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The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap. Thanks to our sponsor! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together. You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange. Thanks to our sponsors! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Ship: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down. Thanks to our sponsors! Fabletics: Go to Fabletics.com/uup and get 2 leggings for only $24 (a $99 value) when you sign up for a VIP Stitchfix: Get started today at Stitchfix.com/uup and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Moxy Hotels! Find out more at: http://moxy-hotels.marriott.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a conversation about never having attended a wedding. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Check out the new podcast Sibling Revelry from Kate and Oliver Hudson! Click here to listen: Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson & Oliver Hudson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message that may or may not be asking for nudes. At 15:50 they help a listener looking to repair trust with a 4 month fling who was sexting someone else while they were out on a date. At 41:00 a listener writes in asking for an opinion about using the mute feature on Instagram to banish an old flame that was haunting her story views. At 47:20 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features an audible out of a blow job and into a solo masturbation. At 1:10:00 a listener writes in wondering if she’s reading too far into a Facebook profile picture of her college boyfriend and another girl. At 1:09:50 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now at Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wondering what the best way to let her dates know she’s admittedly high maintenance. At 31:50 they talk about their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a trip to Tulum, some roadway felatio and a slamming door. At 44:05 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her inferiority complex with her friend. At 59:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do after finding snapchats to an ex on her bf’s phone. At 1:05:50 they play a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker”. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour #Entertainment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the question “what’s the best way to be broken up with?” At 15:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 29:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker”. At 43:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” At 55:15 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter. Thanks to our sponsors! Head to PRIVACY.COM/UUP to sign up and get $5 to spend on your first purchase. Go to CAPRI-BLUE.COM and use code UUP get 20% off your entire purchase and have your space smelling like the Betches office today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transitioning into cuffing season. At 30:40 a listener asks for advice after her partner freaked out about how fast things were moving. Is he afraid to commit, or just afraid to commit to HER? At 47:55 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about running into a guy’s mom in the hallway the morning after a hookup. At 54:40 an emailer writes in to ask if she has the right to be mad that her boyfriend swapped Instas with a girl he met at a bar. Then at 1:08:00 another listener asks if the third date is the right time to bring someone back to your apartment. At what point do you stop going for drinks and just invite them over? At 1:14:05 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and ready to bring in everyone’s favorite month, fucktober. At 21:50 they break down the science behind the ‘walking date.’ What does it mean for a future relationship and should you be scared? At 38:30 a listener shares their awkward sexual encounter which features a sorority house, a forgotten condom, and some head banging on the dashboard of a car. At 47:00 they share their advice for a listener worried about the ex girlfriend posing as her boyfriend's cat on his Netflix account. At 1:08:05 they respond to a west coast tech guy who feels he’s no longer datable. At 1:18:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Agora Theatre in Cleveland. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 14:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Brandon Zingale. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js ride again and following Jordana’s 30th birthday, she wants to speak to the manager. At 12:45 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a guy that she’s seeing and his semi soft noodle dick. At 25:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a hexagon, sleep talking and a happy ending. At 34:35 a listener writes in wondering if she should delete all of her instagram pictures with her now ex-boyfriend. At 50:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. At 1:07:35 they’re joined by Travis Mills and Rachel Lindsay of MTV’s new show “Ghosted” to discuss being on The Bachelorette, getting catfished in Las Vegas, and what actually constitutes being ghosted. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are here to wrap up the summer and kick off fall hook up season. At 10:00 they discuss when the exact start date of cuffing season should be. At 17:00 they breakdown what guys think about vibrators. At 32:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter featuring hookup persistence despite a knocked out tooth. At 37:50 a listener writes in wondering how to deal with the pressure of getting physical on a first date. At 1:17:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Is it a deal breaker if someone tells you they hooked up with someone else in their dreams? The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to be upset when work is your number 1 priority? At 14:50 this week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who uses a condom for an unorthodox purpose. At 24:00 a listener asks how to respond to an ex who texted him after they saw each other in public without saying hello. What does the phrase “I have love for you” even mean? At 34:50 they’re joined by Tyler Cameron of The Bachelorette to talk about suddenly becoming a major celebrity and dating after the show. He talks about his move to New York City and current living arrangement. They talk about his dating history and what he’s actually looking for in a woman. At 46:15 Tyler helps with an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s a bad look to leave right after a hookup. At 51:30 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a conversation about how important it is for your partner’s parents to like you. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how do I handle the guy who wants to take things slow?” At 16:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for 2 audience members. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Diggy Moreland. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothetical question. At 25:20 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost condom and a ruined set of sheets. Should you come clean when the condom gets lost in the most embarrassing place possible? At 35:15 a listener writes in to ask if it’s normal that her boyfriend has paid strangers for nudes on Snapchat. Does it count as cheating if he’s getting pictures from amateur porn stars? At 50:20 another emailer asks if she should be alarmed that her fiancé asked if the deposits for their wedding are refundable. Does this mean he’s having second thoughts about marriage or just asking an honest question? At 1:14:20 they rank the best and worst months of the year to be single, then close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th! Get your tickets by visiting betches.co/nycf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at Town Hall. At 5:45 a listener writes in to ask if women are better off ‘dating down.’ At 22:45 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roll in the grass, a new sex toy, and a surprise they didn’t see coming. At 29:25 another listener writes in to ask why her boyfriend is still following a girl he hooked up with when they were on a break. At 47:25 an emailer asks if it’s okay to be upset that the guy she just started seeing didn’t invite her out to join him on a Friday night. Then at 1:03:10 they play a game of Would You Rather all about whether you’d prefer to be the dumper or the dumpee. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th at 9:45pm! Get your tickets before they go on sale to the public by visiting betches.co/nycf and using the promo code CNYCF Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a conversation about money in relationships. At 18:55 a listener asks if it’s fair to expect her boyfriend to cover the majority of the expenses on vacation because he makes more than her. Who should pay for the couples vacation? They also debate who should have to sit in the middle seat on a flight. At 36:50 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rushed hook up and bad aim. At 43:30 another listener writes in to ask if the ex-boyfriend she was hooking up with just ghosted her. At what point should you admit that you’re keeping someone around because you’re comfortable together? At 54:45 an emailer asks if her love for her sick dog will an obstacle for finding a relationship. Then at 1:11:30 they are joined by the Season 16 winner of American Idol, Maddie Poppe. Jared tells the story of how they first met and Maddie talks about dating someone she met on the show. Does it put pressure on a couple if your relationship is public? They close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring Maddie’s take on expressing your love via Instagram. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an explanation of why men love The Rock and women are obsessed with Beyoncé. At 17:45 a listener writes in to ask why people choose to unmatch on dating apps. Also, how late is too late to cancel a date? At 35:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a messy apartment and an air mattress. Is a messy apartment past a certain age a deal breaker? At 49:00 another listener asks if it’s okay to be mad at her boyfriend for sitting on another girl’s lap. Is a grown man sitting on someone’s lap too weird to ignore? At 56:50 an emailer asks if it’s acceptable to tell her boyfriend what to wear to a formal wedding they’re attending. They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker all about being comfortable. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick off the show with a conversation about Jared’s trip to Napa and how hard it is to fulfill your partner’s expectations. Is everyone just comparing their own relationship to the people around them? At 18:50 a listener writes in to ask what your drink order says about you. If someone cares about what you drink, should you second guess dating them? At 28:42 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a towel and a weird habit in the middle of the night. At 43:40 another listener asks if for advice after messing up his vacation plans with his girlfriend. Is she the one being unreasonable, or should he have planned ahead? At 1:00:20 they give some advice to an emailer who’s in a relationship with someone that never wants to sleep over. Is she putting too much pressure on him to live up to the standard of her former relationship? They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a very weird Would You Rather. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a debate about what counts as the first date when calculating your anniversary. Should you start counting from your very first date even if you kept seeing other people early on? At 14:20 they respond to an email about what to do when somebody constantly threatens to break up with you. Is this purely manipulation or just their way of slowly getting out of the relationship? At 25:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nightmare scenario with a tampon and a trip to urgent care. At 40:40 a listener writes in to ask if she should leave her boyfriend for withholding an important piece of information about his past. At 58:20 an emailer thinks her boyfriend might be gay. Is it ever okay to ask a guy about his sexuality? They finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a recap of their weekends and give tips on how to make the best wedding speech possible. They talk about what to do when your significant other is suspicious of something on your clothes or body. Does every bruise deserve an explanation? At 23:34 they respond to an email about what to do when the person you’re dating never wants to travel to your neighborhood. Is it okay to expect your significant other to travel to you even if you live in a worse area? At 34:55 a listener shares a story about a guy who stayed the night and masturbated after she left for work. Another listener writes in to ask what she should do after finding out her friend is dating the same guy she matched with. Should they come clean or keep living a real life episode of the Bachelor? At 1:08:42 they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Fabletics: Get 2 leggings for only $24 ($99 value) when you sign up for VIP by going to Fabletics.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a listener DM about a friend who constantly responds to her boyfriend’s Instagram stories. Does she have a right to be upset with her boyfriend for not shutting it down? At 24:10 they respond to an email about what to do when you don’t like a close friend’s significant other. Is it ever okay to tell them that the person they’re dating sucks? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a broken window and an unpaid bill. At 42:50 a listener asks why guys on dating apps aren’t willing to have a back-and-forth convo anymore. Another listener writes in to ask about her first long-term relationship and whether or not she should stick it out. If you’re happy 90% of the time, should that be good enough? At 1:12:20 they close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker about literally sleeping like a baby. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! Flamingo: Visit ShopFlamingo.com/UUP for 25% off the Flamingo Bare Bundle! Function of Beauty: Go to FunctionofBeauty.com/UUP to get 20% off your custom formula! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J kick off the show with the latest details on the U Up? LIVE national tour, including how you can get your chance to be part of the show. At 10:40 they answer a question about whether or not it’s okay to put your IG handle in a dating app profile. At 23:00 they talk about the iMessage double tap and what it means if a person you’re dating uses it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a tray of vegetables, ranch dressing, and a bop on the nose. At 40:30 a listener asks what it means when a friend says that you can “do better” than the person you’re dating. What are you even supposed to do with that information? Another listener writes in to ask whether or not she should give her boyfriend a marriage ultimatum. When is it okay to ask a guy for a timeline? At 1:16:10 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a ‘Would You Rather’ involving PDA. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an exciting announcement... UUp? LIVE is going on a national tour! They share the list of all 20 cities the show is coming to this year. At 15:10 they dive into a conversation about texting in a relationship, including how to tell if you’re really being ghosted. A listener writes in to ask how to avoid coming on too strong over text after just three dates. At 35:35 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features shower sex that went so bad it resulted in circumcision. At 46:15 they respond to an email from a guy who struggles to connect with new women he meets. Do girls ever really want to be approached in public? Another listener writes in to ask why a guy ghosted her after a great first date. Do we need to redefine what it means to be ghosted? At 1:07:55 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets on pre-sale before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour and using promo code UUPLIVE Thanks to our sponsor... StoryWorth: For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/UUP when you subscribe! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an impromptu conversation about outside pressure to get engaged. Why is the default conversation for so many women to ask each other when the proposal is coming? At 17:20 a listener writes in wondering when it’s okay to ask someone if they’re open to being in a relationship. Is there ever really a good time to ask, or is this the wrong approach altogether? At 40:00 they answer an email from a guy who blew it on the first date and immediately got put in the friend zone. Can you ever recover once you’re put in that category? Another listener asks why she can’t seem to get guys to date her despite being “intimidatingly attractive” and successful. Has anyone ever been too hot to date, or is she just kidding herself? At 1:00:10 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Away- For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/UUP and use promo code UUP during checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and start the show with a conversation about girls taking on the role of vacation planner in a relationship. Why does it seem like it’s always on women to keep things exciting? At 17:30 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a latex glove and a lot of confusion. At 34:35 a listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that her boyfriend refuses to share his phone passcode. Does this guy have something to hide, or is he just protecting his own privacy? At 49:45 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Then at 59:07 they’re joined by Dr. Helen Fisher, Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com, to talk about how the way millennials are dating differs from generations before them. They discuss the “slow love” dating trend that results in longer lasting and more committed relationships. Why are people sleeping together faster and falling in love slower? Dr. Fisher explains why first dates are less common today and seem to carry more weight than they did in the past. At 1:20:00 they talk about the best way to approach dating apps and close the show with a conversation about the difference between how men and women set their friends up. Thanks to our sponsors! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick off with news about the Red Flag or Dealbreaker card game, and Jared reveals where he’s headed for the long holiday weekend. At 16:30, the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a guy who came over for dinner and just wouldn’t leave. Is the second date too soon to cook dinner for someone? At 24:55 a listener writes in to ask how to pass a guy she's no longer interested in dating off to a friend. Does any guy really want to be set up by someone they’re hooking up with? At 35:20 they’re joined by comedian Ronny Chieng of Crazy Rich Asians and The Daily Show. They dive into the concept of sexual racism and discuss why people are so resistant to acknowledging their biases. What’s the difference between having a “type” and just being flat out racist in your sexual choices? At 105:30 they react to a listener-submitted text exchange that’s mildly racist and definitely inconsiderate. Is this guy rude or just really into his body? At 1:25:00 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Check out Ronny’s Daily Show story about sexual racism here: Sexual Racism: When Preferences Become Discrimination Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about Jordana’s trip to Mexico and Jared shares a family rule for weekend beach trips. They tell us what you should and shouldn’t put on the bachelorette party itinerary. At 15:00 they ask whether or not you need to tell the person you’re with about past hookups. This leads to a story about Jared’s ex having a weirdly close friendship with a guy friend. At 47:05 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week starts with a guy carrying home street furniture and ends with him cutting a chunk of his date’s hair off. At 1:02:45 a listener writes in to ask if a relationship can survive a dramatic body transformation or do insecurities get in the way? Another listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend follows a stripper on Instagram and likes all her pictures. At 1:21:00 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, and play a new game called Would You Call Off the Wedding. Thanks to our sponsors! Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about moving in together with your boyfriend. Is the end of your lease a good enough reason to talk about getting a place together? At 25:10 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a ‘Hey Arnold’ DVD, bad kissing skills, and a guy who can’t get it up. When is it time to just admit that a hook-up isn’t going well? At 40:50 a listener writes in to ask if she is being too picky with guys on dating apps. At 53:20 another listener asks if she says “I love you” too often to her boyfriend. At 1:04:35 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return to declare cuffing season officially over. They start by talking about the new phenomenon of guys making their location status on dating apps their office in the city when they actually live in the suburbs. At 27:50 they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week which features a passionate make-out, a peanut allergy, and an emergency trip to the pharmacy. At 39:10 a listener writes in wondering how to reintroduce condoms into a sexual relationship with a guy who she’s not exclusive with. At 50:45 a listener writes in wondering why dating app compliments lead to guys being too sexual on dating apps. At 1:01:35 they play red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to Get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back asking the tough hypothetical questions. Is some amount of jealousy in a relationship actually healthy? At 20:40 they breakdown their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a new relationship, a hometown trip, and a 3AM switcheroo. At 34:00 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend is sexually distant because he’s nervous about their impending move in together. At 46:40 they’re joined by Vinny Guadagnino of MTV’s “Jersey Shore” and “Double Shot At Love” to talk about performing at Chippendales, sex without kissing and dating 20 women on national television with his pal, DJ Pauly D. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Myro- Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5! Visit mymyro.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo App- For 20% off site-wide, visit Cameo.com and enter promo code UUP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back asking the tricky question, how do we ask for more sex in relationships? At 14:45 an undersexed listener writes in wondering what to do about his girlfriend’s sex drive not matching up with his. At 32:25 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a lack of protection, a blowjob, and an inconvenient nap. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s doing something to repel men from dating her more seriously. At 50:50 a newly single listener writes in wondering if he’s scaring dates away because he gives off too much of a relationship vibe. At 59:25 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsor! Third Love- Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra... and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices