You, Me, Empathy

On Episode 132 of You, Me, Empathy, Amber Cole and I explore white fragility, overt and covert forms of racism, and the violence that is happening right now against people of color, and black people specifically. We talk about the every day work it takes to embody anti-racism, the collective trauma the black community is living right now, and how we can more thoughtfully and empathetically lift each other up. Black. Lives. Matter. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 131 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a VERY SPECIAL episode because it’s launch week for The Feely Human Collective! Eeeeeeeep! On Wednesday, May 27, Feely Human launches to the public! And my friend and Feely Human intern, Tristan Manzolini, sits down with me to talk all about it! April 2025 update: Feely Human is no longer. Thanks for the journey! The website will continue to exist as a mental health resource. xoxo SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 130 of You, Me, Empathy, Emily Lynn Paulson and I explore recovery from substance use disorder, the sober curious movement, the gifted child, the pride that comes with being in control even if that control is damaging, and getting to the roots of our mental health struggles. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 129 of You, Me, Empathy, New York Times bestselling author Esmé Weijun Wang and I explore the exercise in empathy that is this Coronavirus pandemic, how constraints can be a useful force in our creativity, managing feelings of despair, 90s online communities, how beautifully resilient humans are, hallucinations as kidnapping the senses, and Esme’s stunning part-memoir and part-deep dive into schizophrenia, The Collected Schizophrenias. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 128 of You, Me, Empathy, Alie Ward and I explore the magic of curiosity, Alie’s anxiety diagnosis, Catholic guilt, reframing failures, why empathy is so damn hard (and the best, duh), why Alie works so hard, and mental health in relationships! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 127 of You, Me, Empathy, Lisa Congdon and I have a conversation about the emotional rollercoaster of Lisa’s breast cancer diagnosis, the decision to talk openly about it, showing our full selves, why we can’t have connection without vulnerability, creating art in our own wonderfully unique way, and the terrible and the beautiful we hold in us. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 126 of You, Me, Empathy, Janet Reich Elsbach and I explore the loss of her sister and mother, being thrown into a practicum of grief, receiving help during the grieving process, food for healing and nourishment, and Janet’s memoir/recipe book, Extra Helping: Recipes for Caring, Connecting, & Building Community One Dish At a Time. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 125 of You, Me, Empathy, therapist and New York Times bestselling author, Lori Gottlieb and I explore having compassion and empathy for ourselves first, operating out of fear or love, society not accepting vulnerability in men, compassion without forgiveness, Lori’s amazing book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and how we grow in connection with others. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 124 of You, Me, Empathy, author, comedian, and Well, This Isn’t Normal podcaster Sara Benincasa and I explore limiting beliefs, the allusion of Hollywood, identity work in mental health, Sara’s experience with panic attacks and agoraphobia, sobriety and what addiction means to Sara, and our new friend, Jennifer. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 123 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a special bonus episode where I sit down with three therapists to discuss empathy, anxiety, spirituality, self-care, eating disorder recovery, and mental health in the time of this current global pandemic: Coronavirus, or COVID-19. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 122 of You, Me, Empathy, eating disorder therapist and founder of The Eating Disorder Center, Jennifer Rollin, and I explore Jennifer’s personal eating disorder journey and recovery, how eating disorders can be a coping mechanism for underlying issues, the signs that you may be struggling with an eating disorder, the myths of eating disorders, and how to help someone who’s struggling with an eating disorder. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

In Episode 121 of You, Me, Empathy, Sarah Kinger and I explore recognizing our needs, rewriting old narratives, eating disorder recovery, disowning the concept of perfect, and why you matter, we matter, and being a light for others. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 120 of You, Me, Empathy, Grant Snider and I explore Grant’s transition from freelance artist to published author, boundaries for freelancers, why constraints can be good for creativity, drawing as visualized empathy, and looking closer and listening to the people and world around us. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 119 of You, Me, Empathy, Maggie Jones and I explore intergenerational trauma, the cultural pressure put on mothers, feeling permission to be who we are, trying to befriend our inner critic, and the heartbreak and healing in intuitive grief. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 118 of You, Me, Empathy, Julie Peters and I explore nourishment, trying to be in our bodies, the misogyny of victim blaming and not believing women, and recovering desire, passion, and pleasure after sexual assault. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 117 of You, Me, Empathy, Liz Shannon Miller and I explore the anxiety wrapped up in deadlines, the life of a freelance writer, movies as empathy machines, and representations of mental illness in media. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 116 of You, Me, Empathy, Dene Selkin and I explore sobriety, wanting to fit in when you feel left out, mental health and therapy stigma in the African American community, and allowing ourselves to feel our feelings. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 115 of You, Me, Empathy, Brianna Pastor and I explore that beautiful moment when we find community (our people!), internalized trauma, coming out as gay in a Jehovah’s Witness home, and healing through poetry. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 114 of You, Me, Empathy, Mike Vinopal and I explore suppressing emotions, why mental illness stigma silences, and the proactive suicide prevention organization, Hope For the Day. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 113 of You, Me, Empathy, Katie Huey and I explore saying yes to the things we actually want to say yes to, moving through the world at our own pace, why grief isn’t contagious, and how Katie is looking for beauty amid the pain. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 112 of You, Me, Empathy, Christopher Swan and I explore Christopher’s coming out story, how we compartmentalize emotions, the humility in understanding that none of us are perfect, and celebrating what makes us different. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 111 of You, Me, Empathy, Jen Pastiloff and I explore living with depression, being awake to the world and paying attention, listening with our whole bodies, battling with Anorexia, and the nature of being human. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 110 of You, Me, Empathy, Kristen Brunello and I explore the importance of community in recovery, giving ourselves permission to take moments of peace, and how Kristen became an eating disorder recovery coach. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 109 of You, Me, Empathy, Christy Harrison and I explore our relationship to our bodies, the insidiousness of diet culture, Health At Every Size, and Christy’s brand new book, Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 108 of You, Me, Empathy, Kev Mor and I explore suicide, bipolar disorder and PTSD, how we can take the things we’ve been through and help others (empathy!), and finding inspiration for art and music in our mental health struggles. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 107 of You, Me, Empathy, Jenipher Lyn and I explore valuing our own work, giving ourselves the grace we deserve, disordered eating, depressed burritos, and taking time to enjoy the life around us. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 106 of You, Me, Empathy, I’m joined by my life partner, Jessica, to share details about my new collaborative mental health community: The Feely Human Collective! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 105 of You, Me, Empathy, Minter Dial and I explore privilege, the normalcy of hardship, business as a force for good, putting heart into business, and Heartificial Empathy. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 104 of You, Me, Empathy, Rebecca Soffer and I explore why we aren’t good at talking about death, grief as a life experience, losing both of her parents, and creating a safe space (Modern Loss) for others to talk openly about death, loss, and grief. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 103 of You, Me, Empathy, Rachelle Friedman and I explore the impact chronic pain has on our mental health, Emotion Focused Therapy with couples, being a social worker, and everything EMDR therapy! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 102 of You, Me, Empathy, Liz Fosslien and I explore the safe spaces we need to feel our feelings, how small moments can sometimes be the most transformative in our lives, and the secret to embracing emotions at work. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 101 of You, Me, Empathy, Erin McKean and I explore the opportunity for empathy in the language we use, and creating an inclusive, collaborative community around the abundance (not the scarcity) of language in Wordnik. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 100 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a special Camp HEAL extravaganza! Kaylie, Jacqueline, Laura, Arwen, Errin, and Eric join me to explore eating disorder recovery and the life-changing experience we all had at Project Heal’s Camp HEAL. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 99 of You, Me, Empathy, Lara Parker and I explore taking ownership of our bodies, masturbation as self-care, the gaslighting of women in pain, and the struggles and resilience of living with Vaginismus, Vulvodynia, and Endometriosis. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 98 of You, Me, Empathy, Tony the Therapist and I look back on Episode 97 with The Copacetic System and explore survival in trauma, our innate abilities to connect, and why we are truly all in this together. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 97 of You, Me, Empathy, The Copacetic System and I explore early childhood trauma, living with Dissociative Identity Disorder, and healing through nonviolent communication. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 96 of You, Me, Empathy, Chris Brogan and I explore doctor-prescribed Ketamine to treat depression, how we can incorporate more empathy into our businesses, and what it means to be dented. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 95 of You, Me, Empathy, Rachel Reichblum and I explore the cultural misdiagnosis of crying, surviving instead of thriving in grief, Rachel losing both parents to terminal brain cancer, and the reality that we don’t have to hold our grief alone. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 94 of You, Me, Empathy, Eric “efdot” Friedensohn and I explore skateboarding culture, finding work that aligns with who you are, and creating art that brings people together, and helps people feel understood and seen. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 93 of You, Me, Empathy, Branden Harvey and I explore the importance of mentors, celebrating the stories of others, finding hope over cynicism, and why goodness matters. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 92 of You, Me, Empathy, Brittany Walsh and I explore long-distance friendship, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, the “not good enough” myth, fear of death, and why recognizing the uniqueness in each of us is a building block for empathy. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 91 of You, Me, Empathy, Alison Rosen and I explore self-care as a mom, growing up with overprotective parents, being empathetic in a politically ugly world, the grief and loss of suicide, and the time Alison “accidentally dated a weird white pride guy.” SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 90 of You, Me, Empathy, Dr. Christina Iglesia and I explore how she brings human-ness into her work as a therapist, the familial mental health struggles that inspired her to go into psychology, and her super inspiring mental health action campaign, #TherapyIsCool! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 89 of You, Me, Empathy, Natalie Rodriguez and I explore burnout, finding balance in our passions, growing up with an addict parent, and Natalie’s feature film, The Extraordinary Ordinary. Plus, a bonus chat on men and feelings, hugs, and grief with actor Alex Montalban. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 88 of You, Me, Empathy, Natalie Meagan and I explore being curious about our emotions, nightmares as a sign of trauma, parenting with mental health struggles, and sensitivity as a strength. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 87 of You, Me, Empathy, Becky Leonard and I explore the joy of gratitude, the pressures for women to be superheroes, supporting partners who have mental illness, doing the things we’re “supposed to,” and life as a doula. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 86 of You, Me, Empathy, I answer your questions to celebrate my 38th birthday! From empathy struggles and favorite movies to You, Me, Empathy developments and books that have affected my worldview, plus so much more! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 85 of You, Me, Empathy, Joelle Marie and I explore feeling misunderstood, obsession and compulsion in OCD, the job of a peer support specialist, and living with Autism Spectrum Disorder. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 84 of You, Me, Empathy, Lisa Olivera and I explore the identity struggle of adoptees, why healing is non-linear and messy, the New York (freaking) Times feature on Lisa, and the need for all of us to create safe spaces for each other. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello

On Episode 83 of You, Me, Empathy, Jennifer Newman and I explore accepting chaos, reclaiming memories, holding true to our identities within relationships, how we get back in alignment with ourselves, and creating your own path after divorce. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It AloneSay hello