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Ep 397The Anniversary Episode
It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 396Can Family Dynamics Be A Deal Breaker?
We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 395Why Won’t My Friends Set Me Up? Ft. Fortune Feimster
On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jordana gives some potential reasons they’re not telling him, and Jared breaks down how his attitude toward dating might be playing a role. J&J are joined by Fortune Feimster to finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about exes on Instagram, Hinge profiles, and the wrong times to bring up your mom. Big Steve Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-passing-of-big-steve-bouncer-at-comedy-cellar?member=2[…]campaign=p_na+share-sheet&utm_medium=sms&utm_source=customer Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 394Do You Have To Reply To A Breakup Text?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 393Why Doesn’t He Ask Me Any Questions?
Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break down what it means when people say they’re “so single.” The first emailer asks if a guy not asking any questions about her is a reason to end the relationship. J&J rephrase her email to help her see this situation clearly. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some improper condom disposal. Later, a listener asks why old situationships pop back up once you get into a relationship. What are they hoping to get out of this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mice, cash gifts, and cheating friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 392Why Do Men Make Promises They Can’t Keep? Ft. Delaney Rowe
J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the meanest comments they’ve gotten online. Then they dive into Delaney’s dating life and how her career has impacted it. In the spirit of spooky season, they answer an email asking whether or not it’s ghosting if both people stop texting. Is “ghosting” overused in general now? Plus, Delaney asks Jared why men make promises they don’t intend to keep. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 391Is “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Accurate?
On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. The first emailer asks if “He’s Just Not That Into You” holds up in 2022. If the guy she hung out with once wanted to see her again, wouldn’t he just make a plan? What do people actually mean when they say “if he wanted to he would”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for sports bar hookups. Later, a listener asks how to recover from the first fight with her boyfriend. They made up, but she’s still feeling self-conscious in the relationship. Is this just the end of the honeymoon phase? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about “crepe-fishing,” flossing, and concert etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 390How To Talk About Money With Your S.O. Ft. Ramit Sethi
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with a conversation about Ramit’s work with couples to change their mindsets on money, and he gives an exercise for couples to open up the conversation about their finances. Later, they answer an email from a listener wrestling with an income difference in her relationship. She’s moving in with her boyfriend who makes $300k more than her, and she can already feel the resentment building. How should she handle his snarky comments? Plus, they talk about how important non-monetary contributions are to relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 389Am I Giving Up If I’m Not On The Apps?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwaukee. The first emailer asks if she’s gotten too comfortable being single after a friend told her she feels like she’s giving up. Does she need to put herself out there more or should she continue focusing on herself? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a “king size” man and a CPAP machine. Later, J&J listen to a voicemail asking how to approach dating apps when you definitely don’t want kids. Should she avoid guys whose profiles say they do want kids? Is she too worried about wasting her time? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nosey friends, football obsessed boyfriends, and couples costumes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 388Stop Romanticizing Your Ex
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences trying to be friends with exes and how that idea changes as you get older. Then, they dive into the email detailing a listener’s relationship with her ex from college. They broke up but stayed in touch through their friend group, and they eventually ended up in the same city again. When she told him she was thinking about getting back together, he said he wanted to stay friends, but now that she’s dating someone else, he tried to make a move. Why is she so committed to being friends with this guy anyway? Plus, J&J discuss the hard truth behind every breakup and the problem with romanticizing your exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 387Do Guys Care Less Once It’s Official?
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her family dynamic with 9 siblings. Jared updates Jordana on his dating goals from his latest U Up? With Benefits episode. The first emailer asks if guys care less once the relationship becomes official after noticing her new boyfriend has been putting in a lot less effort. Should she “match his energy” or speak up about her annoyance? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a Lizzie McGuire style escapade. Later, J&J read an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over exes who seemed to disappear after the breakup. She’s in a happy relationship, so why can’t she stop trying to keep tabs on them? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about missing teeth, bluelight glasses, and dating app openers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 386Should I Reach Out Again If The Timing Wasn’t Right?
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emailer sends in screenshots of the very nice breakup text she received after two great dates. He didn’t want to keep dating because he was moving but told her to let him know if she was ever in his new city. Fast forward a year, and she’s moving there for work, so should she ask him to grab a beer? J&J break down all the possibilities she should think about before she reaches out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 385Lightning Round Part 2: Embracing Disappointment, The World’s Saddest Pep Talk, and Romantic Coffee Dates
This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park City. Then they dive right into the second half of your Lightning Round questions about everything from moving in with your long distance S.O. to making a coffee date actually feel like a date. Plus, Jared gives the world’s saddest pep talk. Detours include planning where Jared would move for a date and Jewish mom erotica. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 384Will Losing Weight Fix My Relationship?
J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jordana’s days as a babysitter in the city. Then, they dive into the email from a listener whose husband wants her to lose weight. They’ve both been on their own health journeys, but she’s healed her relationship with her body and he’s still struggling. After he revealed he prefers a thinner body type than hers, she asks if she should try to lose the weight for him. Would that solve any of their issues in the long run? Plus, they talk about the best way to address it without putting him on the defense. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 383Lightning Round Part 1: Adam Levine, Standing Out On Dating Apps, & Living With A Disgusting
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Jared’s adventures in Buffalo and the recent cheating accusations against Adam Levine. Then, they get into your questions ranging from how to stand out on dating apps to how to meet people IRL as an introvert. Plus, they discuss the old line that “the best relationships are when the man loves the woman more than she loves him” and give advice for disgustings cohabitating with non-disgustings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 382What Should You Expect When Visiting A Long Distance Fling?
Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long-distance situationship. They go into what you should expect when you’re taking a chance and getting on a plane to meet up with someone. The first night of her visit went great, but the next night felt off and he made excuses to not see her again before she left. She says she got the ick after he needed too much reassurance that she liked him, but J&J aren’t sure that’s the full story. They break down the games he’s playing and why this trip was a little weird from the start. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 381How Much Time Do You Need Between Relationships?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by Jared’s mom. The first emailer writes in to ask if she’s jumping into a commitment too quickly after a long term relationship ended. Should she stick with her goal of staying single for at least a year even if she really likes the guy she’s seeing? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves way too much tongue. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s smoking habit. She wasn’t bothered by him smoking weed before they lived together, but now she’s majorly turned off. How much can she expect him to change his lifestyle? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about backhanded compliments, early “I love you”s, and plumbing problems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 380Are You Dating Like You’re In A Relationship?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a male listener who keeps finding himself in the same dating situation. After about two months of dating someone, he gets a text saying he’s a really nice guy, but they don’t see it going anywhere romantically. Jordana gives the honest version of these texts that he’s not getting. Is there anything he should do differently or is this just a normal part of dating? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss the ways men and women break up differently. Subscribe to our channel on YouTube! www.betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 379How To Avoid Dating App Burnout
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion about happy birthday etiquette and. Then, J&J discuss a New York Times article all about dating app burnout and how to avoid it. Have dating apps done more damage than good over the last ten years? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very large man in a very small bed. Next, they answer an email from a listener asking if how her boyfriend talks about his exes is a red flag. Is it possible that all of them really are “crazy” or does he just not want to talk about it? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about checking yourself out in the mirror, liking friends on dating apps, and keeping the Christmas tree up year round. Link to the article: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html?smid=url-share Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 378How Secure People Respond To Rejection
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how people with secure attachment styles respond to rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 377How To Take The Pressure Off Of Your Dating Life
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a chat about the start of fall (aka hookup season), Jordana’s birthday plans, and her gift to all of you. The first emailer asks if she should go out with a guy who previously canceled their first date because he decided to be exclusive with someone else. Should she still go out with him if she feels like his second choice? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a one night stand gone wrong. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks how to handle birthday gifts in a new relationship. Does she have to buy him the gift he’s been dropping hints about? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sleep routines, and poop stories. Check out the brand new U Up? YouTube channel by visiting: betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 376Are Work Crushes Hurting My Love Life?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks why she keeps falling for her long distance coworkers. She explains that she quickly hit it off with a coworker she only knew via Zoom, but he ended things after she visited him in his city to meet IRL. Now, she feels herself falling into the same pattern with a different coworker. Should she go for it? Is there a deeper reason she’s in this situation all over again? Jared and Jordana break down where she’s being too hard on herself and what she should do differently this time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 375“The Rise Of Lonely, Single Men”?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Charleston and Jared’s side hustle as a bachelorette party planner. Then, they talk about an article that exactly 3 people sent to Jordana called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a barnyard bang. Later, a listener asks if her f*ck buddy of 5 years could possibly turn into a real relationship. Why does she suddenly want something more with this person? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about screenshotting selfies, holding hands with your mom, and surprise condoms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 374Can You Trust A Drunk Text?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out by planning Jordana’s trip to Charleston. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana how much she should believe drunk texts from a guy saying how much he likes her. Are drunk texts sober thoughts? Does it matter that he’s followed new girls on Instagram since they met? They finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle to the tune of the Full House theme song. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 373Should I Join A “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook Group?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about a recent date Jared went on where he might be the red flag. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook pages popping up in many cities. Are these groups empowering for women or a slippery slope? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is less than eye-deal. Later, a listener writes in about her fiancé’s underwhelming proposal. How can she ask him to make up for it without seeming like she’s not excited to marry him? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cockroaches, bad manners, and going barefoot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 372How Much Vetting Is Too Much Before A First Date?
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jordana’s dorm mistakes and the vulnerability of being a little clueless. The emailer sends in screenshots of a text exchange where a guy vetted her by asking about deal breakers before the first date. If someone gives an extensive list of deal breakers before a first date, is it even worth it to go? J&J discuss what you actually need to know about someone and how much texting is too much before a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 371Would You Want To Be On A Singles List?
On this week’s episode, Jared is back from his French adventure and ready to give Jordana the full recap of the trip and responses to his social media coverage. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on a “Singles List” she encountered at a recent wedding. Is it a fun way to meet people or is it a little presumptuous of the bride and groom? The listener forgets her underwear in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. The next email asks how to deal with snoring in a relationship. Are the listener and her boyfriend doomed to sleep in separate bedrooms? Would that even be so bad? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about scary movies, duvet covers, and handshakes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 370Do You Actually Want To Know Why They Ended It?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they’ve got the screenshots from a listener who’s confused by the lack of communication from a guy she’s dating. He told their mutual friends that he’s into it, so why won’t he initiate any texts even after she brought it up? Is she confused about whether or not he likes her or does she just not like him? J&J translate the texts to what the emailer and this guy would say if they were both being completely honest. Plus, they talk about how there’s two sides to every date and why “I don’t know why” is the most annoying excuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 369Am I Trusting My Gut Or Being Judgemental? Ft. Zoey Deutch
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how every family has a “lazy one” and why they need a travel agent. The first emailer asks how to trust your gut on whether or not you like someone. She lists several reasons she doesn’t think they’re a match, but is she being too judgmental? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual accessory. Later, a listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend never had a “hoe phase.” Do men even think about dating phases like that or is he trying to warm her up for a breakup? J&J advise her on how to address it with him which leads to a conversation about “relationship talk” and emotional maturity. Finally, Jordana is joined by Zoey Deutch to chat about her new movie “Not Okay” and play around of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying on your profile, seeing ghosts, and ordering off the kids’ menu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 368Stop Worrying About The Friend Group
J&J are fresh off the flight from the U Up? Live show in Chicago and ready to solve dating with another Sunday Special. The listener writes in about a situationship with (debatably) 22 years of history. She explains that they didn’t want to date long distance, but now that they’re finally going to be living in the same city, she’s not sure what to expect. Should she be worried that things will move too quickly since they’ve known each other for so long? Plus, J&J talk about how they might not know each other as well as they think. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 367What’s The Right Texting Ratio?
Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” The first emailer asks how often she should be initiating text conversations with guys she’s dating. Is 60% of the time too much or is she just overthinking all of this? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost sacrilegious. Later, a hotline caller asks how to non-awkwardly break out the lube during sex with a new partner. Do guys care about this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about condom disposal, posing nude, and profile photo faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 366Can Height Be A Deal Breaker? Ft. Patti Stanger
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation about what has changed about dating over the course of Patti’s career and being “dickmatized.” Later, they answer an email from a listener who’s having a hard time being attracted to her boyfriend because of his height. Should she try to overcome her own insecurity of feeling “huge” next to him? Or is feeling this way a deal breaker? Jared, Jordana, and Patti all share wisdom from their mothers and reveal their own superficial deal breakers. Plus, Patti takes a turn solving dating for Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 365Can I Ask My BF To Clean Out His Following List?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vacation can turn you into a monster. The first emailer writes in to ask how to deal with her fiancé continuing to follow women from before their relationship. She says she trusts him, so is her “ick” valid? How much can she negotiate his following count? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate bathroom break. Later, a listener emails in about her pattern of getting cold feet in long term relationships. Is she wasting their time or is this a normal part of dating? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about white lies, well done steak, and gifts from exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 364Do Men Avoid Hookups To Avoid Blame?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for 5 years. Now they’re finally living in the same place, but they’ve only managed to get together twice, both with no kiss. Did they miss their dating window? Or is he just more interested in making friends in his new city? Plus, they discuss the person you go on one date a year with because you don’t trust your former self. J&J finish the episode with a new rap jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 363It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ring when she knows she won’t be getting engaged for at least a year. J&J explain how social media plays a role here. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about promotional pens, sleeping habits, and dating app photos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 362Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 361What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the third date. Was the kiss more meaningful than either of them are letting on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an accidental AirPlay. Later, a listener asks if it’s possible to be too in control in her dating life. Looking back on her last relationship, she realized that she was the one initiating all of their next steps. Did she miss a red flag that he wasn’t bringing up these conversations? What do men actually mean when they say they’re not ready for a relationship? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about close friends lists, group chats, and lookalikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 360How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 359Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turned off by guys who go to therapy. Does being in therapy mean they’re not ready to date? Are they bringing it up to be vulnerable or because they saw a TikTok saying that women want to date guys who go to therapy? Later, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about messy cars, dating profile updates, and gift shopping. Link to the How I Met Your Mother video from today's email: HIMYM Crazy/Hot Scale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 358“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing
J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some tough love and translate exactly what he means by “I like you as a friend.” Plus, they talk about how to approach dating when you’re feeling extra lonely and listen to a listener’s jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 357Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties. Later, an emailer asks how to get over the ick in a relationship. How can she kindly get her girlfriend to stop using baby talk? Is baby talk actually the problem here? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about manipulative behavior, video texting, and post-sex peanuts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 356How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she wants to hear? Plus, they talk about how to spot guys who give convenient answers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 355How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Below Deck. Later, a hotline caller asks what guys think when you block them. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about holding hands, post-sex hygiene, backpacks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 354Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?
It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 353Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-opener. Later, an emailer asks if her idea to hand out flirty business cards is dumb or genius. Will she come off as confident or desperate? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about elevators, name mix ups, and restaurant tips. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 352Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 351What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or is he jealous of her success? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Faux Pas canned cocktails, all about disappearing dates, unsolicited advice, and going barefoot in the airport. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 350Vague Questions Get Vague Answers
Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook up regrets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 349How To Do A Mini Reveal
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not having more sexual experiences before they settle down? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about ball scratching, happy hour, and elaborate jokes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ep 348How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices