The UnMothered Podcast

Do you ever look back at the younger you and feel sadness? Are you afraid to make changes now because it is comfortable staying in this place, even though it makes you mourn what could have been? The journey to start changing some of the habits and hurts in which you came from can be tricky. Some of those old ways are easy on some level, and changing everything around can spin your head! Don’t be afraid of change! Let’s explore what happens when you start the process of getting into a healthy place but wonder if it’s too hard or too scary with the “unknowns”. P.S. It’s okay to cry over things that didn’t work out. My book, UnMothered No More, is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine?Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes for the first time) and not looking for outside affirmation. This is sometimes hard when you haven’t been shown self-esteem or confidence in yourself.  I think we can agree that God is the only one who can help you feel your best as He walks with you to show you what true “self-confidence” looks like, but let's explore how we can get there on our own.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son. Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything!My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness? This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you. You might be surprised by some answers.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story! Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with her story! Today, Phylis is an author and speaker, and she recounts her story of surviving her mother’s abusive behavior as a child and later, as an adult, breaking through the pain of that abuse and trauma to become a daughter who forgave her mom and recognized that God loved them both. She talks about the “body, mind, and spirit” connection in spiritual and mental health, and details the 16-year journey that led her to not only forgive her mother but also love her.🔗 CONNECT WITH COUNTER CULTURE MOMhttps://linktr.ee/CounterCultureMomMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needleMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreCan you have a relationship with your toxic mother? The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-morePart of breaking generational dysfunction is to stop allowing the excuse of, “But it’s your family.” When do we stick by family because it’s family, and when do we have to decide on something better? Over the years I’ve come to a realization that loving families show up and it’s a safe place, not a place that makes you more miserable when you are around them.Knowing that unless THEY (your mom or family member) want to repent and change AND show that difference over time, you are not required to “hang in there”. That serves no purpose and you will never change the dynamic of your future life or family.Stand strong in this journey of breaking generational dysfunction. Remember you have a community here. If you haven’t joined “The Unmothered Community” our private group on Facebook is growing each day, and I have a lot of new plans for these amazing, strong women in the future. Just answer 3 questions and you are welcome to join us! Family is not just the people who gave birth to you, but people who show up and love well! Check out the book I mention: "But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath" by Dr. Sherrie Campbell: https://bit.ly/3X387yj (this is a affiliate link)The movie mentioned is “Hillbilly Elegy” which is the true story of VP Candidate JD Vance.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreDoes your mom think she’s your best friend? Some mother-daughter relationships blur the line between love and control, with moms inserting themselves into every aspect of their daughter’s life—where they live, what job they take, and even how they dress. Often, this stems from a deep fear of being left behind or an unfulfilled need to relive experiences through their child.While their intentions may not always be harmful, the emotional toll can be overwhelming. This episode unpacks the signs of an overly enmeshed mother, the impact on daughters, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Breaking free isn’t easy, but recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your independence—without the guilt.✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why some mothers struggle to separate their own identity from their daughter’s life✔️ The subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways control and guilt come into play✔️ Signs you have an overly enmeshed mother✔️ The emotional toll—and how to break free✔️ How to set boundaries while maintaining (or redefining) the relationship📖 Quote from the Episode:"In a healthy relationship, the bond between a mother and her daughter is meant to be a flexible, malleable connection that can withstand distance, conflict, and differences." — Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can’t Love💡 Final Takeaway:Breaking free from an over-involved mother can be tough, but true freedom comes from standing firm in who you are—even if it means weathering her disapproval. Your life is yours to live.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreWhat are the qualities or differences in a healthy Mom versus a toxic Mom? Big differences in my opinion. Is there such a thing as a perfect mom? I haven’t met one yet, but I know we can always do better than what we have grown up in if we have, in fact, grown up in toxicity. Let’s talk about what each of these kinds of moms looks like, and see if there is any improvement that needs to be made on our part to be the kind of mother we dream of. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreAs I was channel surfing, I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this. Gabby Windey was on a date, and they were talking about family.His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! When she graduated, her mother wrote her off …she started to cry. It broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction.If we look at the history of where your parents came from, chances are there has been a lot of dysfunction for many generations. It may have started with them, but it ends with you! You have the potential to end the cycle of dysfunction and unhappiness.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

How do you show gratitude when everything is falling apart? Can you find the blessing in the midst of the storm? Digging through this tough time is where your faith grows, but it is tougher than most think. Let’s find the joy that God knows your pain and still will have good for you moving forward.My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens to your own body when a loved one takes their own life? It’s a touchy subject and not one everyone can talk about to their friends. It’s still a taboo subject and one riddled with guilt and shame. Everyone wants you to move on, but your body is keeping score. It’s time to find out how to help yourself process that trauma within. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Are we too protective and private in our motherhood journey? I know for some of us, we have put up walls to protect, but what if there was a community that could come alongside you and walk with you through it all! Other countries do it; we need to take a note from their playbook.Today I am taking the advice of my oldest daughter, Ariel, and reading an eye-opening book called “Please Yell at My Kids” by Marina Lopes. If you have ever wondered if you are doing the right thing in your motherhood journey, this is a must-read! I am so happy to share these insights with you today as we explore what other cultures think about motherhood, giving birth, grandparents' roles, community, and so much more! Affiliate link to the book: https://bit.ly/4qQdcbrMy latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today!https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-moreLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Can you become a good mom without a map? Has your dysfunctional childhood warped your parenting skills? I was asked this question as a guest on a podcast recently, and I wanted to dig through this a bit deeper because I thought it was such a great question! Lord knows I didn’t do motherhood perfectly, and I was fearful of everything, but we have to let our children fall sometimes so they can learn the lesson of how to pick themselves back up.We can become awesome (not perfect) moms in spite of how we grew up. You just need to be willing to unpack the things that were not healthy or safe and replace them with good, loving habits!🎙️I just had the opportunity to be on The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina Griffin where we discussed Forgiveness. May it help you and your family! VIEW ON VARIOUS PLATFORMSDownload the Counter Culture Mom App: https://bit.ly/landingpageCCMClick THE CCM SHOWThen select PLATFORMSApple Podcast link: bit.ly/CCMApplePodcast Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

Do you fake your way through life? Is behavior modification a regular “go to” for you? Does it look good on the outside, but you are spiritually weak on the inside? Is it possible to learn new brain pathways AND join your brain and faith? Let’s find out.Check out the other Capo Beach sermons on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapoBeachChurchLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

What happens when you attract the wrong people because you are giving and kind? Well, I think the answer lies in the reason why you feel you have to be so kind all the time to everyone. Maybe you were the peacemaker in your family, or the caregiver. Now you think the only way you can get love and affirmation is to DO IT ALL! Let’s dig into the “why” of being kind at all costs.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.