You, Me, Empathy

On Episode 182 of You, Me, Empathy, Miguel Sancho and I explore the cultural and psychological drive to create binaries (in a non-binary world), the role of religion in our struggle and search, the unexpected acts of love and altruism that come with unexpected hardship, and Miguel’s new book, More Than You Can Handle: A Rare Disease, A Family in Crisis, and the Cutting-Edge Medicine That Cured the Incurable. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 181 of You, Me, Empathy, Kate Fagan and I explore why joy is not in opposition to sorrow, wondering what to do with our impermanence, what surrender looks like, the tragedy and obstacles of ALS and its advocacy, and Kate’s new book, All the Colors Came Out. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 180 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s just me, Nōn Wels, and a love letter to my best friend, Scooby, who died on April 21, 2021. I answer your thoughtful questions, cry some, and ramble on a while about the beautiful gift of Scooby the dog who adored butter and to gently hold socks in his mouth. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 179 of You, Me, Empathy, Rebecca Hass and I explore growing up in a stoic, emotionally repressed household, the shame wrapped up in mental health, why we need to dismantle hustle culture, the moment Rebecca opened up about her anxiety, and the new workshop, led by Rebecca, Build Your Seasonal Self-Care Survival Kit. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 178 of You, Me, Empathy, Sahar Martinez and I explore holding someone else’s knowing, Sahar’s remarkable, free-spirited, leather pants-wearing grandmother, anti-racism work in clinical spaces, and perinatal health and postpartum mental health and care for people of color. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 177 of You, Me, Empathy, Alexandria Thibodeaux and I explore growing up with scary, abusive fathers, the power of self-reverence, discovering she was Black in her twenties, and the strength of the highly sensitive person. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 176 of You, Me, Empathy, Alia Walston and I explore holding space for multiple truths, understanding that your experience is not that of everyone else’s, creating boundaries with family, and why you (and me, and all of us) are the spell. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 175 of You, Me, Empathy, Jessica Murnane and I go deep on endometriosis, from symptoms and nutrition to medical gaslighting and being your own best advocate. Plus, we explore Jessica’s endometriosis origin story, knowing when to help vs. when not to help, believing women, and Jessica’s new book, a true act of empathy, Know Your Endo. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 174 of You, Me, Empathy, Rabbi Steve Leder and I explore the myth of invulnerability, the immeasurable beauty and meaning in life as fleeting and finite, swapping out the stages of grief with waves, what Steve learned from being at the death bed of over 1,000 people, and his stunning new book, The Beauty of What Remains. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 173 of You, Me, Empathy, Marianna Palka and I explore generational optimism, the magical alchemy of empathy and healing in movies, the empowered collective, how Huntington’s Disease has impacted Marianna’s life, and why pain needs to be shared. Plus, meeting Sean Connery, GLOW, why Marianna runs up hill, and more! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 172 of You, Me, Empathy, trans artist and activist Rae Senarighi and I explore gratitude as an opportunity to be present, experiencing love and joy in small moments, dismantling separateness, and why there’s deep empathy in representation. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 171 of You, Me, Empathy, founder of Schizophrenic.NYC and schizophrenia activist, Michelle Hammer, and I explore how we can move the needle on ending stigma around mental illness, being diagnosed and feeling like people will judge us, Michelle’s schizophrenia journey and the amazing work she’s doing with Schizophrenic.NYC, and the beauty of telling people about our mental illness and allowing people to see us just as we are. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 170 of You, Me, Empathy, queer intuitive Tarot teacher and founder of Tarot for the Wild Soul, Lindsay Mack, and I explore leaning into the stretch and speed of time, why the uncomfortable and the richness occupy the same space, the profound effect EMDR has had on Lindsay, why every tarot card is an invitation to anti-racism work, and the dangers of not honing our ability for critical thinking. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 169 of You, Me, Empathy, therapist and wellness coach Minaa B. and I explore life’s inevitable and uncomfortable shifts, the othering we do as humans and how we can push against it as individuals and communities, Minaa’s early childhood experience of being bullied and the isolation and heartache that came with it, and the magical confluence of literacy, storytelling, and mental health. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 168 of You, Me, Empathy, psychologist and author Dr. Jessica Zucker and I explore wanting our parents to see us for who we are (even when they can’t), the silence, stigma, and shame enveloped in pregnancy and motherhood, the jaw-dropping statistics of miscarriage we’re not talking about, and Jessica’s remarkable new book, I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, A Movement—which is out tomorrow! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 167 of You, Me, Empathy, writer, artist, and seeker of magic, Mari Andrew and I explore the feeling of being at home in our bodies, intentionality in how we consume media, eliminating emotional binaries, struggling with where to put grief, and the rich sacredness that exists in the bright and the dark. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 166 of You, Me, Empathy, Cait Flanders and I explore the part of ourselves in which we take the more difficult path because we feel like we deserve it, honoring our inner child joys, anger as the most clarifying emotion, and a (TW) sexually traumatic experience that led Cait to dissociating as a survival tactic, grieving her past self, and celebrating the courage and resilience that she proved in her present self. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 165 of You, Me, Empathy, Emily McDowell and I explore toxic productivity and capitalism, burnout in business, achieving our way into a false sense of joy, and discovering the space to rest, pause, and take care of our mental health. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 164 of You, Me, Empathy, Mark Pagán and I explore a longing we’re feeling for adventure and connection, the pressure valve emotional release we need to switch on more often, cultural identity and the question of where we fit it, and removing the stigma around fear and shame for men through the gentle, fastidious excavation of masculinity. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 163 of You, Me, Empathy, Nikki Eisenhauer and I explore the real core of dysfunction within families, letting go of the expectation of being accepted by anyone but ourselves, the beauty of being an emotional badass, and boundaries galore! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 162 of You, Me, Empathy, Meaghan Shaffer and I explore the messiness of big feelings, the ups and downs of seven miscarriages and eight surgeries in pursuit of being a mom, and dismantling the heck out of the boxes, the shoulds, and the normal. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 161 of You, Me, Empathy, Jason Garner and I explore the heaviness in the world, losing his mother to stomach cancer at an early age, the power and danger of stories, meditation and learning to find stillness, and the opportunity and beauty of impermanence. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 160 of You, Me, Empathy, Azalea Lee and I explore empathy in the context of politics, the shoulds we put on others and ourselves, being mindful of the energy we’re putting out into the world, and the wonders of crystal healing! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 159 of You, Me, Empathy, Kye Plant and I explore being sensitive and feely men, being fearful of conflict, having tough love parents, why it’s important to let the world know you’re scared, and shame as the weird, amorphous force in our lives. Trigger warning: Brief graphic sexual content, drugs, and attempted suicide mentioned in this episode. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 158 of You, Me, Empathy, Wendy Jones and I explore generational stories, recovering ourselves from people pleasing, self-sabotage, the beauty of living in your truth, and why optimism is the backbone of resilience. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 157 of You, Me, Empathy, Juanita Benedicto and Nicola Allan are here to celebrate the launch of their very special project, Faunabelle—a tarot deck for children, uniquely designed to inspire and evoke compassion, kindness, and beauty. It’s out on Kickstarter now, and it’s gorgeous! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 156 of You, Me, Empathy, dog trainer Kim Erickson and I explore Kim’s start in dog training, the profound impact her dog Bayla has had on her life, why dogs are mirrors for us, how dog relationships impact our human relationships, and the myriad beautiful things dogs can teach us, including empathy, mindfulness, and being in touch with our feelings. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 155 of You, Me, Empathy, Helene Saucedo and I explore the stigma of spiritual practices like palm reading, Helene’s journey of divorcing her husband and coming out as queer, how big risks can sometimes look like a midlife crisis, and the history, beauty, and healing power of palm reading! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 154 of You, Me, Empathy, Inertia DeWitt and I explore giving ourselves room to fall apart, compassionate breakups, growing up in a pro-curiosity and wonder family, how PTSD shows up in our bodies and when we least expect it, and why magic is real. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 153 of You, Me, Empathy, Ms. Danielle and I explore figuring out who we are unburdened by expectation, grieving the loss of her father during a pandemic, and leveling up from empathy to empowered empathy. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 152 of You, Me, Empathy, Norm Leonard and I explore how creativity can help lighten the burden of depression, our collective love of dark humor and its capacity for subversion, Norm’s early literary influences, and the origin story of Norm’s brand new fiction adventure-fantasy podcast for the whole family, Cobbler’s Gulch! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 151 of You, Me, Empathy, Vanessa Bennett and I explore expanding our abilities to tolerate change and the unknown, not skipping over the messy middle, why you may need to change your mind about mindfulness, and how codependency robs us of self-awareness. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 150 of You, Me, Empathy, Dr. Dyona Augustin and I explore the importance of discomfort, Dyona’s childhood curiosity, living an examined life, emotions as smoke detectors, and why hope is healing. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 149 of You, Me, Empathy, Tim Manley and I explore why it’s brave to be a teenager, Tim’s silly and weirdo art kid childhood, making sense of bullies, bisexual representation on screen, Tim’s Emmy-nominated The Feels, and feeling like our big feelings are just too much for others sometimes. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 148 of You, Me, Empathy, artist Jordin McGrath and I explore the emotional distress and anxiety of being a military spouse, why we can’t get all we need in life from our partners, distractions vs. doing the inner work, managing the highs and lows of bipolar disorder, and finding healing and community in art. Content Warning: Suicidal ideation is mentioned in this episode. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 147 of You, Me, Empathy, clinical and forensic neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho and I explore creating space to reflect, toxic productivity and the cult of busyness, the usefulness of emotions, limiting beliefs, and why you deserve to be heard. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 146 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a solo episode with me, your host, Nōn Wels! In this episode, I talk about the importance of rest, why being willing and open to change is hard but necessary, voting, and a special announcement about a new project with NAMI OC! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 145 of You, Me, Empathy, Shelby Forsythia and I explore the vulnerability of putting our voices out into the world, the acknowledgement that grief is part of you and not something you fix, grief in context of being present, and Shelby’s brand new book, Your Grief, Your Way. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 144 of You, Me, Empathy, eating disorder therapist Jess Sprengle and I explore growing up as bookworms, looking back at our childhood selves with compassion, the early trauma that led to Jess’s eating disorder, and why we are inherently worthy of the things that are good for us. Content warning: Eating disorders and behaviors are mentioned in this episode. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 143 of You, Me, Empathy, psychosomatic therapist, herbalist, and flower practitioner Heidi Smith and I explore the assets of the wounded healer, un-burdening ourselves of childhood traumas, cosmic balance, plant medicine, ecological and social justice, and the universality and interconnectedness of healing. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 142 of You, Me, Empathy, musician Joshua LeBreton and I talk about looking at our feelings objectively, Joshua’s disruptive childhood and the abandonment struggles that resulted from that, retreating into ourselves, building authentic communities, and how music can make us feel seen and less alone. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 141 of You, Me, Empathy, grief explorer Alica Forneret and I talk about why it’s okay and critical to pause, the importance of self-care and inquiry over pushing through our feelings, the empathy and community of the Dead Moms Club, and honing the capacity for showing up for others in their grief. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 140 of You, Me, Empathy, Manya Chylinski and I explore the messy middle, challenging our own biases and preconceptions about people and the world, comparing traumas, and Manya’s terrifying and inspiring story of surviving the Boston Marathon bombing. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 139 of You, Me, Empathy, author and mental health advocate Kitt O’Malley and I explore how we’re coping with our mental health during Coronavirus (this episode was recorded in April!), hyper-focusing in times of crisis, growing up in chaotic households, and giving ourselves the grace of imperfection. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 138 of You, Me, Empathy, DJ Chuang and I explore the journey of naming our feelings, finding the motivation for living, DJ’s bipolar disorder diagnosis and story, and the shame that persists in mental health and Asian culture. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 137 of You, Me, Empathy, Tamar Chansky, PhD and I explore the continuum of human feeling, reminding ourselves that we can narrate what’s going on in our lives, being a doer, anxiety in kids and the pressure to achieve, and how we can free ourselves from anxiety and worry. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 136 of You, Me, Empathy, somatic and transformational coach Rebecca-Monique beautifully shares about the time she literally lost her voice after losing her adoptive mother, protecting herself early on from pain and trauma by internalizing it, psychological abuse, and how we have everything within ourselves to thrive, despite the barriers and challenges. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 135 of You, Me, Empathy, author Amy Beashel and I explore the push and pull of being in Covid-19 lockdown, the curious and adorable space hopping hobby of Amy’s, writing the things we need to hear, and finding our own self-worth. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 134 of You, Me, Empathy, therapist and researcher Hillary L McBride and I explore the myriad ways to open-heartedness and empathy, the way our bodies remember trauma, emotion-focused communication in therapy, asking ourselves “what’s happening here?”, and embracing the wonder and uncertainty as the bedrock of what it means to be human. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 133 of You, Me, Empathy, Shereen Lani Younes and I talk about the early days of the Coronavirus pandemic (we recorded this in April), self-care during quarantine, feeling like we’re “too emotional,” sexual identity and growing up in a Muslim family, and being kind to ourselves so we can be kind to others. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone