The UnMothered Podcast

In this episode, I want to provide you with tips on how to identify your traumas and triggers in your day-to-day life. I will share some personal examples of what triggers and traumas look like in my life and some ways I cope with them.Last week we talked about Gabby Windey from The Bachelorette and how she was ‘triggered’. Not everyone understands these different triggers and understand that are associated with the trauma you have witnessed or been through. It took me a long time to realize what my mind and body were doing and why I would shut down or run away from things that set me off.Trials will come when you are in a relationship and one thing they do can set you off, but that shouldn't stop you from communicating it to them. A good partner will listen to what trail you have been through and make a note not to trigger you when they can help it. Next week we are going to talk about different ways to ground yourself and help you stay in the now, not the past.Don’t forget to subscribe or leave a review on how you like this episode!The UnMothered Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/

As I was channel surfing I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this, Gabby Windey was on a date and they were talking about family.His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! How when she graduated her mother wrote her off …she started to cry..it broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction.If we look at the history of where your parents came from, chances are there has been a lot of dysfunction for many generations. It may have started with them, but it ends with you! You have the potential to end the cycle of dysfunction and unhappiness.The UnMothered Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/

When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me”. I want to give you mentoring and encouragement you may have never had. Let’s create some new thoughts and patterns with things I’ve worked through and with some amazing God-filled experts. Women who have walked through the same road can give us wisdom. I will support you on this journey and bring some good advice and lots of love as we find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. If you want to be connected with other women who struggle with a toxic mother-daughter relationship, join my UnMothered Community Facebook Group. You can always find me over on Instagram too if you want to get in touch! Are you ready peeps? Let’s get started!