"Why do I both want and not want friends?" ep.119

<p><strong>Ask Kati Anything ep. 119 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT </strong></p> <p><br></p> <p><strong>Audience Questions:</strong></p> <p>1. Do you have any advice for someone who doesn't have friends or a relationship, but both wants and doesn't want any/it? I have social anxiety, so making friends tends to be hard to begin with, but I often feel bored and lonely and want...  </p> <p>2. I'm curious about why we would imagine bad things happening to us. Often, I imagine I'm being hurt, not identical scenarios to past traumas but similar themes. I've been curious about this for a while and have noticed I tend to lean into it when my SH & ED aren't really helping enough, almost as a punishment...  </p> <p>3. I recently listened to an episode where you described looking into the past too long as a form of self harm by impeding healing.  Is there ever a point where you can look back at a life forming event that was in some way traumatic without it impeding healing? If so, is it all about...  </p> <p>4. Ever since I was a child I used to 'go' to a fantasy world I created in my mind when I'm not feeling safe. Well, I'm still doing this at 25 and I feel very ashamed because of it. My therapist asked whether I could tell her what happens there...  </p> <p>5. My question pertains to inner child work and emotion regulation. I record my virtual therapy sessions to help myself remember and process what we work on each week (my therapist’s suggestion), but when I get stuck in a depressive spiral, I rewatch (and rewatch and rewatch) the portions of my sessions when...  </p> <p>6. How can we stay in the 'healthy eating habits' path? I feel like I have too emotional attachments to food. I love different cuisines, I love desserts, love eating out and I love trying out new flavors, so I adore eating overall! I try to recognize patterns, for example when I reward myself with food after a long and hard day....  </p> <p>7. Why do some people gravitate towards healthy coping mechanisms and some people don’t? I’ve been struggling and I just keep trading one bad coping skill for another. First several Ed’s then SH then drinking. Once I realize what I’m doing is bad I’ll stop but then a new one pops up...  </p> <p>8. Happy Thursday! I think I may have experienced some religious trauma. My question is: How do I figure out what I believe in and what my own beliefs are and unlearn what I have been taught through church and my upbringing? I hope this makes sense.</p> <p>------</p> <p><em><strong>Kati's Books</strong></em></p> <ul> <li><strong>Traumatized</strong> <a href="https://geni.us/Bfak0j">https://geni.us/Bfak0j</a></li> <li><strong>Are u ok?</strong> <a href="http://bit.ly/2s0mULy">http://bit.ly/2s0mULy</a></li> </ul> <p><strong>Online Therapy</strong>  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT <a href="https://betterhelp.com/kati">https://betterhelp.com/kati</a></p> <p><strong>Patreon </strong><a href="https://www.patreon.com/katimorton">https://www.patreon.com/katimorton</a></p> <p><strong>Amazon Suggestions </strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton">https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton</a></p> <p><strong>Business Contact  </strong>Linnea Toney   [email protected]</p>

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