his partner badly so he decided to stop but it was too late. Anonymous says his partner is now cheating on him with someone else and anonymous says he saw, via texts, that she is having a good time with a new guy that she’s been having an affair with, anonymous’ partner is now saying she’s done with him, but he’s saying he’s struggling to let her go and wants to know if he should fight for her.

Anonymous says her partner went away to go see his family on Saturday but didn’t come back until Sunday. Anonymous says he’s done this a few times so she told him not come back and he said fine but he did come back and she hasn’t spoken to him ever since. Anonymous says she left him at the house and blocked him on the phone. Anonymous says her partner is now blackmailing her, threatening to share incriminating information about her with her boss. Anonymous is not sure what to do. Anonymous says he blames her for ruining her life.

Anonymous has been with her partner for two years and she recently found out that she’s pregnant, however, shortly after that anonymous’ partner lost his job and it brought strain on the relationship especially because they are expecting. Anonymous says things were fairly fine however when anonymous’ partner received his severance pay he started acting weird and they fought about his partying which led to him moving out and living with his parents. Anonymous says he now wants to break up and says he can’t be with her anymore. Anonymous is not sure whether she should fight for this relationship.

Anonymous broke up with her partner last year after she found texts on his phone that indicated that he might be gay as he was in a relationship with another guy and his WhatsApp was filled with flirty exchanges with other men. Anonymous broke up with him without confronting him about what she found in his texts. She says she’s still in love with him and doesn’t know if she made a mistake by breaking up with him.

Anonymous has been with her partner for 5 years and they have a child together. Anonymous says last week she went to her partner’s house and found him there naked with a girl in the house. Anonymous says her partner says he was naked because he was getting ready for church and the lady ended up in the house after a night of partying. Anonymous doesn’t know whether to believe him or not. Anonymous says it’s not the first time his suspected him of cheating as she once found lady’s underwear in his house.

Anonymous and her husband live with his family and the situation has gotten tricky. Anonymous says she wants them to move out of the house and find their own place with their kids, but her husband refuses and even told her to build her own house. Anonymous has since build a house for herself and her kids and her husband is not happy about this. Anonymous says her husband is now unemployed and she’s the only one working, but her husband is not helpful at even in taking care of their children.

Anonymous says her relationship was fine but she does sometimes go through some mental health issues that affect her mood. Her partner voiced that he struggles with her mood swings and anonymous says she took action to improve her behaviour and she thought everything was fine but it came up again and they broke up. Anonymous says she feels like she did improve and had one slip up but he’s not hearing her and says he doesn’t want to get back together with her. Anonymous doesn’t know if she should keep fighting for this relationship. Anonymous thinks he might still be hung up on his ex.

Anonymous and her previous partner have two kids together and broke up after 11 years last year because her partner cheated. Anonymous has since met someone else and they have been together for 6 months, the issue now is that her ex and father of her children says he doesn’t want anonymous’ new partner spending time with his kids and has raised safety issues.

Anonymous is married to a man who’s 16 years younger than her and says the issue in their relationship is her partner and his friends. Anonymous says she feels like her partner is always prioritising friends and partying and she can’t do it. She says he came into the relationship knowing this but it’s now becoming a challenge in their relationship. Anonymous says aside from that he is a great husband at home.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 18 months and she says it’s been amazing. Anonymous says in the last couple of months her feelings for her partner have suddenly changed and she doesn’t know why because he has done nothing wrong. and the relationship is fine. Anonymous doesn’t know why she’s feeling this way and wishes to go back to being in love with her partner again.

Anonymous says she cheated on her boyfriend last year and confessed what she had done because she felt guilty. Anonymous says months later he seems to still not be over the fact that she cheated on him and even got angry that she was being friendly with their neighbour’s guests over the weekend. Anonymous says her partner did cheat on her multiple times before but had stopped in the recent years of their 5 year relationship. Anonymous doesn’t know how to convince him that she won’t do it again.