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The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and relationships. Then a listener writes in to ask how to move on in the midst of a pandemic after calling things off with her boyfriend of two years. Is it normal to feel ‘frozen’ after a devastating breakup? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about getting stuck in a guy’s bathroom the morning after a one night stand. Then another emailer asks how to tell her college boyfriend that she wants him to focus on getting a new job for the sake of their shared future. Is it fair to expect him to prioritize their future immediately out of college, or should she move on from the relationship altogether? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a revelation about Jared and Jordana’s love of Benihana (even on a first date). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hooking up with asked if he could keep the conversation going even though they’ve made it clear they’re not looking for the same things. Is he hoping she will change her mind about hooking up casually even though she’s told him otherwise? J&J read the back-and-forth text exchange and explain where both parties stand. Plus, they tell us why guys will keep trying to circle back to see if your standards have changed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into the Christmas spirit the way they did as children. Then they answer an email from a listener who is devastated to find out that her ex is already back to dating his college girlfriend just a month after they split. How do you get over having someone move on to a new relationship so quickly? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a female condom that went missing in action. Then another listener writes in to ask why her ex-boyfriend didn’t give her the response she was looking for when she tried to rekindle their relationship after breaking up with him. Finally, the J's are joined by comedian and actor Bo Burnham to talk about the new movie Promising Young Woman and to play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including one about sharing a meal-prep promo code on a dating app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text exchange with a guy who failed to plan another meetup and won’t come to her city this time around. Is he intentionally keeping her on the hook without letting things get serious? Finally, they talk about why it’s important to figure out what you actually want out of the relationship in order to understand what to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should tell a guy about her drastic weight loss before hooking up, especially if she’s feeling insecure. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an exchange of “I love you’s” and some embarrassing oral sex. Then another listener asks if her boyfriend is looking to break up with her or just setting expectations for the future. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker featuring a conversation about whether it’s harder to date someone that’s a total grinch or way too into the holiday spirit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine fling. Is he really interested in finding out “how you’re doing” or is he just looking to hook up again? Plus, J&J talk about whether or not people ever want someone to check in out of the blue, and why no one is ever straightforward about their motives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk about Jordana’s destiny as a Christmas tree connoisseur. Then they answer a listener email about how to tell the guy she started seeing that she wants to be exclusive for the sake of covid safety. How do you broach the subject without coming off as "too much" to someone you’ve only been dating for a month? Another listener asks how to safely connect for a casual meetup in the times of covid closures. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a passionate hookup and an accidental 911 call. Then another listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she expects a pricey engagement ring. How do you explain that you care about the marriage but also care about the ring? Finally, they finish things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including a debate about backseat driving. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.” Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spying. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween hookup and a chance run-in with his parents the next morning. Next, a listener asks whether or not she should be concerned that her long-term boyfriend is talking about getting a dog even though she doesn't approve. Does this mean that he’s not thinking of her as being part of his life in the future? Finally, they close things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about whether or not you should date a former reality show contestant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she wasn’t home. Should she be worried that he has something to hide, or is this a violation of his privacy? Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about splitting the check on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if they were “on the same page” as one another. They read the last text exchange between the couple and try to decipher what it all means. Do guys stop texting because they’re afraid of commitment, or is it something else? Finally, they discuss whether or not this girl should have played things differently, drawing comparisons to the situation in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on his roommate, and whether or not it’s weird that he and the roommate are doing a couples costume for Halloween. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween costume, a circus theme, and some spontaneous role play. Then another emailer asks if she should hold off on dating again after a difficult breakup. At what point do you admit that you might never get closure and start dating again? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including one about using coupons on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too long. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing called things off after four dates (despite great chemistry), and whether or not it really boils down to the fact that she said she wanted to wait longer before having sex. Plus, they discuss the proper etiquette for calling things off and why people try to soften the blow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if she should just pick up and move to a new city to improve her odds of finding someone. Is the city ever really the cause of your dating woes? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a mid-sex pause to return a text. Another emailer asks whether or not she should confront her boyfriend after snooping on his phone and finding unanswered late-night texts to an unknown number. How are you supposed to react when you snoop and find something suspicious? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about what it means if the person you just started dating doesn’t follow you back on social media. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silent with no explanation. Should he have given her excuses in order to fade out slowly instead of abruptly ghosting her? J&J read the texts and tell us exactly what happened here, along with insight into what this guy was actually thinking when he ghosted. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a normal dating life if you’re not a drinker. Will people judge you on a first date if you don’t order alcohol? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a secret work hookup. Then another emailer asks how to react when the guy she’s been living with declares that they aren’t officially dating. Why do some guys go out of their way to avoid putting a label on the relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who make instagram accounts for their dogs. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the bedroom. They start out by settling a debate from a recent Awkward Sexual Encounter regarding peeing during an erection. Then they read an email from a listener whose boyfriend experiences erectile dysfunction and is afraid to seek treatment. When a guy can’t get it up, is the problem more likely to be mental or physical? They also discuss guys who have a problem staying erect, as well as those who orgasm too quickly. Finally, they close the show with some surprising information about infertility in men. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ask how she should react to her partner crying over the stress of work, especially now that they are stuck working from home in the same space. How do you help a partner who won't help themself? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who doesn’t think girls fart and a ruined hookup. Then another emailer asks if it’s fair to expect his partner to continue working when they get married even though he can afford to support them financially. Do people really care if their partner is “ambitious” or is it actually all about the money? Finally, they play some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about guys and their fantasy drafts. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get $80 off on your first box, including free shipping. Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out by reading both sides of the text exchange, and weigh in on whether or not the guy’s explanation was sufficient. Does it feel better or worse to get the “I’m actually dating someone else” excuse or nothing at all? Plus, they discuss whether or not you should ever give someone another chance if they come back around and try to go on another date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was dating selected the “don’t know” option in the “what are you looking for” menu of a dating app. How honest should your dating profile be about what you’re actually looking for? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and a piece of mint gum. Then another emailer asks why the girl he was seeing broke things off the way she did. When someone seems sad to be ending things, does that mean the door is still open for a relationship down the road? Finally, they close the show with some RF or DB, including a conversation about how to react when a guy doesn’t plan anything for the first date. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner to continue with their plans for marriage and kids even during a pandemic. Is it okay to admit that your biological clock is not pandemic proof? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about social media turn offs. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive Market: Join Thrive Market at ThriveMarket.com/UUP and get up to $20 in shopping credit toward your first order. Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener emails to ask whether or not the relationship labels conversation needs to be explicit. Is it fair to assume you can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend without first discussing it? Finally, they finish with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone who wants to be an influencer. Go to shopbetches.com/collections/uup and check out our latest show merch! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Finally, an emailer asks if it’s normal for her boyfriend to continue staying at his family’s vacation home even though they just moved in together. Is it fair to ask him to spend more time at home so that she doesn’t feel so lonely? You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices