You, Me, Empathy

On Episode 232 of You, Me, Empathy, Dr. Viviana Coles and I explore the performing we do early in relationships, the adorable story of how Viviana met her husband, what Viviana has learned about human connection and empathy in relationships through being a panelist on the television show, Married At First Sight, and Viviana’s wonderful new book, The 4 Intimacy Styles. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone The You, Me, Empathy podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

On Episode 231 of You, Me, Empathy, Deborah Lee Smith (she/her) and I explore learning how to listen to our bodies, what it’s like to experience a prolonged panic attack, why there’s no shame or failure in divorce, and how there’s always more than you see—if only we look, listen, soften, and be curious. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone The You, Me, Empathy podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

On Episode 230 of You, Me, Empathy, Rebekah Borucki (she/they) and I explore how strangers are the family we haven’t gotten to know yet, the fascinating differences between our respective religious upbringings, the intricacies of privilege, and how Row House Publishing is raising the volume on voices that matter. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 229 of You, Me, Empathy, Kate Spencer and I explore Kate’s undying love for Phish, the feeling of trying to sell our creative work during such a collectively traumatic time in our history, Kate’s delightful new romance novel, In a New York Minute, and why the romance genre can be a salve for grief and provide some momentary relief from the heaviness of the world. CW: This episode contains conversation around death and loss. Recorded in April 2022. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 228 of You, Me, Empathy, Kathryn Schulz (staff writer at The New Yorker and Pulitzer Prize winner) and I explore why each of us is obliged to dispel the darkness in the world, losing a father and finding a love, which is at the core of Kathryn’s new memoir, Lost & Found, and the wild and-ness that makes us indelibly and wonderfully human. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 227 of You, Me, Empathy, Stephanie Wittels Wachs and I explore our messy human capacity for simultaneously feeling like we want to burn it all down, feeling overwhelmingly sad, and feeling like we need to keep fighting. We also dig into gun control, starting a company from a place of grief and desperation (Lemonada Media), and wanting to be truly useful in our empathy. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone Trigger Warning: We discuss gun control, abortion, and death in this episode.

On Episode 226 of You, Me, Empathy, Mike Bender and I explore losing trust in our bodies, trying to see endings as transformational, the “Quiet House” Mike built to attempt to save his life from a mysterious collection of illnesses, and what it takes to be a curious observer. Read the full show notes at FeelyHuman.co. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 225 of You, Me, Empathy, I take it solo to announce some big changes happening to the podcast starting this month, including transitioning from weekly episodes to bi-weekly (every two weeks), and an exciting new Patreon-only episode each month called Movies That Make Us Feel! Update: This is no longer active! Read the full show notes at FeelyHuman.co. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 224 of You, Me, Empathy, Rob Volpe and I explore the change that can happen one conversation at a time, what empathy at work looks like, dismantling judgment in our hearts, and why empathy is radical. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 223 of You, Me, Empathy, Nicola Pierre-Smith, LPC and I explore the crucial components of a healing conversation, why it’s easier to listen to our bodies when we’re hungry but not our emotions when we’re feeling, how Nicola is creating space for BIPOC communities to heal, and how mindfulness about our intersectionality can deepen our connection to ourselves and our communities. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 222 of You, Me, Empathy, Wil Wheaton and I explore how being a geek intersects with empathy, the childhood trauma Will faced in a mother that treated him as a commodity and a father who simply didn’t care, on being the person we need in the world, and Wil’s beautiful new book, Still Just a Geek, which is like the Inception of inner child work. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 221 of You, Me, Empathy, I share about the backstory, the purpose, and the meaning behind my new journal—available starting today through May 4 for limited release—the Dear Childhood Me journal! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 220 of You, Me, Empathy, Claire Bidwell Smith and I explore appreciating things we’ve taken for granted, feeling shame around having dead parents, anxiety as a missing stage of grief, and why our greatest life’s work as humans is to learn to sit with discomfort. Read the full show notes at FeelyHuman.co. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 219 of You, Me, Empathy, Becca Piastrelli, and I explore the journey of connecting to our bodies, the discomfort with being imperfectly human, silliness as a resilience builder, and community as an antidote to suffering. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 218 of You, Me, Empathy, Jacqueline Trumbull and I explore finding love in the midst of a global pandemic, the sheen of Hollywood and how fame is inherently traumatizing, Borderline Personality Disorder and a sense of identity, and how Jacqueline’s experience on The Bachelor was like psychological skydiving. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 217 of You, Me, Empathy, Shanae “HonestlyNae” Adams and I explore how the pandemic has impacted our relationships to our bodies, sex-positive parenting and relationships, sexuality within the Black community, and kink as an intervention for trauma. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 216 of You, Me, Empathy, Isis Avalos-Perez and I explore the disruption of identity that occurs in motherhood, how our disconnection from our bodies relates to Diversity, Inclusion, and Equity work, and the heaviness and shame that’s wrapped up in postpartum depression. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 215 of You, Me, Empathy, Eric Zimmer and I explore how diagnosis can be both helpful and a limitation, what’s changed for Eric in the four years since he’s been on the podcast, honing our spiritual habits, and feeling connected in community. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 214 of You, Me, Empathy, Mari Hegyi and I explore honoring both the excitement and grief of big life changes, addressing our deeply rooted limiting beliefs, going through a breakup in a pandemic, and realizing our innate lovability. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 213 of You, Me, Empathy, Yasmin Irfani and I explore being worried about what others think of us, the cultural norm of hard things being swept under the rug, how Yasmin’s openness about her mental health has juxtaposed with her Pakistani and Muslim family, and learning to be on your own side. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 212 of You, Me, Empathy, Daniel Oppong and I explore moving beyond our binary bunkers, how we can be more seen and understood as people, breaking free of our pre-determined identities, and why Diversity, Inclusion, and Equity (DEI) work is, at its core, about what it means to be human in the world. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 211 of You, Me, Empathy, Alexandra Katona and I explore the ways in which we’ve changed since our youth, nurturing independence in our kids, death anxiety after losing a parent, and the magical ways in which food connects us. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 210 of You, Me, Empathy, Chay Tanchanco and I explore slowing down enough to notice our need for restorative healing, being mindful of both intent and impact, why empathy isn’t a static but rather a dynamic power, and the helping, people-pleasing, codependent Anxious Perfectionist Giver. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 209 of You, Me, Empathy, I invite Emily Lynn Paulson (recovery coach, author of Highlight Real, and founder of Sober Mom Squad) to interview me about my first year of sobriety from alcohol—including a reflection on my drunk teenage years, why this sobriety feels different, how my mindset has changed since becoming sober, and how sobriety is a byproduct of deepening my self-awareness. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 208 of You, Me, Empathy, Dr. Joshua Black and I explore how our dreams can connect us deeper to our emotions and our empathy, the powerful role that dreams have played in Joshua’s relationship with his deceased father, why sometimes we remember our dreams and sometimes we don’t, and the fascinating and profound world of grief dreams. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 207 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s an end of the year reflection on deepening our capacity for curiosity and softness, what’s in store for Feely Human in 2022, New Years resolutions as internalized capitalism, and honoring the small moments. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 206 of You, Me, Empathy, Jordan Scovel and I explore being conditioned to compartmentalize, how being a parent makes us face our childhood trauma, bringing more connection and awareness to our bodies, and why we’re all just a bunch of beautiful, messy, mushy wild meat sacks. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 205 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a solo episode where I share about my life with Major Depressive Disorder, the life with an unknown monster inside of me, the illumination of a clinical diagnosis, and all the messy mush of being human. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 204 of You, Me, Empathy, Rachel and Derek, of Your Favorite Heretics, and I explore Christian deconstruction, the toxicity of forgiveness, religious and church trauma, and making peace with uncertainty and befriending mystery. Rachel and Derek are a wife and husband duo who are creating a safe space for deconstruction and recovery from church trauma. They run the popular Instagram account and brand, Your Favorite Heretics. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 203 of You, Me, Empathy, Ian Coss and I explore the courage and vulnerability of clarifying what you want within (and without) a relationship, whether we’re doomed to repeat the same patterns of our parents’ relationships, the structural and societal problems of the institution of marriage, and Ian’s amazing new podcast project on marriage and divorce, Forever Is a Long Time. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 202 of You, Me, Empathy, Sara Schaefer and I explore not waiting for permission to do the thing you love, navigating the business of comedy (and the trolls within it), Sara’s “gentle granny with a dark streak” persona, and how to be in a system and dismantle it too. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 201 of You, Me, Empathy, Brett Newski and I explore being bullied in high school, the tunnel vision of anxiety, embracing our small victories, and why music is feely. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 200 of You, Me, Empathy, I invite past guests and feely human friends to share their personally meaningful empathy strategies and mental health tips for a 200th episode celebration! From Mignon Fogarty’s daily walks and Shelby Forsythia’s prepositional phrases to Jessica Murnane’s nice shows and Rebecca-Monique’s mental filters, I hope that you find some meaning and beauty to apply to your own life, sweet feely human. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 199 of You, Me, Empathy, Scott Ste Marie and I explore vulnerability in the unscripted, the desire to be understood in our mental health, the work of compassionate inquiry, and why we may need to focus on more being and less doing. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 198 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a solo episode wherein I explore and unpack the phrase we hear so often, “you never know what people are going through,” the assumptions we make of people (and ourselves), and the healing we can find in letting go of rigidity in honor of curiosity and softness. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 197 of You, Me, Empathy, Katya Lidsky and I explore creating boundaries in an enmeshed and codependent family, feeling like you have to earn love and living, the tender and difficult pairing of a highly sensitive person with an eating disorder, and why loving an animal is one of the most available portals for self-healing in the world. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 196 of You, Me, Empathy, Erica Zisman and I explore how self-awareness is both beautiful and difficult, when your feelings are mislabeled, why it’s never too early to have conversations with kids about mental health, and how anxiety shows up in children. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 195 of You, Me, Empathy, Kulap Vilaysack, SuChin Pak, and I explore the necessity to sometimes compartmentalize our feelings, the calm and overwhelm that comes with list-making, Kulap’s survival skill of taking the emotional temperature of everyone in the room, SuChin’s life-changing empathy experience in a CVS, and what we’d Add to Cart for our mental health. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 194 of You, Me, Empathy, Allison Baggerly and I explore the high expectations we put on ourselves, talking to your parents about mental health, teenager depression, and navigating feelings of shame, fear, and anxiety around money. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 193 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a solo episode where I explore the force of toxic masculinity, shutting down as a survival tool, bros and dude culture, creating spaces for men to find their softness, and all things men and feelings. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 192 of You, Me, Empathy, Beebe and I explore the allure of being right, the gaslighting of sensitive kids, reparenting our inner child, living more fully in the messy, and Beebe’s beautiful new solo album—out September 17! SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 191 of You, Me, Empathy, Margaret Burton and I explore the taking of inventory we do in grief, how to better communicate our pain, the deep empathy and healing of outdoor adventures, and the importance of community in recovery. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 190 of You, Me, Empathy, Jen Wijnker and I explore the big feelings that made people uncomfortable growing up, shifting expectations of ourselves, the origins of our people pleasing, normalizing the human capacity for change within each other, and Jen’s beautiful role as a death doula. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 189 of You, Me, Empathy, it’s a solo episode where I explore why it’s our responsibility to protect the most vulnerable in our world, the impact of our choices, why it’s not about you and more about all of us, and getting vaccinated as an act of empathy. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 188 of You, Me, Empathy, Caleb Campbell and I explore the glorification of hustling, the untold grief wrapped up in expectations, purity culture, and why there’s no space for uncomfortable feelings within evangelical Christianity. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 187 of You, Me, Empathy, Dr. Anjani Amladi and I explore the weight of being a child psychiatrist, why kids are more observant than most parents give them credit for, why kids need to be seen and heard, and the ins and outs of trauma-informed care. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 186 of You, Me, Empathy, actor and photographer Amanda Crew and I explore being present and witness to each other’s dark bits, seeking external validation, women being conditioned to not express anger, eating disorder recovery in Hollywood, and why we alone define our worth. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 185 of You, Me, Empathy, Doree Shafrir and I explore how we define our own success, the societal construct of being a late bloomer, having empathy for past versions of ourselves, and Doree’s new memoir, Thanks for Waiting: The Joy (& Weirdness) of Being a Late Bloomer. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 184 of You, Me, Empathy, Tabitha Brooke and I explore the tension between trying to fix things and allowing things to be, growing up in a cult-like church, the psychological impact of narcissism on children, and the pursuit of loving yourself. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone

On Episode 183 of You, Me, Empathy, Jess Sprengle joins me and a bunch of feely humans for the very first live recording of the podcast! We explore the limits of empathy, the podcast mini-series called Activated By My Family you all think we should start, the many nuances of long-term eating disorder recovery, and what in the heck “getting back to normal” means. SUPPORT NŌN: Leave a 5-star reviewOrder The Feely CardsSubscribe to We Can't Do It Alone