Ask Kati Anything

Ask Kati Anything - your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT This episode focuses on Attachment & BPD Audience questions: I hear you talk about reparenting in order to deal with attachment issues a lot. My therapist wants to try this with me but somehow I feel very repulsed and almost angry when I think about this idea. I know, it's childish, but I don't want to do this myself. I want so bad for some other person to fill this parenting-hole and just having to care for myself, which is pretty much what I had to do all my life, just seems so unsatisfying. Are there other ways to deal with attachment issues from childhood abuse/neglect? Is it possible to "fake" mental health problems and trauma responses? I was neglected as a child and now I find myself wanting to feel bad and making myself feel bad (or look bad) just so that my therapist sees it. I am also overly attached to him. Maybe I am just devalidating my traumas, but I sometimes feel like I am exaggerating my reactions to it because I don't think they were that... Can you talk more about quiet BPD? Most videos I see online are about the outward expressions of BPD rather than those who turn those actions inward towards themself. What are some examples of quiet BPD and how could someone share what they’re experiencing with their therapist when most characterize BPD by those stereotypical outward actions/responses? I was diagnosed with CPTSD a year and a half ago. I have been told by my primary and secondary therapist, along with 2 other MH professionals that it’s not BPD. I have been self diagnosing because I have fear of abandonment, which my therapists know. I experienced emotional abuse, emotional neglect, and have memories of physical abandonment. Is it possible to have fear of abandonment... When I was in therapy I would go through phases of feeling like pushing my therapist away and then feeling secure with her. I would tell her when I felt like pushing her away and she would reassure me that she would be there. I would then feel secure in the therapeutic relationship for a period of time... Would LOVE to hear your thoughts on the heard and Depp trial in relation to the bpd / personality disorder diagnosis (only that - everyone can sit with their own thoughts on the trial as it plays out in public opinion but no hate or blame here please, it has the potential to do damage). I am shocked a professional can diagnose like that, considering how long many spend trying to get a diagnosis, and saddened to see a professional run with 'bpd stigmas / stereotypes in such a public trial... Would a therapist or psychiatrist ever hide a bpd diagnosis from a client/ patient? What would be the reasoning if so? When I had a case manager she said I had bpd (it was in my records not her diagnosis), but my psychiatrist never told me about it. I was wondering if you had tips for a long distance relationship with someone with BPD. Thank you! (Others in the community, if you have tips too I’d love to hear them!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything | podcast episode 113 centers around Anxiety (panic attacks, social anxiety, hypervigilance, etc) QUESTIONS 1. What is a healthy or “normal” amount of anxiety to have around losing your job? I get great reviews at work and I even recently got promoted, but whenever I make even a small insignificant mistake or I didn’t do my absolute best, I get really hard on myself and I start to... 2. How do I stop using avoidance as a coping skill for my anxiety?? It’s gotten SO bad. It’s a terrible cycle because when I get behind in school work and housework I get anxious and cannot make myself do the work (especially when it’s something I really don’t want to do) and I get further behind and the anxiety grows... 3. I know you've talked about something similar not too long ago, but I'm still wondering about anxiety surrounding therapy. I have so much of it. outside of session, all i can do is think about the few moments i embarrassed myself or said something in a stupid way, and wondering what my therapist... 4. Kati, you always say that the root of all anxiety is a lack of self-confidence. Can you elaborate what you mean by this? 5. When I was really struggling with anxiety 3 years ago, I had a really bad panic attack in front of my therapist, because she was asking me questions about the scary situation I was in and it was too much for me. I was shaking on the couch and she rubbed my back and helped me through it. I eventually got out of the... 6. Can you talk about the link between anxiety and dissociation? You’ve talked about “pulling the ripcord” but I still find it peculiar that I can go from being very anxious to dissociated in a short period of time since these feel like very different reactions. I also feel as if my anxiety only became an issue when I stopped dissociating... 7. How do you deal with negative or unwanted reactions from others when you show symptoms of anxiety? E.g. with social anxiety when you get feedback at work/school and people say "you should have practiced your talk better because you were too nervous". Or when you meet someone new and struggle to... 8. What about the anxiety before falling asleep. I do need to take sleeping pills because my mind won’t stop racing and thinking about stuff not always sad and bad but still unable to just fall asleep. I do have quiet bpd but... 9. I end up getting physically ill if I experience too much anxiety. It hasn't happened in a while because I have started seeing a therapist and have been working on CBT. But if I reach that point, I can't help but throw up. I've thrown up all over myself by accident. I've thrown up on my dashboard. It just happens... ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode focus: EATING DISORDERS Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything - Kati Morton's mental health podcast | episode 112 Is it possible to form an eating disorder on purpose? Recently I started tracking calories and am really focused on losing weight. When I eat too much I feel really bad and sometimes try to purge (even though I usually don't manage and feel even more useless afterwards). I think I still have it all under control but... What’s the difference between emotional eating and binge eating? I feel like I use food as motivation and as a reward. At the end of my days when I get home from work or on weekends I will crave/eat all the sweets and snacks and food that I know isn’t the healthiest and I guess will I'm wondering how to make yourself feel better on bad body image days? Also, is it possible to ever really like your recovery body? I often find myself really struggling with body image, and although I can avoid acting on behaviors at this point it is really exhausting to constantly hate my body... I was wondering why I want to get sicker for my therapist. I opened up to her (sort of) about my eating disorder, but told her I wasn't too keen on recovering at the moment and she said she understood and wouldn’t force me. I know talking about it is inevitable, but I try not to think about it. I’d like to know where the line is between just being an extremely picky eater and actually having an eating disorder? I was wondering if you could talk more about memory loss & eating disorders. My therapist has brought up that my memory issues could be because of anorexia. what does she mean?? how does this happen?? i feel so stupid because i forgot the slightest things constantly, is this really because of my ed? I'm only fifteen, could this put permanent memory issues on my brain?? Why is it so hard to let go of the romanticized image in my head of the 'perfect anorexic'? And how can I learn to let go? I'm choosing for recovery at the moment, but only with the thought in mind that I never want to let go fully and am always able to go back to my ED habits. It's hard to let... As a medically obese/overweight person who struggles with disordered eating (restriction/bp cycles), what are some healthy and effective ways to manage weight loss while not slipping back into dangerous habits? I want to lose weight, and I think it would improve my body image.... I am overweight and having health problems due to my weight and have started exercising and changing my diet. I have been struggling because I am becoming very hyper aware of calories and my weight and fixating on people's praises for my weight loss. How do I... ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode focus: THE THERAPY PROCESS Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything - Kati Morton's mental health podcast | episode 111 Can you ask your therapist to still see them every once in a while after therapy has ended? I'm 22 and have been seeing my psychologist off and on since I was 17, but since I've known my therapist for so long, I would miss... You've been an absolute lifesaver, and I mean that literally. So, thank you. I'm not sure how to bring this up with my therapist, but I go through phases of extreme attachment. Like googling her name and finding out as much... You’ve talked about the therapist not working harder than you as the patient but how do you know when you are reaching that point? I struggle really hard with opening up and do a lot better when my therapist asks... How do I talk to my therapist about attachment? I get really easily attached and especially with my therapist because she is the first person who ever listened to me and seemed to care about me. But I tend to make myself worse (ed, self harm) whenever... I hope you’re having a great weekend. My question about the therapy process is this: I’m always afraid that my therapist is going to refer me out to someone else. I read into everything that she says and does, waiting for her to tell me... So I just recently started therapy. When I say recently I mean like tomorrow is my 4th appointment. I was anxious before my first appointment, but I have been even more anxious for the appointments since... Do you have any recommendations for how we should decide and prioritize which topics to discuss in therapy? My therapist uses a psychodynamic approach and although I find it helpful it does mean that I have to guide which topics we... Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE FOCUS: Trauma, PTSD, and recovery. Ask Kati Anything - Kati Morton's mental health podcast Episode 110 audience questions: Why do I feel so much shame and guilt about my trauma? It’s not just a necessary shame that it happened. It’s also guilt for upsetting others with it, and worrying that they’ll think less of me. Fear that they are judging. I almost want to downplay it to show that I’m still “normal” and it’s “no... My question is can sexual abuse happen through people on the Internet. I’ve never heard anyone with a degree talk about it. But I’ve heard other people had the same experience as me through them talking about it on tik tok. My generation was the first generation who could have talked... Is it possible to heal from trauma (child sexual abuse, incest) while still seeing your family? The abuse was disclosed and denied by the abuser and not believed by other family members. They go on like nothing has ever happened- the thing is, I don’t want to completely separate from them as I risk... I would love for you to talk about growing up with parents who are hoarders. While they were loving parents, the home environment was traumatic. My parents struggle to see the damage that their behavior has on their children. Would love your thoughts on this and how to heal as an adult! Sorry I know this isn’t really on psychology, but How to talk/support someone who has been through sexual abuse? I know you did a video on: how to talk to/ support someone who is struggling with suicide, a while ago... I was wondering if you can say something about the family dynamics when it comes to past abuse and trauma. I was abused by my parents and a sibling in my childhood. The abuse stopped and the relationship changed. I have spent much time in therapy to deal with the trauma it caused... Can childhood trauma make adult working life too much for some people? I really struggle with being needed and having responsibilities such as working certain days a week. I struggle with nightmares and some days I don't leave my bed when it's too bad which makes holding down a job just... If you experience sexual abuse before you get to the age when you start to experience sexual attraction to others, how is it possible to know if the abuse has altered your sexuality or not? I was abused at the age of 14, and at the time I hadn't started to feel sexual attraction yet, only romantic attraction... How can I know if I’m really an introvert or if I just avoid and distance myself from people because I’m afraid they could hurt me/let me down? And, if I find being around people draining - is it because I’m an introvert or because I’m managing anxiety and triggers? ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything, your mental health podcast - Episode 109 Your Questions: Is it normal to have constant thoughts of suicide? Whenever anything goes mildly wrong, or even when nothing is wrong but I feel overwhelmed, self-harm and suicide are always where my mind goes to, even though I've never attempted it. How can I cope with this? Also, does it indicate that... Can you talk a little bit about the effect of depression on the ability to concentrate? How does the lack of concentration in depression feel, and is it different from the lack of concentration in (for example) ADHD? (COMMENT: As a follow up question, could you talk about mental fog and how it might be... Do you have any input on dealing with a single parent that has depression as a teenager that still lives at home? I feel like no one talks about this and it is really hard to live day by day because I am just worried all of the time, not about their physical safety but just the thought of them never being happy again... How can I finally defeat depression once and for all? I´ve been struggling with depression for almost as long as I can remember. I´ve had my lowest lows and I can say I'm lucky enough right now not to be completely surrounded by that dark fog that feels like it's taking every part of myself... I know suicidal thoughts and depression are different, and that you can have depression without suicidal thoughts, but is it possible to have suicidal thoughts but not depression? I have almost constant thoughts of suicide, and am very anxious but I don’t think I’m depressed and I don’t understand... Could you talk about chronic depression and SI? I have struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts for as long as I can remember and even when things are a little better, those thoughts are still there. Will they ever go away or is this something I just have to learn to manage? I have been in therapy... How do you validate yourself when you have high functioning depression? Being able to do things makes me feel as though I'm crazy, I feel bad internally but externally I am still able to do things and do them well even. I'm in counseling and I find it difficult to portray my depressive symptoms... I am glad to see you are trying new things for the podcast. This time seems like it would work better for me. I know you strongly discourage it but is it possible to work through mild suicidal thoughts on your own? If you do not feel comfortable telling anyone or your therapist about it? I went to a mental health training and we learned what to do if someone is suicidal. We ask 3 questions. 1. Do you have a specific way of doing it? 2. Do you have a specific date? 3. Do you have the means prepared to do it? This hit me hard because I can answer yes to... ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything, your mental health podcast - Episode 108 Your Questions: Hope you are doing well. I know that a lot of therapists see a therapist themselves. What I talk about with my therapist is supposed to be between us. Would the therapist be allowed to discuss any of our... What's the most challenging thing for you about being a therapist? (COMMENT: As an addon. What do you think of patients that ask many questions? I’m a naturally curious person. For as long as I can remember, I... I find it difficult to go back to therapy after my old therapist left giving a 2 week notice. The thought of going back to therapy gets me feeling angry and I'm worried I might get a bit passive aggressive and push my... My question involves sexuality. Is there a way to differentiate between being asexual and having experiences/trauma in your past that have negatively impacted your sexual outlook and behavior? This is a follow up question on an ep where you talked about using masturbation as a way to cope. I was wondering, does it have to be born out of sexual abuse? And what if it's a very young child? I teach a... Why does it feel like I’m always walking on eggshells? When I was growing up in my house I always felt like I was walking on eggshells because my parents were always mentally abusive, but now that I’ve moved... When dealing with past trauma you have mentioned that talk therapy isn’t always enough, especially if someone finds it hard to talk about. With other therapies like emdr or somatic therapy when you remove the trauma from the body does that... Is there an opposite of dissociation? Can you be too self-aware? Dissociation comes up quite frequently in AKA questions and after listening to your videos and reading about it I’m not sure that I ever experienced it... ----- Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy | While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon | Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Business Contact | Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep.107 audience questions 1. Can you please explain the difference between when it is important to "feel your feelings"/sit with your feelings versus when you should use distraction based coping skills? I feel like I get stuck doing too... 2. I am wondering what you would constitute an “emergency” that would be acceptable for your client to reach out to you between sessions. I am constantly worried about crossing boundaries and not bothering my therapist, especially... 3. Could you go deeper into what a flashback actually is? What is the difference between a flashback and an emotional flashback, or body memories. How do triggers come into play also? You have mentioned that with a flashback you go back to another time, a place, do you physically... 4. Can you talk a bit about the importance and healing power of the therapeutic relationship (specifically for trauma) and corrective emotional experiences with a therapist? I’ve been seeing my therapist for almost 2... 5. Do you know what causes such a hollow, empty feeling inside, and how to fix it? I have C-PTSD, depression and anxiety from childhood emotional neglect and am in therapy working on self-worth. I've made a lot... 6. As a therapist, what would you think if a client told you that masturbation is often accompanied by self-injurious behavior? What is meant by this is that the body performs certain autodestructive actions... 7. I keep hearing that therapy is supposed to be hard work and people have "therapy hangovers" and all this stuff but I don't and I feel like I must be doing something wrong. Is it cause for concern that it hasn’t been... 8. I'd like to hear Kati's thoughts on what to do about passive suicidal thoughts. I feel like because I don't have active thoughts of suicide then I shouldn't make a big deal out of it in therapy, even though it's a big deal to... 9. How do YouTubers set healthy boundaries with their viewers and listeners who often emotionally depend on them? I read a lot of comments about YouTube videos helping with anxiety and depression, but does it ever feel like a responsibility to keep up the work? ----- Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy | While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon | Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Business Contact | Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"How do I convince myself that my assault wasn’t my fault?" | AKA ep. 106 AUDIENCE QUESTIONS 1/ How do you know if a patient is ready to move on from stabilization to processing traumas? Is there a certain amount of time that needs to go by with abstinence from target behaviors? Does frequency of dissociation play into the decision? I know it will be different... 2/ Lots of people ask questions about not being able to identify their feelings, and you always mention feelings charts, and describe how you think certain emotions should feel like, which is great advice! But as someone who was emotionally numb for years, what really helped me was... 3/ My therapist died this week. It was not completely unexpected because she had terminal cancer. I had an inkling things were progressing for the worse as she had canceled several sessions. I’m heartbroken that we will never have the last session I imagined in my mind and that I... 4/ How do I convince myself fully that my assault wasn’t AT ALL my fault? Technically speaking, I absolutely could have just stayed home, but I didn’t. And I can’t let that go. I also could have done more afterwards but again, didn’t. How do I let this go so I can move on with my life?? I've done lots of therapy, but I can’t get past the “technicalities” of it.... 5/ Hi Kati, please can you explain when it’s ok for therapists to break confidentiality regarding adult patients being a threat to themselves? I thought this only referred to active suicidal thoughts/plans, but my therapist told me last session she might have to think about breaking... 6/ Can therapists read minds? 😂😂 but for real though. My last session I walked in the room and before I even sat down on the chair, or said a word my therapist said “your anxiety is way too high” which she was right of course. The last couple months my anxiety is so high where I’m throwing... 7/ an you talk about the use of EMDR for anxiety disorders or other disorders other than PTSD? (COMMENT: can it be useful for overcoming alcohol addiction as well? // Just an add on, is it possible that EMDR can make your PTSD symptoms more intense before getting better? My... 8/ I have a question about obsessive compulsive behaviors… idk if i actually have it - I’m trying to decide what is going on in my head here… I feel as though things have to go, feel, and be “right” or else I cannot feel calm. I have a lot of anxiety, and I use this sort of scale to calm myself. For... ----- Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy | I do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon | Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Business Contact | Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast episode #105 Licensed therapist, Kati Morton is answering your questions Audience questions: 1. Do you ever find yourself anxious or nervous around certain patients, particularly when they’re being self-destructive or suicidal? My therapist seemed legitimately nervous our last few sessions... 2. Why do I almost always feel fine on the day of therapy? It's like the week can be really horrible and then as soon as I step into the room with my therapist I am completely fine. It's like my brain is back to normal and I don't have any mental illness at all. I then also don't see any of my problems or thoughts I had in the week as "that" bad and tend to look at them very differently then I am when... 3. What is high functioning depression and how is it different from major depression or persistent depression? How do you overcome high functioning depression? And when do you know it’s over? Also is it harder to heal from high functioning depression because you’re going to work/school... 4. How do you help a partner to more fully/better understand where you are at in your mental health journey when it feels like they just don’t get it? I’ve been in therapy working through anxiety/phobias/depression that I have been keeping bottled up and hidden basically since I was a teen... 5. Have you ever had a patient or person in general tell you a trauma and you couldn't help but think that it shouldn't really have traumatized them? Especially if you yourself had a similar experience. I know therapists don't judge but there must be some traumas you hear about where... 6. How do we go about ending relationships with narcissistic parents? I’m due to be moving away for university in September and I have absolutely no intention of coming back or seeing her ever again. But how do you even begin to have that conversation? I don’t just want to move away, block... 7. I have a therapist, but I feel more drawn to ask you questions instead of going to her with my questions. I love the community and knowing I’m not alone in my struggles. And I love the way you answer these questions and make us feel so seen and validated. You’re so passionate and... 8. You recently became a dog owner and it makes me happy for you because it's so rewarding to have a dog in our lives to love and to take care of. I also enjoyed that connection of being a dog owner until recently. Last year, within 8 months, I lost my 3 dogs due to old age and disease. 2 lived to be... 9. If someone doesn't experience something as traumatic, is it still trauma. So if someone experiences something that's terrible (for example, sexual assault) and they are not traumatized by it, is it still considered trauma? ----- Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy | I do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon | Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Business Contact | Linnea Toney [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I wasn't traumatized, why do I have PTSD symptoms?" | Ask Kati Anything 104 Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours Today Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores Now Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy - I do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast) https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1031. What advice do you have for those of us who can’t tolerate intimacy? Too much eye contact, love, and attention often seems to overwhelm me. I find it so much easier to connect with people I barely know, but when people get too familiar and close I panic...2. When working with trauma how do you build that window of tolerance? I feel at times like I’m stuck and can’t stop myself from dissociating. We have built several safety measures, worked on body awareness but yet the second the past comes into play I can feel my anxiety climb...3. I’ve been seeing a lot of people on TikTok talking about how they sort of habitualized a certain food (like the same bedtime snack every night or same breakfast every morning), not out of an eating disorder...4. If someone has had an ED for a long time (say 5/10+ years) how likely are they to recover in your experience? If it is a 'stuck' ED, at what point would you suspect something underlying (another mental health condition for example) hasn't been addressed...5. I hope you are well. I was seeing a psychotherapist for help to address my childhood emotional neglect and also other traumatic things that happened. I saw him for about 2 years and unfortunately I wasn't able to continue to see him because it was provided by the NHS. I felt ...6. How do you know if you have truly forgiven someone? I had my trust broken in my marriage recently and trying to find the balance between giving permission to feel hurt, but also not holding a grudge. But I feel like this could apply to plenty of other...7. I'm just wondering how to deal with being highly empathic, while struggling myself. Emotionally abusive father (sometimes questioned if narcissistic) and I can tell how he is by how he coughs, breathes, or walks. He is prone to very low moods, to the point where it’s scary but won’t get help. He will never...8. How does one differ between urges that are biologically driven and aren’t really choices and ones that are self induced habits? I’m in recovery from a restrictive ED and am honoring mental hunger. However, sometimes I get confused if it’s mental hunger or my binging...9. My depression keeps going up and down. Sometimes I just feel like crying, and I have been having more bad days than good, manageable days. I’ve been stuck at home for weeks, unable to go anywhere, or even walk around my house properly because of...BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours TodayAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT Episode 101 Audience Questions1. Hi Kati, what happens in the brain when you dissociate? Does it reduce blood flow to certain areas of the brain? What happens in the brain when you do coping techniques? I am really interested to hear what happens with neurotransmitters and blood flow and brain activation when dissociating and when trying to get out of this state. Also is there any research on the long term effects of regular dissociation for the brain? Thanks for creating these podcasts, they are interesting and eye-opening. (COMMENT: Also, does derealisation and depersonalisation impact the brain differently? Lastly, what does it look like in an MRI scan? Is it diagnosable just by looking at brain waves?)2. Epilepsy patient dissociation aura. posteromedial cortex PMC 3Hz firing (PMC part of DMN, involved in internally focused cognition like autobiographical memory). Ketamine causes dissociation - when they gave it to mice, the mice wouldnt withdraw paw from hot plate (dissociation). When they stimulated PMC 3 Hz it recapitulated this effect without ketamine 3. Hello Kati and Dr. Ben Rein, I’m curious to know more about neuroplasticity and what someone with C-PTSD can do to strengthen memory and learning skills? I’m a survivor of CSA and I find it’s difficult for me to memorize and retain what I’m studying in school. Any advice? 4. How does developing a mental illness in childhood affect your brain long term? I had severe OCD when I was around 10 years old and I still deal with it as an adult. I know you can be symptom-free from certain disorders like OCD that may develop at any time in your life, but I...+++++Ben Rein, Ph.D. is a neuroscientist & postdoctoral fellow at Stanford University. Ben is currently studying how psychedelic drugs alter the way the brain processes social information. Ben ultimately intends to supervise his own research lab and serve as a professor at an academic institution.​Outside of the lab, Ben shares educational science videos on social media to a collective audience of more than 800,000 subscribers. In his videos, Ben shares breaking scientific discoveries, debunks "viral" videos containing misinformation, teaches fundamental neuroscience principles, and educates on the importance of scientific research. He also provides guidance to students through a video series called "Scientips"You can find more from Ben onTikTok @ dr.breinInstagram @ doctor.breinTwitter @ dr_brein+++++BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours TodayAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)audio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1021. Can you talk about the fear of abandonment vs fear of rejection and how they differ? As a kid, I was left out a lot, felt excluded, and like I didn’t belong. I still feel the effects of those social rejections to the point that...2. My friend and I both were suicidal in the past, but we were suicidal in completely opposite ways. I thought it was interesting. For her, suicide was a last resort, an escape from painful feelings. Feeling hopeless, like...3. Why do I feel so empty when sharing traumatic stories with my therapist? I just can’t access those emotions and it makes me wonder if they are even there. It also makes me question the validity of the stories...4. Are therapists supposed to hide their emotions in response to a story shared? As in, remain calm, soothing or neutral. Recently, I shared with my sister how my therapist shows her anger in session as a response to...5. How do you deal with a traumatic sexual experience that wasn't rape or abuse? Years ago my last relationship ended after my at the time boyfriend sleeping with me and breaking up right afterwards...6. What changes do you think could be made to adult psych wards for treatment to be more effective, and for a better experience? I know that sometimes I need the extra support but my times at the psych ward in the...7. I recently expressed suicidal ideation in therapy and my therapist said to me she isn’t worried about me because i haven’t tried to kill myself to date. I am feeling so hurt and invalidated by this. also, since i am very attached...8. Thanks for all that you do for us all! My question is: Do some therapists/psychiatrists use proper medical words and lingos? My therapist has told her a few times that I don't know the logical definitions...9. Can you please talk a little about bpd. I have suffered for many years. I think it is the most misunderstood mental illness. I have therapy weekly and work hard, I have also been in and out of hospital over the years. I’m 53, is there an optimistic future ahead or...+++++BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours TodayAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Why do narcissistic people believe their past trauma means..." | AKA ep. 99Guest: Lana Seiler, MSW, LCSW - Primary Therapist at APN LodgeLana is a licensed clinical social worker and primary therapist at APN Lodge. Lana places a high value on “holding space” for guests to process their experiences and begin to heal. She is a champion of holistic and scientific mental health and addiction treatment, helping clients fight for their development of a healthier view of themselves, others, and the world. Those hard-won results are her greatest reward.Addiction & Mental Health Treatment: If you are looking for an in-person treatment center that provides expert help with addiction recovery and mental health, All Points North Lodge is a great option. All Points North Lodge offers evidence-based and holistic treatment in the Colorado mountains. Chat with a member of their team at www.apnlodge.com/kati or call (218) 306-82141. Do therapists really not judge their clients? You guys are human too so I can’t see a reality where my therapist wouldn’t judge me in some way (she’s very kind btw, I’m not saying this based on any experience)...2. Why do narcissistic people believe their past trauma means their abusive patterns/behaviors towards others should be excused? Where do we draw the line between ending stigma and and allowing people to abuse, regardless of trauma/mental illness?3. What is the difference between empathy and codependency? I’ve been told I have both and was actually diagnosed with codependent personality traits. I know that I have a hard time separating my own emotions from others. I become extremely unsettled if I...4. How do you get yourself to believe it’s not your fault? I was sexually abused as a child, starting around age 7, and I know I am suppose to say it’s not my fault, my therapist tells me it’s not my fault and so do others but when it comes down to it I still have a hard time believing...5. Could you please explain the difference between borderline pd and dependent pd? I know both involve a fear of abandonment and attachment issues, but I am having trouble figuring out which disorder resonates with me more. I had an emotionally neglectful mum and...6. I'm struggling with the reparenting process. I was neglected or emotionally abused when I was a child and I understand that I have to give myself what my child version would have wanted and needed, but I don't feel like that's enough. Doing it myself helps, but I still feel like I want...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours TodayAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)audio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1001. What exactly are body memories? How do I know I have them, what do they feel like and what options are there to treat them? In your last podcast you were talking a lot about body memories and wondered whether you would share some more information about them. 2. I find I tend to wallow in negative thoughts when I am in bed, before I fall asleep. I go over old arguments, think about past events that upset me, and despair over things I dislike about myself. It can spiral into thoughts of suicide or self-harm fantasies. While I’m improving in many areas...3. Sometimes it seems like you answer the same kind of questions each week so here is a different question. Do you have any ideas why I feel the need to masturbate whenever I feel stressed or sad? I have noticed that I do this often but I never thought much of it until watching...4. Why do we invalidate ourselves? When talking with my therapist at my last appt she had made the comment when dealing with past trauma and I found my mind instantly putting up a block and wanting to say I don’t have trauma even though I know that’s what it is (CSA). Even with c-ptsd I...5. Can you talk about ‘Splitting’ in Borderline Personality Disorder vs Trauma Bonds? Is it harder for people with BPD to tell they’re in a trauma bond because they think it’s just their borderline acting up and making them view their partner badly? (Splitting). Are people with BPD...6. I am curious if having s*x that you don’t want but said yes to can be traumatizing. I have social phobia and was at that point not able to say “no” cause I was so scared. I think I dissociated a little while it happened. I couldn’t move, talk or feel my body while at the same time being in quite bad pain....7. My question is related to trauma. Is it possible that my therapist is not having me process being raped because I am in the middle of an ongoing trauma with my daughter? Is it a bad idea to process things while they are still happening? 8. I’m in my late 20’s and I am just about to start studying in a course on mental health. I’m excited because I love learning and I am passionate about all things involving mental health, but I’m also terrified at the same time and I’m wondering if this is the right fit for me...9. In what way do you think mental illness affects a marriage most? More specifically, what is the best way to manage depression in a healthy marriage?BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j - 0rder Yours TodayAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On ep. 98 of Ask Kati Anything, Dr. Baland Jalal is our guest. He is a neuroscientist at Cambridge University and previously at Harvard University and considered one of the world's leading experts on sleep paralysis. Can you have sleep paralysis in places other than your bed? A member of our community recently felt like she had this happen in a car. What percentage of sleep disturbance is chemical or naturally formed and what percentage is trauma induced? What causes sleep paralysis? How can we get it to stop? Is sleep paralysis more common when you’re young? Why do many experience sleep paralysis most often right as they are falling asleep? How much sleep should someone get every night? 7 or 8 hours? Can SSRI’s or SNRI’s cause sleep paralysis? --------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 961. Hey Kati! How can I start to feel more comfortable sharing things with my therapist? I have been in therapy for a few months now and I still feel like I am holding back. I do trust her and want to be able to open up, but I...2. During session there are times when my therapist acknowledges and validates my emotions which I love but I have a hard time tolerating them. I either become very emotional because she has put words to them or...3. Any tips for nighttime anxiety? During the day, when I'm at work, I am fine. Virtually no anxiety. I don't know whether the anxiety is truly less or, since I have a fast paced job, I simply don't notice it as much, but...4. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how aspects of our identity are impacted by therapy! I feel like a completely different person to the one who started therapy, and wondered if there’s any pattern to how...5. Is it normal to feel stressed around people who're fighting? When I hear someone arguing I suddenly start feeling uncomfortable and scared, as if I'm in danger. But in reality I know there's nothing that can happen to me...6. How do I deal with suicide as one of my intrusive thoughts? I’ve dealt with depression, but I’m not suicidal. One of my greatest fears in life is becoming suicidal, so naturally, I have intrusive thoughts about being...7. Why do so many people want to find reasons for why you are the way you are instead of just accepting you as you are? I was raped as a teenager, and I hate telling people this because they automatically think...8. I don’t know how to tell my new therapist about everything I’m struggling with, because it seems so overwhelming that I don’t know where to start. We did the initial appointment & although I didn’t have a problem opening up...9. HAPPY 2022 Kati, Sean and Roxy. I've been relapsing back into ED over Christmas. More purging, restricting etc. How can I break back out of the cycle before I get back in deep again? 10. I have a question about rational and irrational fear. In Summer I started my first year at uni and while I was very aware of the potentially unhealthy stress I’d get into, (unfortunately I think nowadays that’s almost a given when you start studying), it doesn’t make stress, anxiety and worry any easier to deal with.--------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 97 Is it ok if I never want to stop going to therapy? It’s not an attachment thing, I just truly enjoy having a safe, neutral place to drop my baggage off every week… I think I’m a lifer… But is that a bad thing? My therapist recently told me for the first time that most of my relaxation methods have a self-injurious character. However, I don't intentionally self-injure, it tends to happen unconsciously (e.g., bath water too hot, etc.) and because of my issues with... How can those of us who can’t remember our trauma feel validated? I feel like there are no communities for people like me who are scared and experience trauma responses but don’t have memories to talk about the trauma. I’ve been doing trauma work for years and my... I’m hoping I can keep this short… I was raised by verbally/emotionally abusive parents who raised me to fully believe that no one could possibly like me. They don’t even like me, and made that clear. I now struggle to believe in unconditional love, and therefore cannot give 100% of... You’ve talked about repressed memories but can you be traumatized from a situation you wouldn’t usually remember? Like for example if someone did something to you when you were sleeping? Or when you were a baby? Also, can you be traumatized from something that you thought was completely normal? Why do I dislike being 'healthy' so much? I've had to keep eating enough, instead of heavily restricting like I normally would, because of the physical demands of my jobs and staff shortages mean extra pressure to stay healthy. I'm frustrated I'm not as small as I normally am, and feel... How do I stop thinking about and missing my therapist? Ever since I terminated (she moved elsewhere), I still keep thinking about her. The therapeutic relationship was one of the closest and most consistent I've had. I'm an introvert, so it's hard to turn to friends and family... What do you do when thought stopping doesn’t seem to work anymore? What do you do when you know what you’re supposed to tell yourself but can’t get yourself to believe it? I’ve worked with a cbt therapist back many years ago to help with social anxiety and for the most part... How do you learn to feel safe expressing feelings? Because of abuse I feel it’s not safe to express emotions or needs. I also don’t feel worth someone caring about me. How do I get through this? --------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 951. I’ve got a question about boundaries. Why am I testing the boundaries of my therapist? I don’t want to do it but it’s just happening and I get irritated at myself for doing it. Do you have any tips and do you get annoyed as a therapist when your client is testing your boundaries?2. I hope you’re doing well! How do I appreciate the happy moments where my depression disappears when all I can think in the back of my mind is ‘when will it get bad again’3. How can I stop idealizing my therapist? I really idealize my therapist and keep telling my t how much I love her and how I never want her to leave me. Maybe it doesn't have anything to do with it but my therapist seems so perfect to me even if I know on a rational level she isn´t but I´m so focused...4. I am in counseling for depression and anxiety. However, I find I have a strong reluctance around getting better. I think there are a variety of reasons - depression defines me, so without it I’m not sure who I am, and it gives me a lot of excuses as to why I’m not successful or more active. When I am...5. I am curious as to how you would prepare your clients/patients for when you were out of the office for a vacation or such? I mean, for those going in weekly, are there any tips that you provide for coping if a session cannot be held weekly? I have weekly sessions and the idea of not going in...6. I was wondering how to stop being sick on the day of therapy? It can be hours after and I’ll be sick every time without fail. I don’t think things are going too fast but I’m now getting nauseous when very anxious too. I don’t know why this keeps happening? I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for ptsd by the way. Thank you for all that you do7. How do we move past our trauma when we have to return to it? I had a very traumatizing experience at college over a year ago, and I had to withdraw from school this year after trying to return because it was too overwhelming. I feel like I can’t return to my dream school because of...8. I have BPD (borderline personality disorder) and I'm wondering how does one not get so dependent on their FP (favorite person). I'm very dependent on this person. Whenever they are in a bad mood or upset it makes me in a bad mood or upset.9. Could you talk more about the less common symptoms of OCD? I will re-do things if it doesn’t “feel right” or have to touch the surface of everything before I place anything down. I find myself not being able to NOT do it. Sometimes I don’t even know what the “obsession” would...10. I was wondering about thoughts of self harm. I got really focused on an object. I wanted to buy it. I didn’t hurt myself but I really wanted to. Now I feel shitty. Like I fell and can not get back up. How can I feel better when situations like this keep happening to me...BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep 93Audience questions:1. Why do I feel like a child even though I am an adult? I am 32, I have a career, a partner and I am living a responsible adult life. But I feel like a child. Whenever I am subjected to ‘adult’ topics, like alcohol, sex etc. I catch myself thinking that those things are for adults only and I am still too...2. How do I get over the feeling of not deserving to be in therapy and to get help/better? Part of me knows that I do need the help because inside I feel like a mess but outwardly I appear fine and fully functional, so every time I go, I start to feel like don't deserve to be there, and that I am just...3. I’ve noticed that lots of times after a therapy session, my brain turns to mush. I keep having those ‘uhhhh….’ moments where you know what the answer is but it’s just not coming to you. Like, it’s on the tip of your tongue but just out of reach. I keep blanking on really simple things. Should I...4. I was wondering if therapists change their body positions for a reason/purpose, like to help the patient/client feel more at ease. Recently, my therapist has started sitting and moving in ways that are "less professional" like resting her head on her hand or turning to one side and leaning against...5. Is closure a necessary part of healing a childhood trauma or is it better to not pursue it since it might backfire on the person? For example, I was bullied when I was a child and I still live close to that bully. That bully’s not tormenting me physically anymore, but from time to time, I still...6. May you please talk about how and why such small or short term things can have a deep, lasting impact on us? Why is it that little things like the way a parent spoke to/about me can hurt more than the physical aspect of things? Further I was at a highly competitive school for a year...7. How would you tell if you're being manipulated? Every time I have arguments with my mum, I find that she mixes in truths with her own emotions, and I end up really confused. Was I truly selfish for not understanding her better and seeing things from her perspective?8. Greetings from Finland! My question is about why my voice turns into a little child in therapy. It’s barely audible and I want to sit in the corner during therapy and I sometimes do because it feels safe. I can’t look at my therapist and I feel so young and little. I don’t want to act this way...9. I have had symptoms of OCD since I was like 5 years old. How come OCD symptoms (intrusive thoughts, compulsions) get worse over time? --------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything episode 94Audience questions:1. Hey Kati, why is accepting any sort of praise or compliments so hard for me to do? I genuinely do appreciate them, but I don't know if it's that I don't believe they are true and don't deserve it, or if I just don't like the attention...2. Is there a way to tell the difference between real memories and things imagined in your dreams? Sometimes I need to imagine bad things happening to me to fall asleep. I don't want these things to actually...3. Can you talk about passive suicidal ideation? Also, how is it that I encourage/support the fight to live for others but I can’t seem to provide that same thought for me? I just recently lost an immediate family member back in August due to...4. I’ve always wanted to be a therapist or a counselor, but I have one big issue with that: I get frustrated when people don’t see what’s right in front of them! Which is basically what therapy is all about: Gently nudging...5. Have you had any clients explore their sexuality with you? If so, what did the process look like? I know I’m maybe interested in doing more work with that, but I’m also hesitant. What if I find out it’s not something I want ? 6. Recently we've started inner child work in therapy. I don't know if there's a universal way of doing this, but my therapist likes to work with an empty chair that represents my younger self. Sometimes he asks me to talk to my inner child who is...7. I was wondering how do you push past the therapy hangover? I find that after sessions I tend to stay in my head a little too much lately to the point that it usually wastes the day. Sometimes it’s replaying parts of the...8. I loved your last conversation about shame. I was wondering if you could talk more about what I think could be called “chronic shame” and how to break through it with your therapist? Much love from Scandinavia.9. Why does treatment sometimes make us worse? I’ve been in PHP and inpatient. Both of them made my mental health so much worse. I know other’s who constantly cycle through. They get discharged and end up back in the hospital....--------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast episode 92 Hi, Kati! Is it possible to not be traumatized by something that is clearly traumatic to other people or are you just denying that you are? My parents were kidnapped and held at gunpoint when... Hi Kati, can you go into emotional trauma a little more? I experience all of the symptoms of emotional trauma but my parents were always there if I needed them, including if I ever asked they would support me emotionally and give advice. They ... Hey Kati, How do I handle not taking people "worrying" about me seriously? For example, in my last therapy session, towards the end, my therapist told me I can always call or email him if I need someone to talk to. He probably offered that because Hi Kati, could you please tell us more about how you experienced each of your different roles as a psychologist throughout your career? When you were at the ED clinic, private psychotherapist, and now a youtuber? And how do you look at those ... Hi Kati! Where's the line between normal amounts of anxiety and too much/unhealthy anxiety? I recently graduated from grad school and am now moving to a new state across the country to start my new job in a few weeks. I feel like I’ve always been a ... Hi Kati! I’ve been seeing my therapist for over two years now and she is truly great, however ever since our first session I’m behaving extremely shy as If I only met her recently. I’m for sure not the most confident person to exist (I’ve been struggling with .... I have BPD and suffered years of narcissistic abuse at the hands of family, ex friends and partners. Some people believe that I have no right to talk about my experiences with narcissistic abuse because of the BPD. What are your thoughts on this, as well as ... Hi Kati, lately I've been freaking out going to Dr appts. I'm a chronic illness pt and have had 4 surgeries in less than 2yrs. I've always been uncomfortable going to Drs but now it's really bad, like panic attack scary. I'm seeing a therapist for anxiety, depression, ... Is it possible to not remember a trauma correctly or even all the details like any of your senses? I was a teen when I was forced to talk about a trauma and was trying to piece together what it all meant with what I was remembering but mostly the .... --------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast episode 91Today's guest is Jason Thompson a a certified EMT-P and trained in TMS for Brainsway and Nuerostar. Since 2004, he has working in a variety of healthcare settings such as an EMT and Director of Neuromodulation in Texas Jason Thompson brings his passion for healing and educating to his role as Director of Deep TMS and Hyperbaric Services at All Points North Lodge. He loves educating and treating clients with newer technologies and guiding them through the healing process with a holistic approach.Addiction & Mental Health Treatment: If you are looking for an in-person treatment center that provides expert help with addiction recovery and mental health, All Points North Lodge is a great option. All Points North Lodge offers evidence-based and holistic treatment in the Colorado mountains. Chat with a member of their team at www.apnlodge.com/kati or call (218) 306-8214Audience questions:1) Hi Kati, my therapist recommended that I try a brainwave treatment for my depression/ anxiety. She said in most cases it really helps. I would love to hear more about it and the pros and cons :) Thank you!2) Can you talk more about TMS? Is it meant to complement traditional talk therapy or can it be done on its own? Where I live, only 1 private clinic provides this treatment option so it feels risky (since it's not used by many) and I'm not sure if the price is justified. When should I consider this alternative (trauma/dissociation)? Thank you so much3) I am very interested in understanding more about the benefits of trauma yoga. I have also heard that singing can have similar benefits. Why is this? I have C-PTSD and I'll do anything to improve my situation (which is very very very bad at the moment). Could you discuss this more? 4) Hi Kati! How do you know if you still need therapy or if you’re just overly attached to your therapist? I know you’ve talked about this before but I’m still confused! I love my therapist and we’ve done amazing ...5) How do I get over the fear of opening up to my therapist about things I’m not sure are actually traumatic? I feel like I’ve built up this anticipation to my therapist about things I’m “not ready to talk about yet” and the longer the wait, the more anxious I...6) Hey Kati and guest! When do I know if something that happened really was a "trauma" ? When I grew up I was (and still am) around this guy who trains horses and he is alot older than me (I was 14 at the time and he was 60). He was a real...--------------BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast episode 90Today's guest is Jessica Harp, LPC, MS! She joins All Points North Lodge in her role as Clinical Operations Manager. She is passionate about employing empirically proven treatment and innovation to aid patients in identifying core belief systems that are affecting the ability to function in relationships, professions and being a meaningful member of society.Since 2013, Jessica has been serving clients in a few different clinical settings such as Partial hospitalization, inpatient and outpatient. Some of her roles have consisted of ensuring all programs were compliant with current laws, rules and regulations of federal and state licensing agencies, supervising individual and group counseling and overall providing high quality care to all clients. The most rewarding moment of her career has been providing awareness and education on Moral Injury. She is confident that she is able to provide support and guidance in clinical operations while aiding in the cultivation of an environment that clients and clinicians thrive in and reach their optimum wellness. Thank you to APN Lodge for sponsoring this podcast! All Points North Lodge is a behavioral health company that offers addiction treatment, mental health, and trauma therapy at a stunning Colorado mountain campus and online.Addiction & Mental Health Treatment If you are looking for an in-person treatment center that provides expert help with addiction recovery and mental health, All Points North Lodge is a great option. All Points North Lodge offers evidence-based and holistic treatment in the Colorado mountains. Chat with a member of their team at www.apnlodge.com/kati or call (218) 306-8214Audience questions1. What should be the goal, either short term or long term, when trying to address shame, guilt and disgust in areas of trauma? The battle I face between showing self-compassion and keeping self-hatred...2. I am really struggling to bring up my trauma in therapy. I only tend to talk about it when certain major triggers occur in my day to day life. Whenever I do talk about it, I feel awful for...3. Can you discuss the taboo side effects of abuse victims because it is never discussed at all and only discusses favorable therapy for victims but never abusers? Half the time we see abused victims get better...4. How can I break the shame spiral that I am in? I endured both verbal/emotional abuse as well as SA from someone close to me. But many times instead of being angry at them I am angry at myself...5. A few years ago, I hit a rock bottom with my depression that I’d never felt before. I was constantly suicidal and it was terrifying to me. I had absolutely no support and was alone in ... BooksTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreon Help support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact Linnea Toney [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast 87Audience questions: You’ve mentioned several times that a therapist shouldn’t be working harder than the client, but what if they are? How do you address a client who has run out of motivation to get better? I struggle a lot with comparing myself to other people who seem more happy, successful, talented, and so on, than me. I know that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ but doing this is automatic to me, like a reflex. Being told not to compare myself to other people is like being I was recently diagnosed with Psychological Non Epileptic Seizures, can you explain what exactly this is and how something psychological can turn into the physical. Thanks Kati, have a great day! (video link: https://youtu.be/l9ZVJC6adAg ) I was wondering (and I hope this isn’t too insensitive). It seems that everyone is struggling with their mental health to an extent. But if it’s so common, why does my therapist tell me that it’s okay that I can’t just push mental health aside, when everyone else has to just get on too? Hey Kati! I have a question about therapists showing emotion in session. Last week I was talking to my therapist about my suicidal ideation and some rituals around attempting. Her response after I explained what was going on was that it makes her sad and she teared up and I feel like I don’t know who I am. I’m so used to mirroring people and reflecting their emotions rather than actually feeling it that I no longer feel like me and at times I don’t really feel like I’m real. I don’t know what my values in life are, my desires, hopes or just in general Does attachment to your therapist always have to stem from childhood wounds? I am really attached to my therapist, but I don't have any history of emotional abuse or neglect in my childhood. My mom was present and there for me my whole life up until my twenties (a few years ago) when she left and wasn't there for me, and that's when my therapist came into my Hi Kati! Happy belated birthday 🥳 Can we get some pupdates? No questions from me, really. Just want some Roxy news. Now go take a vacation please Kati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything episode 89Audience questions: How do I get over the feeling of being hyper aware about myself in therapy? When I'm in session I always feel like I'm a little girl who's in trouble. Which makes me super aware of every single part of my body. The way I move or talk, even the way my ... I’m wondering how to deal with anger and hurt over being emotionally neglected as a child. I have been burying my trauma down for years so I wouldn’t have to deal with it, but have recently uncovered it all in therapy. Now that I’m aware of the abuse in my past, and understand why I act in certain ways (like my avoidant attachment style or clinging... Are there ever times when anxiety legitimately has no cause? I have recently started therapy and have been exploring the causes of my anxiety and in some cases I can identify what is causing it, but other times it feels like there is no cause. I will be fine one minute then all of the sudden feel anxious and nothing has changed and oftentimes the... How long can you keep bringing up the same issue till a therapist would decide to change things up or change the form of therapy altogether? Does it mean you 'failed' as a.. How do I learn to let myself be cared for? I can be very loving and caring to others but as soon as other people do anything for me I get super anxious and want to run away. I don’t feel worthy of care and worry that if I accept support I will relax too much and they will let me down. This results in me holding people at a distance, being super independent and never really feeling like I can lean on other people. I want to have more... This is a heavy one. I work front desk at a hotel and unfortunately, we had a guest commit suicide in house this week. I was the person to check them in, and I was the last person to see them alive. I was one of the people who assessed the condition of the room after the body had been removed. As you can imagine, this has been difficult to... Is there a point in time when it's been long enough of dealing with childhood trauma that you won't ever get over it? I feel like I've talked about it with a therapist and a Dr and even my husband but I don't feel any better. I'm still upset and angry about it all and it ... Is it normal to want a relationship but then also not want one at the same time, as I don't want to be responsible for anyone else. I am a carer and often feel selfish having time to myself and feel responsible for others a ... Kati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8us Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 88 audience questions:1. If you are taught growing up that your feelings were not valid, how do you start to feel okay feeling feelings? Throughout my childhood and as I grew up, I was consistently told I was just being too sensitive or overreacting or whatever happened was not worth getting upset over... 2. I just started therapy to work through physical and sexual abuse and was diagnosed with PTSD. My therapist has pointed out (with compassion) that I’m very ambivalent. I didn’t think this was necessarily bad until I looked it up and saw that it can be a predictor of failed...3. Can you talk about intellectualizing rather than processing trauma? My therapist says I seem to be able to talk about details of my trauma with a "clinical" viewpoint, as if I'm talking about someone else, with no difficulty at all. (I have a degree in social work).4. Hope you’re doing well. Can you talk a little bit about building intrinsic motivation? I find it easy to fight my depressive symptoms in order to do things for others, like keeping spaces clean that my roommates use, or cooking for my family, but since moving out on my own, I can’t seem to...5. What qualifies as “treatment resistant depression”? I’ve tried multiple medications, been in therapy for several years, and I’m still not feeling consistent improvement, no matter how hard I work at it. I’ve been depressed for half my life and all I want is to feel better- I just...6. Are eating disorders ever misdiagnosed? If so, what is it most often misdiagnosed as? (COMMENT: Another question off of diagnosis of EDs, if a person is diagnosed with anorexia nervosa binge/purge subtype, then gains weight through treatment but continues to binge/purge, would they now have bulimia? Can you explain the difference exactly between AN binge /purge subtype and BN? // can you be diagnosed with something like "disordered eating"? 7. How do you go from knowing something to wholeheartedly believing in it? Like I know and can probably recite what my therapist says about how its okay to have needs, that I need to care for myself first, its okay to take up space etc but emotionally, I am not there. It's still so hard and it...8. Could you talk more about the fawn-response? And especially how to get rid of it? Because I feel like I do that all the time, and occasions when I am actually authentic are really rare. And I hate that about me. I feel like I am lying to everyone around me, and I feel a lot of guilt and shame...9. How do your client's/patients feel about you doing YouTube videos? Are there ever any issues that come up about it? My therapist has a YouTube channel and it's creating quite a few issues for me. I try to talk about it but it does not change my reaction to it. My therapist shares a lot of personal information about himself...Kati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8us Support th Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! podcast episode 86Audience Questions:1. Why do I feel like I failed at my illness? I had anorexia for several years and then morphed into bulimia. But I don't really feel like being bulimic and more like a "failed anorexic".It really keeps me from wanting to get better and makes me so ashamed...2. Is it possible for older teenagers (16-19yo) to be groomed? Also, is grooming always explicitly sexual, or can it be only vaguely sexual or even not sexual at all? Thanks for all you do...3. What is religious trauma and how do you know if you have experienced it? I am a part of the LGBTQ community and I am going to church, but it also conflicts my sexuality. I have looked up some of the signs/symptoms, but I am unsure because I am second guessing myself...4. Here, in The Netherlands, I am 30 years out of treatment because they didn't want to help me anymore. The reason why: because I was too complex and the risk of killing myself was too high...5. I am wondering if you have any suggestions of what to tell a friend when they ask how they can help. I have a wonderful friend who has been very supportive in listening to me talk about my anxieties and other mental health concerns... 6. We hear a lot about transference, but I haven’t heard many people speak on Erotic Transference. What is a driving factor behind Erotic Transference? Have you ever had a client be open with you about theirs? & do therapists ever get Erotic Countertransference? 7. I want to stop living my life through the gaze of my trauma. After watching your videos and listening to the, 'The Place we find ourselves' podcast, I realized that I have experienced more trauma than I thought and... 8. Do you need a different type of therapy if you’re autistic than if you’re not? I recently spoke to a therapist because of self-harm and a worsening idea that everyone dislikes me even though I know I have no reason to think so... 9. I hope you're doing well? Why is it that when you ‘start’ trauma work things seem to be worse? My psychologist got me to write out a list of events, scenarios etc of what has happened in my life that I would feel like I would blow... 10. What causes someone like myself to get stuck in (or with) suicidal ideation? Is it because I haven’t worked through every aspect of the trauma? Or is it because I am constantly being triggered? Religious Trauma Video https://youtu.be/7HwSGXPKzw8Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (htt Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! the Kati Morton podcast ep.83 Audience Questions1. Can you give us an overview of what a therapist does vs a psychologist? What’s the difference between therapy and psychotherapy? Would someone who struggles in all different areas benefit from seeing a psychologist rather than a therapist? For example, if someone has autism, C-PTSD, OCD, and an eating disorder, would a therapist be able to help them... 2. If you (as a therapist) have seen a client for a long time, do you notice if he or she feels sadder in a therapy session than usual? 3. What is the first thing that goes through your head (a therapist’s head) when a client starts to cry? (COMMENT: Or has a panic attack or starts dissociating badly (as in can not move, see or talk) in session? 4. I hope you’re having a great week! I got sick a while ago and was in the hospital for a few weeks. Ever since then, I’ve been missing and craving the kindness and attention I received from nurses and doctors while there. I’ve never experienced anything...5. How can I stop myself from being annoyed by little things out of my control? Often, I get upset about unreasonable stuff like people talking in a car, waking up 15 mins late even when I can afford to, shops not having what I want...6. Did you have a favourite patient you were seeing? I guess you´re not supposed to have favourites but I imagine it's hard not to like some patients more than others. Also I want my therapist to like me the most and I wish she would tell me I'm her favourite...7. A little while ago as I was crying on the floor I just completely lost my ability to feel any emotions for about 15 hours where it eventually slowly came back. It felt like losing a sense and I’m really confused by it and didn’t like it...8. I have a difficult relationship with food. It’s almost impossible for me to eat if I am with people. I make it look like I eat most of the time. If there is absolutely no getting around it, then I can force myself, just so there isn’t a scene but it makes me really uncomfortable...9. I hope you have a wonderful day. My question is; how can I notice when my eating disorder thoughts are trying to sneak in on me again? I find that my eating disorder voice is difficult to distinguish from me and my other thoughts and therefore I do not notice the signs until my therapist eventually notices them for me. I hope it makes sense... Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast with Dr. Alexa Altman | ep.84Audience questions:1. For the past 6 months I now realise that I dissociate. I didn't realise up until now because I had only heard of the more severe types of dissociation. My therapist told me that some people who dissociate can go for long periods of time and not remember...2. I really struggle with boundaries. I recently went to my teacher to talk about mental health struggles, and she...3. Do you think it's possible for our struggles e.g. anxiety, depression, lack of self worth to ever go away completely? I feel like there are some things, my anxiety...4. I am trying to work on recalling events surrounding a traumatic situation to be able to make a statement to police and assist with other cases that may be linked to...5. I keep downplaying my symptoms and even contemplate canceling my therapy sessions sometimes. I'm not quite sure why I'm...6. Why are a lot of therapists unwilling to work with autistic clients even if they're not coming to therapy for their autism?7. How does one handle being triggered by their own therapist? I have PTSD, and have been very open with my therapist about my trauma that occurred last year, and my struggles with it. As a whole, I absolutely have loved working with her, and have felt very safe in discussing my experiences...8. Is it possible to feel triggered from a past sexual assault after having a baby?? I was sexually assaulted when I was 20 in my home. I wasn’t ready for therapy after the assault so I stopped showing up and couldn’t find it in me to...Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything episode 85Questions:1. Is it “normal” to constantly talk to yourself? basically whenever i’m alone i’ll be having full on conversations out loud to myself. feel like half the time it’s just maladaptive dreaming and i’ll be talking about something I...2. How do you treat trauma that you don't remember? I can hardly remember my childhood, but sometimes I have emotional flashbacks in response to certain questions in therapy. Without pictures or sounds...3. I hope you are doing well! Could you talk a bit more about emotional abuse? A few months ago, I realized that I was emotionally abused for 6 years during my teenage years. As I am trying to deal with it...4. When I was in high school I used to thought stop every emotional thought I had. I convinced myself I was emotionless when really all I did was repress everything. I always tried to use logic and facts to counter my...5. I have started seeing a new trauma therapist and have seen her for a month. I get on well with her and although I'm struggling to open up, she has been really reassuring which is what I need to hear. The problem I...6. How can I get more comfortable again with social contacts after 1.5 years of the pandemic? I have always been a highly introverted person with a rather limited need for close social relations. In principle, I am very...7. How can I deal with the anxiety of losing my therapist? I know she says she won´t leave but I´m still scared she will. Is there anything I can do to conquer that fear? 8. What advice would you give to a person who you care about, but not a patient, whose trauma includes therapy-derived traumas? Several episodes ago, you talked about a therapist you believe was acting unethically. 9. Can one sibling have problems while others don’t? I’m a triplet. And I feel so left out with all events I have had to share with my other two siblings. Even through I had a hard enough time having family occasions because my one older brother molested me. I feel so stupid for caring so much about how I didn’t want to...Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do therapists get annoyed with their patients? Ask Kati Anything podcast ep. 821. Do therapists ever get annoyed when clients say “I don't know” a lot during sessions? I find myself saying I don't know to questions in sessions...2. Do you ever get annoyed with your patients? I feel like I am annoying my therapist because I repeat judging myself and she keeps telling me that it's her job to sort through my thoughts and I should...3. Do you have any advice on talking to therapists about their reactions to things said in therapy? Recently I disclosed to my therapist details about a specific instance of childhood sexual abuse that I have always...4. Slowly but surely I'm recovering from my burn-out. Now I'm wondering what I should do with my life. Something needs to change and I know for the sake of my own mental health that I need to quit my job...5. Why do people not realize the abuse/toxic relationship/etc. they're in while it's happening? I didn't think I had been sexually assaulted until recently despite having an understanding of what sexual assault...6. Would you consider being closeted a form of trauma? I came out at 18/19 after I was closeted for about 3 years. I'm now 24 and feel like these 3 years still affect me daily. I taught myself to hold myself back in so many ways, especially in...7. How do you get over past traumas? Once everything has been aired out in session I still don't understand how to deal with it or accept these facts. I still find myself replaying my past & it still makes me sad. How do you know if therapy is working for you? (COMMENT: And how can I get over my trauma, if it isolates me from people close to me and I can't talk to them about it? My mother sexually abused me...8. How can I set boundaries, if I don’t even know where my boundaries are? Usually I feel like I don’t have boundaries. When someone looks at me I feel like they are already too close. And I can’t tell people not to look at me. Thank you for all you do. Have a lovely day. (COMMENT: I suck at setting boundaries too but similar to you when someone looks at me I feel like they know... 9. When therapists see clients with high suicide risks, what do you do to prevent them from carrying out the suicide plan?10. I recently had a philosophy professor stand in front of the class and give a small lecture on self harm. we were talking about suicide and it’s relation to morals and that turned into a discussion on mutilation...Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0jARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support th Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything podcast ep.80 Audience questions:1. What advice do you have when CBT doesn’t seem to be working? I have been diagnosed with GAD, and I know it’s supposed to be the gold standard for anxiety, but I feel like it isn’t doing anything for me. I can identify what is causing my anxiety/ all the distortions in my...2. How do you know what to say as a therapist? I get that your education and practice help a lot but what about in the beginning (your first few clients). How do you know what questions to ask so that...3. As kids my parents spanked my siblings and I. We were always scared when our father would be the one to discipline us. Now looking back at that time as a kid I feel...4. How many sessions are necessary before trusting a therapist? I had 20+ sessions with my former therapist and still didn’t trust her and didn’t feel safe enough to share my trauma fully. I recently...5. How do I stop worrying about my therapist even when I logically know I don't have to? We have talked about my people-pleasing and how being aware of how other people are feeling was a survival skill from childhood. I notice how my therapist tries to make sure that she doesn't look tired...6. I was SAed about 10 years ago by a good friend and have only very recently been working through it. I’ve done a lot of great work with my therapist and various other wonderful resources, but it’s weird for me to be moving forward - if that can even make sense. I can tell I’ve grown so much in the past year, but a part of me...7. I'm over 18 and I want to start talking with my therapist about possible (sexual) abuse sustained as a child. However, I still live with the person that supposedly caused me harm and I feel like whatever happened to me wasn't a big deal since I'm only...8. How do you deal with your therapist/therapy being your only 'safe' space? I've been in therapy for over 10years (not continuously there was a few years gap) and I've been extremely...9. How can I get comfortable with the idea of spacing out my sessions and eventually ending therapy? I've been seeing my therapist for...10. Thank you for all your work. Your videos and podcast have helped me so much. I have a question concerning trauma therapy. I recently started, and felt really good about it, in the sense that I felt safe and I trust my therapist...Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIs Kati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. Why do therapists often like to sit and silently observe you for an uncomfortable amount of time? It happens when the conversation slows down and everything goes quiet and they just sit looking at you...2. How can you tell apart when your worrying has a legitimate reason and when it's just caused by your anxiety / perfectionism? I'm always worrying I won't work hard enough for my university, that my boyfriend will leave me, that I'm not trying hard enough in therapy...3. I hope you are well! I was wondering, do you have any tips to keep your brain from freezing up or going blank when talking about trauma? I recently started having what I think are recovered memories of sexual abuse, but I don't know for sure if...4. How do you handle it when a patient gives you “doorknob disclosure”? Is it common? Do most therapists find it annoying? Is there a reason some patients do this?5. My question is... How are you? A few weeks or months ago you told us that you were taking a (much deserved) break due to stress...6. How do you know when you're "drowning in the symptoms" enough to warrant medication? For me, I'm just on antidepressants which (according to my doctor) isn't specifically aimed at curbing my anxiety symptoms. So I still experience anxiety/panic attacks, but they are way less frequent. I have skills to aid me, which work, but it can take me a few days to find my feet again...7. Could it be beneficial to go to a therapist who reminds you of people who have hurt you in the past? I find myself having a hard time trusting my therapist because she reminds me of everyone who has hurt me before...8. I have been wondering how people "view" their memories. I often recall memories from a 3rd person perspective, i.e. I see myself doing something rather than from my own perspective/ eyes. Is this the norm or...9. What if you’re half ready for recovery? What can you do? I want to get better, but I don’t want to put in the effort it takes to use the skills. Sometimes I forget they exist and other times I just don’t do it.10. I do not know if this is common, but do your clients ever tell you they don’t want to give up their eating disorder as a “puffer fish” mechanism? Like I find myself saying these things when I really don’t mean it, it is just easier to say I don’t want recovery over...Video of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's books in stores now!TRAUMATIZED - https://geni.us/Bfak0j ARE U OK? - http://bit.ly/2s0mULyAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. I only recommend services I know and trust.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep.79 - Kati Morton's Mental Health & Psychology Podcast1) How much of our childhood is normal to remember? I remember some things, but not a ton. My family life was fine growing up, I had loving parents, but I experienced bullying at school and social isolation because of that. I'm wondering if me not remembering stuff is because of the "trauma" of bullying or if it is just normal not to...2) Are suicidal thoughts dangerous when they aren't exactly in the near future or planned? I personally had this thought that once I start university I won't be able to handle the extra fears as I...3) I think you never talked about helicopter parents and the effects they have on children. What if instead of emotional neglect you receive so much attention and emotional presence from a parent you don’t learn how to operate on your own? How can one overcome the embarrassment...4) I have recently started seeing a trauma therapist. I like her but I haven’t really opened up about anything yet since I’m scared she won’t believe me and I’ll shut down like I usually do in session. How do I overcome my fear of not being believed by my therapist?5) How can I try not to let my depression take over too much when there are many changes going to happen? I´ll be moving soon and should start a program that helps me get better but I'm letting myself sulk in self pity and don't want to do anything but sleep all day. I fear I won't be able to get...6) Is it still considered sexual abuse if it happens between children who are only a year apart in age? Like when one child is 8 and the other 9. Does there have to be a big age difference for it to be considered sexual abuse or does age not matter? Is it less traumatic if they are close in age?7) How do I know if symptoms of one mental illness is their own illness or just part of another? After watching your videos on Borderline and googling the most common symptoms myself, I mustered up the courage to ask my therapist if she thought I might have certain Borderline tendencies. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep.78 - Kati Morton's Mental Health & Psychology Podcast 1 (0:48) What's the best way to build self esteem after years of emotional and physical abuse? I was abused as a child and it feels like no matter how hard I try, my inner monologue/strongly held beliefs always... 2 (18:43) Did going to school to be a therapist bring things up for you? I just started my program and I’m loving it, but I’ve noticed that a lot of people in my program are struggling to an... 3 (24:17) Is it possible for someone with narcissistic personality disorder to be aware they have the disorder? It seems like a lot of therapists... 4 (30:44) Have your clients ever gotten mad or angry at you during a session? If so, do you ever get frustrated with them/ not want to work with them anymore? How would you go about it? 5 (38:29) In my last session with my therapist, she told me something that my mom told her. My mom doesn’t believe I was molested by my brother. Her exact words were “my brother and I used to be... 6 (45:21) I've been suicidal for two years and there's only been a few days when my severe depression and suicidality lifted a little bit. What would you say to someone who really, really doesn't want to live... 7 (51:45) Recently my therapist was talking about finding a way to release all the anger I have towards my childhood, not having the life I wanted and anger towards the ... 8 (57:11) I was reading up on HIPAA for school recently and was wondering: why can patients be denied access to their psychotherapy notes? It seems unproductive if we can't ... 9 (1:02:34) What is your take on those who believe mental illness isn't real? Any reasons you've heard to try and prove this statement? I've heard a few different arguments but ... 10 (1:06:45) Before I ask my question, I wanted to say thank you to you and Sean for putting in the time to do AKA. I think it helps a lot of us feel heard and validated, and helps ... Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIs Kati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton ONLINE THERAPY I do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/kati PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Opinions That Don't Matter! video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfw audio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/ EMAIL [email protected] MAIL 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED please visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything, ep.76 audience question: How to tell or show your therapist that you are doing worse than what she thinks. My therapist thinks I’m doing fine but I’m not, I feel like I’m dying from the inside. I don’t know why I’m like this, but I want to be sicker than I am. Like, I know logically I probably only have anxiety and maybe autism, but I want to get diagnosed with a personality disorder... I hope you are well. Can we please talk about what happens when depression starts lifting? I am starting to look back now and I feel so sad at all the time I've lost, at all... As a therapist do you find it challenging to not wear your therapist hat in a regular situation where you’re not in that position of being a therapist? Is it common to feel as though you are lying or exaggerating when telling your therapist things that happened in the past, or what symptoms you have, or how your week.. Hope you have a wonderful day and are OK! Seeing your video about your burnout made me worry about you, so I wanted to check in! :-) Now. Over the last year I've been going to therapy... I keep seeing questions about being attached to a therapist or feeling sad, ect... if u need to move or something and u can't see them anymore... A few weeks ago you talked about touch aversion, and I’ve been wondering about the other side of it: What if you’ve always had a need for touch and physical affection that’s... Will a therapist always bring up transference? Or will they sometimes just notice it and use it as a tool to help heal. What are the signs a client is experiencing transference? I noticed you don’t really have any videos telling parents how to help their children with mental health issues. How should parents go about supporting their children when their children. Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIsKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/EMAIL [email protected] 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED please visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything! ep.77 audience questions Can you give your therapist a ‘Summary of Me’ document so you don’t have to waste so many sessions getting through your whole life story? Or make your own trauma timeline to give to your new therapist instead of doing it in session? How much thinking about therapy is too much? I find myself constantly analyzing myself and thinking about things I need to work on and things I need to talk about in therapy. The second I walk out of my session... What causes us to invalidate our traumas? I experienced multiple traumatic events growing up. I know it happened but it seems like I always downplay those events.... In my last therapy session, I told my therapist about some trauma that I dealt with as a kid. After I told my therapist about it, she asked me some questions... Do you have any tips for figuring out a healthy balance between helping others and excessive ‘people pleasing’? I feel like people-pleasing is core to my personality and... What are your thoughts on a therapist pushing to cut back on sessions because, her words, “other people need therapy too”? A previous therapist told me “I think we should try every other week now”. When I asked her why, she said she was seeing... How can you tell if you have an attachment to your therapist, transference, or just a healthy bond? And is it ever appropriate to ask your therapist for a hug or to sit next to you, assuming covid ends eventually and it’s safe? If you could only afford medication or therapy, which one would you pick? I've been seeing a therapist, for social anxiety and depression, for about 8 months now, and I haven't been getting any better. I'll be going back to university... Hey Kati! You have a new family member! Can we please hear all about Roxy?! Have a great week! Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIsKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/EMAIL [email protected] 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything episode 75 What is/are the most common things where a client thinks they're the "only one", but really a therapist hears it ALL the time. What might be the most surprising? How do you handle a client that appears to be really struggling at the very end of a session? As in about to burst into tears and very obviously just trying to hold everything together (but unsuccessfully)? Why do I find the thought of my therapist comforting or feeling empathy for me so soothing yet so uncomfortable? I'm not sure about it being attached to her. Is there any "real" therapy work in the beginning/ when the client comes in every session with a whole bag of stories... What if you had clients who did very bad things or shameful things? Should they mask it when they go to therapy or just say everything into the DETAIL? How do I be okay with being myself in therapy? I have social anxiety, so I always have trouble talking in session, even answering simple questions is hard. But last session, I was able to open up more than ever before and just be myself like... What does a therapist have in place for their clients in case something happens to them (the therapist)? For example, a therapist dies or has a sudden emergency where they have to quit therapy? Do they have confidential information that is... I’m wondering after a patient ends therapy how long do you keep their notes? What if they come back after that time? Is it possible to have "symptoms" that aren't really symptoms? I feel like I am now hyper analyzing everything I do thinking that maybe it's a symptom but I wonder if... I recently set up an appt with my therapist after a year of not seeing her. I’m a frontline healthcare worker and the burnout is real. I’ve been struggling with postpartum anxiety... Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIsKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/EMAIL [email protected] 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything ep.73 audience questions:1) Is fidgeting bad to do in a therapy session? I tend to fiddle a lot with my hands, lean forward and sit at the end of the seat in session. My therapist made me sit back and spread my hands and stop moving them, so I ended up bouncing my...2) Has it ever felt strange going to therapy when you, yourself are a therapist? Does it ever seem kind of trippy, with their layers of perspective on top of yours? Or is being a therapist something you basically “shed” before your... 3) Is it possible to have symptoms of a disorder and not have the "full blown" thing? I struggle with fear of abandonment, attachment issues, self-harm and an unstable sense of self, but I don't think I struggle badly enough to have it classified as BPD... 4) This is a question about intimacy after trauma. I’ve been in therapy for almost 2 years. Several months ago we uncovered some repressed sexual trauma memories. It causes me to dissociate anytime we get close to touching those memories...5)What do you do as a therapist if a client suddenly stops seeing you? I became bored with my therapist and I just want to never go again because I don't want to have to explain why I'm stopping... 6) How is it possible to handle doctor appointments (especially obygn) when sexual abuse has happened? I am so afraid that this will retraumatize me or that I will struggle with flashbacks afterwards... 7) I was wondering if an aborted suicide attempt could be considered as a type of trauma. I had one several years ago but never really thought about it much. Symptoms of my depression and...Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIsKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything episode 74 Can you talk about whether it’s more important to prioritize processing past trauma or working through issues in the present? It feels more important to prioritize the... Can you just replay social situations over and over in your head without having social anxiety? I often find myself ruminating after socialising on what has happened, what I have... How do you know if you’re being re traumatized in your therapy sessions?I’ve been working through traumas in therapy and I’ve been unable to stay present. It started as dissociation in... Please can you give examples of what less severe dissociation is? I feel numb/ empty quite a lot of the time and like there is a part of me missing. When in therapy my mind can go blank... I’m struggling to know when I should take a break from therapy? I’m very much a perfectionist which leads to me feeling like I constantly need to be bettering... How do I tell my therapist I'm missing something in therapy? I've been struggling with my mental health (mostly burn-out and anxiety) for a while. I've been seeing my doctor... Happy Thursday! Why is it terrifying to be cared for? A few years ago a car crashed into the store where I worked. I was able to jump out of the way but was hit by a desk and... I was wondering if you have heard stories of people ending friendships or relationships around their negative views around mental health? A couple of years ago a friend of mine was ... Is it normal to feel like my struggles with mental illness are immature and childish? I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety since I was about 12, and with the social anxiety... How common is it to be victimized 2 times? I was molested as a child and then my ex raped me. She knew about my brother molesting me as a child however she still... Video version of episodes https://youtu.be/WG-j4vtcYIsKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/EMAIL [email protected] 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B, Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED visit https://geni.us/Bfak0jAsk Kati Anything ep.72 audience questions:1) I was wondering if a therapist would know if their patient isn't feeling that great or something's bothering them or their anxiety is a bit high... 2) Are therapists faking themselves in sessions? My therapist told me that she adapts to each client and is more mindful... 3) Can you please talk about why it’s physically so hard to talk about trauma? I want to try to talk through things in therapy, but I find that it’s physically hard to get...4) Can you talk about chronic loneliness and what it is? I thought I had social anxiety, and maybe I do, but it's this feeling of being unconnected that has me feeling hollow...5) I was wondering what inspired you to become a therapist? Specifically what made you want to focus on eating disorders and most recently trauma? 6) I’m always so distracted by what my therapist is typing or writing when I’m speaking. I know she’s just doing her job and that whatever notes she’s taking are probably pretty clinical...7) Do you have any tips on how to force yourself to do the work? For example, lately I have been wanting to try journaling, emotion charts, and reading more self help books...8) There have been a few times my therapist has overstepped in our relationship but instead of bringing these things up with her like I know I should, I actually find myself liking them and...9) Is it possible to dissociate for extended periods? I had a major triggering event last summer and the entire last year is a blur. It’s almost as if someone else lived my life for the past...10) Can mental illnesses ever be a choice? I often feel as if I have chosen my eating disorder, because when I was about 12 years old and really unhappy...Video version of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/k Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED here: https://geni.us/Bfak0jAudience questions Hi Kati, hope you're taking care of yourself. Can you talk about the boredom that comes with being okay? I've been experiencing extremes for so long, (manic/suicidal) that on the days/weeks where I'm more stable, I can't deal with the boredom of not having those extreme emotions, and often end up deliberately triggering myself to end the monotony... Hey Kati, do you have any tips on how to live for yourself and not for others? As a chronically suicidal person, the only reason I’m here is to keep other people happy. I don’t want help or to be alive, but I do. I constantly flip flop between this and was... Why is it there is such shame with sexual abuse/trauma? How can someone feel such shame and guilt about something that wasn’t their fault? (COMMENT: Hi Kati happy happy Thursday please answer How does a person know if they have any trauma because in my junior year of high a guy tried to take advantage of me but also a lot... Do therapists sometimes provoke their clients into transference? My therapist says things like “if you were my daughter I would care how you felt and listen to what you have to say” and it makes me angry because she’s NOT my mom so it’s irrelevant. I’ve... I was wondering why it is so hard to accept trauma. Recently I realized I was sexually abused as a child and I keep trying to justify my fathers actions. I keep telling myself I’m just being dramatic or that my father “didn’t mean it that way.” Even when it was very... Hi Kati, I was wondering if you have any advice on how to discuss past sexual trauma in therapy. Do you really have to share and relive all the details in order to heal? I don't think I can say all those things out loud. I have come to realise that I was abused and repeatedly raped by an ex boyfriend.... My therapist has started to bring up that I’m doing better and the idea of ramping down therapy the last couple of sessions but every time he does it kinda freaks me out. Is this attachment or could it be the fear of losing my safety net? (COMMENT: Add on: my therapist is close to retirement age and it... Video version of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY... I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive a commission on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter!video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pre-order your copy of Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED here: https://geni.us/Bfak0jAudience questions1. How do therapists notice the non-verbal signals in their clients, what are obvious signals and what are less obvious signals? 2. Do you have any tips for people who feel like they have missed out on their teen years and early adulthood and would like to just be a teen again to experience what they feel they missed?3. Can you talk a little about touch aversion? I grew up with almost no touch aside from physical abuse, and I have never learned to like touch - being touched or touching others. I do deal with MDD and GAD, and an avoidant attachment style...4. I get really uncomfortable and anxious in places with loud music, lots of people talking or basically anywhere that is really loud. I also freak out and panic whenever I hear people yelling. I have never experienced any type of abuse or...5. Any advice for talking to my therapist? I have a hard time saying much in general and normally only give 1-3 words answers, or just say I don't know...6. I recently started dating and I'm having a hard time communicating my feelings and allowing myself to be vulnerable. I did a lot of inner child work in the past few weeks and discovered that I didn't really get my...7. What would you think if a client changed their appearance dramatically in a short period of time? (Weight change, piercings, dyed hair, different clothing/style) I find myself...8. Is it normal to have conversations in your head with your therapist? You know that they’re not there but can’t help but to have conversations about different things going on in your head...9. I know I’m late so you probably won’t see this. My question is why can someone not cry. Personally for me my therapist has told me that I need to cry to help with the pressure I’m feeling. It’s so hard. I'm watching sad videos, listening to sad songs, think of all the abuse I was put...10. How to get the benefits of therapy, meaning how to get the most from it so it helps you?KATI'S BOOKSTRAUMATIZED available for preorder in print, ebook & audiobook https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok? in stores now http://bit.ly/2s0mULyVideo version of episodes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPY... I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive a commission on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREON https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! video https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAIL [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything episode 69*** Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED is available for Preorder today! https://geni.us/Bfak0jAudience questions:1. If you're comfortable talking about it, have you ever suffered from mental illness? I know therapists often say they know better but don't necessarily always do better...2. Is fear of crying during a session something that should be talked about? Every time I go to therapy I purposely don’t talk too much about things that get me teary or...3. How do you know what is the most important thing to bring up in therapy? I have so much to talk about, so much that happens in between sessions and...4. Can therapy make dissociation or any other symptoms worse? Is this just a part of "it gets worse before it gets better"? Ever since I've been working with my therapist on feeling more, I've started dissociating more intensely...5. What’s your opinion on personality tests like the enneagram or the Meyers Briggs? I‘m an INFJ and an Enneagram 4 wing 6. Also my love language is mainly gift giving... 6. Why don’t I want life to go back to normal? During 2020 I was struggling again, but I was able to get some help this time. But now that things are slowly going back to normal in England, and everyone is very...7. I have a question faced by many people how can someone overcome the fear of left alone and also overcome the void of loneliness (COMMENT: this matches to my bpd symptoms and also to...8. I have been in counseling for about a year and half already and I can’t get myself to allow myself to feel emotions during session. Before and after session I could feel really anxious and like crap...9. I don't think my question will ever get enough likes so hoping it will be picked at random. Can you explain more about the differences between RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) and BPD?10. Thank you for your work! I hope you’re having a good day :) My therapist recently diagnosed me with CPTSD. But all I read about it online said that the traumas that lead to...Ordering Kati's booksTRAUMATIZED Available for preorder in print, ebook & audiobookhttps://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?In stores now: http://bit.ly/2s0mULyVideo version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. S Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything! How does a therapist feel when a patient gets mad at them in session? Nothing threatening or personal, but things like copping an attitude, getting sarcastic... What are the things that can cause us to have attachment issues (other than abuse/neglect from our primary caregiver)? Can toxic friendships and having been bullied as a child and teenager cause us... Can you talk about avoidant attachment style (or avoidant personality? What’s the difference?) stemming from childhood trauma? I thought I was doing fine looking at others going through the periods of abusive... Can a singular "small" event, such as your dad kicking you as a kid, be considered a trauma? Or what if its combined with a bunch of small things happening occasionally over many years - like my dad slapping me, my parents yelling at me, telling me I'm stupid, worthless, etc... I feel like I struggle to feel any feelings towards any other person. It's like I don't care about anybody and there is no emotional reaction when I see someone. Like I'd meet up with a friend but it wouldn't matter if I saw them or I... I’ve just recently started talking about my self harm urges and self harm in therapy but I’m struggling to really get into it. How common is it to downplay how often the urges are, or how recently I’ve engaged in those types o... How do I know if I need a break from therapy or if I should change my therapist? I've been with my therapist for over a year and while in the beginning I could draw a lot from our discussions... Is it normal that after sessions with my therapist I spend a lot of time running through conversations in my head? It usually starts with things I may say or bring up, but I find myself answering for my therapist too... How do you deal with „second hand“ trauma (if that even is a thing)? about two months ago I witnessed cops having to tell my friend and her mom that their brother/son committed suicide... I’m wondering why I was never informed of my diagnoses even once after years of therapy! I wasn’t aware of my diagnoses until I downloaded an app where I can view my health records and I was shocked to find Gender Dysphoria on there... Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you My new book TRAUMATIZED is available for preorder! Order your copy today https://geni.us/Bfak0j Su Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything!1. I was wondering, do therapists have to like their patients? I always have a fear that secretly my therapist doesn’t like me, that I'm a burden to her and every... 2. Does someone actually “recover” completely from trauma or abuse that has occurred resulting in C/PTSD? Or is it actually having healthy coping mechanisms to... 3. How can a trauma survivor tell the difference between truly toxic behaviour and just human mistakes? Sometimes I'm wondering if people around me are truly toxic or if I'm just... 4. When I am experiencing the very low lows of my mental health I find myself in an uncontrollable deep dive into mental health educational content. I’ll re-listen to your podcasts... 5. Can you explain the differences (if there are any) between dissociation, the freeze response and panic attacks...6. Can you talk about sexuality and how that can affect someone’s mental health? I grew up in a strict religion that views homosexuality as a sin. I left the religion when I realized that I’m a lesbian but sometimes it’s...7. Why do I find it excruciating to feel my therapist's care for me? I don't like it when I make her cry or when she tries to connect with me or says anything kind...8. Is it possible that I have used sex as a form of self harm without even realising? I am 24 years old and a lesbian. I am afraid of intimacy with women, I have internalised homophobia from the environment I grew up in and a lot of religious...9. Lately my anxiety and eating disorder thoughts have gotten a lot worse. I feel out of control and I am unable to use the tools that my therapist has given me to...10. s it normal to feel emotions so intensely? I feel like in a matter of days, I can go from self confident and sure of my goals, to major self hatred and using self harm to... 11. Do the urges to self harm ever completely go away? It’s been 5+ years since the last time I cut, but it’s still the first place my brain goes to when I’m having a bad day....Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! #66 audience questions:1. I recently started therapy but I'm not sure what we're really doing. I just spend the time talking about how miserable I am and not much else. I asked her what I should be bringing up in therapy...2. Hey Kati, how are YOU doing? Do you still see clients for therapy or have you shifted entirely to Youtube? If so, do you plan on returning to clinical work?3. I've been struggling with overthinking for quite a while now, I have really obsessive intrusive thoughts that are centered around my thought patterns. I have these obsessive thoughts...4. What does being fully recovered from trauma look like and how do you know if you're there? Can you answer this question for complex trauma too if the answer is any different?5. How would one start talking about trauma with a new therapist? There’s just this imaginary boundary that I can’t cross and even if I write it down I don’t show them....6. Why do I always focus on the end of things? I'm getting treatment for anxiety, depression and social anxiety right now and I am already scared of it ending cause I feel like it's helping me a lot...7. ow do you give yourself closure from feelings of grief? This week I lost my therapist of 18 months. (She resigned from her job.) I don't know if...8. I've been suffering from a burn-out for four months. Two months ago I suddenly started getting anxiety. I don't leave the house besides for my doctors and psychologist's appointments. Going for a walk, talking to strangers, doing a small errand etc. is way too much stress for me...9. I struggle to show or express my feelings. I know this arises from childhood conditioning and from how I've learnt to protect myself from the traumas I've experienced over the years as a child, adolescent and adult, including emotional, physical and sexual assault, bereavement, family estrangement and suffering workplace bullying...10. What do you think are the best 5 questions to ask a therapist before starting treatment with them?Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353 Austin, TX 78728 PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! #65 audience questions:1. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years. Overall our relationship has been great. I have depression, and when we first started dating, my depression almost...2. I just finished undergrad this semester and will be starting grad school in the fall. Throughout undergrad, I have struggled to keep up with school because of my mental…3. Recently I have begun to notice that my parents are more concerned about my sisters mental health than mine. for example when she is acting even the slightest bit different…4. I went to a therapist not that long ago but I was so anxious that I couldn’t really open up to her and just lied to her to make her think that I was doing better even…5. hope you are doing well. My question is about dissociation and suicidal thoughts. I'm 26 and for the first time in my life I have recently started talking about my experience with…6. HI hope you’re doing well. I’m quite a severe procrastinator and I was wondering to what extent this ties into depression and/or other mental illnesses? It seems to be...7. Do you have any tips on how to feel ok about taking antidepressants? I was on an ssri for depression and anxiety last year but stopped after about 4 months. I stopped it because…8. I was wondering if as a therapist, what you do if someone brings up an issue in therapy that you have experienced? Is it hard or is therapy different? I’m starting grad school to be…9. What advice do you have for adjusting to reentry/ the end of the pandemic? I’m very anxious to go places without wearing my mask. At work we had a meeting (with about 80 people) and I was…10. I wonder what your thought is on seeing more than one therapist at the same time for different things? I have a therapist that I have been seeing for a few months for grief…11. What are yours and other therapists thoughts and experiences on wearing face coverings in therapy sessions? Do you think it takes away from you being able to see what...Video version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwOrdering Kati's bookAre u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULyKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS [email protected] Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices