Ask Kati Anything

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything Episode #641. Hey Kati! You have talked several times from the perspective of kids where well meaning parents just weren't able to fill all of their children's emotional needs. Do you have any advice for the well...2. I have recently been learning a lot more about autism spectrum disorder and realize that I might be autistic. I struggle with changes in routine, noise, connecting with others, eye contact...3. I may be a little older than most of your listening audience. My husband has pushed me into going to a couple swingers parties. I dread them. I cry about them. Yet I go. He loves them. He ...4. Hi Kati, if a therapist tells you you're showing signs of Trauma, does that automatically mean you have a trauma related disorder like PTSD, or does it just mean you're traumatized by what...5. What are some lessons you've learned about the world or about people that you don't think you would have known about if you hadn't been a therapist? (Examples that you don't necessarily have...6. Hi Kati, hope you are well! I would love to hear any advice and thoughts you have about my therapist crossing boundaries. I have been seeing the same therapist for about three years now, and...7. What experiences with your clients have had the biggest impact on you? I know because of HIPAA you would have to be vague, but I'd love to hear some stories! (COMMENT: As a follow-up...8. My childhood was quite unstable and I feel like I’m only starting to suffer the consequences. There were extended time periods where I didn’t have access to essentials including food, gas ...9. I’ve been seeing my therapist for a couple of years, and I’m making progress. But even though I feel better, I still have a very long list of important/difficult things I want to talk about and ...10. Hi Kati! What would you as a therapist think if your client told you that sometimes they turn into a little child, fearfully retreat into a corner and curl up there, fantasizing about the therapist being ...Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything Episode #631. My therapist told me that they would be surprised if i actually committed suicide, when i had finally got the courage to tell them about my suicidal thoughts in session. Their reasoning was... 2. How can I relax more during a session? I’m so nervous every time... Because of those nerves I answer all her questions with: “I don’t know”. This feels like failure... 3. My therapist and I are working on attachment at the moment and it's the hardest thing I've had to do. Part of me wants her close and wants her attention and warmth all... 4. How to stop self-harming when self harming is the only thing that keeps me visible? As a child, I was always left alone and nobody took care of me. I was in a lot of emotional pain but... 5. Could I have been sexually abused and completely forgotten? A few years ago, I found out that we had a high school male live at our house for a few weeks when I was a kid, and I don’t remember it *at all*.... 6. I’m a 27 year old female and have been really struggling with deciding whether I want to have children or not. I’m definitely leaning towards the no decision and have lots of reasons against having them. A lot of these... 7. Is it possible to get to the point that the things we struggle with to go away completely? I feel like I have been working on ways to deal with my depression, anxiety and low self worth for years yet they always pop back... 8. I have a question about hyper vigilance and extreme self awareness. Whenever I leave my house, and even leaving my room if my family is home, I am incredibly aware of the fact tha ... 9. Why do some people feel offended when you tell them to go to therapy? It's like they feel we're underestimating their pain by offering solutions. I personally feel suffocated if I think what I'm going through is extremely... 10. How can you get yourself to a place to be comfortable going to a therapist? I feel most comfortable talking to someone I know vs someone I don’t. Obviously that isn’t...Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything #62 listener questions: 1/ Hi Kati, I'm 22 years old and have a rare genetic disease that is causing my body to fail. I've been sick since I was a baby. My digestive tract is paralysed so i have been tube fed for 3 years, with one tube going into my small intestine to give me nutrition, water, and medication, and another tube into my stomach to drain out the...2/ Hi Kati! I would love to hear your thoughts on why therapists are so stubborn that their way of being a therapist is the only right way? For instance, I was watching another therapist here on youtube (don’t worry, I like your channel better) who was absolutely horrified, that a therapist in a tv show hugged a client at the end of a session, because she thinks there can be NO TOUCHING in the therapeutic relationship...3/ Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for about 2,5 years and starting to finally feel like life is good and my brain doesn't spin off all the time (working on allowing myself to feel 'good' ) But I'm still struggling with my thoughts. They run so fast, trying to 'stop stop stop' them is like throwing a stop sign onto a highway...4/ Hi Kati, Happy thursday! I'm just wondering if you could talk a little bit about being self-destructive and what that means in relation to our mental health. I always hear the word being ‘thrown around’ and I'm just wondering if you could explain...5/ Hi Kati it been three months since I first asked this and I would really like an answer but I never get enough likes is it normal to put yourself aside and want to help others especially after a death of a loved one my (step) sister passed away last...6/ Hi Kati. I have a question related to sexual trauma. Is it also called sexual abuse if it is done by someone you love and they didn't mean it badly or sexually? I had a parent who was very open about sexuality and wanted to break the taboo that...7/ Hi, Kati. I’m embarrassed about asking these questions so I hope no one I know sees them! I had an emotionally unavailable mother growing up, when I was 16 I opened up to her about my male and female cousins sexually assaulting me on different occasions. I can’t seem to remember much about what her initial reaction was, but I remember she basically said I should let it go and I’ll feel better. Never again did I talk to her about anything, I suffered with depression, eating disorder, self harm, traumatic experiences, and suicidal thoughts for years! I’m now 23, and have come to a realization that throughout my life I have yearned for attention, affection, and love from older women who I tend to attract. These older women have been...8/ Hi Kati! I’ve struggled with body image for five years. I was never fat or anything, other people actually liked my figure, but I just wanted to be skinny. I was eating really healthy and exercised moderately, but still I wasn’t skinny enough so one day I...9/ Hi Kati. In your last episode with Cheryl Burke you talked about grooming and I was wondering if you could talk a bit more about the subject, including ways to heal if you've been groomed, especially if the situation with the abuser was better than with...Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://try Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. I’m kind of struggling to accept my sexuality. I know that I am only attracted to women but I still have a hard time to allow myself to be okay with it. I struggle with social anxiety...2. I find it super problematic when people use words from the mental health field for everyday things. I can't think of a specific incident, but I mean things like...3. A friend of mine with whom I was really close, decided to stop talking to me out of the blue. Like, one day we were talking about uni and everything was fine (at least I thought it was ...4. Can you please talk about Complex PTSD and Chronic Trauma? My therapist recently told me I have both of these and it's really scary! Is the "chronic trauma"...5. How do I remember things that are helpful for me? I feel like my brain just turns off when I think about things I can do for my mental health. With YouTube videos I can recognize things that I relate to...6. Is it possible to recognize the beginnings of an eating disorder in yourself? I’ve noticed myself eating as little as possible and taking long walks (even at odd hours) to burn off most if not all of what I ate. I’ve also tried to purge but haven’t been able...7. How do you deal with going to therapy and subsequently coming to the realization that things are actually a lot worse than you make them out to be? I started therapy about three months ago, and I thought that I would be working through anxiety and mild depression. But...8. Do you have any advice for people who have "fallen off the wagon" in terms of mental health management and self-care? I struggle with depression and about a year ago finally found a way of coping and feeling "normal" through...9. How do I deal with existential thoughts/depression brought on by isolation and trauma in my childhood? I feel impossibly alone in this, and no one I share my...10. Could you talk more about nightmares connected to trauma? I'm diagnosed with c-ptsd and I have a lot of nightmares (when I was in high school I had them so often I was scared of sleeping and would sometimes sleep on a mattress in my parents' room), but they're not obvious flashback nightmares. Still...---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (ht Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep #60 audience questions: Hi Kati! Do you ever suspect a patient of yours has gone through abuse in their childhood before they tell you? How can one deal with not being able to work/learn their dream career? ( for context) Grades are fine but for other reasons the university won't let me (i want to be a teacher but i have a speech issue - minimal improvement in speech therapy in the past.... Hi Kati! Can you talk about being totally overwhelmed with the daily maintenance of adulthood. It's like a never ending list of things I need to do... Hi Kati! I have recently got into my dream school for my dream career but I am unable to feel happy. Every time I achieved something great and have told my... Hi Kati, hope you are having an amazing day! My question is how to deal with missing a therapist and does it ever even stop? I've been out of therapy for over a year now and I still miss my therapist and think about her... Hi Kati! So, my therapist left for maternity leave in February and she’s supposed to be coming back in may. She said we were naturally getting close to the end whenever she left, so we went ahead and did all of the end of therapy things... Hi Kati! I really like my therapist and trust her. But sometimes I wish she would prompt me more -- ask me more questions, as opposed to waiting for me to start speaking. There are frequent moments of silence in our sessions... Hi Kati, how can we, as highly sensitive people, cope with the intense psychological pain, seeing myself and others suffering in wild loneliness? This sounds existential. Life is pain, despite all happiness and meaning. I don't take on people's... Hi Kati! Does attachment to our therapist sometimes never go away? I´m scared I will never get over my attachment to my therapist. I struggled to open up to her at all in the beginning and now I´ve become overly attached to her for a long time. Not seeing her and not having sessions with... Hi Kati, I feel like it’s a dumb question but I am going to ask it anyway. Do your patients always have something to talk about every time they come into therapy? Every time they come, do you talk about new things... ---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.p Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cheryl Burke from Dancing with the Stars is on the podcast today! We discuss her experiences in therapy, how dance has been healing, overcoming trauma, addiction, and so much more! Follow Cheryl's podcast & YouTube channel Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything - audience questions for podcast episode 581. I was recently diagnosed with depression by my therapist, but I struggle to tell people about it. When I have tried to tell people close to me, they seem to care but don't really understand what I am going through. When they ask...2. How can you not compare your weight and size when you have a friend with an eating disorder? I do not have one, but hearing the way my friend talks has caused me to become more self-conscious. I still want to keep supporting her and would love...3. I can’t remember the first 12 years of my life, does that mean I have been abused as a child? Or could I have just had a very boring childhood?4. Is it best to work on the ‘original’ trauma to begin with, as opposed to working on its ‘symptoms’ individually i.e. anxiety, depression, eating disorder, OCD, PTSD etc in the hope that this will hopefully improve all? 5. Happy Thursday! Do triggers only work when you are in a bad mental headspace? Sometimes I can be around my triggers and be Ok and there are other times when I'm anxious to be around them. 6. How do you know when a relationship is beyond repair. What if you're prone to projection and so you don't know if you're thinking that this person is toxic or not...7. I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask, do you think talking to a therapist about all the details of the abuse I suffered for 3 years, would help me get over it, or make peace with it. I've never really talked in detail, about the abuse I sustained, with anybody, mostly because...8. I haven’t talked to my parents for 2 and a half years because of the trauma that they caused me in my childhood such as emotional abuse and neglect. My sister's wedding is in a few months and I will have to see them there. I’m very nervous about it and I don’t know what...9. How to prepare for the death of a terminally ill loved one?10. I'm asking for a friend who's worried for her privacy: "What is considered incest? Is getting harassed as an adult by your own father so? I'm 24 and I've been back at my parents' due to covid crisis. The other day I was chilling on a couch watching TV as my father entered the room and started...---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! audience questions from ep 57 1. Why is it that I can so desperately long for connection and friendships, yet I constantly mentally push people away and put up a mental wall? It's like I CANT connect, as much as...2. Hey Kati! I feel like this isn't a topic talked about a lot in the world today. So, I am hoping this gets answered. What are your thoughts about children who have a traumatizing sexual encounter with another child? Such as inappropriate touching and fondling. Is this abuse?3. Hey Kati! Do you 'always' have to try to get better? What if I don't want to get better? I know I am suffering but it's not consistent. On some days, I am all fine. I am not feeling my worst. My therapist says I'm...4. How do I stop being so lazy? I'm not necessarily happy with my life (because I'm too lazy to change it), but mood-wise I'm pretty happy most of the time. So it's not depression or anything like...5. Hi Kati, happy Thursday! Has a client ever shown you a song or a piece of music as a representation of how they are feeling or what they are going through or would you...6. Hi Kati, My therapist told me she has a “desire to protect my heart” and that she loves me. Is this countertransference? I’m in trauma therapy...7. Just curious, do patients ever bring in pictures of themselves as a child or of their family? Is that ever encouraged or discouraged and for what reason? Sometimes I've wanted to...8. Hi Kati, how can we open up more in therapy when the therapist isn't sharing much about herself? In other relationships, we often observe how the other(s) behave and respond accordingly (to prevent over / undersharing; to avoid rejection or conflict, etc). Yet in therapy...9. Hi Kati! I hold a lot of blame and anger towards my mother. She was emotionally absent throughout my life and made me feel like I was a burden when I was diagnosed with depression in high school. I feel like I was not helpfully...10. Hi Kati. How do you know that you have actually experienced childhood trauma? I dissociated in my last therapy session when talking about the relationship with my sister, who has always been quite the bully. My therapist mentioned that...---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions: As a therapist would you ever bring up or mention a client's weight gain/loss (a client who is not in treatment for an eating disorder)? I'm actually a very shy/anxious person but I always push myself into situations I feel very uncomfortable in. Like taking part in conversations I would like to avoid... I'm not sure what to do because I feel like unhealthy ways to cope are the only things that help me at this point.. when I'm not self-harming I use disordered eating habits to cope. I purge, restrict and get really obsessive, there are... I am overweight and I've always struggled with food, eating, and body perception. My therapist however confirmed that I am not really suffering from an ED. Society seems to pass the message that everyone can just lose weight and be thin if they just... I have always found it difficult to be sexually intimate with my fiance. I find myself faking orgasms to please him when in all actuality, I have never had one with him i the 6 years we have been together... I have been struggling with hating myself since I could remember and I’m now an adult and I don’t know what to do and how to get better. I have been suffering from depression anxiety almost all of my life. Could you do a video on how to overcome hating yourself... Hi Kati! Is it normal to have 'impulsive' suicidal thoughts? Sometimes my thoughts will build up over a period of a couple days. Other times though, (usually when I'm already feeling a bit down), anything can send me spiraling. For example... How can I learn to make decisions? All my life I felt like I never belonged anywhere and everything I tried I failed miserably at. I don't know how to even trust a little that... Hey So for a while now my therapy session have been moved to online. Before this crazy year happened my therapist would let me know well before if she needed to cancel or... Can you talk about what would cause someone to have unrealistic expectations of themselves? I set extreme expectations for... Link mentioned https://selfinjury.com/resources/how-to-use-the-impulse-control-log/---Video version or episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! ep.55 audience questions1/ Hey Kati, could you talk about why therapists sometimes don’t react with shock or surprise or sadness to things you might tell them like abuse, or they don’t give away any emotional clues about...2/ Hi Kati, how is a therapist to react when a patient doesn't even trust them enough to tell them why they're here? Can such a patient even get therapy? Or would they be deemed...3/ Hi Kati! How do you meet your need in comfort and reassurance, and why can one crave it? I have a strong feeling that I want someone to comfort me, tell me everything is going to...4/ What can we do when the thought of having to calm yourself is triggering? You talk so much about being able to soothe yourself but what if you associate being calm with...5/ How do I come clean about secretly recording our sessions to my therapist? I started recording them because I couldn't remember a thing about our sessions due to intense social anxiety. Also, being gaslit...6/ Could you talk about the stigma around suicide and grieving deaths caused by suicide? I have recently lost 2 friends to suicide within the past few weeks, and...7/ Hi Kati. I don't have anyone to share my feelings. No friends. No therapist. (I left my therapist, because our conversation was way too shallow.) I don't wanna watch TV anymore in my 'excessive free time'...8/ Do you have any suggestions for someone who struggles with imposter syndrome? I have been at the same job for a long time and get nothing but positive feedback, yet I have this overwhelming fear I...9/ Hi Kati. My husband was sexually abused by a family friend multiple times as a young child and "doesn’t remember how long it went on" he only has talked about it twice over the 3 years we have been together...10/ Can you talk more about setting boundaries within and outside of therapy? I have trouble setting boundaries and constantly feel like I'm going to overstep them if I’m not constantly worrying...11/ Hey Kati! I recently came out of a psychotic episode, however, I miss my voices. Even though I know it wasn’t real and they were mean as hell for the most part it felt as though I had someone to...---Video version or episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest em Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep.54 audience questions:1. I feel like I don't understand the point of our day. Not in a "what is the meaning of life" sort of way. But I struggle to not feel shame about being unproductive when I am not at work or working out. If I...2. I wanted to ask if your clients are aware of your online presence? I am mainly thinking of clients with attachment issues. For me personally, I am super attached to my therapist but she does not have social media, or at least...3. I was wondering why my suicidal thoughts often get worse when I am doing well instead of when I get worse. I struggle with anxiety and depression...4. Struggling w/ physical intimacy. I have never been a very physical person. I struggle with the negative automatic thought that all men really want is sex. And everything else is just a means...5. How do therapists handle clients who aren’t honest?? (either because they are too sick to see reality or not ready to face certain things). If a family member of a client like this called with...6. Can you parentify yourself as a child? I seem to have learned from a very early age that I need to be strong and sort of hold things together. But I don't think that my parents ever...7. Could you talk about self sabotage in relation to recovery from mental illness? I recently started antidepressants for the first time and thought that I was starting to feel more clear headed and more able to get out of bed. However, everything quickly spiraled when one evening I struggled with a series of really...8. What can I do to build up more self confidence? I suffer from depression and had to quit my job a few months ago because of that. I went to university and got into financial problems as a result...9. Is it normal for a therapist to not give any tools whatsoever? I've been with my psychologist since October(she's my first) and I feel like she never handed me any tools to cope with the anxiety and depressive symptoms. In January, because of AKA...10. I am someone who struggles with being direct and I expect the other person to just know when they have caused unintentional hurt to me or crossed a boundary. When I don't communicate it to them, I end up getting...11. What to do when everything around you is triggering? For example: music, movies, even workbooks that talk about the things I need to work on. How to...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nea Sup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything - episode #53 audience questions:1. I am a child of emotional neglect and I was wondering if you have any tips on how to stop minimizing and downplaying my trauma. Even calling it trauma makes me uncomfortable because it wasn’t overt abuse. I can’t stop feeling like my trauma is...2. Hi Kati! I feel like I spend a lot of my time playing through scenarios in my head about different events. For instance, if there is a conversation I want to have with someone I will play through it in my mind before I...3. Hi Kati! Can you talk about finding the root of your unhappiness or sadness? You frequently talk about how without resolving the root of the issues you cannot get rid of unhealthy coping skills. How do you know what is THE problem?4. Hey Kati What's the difference between a very confident person and a narcissistic person? What's the line between confidence and narcissism?5. Hi Kati! Why does my therapist say I suffer from fear of abandonment although I actually haven’t been physically abandoned by anyone before? My parents tried their...6. Hey Kati, how do you get over social anxiety when you keep failing at conversations whenever you try? It doesn't matter how many times I try I keep failing at it, even though I know I have to keep doing it to get better. I don't...7. hey kati! would you be able to talk about orthorexia a little more? how do i know if i have it? currently i struggle with ocd and i am having a hard time figuring out whether my unhealthy obsession with being perfectly healthy is just another form of my ocd...8. Hi Kati. How important are dreams for therapy? I´ve been wondering about my dreams a lot lately and sometimes I mention them in therapy, but do you think dreams can play an important role to get somewhere in therapy...9. Hi Kati! I've been feeling very 'meh' lately. I do college work online, and I seem to roll out of bed and onto my laptop. Sometimes even doing college work in my Pj's. I am not the most organised...10. My therapist challenged me when I said I wasn't going to get super personal. He asked when I was going to stop holding him at arms length and allow him to be personal with me...11. Can you heal attachment without having to do inner child work? Picturing myself as a child and pretending to talk to myself makes me deeply uncomfortable. I am autistic, for...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions:1. I remember in one of your videos a few years ago you mentioned that therapists notice everything. When I'm in therapy, I get distracted because I notice myself not making eye contact, being tense, moving my hands, smiling when I'm talking about something upsetting...2. How do I give myself permission to be ok with not being ok? I’m afraid of allowing myself to feel as I’ve avoided truly allowing myself to deal for a long time. I’ve had to be strong, or fake being strong, hide the tears, and...3. I find myself feeling really bad and crying in between sessions, but I can not cry in front of my therapist even though I really want to. It's like I'm blocking my emotions out in therapy, but...4. I’m going to try again and hope this gets answered this week! My question is: How do I “heal” from anxious attachment? My anxiety surrounding romantic relationships is really making it hard for me to even...5. I'm super attached to my therapist at the moment and I always have such a hard time between sessions because I miss her so much. I’ve talked to her about my attachment to her and we’re working on it in therapy...6. I feel so stuck. During the day I try to maintain this unachievable image that I am always happy and bubbly. In my head, I get so critical when I don't meet this image. I feel like I...7. I almost committed suicide this winter out of pure impulsivity. My therapist was very concerned - I wasn´t. I´m better now and don´t think about suicide all the time. However every now and then those thoughts come back. I thought I was getting better...8. How should i respond to my therapist asking "how would you like me to accompany you right now?" I know this is about my need in that present moment. Sometimes I want a hug, but am too embarrassed to...9. Happy Thursday Do attachment issues always stem from early childhood? I get intensely attached to older female authority figures, I have for a long time. I had a fairly 'normal' childhood, my mum was a...10. How can someone begin the process of moving away from restrictive disordered eating if the thought of giving up the control which restriction seems to give feels terrifying?11. Odd question. I was in counseling for a little bit because of my depression. For some reason every time my counselor used my name I had instant panic and a rush of anxiety...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emerg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything! Hey! I wanted to ask for tips on building up emotional resilience and knowing when to self care and when to push yourself to be 'productive'. Last month I had something happen with my roommate which triggered me and caused me to have a panic attack in...Hi Kati. I was wondering if you could explain why talking about past childhood trauma makes me feel so much worse? and I also wonder why I feel worse now than I did when the trauma happened? I stared talking about a sexual abuse 3 weeks ago and...Hi Kati. How do I stop “what iffing” myself to death? How do those of us terrified of people get help? I’d say my anxiety is mostly Catastrophic Thinking, but everything I’m afraid of keeps actually happening...Hey Kati, how many therapy sessions are needed to start feeling better? I've had 12; 1 about every 2 weeks. So far the only change is getting very nervous before each session and frustrated after...How can you manage feeling like life is a long series of traumas when your diagnosis is C-PTSD? It has been exhausting recently to feel like I’m really just floating along between traumas, trying to catch my...Hi kati! I feel like my parents are influencing what my therapist thinks about me. What should I do, and what can I tell my therapist? For more background context, basically I called the suicide hotline. Earlier that day my parents had told me that I would need to start doing less therapy because of money...Is it bad for me to want to show my therapist things I’m proud of? When I make art or music that turns out well, I really want to show her. I don’t NEED to show her in order for me to be happy with it, but hearing her give me praise for my hard work is...Hi Kati! Many times I think when I get fully better... I'll start my 'real life'...(maybe go back to school, start dating etc) But why can't I do it now?? How does one learn to manage one's life while their mental health is...Hi kati, I'm not actively suicidal right now, and I can recognize that there are reasons to hold on. However, when I am feeling suicidal, I can't see any of those things. I'm scared that I will...How does one deal with what feels like a "block" to making progress in certain areas? I've been working with a therapist on these issues, but I just can't seem to get past them. Things like getting an adequate amount of...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the neare Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions for episode 501. What if I actually don't want to get better? Sometimes I catch myself being 'happy' that I have a mental illness. I experienced childhood abuse from my grandma and probably because of that I developed BPD...2. I've always been curious about what you would do if one of your patients has completely opposing views to you? For instance, what would you do if they turned out to be...3. Is there a way for me to open up in therapy? I have a great T, which is very supportive, but there are sessions when it’s really hard or even impossible to talk about certain things...4. Any tips for not being so nervous in therapy and being able to open up. I started getting worried about some of the homework she was giving me to say hi to someone as I walked by, so she had me do Square breathing as...5. I've been struggling to have calls ever since I remember. I've been working on my social anxiety and fear of talking on the phone and tried to have calls which I needed to do and it took a lot to get...6. What does it mean when you get triggered so easily? i would be lying in bed ready for sleep when my brain suddenly hits me with these haunting, embarrassing memories that make me feel so bad...7. How can I deal with loving and hating my parents at the same time? How do I know if I’m doing enough to help them and they just ask for too much or if I’m not doing enough? I struggle with GAD, quiet BPD...8. Happy Thursday! I have a friend I confide in with a lot of my mental battles because she "gets it" - she's been there for the majority of my times of crisis and has been crucial within my support network. She's also a HSP...9. How do I be comfortable with being in the grey area? I'm so used to being in the black and white area where I have been conditioned to be when I was younger. I can't seem to be comfortable with the grey area and I would feel anxious worrying...10. Ever since I walked in on my sister's suicide attempt 2 months ago, I've been seeing hallucinations at night. I wake up to my sister's voice whispering my name, see a figure of her in the corner of my room, or see police lights...11. I know you've talked about maladaptive daydreaming in the past, but can you still have it if you haven't had any trauma in your life. I have social anxiety and depression and...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything!1. How can I stop avoiding life? I’ve finished university and have been struggling ever since. It took me so long to finish my degree and I don't even like anything about it. I´m scared of starting to...2. Can you talk about the differences between panic attacks, anxiety attacks, meltdowns and just general overwhelm? I struggle to tell the difference and feel it might be easier to deal with...3. In a previous AKA, you mentioned giving yourself time once a week or so to just cry. But what if I can't? I've tried listening to sad music, watching sad videos or reading emotionally tugging stories. But later, I'll find myself bursting into tears...4. What can I do in and outside of therapy if I struggle with connecting? Sometimes I just feel out of touch with reality and out of touch with...5. Why do I struggle with not feeling sick enough because I’ve never had to be hospitalized for a...6. why would I find it hard to just share what's exactly in my mind with other people? I always feel like I can't find the 'right time' to talk about...7. I'm just wondering what counts as suicidal thoughts/ideation and when/if you should bring it up in therapy. I have thought about if I were to do it how would I do it, and ranking best to worst options. For example, taking pills, and the general idea of where I'd do it, but not figuring out how much of what...8. Is there anything I can do to switch off that desire in my head to ‘want’ to look very thin? I’m 8 months in recovery, and I have a naturally athletic build. I’m getting my personal training certification, and the way I’m eating and working out, I have put on a lot of muscle. But while I look my fittest, I still wake up every morning thinking I should...9. Are some people unhelpable? I know some of the things I need to work on, but they feel too big and entrenched to change. I don’t know where to start, or if...10. Any tips for when searching for a therapist? I've been having a hard time finding one due to time (i can only do after office hours), cost and poor administration staff. What can we do when things have gotten bad enough that we decided to seek...11. What if I'm the toxic one in relationships and friendships? I feel like I'm the person that self-help posts always tell people to cut out of their lives. I keep being too much, act needy, probably come across as jealous and clingy, and even...---Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything, questions for episode 481. What IS a crisis? There's a lot of talk about, "If you're in crisis call and reach out and do this or that," but no one ever explains what that means. In light of last week's second question, it seems pertinent to discuss what "crisis" means...2. Hi Kati! My therapist will regularly ask me to rate my anxiety from 1 to 10 but I never know what to say. I feel like I just say random numbers as I don’t really know how I feel. Sometimes I think that saying a high number will make it look like I am not improving but...3. Hi Kati! I hope you are taking care of yourself. How can I feel safe in my own skin again? I’m on high alert all the time, any sudden...4. Hi Kati! If a client were to ask for more frequent sessions, how do you tell the difference between that person really needing more care or having an attachment to their therapist? Or can it be a mixture of both? For context, I am an ACoA (adult child of an alcoholic) with CPTSD from...5. Hi Kati, Does long term emotional numbness ever fully go away? I am 24 years old and I have been pushing down all my feelings and emotions since I was 11 years old, for multiple reasons. I am completely numb. I don't feel anything and when I do feel something I have no idea what it...6. Hi Kati. Could you please explain what exactly counts as physical abuse? For example, I know that unfortunately, it's not uncommon for parents to...7. Hi Kati. I wondered if you could please explain the rules surrounding sexual assault for minors. I know in other videos you've talked about it being the client's choice whether to report it or...8. Hi Kati! What exactly qualifies an experience to be traumatic? Growing up I went to a doctor who made me feel that the pain I had was “fake” telling me not to think about it, and it would go away. Since then I...9. hey Kati, what should someone do if they can't ask for help? For the longest time, I was suffering, and was offered therapy but refused, I couldn't admit that everything that happened was hard for me so I yelled at everyone I...10. Hey Kati, hope you’re well. I was just wondering, is it normal, after working on childhood sexual abuse in therapy and feeling okay for a month, for everything to fall apart again...JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Ordering Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions:https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimorton I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately t Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything episode 471) Hey Kati, How long does it take you to "read" your clients mood if they don´t say anything? Can you see if they are struggling a lot or is it harder to see? I always wonder what techniques a therapist uses to adjust to each client's...2) Hi Kati, how do YOU keep yourself from judgment towards your patients (and us)? You always say that nothing is weird and we can say everything to our therapist, but don’t you ever find things weird, or stupid? Is our shame never in place? Isn’t it human to...3) Hi Kati, Why do I sometimes fantasize about horrible things happening to me? Sometimes I fantasize or almost wish something awful would happen to me...4) Hi Kati! I was wondering if you've got any tips on staying motivated. Recently, I've been having trouble getting things done such as schoolwork and other necessary tasks throughout the day. I've always been a straight-A student in the past, but recently I've...5) Hey Kati, do you have any tips with figuring out sexuality? I thought I was fairly certain that I'm straight, however, I constantly want to be around my female best friend and prefer spending time with her than with my boyfriend. I also admire girls but...6) Hi Kati, I have a curious question. Why do you always use "we" when explaining something? For example you say things like "when we are traumatised" or "when we suffer from BPD" or "when we feel abandoned" etc instead of "people who are traumatised" or...7) Hi Kati! I have a bad habit of apologizing for everything, for example, I've said sorry when my coworker bumped into a bookcase and I witnessed it, and I have tried replacing it with thank you but it didn't...8) Hi Kati! I noticed I've become SO awkward in casual small talks (I stumble with words much worse than I did before) and I don't even want to get in conversations with anybody...9) Hi Kati, How can I keep trying when every time I try things get immediately harder? I´ve been battling anxiety, depression and my social anxiety for so long, I don't remember a time without it. I take my medication, I go to therapy but it takes so...10) What would you say if a client asked you what you think of them? Would answer or ask why they want to know. I always worry about what people think of me...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Audience questions for episode 46Hi Kati, How do you know if you’ve truly “gotten over” a particular trauma? I feel I’ve worked through my big ones, but sometimes when I see...Any advice for someone who is having a hard time accepting themselves as a lesbian? I was raised in church being taught that it is wrong and so after a while you start to feel wrong. I know I’m gay and want to be able to...I get distracted super easily working from home which means completing a task takes longer than it should, which sometimes means working later into the evening. My productivity has...Will the pandemic create generational trauma over time? If so, how can we be aware of that towards the future? (COMMENT: OMG YES! I think about my grandma, who lived through (and raised a child in!) the Great Depression and her response to food and hunger throughout her life. Dementia patients, in general, struggle with appetite loss and...Hi Kati! I hope you’re taking care! Are gaps in childhood memories always related to trauma and abuse? I’m always in awe when people tell elaborate, detailed stories from their childhood, but for me, I don’t remember very much at all. In fact, I didn’t develop a strong narrative-like memory of...Hi Kati, When does someone need a safety plan, and do you legally have to make one if you need it?Hey Kati, I've recently started going to therapy, and was given homework, which kinda sucks. Anyways I was asked to write a letter or at least think of what to say to my inner child. I was told I have social anxiety, and that I should think of things that I could say to my inner child that would...Hi Kati! In my last therapy session I was very down, and asked my therapist what if working through my trauma won't help, what if I'll resolve my trauma but keep being depressed. She replied that she thinks I asked that because I'm still minimizing my...Hey Kati happy Thursday. I was in a session with my therapist a few weeks ago and it was nearing the end when she asked me if I had anything else to share that was on my...Hi Kati, As a therapist how would you feel if a client you had been seeing for 4 months suddenly gave you a list of things they have been struggling with but keeping from you? I binge eat, I pick my skin and I have intense intrusive...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Audience questions for ep.45 Hi Kati, every time I see my therapist look at the clock I get nervous that I am boring her and she's just waiting for the session to finally be over... Hello Kati, hope you're taking care of yourself. As someone who has always had suicidal ideation and just a general feeling of not wanting to exist, how do you talk honestly and openly about it with a therapist without being put in a facility or put on suicide watch? Hi Kati! What is the best way to stop extreme nervousness before a zoom call or any social interaction? I always think of the worst that can happen... Hey Kati happy Thursday! Has any of your clients had panic attacks during a session and if so what did you do about it in the moment? Hi Kati, hope you're doing well. How can I stop believing I have nothing interesting to say or contribute in a conversation? I find myself wanting to say something in response to a person but before I can say it my mind starts to worry about how the other person will react... How do I stop placing judgement on going through my own stuff while in school to become a therapist? Every time I have a bad mental health day, I think to myself “how am i supposed to help others when I don’t even have... Hey Kati! What are your thoughts on adults seeking therapy who were suicidal as children (not self harming necessarily, just wanting to no longer be alive). It feels like such an impressionable age to be feeling such deep feelings of hopelessness and... Hey Kati, If a client asked you if you experienced any countertransference with them, or what feelings came up for you during session with them, would you be honest? I noticed that when talking about my child abuse my therapist took a very... Hi Kati :) I hope you are doing wonderful! My question for you has to do with journaling. When you read a client's journal do you feel like you are invading their privacy, or do you think it is fun to get all the insider information? Also is it important for clients to share their journal with... Hi Kati! I know you don’t do much therapy with teens or people under the age of 18, but I would still like to hear your answer for this question! You say that people have to be willing to get better/want to put in the effort, but... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for Ask Kati Anything! Hello! Can emotional abuse or neglect lead to complex ptsd, hypervigilance and dissociation? I have experienced this during my whole childhood but.. Hi! How do I in the best way allow myself to be honest in therapy? Many times I make something sound less bad or not truly express how I feel or how bad it... Hi Kati, do you have any advice on choosing what to prioritise in session when every week it seems there's something more important? Do you believe it’s always possible for a patient to overcome an attachment to the therapist? In these past few weeks, my brain has brought me to believe that I’ll never get over my attachment to my therapist and have a normal and happy life. Thoughts like this have... Hey Kati, how can I take constructive criticism? Every time someone criticizes me I feel deeply offended. I know people just want me to do better but I still feel bad when someone... Hi Kati! You always talk about how we should bring up childhood traumas in therapy but what exactly would happen when... Hey Kati, What are some things you would never say to a depressed person? Hi kati! I hope you're doing well! So when I was 16 years old I went to a party to celebrate the beginning of uni. I got really really drunk and later I learnt that they put Rohypnol on my drink, I don't remember much, but I remember the pain... Hey Kati, How can I deal with my therapist suddenly being on leave? She was going to tell me she was pregnant 2 months before she expected to give birth, however, her baby decided to come very early so I had no warning before she left, how can I deal with this sudden change? Hi Kati, How do you stay positive during another lockdown, without falling back into a negative spiral that 2021 is going to be as bad as 2020? I love sport( specifically water polo) but I haven’t been able to play for a year and I can’t stop thinking things will never be okay or be “normal” again. I’ve also been really sick and had an operation a few weeks ago, so everything feels very overwhelming. Sorry, I hope this makes sense. Thank you for all you do, you’ve helped me so much! Love from Zimbabwe. Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions for Ask Kati Anything1. Hey Kati! How can I know if I am still attached to my therapist or if it started to be a healthy bond? Also, How do I know that everything I feel towards my therapist isn't just transference? How would I...2. Hey Kati! Hope you are doing well. How does one get over having to switch therapists and process the loss of that relationship and having to start a new one? Thank you for your content!3. Hi Kati! I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask: am I ever going to make peace with what happened to me as a child and the collateral damages it has created? I was sexually abused from the age of 6 till I turned 8. I've been in therapy on and off...4. Hi Kati, How do you get through social anxiety during therapy sessions (when therapy triggers it much more than any experience ever has), anxiety leading up to sessions, dissociation during...5. Hey Kati! What impact does having a surgery as a baby have on our emotional development? I was wondering if my fear of abandonment is connected with a surgery I had at 6 months old. I recently found out that it...6. Hi Kati! I have a very hard time coping with change, I seem to be seeking comfort and stability all the time and the slightest change in my life brings me a lot of fear and anxiety, sometimes to the point that I...7. Hi Kati, You’ve mentioned in the past about listing what you had in a relationship vs. what you needed from that relationship and grieving the difference. I’ve never quite understood what that meant. What does “grieving the difference” look...8. Hi Kati. How can you start dating when you struggle with fear of intimacy (especially regarding romantic relationships and sex) and tend to use avoidance as a coping...9. Hi Kati happy Thursday! How can I stop blaming my past selves? I always feel like I had so much potential as a 17-year-old and I feel so angry with her for not...10. Hi Kati! Thank you for all the content you're posting! My question is: how do you know if you need therapy or if you can cope on your own? If I compare myself to my past self I think I'm doing quite well, I'm able to study more regularly...11. How important is it to have a clearly formulated goal that you want to work on before your first appointment with a therapist? I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to say...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. Hi Kati, how do you deal with feeling discouraged when symptoms of mental illness return despite doing everything to prevent it? I have been taking medication for depression for over a year and consistently go to therapy, but my symptoms...2. Hi Kati! Why is it so hard for me to bear my therapist's silence in sessions? Is it part of me wanting to hear her opinion, so I don't have to be confronted with my own...3. EDIT!!!! Hi Kati! Why do I feel so responsible for other people's words/actions? I am often on edge when around others because I feel responsible for their words/actions and if they say or do something offensive or hurtful, I can feel super...4. Hey there! :) What is an appropriate gift for my therapist for the holidays? What gifts have you gotten and what gifts have you had to decline?5. Hi Kati, I am a frontline healthcare worker and I am so beyond exhausted, I’m not sure how much more I can take. It is so heartbreaking to watch people so sick and dying every shift and it seems nothing is helping. I started having panic attacks at work but I cannot...6. Hey Kati, could you please say some calming therapisty things, in your therapist voice? I often listen to your podcast to calm down and remind myself of my own therapist in between sessions. But recently my anxiety levels are...7. Hi Kati. I feel scared. The therapeutic relationship/emotional closeness is making me terribly afraid. I've known my therapist for years now and I am terrified because all I can think about is "eventually she'll leave. Therapy has to...8. How can I wire my brain to do something despite my fears or negative thoughts? I struggle with executing my plans because I am terrified that something might go wrong. I always end up stuck in going through the motions, lose motivation and interest, and go back to square one of...9. Dear Kati: Please accept some socially distanced holiday cheer, and my personal gratitude for all that you do on both of your channels. My question is about the working alliance between my therapist and...10. Hi Kati! I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask: how can I deal with being attracted and falling for older people. I was sexually abused as a little girl, since the age of 6 till I turned 8. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 11. Now that I'm 21, I...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/ka Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1. Hey Kati! Thank you for all that you do! My question is how do I find meaning in my life? I struggle...2. Hey Kati happy Thursday! My dad left when I was 8 and recently he reached out to me for the first time in ten years. I repressed the feeling for so long that I truly lived in a happy delusion of believing my dad leaving had zero effect on me...3. Do therapists really mean it when they give you compliments or are they just saying it to build the therapeutic relationship? I've had therapists say things like "i'm in awe of you" or "I was completely blown away when you said...". I find my inner voice saying...4. Hi Kati! I was wondering, if you're around a narcissist for a long period of time (dating, married or grew up with one etc) can their narcissistic qualities rub off on you making you display their...5. Hey Kati, what is a healthy amount of control? I tend to feel all or nothing is the only approach. I try not to control others, but I feel like I’m the only thing I can control, so I can be a...6. Hey Kati, I hope you’re doing great. I’m a pretty shy person and I struggle to make eye contact with people in my daily life. The only person I can look in the eyes without feeling embarrassed is my therapist. When I started therapy I thought I was gonna struggle to...7. Hey Kati! How can I stop replaying the bad parts of my last therapy session in my head? I feel like my thoughts spin round and round like on one of those teacup rides - it's nauseating - and with my appointments being every fortnight, it's exhausting. I told her about a new intrusive thought that...8. Is psychosomatic pain a real thing, if so, how could one differentiate psychosomatic pain from a physical pain? Or just chat about psychosomatic symptoms..9. Hey Kati! Happy Thursday! Every once in a while, I have a feeling of intense anxiety or feeling down for no reason at all. I feel like I have to have a reason for why I feel the way that I do or else I will overthink it and I don't like not having a reason...10. Hi Kati, should I and how should I approach the topic of touch starvation in therapy? I struggle with touch starvation and didn’t really have that need fulfilled as a kid but I don’t like to talk about it in therapy because it’d be weird knowing that my therapist...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (ht Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions: Hello Kati, I've had such a horrible week despite my efforts to bring my mood up. And get myself feeling happy I've just been so tired every day, drained even with sleep. I've been unable... How do you tell the difference between feelings of loneliness, being alone, and being an introvert or “lone wolf”? I really struggle to tell where one starts and the other... Hi Kati! I'm gonna just get straight to the point here - I feel like I always have a desire to be the victim. For lack of a better term, I've experienced a "rush" at the thought of it. I feel uncomfortable if I... Hi Kati, ethical / therapy-related question here. I opened up with my therapist about part of my past sexual abuse, and I told her that I first realized it was actually sexual abuse when, recently, a friend told me of a similar situation and we both found it disturbing and unacceptable. At the end of the session, my therapist asked me... Hey Kati, is it possible to choose to be emotionally neglected? A few years ago I noticed that I grew way too attached to my singing teacher for it to be considered normal. It led me to believe I have some attachment issues caused by my mother. I thought I... Hi Kati! I hope you're well. I have a random question about therapists and their clients. Is it legal to treat a family member? For example, if your aunt/uncle or... Do you have any recommendations for someone who has multiple conditions they need to work on? I have such a hard time even finding a therapist because I don’t know what to bring up or what is more important. I struggle with anxiety, OCD, ADHD, self-harm (not self-diagnosed), and I... Hi Kati, Is it possible to have a “favorite person” as it is described in relation to BPD, without having BPD? Since adolescence I’ve... Hi Kati, Since it’s encouraged for people in mental health industries to see their own psychologist from time to time, do you find it hard to “switch positions” and be... Hi Kati! I am a woman who has survived CSA and I have a question: is it normal to be aroused/turned on by the idea of being sexually assaulted? This is never something I would want in real life, but I have daydreamed scenarios of sexual assault often. I am currently in therapy but have never... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now! Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help support the creation of mental health videos Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

ep.39 Rebecca Zamolo & Kati MortonAudience questions1. Hi Kati, please ask Rebecca how she manages to still have hope and faith after such a trauma. Maybe this inspires someone...2. Hi Kati, I have multiple chronic illnesses including autoimmune disorders, Celiac Disease, Fibromyalgia, pain disorders, chronic fatigue, etc. My doctors have tried to tell me to stop working for many years, but it's unrealistic. I also don't...3. Hey Kati and Rebecca! Can you talk about how to improve social skills (and maybe social anxiety) and learning how to improve/develop relationships? I'm an introvert with social anxiety...4. Hi Kati and Rebecca! Can you talk about trauma, and how it can affect your overall health? I experienced trauma as a child, and I think the stress has had a negative effect on my overall health. I often have symptoms of anxiety, I have a high resting heart...5. Hi Kati, Can reading articles on mental illnesses make your symptoms worse? Ever since I’ve searched up things about suicide, self-harm, depression, anxiety, ARFID, and complicated grief, my symptoms seem to...6. Hey Kati. Why is being sensitive viewed as a bad thing? Can sensitivity be a good thing? I'm a sensitive person myself and I often get criticized for it. I know others who get criticized for being sensitive too. I try to be less sensitive but it's...Rebecca Zamolo Social MediaInstagramTikTok Twitter Facebook MOST COMMON TYPES Crohn's disease: A chronic inflammatory bowel disease that affects the lining of the digestive tract. Ulcerative colitis: A chronic, inflammatory bowel disease that causes inflammation in the digestive tract. For informational purposes only. Consult your local medical authority for advice.Sources: Mayo Clinic and others.Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep381. Hey Kati, how do therapists deal with things that trigger their own mental illnesses? I want to be a therapist, but I struggle with anxiety and eating disorders myself and I’m afraid that there will be a patient who triggers me, potentially even to the point of relapse.2. Hi Kati! Is it weird that I really want to cry in therapy but never can? I’ve always been someone that suppresses and ignores my emotions because I grew up thinking they were a sign of weakness. Because of this...3. Good day, Kati! Why do I keep pushing my friends away when I’m in a depressive episode? I know that’s when I need them the most and I need their support, but I just push them away and...4. How do you know that you're ready to start talking about your trauma? I keep telling myself I'm not ready but what if I just don't want to? A couple of months ago i got some really strong flashbacks from what might have been...5. Hi Kati! Do you think therapy is necessary for everyone? I spent three years in therapy but I stopped going a few months ago and I feel so much better since I stopped! Is there something wrong with me? I know deep down there is some stuff I...6. Why can't I tell my parents that I love them or hug them? I obviously do love them but saying that is nearly impossible even though we used to be very affectionate towards each other when I was a child. When my mom tells me she loves...7. How do I get over the feeling that I’m “faking” it. I feel like a fraud like I’m faking my way through life. I’ve accomplished a lot in life. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m faking it!!... HELP. Appreciate all you do.Much love8. Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel like I need to prepare a lot before therapy? Before each session, I read through my journals and think about everything I want to say, as well as how I will answer any potential questions that my therapist might ask...9. Can someone be resistant to therapy because one sees through the strategies of the therapist so that they don't work?10. Hey Kati. I’m 19 years old and in the last few years, I’ve found myself getting strongly attached to female figures who are older than me. It’s almost like I’ve got a little hole inside of me and...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep.37 Hi Kati, what does a healthy attachment to your therapist feel like for the client? I am constantly wondering whether my attachment is healthy, for example, is it okay to be excited to tell them something that has happened to... Hi Kati! I’m just curious to know if therapists “stalk” their patients on social media? I would find it so tempting to want to know more about my patients if I was a therapist and I feel like I would want to look through their Instagrams and... Hi, Kati! I have a question. I’m 21, and I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety for several years. I’ve tried therapy on and off starting when I was 14. I would always just talk with a therapist about how I was feeling, but it never really went anywhere. I eventually stopped because it wasn’t helping. I feel... Hello Kati, Do you think “birth order” may play a role in mental illness, and have you seen any trends in your counseling sessions? (such as depressed middle children, eldest children facing too much pressure, youngest who might have been smothered) I’m... Hi Kati! My therapist and I both independently came to the conclusion that I was emotionally neglected as a child and teenager, but almost a year later I'm still struggling to see how it could have been bad enough to cause such severe mental... Dear Kati, Why do I feel the need to google or research things? Whenever a topic or item is posed that could be relatively related to me I find myself compulsively looking it up. I’ll spend hours reading about a topic and get a brief sense of relief, however... Dear Kati, How can I experience the emotional charge of trauma memories at the "right time"? My brain is very protective of me; it still treats the trauma as if... Hey Kati, what is the difference between social anxiety disorder and avoidant personality disorder? What do you have to work on with clients with AvPD vs... Hi Kati, why do I miss the old times when I felt bad and can't accept that it's good that I don't self-harm anymore. I miss feeling bad and that's crazy... Hi Kati! How do you take care of your own mental health when having to be a caretaker for your parent that has a chronic illness? I’m only 23 and feel completely burnt out from having to take on all of the household chores... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/kati Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Intro with thoughts about Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard & his relapse. Audience questions: Hi Kati. How to deal with being a later-in-life virgin? I'm 21 and I'm getting to be requested to talk about it in therapy. It all started when we were talking about my poor interpersonal skills... Do therapists get bored if a patient doesn't give new information in sessions? I usually answer with 'nothing happened' when she asks how my week went, because I can't recall anything... Hi Kati. How can I cope with feeling lonely and seeking connection and validation while simultaneously being incredibly stressed out by human contact? I am easily triggered in conversations... Hi Kati! Is avoiding deep and hurtful emotions a sign that a person lacks empathy or the opposite- that they have too much of it? Is it healthy to keep avoiding sad/hurtful emotions? For example, I do everything to avoid things to do with tragedies like wars, Holocaust, or other disasters where people or animals get... Hi Kati! I have a tough question... My 16-year-old daughter (who is a virgin. Never had a BF, not even a first kiss yet) recently told me that her cousin (MY sister's son) sexually assaulted her 2 years ago, when they were both 14 years old... Hey Kati! Why is it bad that I intellectualize in my sessions? I know it's a defense mechanism, but I don´t understand why my therapist doesn't want me to say things like "I experience depersonalization". In the end, it doesn't truly make a difference if... Why is it when you have trauma happen multiple times does your brain want to just block it out? With me I’ve had trauma multiple times in my life that I just block it out and feel like I have to push it down, I feel like it doesn’t matter and I have to... Hey Kati - so my anxiety does this thing where I can't do things in front of other people. At first, I'll shake and get stuck in a panic state, then I'll dissociate and shut down. It makes things like cooking while other people are in the room, doing group work at... Hi Kati, can you please talk about how to deal with concentration and memory issues because of anxiety? I feel like I can't really make good experiences to... Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1. How do therapists feel when their client talks about something really traumatic? I mean, therapists are people too and really terrible things happening to other people...2. A friend of mine received a phone call from the school psychologist because her 10-year-old daughter used her school computer to google “How to commit suicide.” My friend recently...3. Hey Kati! Could you explain a bit more the science behind false memories ? I do not know if my abuse was made up because it became a problem in my life only a few years ago when I started learning about psychology in college and I started remembering stuff from...4. Hope you're doing great. Can you talk about hiding things we want to talk about but are ashamed of or scared of. I've been meaning to talk about more of my sexuality (being gay) and traumas I've...5. Hi Kati! Why can’t I be okay with the way I feel for my therapist? I told my therapist about imagining having her as my mother, really liking her. The fact she doesn't give me any kind of reaction makes me feel miserable and like what I feel is wrong, even if it...6. Hey there! How do we keep going towards a goal when we're seeing no encouraging feedback yet? It may or may not be "working", but we can't see it. It's so easy to quit at this...7. Hey Kati, how do I ask for help? I have really been struggling lately and I haven’t told anyone about it. I want to ask for help but every time I try the anxiety is...8. Any tips on how to become less body-focused/more body positive? My eating disordered and low self-esteemed mind cannot follow the progress my body made during the intuitive eating journey I've started in January this year. To this day I've become calmer around food and stopped hoarding it as much since binging/purging cycles, but I'm having a very hard time with...9. Hi Kati. All of my therapy sessions at the beginning are silent. I know that I have to start talking about whatever I want but the problem is I don’t know what to say, what is my problem at this moment. Everything seems unimportant, small and silly and I should be...10. Hi Kati hope you are doing well. How do I let go of my past self? I've been trying to move past my depressed and traumatised self but I can't seem to...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything audience questions:1) Hey Kati!! I beat myself up a lot over not being able to self harm severely. I'm suicidal in my thoughts, but my actions aren’t always reflecting that directly. Every time I ask those around me for help (regarding these suicidal thoughts), because I’ve not...2) Hi Kati, how do we actually "process" any emotion/situation? I never know how long to sit with hard emotions, I end up crying for a few minutes and then just saying to myself "okay time to do something...3) Hi Kati, have you ever needed to take time to grieve when a client has finished their sessions with you? I know you've said before that we as clients need to...4) Hi Kati! How can I ask my therapist about a specific disorder without seeming like I'm self-diagnosing? I have done a lot of research on my specific symptoms and I would like to ask to be evaluated for a specific disorder or...5) Hi Kati! Why do I feel the need to hear from my therapist that I am sick enough and/or that she is worried about me? Why do I constantly crave that validation?6) Hey Kati. How do I stop covering my trauma in humour in therapy? In today’s session, I shared a really hard story and at the end, I just made light of it and made a joke, and my therapist said...7) Hi Kati. How is talk therapy possible, when I can't talk about feelings without crying & basically can't talk when I just cry all the way through? For me, crying in front of others is associated with helplessness, rejection, and out of control...8) Hi Kati! Is it possible to feel worse after therapy? I have recently started working with my psychologist on processing childhood trauma as my parents were emotionally neglectful, although unintentionally...9) Hey Kati! I was wondering which Personality Disorders are the hardest for you to treat? Or which clients with Personality Disorders are most rewarding to work with overtime? Also to what degree is it possible to heal from PD’s? I have Avoidant/Schizoid Personality Disorder and I feel like I am annoying to my therapist, even if she says...10) As someone who has trust issues, how do you find a therapist you trust? The few I've tried recently felt like they were just running through a script and not engaging with my personal issues. I need serious help but...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 331. How come I feel really bad during the week but then I go to therapy and seem like the happiest person ever. I don’t know how to say help me?2. Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for a while now and have this thing where I'm always looking forward to the next session but when the day actually comes I dread going. In between sessions, I think about what I want to bring up next but I always end up feeling like I'm overreacting right before the next session. I usually warm up after a while but I was just wondering where this feeling comes from even after...3. Hi Kati, what do therapists think of adults who self harm? I know your opinion might not be representative of all therapists, but I just want to hear your...4. Hi Kati! What’s the best way to take care of your own mental health if you have loved ones with serious mental health problems? My brother is a recovering addict, and both of my parents have pretty serious...5. Hi Kati. Hope you're doing great. Can you talk about having a hard time naming things? I tend to surround things I want to talk about, I rationalize them, but when it comes to putting a name to them, it gets really hard. This happened to me in therapy while trying to talk about my...6. Hi Kati. How can you differentiate between feeling that something is wrong or off and being anxious? I had many times felt that way and something inevitably went wrong, even though I didn't...7. Hi Kati! I hope you're having a great week! Does an eating disorder have to be about body image and weight? I have recently been struggling with anxiety and depression but lately (for a month) I am never hungry, or I’ll...8. Hi kati, How do we stop avoiding things and at the same time start to listen to what we want more?? I have cptsd and am a big avoider; so I am told by my treatment team that I should be more gentle with myself, but also that I...9. Hi Kati! How do you deal with parents who aren’t supportive of you going to therapy? The thing is, I’m stuck back home after studying and working in the family business. I make my “own” money working during...---Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions for Ask Kati Anything!1. Hey Kati, how can I calm down in therapy? Most of the time I feel really anxious and nervous in session and it really bothers me because I feel as if I am not able to think and talk about my issues very well and I tend to push all of my feelings away and just feel empty or dissociate. I am not really able to...2 .Hi Kati, what do I do if I feel like my therapist doesn't always believe me? There are times when I feel like she dismisses my problems, or doesn't realise how much they are truly impacting my life. I will want to...3. How can I draw the line between coping & coddling myself too much? Sometimes, I feel like I am being too forgiving with myself when I am trying to cope. It almost feels like I am using 'coping' as an excuse to get out of..4. Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel triggered by someone being soft with you? Sometimes I get triggered by people like my therapist making me feel vulnerable but it’s weird because I...5. Hi Kati, how can I begin to work through trauma when I don't know what it was that traumatised me/when I barely remember anything? Thanks! 6. Hi Kati! I was emotionally neglected my whole life and that explains why I am emotionally extremely walled off and at the same time extremely attached to my therapist. I feel like I am still a little kid on the inside that is stuck in...7. This question almost made it two weeks ago! (40+ likes) Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel like your life is split in two "eras" or seasons when something traumatic happens? f. e. 3 years ago my parents got into a huge fight because my...8. Is it possible to improve suddenly in several mental health aspects? One day I'm attached to my therapist, I'm very anxious around people, I feel suicidal, I sleep a lot, and one day all of the above seem to have disappeared...9. Hi Kati, ever since I talked about and tried to deal with my problems (suicidal, insecurity, stress), are always on my face and in my heart. I don't feel I'm really happy even though I still...10. Hey Kati! How do you feel about clients telling you, they really care about you? I am really attached to my therapist and I wish she would be my mother. I have been feeling so much hurt because of the intensity of...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for ep.31 of Ask Kati Anything!1. Hi Kati! Can your depression change over time? I've been depressed for about 10 years but my depression feels different now (I'm 22) to when I was younger, for example around 15. It feels like...2. I have this faulty belief that I am not as good as everybody else. It is so deeply ingrained that I'm starting to witness myself sabotage myself. No matter what I do, I start by looking at myself then to a person who does...3. Hi Kati! Is there any advice you can give to help people who have no way of affording therapy right now? I lost my job due to COVID and haven’t been able to find another one. I have dealt with anxiety issues for a long time...4. Hi Kati, I hope you are doing well. What do you tell your clients when they want to give up? I have had so many periods where I’ve discovered a lower rock bottom than I could ever imagine, and every time I think “it really does get worse”...5. Do therapists lie whether they experienced a similar event or feeling to reassure clients? Do they make up harmless stories like they were bullied too, to make clients feel heard? Maybe not lying, but...6. Do therapists test you even outside your appointment? Is that part of their job? For example, when you meet them before the session, and they say sorry for being late because of traffic, do they pay attention to how you react? Are you empathic...7. Hi Kati I hope you’re having a happy day. I’m curious about your experience with patients working through C-PTSD. Do you feel like it’s generally a slow progression of healing, with people becoming a little less symptomatic here and there...8. Hi Kati, how can I learn to communicate my anger? Growing up I learned to never be angry because my parents often got loud and I still get a lot of anxiety around people whenever there is a confrontation or people shout at each other. I feel uncomfortable around most men because of...9. Hi Kati, why do painful memories trigger self-harm urges? I’ve recently been trying to process painful memories from my childhood and it’s making me want to...10. I've always romanticized death. My whole life has been about running away from everything, escaping. I want to change that. I think I don't know how to live. I feel so lost and disorientated...Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/kat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On ep.30 of Ask Kati Anything! we have writer & podcaster Alison Rosen, the host of Alison Rosen Is Your New Best Friend and Childish with Greg Fitzsimmons. Alison’s roots are in traditional media, having written for Rolling Stone, the NY Post, Vibe, Spin, Maxim, the Village Voice, People, Seventeen, and Elle, among others. Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything! Hi Kati and Alison! I would love to hear what’s your go-to activity when you're having a shitty at-home mental health day, and similarly what’s your most enjoyable form of self-care in pandemic times. Big fan Hey Kati can you talk about “helicopter parenting.” Whether it is beneficial to a child or not. And what are some effects it can have on someone going out into the world without the knowledge of alcohol, drugs, sex, etc? Hi Kati, could you maybe talk about what exactly nightmares are? I recently started wondering because pretty much every night (or I usually have them in the morning) my dreams involve fear and anxiety and leave me with these feelings when I wake up. For example, a recurring theme is being chased and having to run for my life, being harassed by my abusive ex, or dreams involving abusive family members or. How do I trust, open up, and be more honest with my therapist? I realized the more upset I am, the more silent I become since I learn from young that it is better to not just express your feelings. This makes it hard for me to... How to find Alison YouTube Podcast Alison Rosen Is Your New Best Friend Twitter Instagram Connecting with Kati Are u ok? Kati's book is in stores now Kati's Amazon Suggestions PATREON is a great way to help me support the creation of mental health videos. Journaling Club - On Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! Opinions That Don't Matter! (Kati's second podcast) video version audio version ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust. BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] MAIL PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403 PLEASE READ If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep. 29 of Ask Kati Anything! Hi Kati - can you please talk about ways on how to communicate our needs and hurts to our friends without feeling like an exposed nerve when we do it? I grew up in a family that was great at being practical but was somewhat terrible at communicating honestly and being... What do you recommend for those who tend to isolate themselves when they’re feeling down or depressed? I push everyone I know away, and ultimately it... Hey Kati I am well into my 30s now but still, feel stuck in a very childlike brain. I feel very incapable of doing adult things... Hi Kati, how is it 'normal' to want your therapist to worry about you? I certainly don't exaggerate my issues but I just constantly crave her attention and it makes me feel... Hi Kati! I’m wondering if there’s anything I can do to stop having intrusive memories. I’ve always looked at past memories with a feeling of dread because I would always recall memories with... Hi Kati, what can we do when positive coping skills just feel too exhausting, too much, too uncomfortable, and too boring? I feel like there is so much I need to do to keep my physical and mental health and I... Hi Kati! What is the difference between dissociation and brain fog? I often (most of the time) feel cut off from the world and unable to take in reality. I "zone out", especially when... Hi Kati, can you talk about having an emotionally unintelligent parent and how that might affect us? I have been going to therapy for about 4 months now and know now that my mom is emotionally unintelligent. She can be very... Hi Kati - I'm a sexual abuse survivor who is currently in therapy. I've addressed the trauma, confronted my abuser, and gotten rid of the triggers that used to occur during sex itself, but I still have one nagging issue that I can't seem to get rid of... What does it mean when my therapist asks me to imagine or think back to something, and I can only think about the fact that I need to imagine or think back to something? Hey Kati! How do therapists feel when a client tells you that they are having suicidal thoughts? JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Christina P., a stand-up comedian, writer, TV personality & host of the WHERE MY MOMS AT!? podcast. It's the show by the Moms for the Moms. An open place to admit no one really knows what they're doing. iTunes WATCH ON YOUTUBE Twitter @christinapInstagram TheChristinaPFacebook https://www.facebook.com/TheChristinaP/Audience questions: Opinions on not wanting a previously absent, neglectful, and sometimes abusive parent ever in your life again? Is it okay to not accept the love and presence that they are now offering? I want her to stay away because it's too late and frankly I don't NEED it. People seem to be struggling with the guilt and all but I personally don't think I feel bad at all. I think I've just resented her too much. I'd be curious to hear both Kati's clinical perspective and Christina's comedian perspective for this question: Why do so many comedians/artists have mental health 'issues'? And which came first, the mental health abnormality or the art? Or is it a matter of personality? Inquiring minds would love to know any thoughts or insight as I... Hi, Kati.. + mommy ✌🏼 I’m a 29-year-old, single parent. I adopted two children from foster care. They came to me at 6 and 8 and were adopted at ages 10 and 12. I love them with my entire body, and wouldn’t change any of the decisions I’ve made... How healthy is it for people to be "best friends" with their moms? And at different ages, i.e. when they're still minors and growing up OR when they're both adults. I would love to hear about Christina’s experience of having a mother with BPD (as I do too), and if she has any tips for healing and/or detaching. JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here are this week's questions for Ask Kati Anything! Is it possible to have depression, but not feel terrible? For me, I think I feel fine, but I can't seem to clean my room or take care of myself as well as I should, and I have... Hey Kati, you know how we're supposed to set BOUNDARIES WITH A TOXIC PARENT. So I did with my dad. We barely... Happy Thursday Kati! Can you talk about indecisiveness? Why do I have such a difficult time making decisions? Can this be... Hi Kati! Could you talk a little bit about emotional flashbacks, how do you know if you’re having them, how intense would they be, how to recognize them in the moment and stop them? I believe that I have been... Hey Kati :) Is it weird that I never feel proud of my accomplishments? I usually just think "thank god that's over" and feel relieved that everything worked out. I would love to... Hey Kati, How do you stop feeling like you only deserve bad things in life? I have a lot of guilt and shame related to past abuse and PTSD, and I feel like... Hi Kati! How do you have difficult conversations without crying? Even when the conversation is completely respectful and calm, whenever I have a difficult conversation, it feels like my body just reacts by becoming tearful and my throat... Hi Kati. Hope you're doing great. Can you talk about being unable to express feelings and rationalizing everything. I find it hard to... Dear Kati, Intimate relationships have always been a trigger to me, probably because of the attachment system that it activates... When things happened, I might relapse and it's like I've... Happy Thursday! Do I need to like my psychiatrist??? I have a therapist who I really like, but I’m not a fan of my psychiatrist. I trust him, and the medication he has prescribed has been helpful, but I dread... Hello Kati! How can we deal with the grief that is never-ending? I have been grieving the emotional neglect I have experienced in my childhood but I feel like it never ends and creates resistance in therapy even though I am taking antidepressants. I feel very... JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patre Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here are this week's questions for Ask Kati Anything! Hi Kati! I’m wondering if you can tell when a client isn’t being authentic with you (and themselves) during session? Does this happen often? I found myself leaving session with my therapist and being frustrated because... What is the difference between coping skills and straight up ignoring signs of mental distress? I’ve been SO stressed lately. I lost my job with COVID six months ago and... Hi Kati! Do you ever have patients that don’t seem to get better after trying every possible treatment plan? I suffer from depression and generalized... Hi Kati, I know that there are intrusive thoughts, but are intrusive emotions a thing? I have these painful emotions that hit me at seemingly minor incidences or while I am having a... Hi Kati. I wanted to ask you about how could I know what is therapy-material. For example, I'm bisexual but I think it's not something that, on its own, bugs me in any special way, but even so, I'm from... I want my therapist to be proud so I stop self-harming, I stop acting on my impulse. However, I myself indeed don't really care about hurting my body. I wonder if my motivation is all wrong. If then, does it really matter? Or it's fine as long as... Hi Kati, hope you're doing great. Can you talk about how to go through with the need of going to the gynecologist, but at the same time not having been able yet to deal with even thinking of going. I was sexually abused since the age of... Hi Kati. Can you talk about getting blocked at session when talking about something that you really want to talk about but that it's really hard or shameful? I was sexually abused as a kid for two years. I've been in therapy on and off for ... Hey Kati, how do you decide whether a relationship is toxic and you should leave, or that you should be supportive and get that person help? For example, if a family member has been extremely toxic and verbally abusive for a long time but has a... Hi Kati! Is it normal to feel jealous of your therapist's other patients? I often find myself ruminating on where I stand in the pecking order... JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions1. I was wondering how therapists decide it’s time to stop therapy. Is there a point you decide that they’re either fully recovered, or no longer benefiting from therapy, and then tell the client they don’t need...2. Do you get tired of hearing the "same" stories/issues over and over again? I imagine it feels almost like solving and answering a certain type of math question over and over and over again...3. Hi Kati, I have been struggling with becoming overly attached to female teachers/ other school staff for a few years now. I often find myself fantasizing about experiencing a traumatic event like being raped or experiencing a murder. I think it’s because I crave their attention and care but don't know how to get it to the level that...4. How do you deal with the grief that comes with losing people? (not necessarily by death, I mean yes sure but also rejection, neglect, friendships drifting apart and...5. Why do I feel like I always need to have control over everything? I panic and get super triggered and overwhelmed (like I would cry and have actual meltdowns) when I’m unsure of something when I FORGET when...6. I was at Ariana Grande’s concert when there was a terrorist attack and now suffer from severe PTSD and depression from it. I was 16 at the time of the attack and now...7. Is there anything better not shared with a therapist. I've been seeing my therapist since COVID started and I feel way more comfortable with her than...8. Recently I have been creating "false memories". I am convinced I have had conversations with people that apparently never happened, but it seems...9. When is the line crossed between being helpful to your parents and being a parentified child? As a daughter of immigrant parents, I was often told...10. I am thinking about reporting my father for the sexual abuse in my childhood because I am afraid he might abuse other children too, now that I got to...11. How can people, especially therapists (because they are always against suicide in my experience) not understand that death can sometimes be a rational decision that should be accepted?JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest e Supp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep24 of Ask Kati Anything! Hey Kati, is it weird that I would “secretly” really like to be diagnosed with something?? I’ve been struggling mentally for about 8 months... I see my therapist once a week, but after each session I find myself already longing for the next session because it feels so nice to talk to her. The 6 days in between appointments feels like forever! Is this a sign of good therapy, or an unhealthy attachment? Does it mean I should ask for more... In what way are therapists 'responsible' for you? If you commit suicide or homicide, how can they investigate how much you told your therapist about your plans? Hi Kati, is it normal to feel abandoned/rejected when your therapist has to cancel a session? Recently we had a hurricane in NJ and... Hey Kati! I have been diagnosed with GAD for a while. Whenever I’m trying to concentrate, whether it’s reading something, or trying to do school, my brain won’t stop thinking about... Do you think it can be traumatizing to hit a child for discipline? Hi Kati. How can I avoid building an unhealthy relationship with my therapist? I decided to try out therapy and I've been pouring my heart out to him. The thing is... Hi Kati, I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask you how to bring the topic of sex to my therapist and how to better deal with it. I was sexually assaulted by my... Hi Kati! Will dissociation always be a part of my life? Considering that it’s a coping skill that I honed since... Hey Kati, I told a friend that I struggle with self harm and an eating disorder. At the moment things are really bad for me. I often see the person who abused me because of Corona. He doesn’t do anything anymore, but... Hi Kati. How can I find out what I truly want? I always seek my therapist's opinion; she says it's all somewhere inside of me, but I can't see it. I always think other people know better what I need or want so... Hi Kati, I fear the day that the people I care about will pass away. When I think of this, "What if I just die before they're gone, I wouldn't hurt that much." is what I tell... JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep23 of Ask Kati Anything! Hi Kati! I’ve heard of repressing bad memories, but is it possible to repress good memories? I had a traumatic childhood and have a lot of bad memories as a result, but as hard as I try, I can only recall a couple of good memories... Hi Kati, Is it normal to be defensive and sad without knowing why? In front of people, I’m always snappy and mad. Everything is so... How can you tell the difference between enough self-care to get through your day, and being too focused on yourself? I've been accused before of being too... Hi Kati, I have a paper/picture-perfect family. Problem is, I have never felt loved or cared for. I know my parents love and care for me, but I never feel any of the love, care, and support I’m supposedly... Dear Kati, I hope you are well. My therapist pointed out that I put a lot of effort into trying to stay a step ahead of her. I see what she means... Hi Kati! How can I forgive my parents for emotionally neglecting me as a child? Ever since I realized it happened, there is a lot of sadness, anger and disappointment I feel towards them... I was wondering which mental illnesses are chronic vs temporary, and why this is the case. Which can you fully recover from and which must you learn how to manage? Hey Kati! Is it normal to feel reluctant about talking about sex-related trauma with my male therapist, and do you have any tips to make it easier? I don't get a choice of therapist, as my therapy is through the NHS... Hi Kati! Do you ever want to tell a client to just stop complaining? I feel like I have this never-ending sequence of circumstances in my life that when... Hi Kati, is it normal to feel some sort of obsession with your therapist? I want to talk to her more often, I want to know more about her and I really really miss her right now as she is on holiday. Sometimes I even feel like I love her (though not in a romantic way!)... Would a therapist ever ask to see their client's journal, and why? SPONSORED BYstaystrongcollective.orgJOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (ht Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep22 of Ask Kati Anything! How is a therapist generally trained to respond when they notice their client getting teary in session? Hi Kati! I really struggle with feeling responsible for other people's emotions, including my therapist. I constantly analyze people to ensure... Hi Kati, I have this problem that nobody seems to understand. It has to do with time and my feeling that I wasted my whole life so far... Is it normal to feel exhausted for weeks at a time? Things still mostly get done but... Hi Kati! A little question about morals/ethics. My mom slept with my therapist. They were ‘friends’ before he became my therapist and I walked in on them... Good morning! How do you deal with people that are in therapy and have trust issues? Therefore, it's hard to open up to a therapist and afraid to talk about sensitive issues. Thanks from San Francisco, CA! Hi Kati :) I sometimes struggle with the end of therapy sessions because I have the feeling we discovered a thousand more problems I have to deal... Hi Kati!! Am I a weirdo for still missing my old therapist after a year and a half? And how do I stop comparing my new one to my old one? Can bulimia be only anxiety related? Or is it then considered self-harm etc? I've been having binge-purge episodes throughout this year. I guess everything else would... Hi Kati! How can I bring up something that a friend does that bothers me without hurting their feelings? I have a friend who when he's... Hey Kati. How can I stop judging myself for feeling the way I do? It took me a long time to somewhat see how I feel, but I still feel like I shouldn't feel the way I do. I get really frustrated that I can't feel the way I'm "supposed to". I fight myself all the time and it is really exhausting. I'd love to hear your thoughts on it! JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep21 of Ask Kati Anything!1. I wonder if therapists ever get ''desensitized'' to sad stories and get less empathetic after listening to so many of them from clients? Also, does listening to so many sad stories affect your...2. I've heard you talk about how important it is to set a treatment plan in therapy. Can you give some examples of a treatment plan you set with clients, how you went about it, and...3. Usually, after a therapy session, I feel great and much better than when I came in. But once in a while, I feel shitty and frustrated after a session because I feel like...4. How can we learn to trust ourselves when our mental condition leaves our ability to get things done unpredictable and we have often said that we would do things that turned out to be impossible for...5. Is it normal to not feel any connection with my parents after realizing that I...6. Any suggestions on tackling a therapy session when I’m not even sure what I’m feeling or what is bothering me? I’ve been in therapy for about 8 months. I started after getting laid off, and I had a clear idea of what was causing my...7. Is it common to feel like becoming aware of, understanding and expressing your emotions made things even harder and to miss the times you were able to just...8. How do we improve teletherapy when working on trauma and dissociation? What are some things the therapist can do to ground clients during telehealth sessions and what are some things we as clients can do to stay present? I struggle with...9. I noticed this weird pattern about myself which - to me - doesn't make sense. Since I was in 1st grade I always found myself looking for trustworthy adults outside of...10. Is it normal not to tell your therapist everything right away? I know the more you tell your therapist the better they can help you but once you open up will they be upset that you hid something...11. Are nightmares after therapy normal? When I talk with my therapist about things that remind me of situations from my childhood (it happened to be abusive) for the next few days I have nightmares about these memories...JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the near Supp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep20 of Ask Kati Anything!1. I hope you are doing okay. I was wondering if you could talk about emotional numbness and not being able to cry. I have always found myself struggling with showing emotions while...2. Why do I constantly have suicidal thoughts? Whenever something happens my initial thought is always along the lines of it want to kill myself etc...’ despite not actually wanting to do it or...3. Why can't I let myself see and accept that I am making progress in therapy? My therapist keeps telling me I actually do make progress but I can't let myself see it no matter how much I..4. I have never been a hugger (people have commented many times), and tend to go very still, pull back, and do a lot of “bro hugs...5. Do you have any tips on how to stay calm during a task that makes you anxious? I know how to calm myself down before or during breaks...6. I’ve been feeling suicidal and extremely down lately however I've been convincing myself that I'm fine. I've also been clean from self-harm for a few months but...7. When I was 17 years old, I got blackout drunk at a party hosted by my best friends. The morning after I realised a Guy had sex with me. I woke up naked next to him. I feel like my choice was taking away from me, I was so drunk I couldn't even keep my eyes open and sit up straight. I was not able to say yes or no. I know this, because my friends filmed me while I layed on the floor. I feel like I don't have the right to feel like shit and To feel like I've had sex against my will. Mainly because I was sooo drunk...8. What are emotional flashbacks? why do we only have the feeling, but do not have a real memory of the traumatic event? And how can we cope with them?9. Is it possible to unconsciously take on the symptoms of a disorder after having made loads of research about it? It took me a long time to accept I was suffering from...10. I’ve always been pursuing “perfection” (always being the best, being “thin”, getting good grades, ...). That ends up making me unhappy because it’s never enough...11. Sometimes when I'm having a good day/ week I feel like I've made up all the attacks, sadness, mood swings etc that come with depression. It makes me want...12. How can we cope with being a slow, introverted, easily overstimulated person in this fast-paced world? I always get so stressed about everything that...JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join KATI'S BOOK "Are u ok?"http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. Please visit: MORE INFO I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONhttps://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] S Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep19 of Ask Kati Anything! How do I stop feeling like I don't need anyone or anything? Deep down I know I need people and that I need to be vulnerable because it's human... What do you recommend for someone without much of a support system aside from their therapist? For example, having no friends or... Hey Kati, I'd like to know: What can I do to deal with multiple unfortunate events? I had 4 breakups, followed by multiple rejections on job search and rejected by multiple Master's degree scholarships. It really traumatized me... Hi Kati! Could you talk about the difference between intrusive thoughts and actual suicidal thoughts? Is it possible to have both? I’m diagnosed with... Hi Kati, these last few weeks I have been feeling a lot of self-hatred. It has always been there but now it's so much worse... Hi Kati! How to accept that someone can be gentle with me or make me feel seen without getting triggered? Sometimes in session... Hi Kati, hope you're doing well? I wanted to know, do you sometimes analyze the people you meet in your free time without really wanting, or can you just... Hey Kati. I am 14 and feel SO lonely. My parents don’t believe in therapy ( they are so nice other than that ) and I think I am suffering from... Hi Kati, I'm wondering if it is true that I make myself more depressed. This thought comes to my mind frequently lately. I'm thinking if I... Hey Kati. Ever since year 3, it’s like I’ve been afraid of people I know. Whenever I see someone I know outside of... Hi Kati, How do I stop comparing myself to others? Sometimes it's random people, other times its specific people or a specific person, but either way, it's frustrating, and it doesn't help me. It just makes me feel... JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep18 of Ask Kati Anything!1. Happy Thursday! I’d like to know: When do therapists ever get a break? How do therapists avoid burnout from working so much? How does a therapist coordinate going on vacation or... 2. Is it normal to have episodes of extreme sadness and hopelessness before and during your period? I have considered self-harming during those times. Do you think it’s just the mood swings? OR Could it also be my body’s need to...3. Do I have to believe therapy will work in order to get better? I’m depressed and not super hopeful, but I am trying. I just can't imagine wanting to live... 4. Hi, I wasn’t sure where to leave this for a request for a video on sibling emotional abuse/ bullying, especially in adult siblings - this is a very real and underlooked issue by society and mental health community, in general, the that is extremely hard to find support for as it’s often misunderstood as...5. What do you recommend for someone without much of a support system aside from their therapist? For example, having no friends or anyone who... 6. Hi Kati, When do you know it’s time to switch therapist OR If the kind of help you’re getting is not enough? 7. Hi Kati! How do you make sure what you’re saying in therapy is clear? Sometimes I don’t think that I’m doing a good job at explaining what’s really going on... 8. Hi Kati, How bad do body image issues have to be considered body dysmorphia. I struggle with body image issues and can’t even look at myself in the mirror or in a photo without heavily criticizing myself, sometimes I feel so bad about myself that I... 9. Hi Kati, I would like to ask you about trauma memories. I was sexually abused in my early teens. I understand now that I was traumatized by it, and I'm diagnosed with c-ptsd, but I still have... 10. Hi Kati! I was wondering when therapists usually give a diagnosis. I realize it will probably be different for everyone, but is there an estimate? I've been seeing my... 11. Hi Kati! I was wondering how emotional numbness and romantic relationships interact? I numb out almost all of my emotions and was wondering if that could cause me to... JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emer Support the show Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep17 of Ask Kati Anything!Hey Kati. My question is about why therapists don’t just TELL US when they can see something in our story that we don’t see ourselves? I’ve been in and out of therapy over...Hi Kati, I hope this makes sense, but how would you identify the line between worrying or being anxious about something (where it would help you prepare in a good or productive way) and being too anxious where it would be...Hi Kati, Any tips for dealing with rumination? My anxious brain NEVER EVER RESTS. Something could belong in the...Do you have any advice for how to get into the habit of living like a productive functioning adult?Hey Kati, Do you think there are some jobs that are magnets for people who struggle with mental health? I was really shocked to learn how...Hey Kati! How can I stop letting other people's opinion of me affect my emotions? I recently started to stand up for myself, after 26 years. I've been in therapy and realized that...Hello! Have you ever dealt with someone who deals with chronic suicidality? A few months ago I was officially diagnosed with major depressive disorder and moderate GAD, but I can trace melancholy back a decade. Suicide has been in my thoughts nearly since I can remember as well, altering between passive and active thinking throughout my life.People always used to describe me as outgoing and overall v social. but ever since I started struggling with depression I have become socially very VERY awkward. I stutter a lot, feel anxious and...Hi Kati! How do I help a friend deal with a significant amount of self-hate. They take every opportunity to but themself down to the point where they have had a near suicide event. They are not currently getting psychological help and I like to...Hey kati! I'm still trying to get an understanding of the whole transference thing. I was wondering what your answer is about transference in the therapeutic relationship when the therapist is the same sex as the client?JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience Questions for ep16 of Ask Kati Anything!Hey Kati, Is it normal to not want to tell your parents about anything that’s going on in your life? I have really nice supportive parents. I just don’t ever feel like I can open up to them about how I'm...Hi Kati, Ever since childhood, I've had a difficult time crying in front of others. I don't like showing my tears to other people since I want others to...Hey Kati!! Just wondering how therapists hide their emotions during a session. For example, if a client mentions something that is hard to hear details about or shocking and your mind is thinking WTF, how do you...Hi Kati, Do you have any advice for people who find it hard to accept that there are things that we have no control over especially the future. This is something that I have struggled with since I was...Kati, do you hug your client? I have been receiving trauma therapy for past abuse. With the transference of my therapist, I wish so much she could be my mom and hold me in her arms. However, my therapist refused to give me a hug or even...As a Psychology student as well as a patient with complex PTSD & OSDD, I wonder if I can ever be competent in being a therapist. As you know, traumatic stress in childhood has profound and ingrained impacts on the brain and body. I feel like I am...Does being sexually abused when you were younger change your preferences? I had something happen to me when I was 9 and now I’m in my early 20s. I’ve known for a few years now that I like and am attracted to women way more...Hi Kati, I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old and didn’t fully awaken to it until I was around 13. Since then all I can do is torture myself with it, I purposely watch programs or read things to do with those types of...Hi Kati, I sometimes feel as if my existence doesn't matter. Regularly I will go through bouts where all I can think about is disappearing, and I don't have any enthusiasm or motivation for...Hi Kati, How do I stop self-sabotaging my sleep schedule? I'm anxious all day and use night time to distract myself on my phone for hours to get some...JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Suppo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything #151. I was wondering how to cope with grieving the loss of therapy and not seeing one's therapist again (assuming that one wouldn't be able to go back to therapy at least for a while)? 2. I moved into college 7 weeks ago and have been full-on relapsing into anorexia since then. I have been telling my therapist about it, but I don't want to go back to recovery at...3. What would you say to your patients/clients if they came in and told you they felt like they were wasting your time? Here lately I feel like I’m...4. Can depression alter your brain permanently? Even after a depressive episode is over it feels as if my mental capacity is not the same as it used to be. As though I've lost parts of myself...5. I just wanted to know if seeing a male therapist after not having any kind of relationship with men, (because of trauma) therapeutic in itself? I know part of my therapy was...6. Hi Kati, recently I realized during therapy I was emotionally neglected since the age of 6. I know my parents did what they could with the knowledge/skills they...7. If somebody is feeling like they don’t deserve help or feels extremely tired of trying to fight and therefore distances away from their therapist and maybe begins to miss appointments and ...8. Hey Kati! My therapist hasn't given me a diagnosis yet, and it makes me wonder if maybe I don't really have anything going on to be diagnosed. I don't know how to ...9. Huge struggle I have and I really hope this gets in the video!! How can I know if I'm really suicidal or just feel hopeless that day and not wanting to live..10. Why does no one like shy people? And why do honest and kind people get exploited or ignored and those with a certain "ego" and the ability to sell and present themselves...11. What to do when you already had a lot of therapy and you would get along with yourself a lot better but you still are unable to...12. Hi, I have been seeing a therapist and I feel like I overshare, and then when I am out of her office I regret everything I say. JOURNALING CLUBEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself! https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join Where to get Kati's book Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor. I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ BUSINESS [email protected] MAILPO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices