The UnMothered Podcast

Do you ever look back at the younger you and feel sadness? Are you afraid to make changes now because it is comfortable staying in this place, even though it makes you mourn what could have been? The journey to start changing some of the habits and hurts in which you came from can be tricky. Some of those old ways are easy on some level, and changing everything around can spin your head! Don’t be afraid of change! Let’s explore what happens when you start the process of getting into a healthy place but wonder if it’s too hard or too scary with the “unknowns”. P.S. It’s okay to cry over things that didn’t work out. My book, UnMothered No More, is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine?Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes for the first time) and not looking for outside affirmation. This is sometimes hard when you haven’t been shown self-esteem or confidence in yourself.  I think we can agree that God is the only one who can help you feel your best as He walks with you to show you what true “self-confidence” looks like, but let's explore how we can get there on our own.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son. Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything!My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness? This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you. You might be surprised by some answers.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story! Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with her story! Today, Phylis is an author and speaker, and she recounts her story of surviving her mother’s abusive behavior as a child and later, as an adult, breaking through the pain of that abuse and trauma to become a daughter who forgave her mom and recognized that God loved them both. She talks about the “body, mind, and spirit” connection in spiritual and mental health, and details the 16-year journey that led her to not only forgive her mother but also love her.🔗 CONNECT WITH COUNTER CULTURE MOMhttps://linktr.ee/CounterCultureMomMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needleMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreCan you have a relationship with your toxic mother? The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-morePart of breaking generational dysfunction is to stop allowing the excuse of, “But it’s your family.” When do we stick by family because it’s family, and when do we have to decide on something better? Over the years I’ve come to a realization that loving families show up and it’s a safe place, not a place that makes you more miserable when you are around them.Knowing that unless THEY (your mom or family member) want to repent and change AND show that difference over time, you are not required to “hang in there”. That serves no purpose and you will never change the dynamic of your future life or family.Stand strong in this journey of breaking generational dysfunction. Remember you have a community here. If you haven’t joined “The Unmothered Community” our private group on Facebook is growing each day, and I have a lot of new plans for these amazing, strong women in the future. Just answer 3 questions and you are welcome to join us! Family is not just the people who gave birth to you, but people who show up and love well! Check out the book I mention: "But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath" by Dr. Sherrie Campbell: https://bit.ly/3X387yj (this is a affiliate link)The movie mentioned is “Hillbilly Elegy” which is the true story of VP Candidate JD Vance.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreDoes your mom think she’s your best friend? Some mother-daughter relationships blur the line between love and control, with moms inserting themselves into every aspect of their daughter’s life—where they live, what job they take, and even how they dress. Often, this stems from a deep fear of being left behind or an unfulfilled need to relive experiences through their child.While their intentions may not always be harmful, the emotional toll can be overwhelming. This episode unpacks the signs of an overly enmeshed mother, the impact on daughters, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Breaking free isn’t easy, but recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your independence—without the guilt.✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why some mothers struggle to separate their own identity from their daughter’s life✔️ The subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways control and guilt come into play✔️ Signs you have an overly enmeshed mother✔️ The emotional toll—and how to break free✔️ How to set boundaries while maintaining (or redefining) the relationship📖 Quote from the Episode:"In a healthy relationship, the bond between a mother and her daughter is meant to be a flexible, malleable connection that can withstand distance, conflict, and differences." — Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can’t Love💡 Final Takeaway:Breaking free from an over-involved mother can be tough, but true freedom comes from standing firm in who you are—even if it means weathering her disapproval. Your life is yours to live.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreWhat are the qualities or differences in a healthy Mom versus a toxic Mom? Big differences in my opinion. Is there such a thing as a perfect mom? I haven’t met one yet, but I know we can always do better than what we have grown up in if we have, in fact, grown up in toxicity. Let’s talk about what each of these kinds of moms looks like, and see if there is any improvement that needs to be made on our part to be the kind of mother we dream of. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreAs I was channel surfing, I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this. Gabby Windey was on a date, and they were talking about family.His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! When she graduated, her mother wrote her off …she started to cry. It broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction.If we look at the history of where your parents came from, chances are there has been a lot of dysfunction for many generations. It may have started with them, but it ends with you! You have the potential to end the cycle of dysfunction and unhappiness.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How do you show gratitude when everything is falling apart? Can you find the blessing in the midst of the storm? Digging through this tough time is where your faith grows, but it is tougher than most think. Let’s find the joy that God knows your pain and still will have good for you moving forward.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens to your own body when a loved one takes their own life? It’s a touchy subject and not one everyone can talk about to their friends. It’s still a taboo subject and one riddled with guilt and shame. Everyone wants you to move on, but your body is keeping score. It’s time to find out how to help yourself process that trauma within. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Are we too protective and private in our motherhood journey? I know for some of us, we have put up walls to protect, but what if there was a community that could come alongside you and walk with you through it all! Other countries do it; we need to take a note from their playbook.Today I am taking the advice of my oldest daughter, Ariel, and reading an eye-opening book called “Please Yell at My Kids” by Marina Lopes. If you have ever wondered if you are doing the right thing in your motherhood journey, this is a must-read! I am so happy to share these insights with you today as we explore what other cultures think about motherhood, giving birth, grandparents' roles, community, and so much more! Affiliate link to the book: https://bit.ly/4qQdcbrMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Can you become a good mom without a map? Has your dysfunctional childhood warped your parenting skills? I was asked this question as a guest on a podcast recently, and I wanted to dig through this a bit deeper because I thought it was such a great question! Lord knows I didn’t do motherhood perfectly, and I was fearful of everything, but we have to let our children fall sometimes so they can learn the lesson of how to pick themselves back up.We can become awesome (not perfect) moms in spite of how we grew up. You just need to be willing to unpack the things that were not healthy or safe and replace them with good, loving habits!🎙️I just had the opportunity to be on The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina Griffin where we discussed Forgiveness. May it help you and your family! VIEW ON VARIOUS PLATFORMSDownload the Counter Culture Mom App: https://bit.ly/landingpageCCMClick THE CCM SHOWThen select PLATFORMSApple Podcast link: bit.ly/CCMApplePodcast Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you fake your way through life? Is behavior modification a regular “go to” for you? Does it look good on the outside, but you are spiritually weak on the inside? Is it possible to learn new brain pathways AND join your brain and faith? Let’s find out.Check out the other Capo Beach sermons on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapoBeachChurchLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens when you attract the wrong people because you are giving and kind? Well, I think the answer lies in the reason why you feel you have to be so kind all the time to everyone. Maybe you were the peacemaker in your family, or the caregiver. Now you think the only way you can get love and affirmation is to DO IT ALL! Let’s dig into the “why” of being kind at all costs.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens when there are BIG EMOTIONS surrounding the death of your toxic mother? Do you react the way you thought you would? And what do you do with these emotions once they hit? We will explore all of this in this episode, and, of course, it all stemmed from a show I was watching that involved mother-daughter dysfunction.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Should you have compassion for a mother who is hard to love? I was talking with one of my clients when she asked this question. This can be thought provoking depending on the relationship you currently have with your mom. Also, what happens when she might need more from you than you can give? Do you go to her aid? Let’s find some common ground so you don’t get burned or burned out, and she respects your boundaries for peace.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What do you do when the mother you trusted with your life, who was so supportive and loving towards you, becomes the monster in your life?I recently watched the Netflix documentary called “Unknown Caller,” and this is a tough one. In the episode, I am giving the ending away, so if you haven’t seen it yet, go watch it and then come back to listen to this episode!Let’s talk about how this documentary showed me what real emotional abuse from a mom looks like, and how we can sit, listen, and show compassion to someone else if this has happened to them. Have you seen this documentary? What did you think?Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you trust your instincts? Has your mother or someone else made you feel like your opinions don’t matter? It happens when the enemy sees your beauty and passion and wonderful calling and is trying to kill it. Don’t let him. You have to trust that God has given you the Holy Spirit that you can trust. Listen in to hear what I have to say about this.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What would you tell your younger self? Have you ever looked back at your life and said, “Well, that didn’t happen the way I planned it?”I think it’s great to have a plan of what you picture your life to be, but I would recommend learning to pivot a lot. I often tell young women and my own girls that their twenties are their crying years. Let me take you through the reality of what can happen when you take a detour down the road a bit. Don’t fret, dear one; the best is yet to come!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Where did we go when we needed a mom who was caring, attentive, and present, but what we got was completely different. Our mothers were absent, ignored us, and on some occasions, abandoned us altogether.In today’s episode, we are going to explore a real and honest question: “What did I actually need from my mother that I never received?”We get to the heart of the matter and get honest with ourselves about what we need and what we need to do now. You may have never received those things from your mom, but you can give them to yourself and bring them into your family if you work at it. Let’s discuss how.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

The kids are leaving. What happens now? Where do you go now if your whole personality has been that of a mommy to these young children?You have to let your children fly. Don’t clip their wings, or they will never know how to survive in the world without you. Make them successful for the world, not just for that momentJust remember that you've done a really good job, and they can be independent, it’s a good thing for them!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How many times have you allowed someone else’s words, comments, or declarations of who you are to stick on you like absolute truth? Is it time to peel back the layers and see if this is something the enemy likes to use as a weapon and keep you from being the wonderful woman God wants you to be? He made you to shine! Let’s dig into this together and help you discover your authentic self.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you have “Spidey Sense” when it comes to emotions? Were you the one who always made sure everyone, but especially your mom, was okay? Could you feel the tone of the room as soon as you walked through it? You might be doing this now in your own family.Maybe it’s time to take care of you and stop worrying about everyone else to the point of your own decline in health, mentally and physically. Let’s talk about using this skill to your advantage, not your detriment. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What do you do when your mother wants you to take care of her during an illness or while recovering from surgery? Do you go? Do you walk away from her demand to help? The answer is so layered, but one thing is sure: don’t do it out of guilt! Let’s figure out a plan so you don’t regret your choice, no matter what that choice is.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

We are taking July off to enjoy a much-needed summer vacation! We hope you take some time to relax this summer as well, and we will chat with you back in August. In the meantime, enjoy some of the most downloaded episodes! How do you define the black sheep in the family? Has this label been placed on you because you don’t abide by the dysfunction in your family? There is a difference between being the troublemaker or the truth-teller. If you are just trying to survive in a highly abusive family situation, you learn to fight and stand on your own. Do you always make the right decisions? Not always, but who does when they are young? When I think about how we get labeled as troubled or a hard child, I think we should look deeper into the family dynamics instead of automatically blaming the child.So what can we do if we are the one that has always been labeled in this way?As I’ve said before, journal out any thoughts or struggles you still may have regarding this issue. You might be surprised at how much stuff comes up. Remember, you are not what other people tell you; you are who God has said you are. He has a purpose and a plan for you, even if you have to walk through rough waters to get there.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

We are taking July off to enjoy a much-needed summer vacation! We hope you take some time to relax this summer as well, and we will chat with you back in August. In the meantime, enjoy some of the most downloaded episodes! What was it like growing up in your home? In my home, I felt like I was constantly dealing with a teenager or even a child. While at the time I just thought this was ‘normal’ I later understood that it wasn’t. When you grow up with a parent who is emotionally immature and can’t be the adult in the family relationship it can feel like their needs are paramount to yours. They are physically there, but not mentally. There was no room for me to feel anything, and that is why I am so passionate about finding my voice even to this day. Our feelings count! We keep hoping it will get better. We make attachments where there shouldn’t be any. With her. With others. I figured out a lot of my need for recognition comes from this. However, just because you grew up this way, doesn’t mean you need to parent in the same way. Break off these generational patterns. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

We are taking July off to enjoy a much-needed summer vacation! We hope you take some time to relax this summer as well, and we will chat with you back in August. In the meantime, enjoy some of the most downloaded episodes! This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!).Let’s talk about the do’s and don’ts of letting our children be a part of our mothers’ lives and what do you do when your toxic mom wants to be a part of your children’s lives?Can we let them have a relationship with their grandchildren even though we have a dysfunctional one? If there is a special relationship that your mom has with her grandchildren, you can set a boundary around it. But if she isn’t respectful of your rules or intentions then I think you need to set some limits.Listen to your kids! If they are not comfortable being around her, respect that too. Your children will find their voice if they feel safe with you and know how to speak up. Don’t use your kids as pawns in this family game. Listen and watch. We are not trying to be cold mamas that just cut off our moms for no reason. There is no easy answer to each individual situation, and I won’t be someone who will say “Do it this way or else!” What I know about God is that He will take things we don’t understand and do what he plans all along. We can’t be in control of every little thing, but we can have hope that maybe our children’s relationships can be beautiful. If not, then we can be the safety for them that they need to stay away from someone who could hurt them. The choice is ours, with prayer, common sense, and thought. I’m praying you find peace with all of this!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

We are taking July off to enjoy a much-needed summer vacation! We hope you take some time to relax this summer as well, and we will chat with you back in August. In the meantime, enjoy some of the most downloaded episodes! Over the past few years, I’ve been studying the different types of toxic moms. Imagine my surprise when I started studying about toxic parenting and realized my mom was emotionally immature AND narcissistic! I never knew what to expect from my mom from one day to the next. It was exhausting trying to figure it all out. It made so much sense, but also it hurt to see that her characteristics were so manipulative. As I look through each of these problems, I have a story to match each of them. I bet you do too. I pray you find a way to keep working through this and start making change worthy behaviors where you don’t get bogged down with your mom’s immature, toxic behavior. Know that immature parents have been raised by immature parents. This has to stop with you! You must be the chainbreaker in your family! God has given you this assignment, do it well and show the family you raise that those kinds of behaviors will NOT happen in your home.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you get scared or anxious from ordinary things in your life? Can it be tied to past traumatic events? Sometimes the things we react to now are a direct result of the trauma we have gone through as children. We tend to fall into patterns to keep ourselves safe, or so we think. It can keep us prisoners in our own bodies. Learn how to recognize some reactions and start the process of digging through to get to a healthier place.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What are the qualities or differences in a healthy Mom versus a toxic Mom? Big differences in my opinion. Is there such a thing as a perfect mom? I haven’t met one yet, but I know we can always do better than what we have grown up in if we have, in fact, grown up in toxicity. Let’s talk about what each of these kinds of moms looks like, and see if there is any improvement that needs to be made on our part to be the kind of mother we dream of. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Let’s bring on my daughter on today’s episode and talk about the good, bad and better of moms! Bringing on my daughter can help us understand as moms how we can learn from daughters and the next generation. Listening to them helps us be the best moms we can be.Let us know how you like this episode! Please leave a review or send us a message over on Instagram. We would love to connect with you. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

In this powerful and emotional episode, we explore a topic that's often overlooked in conversations around childhood trauma — what happens when men are the ones who were never mothered? What does it look like when a boy grows into a man still carrying the ache of a mother’s absence, and how does that wound ripple through his career, his relationships, and his future family?Inspired by the shocking real-life story told in the documentary Con Mom, host Phylis dives into the haunting truth about what happens when a man is so desperate for a mother’s love that he overlooks red flags, ignores his instincts, and ends up losing everything — his money, his relationship, and his newborn son.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The emotional and psychological impact of being an "UnMothered" manWhy unresolved childhood wounds can distort adult decisionsThe hidden ways men cope with abandonment and emotional neglectHow silence around male trauma leads to generational dysfunctionThe importance of healing, open communication, and emotional honestyIf you’re a man carrying the scars of being UnMothered, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop pushing through the pain in silence. Get support, speak your truth, and take the first step toward healing — for yourself and for the next generation.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Can you have a relationship with your toxic mother? The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

It’s time for you to create some healthy inner talk and stop believing the lies your moms have told you!In my past episodes, we talked about the different ‘types’ of mothers. Today, we are going to touch upon what we need to do to break away from these narcissistic, controlling, overly enmeshed moms.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Have you ever thought of writing a book? Is a memoir something that God is calling you to? He did for me, and it wasn’t something I ever thought I would do, but has become one of the best things I have ever done. If you are curious, listen to this episode and see if this will confirm what you have been thinking. If you need help getting started, contact me…I’m here to help!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

I had such a great conversation with our guest today! Christine Hoy speaks to women who feel overwhelmed by life's demands and the relentless pursuit of perfection. She had no idea that the emotional and physical burnout she experienced caring for her terminally ill mother would lead to a spiritual transformation in her own life. Answering God’s invitation to a year-long season of rest, Christine learned how to surrender control of her life and move from self-reliance to an ever-deepening trust in God. A Christian writer and speaker, Christine is on a mission to help other women experience this freedom from perfectionism and discover healing, restoration, and unshakeable peace in their own lives. She shares these life-changing lessons in her book Peace Beyond Perfection: Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Enough. Christine lives in West Michigan with her husband and their white lab, Zeus—and loves being “Gigi” to her two grandsons. You can connect with her at www.christinecarterhoy.comLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How did we get to 100 episodes on this podcast already? Well, come listen and celebrate with me as I walk back down to the beginning of this journey! Thank you so much for being such a great support! I appreciate all my fellow UnMothered's and can't wait to chat with you all for the next 100 episodes!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

We have probably all heard the statement, "some moms were just never meant to be moms" but is that true? If you think of the worst toxic mom in your imagination, what would she look like? Some things I’ve been reading (and a few I’ve experienced) are “ignored, abusive, gaslighting, and mentally ill.” These kinds of moms are vital to go “no contact” with. It would be for your safety. This is a hard episode, so I am warning you, that you might want to skip it if you might be triggered. For the rest of you, it might be a road map to explain some things that have been hard to answer. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Are you responsible for being the mother to your mother? When you have grown up with someone who is very manipulative and needy, it can in some ways feel good. What you find is that over time, it is exhausting and there is no end to what they take from you emotionally, physically, and mentally. You should be the child, NOT the mother! How do you break away from this needy mom who makes you take care of her? Listen in because I have had a front-row seat to this kind of mother! Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Let’s take a deep dive into the traits of a controlling mother. Did you grow up with a controlling mom and what exactly does that look like? How can it affect your self-esteem, decision-making, and relationships? While we may not be able to change our mothers, we can change how we react and set boundaries for ourselves. Drawing insights from Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward, PhD, we’ll explore the steps to healing, standing up for yourself, and breaking free from the emotional grip of a controlling parent. By understanding these dynamics, you can stop relying on your mom’s judgment for love, and begin the journey toward reclaiming your independence, building confidence, and forming healthier relationships for generations to come.If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. Let’s continue this conversation and work toward healing together.Key Takeaways:✅ Your mother’s controlling behavior is not okay, and you have the right to establish firm boundaries.✅ Seeking therapy and support can help you stand up for yourself and make independent decisions.✅ It’s natural to make mistakes when learning to navigate life on your own—embrace them as growth opportunities.✅ Surround yourself with supportive, safe people who uplift and encourage you.✅ The goal is to recognize these behaviors so we don’t repeat the cycle with future generations.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you always have to be the strong one? Being resilient is a powerful trait, but when it comes to love and relationships, it can also create walls. Many of us learned to be tough because of our upbringing, but real connection requires trust. Don’t let old narratives convince you you can only rely on yourself. Love thrives on trust—both in yourself and the right people. Let’s explore how to find the balance between strength and vulnerability.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Does your mom think she’s your best friend? Some mother-daughter relationships blur the line between love and control, with moms inserting themselves into every aspect of their daughter’s life—where they live, what job they take, and even how they dress. Often, this stems from a deep fear of being left behind or an unfulfilled need to relive experiences through their child.While their intentions may not always be harmful, the emotional toll can be overwhelming. This episode unpacks the signs of an overly enmeshed mother, the impact on daughters, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Breaking free isn’t easy, but recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your independence—without the guilt.✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why some mothers struggle to separate their own identity from their daughter’s life✔️ The subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways control and guilt come into play✔️ Signs you have an overly enmeshed mother✔️ The emotional toll—and how to break free✔️ How to set boundaries while maintaining (or redefining) the relationship📖 Quote from the Episode:"In a healthy relationship, the bond between a mother and her daughter is meant to be a flexible, malleable connection that can withstand distance, conflict, and differences." — Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can’t Love💡 Final Takeaway:Breaking free from an over-involved mother can be tough, but true freedom comes from standing firm in who you are—even if it means weathering her disapproval. Your life is yours to live.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

It’s not that your mom doesn't love you, it’s that she doesn’t know how to love you. Have you ever found yourself wondering, ‘Does my mom really love me?’ It’s a painful question that many of us with difficult mothers have asked. In this episode, I dive into the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a mother who couldn’t love the way we needed. Inspired by Susan Forward’s book Mothers Who Can’t Love, I explore how understanding your mother’s past and patterns can be the key to healing and breaking the cycle.If you’ve struggled with feelings of rejection, longing, or even guilt surrounding your mother-daughter relationship, this episode is for you. You are not alone, and healing is possible.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why the question isn’t "Does my mom love me?" but rather "Does she even know how to love?" ✔️ How generational trauma and unmet childhood needs shape our mothers—and us ✔️ The different types of emotionally unavailable or toxic mothers ✔️ Steps to start healing and freeing yourself from the emotional weight of your past ✔️ How to ensure you don’t repeat the cycle in your own familyResources Mentioned:📖 Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward, PhD: https://bit.ly/3QhTRPs 📖 UnMothered: Life with a Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered 📚 My 6-week course "Patience & Grace" – A program designed to help women heal from toxic mother wounds: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmotheredLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Our bodies and minds are such an amazing tool, but it can also be damaged by trauma. When that happens, we can be doing life through a failed truth. Let’s explore how trauma affects our bodies and how it is a real dilemma that most people would rather ignore than face. When we can get real about what our body is feeling during stressful situations, we can start to become the person God has intended. Then we can change the habits that have been keeping us stuck in a faulty reality. Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityThis podcast is on YouTube now! Go watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcastsPurchase a signed copy of my book: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmotheredThe UnMothered Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.