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There is a moment in some school meetings where the language changes.You walk in expecting support. Adjustments. Solutions.But then different words start appearing.‘Safety.’‘Impact on others.’‘Capacity.’‘We’ve tried everything.’And you can feel the shift before you fully understand it.You start thinking:How did this go from help… to risk?WHY THIS MATTERSADHD mums are already carrying invisible labour, school advocacy, therapy coordination, and the emotional regulation of the entire household.So when a school meeting shifts tone, it doesn’t land as ‘this is complex.’It lands as threat.Threat that your child is being positioned as the problem.Threat that you’re about to be performance-managed as a parent.Threat that exclusion is quietly being prepared.And once the language moves from support to safety, your nervous system knows what’s coming — even if no one has said it yet.This episode unpacks that shift.What it actually means.And what you can do before the door quietly closes.WHAT WE COVERThe early signs a school is moving from inclusion to managing outHow ‘we’ve tried everything’ often means the plan was never implemented properlyWhy perceived defiance and PDA profiles trigger exclusion faster than quiet maskingWhat ‘regulated and choosing it’ misunderstands about neurodivergent distressThe difference between documentation for support and documentation for removalHow modified timetables, wellbeing days, and shortened hours become informal exclusionWhat to ask for when supports ‘aren’t working’How to request IEP reviews, fidelity checks, and functional behaviour assessmentsWhy building your own paper trail (including positives) mattersTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…You’ve left a school meeting feeling blindsidedYou’re getting more ‘pick up’ calls and reduced hoursYour child is being described as ‘defiant’ rather than overwhelmedYou’re hearing leadership speak more than classroom teachersYou’re scared you’re about to lose your child’s placementYou’re trying to advocate without burning the entire system downRELATED ADHD MUMS EPISODES🎧 SCHOOL SERIES: When School Stops Feeling Safehttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-19-when-school-stops-being-safe/🎧 SCHOOL SERIES: Your Child Isn’t ‘Acting Out’ — They’re Burning Outhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-5-school-series-your-child-isnt-acting-out-theyre-burning-out/🎧 You’re Not ‘That Mum’ — You Learned to Protect Your Child at Schoolhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/youre-not-that-mum-back-to-school-edition📬 Listener Questions & Community🎙️ Ask a Listener Question (voice)Voice notes are preferred when possible — hearing your voice helps add context — but you’re very welcome to submit a written question instead.Send me a WhatsApp voice message here:https://bit.ly/3ZQl0O8✍️ Ask a Listener Question (written)https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864👥 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcast

You’re not lying on the couch saying ‘poor me.’You’re functioning. Packing lunches. Showing up. Holding it together.But quietly, inside, you’ve started believing:‘This is just how it is for me.’WHY THIS MATTERSADHD mums carry more correction, more visible mistakes, more invisible labour, more system friction.So when something goes wrong, it doesn’t land as ‘that was hard.’It lands as proof.Proof you’re behind.Proof you’re failing.Proof this is who you are.And once shame becomes the explanation, your brain stops looking for options.Not because you don’t want change.Because the load is already too high.WHAT WE COVERThe difference between a victim moment and a victim identityWhy ADHD conditioning makes shame feel factualHow ‘nothing works in our house anyway’ protects you from hopeThe motherhood shame loop that quietly shrinks your lifeWhy waiting for fairness before you move will keep costing youResponsibility without blame — and why that mattersThe one question that reopens possibility without forcing actionTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…You’ve stopped trying in one area because failing again feels unbearableYou feel resentful but also guilty for feeling resentfulYou avoid things before they even go wrongYou tell yourself you’re ‘just bad at this stage’Being validated feels relieving… but nothing changes afterwardsRELATED ADHD MUMS EPISODES🎧 Hidden Cost of Being The Good Girlhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/goodgirlcost/🎧 When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiethttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/🎧 The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/📬 Listener Questions & Community🎙️ Ask a Listener Question (voice)Voice notes are preferred when possible — hearing your voice helps add context — but you’re very welcome to submit a written question instead.Send me a WhatsApp voice message here:https://bit.ly/3ZQl0O8✍️ Ask a Listener Question (written)https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864👥 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcast

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel like they’re living inside a nervous system experiment.The kind where everything is technically ‘fine’… until the TV is on, someone’s making mouth noises, a child is asking 400 questions, another one is humming, and your body is trying to exit the situation through the nearest wall.We talk a lot about overstimulation like it’s a personal flaw. Like you should be calmer. More patient. Better regulated. But what if you’re not failing at regulation… you’re just carrying too much regulation load?In this conversation with Rachel Few, we get painfully practical about what actually helps when you’re at the edge. Not in an ideal world. In a real ADHD household, with real kids, real noise, real time pressure, and real limits.WHAT WE COVER– Why overstimulation is not a single moment, but a build-up across days– The ‘therapy taxi’ burnout cycle and how it dysregulates the whole family– Why regulation strategies fail when they become another to-do list– Nervous system mapping: learning your early warning signs before the snap– ‘Recipe building’ for families: planning around needs, not just appointments– Why yelling and snapping usually starts earlier than you think– PDA-aware approaches: when direct help makes things worse– Side-step regulation tools that don’t rely on compliance– Real-life resets (including the candle trick, which sounds unhinged until you try it)– Why acceptance is sometimes the missing strategy, not another techniqueTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…– you feel overstimulated before 7am and then blame yourself for it– your household escalates fast and you don’t know where it starts– you’re carrying the clean-up after every meltdown (emotional or literal)– you’re exhausted from scanning for hunger, sensory triggers, and ‘what could go wrong’– you’re parenting a PDA-ish child and standard advice backfires– you keep thinking ‘once we get the right support, it will all be fine’ and then it isn’t– you want tools that actually work when you’re already at your limitRELATED EPISODESSurviving the Mental Load of the School Yearhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-63-surviving-the-mental-load-of-the-school-year/When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiethttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/RESOURCES & REFERENCES– For more information on Rachel Few - see here-PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia) is mentioned in the episode– Maternal mental health research is referenced (mum’s mental health as a key predictor for child wellbeing)LISTENER QUESTIONS & COMMUNITYSubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on?https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor shared language, lived experience, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

This episode is for ADHD mums who have ever sat in a car park before an assessment and felt their whole nervous system start negotiating with the evidence.Because the paperwork looks fine.The report cards look fine.Your life looks fine.And you’re standing there knowing that ‘fine’ is exactly what disqualifies you.This is the ADHD myth as it actually lands. Not as a hot take online — but as a private internal audit that starts the second you consider asking for help.It’s the voice that says: ‘Everyone says they have ADHD now, don’t they?’And the way your body believes it before you even get to answer back.WHAT WE COVER– The ‘good school report’ trap and why it makes women doubt themselves– Why visible competence is often just quiet compensation– How anxiety, eating disorders, burnout and depression get missed when you’re not disruptive– The internal investigation ADHD mums run before they ever ask for help– Why ‘you’ve managed this long’ lands as dismissal, not reassurance– How vigilance gets trained in childhood and then masquerades as personality– Why gender shifts the cost of impulsivity, mistakes, and social timing– How hypervigilance becomes the price of belonging– Why motherhood doesn’t create the load, it exposes it– The difference between being tired and constantly compensating– How media narratives about ADHD being a ‘trend’ reinforce silence and shameTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…– you have ‘good’ school reports and still feel like you’re drowning– you rehearse what to say before appointments so you don’t sound ‘dramatic’– you minimise automatically and tell yourself other people have it worse– you’ve been called controlling when you’re actually doing risk management– you feel embarrassed even seeking an assessment– you relate to being ‘a pleasure to have in class’ while quietly falling apart– you’ve carried the mental load for years and only now it’s breaking throughRELATED EPISODESYou Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Nowhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible (Partners)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-73-making-the-invisible-mental-load-visible/The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/RESOURCES & REFERENCES– ADHD in women and girls: internalising presentations and delayed identification– Burnout, anxiety and depression as common outcomes of long-term compensation– The impact of social conditioning and gender expectations on symptom visibilityLISTENER QUESTIONS & COMMUNITYSubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)Send me a WhatsApp voice message here:https://wa.me/61403457313If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on?https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor shared language, lived experience, and conversations with other mums who don’t need convincing.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

This episode sits right in the space where mental load, motherhood, and neurodivergence collide.It’s about the exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing one hard thing — but from having to remember everything, explain everything, repeat everything, and stay emotionally available while your own capacity is already gone.For many ADHD mums, the hardest part of advocacy isn’t the paperwork. It’s being the living filing cabinet. The one who holds every report, every strategy, every update, every change — and is expected to access it on demand, usually at the worst possible time.This conversation with Letitia from Understanding Zoe explores what happens when that load becomes unsustainable, why school pickup can feel like a threat to your nervous system, and how repetition and emotional labour quietly push mums toward burnout.WHAT WE COVER– Why repeated conversations and ‘quick questions’ drain capacity faster than admin– The invisible emotional cost of being the default advocate– School pickup as a nervous system stressor, not a social moment– Why mums freeze when asked for information they technically ‘know’– How mental load is reinforced by systems, not personality– The guilt and self-blame that comes with forgetting details– How AI can act as a second brain instead of another demand– Using technology to reduce repetition without losing control or privacyTHIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…– school pickup makes your shoulders rise before you even get there– you dread being asked for strategies when your window of tolerance is closed– you’ve handed advocacy to a partner and it somehow comes back bigger– you feel like you’re supposed to know everything about your child, always– you freeze when asked questions because your brain has already hit capacity– you’re tired of being ‘so capable’ while quietly burning outWhen this load isn’t named, ADHD mums internalise it.They assume they should cope better.They blame themselves for forgetting.They keep tabs open because closing them feels risky.Over time, the nervous system never gets a break. Not because mums don’t rest — but because responsibility never fully leaves their body.This episode reframes that experience. Not as failure. Not as disorganisation. But as what happens when one person becomes the emotional interface between systems that don’t talk to each other.RESOURCES & REFERENCESUnderstanding Zoe platform - check it out hereWhy ADHD Mums Can’t Relax — Even When It’s Quiethttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/Why Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/ADHD Mums Energy Accounting Guide (Free)https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-mums-energy-accounting-guide/LISTENER QUESTIONS & COMMUNITYSubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on?https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor shared language, lived experience, and conversations with other mums who don’t need it explained.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel their nervous system spike over questions that look harmless on the surface. The kind of questions that arrive when the brain is already full, already tracking consequences, already holding the household together. What’s commonly said is that this is about tone, patience, or communication. What actually happens is that one brain becomes the default place where uncertainty is dropped, again and again, until even small interruptions start to hurt.The moment is familiar. A partner asks about milk, school times, or whether it’s ‘okay’ to do something. The question isn’t urgent. It isn’t unreasonable. But it lands as work. Not because the mum is controlling or irritable, but because her brain is already running the system. This episode names what that interruption really costs, and why it keeps getting misread as an attitude problem instead of a capacity one.In This Episode, We Cover– How everyday questions quietly route responsibility to the same person– Why being ‘just asked’ is not neutral when one brain is already saturated– The social script that frames overload as impatience or moodiness– How certainty-seeking in one partner becomes burnout in the other– Why ADHD mums become the household search engine without consenting to the role– The cumulative cost of interruption, not the content of the questionThis Episode Is For You If– You snap at small questions and immediately feel guilty– You’re praised for being flexible while your capacity keeps shrinking– You notice that decisions default to you, even when others could decide– You dread interaction because it so often turns into another task– You’ve been told you’re overreacting when your body is already at its limitWhen this pattern stays unnamed, ADHD mums adapt quietly. They answer questions they shouldn’t have to answer. They decide things prematurely just to stop the interruption. They carry responsibility they never agreed to carry. Over time, the brain never gets to rest. It stays on duty, waiting for the next drop.What looks like a communication issue is often a structural one. When every uncertainty is routed through the same nervous system, exhaustion becomes inevitable. Naming that isn’t withdrawal. It’s a refusal to keep absorbing costs that were never meant to be individual.📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here.https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

There is a kind of grief that mums are not supposed to name. It could be called ungrateful.. but a lot of us feel it. So it stays private, carried quietly while life keeps moving and decisions keep getting made.This episode sits with the grief of the unlived motherhood — the version of parenting that was imagined, planned for, and socially rewarded, and then slowly dismantled by reality. Not because the mum did anything wrong, but because parenting did not arrive as promised, and the cost of adjusting was absorbed almost entirely by her.In This Episode, We Cover– Realising the life you planned no longer fits– Changing schools, routines, and priorities without calling it loss– Supporting children while privately missing your old life– Being told to be grateful while something keeps breaking– Noticing the grief surface long after the decision is made– Carrying expectations that don’t match daily realityThis Episode Is For You If– Mornings don’t look how you thought they would– Your days are built around needs you didn’t anticipate– You’ve adjusted plans more times than you can count– You support your family while missing parts of yourself– You’re functioning, but something feels quietly unfinishedRelated EpisodesYou Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/Curated Related LinksThe Orchid and the Dandelion — Thomas Boycehttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25614459-the-orchid-and-the-dandelionDr. Vanessa LaPointe — Official Websitehttps://drvanessalapointe.comThe Unlived Life of the Parent — Carl Jung (concept reference)https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201112/the-unlived-lifeThe Work — Byron Katiehttps://thework.comThis isn’t weakness.This is adaptation under pressure.Mums are doing impossible things every day — and still standing.

Responsibility’s already on me.If this tips, it’ll be because I waited too long.That’s how the morning starts.There’s a clock running. Shoes half on. Bags not where they should be. One kid slowing down, another winding up. Nothing’s happened yet, but the margin’s already thin. I step in early, before anyone else thinks it’s necessary, and it gets read straight away as 'being grumpy.'In This Episode, We CoverThe internal belief that responsibility defaults inward before the day beginsHow a single morning escalation under time pressure is interpreted differently by those around youWhat it’s like to step in early and have that read as impatience or controlThe moment intervention happens before anything has officially gone wrongThis Episode Is For You IfMornings feel loaded before the first decision is madeYou act early because the margin already feels thinYour responses are misread in real time by othersYou carry the sense that if it falls apart, it’s on youRelated EpisodesWhy Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/You Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/The morning doesn’t resolve. There’s no clean ending attached to it. Just the moment being seen while it’s still happening.Not as overreaction.Not as a set of steps.As regulation under load, in real time, with the clock already ticking.📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here.https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

You can feel it tipping before anyone else does.Everyone’s still chatting, still comfortable, and your body’s already tightening.You know if you stay, you’ll be the one dealing with what comes next.It’s that familiar moment where nothing’s happened yet, but you’re already bracing for the clean-up.In This Episode, We CoverWhat it’s like to step in early when you’re the one who ends up carrying the falloutHow being told to ‘relax’ or ‘let it play out’ misses where the cost actually landsWhy stepping in early often gets read as control from the outsideThe difference between reacting to what’s happening and knowing what usually comes nextHow early exits, early no’s, and early decisions reduce the total loadThis Episode Is For You IfYou’re usually the one calling it before things tipYou leave events early and feel judged for itYou’re told nothing has happened yet, but you know what comes afterYou’re the one left carrying the aftermathYou’re tired of second-guessing what you know because you’ve lived itRelated EpisodesWhy Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/Surviving the Mental Load of the School Yearhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-63-surviving-the-mental-load-of-the-school-year/When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiethttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/You Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/This isn’t about being better at sitting with uncertainty.It’s about exposure.Some people only experience the moment.Others are the ones who absorb what comes after.Leaving early doesn’t look necessary when you’re not the one managing the fallout. What looks like overreaction from one place is actually load reduction from another.You’re not creating problems too soon.You’re carrying the cost so it doesn’t land later.📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here.https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

This episode sits in a very specific moment: when nothing has technically happened, but your whole system reacts as if something has gone wrong.A message goes unanswered. A reply takes longer than expected. A conversation pauses.And suddenly, silence feels loaded.In this episode, Jane explores why those moments don’t register as neutral. They register as danger. Not because you’re dramatic or overthinking — but because past experiences have taught your system that silence can mean rejection, conflict, or loss of safety.The panic that shows up isn’t reactive. It’s predictive.And the relief that floods in when the reply finally comes? That’s not embarrassing. It’s data. Evidence that your system misfired a protective alarm — not that something is wrong with you.This is a recognition episode, not an explanation. It doesn’t teach you how to stop spiralling. It names why the spiral happens — and lets that understanding do the calming.In This EpisodeWhy silence is experienced as threat, not informationHow past social pain trains the brain to predict danger earlyWhy panic is terrible at writing messagesThe relief that comes when nothing was actually wrong — and what it provesHow overprotection develops from lived experience, not weaknessWhy this reaction is about safety, not self-controlThis Episode Is For You IfUnanswered messages make your whole body braceSilence feels heavier than wordsYou rewrite texts that didn’t need fixingRelief after a reply is followed by self-doubt or shameYou want recognition, not adviceBest Related EpisodesThese episodes deepen the same patterns of silence, rejection sensitivity, and misread threat.An RSD Story: Taking My Own Advice A personal lived experience of rejection sensitivity and shame loops. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/an-rsd-story-taking-my-own-advice-s1-ep9/Why Am I Bracing for Impact When Nothing Is Wrong? (Quick Reset) How the system predicts danger before there’s evidence. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiet — What Your Body Is Doing and Why Hypervigilance and waiting for the social ‘drop’. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/No, I Can’t Meditate. I’m Too Busy Disassociating. (Quick Reset) What happens when emotions spike and the system moves into coping mode. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-47-quick-reset-no-i-cant-meditate-im-too-busy-disassociating/I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality (Quick Reset) Rejection sensitivity, social exhaustion, and withdrawal as protection. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-14-quick-reset-i-cancel-plans-because-i-dont-have-the-energy-to-fake-my-personality/📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option) If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer. https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic Requests Have a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here. https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Group For community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it. https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

If you’re standing at the edge of a new school year already feeling tight, alert, or on edge — this episode is for you.Not because you’re anxious.Not because you’re controlling.And not because you’re ‘that mum’.In this episode, Jane unpacks what actually happens for many mums as school resumes — especially those parenting neurodivergent children. The pressure to stay ahead. To manage outcomes. To prevent last year from repeating itself.What often gets misunderstood is this:that tension isn’t about wanting control.It’s about knowing what’s at stake.This episode explores the difference between regulation through behaviour and regulation through relationship — and why mums so often find themselves translating between systems that don’t speak the same language.Jane reflects honestly on her own controlling reactions, not as a flaw, but as a signal of care under pressure. The result is an episode that offers relief, recognition, and permission — not resolution.This is not a ‘back to school readiness’ episode.It’s an emotional exhale before the year begins.In This Episode, We CoverWhy the start of the school year activates so much nervous system stressHow last year gets carried forward in the bodyThe difference between caring, control, and influenceWhy mums are often labelled ‘that mum’ when they’re actually translating systemsRegulation through relationship vs regulation through behaviourHow fear of repetition drives over-functioningWhy letting go of control isn’t the same as giving upPermission to choose influence where control isn’t possibleThis Episode Is For You IfYou feel braced heading into the school yearYou’re worried about becoming ‘that mum’You’re carrying last year’s stress into this oneYou’ve had to advocate repeatedly for your childYou feel responsible for making the system workYou want relief and clarity, not another checklist🔗 Related EpisodesThese episodes sit in the same school-season and systems-translation lane, and deepen the themes explored here.Surviving the Mental Load of the School YearWhy mums carry the system stress, not just the logistics👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-63-surviving-the-mental-load-of-the-school-year/Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong? (Quick Reset)How last year gets carried in your body👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-10-quick-reset-why-am-i-bracing-for-impact-when-nothing-is-wrong/Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the StressTranslating between systems, not controlling them👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-73-making-the-invisible-mental-load-visible/The Great Gaslighting: When Schools Say ‘We Don’t See It’Validation for parents who know their child needs relationship first👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-7-school-series-the-great-gaslighting-when-schools-say-we-dont-see-it/When School Stops Feeling SafeWhat happens when connection breaks down👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-19-when-school-stops-being-safe/Final NoteYou’re not ‘that mum’.You’re a mum who knows what happened last time — and doesn’t want a repeat.This episode isn’t asking you to try harder.It’s reminding you that regulation, safety, and influence don’t come from control.If this episode hit home, share it with a mum who’s quietly dreading the school start.📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here.https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too soft’ or that your child just needs firmer discipline — this episode is for you.Not because you need to learn how to parent better.But because the judgement itself is the problem.In this episode, Jane unpacks one of the most exhausting myths ADHD parents face:that challenging behaviour is a discipline failure rather than a regulation issue.When children melt down, struggle to comply, or can’t do today what they managed yesterday, the adult world often reads this as defiance, manipulation, or laziness. Parents are then pressured to punish harder — even when punishment clearly isn’t helping.This episode stands between you and that pressure.Jane explains why ADHD is not a behaviour to 'manage', why punishment backfires for dysregulated nervous systems, and why fluctuating capacity is not inconsistency or bad parenting. Most importantly, it names the quiet shame parents carry when they’re blamed for something that was never a moral failure to begin with.This is not a debate about discipline styles.It’s a defence of parents who are paying attention.In This Episode, We CoverWhy being told to ‘be firmer’ feels personal — and why it causes so much damageThe myth that punishment teaches self-regulation (and what it actually teaches instead)Why ADHD is not a behaviour problem but a developmental delay in regulationHow shame undermines self-esteem and worsens behaviour over timeWhy ‘they did it yesterday’ is a misunderstanding of fluctuating capacityHow inconsistent capacity gets misread as manipulationWhy punishment often increases defiance and emotional dysregulationThe difference between obedience and safetyWhy connection builds skills in the long term — even when it’s harder in the short termHow to hold boundaries without turning distress into a moral failureThis Episode Is For You IfYou’re constantly being judged for choosing understanding over punishmentFamily members question your parenting or dismiss ADHDYou feel blamed when discipline doesn’t ‘work’Your child copes one day and falls apart the nextYou’re exhausted from explaining yourself over and overYou know punishment isn’t helping — but feel pressured anyway🔗 Explore More From This EpisodeThese episodes deepen the themes discussed here and support the same values-driven approach.🎧Referenced in This EpisodeThe ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset)Why pressure backfires, and how shame and guilt shape behaviour and self-esteemhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/Sibling Peace: Transform Rivalry into Relationship Building with Gen MuirSupporting sibling relationships through regulation and connection, not punishment.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/sibling-peace-transform-rivalry-into-relationship-building/The Truth About Time-Outs and What to Try Instead with Gen MuirWhy time-outs often fail for ADHD kids, and what helps instead.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/the-truth-about-time-outs-and-what-to-try-instead/🧠 Research Referenced in This EpisodeResearch referenced in this episode includes neuroscience and developmental studies showing structural and functional differences in ADHD brains, particularly in areas related to executive function, impulse control, and emotional regulation. This body of research includes findings from MRI and brain-imaging studies and supports ADHD as a neurodevelopmental difference rather than a behavioural issue.Russell Barkley – ADHD and self-regulationThis episode draws on the work of Dr. Russell Barkley, whose research frames ADHD as a developmental delay in self-regulation and executive functioning. His work highlights why punishment does not teach missing skills, and why support, skill-building, and positive reinforcement are more effective for ADHD children.📬 Listener Questions & CommunitySubmit a Listener Question (anonymous option)If there’s something you want answered on the podcast, you can submit a question here — anonymously if you prefer.https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share Feedback or Topic RequestsHave a topic you’d like covered, or feedback you want to pass on? You can send it through here.https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmums

You’re not behind.And you’re not failing at life.If you wake up already tired — before anything has even happened — this episode explains why.Not in a ‘here’s what to do’ way.In a ‘nothing is wrong with you’ way.In this episode, Jane names the invisible thing that keeps so many mums feeling behind, rushed, and quietly panicked even on calm days: carrying responsibility before it’s required.It’s why the phone ringing makes your body brace.Why waiting doesn’t feel like rest.Why you feel like you’re about to get in trouble — even when everything is fine.This isn’t anxiety.It isn’t disorganisation.And it isn’t you being dramatic.It’s what happens when your nervous system learned, very early on, that missing things had consequences — so it stayed alert just in case.This episode is about the mum who feels behind before she’s started…and the relief of realising she’s not behind at all — she just started carrying it too early.In This Episode, We Cover:Why you can feel exhausted even when nothing has gone wrongThe ‘I must have forgotten something’ feeling — and where it comes fromWhy your body braces when the phone ringsWhat it means to live in ‘standby mode’How responsibility can show up before it’s actually requiredWhy urgency feels real even when it isn’tThe difference between being behind and being earlyThe quiet permission to stop obeying the rushThis Episode Is For You If:You feel behind before the day even beginsYour body is always waiting for something to go wrongYou apologise or explain yourself before anyone asksQuiet days still feel heavy and tenseRest doesn’t feel like restYou want relief — not another strategy🎧 Quick Resets (Short, Bingeable Support)Quick Reset: Mum hack meal planning for when you’re already burnt outhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-43-quick-reset-mum-hack-meal-planning-for-when-youre-already-burnt-out/Quick Reset: Self-care feels nice. Self-regulation keeps you alive.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-53-quick-reset-self-care-feels-nice-self-regulation-keeps-you-alive/Quick Reset: The hallway hook that saved my sanityhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-38-quick-reset-the-hallway-hook-that-saved-my-sanity/📬 Have a Question or Something You Want Covered?This podcast is shaped by real mums, real moments, and real nervous systems.Submit a listener question:https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share feedback or topic requests:https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864💛 Need Provider Recommendations?Looking for support that’s neuro-affirming and community-recommended?Free neuro-affirming provider list:https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/768431/133168574745281842/share

You’re not bad at relaxing.And you’re not doing rest wrong.If you’ve ever noticed yourself cleaning, tidying, or “finding something to do” in the very moments you’re supposed to be enjoying — this episode explains why.In this short but powerful conversation, Jane unpacks why so many mums feel restless, guilty, or half-revved when things finally go quiet, and why that response isn’t anxiety or a personal flaw. It’s learned usefulness — shaped by gendered conditioning and reinforced over time.This episode is about the mum who steps out of the circle of joy to make sure the moment runs smoothly for everyone else… and then wonders why she can’t settle when nothing is required of her.In This Episode, We Cover:Why doing can feel safer than enjoyingHow usefulness becomes tied to belongingWhat’s actually happening when rest feels uncomfortableWhy this pattern runs through generations of womenHow ADHD nervous systems stay alert when roles disappearWhy restlessness is role-consistent, not a failureHow to begin unlearning usefulness = worth (gently, slowly)This Episode Is For You If:You feel uneasy when things finally go quietYou clean or stay busy instead of enjoying momentsRest makes you feel guilty, restless, or exposedYou’ve been told you’re “bad at relaxing”You want to understand why your body stays alert — without blaming yourself🔗 Explore More From This Episode🎧 Related Podcast EpisodeADHD meds won’t fix everything — now what?https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-23-adhd-meds-wont-fix-everything-now-what/🎧 Quick Resets (Short, Bingeable Support)Quick Reset: Mum hack meal planning for when you’re already burnt outhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-43-quick-reset-mum-hack-meal-planning-for-when-youre-already-burnt-out/Quick Reset: Self-care feels nice. Self-regulation keeps you alive.https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-53-quick-reset-self-care-feels-nice-self-regulation-keeps-you-alive/Quick Reset: The hallway hook that saved my sanityhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-38-quick-reset-the-hallway-hook-that-saved-my-sanity/📬 Have a Question or Something You Want Covered?This podcast is shaped by real mums, real moments, and real nervous systems.Submit a listener question:https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864Share feedback or topic requests:https://form.jotform.com/243189306607864💛 Need Provider Recommendations?Looking for support that’s neuro-affirming and community-recommended?Free neuro-affirming provider list:https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/768431/133168574745281842/share

You didn’t fail your New Year’s resolutions.You survived a year that was heavier than the plans you made for it.I asked the ADHD Mums community how their New Year’s goals actually went last year — and the answers weren’t lazy, careless, or undisciplined. They were honest. Tender. Exhausted.This episode is a collective exhale for every mum who promised she’d get organised, rest more, yell less, move her body… and then found herself just trying to keep everyone alive.💬 What this episode really saysADHD mums don’t fail goals because they don’t care enough.They struggle because they’re already at capacity when they set them.🧠 In this episode, we unpack:Why New Year’s resolutions collapse for ADHD mums — especially in JanuaryHow burnout and survival mode sabotage motivation and follow-throughThe difference between ‘lack of discipline’ and lack of marginWhy long-term planning doesn’t work when your nervous system is cookedA kinder, ADHD-friendly alternative to goal-setting🎧 Listen & linksListen: https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/the-resolutions-none-of-us-actually-didResource: Energy Accounting Guide → https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-mums-energy-accounting-guide/🔗 Related episodesThe Year I’ve Decided Good Enough Is Enoughhttps://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/good-enough-is-enough-year/Why Most Planners Fail ADHD Mums (And How to Finally Make One Work)https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-52-why-most-planners-fail-adhd-mums-and-how-to-finally-make-one-work/QUICK RESET: The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/

If you feel like you’re failing at parenting because you’re constantly exhausted, flat, or shutting down — this episode is for you.This isn’t about trying harder or fixing yourself. It’s about understanding why ADHD and neurodivergent mums don’t just get tired — we get depleted.In This Episode, We Cover:Why exhaustion can feel like numbness instead of emotionWhat dopamine debt looks like in real lifeHow emotional labour quietly drains ADHD mumsWhy rest alone doesn’t fix burnoutHow to stop treating depletion like a personal failureFree Resources Listed:🎁 Get the Energy Accounting Guide: Download hereRelated EpisodesChristmas Is the Finish Line — And ADHD Mums Are Crawling There👉 Click here to listenWhy am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?👉 Click here to listenQUICK RESET: Why Self-Care Feels Like Another F*ing Task👉 Click here to listenListener Question BoxHave a moment, question, or December story you can’t quite put into words?👉 Send a listener question or story here:Submit your question anonymously

What if the calm you felt last Christmas wasn’t a fluke — but a clue?In this episode, Jane responds to a listener who accidentally lost her Christmas list… and felt calmer than she ever had in December. Not because she stopped caring — but because the mental load finally dropped.This conversation explains why ADHD mums hit capacity faster at Christmas, why letting go feels terrifying, and why you’re allowed to be done even when the list never ends.What you’ll hear in this episodeWhy losing the list created instant calmThe difference between dropping tasks and dropping loadWhat allostatic load is — and why ADHD mums carry more of itWhy your body knows you’re done before your brain agreesHow to stop before you shatter, not afterFree Resources Listed:🎁 Get the Energy Accounting Guide: Download hereRelated EpisodesChristmas Is the Finish Line — And ADHD Mums Are Crawling There👉 Click here to listenWhy am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?👉 Click here to listenQUICK RESET: Why Self-Care Feels Like Another F*ing Task👉 Click here to listenListener Question BoxHave a moment, question, or December story you can’t quite put into words?👉 Send a listener question or story here:Submit your question anonymously

I thought I was being polite.I thought I was keeping my options open.But somewhere between exhaustion, people-pleasing, and old survival habits, I abandoned myself — again.In this episode, I share the exact moment it clicked: my 'soft no’s' weren’t boundaries at all. They were apologies wearing polite outfits. And when everything finally caught up with me, my nervous system had already run out of fuel.This is a deeply human conversation about people-pleasing, the fawn response, ADHD overwhelm, and why saying no can feel genuinely unsafe — even when you desperately need to.Key TakeawaysWhy 'maybe' is not a neutral response when you’re exhaustedHow people-pleasing is a nervous-system survival strategy, not a personality flawWhat the fawn response actually looks like in ADHD mumsWhy overwhelm makes boundaries collapseThe hidden cost of keeping the peace🔗 Related Episodes & Recommended ListeningIf this episode landed for you, these conversations explore the same patterns of people-pleasing, masking, self-sacrifice, and nervous-system survival:Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking Free👉 Listen hereYou Were the Good Girl. That’s Why You’re Falling Apart Now.👉 Listen hereHigh Camouflaging ADHD and ASD👉 Listen hereSelf-Sacrifice Is Not Your Friend (And Here’s Why)👉 Listen hereQUICK RESET: I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality👉 Listen here🤍 FB Group:If you want a space where you don’t have to explain yourself:👉 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Group

December brings presents… and pressure. Family dynamics get loud, expectations get heavier, and suddenly you’re managing everyone’s feelings and your ADHD child’s reactions — all while trying not to implode.This episode answers a powerful listener question: How do I handle gift-opening with my ADHD/PDA child without feeling ashamed, judged, or like I’m failing? It’s not just about presents. It’s about generational conditioning, people-pleasing, masking, and the old belief that ‘being liked = being good.’What We CoverWhy ADHD/PDA kids may not react the “expected” way to giftsThe inherited ‘good girl’ conditioning mums carry into adulthoodFawning as a trauma response (and why it flares during Christmas)How masking is taught — and why many of us learned adult comfort > child honestyHow to script boundaries with family without apologisingWhat to do before, during and after gift-opening to reduce conflictWhy guilt shows up (and why it doesn’t mean you’re wrong)This Episode Is For You If…Your stomach drops any time someone comments on your child’s reactionsYou’re torn between protecting your child and appeasing adultsYou feel responsible for everyone’s comfort — except your ownYou want to break the ‘good girl’ cycle, but December makes it hardYou need language, scripts, and validation for navigating family eventsResources & Links Related Podcast EpisodesThe Good Girl EpisodeThe Red Pen Christmas: How to Stop Editing Yourself for Everyone ElseChristmas Is the Finish Line — And ADHD Mums Are Crawling ThereRelevant Tools & ProgramsFestive F* It Plan** — your calmer, kinder December blueprintADHD Mums Guide to Boundaries & Breaking Free from People-PleasingADHD Mum’s Guide to Managing Overwhelm During Busy Seasons Navigating Impulse Spending During the Holidays with ADHDCommunity & FormsListener Question Form  ADHD Mums Facebook Community — collective wisdom + real-life scriptsContent WarningThis episode touches on masking, childhood invalidation, and trauma-related people-pleasing patterns.Listen NowSpotify | Apple | adhdmums.com.au

Silent rage at Christmas isn’t a personality flaw — it’s a nervous system collapse.In this episode, we unpack why ADHD mums hit overwhelm earlier and harder during December, why the “tiny straw” moments feel massive, and how the invisible mental load of Christmas pushes your brain into shutdown mode long before anyone notices.This is a compassionate, nervous-system-first explanation of why you’re so tired, so overstimulated, and so close to snapping… and why none of this is your fault.Key TakeawaysSilent rage = a responsibility overload response, not “being grumpy.”ADHD brains spend more effort on planning, remembering, switching tasks and emotional labour — Christmas multiplies all of these.The “tiny” trigger never is tiny — it’s the final task hitting a system already at capacity.Your body reads “too much responsibility” as danger, shifting into tension, heat, and shutdown.Sensory load + task load + emotional load = the perfect storm that makes Christmas feel impossible.You’re not the problem — the load is.Micro-shifts can interrupt the bracing response before it becomes collapse.Listen & LinksListen: www.adhdmuns.com.au/magic-of-christmas-but-im-grumpyFree resource: 👉 Download the Energy Accounting Guide🔗 Related Episodes‘The Red Pen Christmas: How to Stop Editing Yourself for Everyone Else’👉 Listen here‘The Year I’ve Decided Good Enough Is Enough’👉 Listen here‘Christmas Is the Finish Line — And ADHD Mums Are Crawling There’👉 Listen here💬 Share / Vent / AskADHD Mums Facebook CommunityPost a #vent, get solidarity, and be witnessed by other mums who get it.👉 Join the Facebook groupListener Question BoxSend in your own ‘washing machine’ or ‘silent rage’ moment for future episodes.👉 Submit a listener question

Christmas isn’t “cosy magic” for many ADHD mums — it’s a high-pressure, high-sensory, invisible-load marathon that no one else sees. In this episode, Jane breaks down why holiday overwhelm hits harder, why silent rage feels frightening and unfair, and what your nervous system is actually doing long before the wrapping-night meltdown. You’re not failing Christmas — you’ve been carrying it.What We CoverWhy ADHD mums hit Christmas overwhelm weeks before the day arrivesThe collapse moment: when invisible load becomes unmanageableSensory + emotional overload during holiday tasksHow ADHD brains burn dopamine faster under combined pressureThe physiology behind “Christmas rage,” shutdown, and snappingWhy joy disappears when you’re the one creating the magicHow to shift the load, communicate earlier, and prevent holiday burnoutThis Episode Is For You If…You dread Christmas because you’re the one doing everythingYou crumble under the wrapping + fairness + noise + pressureYou feel guilty for not loving the seasonYou hit a snapping point you didn’t see comingYou wonder why one small question can tip you overYou want to understand what your body is actually trying to tell youKey TakeawayYour nervous system cannot enter joy while running executive load, sensory filtration, conflict prevention, and emotional labour. It’s not personal — it’s physiological.Resources & MentionsEnergy Accounting Guide — A tool to reduce invisible load and prevent overwhelmPerimenopause Self-Check (because hormonal load amplifies Christmas overload)🔗 Related Resources✨ Festive F*ck It Plan — your calm, realistic December planner 🆓 Free Resource: The Energy Accounting PDF🔗 Related EpisodesStop People-Pleasing This Christmas — The Year I Stopped Apologising for My Child

If December already feels like you’re sprinting through wet concrete, this episode is your deep breath. Christmas asks ADHD mums to hold the magic and the mess — late-night wrapping, invisible labour, the Boxing Day guilt hangover — and still somehow feel like we’re not doing enough.This is the story of the year Jane finally said: good enough is enough. And maybe this is the year you get to say it too.💡 What We CoverWhy ADHD brains don’t recognise ‘done’The difference between maximising vs satisficing (and why one burns you out)The ADHD tax of “perfect Christmas” expectationsHow our reward loop drives over-performing and overwhelmHow to recognise your internal ding — when good enough is actually safe💬 For You IfYou’re carrying the emotional load + logistics + all the extras no one seesYou keep adding “just one more thing” to your already impossible listYou feel guilty resting, stopping, or being less “magical”You need permission to drop the bar, not raise it🎄 Resources & Mentions✨ Festive F*ck It Plan — your calm, realistic December planner 📘 The Paradox of Choice — Barry Schwartz on maximisers vs satisficers 🆓 Free Resource: The Energy Accounting PDF🔗 Related EpisodesStop People-Pleasing This Christmas — The Year I Stopped Apologising for My ChildUnhealthy Habits & ADHD: Why We Get Stuck & How to ShiftQUICK RESET: How We Survive the 3–6PM Sh*t Show When Kids Are Coming Down Off Meds🎧 Listen now: Spotify | Apple | adhdmums.com.au

Some days it feels like you need a medical degree just to parent a neurodivergent kid. The waitlists, the myths, the pressure to ‘get it right’ — it can all become overwhelming fast. In this episode, child psychiatrist Dr Mimi Xu finally gives mums clear, compassionate answers about ADHD meds for kids, without judgement or jargon.💡 What We CoverWhy ADHD medication is never a one-size-fits-all decision.When to see a paediatrician vs a psychiatrist — and why access is so broken.The truth behind ‘zombie kids’, personality changes, growth, appetite and sleep.What’s actually happening in the afternoon crash (and how to survive it).ADHD + Autism: does it change the medication conversation?What parents can do while they wait on endless public and private waitlists.💭This Episode Is For You If…You feel scared of meds, scared of not trying meds, or stuck between two parents who disagree.You’re drowning in the 3pm–6pm chaos when everyone’s meds (including yours) have worn off.You’re exhausted from uncertainty, judgement or mixed messages from professionals.You want clarity without shame, pressure or clinical coldness.You’re parenting a neurodivergent child and just need someone to explain things like a human.🧠 Resources & Helpful Tools📌ADHD Screening & Support Child ADHD Parent/Self-Test A good starting point for parents wondering whether ADHD traits are showing up at home or school. 🔗 https://form.jotform.com/251610961002444📌Medication-Specific Guides A Guide to ADHD Medication Perfect fit for this episode — covers stimulants, non-stimulants, side effects, appetite, sleep, titration and what’s expectedin the early weeks. 🔗 https://adhdmums.com.au/product/a-guide-to-adhd-medication/📌Related ADHD Mums Medication Episodes Stimulants vs Non-Stimulants – Solo Episode (S2E40) Jane’s clear breakdown of how different medications work and how they often feel in real life. 🔗 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-40-adhd-medication- stimulants-vs-non-stimulants-solo-episode-with-jane-mcfadden/ What Happens If You Don’t Have ADHD & Take ADHD Meds (S2E47) Important context for safety, myths, and co-parent disagreements. 🔗 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-47-what-happens-if-you-take-adhd-medication-without-adhd-solo-episode-with-jane-mcfadden/📝 About Dr Mimi XuDr Mimi Xu — Website (General Info + Resources)🔗 IG Account - https://www.instagram.com/drmimixu/🔗 https://www.child-psychiatrist.com.au/Lionheart Clinic 🔗 IG Account - https://www.instagram.com/lionheartclinic_au/Mimi’s telehealth child & adolescent psychiatry clinic supporting kids and families across NSW, ACT and beyond.🔗 https://www.lionheartclinic.com.auChild & Adolescent Resource Mental Health LibraryAn evidence-based resource library curated by Dr Mimi Xu — perfect for parents wanting reliable information without the panic headlines.🔗 https://www.child-psychiatrist.com.au/🎧Listen NowSpotify | Apple | adhdmums.com.au

If you’re already running on caffeine and obligation — this one’s for you. December has a way of convincing ADHD mums that magic only counts if it hurts. But what if “good enough” was actually enough?This week, Jane shares the story of the Christmas she finally stopped performing for everyone else — and started living it for herself.💡 What We CoverWhy ADHD brains struggle to know when to stopThe difference between maximising and satisfyingHow burnout hides under “just one more thing”The real cost of the ADHD tax at ChristmasWhy rest isn’t lazy — it’s regulation💬 For You IfYou’re drowning in invisible labour and still feel behindYou keep adding “just one more thing” to your listYou’ve ever spent more money, energy or guilt than you hadYou need permission to stop — before you collapse🧠 Resources & References🎄 Festive F*ck It Plan – Your ADHD-friendly Christmas plan: fewer tasks, more peace, and an actual vision for your Christmas too.🎄 Listener Question Form – Want to submit a question for the next episode? Share anonymously here.📚 Barry Schwartz – The Paradox of Choice🆓 Free Resource: The Energy Accounting PDF (Free Download)Kit Available: Managing Overwhelm During Busy Seasons🔗 Related EpisodesS2 E60 Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking FreeS3 E17 QUICK RESET: How We Survive the 3–6PM Sh*t Show When Kids Are Coming Down Off MedsS3 E61 Unhealthy Habits & ADHD: Why We Get Stuck & How to Shift🎧 Listen now: Spotify | Apple | adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

If you’ve already cried in a shopping centre car park — you’re not alone.In this raw and funny ADHD Mums Christmas episode, Jane breaks down why the season feels like an emotional Olympics for neurodivergent parents — and how to stop performing and start protecting your energy.This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing less on purpose.Using the ‘Red Pen’ approach, Jane shows how to cross out what doesn’t deserve you, protect your peace, and rebuild your energy budget before the season eats you alive.What You’ll HearWhy Christmas feels like a group project where no one else is helpingThe emotional cost of being the peacekeeper and why it’s not sustainableUnderstanding ‘energy accounting’ — how much each task, event, and expectation actually costs your nervous systemWhy saying no is a nervous system upgrade, not a moral failureScripts for setting boundaries at Christmas without guilt or dramaHow to tell the difference between peacekeeping and real inner peaceThe myth of the ‘perfect Christmas mum’ — and how to reclaim joy by doing lessThis Episode Is For You If…You’re already dreading the family group chat.You’ve promised yourself a “simple” Christmas before… and still ended up crying in the pantry.You’re trying to keep everyone happy — and losing yourself in the process.You want a calmer, more meaningful holiday season without the guilt.Key TakeawayYou don’t need another list — you need a red pen. Peace doesn’t come from keeping everyone calm. It comes from choosing what actually deserves your energy.🧠 Resources MentionedThe ADHD Mums Festive Bucket List — A workbook to help you cross out everything that doesn’t serve you this Christmas. 🆓 Free Resource: Energy Accounting Guide (Free Download) — Learn how to track your daily energy budget and stop overspending it.Overwhelm & Busy Seasons Kit — Your practical toolkit for surviving December without burning out.✨ Sign up for: The Xmas Festive F*ck List — A workbook to help you cross out everything that doesn’t serve you this Christmas.Related ADHD Mums Episodes🎧 Christmas Chaos: Hacks for Surviving Family Drama, Sensory Overload, and Picky Eaters!🎧 Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking Free🎧 How to Handle Family Criticism About ADHD: Boundaries and Keeping Your SanityListen Now🎧 Spotify | Apple Podcasts | ADHDMums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

When a child melts down in public or refuses to eat, the world sees “bad behaviour.” But often, what looks like defiance or poor parenting is actually neurodivergence — and a family doing their best in a system that doesn’t understand them.In this deeply validating conversation, Jane sits down with Tracey Jewel — author, advocate, and mum of a neurodivergent family — to talk about reframing “bad parenting” through a neurodiverse lens. From ARFID and sensory overload to the grief and joy of parenting differently, this episode challenges the idea of what a “good parent” looks like and celebrates authenticity over appearances.What You’ll HearTracey’s journey from reality TV to raising an ADHD + autistic son — and discovering her own diagnosisThe hidden grief of parenting a child who doesn’t fit the mould — and how to hold both love and loss at onceWhat ARFID really looks like in real life (and why it’s not just “fussy eating”)Why “structure” isn’t always the solution for neurodivergent families — and when it can become oppressiveThe difference between co-regulation and control: what actually helps during a meltdownHow to reframe “fairness” in families where everyone’s needs look differentThis Episode Is For You If...You’ve ever felt judged in public for your child’s behaviourYou’re raising an ADHD or autistic child and constantly second-guessing yourselfYou’ve wondered why “routine” doesn’t work for your family the way it seems to for othersYou’re craving a conversation that feels real, not sugar-coatedKey TakeawayWhat looks like chaos is often communication. When we stop chasing “good parenting” and start embracing true connection, our families thrive in their own rhythm — even if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.Resources MentionedInclusive Mums Club — Tracey Jewel’s Perth-based and online community for neurodivergent families. Free membership and sensory-friendly events.ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) information — Raising Children NetworkDr Brené Brown — Atlas of the Heart and The Power of Vulnerability (on emotional awareness and co-regulation).Check out Tracey's IG: @traceyjewel_ify Related ADHD Mums Episodes🎧 The Emotional Load of Raising Neurodivergent Girls — And How to Lighten It — Finding compassion for yourself in the middle of invisible labour.🎧 Surviving the Mental Load of the School Year — How to stop blaming yourself when the system isn’t built for you.Listen Now🎧 Spotify | Apple Podcasts | ADHDMums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Trigger WarningThis episode includes mentions of intrusive thoughts and parental burnout. Please take care while listening.Episode OverviewHave you ever gone from wanting to run away to feeling overwhelming love for your kids — all within five minutes? You’re not delusional. You’re devoted.In this raw and deeply relatable episode, Jane unpacks the wild emotional contradictions of raising neurodivergent children — the chaos, the guilt, and the strange, feral kind of joy that sneaks in when you least expect it.Drawing on the latest neuroscience and parenting research, she shares how joy isn’t mythical — it’s mechanical. There’s a recipe for it, and ADHD mums can learn to bring it back even in the middle of messy mornings and meltdown chaos.What You’ll HearJane’s honest story of one chaotic morning that spirals from meltdown to meaningWhy joy and rage can coexist — and what it means for ADHD brainsHow Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan, 2000) shows us the three switches for joy: Autonomy, Competence, and RelatednessWhat the “Nowhere I’d Rather Be” study revealed about parents of autistic children finding real joy because of, not despite, their childrenPractical micro-shifts you can make today to feel joy again — even if your house is held together by hair ties and hopeThis Episode Is For You If...You love your child but sometimes feel like you’re losing your mindYou’ve ever cried in the car after drop-off, then felt deep love minutes laterYou’re craving joy but feel too exhausted to find itYou need a reminder that devotion, not delusion, drives your parentingKey TakeawayJoy isn’t a reward for getting everything right — it’s a survival instinct. It hides in micro-moments of choice, competence, and connection. When you flip those switches, joy finds its way back.Resources Mentioned Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). Self-Determination Theory: Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.Schultz, W., Dayan, P., & Montague, P. R. (1997). Reward Prediction Error: Science, 275(5306), 1593–1599.Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1990). Flow. Harper & Row.Dietrich, A. (2004). Neurocognitive Framing: Consciousness and Cognition, 13(4), 746–761.“Nowhere I’d Rather Be” (UK study on autistic parenting joy, 2023)Related ADHD Mums EpisodesThe Lipedema Op: The Invisible Illness You Weren’t Supposed to Notice — Finding identity beyond diagnosisListen Now🎧 Spotify | Apple | ADHDMums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

💊 Why do ADHD meds seem like a miracle one week… and stop working the next?If you’ve ever sat there wondering if you’re failing because the meds don’t seem to work anymore — you’re not broken, and you’re not alone.In this episode, Jane tackles the most common questions ADHD mums ask about medication for kids. From appetite loss and 3PM crashes to puberty shifts and masking, we break down what’s really happening, why it feels so complex, and what meds can (and can’t) do.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy ADHD meds can feel amazing at first — then glitch laterThe science behind appetite loss, afternoon crashes, and big emotionsPuberty, growth, and co-occurring conditions that change how meds landMasking at school vs meltdowns at home — and why it mattersWhy parenting burnout and school systems can’t be “fixed” by medicationReframing meds: support, not a cureThis Episode Is For You If…Your child’s ADHD meds felt like a miracle but “stopped working”You’re confused by side effects like loss of appetite or late-day crashesYou’ve blamed yourself for meds not doing enoughYou’re parenting through ADHD plus anxiety, autism, or sensory overloadYou need validation that you’re not failing — you’re navigating complexity✨ Listen now: ADHD Meds & Kids — Your FAQ Answered on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or adhdmums.com.au — because parenting ADHD with meds is hard enough without shame on top.Visit Dr Tommy Tran's website at https://www.drtommytran.com.au/JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

For ADHD mums, school pickup isn’t chit chat — it’s performance. The smiles, the nods, the weather talk. On the outside you look friendly. On the inside, you’re collapsing.In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks why masking at the school gate feels so exhausting, how it impacts ADHD and autistic mums, and why it’s not about being unfriendly — it’s about survival.✨ What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy everyday small talk at school pickup can lead to masking, exhaustion, and car park tears.How chronic masking in social situations (play dates, birthday parties, pickup and drop off) leads to burnout and mental health struggles.Research on the Double Empathy Gap by Damian Milton, and why neurodivergent communication breakdowns are misunderstood.Jane’s ADHD Mum School Pickup Guide — practical insights for getting through without faking it.💛 This Episode Is For You IfYou’ve ever left school pickup early because you couldn’t fake one more smile.You collapse in the car after masking your way through birthday parties or play dates.You’ve been judged as rude, antisocial, or unfriendly — when you were just maxed out.You want to feel less alone in the invisible cost of social masking as an ADHD mum.📑 References & ResearchResearch on the Double Empathy Gap by Damian Milton.ADHD Mum School Pickup Guide.🎧 Listen now: Spotify | Apple | adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

💊 They’ll sell you $60 gummies and promise calm — while your child is still wide awake at midnight.If you’ve ever handed over cash for gummies that didn’t work — you’re not the only one.In this episode, Jane sits down with clinical nutritionist Brittany Darling to unpack the minefield of supplements for ADHD and neurodivergent kids. From magnesium gummies to iron deficiency, we break down what’s legit, what’s hype, and how mums can avoid wasting money on sugar pills in shiny jars.Supplements aren’t magic. But with the right testing, the right dose, and support from a qualified professional, they can make a real difference.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy supplements labelled “for ADHD kids” are a red flag in AustraliaThe hidden risks of cheap gummies and adult formulas marketed for childrenIron deficiency, magnesium, and saffron — what the research actually showsHow to spot unqualified “nutrition experts” and what credentials matterWhy supermarket supplements often don’t contain therapeutic dosesWhen to consider a “supplement holiday” and resetThis Episode Is For You IfYou’ve ever bought gummies online and wondered if they actually workYou’re tired of wasting money on supplements with no visible benefitYou want to know which nutrients matter most for ADHD and ND kidsYou’ve felt guilty for “not doing enough” when supplements don’t fix behaviourYou need clear, practical advice from someone who works with ND familiesReferences & Resources MentionedClinical Nutritionist Brittany Darling → @wholefoodhealingBrittany’s supplement line: www.imnutrients.comTGA (Therapeutic Goods Administration) — guidelines on supplementsResearch on saffron and ADHD symptoms✨ Listen now: “Supplements for ND Kids: Calm Minds, Chaos Days, and What Actually Helps” — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because mums deserve real answers, not expensive guesswork.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

🛁 Self-care feels nice… but self-regulation keeps you alive.Ever wondered why you feel calm after a walk but snap six minutes later? You’re not failing — that’s the difference between self-care and regulation.In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks the crucial difference between bubble baths and nervous system regulation. Self-care soothes. Self-regulation catches you mid-climb and stops the burnout spiral.ADHD mums don’t need more scented candles. We need practical tools to notice when we’re about to tip over. This episode helps you understand what regulation looks like in real life, why self-care can feel like failure, and how to use both without guilt.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy self-care feels good in the moment but doesn’t stop meltdownsThe difference between self-care (external) and self-regulation (internal)Signs you’re climbing toward dysregulation — and how to catch itFire extinguisher vs. scented candle: why regulation saves you mid-meltdownHow guilt and shame creep in when self-care “doesn’t work”Realistic regulation strategies for ADHD mums with zero spare timeThis Episode Is For You IfYou’ve ever felt calm after yoga, then yelled in the car 10 minutes laterYou blame yourself when “self-care” doesn’t stop the rageYou’re tired of influencer tips that don’t work in real ADHD mum lifeYou want small, practical strategies to regulate your nervous systemYou need solidarity: proof you’re not failing, you’re just humanRelated Episode:S3E22: QUICK RESET: Why self-care feels like another f*****g task | Spotify | Apple Podcast✨ Listen now: “QUICK RESET: Self-Care Feels Nice. Self-Regulation Keeps You Alive” — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because calm isn’t failure, it just isn’t regulation.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

⚠️ Content Warning: This episode discusses hormonal rage, burnout, and emotional overload that may feel intense for some listeners.Some days I don’t recognise myself.The rage hits first — then the guilt follows. 💔If you’ve ever cried over crumbs or felt calm slip away for no reason, this episode will make you feel seen.Because what looks like “losing control” is often ADHD, hormones, and burnout colliding.Jane sits down with Dr Sunita Chelva from Hero Menopause to unpack why perimenopause can feel like puberty all over again, how hormones intensify ADHD symptoms, and what you can do to find steadier ground when everything feels too loud, too fast, and too much.✨ What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy hormone fluctuations during perimenopause can trigger ADHD-like rage and emotional sensitivityHow estrogen and progesterone shifts impact focus, calm, and toleranceThe connection between histamine, mast-cell activation, and hormonal mood swingsWhat to know about HRT, supplements, and antihistamines — and how to talk to your GP about themThe overlap between trauma, neurodivergence, and hormonal chaosPractical tools for ADHD mums: sleep, movement, boundaries, and self-compassion💛 This Episode Is for You If …You’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”You’re juggling ADHD, hormones, and motherhood — and you’re exhausted“Just breathe” advice makes you ragey instead of relaxedYou want practical, ADHD-friendly ways to steady your nervous system📚 References & Resources MentionedHero Menopause — Dr Sunita Chelva Instagram:  @drsunitachelva @heramenopauseFacebook: @Heramenopause and Women’s HealthLinkedIn: @DrSunitaChelva and @HeramenopauseApps: Flo App, Balance App, Flo Partner AppSupplements Discussed: Magnesium, Vitamin D, DIM (cruciferous extract), Activated B vitamins (methylation support)Antihistamines Mentioned: Telfast, Claritin, Zyrtec, Famotidine (Zantac) — always consult your GP before useTherapies Referenced: EMDR, breathwork, weight training, sleep hygiene🔁 Related ADHD Mums EpisodesHORMONES: Histamine + Hormones – Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart with Kylie SmartHORMONES: The Perimenopause Crash – Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us About with Kylie SmartHORMONES: HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause: What No One’s Explaining to Women with Lara BridenHORMONES: When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout with Dr. Sunita Chelva If this brings up anything for you, please reach out for support:Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636Outside Australia: contact your local crisis serviceAlways talk with your healthcare provider before making any medication or supplement changes.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

🎂 The birthday invite never came — and the heartbreak broke us both. Because when your kid is excluded, you carry that wound too.In this raw confession, Jane shares the reality of parenting a child who’s left out. From the quiet “Mum, what’s wrong with me?” to the fury of watching friendships collapse despite scaffolding, this episode validates the pain of social exclusion for ADHD and autistic kids — and the mums who love them.Research shows exclusion isn’t resilience-building. It’s trauma. The brain registers it as real pain, and for neurodivergent kids, it happens far too often .What We Cover in This EpisodeThe gut-punch moment when a child realises they weren’t invitedWhy “kids toughening up” isn’t resilience — it’s traumaHow hidden friendship rules and conditional inclusion leave ADHD/autistic kids on the edgeThe impact of social exclusion on children’s confidence, self-esteem, and nervous systemWhy mums feel grief, rage, and helplessness when scaffolding still failsPractical ways to validate kids, script social supports, and work with schools for inclusionThis Episode Is For You IfYour child has come home asking “Why don’t they like me?”You’ve hosted playdates, scaffolded friendships, and still watched your child get left outYou’ve been told “that’s just life” and felt unseen or dismissedYou want language and strategies to support a child who’s socially excludedYou need solidarity: proof you’re not alone in this heartbreakReferences & Resources Mentioned📑 Research: Social exclusion activates the same brain regions as physical pain📘 Playground Pickup Guide for ADHD Mums🎧 Related Episode: Raising Strong Children: How to Support Without Always Solving Their Problems with Emma Rose — Spotify | Apple Podcasts✨ Listen now: “CONFESSION: My Kid Didn’t Get Invited — And It Broke Both Our Hearts” — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because no ADHD mum should be left to carry this heartbreak in silence.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics CoveredADHD kids social exclusion, ADHD birthday party invites, ADHD mums heartbreak, autism exclusion at school, ADHD friendship struggles, ADHD emotional resilience, neurodivergent kids left out, supporting ADHD children’s friendships, parenting ADHD kids social skills, ADHD school inclusion

⚠️ Content warning: This episode contains a brief discussion of suicidal ideation at 17mins.🚛 You survived pregnancy. You survived newborn chaos. You survived years of exhaustion.Then perimenopause hit — and it felt like your ADHD exploded overnight.If perimenopause has made your ADHD feel impossible — you’re not broken, and you’re definitely not the only one.In this raw and relatable episode, Jane sits down with Dr. Sunita Chelva (Hero Menopause & Women’s Health) to unpack what happens when fluctuating hormones collide with ADHD brains. From brain fog and rage to misdiagnosis and burnout, this conversation shines a light on what women are really experiencing — and why it’s not “just Mum life.”What We Cover in This EpisodeHow estrogen and progesterone shifts in perimenopause impact dopamine and ADHD symptomsWhy burnout, brain fog, rage, and emotional reactivity spike in the late 30s–50sThe overlap between ADHD and PMDD — and why up to 70% of ADHD women are affectedWhy women are often offered antidepressants instead of hormone supportHow masking, multitasking, and guilt fuel emotional depletionRed flags when seeking help — and why you may need second or third opinionsPractical steps: symptom tracking, seeking hormone-aware providers, and building supportThis Episode Is For You IfYou feel like your ADHD has worsened in perimenopauseYou’ve experienced brain fog, rage, exhaustion, or guilt that doesn’t feel like “just Mum life”You’ve been told to try antidepressants but suspect hormones are playing a roleYou want to understand why PMDD and perimenopause hit ADHD women so hardYou need validation, language, and next steps to advocate for yourselfReferences & Resources MentionedDr. Sunita Chalva — Hera Menopause & Women’s Health Hero Menopause Symptom Scorer - https://www.heramenopause.com.au/herasymptomscore Australasian Menopause Society — symptom tracking toolsADHD Mums Recommended Provider Tool — find GPs & specialists who understand ADHD + hormonesSuggest your own Women’s Health Provider if you have had a good experience. https://form.jotform.com/242630327577863Related ADHD Mums Episodes🎧 The Perimenopause Crash — Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us About🎧 HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause: What No One’s Explaining to Women🎧 Histamine + Hormones — Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart✨ Listen now: HORMONES: When Hormones Hijack the Mind — ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because hormones may hijack your brain, but they don’t get to define your life — and you deserve support that actually works.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

ADHD mums aren’t lazy — our homes just weren’t designed with our brains in mind. And no, piles aren’t proof of failure. In this episode, Jane unpacks why traditional “Pinterest-perfect” organising systems fail neurodivergent families, and how to design a home that actually supports ADHD working memory. From intentional landing zones to open storage, these ADHD-friendly hacks help you stop fighting your environment and start building scaffolding that works with your brain.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy ADHD brains struggle with “out of sight, out of mind” systemsHow object permanence and visual cues shape daily life for ADHD mumsWhy Pinterest-worthy storage often fails in real homesADHD-friendly hacks: open storage, intentional landing zones, pairing items with habitsHow “piles” aren’t laziness — they’re often functional reminder systemsWhy the bare minimum is still a miracle when you’re parenting with ADHD — and why that doesn’t make you messy, it makes you resourcefulThis Episode Is For You IfYou’ve ever re-bought something from Kmart because you forgot you already owned itYou feel like you’re drowning in clutter but can’t stick to “minimalist” systemsYou’ve tried every Pinterest hack and still end up with piles everywhereYou’re tired of being told you’re lazy or messy when you’re actually adapting to how your brain worksYou want practical home design tips that are ADHD-friendly and realistic for mumsReferencesBarkley, R. A. What are the long-term health implications of ADHD? This paper/report covers how ADHD increases risks for poorer health outcomes and reduces life expectancy if untreated. ADHDAwarenessMonth 2025Tuckman, A. Wasting Time? Hyperfocusing? ADHD and Time Perception Problems (ADDitude, 2025) — explains how ADHD distorts time perception (time blindness), impacting productivity, relationships, self-esteem✨ Listen now: “I’m Not Lazy — My House Just Doesn’t Have a Memory” — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

❌ “Not disabled enough.” ❌ “Not lifelong.”If you’ve ever been told your child is “not disabled enough” for support — you’re not alone. And you’re not failing them.That’s what too many families are hearing through NDIS reforms — while kids who mask or “hold it together” risk losing the supports that keep households afloat. This episode unpacks what the changes actually mean, where the gaps are, and how to push back with lived experience at the centre.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhat “not disabled enough” and “not lifelong” decisions look like on the ground for ADHD and autistic familiesHow NDIS reviews measure parental burnout instead of real needWhy kids who mask (or parents who try to stay positive in reviews) can be penalisedSenator Jordon Steele-John’s lived experience with ADHD and disability advocacyWhat the proposed Thriving Kids program could mean — and the unanswered questionsHow parents can use advocacy, templates, and submissions to push backThis Episode Is For You IfYour child has been told they’re “not disabled enough” or “not lifelong” for NDISYou’ve felt crushed by reviews that demand proof of struggle before supportYou’re scared your child’s ability to mask will cost them the help they needYou’re trying to make sense of the new Thriving Kids programYou want to hear from a politician with both lived experience and a plan to fight backReferences & Resources MentionedNDIS Free Resources → (guides, templates, and jotforms to help parents navigate the changes)NDIS Jot form - document your experienceParliamentary Inquiry into the NDIS — open for submissions nowFull webpage of all Jane's NDIS advocacy work hereRelated Episodes🎧 NDIS is making psychology support harder to access and the new budget rules: Spotify | Apple Podcast✨ Listen now: Not Disabled Enough — The NDIS Changes Every Parent Needs to Hear (with Senator Jordon Steele-John) — on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because parents deserve support, not shame.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

⚠️ This episode discusses disassociation and trauma responses. Please listen with care and step away if needed🧘‍♀️ Meditation apps promised calm — but for many ADHD mums, stillness doesn’t soothe. It shuts us down.If you’ve ever sat down to meditate and felt panic instead of peace — you’re not broken. You’re not the only one.In this Quick Reset, Jane explores why meditation, yoga, and “just breathe” advice can trigger dissociation instead of relaxation. When stillness feels unsafe, your nervous system isn’t failing — it’s protecting you.This episode unpacks the difference between resistance and survival, why dissociation is often misunderstood, and how ADHD mums can build regulation in ways that actually feel safe.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy meditation and stillness can trigger dissociation instead of calmDissociation as a neurological survival response, not a mindset issueHow it shows up in kids (zoning out, robot-like compliance, emotional flatness)Why “letting go” feels impossible without safety and scaffoldingPractical alternatives: movement, sensory tools, music, micro-pausesHow to reframe meditation as presence, curiosity, and building tolerance slowlyThis Episode Is For You IfYou’ve ever felt panic, not peace, when trying meditationYou blame yourself for failing at yoga, mindfulness, or “relaxing”You want to understand dissociation as survival, not weaknessYou’re raising a neurodivergent child who zones out or seems “not present” at schoolYou need validating, practical strategies that meet ADHD brains where they areReferences & Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk — on trauma, the body, and survival states✨ Listen now: “No, I Can’t Meditate. I’m Too Busy Disassociating” — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and adhdmums.com.au — because calm shouldn’t feel unsafe, and you deserve tools that actually work for your brain.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

⚠️ Content Warning This episode contains discussion of eating disorders, food restriction, and medical trauma, including misdiagnosis, inpatient treatment, and NG tube feeding. These themes may be triggering if you’ve experienced eating disorders, hospitalisation, or trauma in medical settings. Please listen with care and step away if you need to.🥄 Your child isn’t “picky.” They’re hungry, terrified — and too often, the world still blames parents.In this raw and validating episode, Jane speaks with Marie Camin, autistic clinical psychologist and researcher, about ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder), eating disorders, and why neurodivergent bodies are consistently misunderstood and mistreated.Marie shares her own lived experience alongside her clinical insights, unpacking how trauma, sensory needs, medical neglect, and stigma collide to create deeper harm — and why curiosity, agency, and neuro-affirming care are essential for healing.What We Cover in This EpisodeThe difference (and overlap) between ARFID, anorexia, and other eating disordersWhy ARFID is misdiagnosed and why body image isn’t the driverMarie’s lived experience: being mislabelled with anorexia, medical trauma, and refeeding through an NG tubeHow restriction cycles worsen when safe foods are lostThe role of sensory overload, anxiety, and co-occurring health conditions (POTS, MCAS, celiac)Why dieticians, trauma-informed care, and curiosity matter more than controlReframing progress: eating “enough” vs eating “everything”Identity, food, and family culture — and why pressure around mealtimes backfiresThis Episode Is For You If…You’re parenting a child with ARFID, “extreme picky eating,” or food refusalYou’ve been blamed or dismissed by professionals who don’t understand neurodivergent feeding differencesYou’ve experienced medical trauma tied to eating or food treatmentYou want to understand how trauma, sensory needs, and stigma intersect with eating disordersYou need solidarity and language that validates your lived experienceReferences & Resources MentionedMarie Camin’ website: https://www.mariecamin.com/ Hermeneutical Injustice — concept by philosopher Miranda Fricker on the harm of missing language for lived experienceRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesCould it be ARFID? Spotting the Signs + Why It’s Not Just Fussy EatingBeyond ‘Picky Eating’ — What ARFID Feels Like: Claire Britton’s Personal StoryYou’ve Tried Everything… They Still Won’t Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at HomeNavigating Psychology Assessments: Avoiding Key MistakesIf you’re struggling, you don’t have to go through it alone. In Australia, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or the Butterfly Helpline on 1800 33 4673. If you’re outside Australia, please reach out to local crisis supports in your area.🎧 Listen now: ARFID, Eating Disorders & the Neurodivergent Body: What We Got Wrong — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

🤔 Are school holidays not what you imagined? You thought they’d be fun — but instead you’re tired, burnt out, and blaming yourself for not enjoying them.In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks the hidden truth about parenting through school holidays with ADHD: not all mums start the day with the same energy budget. When you’re managing sensory overload, executive dysfunction, picky eating, or kids who refuse playdates, you’re spending double the energy before lunch. This isn’t failure. It’s maths that makes sense to ADHD mums .What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy school holidays feel impossible when ADHD mums start the day in energy deficitThe “energy accounting” metaphor vs spoon theory — and why it finally explains burnoutReal-life examples: Woolies meltdowns, kids refusing playdates, ARFID challengesHow sibling fights, meal prep, and simple errands cost double for ADHD parentsWhy the comparison trap is a lie — different baselines, same marathonPractical survival strategies: connection anchors, boredom boards, and saying no without guiltThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve felt guilty for not “making memories” during school holidaysYou’ve compared yourself to other mums and thought you were failingYour kids refuse outings, playdates, or even to leave the houseYou’re managing ADHD, autism, ARFID, or high sensory needs on top of daily parentingYou want to see burnout for what it is: biology, not bad parenting📘 FREE Handout on Energy Accounting & Fighting Mum Burnout: Download HERE.References & Resources MentionedSpoon Theory and Energy Accounting — metaphors for invisible energy budgetsDr Devon Price — research on burnout and resilienceMaggie Dent — on boredom, boys, and creativityRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesThe ADHD Mum’s Guide to Surviving School Mornings Without Tears (Theirs or Yours)The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity🎧 Listen now: QUICK RESET: The Biggest Lie Parents Believe During School Holidays — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

⚡ Sticker charts, punishments, time-outs — most ADHD mums have tried them. And most of us have felt the gut-punch of guilt when they “don’t work.” But here’s the truth: what looks like “bad behaviour” is usually a dysregulated nervous system asking for help, not a child trying to make life harder .In this episode, Jane speaks with psychologist Leanne Tran about why conventional behaviour strategies fail ADHD kids, how shame sneaks in, and what parents can do instead. Together, they reframe “naughtiness” as communication — and offer practical tools for scaffolding, connection, and regulation .What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy ADHD behaviour challenges are about regulation, not defianceThe limits of sticker charts and why they often backfirePunishment vs reinforcement: why one creates shame, the other builds skillsHow to support kids before chaos — scaffolding, structure, and skill-buildingQuick-win strategies for meltdowns: novelty, humour, and breaking stress loopsBoundaries vs values: why flexibility matters when ADHD is in the mixWhy behaviour isn’t a reflection of your parenting — and how to drop the shameThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve spent money on sticker charts, pens, and rewards — only to feel like you failed when they didn’t workYou’re sick of judgment from schools, family, or strangers about your child’s behaviourYou want alternatives to punishment that don’t just pile on shameYou struggle with consistency yourself and feel guilty for not “parenting perfectly”You need tools that actually work for ADHD kids — and for ADHD mums who can’t parent like robotsReferences & Resources MentionedLeanne Tran’s Website → https://www.leannetran.com.auFollow Leanne on Instagram → @leannetranpsychologyFree resources → learn.leannetran.com.au/freeLean’s Upcoming Webinar: Next steps for parents of neurodivergent kids - 10th of every month at 7pmPsychoeducation Courses (50% off with code ADHDMUMS):Supporting Your ADHD Primary SchoolerSupporting Your ADHD TeenagerJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Meal planning was built for neurotypicals. That’s why it breaks ADHD mums.In this Quick Reset, Jane calls out the shame trap of “just get organised” and explains why meal planning feels impossible when it demands six executive functions at once. From frozen meat to kids refusing everything you bought, this episode offers ADHD-friendly hacks for surviving dinner when you’re already on the edge .What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy meal planning is an executive function overload, not lazinessThe invisible cost: six domains firing at once — predict, remember, plan, shop, cook, cleanWhy “future you” can’t be trusted to follow perfect systemsHow to design a “burnout menu” for your worst daysTheme nights, breakfast-for-dinner, and recurring online orders as ADHD-friendly toolsWhy bubble baths don’t fix brain fog — but survival food doesThis Episode Is For You If…You hate meal planning, cooking, or even thinking about foodYou keep forgetting key ingredients or end up with “nothing to cook” after shoppingYour kids’ picky eating, ARFID, or sensory issues make one-meal-fits-all impossibleYou feel guilty for not sticking to meal plansYou want hacks that actually work on burnout days, not Pinterest fantasy boardsClaim: “Meal planning reduces executive function load, supports emotional regulation, and creates predictability for ADHD households — especially when meals are visually structured, repetitive, and simplified.”🔍 Research & References for Show Notes:Executive Function and Planning Impairments in ADHD Barkley, R. A., & Murphy, K. R. (2006). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Clinical Workbook (3rd ed.).Highlights impairments in planning, organisation, and future thinking in ADHD adults and families. Recommends routines and external structures for managing daily demands. Decision Fatigue and ADHD Baumeister, R. F., et al. (2008). Ego Depletion: Is the Active Self a Limited Resource? Journal of Consumer Research, 36(4), 543–556.Explains how repeated decision-making (like “What’s for dinner?”) leads to emotional exhaustion and poor impulse control — especially in people with existing cognitive load issues.Routine and Predictability Reduce StressPelham, W. E., Fabiano, G. A. (2008). Evidence-Based Psychosocial Treatments for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 37(1), 184–214.Shows that structured routines like planned meals and consistent eating times reduce behavioural stress in ADHD children.Visual and Repetitive Meal Systems Help ADHD HouseholdsTuckman, A. R. (2009). More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD. Recommends simplifying meals, using visual lists or repeating favourite foods to limit overwhelm and improve follow-through in ADHD adults.Link Between Blood Sugar Stability, Nutrition, and Emotional RegulationBenton, D., & Donohoe, R. T. (1999). The Effects of Nutrients on Mood. Public Health Nutrition, 2(3a), 403–409.Stable meals reduce mood swings and emotional volatility — crucial for ADHD individuals who are more sensitive to blood sugar fluctuations.Dr Sharon Saline’s research — on ADHD working memory and “if-then” fatigue🎧 Listen now: QUICK RESET: Mum hack meal planning for when you're already burnt out. — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Night sweats, meltdowns, migraines, brain fog — and still dismissed as “mum stress.” For ADHD women, perimenopause isn’t weakness — it’s biology colliding with a system that refuses to notice.In this episode, Jane speaks with Dr Lara Briden, naturopathic doctor and author of Hormone Repair Manual, to unpack what perimenopause really looks like for ADHD women, why blood tests often come back “normal,” and how body-identical hormone therapy can help.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy blood tests often miss perimenopause — and why “normal” doesn’t mean wellHow ADHD and hormones collide to intensify brain fog, rage, and sleep problemsThe role of histamine, thyroid, and iron in brain fog and exhaustionWhat HRT actually is — body-identical vs synthetic hormonesWhy antidepressants are over-prescribed when perimenopause is misdiagnosedPractical survival tools: progesterone, circadian rhythm resets, and magnesium — because bubble baths don’t fix brain fogWhy perimenopause is puberty 2.0 — a transition, not a failureThis Episode Is For You If…You’re over 37 and struggling with new rage, brain fog, or sleep issuesYou’ve been told your blood tests are “normal,” but you feel brokenYou’ve been dismissed with antidepressants when your body was screaming hormonesYou’re curious about how HRT interacts with ADHD and stimulantsYou want validation that perimenopause isn’t hysteria — it’s biology in transition🧠 Resources for YouPerimenopause Symptom Tracker – Free self-check to see if what you’re experiencing might be perimenopause. Download here →Perimenopause ADHD Brain Fog Kit – Practical tools for mums dealing with brain fog, memory slips, and hormone chaos. Find it hereReferences & Resources MentionedDr Lara Briden website: https://www.larabriden.com/ Hormone Repair Manual — Lara’s book on navigating perimenopause:Lara Briden’s guide to natural treatment ideas for premenstrual mood symptoms: larabriden.com/top-6-natural-treatments-for-premenstrual-mood-symptomsInsights from Dr Jerilynn Prior in the final bonus session of The Hormone Whisperers: tanyaborowski.com/shop/p/the-hormone-whisperers-may25-recordingsRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesThe Perimenopause Crash — Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us AboutHistamine + Hormones: Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart🎧 Listen now: HORMONES: HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause — What No One’s Explaining to Women — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

⚠️ Content Warning : This episode contains heavy confessions. These themes may be triggering for listeners with trauma histories or postnatal depression. Please listen with care and step away if you need to.These confessions prove you’re not broken, you’re not failing — and you’re definitely not alone.For the first time, Jane reads out anonymous confessions from ADHD mums — funny, dark, and painfully honest. These stories reveal the rage, exhaustion, shame, and survival that so many mums carry in silence. Instead of being dismissed as “bad parenting” or “not coping,” these confessions remind us: you’re not alone.What We Cover in This EpisodeFunny confessions that prove executive dysfunction runs the household (baby wipes on benches, noise-cancelling headphones at dinner)Heavier truths: rage in the chemist carpark, yelling at toddlers, dreams of driving awayHow shame grows in silence — and why saying it out loud breaks its gripEmotional dysregulation as central to ADHD, not a personal flaw (Dr Russell Barkley’s research)Why rage, dissociation, or shutdowns are survival responses — not weaknessHow sharing these confessions created relief, validation, and solidarityThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve screamed in the car or fantasised about running awayYou feel guilty for yelling, but can’t seem to stopYou’ve wondered if you’re the only mum who feels this wayYou crave relief from the shame spiral of “I should be coping better”You want to hear the raw, unfiltered truths other ADHD mums finally said out loudIf you’ve carried shame in silence, this episode will feel like exhale.References & Resources MentionedDr Gabor Maté — parenting doesn’t create dysfunction, it exposes where we’ve been unsupportedDr Russell Barkley — emotional dysregulation is central to ADHD, not secondaryADHD Mums Confession Box — share your truth anonymously and reduce the shameADHD Mums Facebook Group — connect with mums who get itRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesQuick Confession: 10 Things That Scare Me as an ADHD MumQuick Confession: I Don’t Always Like Being a ParentQuick Confession: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread Sex?🎧 Listen now: CONFESSION: Mums wrote in anonymously… and what they shared wrecked me — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auOptional Support If you’re struggling, you don’t have to go through it alone. In Australia, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or PANDA on 1300 726 306. If you’re outside Australia, please reach out to local crisis supports in your area.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Perimenopause can feel like being blindsided by a hormonal crash no one prepared you for. Mood swings, rage, insomnia, and anxiety get dumped in the ‘mum stress’ basket — as if biology crashing is just bad attitude.For ADHD mums, the mix of perimenopause and neurodivergence is like juggling knives while the floor gives way. This episode calls out the silence around perimenopause, explains the real biological shifts at play, and validates the lived experience of being dismissed when your body is in crisis.What We Cover in This EpisodeHow plummeting progesterone and rising stress hormones fuel rage and anxietyWhy ADHD + perimenopause is a double hit to emotional regulationThe invisible cost of being told ‘it’s just motherhood’Why the system ignores women’s health at this stage of lifeThe importance of recognising biology, not blaming characterThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve felt overwhelming rage or mood swings that don’t make senseDoctors, family, or friends have minimised your perimenopause symptomsYou’re an ADHD mum exhausted by exhaustion, sleepless nights, and slammed doorsYou need language that validates your experience instead of pathologising itYou’re ready to understand what’s really happening to your body🎧 Listen now: The Perimenopause Crash — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.au🧠 Resources for YouPerimenopause Symptom Tracker – Free self-check to see if what you’re experiencing might be perimenopause. Download here →Perimenopause ADHD Brain Fog Kit – Practical tools for mums dealing with brain fog, memory slips, and hormone chaos. Find it here📚 Related Resources:Kylie Smart (ADHD & women’s health naturopath) — DIY Your ADHD course with ADHD Consultation Package Dr Lara Bryden’s book on perimenopause — one of the few that actually explains what’s happening instead of gaslighting youADHD Mums Shop — resources and free assessment tools for ADHD and autism🎧 Other Episode with Kylie Smart:S1 E43 PMS and ADHD S1 E48 Supplements and ADHDJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics CoveredADHD and perimenopause, ADHD mums and hormones, progesterone crash, perimenopause rage, neurodivergent women and menopause, stress hormones and ADHD, insomnia perimenopause, ADHD women’s health, hormone regulation in neurodivergence, menopause anxiety and rage, women’s health dismissal, ADHD mums podcast hormones series

‘Not tonight’ isn’t rejection — it’s survival. You can be deeply in love, feel safe and connected, and still feel absolutely no desire for sex. For neurodivergent mums, it’s not about being broken. It’s about being depleted. Burnout, overstimulation, resentment, and chronic executive load all take a toll — and desire doesn’t grow in captivity.This episode names the unspoken truth: you can love your partner and still dread intimacy when your nervous system is tapped out.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy love and desire aren’t the same thingHow ADHD, burnout, and motherhood impact libidoThe difference between rejection and depletionVoices from ADHD mums on how sex feels in burnoutWhy desire needs space, safety, and energy to returnSmall ways to honour yourself without guilt or shameThis Episode Is For You If…You’re in a healthy relationship but feel no desire for sexEven the thought of being touched feels like one more demandYou’ve been told ‘sex is proof of love’ but feel otherwiseYou’re burnt out, touched out, or running on emptyYou want to know you’re not broken for feeling this wayReferences & Resources MentionedEsther Perel — Psychotherapist and author whose work on intimacy highlights that desire needs space and autonomy to thrive — two things ADHD mums are rarely afforded.ADHD Mums Facebook Group — A safe, supportive space where thousands of mums share the unfiltered truth about ADHD, burnout, intimacy, and the realities of daily life.ADHD Mums Jotform Confession Box — An anonymous space where mums contributed raw, honest experiences about sex, exhaustion, and survival with ADHD.🎧 Other Episode with Kylie Smart:S1 E43 PMS and ADHD S1 E48 Supplements and ADHDIf you’ve ever felt alone in this, these episodes prove you’re not.🎧 Listen now: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread Sex? — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

School mornings feel like hostage negotiations — not routine. Missing shoes, weird sock meltdowns, vanishing library bags… and still the world says ‘just get more organised’. But ADHD families don’t run on habits — we run on cues.In this Quick Reset, Jane shares the one simple change that turned mornings from chaos into something survivable: the hallway hook. More than a place for bags, it’s an environmental accommodation that reduces the daily executive function tax every ADHD mum knows too well.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy ADHD mums pay an ‘executive function tax’ every morningHow visual cues beat willpower when it comes to routinesThe difference between neurotypical habits vs ADHD-friendly environmentsWhy a hallway hook (or any visual system) can save your sanityPractical tips for setting up ADHD-friendly launchpads at homeThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve aged 100 years by 9am thanks to school chaosYour kids’ bags, shoes, or library books disappear into another dimension dailyYou’ve been told you just need to ‘get organised’You know reminders and willpower aren’t enough — you need cues that workYou want one ADHD-friendly change that makes mornings survivableRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesS3 E31 The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Surviving School Mornings Without Tears (Theirs or Yours)S3 E10 QUICK RESET: Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?Check out School mini-series if you haven’t yetIf school mornings leave you burnt out before 9am, these episodes will hit close to home. Claim: “Neurodivergent people often rely on visual memory and object permanence strategies — like hallway hooks — to reduce executive function demands.”🔍 Research and References:Object Permanence & ADHD Barkley, R. A. (2014). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment.– Barkley discusses how deficits in working memory and internal visualisation affect how ADHD individuals manage time, tasks, and memory. Without visual cues (like hooks, labels, laid-out clothes), the brain can “forget” the task exists.Visual Cues and Home OrganisationTuckman, A. R. (2009). More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD.– Emphasises that visual systems (clear bins, hooks, laid-out outfits) help compensate for weak prospective memory and object permanence.Environmental Modifications for ADHDCenters for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). (2020). Parenting Children with ADHD.– Recommends home modifications including visual schedules, labelled areas, and consistent placement for items (e.g. a hook for every bag or jacket) to support task follow-through and independence.Executive Function Supports in Home Environments Dawson, P., & Guare, R. (2010). Executive Skills in Children and Adolescents: A Practical Guide to Assessment and Intervention.– Notes the need for external structures like visual reminders and routine anchors for kids with ADHD who struggle with task initiation and transition.🎧 Listen now: Quick Reset: The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Episodes CoveredQuick Reset hallway hook ADHD mums, ADHD school mornings survival, executive function tax in families, ADHD-friendly morning routines, ADHD cues vs habits, ADHD parenting hacks, school chaos ADHD strategies, ADHD environmental accommodations, ADHD mums podcast quick reset

Doctors said anxiety. It turns out, for many ADHD mums, it’s actually hormones colliding with histamine.This episode kicks off our hormone mini-series with ADHD & women’s health naturopath Kylie Smart, exploring how histamine interacts with oestrogen, stress, and ADHD — and why so many mums are dismissed as “hysterical” or “anxious” when the truth is biochemical.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy doctors often misdiagnose hormone-related issues as anxietyWhat histamine is — and why it matters for ADHD and autistic womenHow histamine interacts with oestrogen, dopamine, and serotoninSymptoms linked to histamine issues: migraines, insomnia, heavy bleeding, rage, gut problemsThe overlap between histamine intolerance, mast cell activation, and ADHDSimple things you can try — from symptom tracking to food tweaks — while pushing for proper medical supportThis Episode Is For You If….You’ve been told your migraines, rage, or exhaustion are “just stress”You experience PMS/PMDD that feels like a breakdown weekYou notice mood swings, insomnia, or gut issues before your periodYou’re curious why “self-care” doesn’t touch hormone-related burnoutYou want to understand the real biology behind ADHD, hormones, and histamine🎧 Listen now: HORMONES: Histamine + Hormones – Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.au🧠 Resources for YouPerimenopause Symptom Tracker – Free self-check to see if what you’re experiencing might be perimenopause. Download here →Perimenopause ADHD Brain Fog Kit – Practical tools for mums dealing with brain fog, memory slips, and hormone chaos. Find it hereReferences & Resources MentionedADHD & women’s health naturopath who actually takes neurodivergent women seriously. Online clinic + courses: kyliesmart.com.au🎧 Other Episode with Kylie Smart:S1 E43 PMS and ADHD S1 E48 Supplements and ADHDJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

‘Don’t label her,’ they said. Now she cries herself to sleep, wondering why she’s too much. 💔That’s what happens when kids grow up different but unsupported. The world never calls it ADHD — it calls it bossy, weird, difficult. And children believe it.In this Quick Reset, Jane McFadden unpacks the real cost of avoiding diagnosis. Parents often fear labels, but silence does more harm. Kids who don’t get language and support end up creating their own labels: dumb, lazy, unloveable.💬 In This Episode:Why silence teaches children they’re the problemHow kids self-label when their struggles go unseenThe hidden pain of quiet, internalising ADHD kidsWhy early diagnosis isn’t limiting — it’s liberatingHow support changes outcomes for neurodivergent kids and families💭 This episode is for you if: – You’ve been told ‘don’t label your child’ – You worry a diagnosis will box them in – You’re raising a quiet ADHD or autistic child who ‘never causes trouble’References and Related Resources:ADHD Mums Facebook Group – Join here Research on Identity Formation– Studies highlight how early diagnosis supports stronger self-identity in neurodivergent childrenKristin Neff’s Research on Self-Compassion – Self-Compassion resourcesResearch on Early Identification of ADHD – Evidence shows early identification improves long-term mental health and resilienceRelated Episodes:S2E54 How to Talk to Your Child About ADHD – practical language and scripts for conversationsJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics covered: ADHD diagnosis stigma, internalising ADHD kids, ADHD self-esteem, ADHD parenting support, quiet ADHD, early intervention

You keep the house running. You hold the emotions. You never say no. And still, part of you wonders if you’re doing enough.This solo episode isn’t just about perfectionism or people pleasing — it’s about the deeper pattern so many ADHD mums live inside without realising it: good girl conditioning. Jane peels back the layers of expectation, guilt, trauma, and survival-mode coping that lead neurodivergent women to break down quietly behind closed doors.From childhood masking to motherhood martyrdom, this one hits deep — and offers five strategies to start peeling off the pressure without losing yourself in the process.💡 What We Cover:What ‘good girl conditioning’ actually is (it’s not just a personality quirk)Why ADHD + perfectionism = emotional burnout on steroidsThe five signs you’ve internalised good girl roles — and how they sabotage you dailyWhy neurodivergent women are more vulnerable to this dynamic (even if they’re high achieving)The invisible ways this shows up in parenting, partnership, and school settingsThe conditioning phrases we grew up hearing — and how they shaped our self-worthHow to start unlearning without upending your whole life (yet)Five daily strategies to gently shift from martyrdom to self-worth (without adding more to your to-do list)🔗 Resources & Links:🧠 Research cited:Sanders & Munford (2008) – ‘Good Girl Identity as a Social Strategy’🧰 Tools & kits mentioned:Mental Load Reset Kit ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook✍️ Submit feedback, questions or stories via the listener jotform: https://form.jotform.com/251238118486864🎧 Listen NowIf your nervous system feels like it’s fraying — but you can’t stop making lists, saying yes, or “just getting on with it” — this episode is for you. Listen in, let it crack something open, and start building a life that includes you in the equation.📲 Hit play. Send to a friend. Save it for the next moment you wonder if it’s just you (it’s not).JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected] RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered In This Episode:ADHD and perfectionism, people pleasing ADHD mums, masking in girls, emotional labour of motherhood, internalised ableism ADHD, ADHD and good girl syndrome, rejection sensitivity and burnout, parenting while neurodivergent, perfectionism trauma response, motherhood martyrdom, ADHD mum fatigue, boundaries and ADHD, late-diagnosed ADHD women, masking exhaustion, Sanders and Munford 2008 study, neurodivergent self-worth, ADHD social conditioning, ADHD mums mental health, ADHD emotional suppression, ADHD values planner

You can’t ‘train’ a brain to enjoy being flooded with noise, light, smells, and chaos. You can only push it until it shuts down — or shuts you out. Yet families are told every day that ‘exposure therapy’ will fix sensory overwhelm. In this episode, we talk about why that’s not just wrong — it’s dangerous. You’ll learn: How to tell the difference between fear-based and processing-based struggles. Why getting the label right matters for getting the support right. The long-term impact on trust and resilience when supports are mismatched. What meltdowns in public spaces really mean (hint: it’s not bad behaviour). Practical ways to adapt environments so kids can thrive without being pushed past breaking point. If you’ve ever dragged your child through a noisy, bright, overwhelming place and watched them unravel, this episode will make you feel seen — and give you the language to advocate for real change. 💛 Listen now: Spotify: Apple Podcasts: Website: adhdmums.com.au References & Related Resources Amanda Moses Psychology – Upcoming Event: Understanding Masked Autism Amanda Moses on Instagram: @amandamosespsychology Related ADHD Mums Episodes: S2E82 ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed (with Amanda Moses) – one of the most downloaded episodes referenced in this discussion S2E20 The Worst Assessment Process Ever (with Dina Robertson) – story of a 10-year fight for a diagnosis ADHD Mums Free Resource: ADHD & Autism Assessment Tool – check under the Free Resources section JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected]. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here. Topics Covered sensory overwhelm autism ADHD and sensory processing exposure therapy for autistic child fear-based vs processing-based anxiety sensory overload in children autism and public meltdowns trauma from exposure therapy supporting sensory sensitive kidsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.