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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff back from her ex. What is his motivation to hang on to these things? And what items should you just let go of in a breakup? Plus, they discuss how the reasons for a breakup get spun by each side of the relationship. Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries about fish pictures and goat DNA. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for swiping left based on height. Should she stick with her preference or try to be open in case she misses out on a great match? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roommate that didn’t realize what she was walking in on. The next emailer asks how she can make it clear that she’s networking and not flirting with men she meets at events. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding dates and meeting the parents. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was the f*ckboy in the situation and whether or not the guy’s response was justified. Is it ever okay to send a Venmo request for a meal you originally agreed to pay for? Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries featuring overly sexual and overly earnest prompt responses. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post articles about “golden penis syndrome” and divorce rates among couples who met on dating apps. Then they discuss the new Hinge voice recording feature and whether or not they would use it on their own profiles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves shower sex and a flooded pool table. Then they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about your location, dog Instagram accounts, and bedtime routines. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break up on her birthday, he’s been completely avoiding her at work and making things uncomfortable. How should she reach out to him to end the awkwardness? Plus, they discuss his motives for ignoring her. Finally, they play Sunday Swiping Scaries with dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about dating during the holiday season with topics ranging from buying gifts to dealing with nosey family members. Plus, they discuss deciding where to spend the holidays when you’re in a relationship, keeping dating momentum going during the holiday season, and tips for bringing someone home for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling because he’s busy and exhausted. Will he want to date when the time is right or is he just looking for a hookup? Later, J&J play a new game called Sunday Swiping Scaries where they discuss dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers and decide whether to swipe right or left. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first emailer asks if walking away to get a guy to commit ever works. Does it actually mean anything when guys come back? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a misplaced piece of gum. Another emailer asks if being disinterested in sex is a sign she should end her long term relationship. Finally, J&J are joined by comedian Ricky Velez to discuss his new HBO special and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about concerts, creepy exes, and TSA pre-check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start with a discussion about how Berna ended her long-term relationship and how they mixed and unmixed their finances. Then they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend is resisting starting a savings account with her. Is his hesitation about his relationship with money or his relationship with her? Plus, they discuss how money is tied to our emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is easier for guys. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is too close to his mom. Will she ever be his go-to for advice and support? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a hat-fish situation. Later, a listener asks how seriously she should take other women’s warnings about a guy she went on three great dates with. Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about seat belts and Androids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costume plans. This week’s emailer asks if you can set your standards too soon. In her relationship with a self-proclaimed avoidant dater, she tried to call him out for keeping her at a distance and asked if he saw their relationship getting more serious. It didn’t go as she hoped, and now she’s wondering how things would’ve gone if she had waited to set her standard. Plus, they discuss why people date with no purpose in mind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The first emailer asks if “we weren’t exclusive” is the new “we were on a break.” Is exclusivity a technicality? And are there different expectations for people you meet IRL versus on the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken disaster. Later, a listener asks why she feels the need to “win” the break up with her ex. Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog dads, mama’s boys, and wine etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or just being friendly. J&J dissect their texts and DMs to decide. Should she make a move? Plus they discuss why men love vague relationships and what they get out of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates to dating. The first email is from a listener who wants to know how to get her boyfriend to put in more effort in bed. How should she bring this up to him in a constructive way? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nose bleed and an unfortunate roommate run in. Later, a listener asks if she should get back together with her ex. Is getting back together ever a good idea? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cringe-worthy hobbies and third wheels on the first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever worth it to “chase” someone. After three dates, she felt like his communication became inconsistent and he always had excuses to not meet up, so she sent a text to set her standard. Jared and Jordana debate the effectiveness of her text and analyze his response. Should she keep pursuing this guy? Plus, they discuss why guys don’t take the out when you give it to them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The White Lotus. The first email is from an admittedly analytical listener asking how you actually know when you’re in love. Could research ever find you an answer? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a close call with a friend’s parents. Later, a friend group asks how to deal with making more money than most of the guys she ends up dating in their small hometown. How should they talk about money with their dates? And how should they handle men who are intimidated by this wage gap? Finally they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about siblings, private social clubs, and LinkedIn stalking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communication. After a girl he was newly seeing started texting him a lot, he asked to dial it back, but her reaction was not what he expected. How should he have handled this situation? Plus, they discuss when, if ever a text is better than a phone call for a serious conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at using dating apps. The first emailer asks what the difference is between love bombing and the honeymoon phase. Does love bombing always have to be toxic? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an OB/GYN in training. Later, an emailer asks how to deal with going out with her friends and getting more attention from guys than they do. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about first date selfies, indigestion, and rule followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckboy, she doesn’t believe the romantic things he says when he comes back into her life, but she continues to hook up with him anyway. Is she leading him on now? Plus, J&J discuss relationships that drain your dating battery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on December 8th. The first emailer asks how much information is too much in a breakup. Is it helpful to give someone the specific reason you’re ending a relationship or is it just cruel? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blow job mishap. Later, a listener asks how she should balance wanting to date with loving her consistent routine. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about business dinners, Kim Kardashian, and shower schedules. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s phone. Should she be concerned by this message? How should she bring this up to him without breaking the trust in their relationship? Plus, they discuss how to deal with his potential reactions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email asks how to know if you’re someone’s rebound. If they constantly bring up their ex, does it mean they’re not over them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual request. Later, a listener asks if a guy she’s seeing is doing too much too soon. Is he weird or is she just not into him? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaccination cards and Instagram pictures. U Up? Live is coming back this winter for a one-day show on December 8 in New York City! Tickets are available for pre-sale starting September 22nd. Visit betches.co/uuplive21 and use code BETCHES between now and Friday before tickets are made available to everyone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating. They start out with a conversation about how heightened political differences have manifested on dating apps. Then they answer an email from a listener about a guy she’s been seeing who has different opinions on heavy topics like guns. Do their differences mean they’re doomed? Plus they discuss how you should broach conversations about these topics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How should she express interest outside of texting and social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very hot car. Later, they answer an email from a listener asking how to be vulnerable with her partner about her insecurities. Finally, J&J are joined by Violet Benson, host of Too Tired To Be Crazy, to discuss her dating life and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about roommates and squatty potties. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met last October. At first he says he didn’t want a relationship and she was fine with that, but they continued to hang out and hook up. Eventually they have a DTR talk and he says he can see them dating in the future, but he needs to figure his own life out. Is he a f*ckboy for giving her hope for the future? Or should she have taken him at his original word? Plus they discuss how to know what being in love feels like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she’s not physically attracted to him. Can attraction grow over time? Is it a deal breaker if it doesn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a bloody nightmare. Later, an emailer asks if she can recover from letting her “crazy” show too soon. Should she address it or just move on? Finally, J&J are joined by Love Is Blind star Giannina Gibelli to chat about life after the show and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about making plans, serial daters, and wedge salads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign. Do long messages make up for taking 48 hours to respond? Are these long waiting periods okay at any point in a relationship? Plus, they discuss what enthusiasm actually looks like over text. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana’s feelings on the first Betches baby. A listener emails in asking if you can be too busy to date. Is it even worth it to schedule a date two weeks away? Or does she need to reprioritize? The awkward sex story involves a misplaced naked man. Later, an emailer asks how to go back to “real” dates after you’ve done a “hangout” date. Is there a more serious version of the hangout date? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leaves them asking, “How many plants is too many plants?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share more wisdom with Jared and Jordana. They start out with a discussion about post-pandemic dating from Logan’s research at Hinge and how it might be different from what “shot girl summer” predicted. Then, they discuss why we often look over the consistent, “nice” person and tips for going on dates the right way. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who isn’t sure if she wants to stay with her boyfriend of 5 years, and Logan gives advice on how to know if you’re settling or not. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers and give real solutions to all of your social media issues, from how to craft the perfect DM to when to make your relationship Instagram official. Plus, they discuss which social media behavior should be a red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a guy she had been dating for about 3 months. They met through mutual friends, but he was sketchy about her meeting his other friends. After an awkward situation where neither of them made the move to say hello in public, she decided to call it off. Did she overreact? Or did the situation prove that they’re looking for different things? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener for our newest segment, F*ckboy or Nah? Does honesty make someone exempt from f*ckboyhood? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a mystery for Jared and Jordana to solve. Later, they answer an email about money etiquette when on vacation with your boyfriend’s family. Should you make an effort to pay for something or enjoy the hospitality? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about moms on Facebook and Close Friends on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app went well, but the second date was rescheduled and the third was canceled. She sent a text setting her standard for following through on dates, and they ended up deciding to take things slow and keep it casual. Over a few weeks of being friends with benefits, his communication gets more and more inconsistent, and he ultimately tells her they can’t hook up anymore. Why would he want to end a casual but consistent hookup? Plus, J&J discuss the expectations in a casual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks how to juggle dating multiple people at once. When does she have to choose one guy to focus on? Does she need to tell them she’s dating around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a dangerous food fetish. Later, J&J answer another email from a listener asking how she should bring up that she’s unsure about having kids. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about poetry, social media comments, and picky eaters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener shares screenshots from her FWB who won’t take a hint that she’s no longer interested. Did she lead him on? How can she cut ties without feeling guilty? Plus they discuss the female version of a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What is a f*ckboy anyway?” J&J break down what actually makes someone a f*ckboy and where a lot of people get the definition wrong. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an infection in an unexpected area. Later, an emailer asks how to break off a relationship with her professor without getting anyone in trouble or impacting her grades. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about unconventional living situations and going viral. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they answer an email from a listener who asks how to get more words of affirmation from her husband. Is it annoying for her to keep asking? Plus, Jordana shares a similar issue she had with her fiancé and how she dealt with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change one of her Hinge prompts. Will some guys always try to make it sexual or is her prompt putting out that vibe? A listener’s romantic vacation goes to sh*t in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend of 10 years cheated on her. Can they still make it work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leads to a conversation about bedroom decor, weight loss, and outfit choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is still up in the air. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be more independent from his family? And is it rude to ask to spend less time with his family? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram hashtags, former friends with benefits, and unread text messages. Get the brand new "IRL Summer" hat by going to: shop.betches.com/collections/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she was seeing long-distance for about two months. It was supposed to be casual, but she caught feelings and his reaction was confusing. If he says he didn’t want to end things, why would he still be using Tinder? Can she still bring this up even if they haven’t put a label on it? Plus, they discuss what it actually means to use someone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’ concerns about a guy she’s seeing. Why won’t they elaborate on their warnings? And should she give him a chance to explain himself? A listener’s fiancé confesses a dirty little secret during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Then, a listener asks if you can get back together if the breakup was for mental health reasons. Should he reach out or let it go? Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by Iliza Shlesinger and Margaret Cho to chat about their new movie Good on Paper and the real-life story behind it. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker inspired by the movie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what type of relationship issues Lori sees in therapy and how COVID has impacted them. Then they get into Lori’s book Marry Him and what you should actually look for in a long-term partner. Later, they answer an email from a listener who is anxious about planning a future with her boyfriend. Is it normal for her to feel she should date around more? How can she stop feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? Plus, they discuss how our pasts play out in our dating choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer an email from a listener asking if a f*ckboy can change his ways. Does him not wanting to hook up mean he’s more into her or less? The Awkward Sexual Encounter almost ended with penis surgery. Then (content warning) at around the 49 minute mark, a listener shares a story about being harassed by a stranger and asks how to turn down men when they hit on you in public. What should you do to stay safe in this situation? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about pregnancy paranoia and unexpected erections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks because he never wanted to sleep over. Did she end it too soon? Or did she never really like him in the first place? Plus they discuss miscommunication when it comes to dating expectations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she try to keep in contact while she’s out of town? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a dinner disaster. Later, a listener asks how to deal with being stereotyped by people she’s dating. Are stereotypes the real reason this guy doesn’t want to take her hiking? Finally, Jared and Jordana are joined by Jared’s college ex and author Ashley Bisman for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about multi-level marketing companies and Shrek. Check out Ashley's brand new book: Chasing Butterflies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are you also a breadcrumber for continuing the conversation? Plus they discuss how to take control of your dating life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a listener's email about sliding into someone’s Twitter DMs. Can Twitter DMs be used for dating like Instagram? What should she say to make her move? An emailer finds a surprise in her sink during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, a listener asks how to compromise on decor when moving in with your significant other. What can differences in decor style tell you about a relationship? Finally, J&J end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about phone contact names for parents and bumping into dates while they’re on other dates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices