UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

We spend so much time telling ourselves how other people should act and it keeps us frustrated, anxious, and stuck. In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that expose this trap. One caller is constantly angry about her partner’s availability, the other worries that her friends aren’t putting in as much effort as her. Both show how our expectations about how others behave can hijack our emotions and cloud our judgment. Tune in to hear why trying to control or judge other people never works - and what actually does. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/429Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Ever feel like you’re constantly giving love, safety, or approval away, but never getting enough back? Today’s guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. We’re breaking down emotional outsourcing, the habit of looking outside yourself for validation, and how it secretly shapes your relationships, work, and sense of self.We dig into practical ways to reconnect with your body, notice what you actually want, and reclaim your inner authority. You’ll get tools to break patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, shift how you relate to others, and start living from a place of self-trust rather than external approval.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/427Get Bea's new book here: beatrizalbina.com/bookThe Socratic Coaching Method Certification: thesocraticcoachingacademy.comFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

Ever been told to “just get over it” and felt like it made everything worse? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer a listener who’s struggling with that exact phrase and the pressure to move on before they’re ready. We dig into why vague instructions like this don’t help your brain—and what actually does.I also tackle a question about imagined critics and the way we judge ourselves through faceless others. Tune in to reclaim your authority over your thoughts, and discover the tools to stop letting your brain run the show.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/427Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

In this Greatest Hits episode, we’re diving into the science behind why coaching works—and why it can completely transform high-pressure careers. I’m revisiting my conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann about their groundbreaking research, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), and how structured coaching can change not just individual outcomes, but entire organizational cultures. Tune in to discover what their study revealed about coaching’s real-world impact, why traditional systems often leave women disproportionately stressed, and how coaching can produce measurable improvements in both performance and well-being.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/426The Socratic Coaching Method Certification: thesocraticcoachingacademy.com/Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Do you ever feel like you're chasing future happiness—only to miss out on the joy of right now? That nagging feeling that you should be doing something else or preparing for what’s next keeps you stuck in a loop of dissatisfaction.In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions about being present and actually enjoying life, instead of endlessly striving for the next goal. I break down why our brains love to sabotage our peace and show you how to create mental space and challenge the beliefs that keep you from being present.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/425

Ever felt that gut punch when you see someone else living the life you want? Maybe they’ve landed your dream job, bought your ideal house, or achieved the business success you’re chasing. It feels awful—like proof that you’ll never get there.In this episode, I’m showing you how to turn those painful feelings of envy and comparison into fuel for your own growth. You’ll learn the two key questions to ask yourself when envy strikes, how to challenge the scarcity mindset that keeps you stuck, and most importantly, I’ll teach you how someone else’s success can become your roadmap, not your roadblock.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/424

In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that get right to the heart of emotional responsibility. First, I tackle the studies on mood contagion you’ve probably seen—and show why they don’t actually contradict thought work. The second question digs into a classic relationship trap: knowing when to share your feelings with a partner and when you’re actually trying to manipulate them into making you feel better. By the end, you’ll have concrete ways to approach tough conversations that build real intimacy instead of criticism or blame.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/423

What if the reason you haven’t reached your biggest goals isn’t lack of talent or effort—but the illusion that you need a perfect plan before you even start?In this episode, you’ll learn why chasing certainty keeps you stuck, how overplanning can become a sophisticated form of procrastination, and why the “next right step” is more powerful than a five-year roadmap. You’ll discover how to set goals that excite—or even scare—you, and start making progress on the things that actually matter.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/422

Ever catch yourself overthinking how you show up around men—or in any situation where you feel judged? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question about maintaining platonic friendships while married and unpack why women are socialized to take responsibility for other people’s thoughts—a burden that’s impossible to carry and doesn’t belong to you.Then we dive into whether some circumstances actually require more thought work than others, using the workplace as an example. You’ll learn why what feels “hard” for you isn’t about the circumstance—it’s about your thinking—and how embracing that insight can change the way you navigate relationships, work, and life.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/421

The coaching industry is booming—yet it’s one of the most misunderstood professions out there. From concerns about pyramid schemes to questions of legitimacy, there’s a lot of confusion surrounding this coaching, especially in a field that’s predominantly female and largely online.So this week, I’m breaking down the most common myths and concerns about becoming a coach. I cover everything from startup costs and market saturation to whether coaching actually aligns with your strengths and desired lifestyle. You’ll learn the real numbers behind the industry, the different pathways into coaching (hint: entrepreneurship isn’t the only option), and how to know if coaching might be your calling.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/420

In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer two listener questions that reveal a common trap: we think circumstances create our feelings, when really our thoughts are doing all the work. One caller worries that ambition has become a perfectionist trap, the other wonders if meditation is just a way to avoid difficult emotions.I break down how to tell if meditation is actually processing emotions or just soothing your nervous system, and what it really means to live an extraordinary life. You’ll learn the difference between true emotional work and sophisticated avoidance—and how to reframe your biggest life questions in a way that actually gives you answers.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/419

Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing. In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417

Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing acceptance of her son's autism and advocating for his needs. The second is struggling with perfectionism, confusion about her work, and quitting projects before they gain traction.Tune in to hear how to stop tying your identity to external outcomes and why emotional resistance isn’t helping you. I break down how to navigate self-doubt and frustration, and why your true work is learning to love and accept yourself first—no matter what’s going on around you.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/415

Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’t something you find—it’s something you create. In this episode, you'll hear how purpose develops over time through small steps driven by what excites you, rather than a grand revelation.Discover how purpose isn’t a fixed destination—it’s about trusting those flickers of curiosity and interest and making intentional decisions along the way. Tune in to learn how to create your purpose by consistently moving toward what feels meaningful and exciting, even without knowing exactly where it will lead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/414Mentioned in this episode:Your Last Chance to Join The Society in 2025!Get in before the doors close and take advantage of all the bonuses waiting for you inside: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/closing

Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn’t text back at night).You’ll learn why your brain’s objections to new thoughts are a sign you’re on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don’t need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn’t about what your partner is doing—it’s about the story you’re making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413

What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m revisiting a powerful conversation with my dear friend and fellow master coach, Brenda Lomeli. Together, we discuss the courage, belief, and determination it takes to go after big goals—no matter the odds or the fear of failure. Brenda’s journey is a true testament to how breaking through limiting beliefs can create real, lasting success.Whether you’re starting a business, navigating personal growth, or simply pushing past your own limiting beliefs, this episode will give you the boost you need to keep moving forward. Tune in to learn how to step into your full potential and make it happen!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/412

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question explores the fear of being replaceable in a relationship, and we dive into why that fear is rooted in deeper beliefs about your uniqueness. Next, I coach a listener who’s terrified to undergo a second rhinoplasty after being unhappy with her first procedure. I talk about why changing external circumstances, like your appearance, won’t solve the internal struggle. Discover how learning to love yourself—just as you are—can create the lasting peace and confidence you’re seeking.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/411

What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to be perfect—and avoid harm—keeps us stuck. Whether it’s in relationships, business, or parenting, the desire to avoid mistakes leads to paralysis. You’ll learn why showing up fully, making mistakes, and being willing to learn from them lets you make a much bigger impact than not showing up at all. This episode will challenge you to break free from perfectionism, start acting from integrity—and get out of the paralyzing grip of fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/410

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409

What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do.You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes.If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407

Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your failures so you can make better decisions moving forward. Most of us are terrified of making mistakes, so we avoid risks, which keeps us stuck. But the truth is, mistakes aren’t the problem—it’s how we think about them.I’ll walk you through how to reflect on what went wrong, how to separate yourself from the shame of failure, and how to use that knowledge to make smarter, more confident decisions in the future. You’ll also learn how to stop telling yourself, “I can’t trust myself to make decisions,” and why this thought is holding you back. It’s time to stop avoiding mistakes and start seeing them as opportunities for growth.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/406

Ever catch yourself thinking your ex was the one or that losing weight will solve all your problems? Our brains can hold onto these beliefs for years, creating stories about why we’re single or why we need to lose weight. But what if the real issue isn’t the thoughts themselves, but what we make them mean?In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m breaking down why struggling with the same thoughts for years goes beyond just negative thinking. Identifying unhealthy thoughts isn’t enough—the real work is understanding how your beliefs about those thoughts are causing just as much suffering. Tune in to learn how to stop giving old thought patterns so much power and start creating the feelings you want in your life.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/405

In this week's Greatest Hits episode, I’m re-sharing 3 powerful takeaways from a recent event that have the potential to shift how you view yourself and your life. You'll hear how you have more creative potential than you realize, why resisting reality is the most painful thing you can put yourself through, and my best tips for building self-love. I’m also leaving you with one question I want you to contemplate and answer because, trust me, it is a total game changer.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/404

In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with whether you should do thought work when you're struggling emotionally—what I call being on the "struggle bus." The second addresses the challenge of sticking with decisions when your brain constantly wants to chase the next exciting thing. You'll hear some strategies to help you build commitment, even when you’re not feeling motivated, and learn why processing emotions should come before trying to change your thoughts.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous live event, starting with why it’s so hard to accurately assess where you are—and how that holds you back from making real progress.We’ll also dive into why something “feeling true” doesn’t mean it is actually true, and how shifting this mindset can help you release the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck. Finally, I’ll explain why you’ve got to be willing to be wrong in order to grow. You do not want to miss these takeaways, so grab your headphones and let’s go!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and societal expectations. One listener struggles with body image after years of parental criticism—believing their worth is tied to their size. Another feels frustrated by always initiating sex in their marriage—turning intimacy into resentment.Both questions highlight a key issue: we let other people’s actions dictate how we feel about ourselves. Whether it’s believing your worth is tied to your body size—or thinking your partner needs to initiate intimacy for it to “count”—you’re giving away your power. Tune in to learn how to take it back.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/401

Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones— the prestigious career, the perfect body, the ideal partner. We’re taught that once we check off all the boxes and achieve enough, fulfillment will follow. But is that really true?After 400 episodes of Unfuck Your Brain, I’ve completely transformed my life—but not by following the blueprint society handed me. The real shift happened when I stopped chasing the generic dream everyone else told me I should want and started figuring out what I actually wanted for myself. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the three things I’ve learned that actually helped me build my dream life, plus the concrete steps that can help you start creating yours.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/400

Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary emotion we either have or don’t have. But here’s the truth: confidence is much more than a feeling. In fact, the feeling of confidence is the last part—and the least important part. In this episode, I’m breaking down why treating confidence as just a feeling keeps us stuck, and what you really need to focus on to create lasting, transformative confidence in your life. Listen in as I explain how to create the foundation of confidence you’ve been missing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/399

Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body, that feeling of inadequacy can keep you stuck, unable to move forward.In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why insecurity isn’t the real issue—it’s the lack of emotional security within yourself. When we’re constantly comparing ourselves to external expectations, we feel unsafe, unworthy, and disconnected from who we really are. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset, build emotional safety, and start living in alignment with your own values.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/398

Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixation zaps your energy and keeps you from being your authentic self. But here's the truth: the more you focus on their opinions, the less you connect with your own.In this episode, I’m diving into why “just letting it go” never works, and why your brain can’t simply switch off these thoughts. I’ll show you how to uncover the deeper beliefs fueling your worries, and teach you how to replace them with thoughts that actually support you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/397

Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396

Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There’s a reason women tend to fixate on others’ opinions, and it’s not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity. This week, I’m diving into why this preoccupation with others’ opinions is so powerful for women—and why it’s not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn’t to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395

Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394

Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393

Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391

Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself.Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390

What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We’re taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it’s sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don’t make waves, be content with “good enough.”But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389

Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it’s shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I’m sharing how I’m navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol’ question mark.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388

Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn’t quite feel believable, you already know it doesn’t work that way. In this episode, I’m breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387

Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what if it’s actually the perfect time to dream bigger, take more risks, and redefine what’s possible for ourselves?This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She’s sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386

Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natural for your brain to spiral. But staying stuck in that disoriented, doom-scrolling state isn’t actually helping you feel safer—it’s just keeping you trapped in stress and anxiety.In this episode, I break down why your brain wants to keep obsessively checking the news and why that strategy never really helps. Plus, I’ll share one powerful mindset shift that can help you navigate this unsettling time. Tune in to learn how to make this shift and find a little more peace—no matter what’s happening around you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/385

Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then you’d finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I’m joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture’s obsession with productivity and perfection, why it actually makes us more anxious, and how to stop chasing an impossible standard and start spending your precious time in a way that actually matters. If you’re ready to stop feeling like life is a never-ending to-do list, this episode is for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/384

Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it’s our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted.Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain’s alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing in disguise, and refocus on your actual sphere of influence—so you can take meaningful action without burning yourself out.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/383

Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond?Women are taught from birth that we’re too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it’s costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode, I’m breaking down why it’s crucial to trust yourself, how to develop self-efficacy even when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and why waiting for permission or direction is the biggest thing holding you back.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/382

Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner, to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381

Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top.In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/380