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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been talking to is only a late-night texter and refuses to acknowledge that he won’t make time for her during the day. Is it time to call it quits or should she continue to pursue a relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about sharing a dog with an ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should she continue the relationship or respect her brother’s feelings? Finally, they close out the show with a great game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at the beginning, or should she take it as a positive sign? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, which leads to a conversation about buying expensive gifts when you’re newly dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in the throat, and an overly dramatic response. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a heated debate about how to properly give directions to your partner in the car. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special episode of the U Up? podcast, the J’s receive an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s ex and wants to know more about their relationship. Why can’t she get over it, and will her insecurity inevitably damage their relationship? Plus, they talk about how hard it can be to join their friend group when the ex was so entwined in their crew. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a conversation about the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and a conversation about getting to know your future spouse. Then a listener writes in to ask why her ex suddenly stopped watching her IG story even though they recently hooked up. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a tampon, marathon sex, and an overly talkative doctor. Another emailer writes in with a scenario about a guy blowing off a date and getting spotted in public that night with another girl. Should you meet up again to ask for an explanation, or just call it off entirely? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about filtering people based on education, and a question about hanging onto old keepsakes from a previous relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are back with a deal reveal. A listener writes in to ask about a guy who called things off out of the blue after the third date, leaving her wondering whether or not he’s being genuine. J&J read both sides of the text exchange and reveal the truth behind his messages, leading to a conversation about following up for an explanation after things end. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s get this week’s episode started with a conversation about turning your sexting penpal into a real relationship. A listener writes in to ask how to move the conversation from sexting back to serious. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a pack of discarded birth control placebos and an uncomfortable conversation. Another listener asks how to react if the person you matched with on a dating app shows up to the first date with a beard they didn’t have in their profile. How much are you willing to accept if someone's appearance differs from their pictures? Finally, they finish things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a debate about whether or not to reschedule a date if someone falls asleep and stands you up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J return for a Sunday Special episode with some big news… Jordana just got engaged! They tell us how it went down, when exactly the engagement conversation got started, and how it feels to go from dating to engaged. Jordana shares how she went about helping to pick a ring and passed the information along to her fiancé. Plus, they talk about the pitfalls of telling your friends the engagement is coming soon, and close the show with all the details on how he popped the question. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin this week with a conversation about the increase in date cancellations during covid. Are people cancelling more often than they used to? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bent penis and an unpleasant trip to the ER. Another emailer writes in to ask why the guy she just became exclusive with keeps insisting that they wait to have sex. How does she tell him she’s ready without coming off desperate? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a conversation about how early in a relationship you can start leaving things at your partner’s place. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with conversation about why some people always seem to be the ones who get dumped, while others are doing all the dumping. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a puddle on the ground, an embarrassing fall, and a misunderstanding about fluids. How are some guys still so clueless about female anatomy? Another emailer writes in with a story about going on a first date and getting cornered in the bathroom with a message from her date's ex. Is it a dealbreaker if someone warns you about the way they've treated partners in the past? Then a listener asks whether or not she should be worried that her boyfriend’s attractive neighbor has gotten so close to him since he moved in. What are the boundaries on guy/girl friendships when you’re in a committed relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about living near your ex. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a debate about whether or not guys like women with curly hair, and a conversation about how you’d react if your partner payed someone on an OnlyFans page. Then, a listener writes in to ask how to reach out if your date hasn’t texted you after a while. Is it possible to make the next move without coming off desperate? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a movie soundtrack, constant interruptions, and an uncomfortable amount of Lord of the Rings talk. Another listener writes in to ask whether or not the “just joined” label on dating apps gives people the impression you’re just looking for rebound sex after a breakup. Should you be up front about the fact that you’re fresh out of a relationship? Then an emailer asks how early in a relationship you should tell someone that you’re bisexual. Finally, they finish things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what it means when someone you’re dating sends a subpar birthday text. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Glossier: Get that glowy, dewy skin for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and you’ll get 10% off your first order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the show with a conversation about the wave of Karen videos going around and why people can’t help but watch them. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should start following a guy that she met briefly and developed a crush on at work on Instagram. What does it signal to a guy if you initiate the IG follow? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing vibrator and a desperate quest to retrieve it. Another listener writes in to ask why some people always seem to be in a relationship and others are perpetually single. Next, an emailer asks if she should agree to put her relationship on hold for the sake of their careers, and whether or not it’s best to cut off all communication during a break. Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a debate about using liquor bottles as decor. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive: Go to thrivemarket.com/UUP to start your risk-free membership and get up to twenty dollars toward your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a conversation about the return to in-person dating now that many states have started to at least partially re-open. A listener writes in to ask how long is too long to talk to someone from a dating app before meeting them. Are the stakes higher than a regular first date when you’re meeting out of quarantine? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a parked minivan, a dead battery, and a dad with jumper cables. Another emailer asks whether or not she should be concerned that her boyfriend’s ex is still Facebook friends with his mom and likes everything she posts. Next, a listener wants her boyfriend to give her more compliments but doesn’t know how to bring it up. Finally, they finish out the week with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about people who allow the restaurant to ‘surprise’ them with their meal each time they order. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing texts she got from a guy that broke things off over a year ago and is using Covid to get back into her good graces. Finally, they close things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone you’re dating to quit smoking. Thanks to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get a total of $80 off, including free shipping on your first box. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about their compatibility if he’s not willing to post publicly about the movement? Then a listener asks whether or not premium options on dating apps actually give you a better chance of finding a partner. Is the ‘super like’ a turn on or an act of desperation? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including a debate about changing your name to please the person you’re with. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Prose: Take your free in-depth hair quiz and get 15% off your first order at Prose.com/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serious and come out to her family. Next, a listener asks for advice dealing with a former fling that reached back out after a long period of no contact. Did she shut the door on the possibility to check back in with him to see where they stand? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who constantly ask if you washed your hands. Thanks to our sponsors: Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/ Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quick to respond to Snapchat messages but hesitant to take things to text. Did she make a mistake by telling him she was only looking for something casual? Finally, this week’s game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker features a debate about what kind of person actually wants to be on the show Four Weddings. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com StoryWorth: Give your dad the most meaningful gift this Father’s Day with StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/uup. Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain exclusive for as long as you keep hooking up, even if you’re not actually dating. Next, they respond to a listener who is struggling to be happy for her friends getting engaged when her boyfriend hasn’t proposed after dating for much longer than other couples. Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a discussion about people who lose their phone when they’re drunk. Thanks to our sponsor: HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should be alarmed that the guy she just started seeing hasn’t mentioned that he was married before. Another listener asks whether or not the quarantine-hookup in her building is using his past relationship as a cop out for getting more serious. Is it possible that he’s genuinely not ready for a relationship, or is she just a quarantine distraction? Finally, they finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about dating with strict food restrictions. Thanks to our sponsors! HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn. Thanks to our sponsor! 1-800-Contacts: Order online at 1800contacts.com, through their 5-star rated app or calling 1-800-Contacts (1-800-266-8228) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Another listener writes in to ask why the guy who refused to commit to her is still sending casual Snapchat and Instagram messages. Then another emailer asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend hides (and deletes) his text conversations from her. Is there any reasonable explanation for why he could be hiding his messages? Then they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, and a conversation about what your hopes and dreams say about who you are as a person. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Morril and Taylor Tomlinson to talk about how the new couple is handling quarantining together just six months into their relationship. They talk about how to avoid fights, activities couples can do together, and whether or not it’s expected to continue living together once social distancing ends. They give advice to a listener asking how to deal with a resentful boyfriend whose pandemic related stress is testing her relationship. Finally, they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a debate about liking thirst traps and where to draw the line. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your significant other be willing to forgo social distancing rules for the sake of your relationship? Then they’re joined by Nicole Byer, comedian and host of Netflix’s “Nailed It!” to talk about dating in this weird and confusing time. They respond to a single listener who feels like a loser right now and needs advice for dating without seeing people in person. Finally, they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and Nicole tells us whether or not it’s okay to move into your partner’s childhood home together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend to spend more time with her. Are they using the “love language” conversation as an excuse not to compromise? Then another listener asks if the guy she’s moving in with really wants to live together, or if he’s just doing it to please her. Is it common to have cold feet about moving in together? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including one featuring a difficult Bachelor/Bachelorette scenario. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re texting to finally book a first date. Is there a certain amount of time after which you should cut someone off? They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and decide whether or not getting banned from a dating app should get you blocked IRL. Thanks to our sponsors! WOO: Go to woomoreplay.com and use promo code UUP for for 20% off your order of WOO SHIP: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general. Thanks to our sponsors! Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP MeUndies: To get 15% off your first order, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/uup Glossier: New customers will get 10% off their first order by going to Glossier.com/podcast/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a relationship? Next, a listener asks why her office-party hookup hasn’t asked her on a date yet, and whether or not they’re ever going to go out. Another emailer asks whether or not it’s fair to judge a guy she matched with on a dating app who was going bald but didn’t disclose it until the first date. They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring the age old question: what do you do when your boyfriend accidentally calls you mom? Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date. Thanks to our sponsors! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thank you to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Ship: Finding a date is more fun when you do it with friends - go to betches.co/ship to start finding matches today! Shop Betches: Get 15% off the U Up? collection at Shop Betches by going to shop.betches.com/collections/U-UP and use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap. Thanks to our sponsor! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together. You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange. Thanks to our sponsors! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Ship: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down. Thanks to our sponsors! Fabletics: Go to Fabletics.com/uup and get 2 leggings for only $24 (a $99 value) when you sign up for a VIP Stitchfix: Get started today at Stitchfix.com/uup and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Moxy Hotels! Find out more at: http://moxy-hotels.marriott.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices