The Subconscious Expert

1. Your subconscious mind is always “ON”. 2. Subconscious mind has unlimited capacity. 3. “No or Not” do not exist in subconscious mind’s vocabulary. 4. Subconscious mind knows only “now” 5. Subconscious mind cannot make the difference between your imagination and the actual event. 6. Subconscious mind controls 95% of our lives. 7. Our external world is a reflection of our subconscious mind. 8. Repetition creates new believes in subconscious mind. Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE - Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

1. Get super comfortable with your decisions. The first thing I did to move through this was to get really confident with my decision making. Instead of jumping straight in and saying yes, due to a fear of upsetting people, I ask myself - “ Ok Bec, is this going to make you grow or make you low”. Your intuition knows these answers, she is a pretty powerful source that isn’t tapped into half enough! You will hear her first, before the ego kicks in, before the fear kicks in - she will softly whisper and it’s best to follow. I don’t think I could count on my hand the amount of decisions I’ve made when I DIDN’T listen to my gut; only ten minutes later I came to say - gosh why didn’t I listen to myself. 2. Be transparent! This was A BIG ONE for me! As a people pleaser you always want to protect everyone else before yourself right, but by sweeping things under the rug (my pile became pretty big), you make the situation worse for all concerned. When we become transparent with people, there is clarity and honesty. What I do now is to announce this when I am saying no. “ Hey, ____, I am being really transparent with you here, I am going to say no” The person on the receiving end will appreciate this much more, as you stand in your confident self, they will appreciate and value your honesty and they’ll know where they stand. You don’t have to be rude or abrupt, but said with honesty and integrity, they will understand and appreciate that. They’re more likely to be empathic to your cause. 3. By saying NO to one thing you are saying YES to another. By saying no to something you don’t want to do, you are allowing energy, space and freedom for something more epic to come along. Why would you want to block that eh? We all want new doors, opportunities and incredibleness to come into our lives wherever it’s possible, so stop blocking it by saying yes to things that actually don’t serve you! 4. Don’t leave it to the last minute. One of the stories I tell myself and many around me is that ‘I’m last minute Haydon’. We have this ongoing joke in our family and it’s always been that way - oh here we go again, last minute Haydons (you know - starting the dissertation a week before it’s due, is kinda last minute). However, this is purely a story I tell myself and believe, and its one that I am changing. In leaving the change of heart, the YES/NO situation to the last minute, you create even more stress and discomfort for yourself, and for others. If we go back to the first point in this list, and think about listening to our intuition, it helps us to make quick decisions and get it over and done with. The more we drag things out, the worse it becomes. So, what are you saying YES to that you should really be saying NO too? What are you blocking by saying YES to things that no longer serve you? I challenge you this week - to say NO and LOVE it! Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE- Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

1. Acknowledge The first step to letting go of anything we think is holding us back is acknowledging that we do it. This acknowledgement doesn’t need to come in the way of labels, of telling yourself you are perfectionist, when we label we take it to our identity. Our identity is very protected and labels are an invitation to buy into an idea about yourself that doesn’t serve you well, therefore making it harder to change. So if we flip it into a behaviour - we know we can change that. Quickly! As you acknowledge where that perfectionism is showing up as a behaviour I want you to become aware of situations that bring out your perfectionist most strongly. 2. What is it feeding? Perfectionism at the moment is serving you, serving some part of you even if it doesn’t serve your higher self - so understanding why you challenge yourself with those EPIC high standards is very helpful. It could be fears such as: What if I get it wrong? It’s got to be perfect or no one will buy? I will feel more confident when it’s perfect. So what beliefs do you have that come hand in hand with your perfectionism, identifying these give us the fuel to make the small changes with those habits. You can choose the beliefs you want to hold, and the ones that no longer serve you. 3. Face the worst case Perfectionism often shows up because we want to make damn sure that we don’t fail! But coming from a prevention mindset is not good for our creativity and innovative thinking we need. To get over this, I’ve found it useful to look at the worst case scenario, and how (un)likely it is to occur. And to realise that there’s probably something you can do in that remote situation anyway. Getting those dark thoughts out in the fresh air takes away their potency. 4. Identify what perfect looks like to you? I want you to ponder on this question for a moment and we are going to find a middle ground. What is your definition of perfect? What is the opposite to that? What is somewhere in the middle? If you were to play from somewhere in the middle, how would that feel? How achievable would that be for you? Would you get more done, launch more, show up more coming from the middle ground rather than looking into the perfect? So it’s time to start recognising it in your own behavior, and experiment to find the ways that work best for you to apply it only in those situations when it’s needed. That way, you can make the tendency toward perfect work for you, not against you. Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected] Facebook Group - The Female Confidence Club!

“Hang on, let me overthink this.” Give me a hell YES if you can agree with this quote. I certainly can! Overthinking allows us to bring in stress, exhaustion, lack of sleep and unhappiness. We know this, we know the pain it causes and yet I still see so many people running from this model! 1. You are the creator of your story! 2. Know your trigger. 3. Become a solution thinker. 4. Take a step back

Stop Questioning Yourself Good questions are so unbelievably useful when coaching my clients, but the questions you start asking yourself when you are holding yourself back, ARE NOT the questions we need in our life. When we are growing, shifting and working through our limiting beliefs, breaking through our barriers and leveling up as women, our analytical mind comes into play. Over the past month I have felt the need to show up in so many new ways. I’ve expressed elements of myself that I thought were better left under lock and key, and I’ve allowed my true authentic self to emerge to the surface. I have done so much work on breaking down my old identities, behaviours and habits, and in doing so, I’ve brought a new light of trust within me that I keep pushing through. During this process our minds tell us that it’s not safe to take this new, next step; that people will be judging us, that people will laugh at us, that people will no longer love us if we start showing up the way we want to. However, it is completely up to us to catch the limiting beliefs, questions and queries, and challenge the HELL out of them! At the moment, you might hear your analytical mind jumping in to question these big moves, massive decisions and new epic thoughts you are having. It may be doubting your abilities, questioning why you’ve decided to do this when you are definitely NOT ready, wanting to tell you that it’s better to stay EXACTLY where you are - ultimately stopping you from taking that next incredible leap in your life. The good thing to know is that our true authentic self is always within, and if we sort through the BS of the inner critic, the analytical mind, we start hearing and re-connecting with what we truly want - that helps us break through and beyond any fear that we are facing. So how can we start to break down the analytic self and start tapping into that true authentic self? 1. Own your own truth! Simple eh? However I see so many people using the ‘questioning’ as self-sabotage. From around the age of 10 we learn to fit in and to try and be the same as everyone - just in case we're bullied or taunted. We learn not to speak our truth and to live in the shadows. Luckily, I see this changing in our society a little more now, but growing up we learned ways to push our true authentic self down, lock it away and forget about it. Ow thigh, YOU have the right and the choice to own your truth. You have a choice and the right to stop questioning what you’ve always known. You have the permission to say no, to say I don’t agree, to stand in your superpower. When we start coming from a place of pure alignment, the confidence follows us because we are not trying to be anyone but ourselves. 2. Release Your Mind The questioning comes from a busy mind, an occupied mind and mind where you are not allowing space to flow and ease through your day. Did you know that humans on average, can have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 negative thoughts per day? Pretty crazy, right? But here’s the real kicker: According to neuroscience, the brain is not designed to create happiness. It’s actually designed to survive, which is why we may have so many negative thoughts and constantly question our decisions. I know how it feels to be so stuck in your mind, that you can’t even hear yourself breath. The words, the doubt and the chatter is so loud that you don’t know what day it is. But it’s time you got out of your head and into your belly. Doing practices that really ground you and take you away from your head, such as journaling, meditation, concentrating on the breath, going for a walk, a run or a skip really allows us to ground from within. 3. Ask better serving questions Like I said at the start, questions can be really insightful, incredible and empowering. But these questions are not usually the questions that pop up when you wake up in the middle of the night! Don’t let these sorts of questions control you, and don’t intentionally invite them in. These certain questions (am I good enough springs to mind) are usually played on a loop based habit so make sure you catch yourself and start asking better questions. “Without questions, there is no learning” Questions need to serve us, and serve our life in a good way. Old Question : I’m never going to do this am I? Better Serving Question : How can I make sure I achieve this? When we start asking better questions, we will start getting better results. We open our mind to the opportunities rather than the negatives. So yes, I want you to stop questioning yourself in the wrong way, and I want you to start using and being in control of powerful better serving questions. Give it a go this week and see how you get on!

Throughout growing my business and stepping into the CEO role, I have found these 5 C’s to be INCREDIBLY important, and the missing links my clients seem to have when we start working together 👇🏻 Clarity Consistency Celebrations Conscious Changes Courage Which ones are you missing in your life at the moment? 🥁 DRUM ROLL PLEASE! 🥁 WELCOME TO CONFIDENCE QUEEN! 🤩👸🏼 An 8 week online group program for female entrepreneurs ready to create unstoppable confidence, so they can sell with ease, show up as the expert and build their empire. So you if you are… 🤯 Tired of watching everyone else show up and ooze confidence and leadership and you’re wishing you could do the same? 🤯 Hearing the ‘I’m not good enough’ thought a little too often and letting doubt slip in? 🤯 Falling into the comparison ‘trap’ and feeling that others in your niche are more of an expert than you? Then girl, I GOTCHA 🙋🏼‍♀️ I want you to imagine days like this in your business, really imagine… 🤩 You feel so confident in yourself and believe in your capabilities. You don’t have time to listen to the doubt because you are already taking action! 🤩 Your ideal clients see you as the GO TO expert because you believe and know that you are. 🤩 You show up on social media and on LIVE videos feeling empowered and ready. 🤩 You are watching your business soar, because your mindset and confidence is UNSTOPPABLE (as sure as the sun rising). By the end of our 8 weeks together you will: ✨ Show up on social media as the GO-TO expert in your field. Stop the chase and start attracting dream clients. ✨Have a clear roadmap to your BEST SELF vision, giving you unbelievably clear goals that you know you will achieve, confidently. ✨Be taking action, that’s for sure! Realising and owning the value of your experience and how it can help others. I know you girl, you are just like me, a complete action taker! So if you are ready to unleash unstoppable confidence and step into your superpower, then this is for you. But, you gotta move fast because you only have 7 days till I close the royal gates 👑 And even faster if you want the Early Bird price saving £151 which closes Sunday 16th August! Are you ready to become a Confidence Queen? 👑 Doors close 19th August! Click here to join - www.rebeccahaydon.com/confidence-queen ✨ Click here to join the challenge - www.rebeccahaydon.com/confidence-challenge/ Book your free Confident Mastery Session Here - https://rebecca-haydon.as.me/confidencemasterysession

Inner work is so important when we are looking at confidence. It’s important that we go inside to come out. When we mask the inner feelings, blockages and resistance with more mantras, affirmations and scarcity we move forward slightly but never ever enough. It’s important to invest in yourself, not just your business! What’s holding you back from doing the inner work? Are you a driven female entrepreneur with big dreams and goals for your business? Then you will LOVE ‘The Confident Business Woman Challenge’ Click here to join : www.rebeccahaydon.com/confidence-challenge/ Join me in this FREE 3-day challenge to learn the how-to-steps to remove your hobby mindset and show up as the confident business boss lady you want to be building that trustworthy brand that your ideal clients can’t help but to buy from! You see, confidence is a skill we can learn, a set of habits we can create and one of the biggest superpowers you can attain in your business. What’s included? Day 1: Say Goodbye to the Hobby Mindset Challenge Outline: Day one we will look at where you sit on the Hobby - CEO Mindset scale at the moment. Going through what beliefs are stopping you from creating the business of your dreams and techniques on how we move forward to becoming a confident thought leader. Day 2: Your Confidence Equation Challenge Outline: When our equations, values and limiting beliefs are not aligned with our business goals and dreams this is where we get stuck. I will empower you to find the business boss lady you want to become, how she behaves and what that looks like going forward. Day 3: Becoming the CEO BOSS LADY! Challenge Outline: Now we are ready to create habits that stick for a lifetime. A set of values that carry our confidence, why and mission and bank of beliefs that carry you forward to help you show up online, charge what you believe you are worth and build your empire. What will the transformation look like: At the end of the 3 day challenge you will have a crystal clear idea of what the CEO boss lady mindset looks like to you. What you need to think, feel and act in order to run your business in a confident mindset and leave the hobby mindset behind. You will have a set of tools and techniques that will help you to start showing up consistently online and believe that you are capable of achieving your business and life goals. When is the challenge? Monday 10th August Tuesday 11th August Wednesday 12th August www.rebeccahaydon.com/confidence-challenge/ Get in Touch… Book Your Free Call - https://rebecca-haydon.as.me/confidenceclaritycall Join My Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/282595103138638/ Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]

Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE - Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

The first question for you today… What’s one area of your life where, if you stopped making excuses, you could create radically different results? What specific excuse do you need to drop? Excuses are the only thing standing in the way of you and what you most want. So there are a couple of questions I want you to right down now, and next time something doesn’t turn out as planned I want you to whip these out, no no, not the excuses, these questions… How did I create that? What were my beliefs? What did I do or not do to create that certain result? How did I get the other person to act that way? What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want? Now these questions may feel a little confronting however, these questions allow us to always have the ball in our court, we are looking internally and being the creator of our life. We have the ability to reflect on how we behaved and reacted and learn for the next time. “If you don’t like your outcomes. Change your responses” So today, it’s time to step up and replace the blame! Here’s how: Take Responsibility For ALL Your Actions Take Action Every Day Change your Attitude Believe in Yourself Visualise Your Success It’s Okay to Not Be Perfect Thinking the thought + created the feeling + made the choice + took the action + said the words = where you are now. YOU are the one that makes the choice. Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Book a Confidence Mastery Session : Click Here Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

You Won't Survive as an Entrepreneur Treating Your Business Like a Hobby. I’ll never forget when my first business coach asked me “so how much have you made in your business so far?”⁣ It was hard to answer that, you know why - I didn't have a CLUE!⁣ ⁣ From that day, everything changed. I went from the ‘this is a hobby business’ mentality to ‘I am a business owner and boss lady’ mentality.

When you are writing out your affirmations there are a few rules: Make sure your affirmations are written in first person. When writing out your affirmations make sure you start with ‘I’ or ‘I am’. This automatically gives you affirmation an identity, and that identity is you. It makes the statement personal powerful motivators for self-change. ALL Affirmations are to be written in the POSITIVES! Always, ALWAYS, always state your affirmations in the positive. So, for example, instead saying, “I no longer want to be fat,” you might say, “I love my body, and my size and am happy with how I feel and look”. Make sure your affirmations have an emotional drive. I want you to fill your affirmations with feeling. Using emotional words in affirmations is important, because of the deep association we have between emotion words and our experiences. So instead of “I only eat healthy food,” which sounds suspiciously chore-like, try: “I feel vibrant and alive when I make healthy choices for me.” (My favourite) Make sure your affirmations are written as if they are already happening, RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW. Write your affirmations as if they are already happening. This means affirming, “I am positive and motivated,” instead of “Three months from now, I will be positive and motivated.” Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE - Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

Here’s some ways I believe we can invest in ourselves to grow for the future. Feel free to make a list of your own: Invest in your self-confidence and self-worth Invest in your health Invest in your knowledge Invest in your creativity Invest in breaking down your barriers and limiting beliefs. Get rid of the things that are holding you back! So, moving forward, make sure you are investing your time or money into at least one, if not all of these things. You may have more to add to the list – finances, relationships – there are so many things we can invest in. Investing money in yourself is a scary thing, I will be the first to say. It’s much easier to spend £100 on a night out, having a delicious meal or a couple of cocktails, or to spend £200 on a pair of shoes. But other than a quick fix of happiness does that investment help you to have a positive mindset and a great future! Investing time and money in yourself is something you need to get comfortable with – it’s the key to unlocking a new door, a new potential, a new life. Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE - Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

Think about what you are trying to be ‘motivated’ to do… What three mini accomplishments could you do today to move you closer towards that goal? 1. We listen to fear When we rely on motivation alone, fear shows up to prove to us that we really won’t achieve the goal we are trying to achieve. The negative thoughts, and the ‘what if I don’t achieve this’ can out way the motivation and we fall into the hole of ‘ah forget it I’ll try again some other time’. 2. Inconsistent self-worth When we rely on being motivated we start to question our every move, and in doing so, question our self-worth. We begin to feel down if we ‘fall off the band wagon’ or ‘haven’t done the things we needed to do today’. External factors start to affect our motivation, subsequently affecting our self-worth. 3. We believe X will give us Y When we are close to reaching our goal, we put a feeling on the goal and don’t allow ourselves to feel it unless we achieve it. Therefore, if we can’t rely simply on motivation to get things done and achieve our goals, what can we rely on? HABITS! The key to this, is that we must consistently act on our goals, whether we are “motivated” or not. This is a very simple and easy exercise that I do with my clients, but it’s the one thing I swear by, as it truly does create lasting habits. If you take this exercise into account and start acting on it today, then all the things that are inconsistent in your life will begin to be consistent. Think about what you are trying to be ‘motivated’ to do… What three mini accomplishments could you do today to move you closer towards that goal? Get in Touch... Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]

Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE - Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

1. UNPLUG! I was laughing at myself this week because I have become literally ADDICTED to checking my phone in the morning; it’s the VERY first thing I do. I have to make sure I have seen all Instagram stories and have scrolled down to the last post I saw before I start my day – I am crazy I know! So, if the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night is look at your phone, it’s time to unplug. It’s virtually impossible to have a healthy balance when you’re obsessing over comparisons or what needs to be done. Inevitably your phone reminds you of all of these! 2. There is no time like the present, LITERALLY! Let’s bring ourselves back to the PRESENT. “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, which is why we call it the present.” Set aside weekly time that is NON-NEGTIONABLE “you” time! Make sure you are not working, not planning, not thinking – you are just “being”. If that’s a glass of wine, catch up on Bake Off or going for a walk – whatever that looks like for you – practice just “being”, be really PRESENT! 3. Ask yourself “Why?” Sure, we want to conquer the world, but if you’re waking up at 5 am to exercise, do your job, create a side-hustle, go out for happy hour, and trying to be a loving friend/partner/parent, one has to ask a big fat “Why?” Seriously. You may tell yourself, “That’s just how it is,” or “I need to keep up with everyone else”. But, if it feels like you achieve and keep achieving in order to feel validated and worthy, then you could be setting yourself up for emotional disappointment and frustration. What could you do to give that to yourself instead? After all, true happiness comes from the inside-out. Ask yourself “Why am I doing this right now? What will it give me?” 4. Ramp up the self-love. What can you do that’s just for you? Is there a hobby you’ve stopped participating in? When’s the last time you read a book purely for enjoyment? Do things each day that contribute to your self-care. Make it a non-negotiable, not a once-in-a-while activity. The act of valuing yourself as much as you value others will shift that need-to-please mentality. So ultimately, it’s not about achieving more, it’s about achieving more of what’s right for you! Bring it back to you, back to the present and look after yourself. Get in Touch... Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]

Are you juggling one hundred different plates, and trying to do everything perfectly – outstanding – sensational – top notch? I HEAR YOU! Yesterday, those plates dropped around me, and finally I realised that I am being way too hard on myself; my abilities; my success and everything else that comes with it! In any walk of life, whether that’s being a parent, an entrepreneur, starting a new career, trying to lose weight – whatever our story, we always seem to enjoy spinning as many plates as we can. Lo and behold the ‘me time’ plate is always the one that has the least effort put into it. We strive for perfection, we strive for success and we want everything around us to be working perfectly without actually looking after the person who is running the show. Therefore, we can sometimes inadvertently end up being our own worst enemy. When we don’t give ourselves a break, mentally or physically, that’s when burnout hits us, and usually like a tonne of bricks. If we’ve not looked after ourselves well enough, or we haven’t let ourselves off the hook, BAM! It all comes crashing down – all one hundred spinning plates. So how hard are you on yourself? Do you give yourself a ‘break’? (I’m not talking about a holiday, I’m talking about not being so mean to yourself all the time). How can we be kinder to ourselves and not run from these high standards we put in place for ourselves? Here are my 10 tips: Your mistakes are part of your learning – take the positive learnings out of the mistakes and move on – QUICKLY! Don’t compare yourself to others because you aren’t them – the grass isn’t always greener – you are YOU, so accept yourself for who you are, faults and all. There is no right way to do anything – don’t limit your thinking to a right or wrong way – there is no right way to do the wrong thing, and no wrong way to do something right! Stand up for what you believe, even if it’s unpopular – make sure everyone understands your big plans, crazy ideas and dreams, don’t let anyone take that away from you. Learn from people who criticise you – don’t let criticism get you down; let it be an inspiration! Accept your weaknesses as your “features”. – we can’t be good at EVERYTHING, nobody is! Don’t underestimate your talent until you apply it 100 times – are you applying your natural talents to everything you do? Put your problems in perspective. Intelligence is relative, self-esteem is not – stay positive, take care of yourself, forget about being perfect, and always keep improving yourself. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed – having people you can trust and rely on will make you happier and feel better about yourself. So, what are you going to do this week to remove the pressure and be kinder to yourself? Get in Touch... Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]

You are doing the best you can with the resources you have RIGHT NOW! Though related, self-acceptance is not the same as self-esteem. Whereas self-esteem refers specifically to how valuable, or worthwhile, we see ourselves, self-acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of self. When we're self-accepting, we're able to embrace all facets of ourselves—not just the positive, more "esteem-able" parts. As such, self-acceptance is unconditional, free of any qualification. We can recognize our weaknesses or limitations, but this awareness in no way interferes with our ability to fully accept ourselves. To become more self-accepting, we must start by telling ourselves that given all of our negatively biased self-referencing beliefs, we've done the best we possibly could with the resources we have at the time. 1. Are we accepting of ourselves? What don’t we accept about ourselves? What do I accept about myself? How can I amplify this? What it is that I don't accept about myself? How can I work through this? 2. Let Go of Guilt Focusing on the ‘I should do this’ or ‘I should have done that’ sets you up for being self-critical. When you "should" on yourself, you are judging yourself. When you judge yourself, you are limiting all of your potential to grow and think openly. We can't change the past, but we can learn from it and use those experiences as tools for change. Instead of getting caught up in the "should,” we are going to think of ways that you can learn to adjust your way of thinking. Think less of the ‘should’ and more of the incredible opportunities you have had and will have in the future. So maybe the guilt of an unconscious knowledge that you are not living the life of your parents. Or your grandparents. Or any other person that had a significant role in shaping your childhood. It’s OK. You are not them. Say to yourself, “I am doing the best I can with the resources I have right now” 3. Forgive Yourself I want you to see, from today all your “mistakes” as a learning experience that holds the key to moving forward faster and more consistently in the future. What VALUBLE lessons have you learnt from your mistakes? What strengths have you developed from those mistakes? What are three positive learnings you can take from those mistakes? 4. Make peace with your self Whatever that peace looks like to you: Focusing on your breath Long Walks Listening to Music Doing Yoga Meditation Going for a swim Disconnect from your phone Decluttering your house I want you to make sure you are escaping for a while, becoming really comfortable with sitting and being with yourself. Accepting yourself as YOU, right here, right now. Flaws and all. Workbook - https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Inner-Confidence-Challenge-Step-Five-Do-You-Accept-Yourself.pdf Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_

Self-respect is something that is earned and achieved over time. When you consistently live within your values, integrity, and life priorities, you feel good about yourself and your reliability and personal commitment. To develop self-respect, you need to believe — or at least want to believe — the following truths: You deserve to be treated with respect as much as any other human. No one is going to build your self-respect for you; it’s a choice you have to make. How much you respect yourself generally determines how much others respect you. When you build self-respect . . . You accept personal responsibility for your own life. You feel worthy and others view you as worthy and deserving. You value yourself enough to make healthy, sound choices. You feel empowered to follow your values and have your own boundaries. You are able to protect yourself from being taken advantage of. You feel happier and more self-confident in your career and life 1. What does respecting yourself look like to you? Self-Check Time! First, look within and question what practices make you feel your absolute best. Then, pay yourself the respect of prioritising them daily. For example, exercising regularly, starting every day with green juice, and being under the covers by 10 p.m. are all ways I show myself respect. Do you know your priorities in life? Is this your health? Your friends? Your self-development? Your growth? 2. Where do your priorities lie at the moment? One of your values in life might be your health but if your priorities aren’t matching that value we aren’t respecting yourself. Are you fueling your body with the right foods, are you exercising regularly and drinking enough water? If this is not happening then where are your priorities going instead and how can you create time to make sure your priorities are matching your core values and needs. 3.Learn to say no. Letting others know what isn’t OK doesn’t make you a bad person; it makes you a strong and respectable person. When you stop saying yes to things you don’t want to do, you create more time and energy to engage with the activities and people that do make you happy. 4. Don't let other people define your boundaries. Many people have good intentions, but their advice is often clouded by their emotional baggage. So when someone tells you "You'll never be able to do that" or "You shouldn't" or "You can't," ignore them until you have figured out for yourself what's true. When we take on other people’s baggage and beliefs it shadows what stands true to us. We must learn to receive in one ear and out the other. 5. Respect yourself by taking action around things that excite you. Yes, taking action on the unknown can be scary stuff. We're never guaranteed our ideal outcome, and that can cause us to retreat, big time. But the most successful people aren't afraid to try something new. Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of Harvard, and the rest is history. Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak began Apple in their garage. You get the picture! Workbook : https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Inner-Confidence-Challenge-Step-Six-R-E-S-P-E-C-T.pdf Social Media : @_rebecccahaydon_ www.rebeccahaydon.com

Self-Determination is freedom, being in complete and total control of your reality. With self-determination you are the ultimate authority in your own life, decided what your values and beliefs are, and then acting in total accordance with them. You make the rules to your own reality Let’s Get Clear on Your Values What are your top 5 values in your life? Out of those 5 – what would be your NUMBER ONE VALUE! Number that next 4 in order from 2 – 5. What has to happen for you to feel your top value? What has to happen for you to feel your second value? What has to happen for you to feel your third value? What has to happen for you to feel your forth value? What has to happen for you to feel your fifth value? How can you make these daily actions that you can do daily or weekly to feel your values more? Habit Stacking Let’s make a list of healthy habits that could really help you at the moment? What are they? Could it be journaling, could it be going for a walk, could it be bringing meditation into your life? Now look at that list – what on that list could you stack with a habit you already have? For example: Brushing Your Teeth – Being Mindful with Your Breathing Going for a run – Listening to a Self-Development Podcast Sitting down for your daily coffee – Journaling whilst doing that I want you to brain storm your habit stacks, and come up with at least two that you can start bringing in to your daily life, start this from tomorrow. FYI - It can take anywhere from 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit and an average of 66 days for a new behaviour to become automatic. There’s no one-size-fits-all figure, which is why this time frame is so broad; some habits are easier to form than others, and some people may find it easier to develop new behaviours. Tracking Your Progress If you have goals or achievements you are working towards how do you track them? Do you start them, close your eyes and hope for the best? Or do you have a plan in place in order to achieve that goal? When I work through the SMART goal setting session with my clients we really get specific of when, where and how we are going to achieve the goal. This gives the subconscious mind clear instructions on what is going to be happening. When we have the end goal, we can then break it down into monthly, weekly or even daily goals and achievements that move the needle towards the goal. Do you have a goal in mind? How are you going to track that goal? How are you going to make that a commitment to yourself? Is anyone going to keep you accountable? How are you going to celebrate when you reach the mini daily actions equalling in EPIC goal achievements? Enjoy Each Step It’s very easy on this journey to always look at the end goal and not actually enjoy the journey. Remember, we only have one chance in this life and if we are always looking towards the end goal we miss the journey! Each step in your journey can be a lot of fun if you learn to enjoy it. It’s never about what you do but how you do it. Take each step as an incredible moment to be enjoyed. See the victory right now not in the future. If you win your today, nobody can take your tomorrow away from you.

Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! - Dr. Seuss There is no other person in this world like you. You deserve to be loved not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life — YOU. Practicing self-love can be challenging for many of us, especially in times when we face serious challenges. Self-love is so much more than treating yourself to a hot bubble bath or going for a walk in nature, it’s about finding that place truly from within where we look at our baggage and root through the crap to find what we actually know to be true, ourselves, our whole selves, the ones we should love and focus on and not what ‘other people’ think we should. If it wasn’t for our limiting beliefs, the high expectations and social media, I am sure the problem of comparing ourselves wouldn’t exist. So, how do we solve this when we have to deal with each of these on a daily basis? 1. 15 Love Notes Your challenge today is to write 15 things you love about yourself and your body and why; anything from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Your 15 things should reflect the 15 things you love and the WHY behind all of them. It is because someone you love, loves it? It is something you have always loved about yourself? Or is it an AHA moment that you’ve just had as you’re sitting here right now? Something perhaps you have ever thought about, from your fingertips, to the mole on your back! 2. Compliment Yourself I want you to listen today/this week. Listen to how you would speak to your best friend, daughter, parents, and grandparents. How do you compliment them, what do you say, how do you say it? How do you feel when you are giving the compliment? Make a little note on your phone or grab a note pad to document each one. I then want you to look back and see how you can start complimenting yourself in the same way. Think about what you can say when you look in the mirror, when you complete a task, when you’re feeling proud of what you’ve done, when you put some lovely clothes on and feel fabulous!!! Where can you include these little compliments or notes of confidence into your day to day life, just as you would do with your best friend? 3. A Challenge When You Fall To Sleep As you get ready to fall asleep tonight, just before you are ready to fall asleep, give yourself I want you to say yourself love MANTRA 15 times: While you are saying the self-love mantra, mentally think of yourself in a wonderful place. Create an image of yourself the way that you would like to be, think of yourself proud, happy, confident and loving your body! In order not to fall asleep and not lose count, every time you say the suggestions, press down with each finger of your right hand, and then continue with each finger of your left hand and then back to the right until you have completed the suggestions 15 times. 4. Say Something Beautiful To Yourself In The Mirror. Every time you see your reflection from now on I want you to say something nice. Whether that is the same thing you say every time or something different. Not just in the mirror, in the reflection, in the car window, taking a selfie – where ever you are I want you to say something wonderful to yourself. What do you want to tell yourself/your body/ your mind every day – without really having to try hard? Workbook: https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Inner-Confidence-Challenge-Step-Three-Love-Yourself-From-the-Inside-Out.pdf @rebeccahaydoncoach www.rebeccahaydon.com

Not only does it simply feel good to believe in yourself, self-belief also brings about other desirable benefits. You will be glad to know that no one is born without self-belief, all of our topics this week are LEARNT behaviours. How good is that! Self-belief has to do with how much a person believes in themselves. It encompasses the belief in your values, skills, knowledge, and abilities. Self-believe is very important because it affects a person’s lifestyle and choices. A person without self-belief will constantly downplay their abilities while settling for less than what they deserve. Most times, the individual takes whatever blow life deals because they do not believe that they deserve better. So how can we grow our self-belief? Know exactly who you want to be? Let me ask you a question: If you were not afraid, what would you do? If fear wasn’t an option who would you be? If you secretly knew the answer what would you have? I want you to be BOLD in answering these questions. Don’t hold yourself back, don’t judge your answers, let the you that is inside you speak!! Our doubts and negative thought patterns, overtime make us forget these truths, they bury the real you along with your goals and dreams. So in order to gain self-belief, we need to work towards our goals whilst pushing away what we worked on yesterday – our low self-esteem. So, give yourself the space to dream a little, and make a list of all the things you would like to achieve and believe. In the process of doing this, whenever self-doubts spring up, push them away until you create a comprehensive list. Affirmation, Affirmation, Affirmation. Self-affirmations are really strong tools that reinforce your belief in yourself. This is because as humans, our self-image influences our behaviour. If you see yourself as one of the best looking people in the world, you will definitely behave like one. And if you see yourself as the future CEO of a company, you will also act like one. So, what you need to do is see yourself as someone worthy and amazing. We call this acting as if, now we need an affirmation that goes with that picture. Affirmations can help you create that image. They are positive statements that knock out doubts, especially when recited aloud and with belief. For example: “I am worthy of everything I desire.” “I am smart enough to achieve my goals.” “I deserve all the best things life has to offer.” So make a list of affirmations, stand in front of your mirror and say these words to yourself. It does not have to be lengthy. Just four uplifting sentences can help you feel prepared to conquer the world each day. It’s Time to Face Our Fears. What is a fear you are holding at the moment? It could be asking to go part time? It could be inviting the boy or girl out on a date? It could be doing something on your own? Whatever those fears are for you, I want you to start building this muscle. The phrase ‘Do one thing a day that scares you’ is batted around in the self-development arena a lot however if we could perhaps, maybe start doing one thing a week that scares us, or one thing a month that scares us we can start to build the muscle. Every time we do it, it becomes less scary therefore we are able to do it more. And when we succeed in facing our fears we grow our self-belief. Set Yourself Up to Win So in order to create that unstoppable self-belief we need to set ourselves up for success. What is the exact goal you are working towards? Work it back step by step, daily action by daily action to see exactly what you need to do to WIN! If we set ourselves up for success, make sure everything is in place for our subconsciously mind NOT to start self-sabotaging we will do daily actions so much better. Remember self-belief is a learned behaviour therefore we need to be taking daily action. If this small ‘ move the needle’ daily actions turn into weekly and monthly actions how much would you achieve in such a short space of time, because you broke it down rather than worrying about the bigger picture. WORKBOOK: https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Inner-Confidence-Challenge-Step-Two-The-Importance-of-Believing-in-Yourself-1.pdf LIVE TRAINING: https://youtu.be/H7yZCxnT_Ks Follow me: @rebeccahaydoncoach Email me: [email protected]

Low self-esteem is unfortunately a self-fulling prophecy. The worse you feel about who you are and what you do, the less motivation you'll have to do what it takes to build your self-esteem. From there it's easy to spiral down into a cycle of negative and circular thinking, we end up creating a constant cycle of negative beliefs, not taking action, not seeing results which in turn proves our negative belief. So today we are working through a few things we can do to start building our self-esteem, grab a pen and paper and we will begin! So first things first, I am going to start each live with a quote, a quote that lifts us up, makes us feel positive, driven and ready for the challenge. 1. Your Empowering Quote Mine - "Be FEARLESS in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire" Do you have a quote that automatically lifts you up, makes you feel strong and powerful – gives you the boost you need? If you have your ‘quote’ I would love for you to print it off and put it somewhere you will see daily! 2. Value List I want you to write a list of all your favourite things about yourself. You personal traits, your qualities, your best bits. Write them all down and then find EVIDENCE to prove that these are true! 3. Our Accomplishments Everything we have accomplished and I want you to write them down and we are going to call this your PROUD LIST. List everything you have done that you feel proud of, and WHY you felt proud at the time. I want you to tap into each of these particular times and remember how you felt, where is that feeling for you in your body, how does it shift your mindset or physiology? I want to make this list look pretty, maybe have it on the notes on your phone, create a word document, something you can look at when you need that lift and boost of self-esteem. It’s your PROUD LIST. Anyone want to share what they are proud of and how it made them feel at the time? 4. Sit in the here and now Feel the feelings you are experiencing. Feel the hear and now. Embrace it! Don't judge the story just be! Download the FREE workbook that goes with this podcast here - https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Inner-Confidence-Challenge-Step-One-Growing-Your-Self-Esteem.pdf Want to join in with the challenge this week? (Monday 20th to Sunday 26th) follow me on Facebook -www.facebook.com/pg/rebeccahaydonmindset/videos/ Or follow me on instagram - @rebeccahaydoncoach www.rebeccahaydon.com

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default ” — J.K. Rowling What if we lived in a world where we not only pushed past our FEAR of failure? What if we embraced it as a way of learning and developing ourselves? So, how can we get rid of this fear of failure, learn from our failure and start living our lives? 1. STOP SEEING FAILURE AS A MEASURE OF YOUR SELF-WORTH. Failing can often lead to frustration or sadness. Perhaps you anticipated success or feel embarrassed that the situation didn’t pan out; however, failure is not a measure of your worth or value as a person! Often your harshest critic is yourself. Try seeing that self-worth through your ability to keep trying and keep going than giving up. 2. FOCUS ON THE GOOD THINGS. After failure, you may feel horrendous about yourself. But in truth, everyone has something unique to them that they do well! Use what you do well to your advantage in the future. Whilst important to improve things about yourself, it’s also important to keep those good things strong. Avoid overly negative thinking by focusing on the positive aspects of yourself and your life. Write a list of 10 things you are good at – big or small! 3. USE FAILURE AS INSPIRATION. As I said before, my failure pushed me to work even harder, and gave me the motivation to push myself further. Use each mistake to build strength and courage. By embracing failure, you will become more comfortable with it as a part of your life and work.When you reflect on that in a week, month, or year from now, you may feel stronger for having faced your failures. 4. BE RESILIENT. Have that bounce back ability (I’m sure that’s a football term haha). Being resilient means the ability to bounce back from failure. You might feel depressed or upset with yourself. You may feel like giving up, but with resilience, you look for the positives, you look on the brighter side. Have a recipe for optimism- strive to do better, be confident – believe in yourself and creativity – and have a plan for how to improve! So, begin to enjoy the failure. Enjoy what it brings you. If you have guts, resilience, initiative and tenacity you will see an incredible progress in your mind frame if and when you do feel that failure.

1. Recognise that impatience has arrived. This may not be easy at first. When things aren’t going our way (for example, we’re stuck in traffic), we tend to think that the cause of our impatience is external to us (outside of our control). But, of course, the cause is what’s going on in our own minds, that is, our response to whatever problem we’re facing. So start by setting the intention to watch for impatience arising in your own mind as a response to not getting what you want right away. You may know some of your triggers already: Being put on hold on the phone for a long time Getting stuck in a long line at the supermarket Struggling to figure out a problem on your iPhone Facing an extended wait at the doctor’s (when does that NOT happen!) Having to listen to someone take what seems to be a LIFE TIME to explain real simple 2. Find out how impatience feels in your mind and in your body. Work on becoming comfortable with how impatience feels. Is your mind calm or agitated? Is your body relaxed or tensed? Do you spiral into a negative mindset? Really tap into what happens when you start getting impatient. 3. Begin to transform impatience into patience. This takes practice—patient practice. Patience is an act of self-compassion, and we all need more that right? Let’s start with those times when the environment or people aren’t following to your expectations: for example, you’re stuck in a traffic jam. First, notice that you’re responding with impatience. Second, pay attention to how it feels in your mind and in your body. Then ask yourself: “Is there anything I can do to change the situation for myself?” If the answer is “no” (which it almost always will be), then see if you can find what I’ll call “the good” in the situation. By this I mean, begin to focus on something pleasant or interesting while you’re waiting, maybe that’s music, or a podcast or listing 5 things you are grateful for right then and there. 4. Reflect on your journey so far If your impatience, like mine, is related to a goal or to something you want to achieve, I want you to take a moment to reflect on all the incredible things you have achieved on the journey so far. List 5/10 things you have already achieved since starting this journey What is your best highlight of the journey so far? What do you know about yourself now that you didn’t at the start of the journey? We can transform impatience into patience. It’s well worth the effort because being patient is a way of treating ourselves with compassion and it also helps us calmly accept things as they are, and that always feels good. Instagram : @rebeccahaydoncoach Facebook: Rebecca Haydon - Mindset Coach & Hypnotist www.rebeccahaydon.com

There’s a certain stigma attached to selfish behaviour, but a new study suggests that putting your own needs before others needn’t be as bad as you first think… In the traditional sense of the word, there is a difference between being centred on yourself and being “selfish”. While many of us constantly reflect about ourselves and our position in the world, we aren’t typically ruthlessly going around and taking things for ourselves so that others can’t enjoy them. The word “selfish” almost always has a negative connotation but I believe IT IS TIME to rebrand the word in order to highlight how healthy and productive positive selfishness can be. So how can we be positivity selfish? How can we have better regard for ourselves? There are many AMAZING things that can come from putting yourself first. Here are some that I believe could help us in the long run by sometimes being positively selfish: The first thing we could improve is our mental health. So often poor mental health stems from neglecting our own needs and placing others’ needs ahead of our own. This can cause hurt, discomfort and possible disadvantage to ourselves. Self-care or prioritising yourself, which may come across as selfish to others, allows us to regain a much-needed balance to our lives. I always liken this to charging your phone. There is not ONE single night that I will go to bed and not plug my phone into charge. And if the charger doesn’t work, wow the anxiety kicks in. So why don’t we behave the same for our body and mind. We need to recharge and reboot the same as we recharge or reboot our phone. The concept of recharging lets us focus wholly on ourselves, which we need to do to feel relaxed, happy and confident. The second thing I believe it will help is your relationships. We’re so conditioned to think that in good relationships, there’s no room for selfish behaviour – but the old saying, ‘In order to love others we must first love ourselves’ rings true. We must make sure our own needs are being met while attending to the needs of others. If we don’t do this, we can become bitter and resentful towards our partners in life. If all your time is spent attending to your partner’s emotional and physical needs, you run the risk of yours being neglected. Finally, I want us to think about being healthily selfish at work. Don’t be afraid to act in the best interests for your career. Being assertive, standing up for what you believe in and asking for what you want are all selfish acts, but are essential for nurturing working relationships and career advancement. You never know, having those assertive conversations may help you get that promotion or pay rise you’ve been desiring! So, this week I want you to try and be a little selfish. Positively selfish, with a pinch of self-regard. It’s going to take a lot of effort for me and it may for you too, but I really think it’s about time we make healthy selfishness more apparent. Putting yourself first is not a negative quality; it’s your job to take care of yourself and get what you need! www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram : @rebeccahaydoncoach Facebook : Rebecca Haydon - Mindset Coach & Hypnotist

“Joy comes to us in moments – ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary” – Brené Brown Firstly, write down your worries. If an anxious thought or worry comes into your head during the day, make a brief note of it. Ask yourself how you could solve this worry and write three things you could do to solve it. Perhaps give yourself a deadline or a commitment to solving the worry. If it’s something you physically can’t control or do anything about – then why are you worrying about it in the first place? Now you have written it down, cross it out in RED or a dramatic line and forget about. The next way to find joy in every day is to LAUGH! That’s right you heard me, LAUGH! No one would ever argue that laughing doesn’t make you feel good. Here’s a question – can you remember the last time you really laughed? Chances are, it may have been some time ago, which is a shame because laughing is not only fun, it has been shown to reduce stress, enhance immunity, improve blood flow and strengthen relationships. As adults, we can become so preoccupied with all our ‘grownup’ responsibilities, that we just don’t giggle as often as we did when we were kids. So, go on, embrace your inner child – have a laugh today! Thirdly, appreciate the small things. This is something I’ve written about previously. We all have tiny moments or things that go unnoticed or unappreciated, because we tend to think they’re either insignificant or we take them for granted. What if we made it a habit to embrace and celebrate the small things? Real life is happening all around us while we’re waiting for the other things, so why don’t we make a pact to start noticing them? The truth is that often the things that matter most are the small ones. Lastly, find joy in every day, and surround yourself with positive people! One big mistake we all make is that we don’t realise that happiness is our choice. We can choose to be happy, or not. I know that some of our choices are often influenced by the people in our life and if we change our life influencers for the better, we can dramatically increase our chances for happiness and success. Positive social connection is the greatest predictor of long-term happiness. Welcoming positive people into your world can be one of the most important choices for happiness you make. So, this week – find those little nuggets of joy. While you working to your end goal, don’t forget to and enjoy the HERE AND NOW. Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE – Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! •Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ •Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset •YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert •LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ •Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club •Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator Deep dive into the inner work with my 12 week 1:1 program.

There is NO time like the present to EMBRACE CHANGE. It has been a rocky start to 2020 with LOTS of change world wide. Change is scary, whether it’s big or small it generally comes with uncertainty and a fear of the unknown. Even when change is exciting, there is generally some feeling of fear. In today’s society, almost everyone is dealing with some form of change and probably on a daily basis. Here are seven steps that I learned and have used several times: 1. Check what your necessary needs are Go back to basics. The first thing I made sure of, was that my basic needs were met. After the jet lag disappeared I made sure I was getting enough sleep, made sure I was getting some exercise and decent food. When I finally started work, I made sure I had a good work/life balance (this was something I really lacked in England and was desperate to address) and made sure I really focused on getting a good balance of all of these things. 2. Ask yourself how much you can control When a big change occurs, it’s important to figure out how much control over the situation you really have. As soon as I feel out of control of any situation in my life, the anxiety or stress kicks in. Understanding your role and how much you can change can help you put things in perspective. There is something called the “Circle of Concern and Influence” which I read about in a book by Stephen Covey “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” where he introduces this concept. What he is saying is that we should focus on what we can control, and not waste energy on the things that you cannot. It’s very true! 3. Celebrate the positives Even though it can be a tough ask, focusing on the positives can really help you manage change. While the positive aspects of a situation might not be obvious to begin with, it’s worth seeking them out – no matter how small they might be. It’s likely that you will feel much better about the changes that you’re uncertain of, or are anxious about, if you find some positives from the situation. Cultivate a positive attitude and mindset towards change. If you face it with a negative attitude, you’re more likely to experience negative outcomes. This is something that I’ve practised many times and something my mom generally tries to do – even when we don’t want to hear it from each other, it can make a difficult situation more positive. 4. Make time for yourself I am strong believer of making time for yourself. No matter what you go through in your day-to-day life, one of the best ways to stay balanced and maintain a feeling of happiness is to schedule in pockets of ‘me time’. Rather than rushing around and then trying to gain some kind of peace and serenity at the end of the day, it is better to carve out segments of time throughout your working day. Push time aside to watch a film, meditate, exercise, do yoga, read a book, drink a glass of wine (or a bottle) – anything that really makes you stop in your tracks and have that 10 minutes to breath and refocus. 5. Prepare your emotions It’s important to accept the fact that you may be emotional during periods of change. It may be happiness, excitement or delight, but on the other hand, it could be feelings of fear, frustration, unhappiness or insecurity. Remember that these will have an impact on you and your energy levels, so, be prepared. 6. Take Action If the unwanted change is within your control, take an active approach to dealing with it. Try setting yourself some short-term goals to proactively address any challenges. Focusing on the problem at hand, developing a plan of action, and asking for advice are useful active strategies. 7. Seek support It’s perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed if the change you’re facing is really big, or there’s too much change happening all at once. At times like this, think about where you can seek support. This may be family or friends or a professional. Having support was such a big thing for me when I moved this year and I would always say, have the courage to ask for help. Without the support of my Mom and Dad who are constantly there to talk to or to FaceTime me when I need a friendly face or just someone to talk to, my wonderful boyfriend who has supported me through one of the most difficult times in my life so far when I lost my nan, or from my best friends who answer as soon as I messaged them, I’m not sure I would have pulled through the last few weeks. “We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you’re in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better” So, just like the lobster who has to manage the change each time he outgrows his shell, we can learn to manage change and live a life of resilience. Embrace the transition and see challenges as opportunities to thrive.

“The grass is greener where you water it” My 4 ways to STOP comparison: TASK 1 : BECOME AWARE OF, AND WRITE DOWN YOUR TRIGGERS. Is the only time you start comparing your life to other people’s when you scroll through social media? I know it’s a massive issue for me, but not the only one. There could be other circumstances in your life, for example, a certain person who constantly brags about this or that, or a certain activity such as driving past massive houses or dipping into Gucci just to have a browse? These could all be activities that make us feel inferior or discontented with life. So, your first task this week is to make a list of who and what you frequently envy or compare yourself to.Write how each thing negatively affects you and why it’s actually a waste of your time. Now you are aware, it will become easier to control. If those thoughts come into your head or you see the post from said person or said thing, acknowledge the comparison, and flip it to a positive for you – something you have achieved or done or accomplished. You are the only person you can compare yourself with. TASK 2 : BE GRATEFUL FOR WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW I have mentioned this before but being grateful for what is good in your life right now will remind you how much you have going for you. If you commit yourself to being deeply grateful for what’s good in your life, and remind yourself of it DAILY, you’ll be far less vulnerable to comparison and envy. If someone or something triggers that ugly feeling of negative comparison, stop and remind yourself of what’s good in your life. Go on – list three things RIGHT NOW TASK 3 : TURN COMPARISON INTO INSPIRATION. We tend to compare our ‘behind-the-scenes’ with someone else’s big moment. We focus on their success, not on the thousands of hours they’ve spent preparing and working for their achievement. Instead of letting other people’s triumphs be a time to get down, let it be a door opener to possibilities. Let it be an inspiration for what you can be, do and have in life. So if you do find yourself comparing this week, your task 3 is to take that comparison and make it inspirational for you. TASK 4 : DON’T LET FEAR BE THE ENEMY The reason why you don’t make some of the choices to propel yourself into this incredible future you deserve, is due to your fears. Don’t let yourself stay in that beautiful, easy, safe comfort zone. Do one thing every day that scares you. Push yourself out of your safe boundaries. So task 4 this week is to do one thing that pushes you out of your comfort zone. When looking at someone else’s success, you only see the result. You may be looking at years of effort, comparing your beginnings to their end. To achieve the success you desire, you need to walk the road to success. It never helps to jump to the end and make comparisons to those who have arrived. You are not them – things always look better from the outside than they do from the inside. Stop making yourself feel frustrated, anxious or paralysed about moving forward. Channel your energy into you, your growth, your success, your future. Focus on you. Water your own garden. You are amazing x Want to know a little more about me? Join my mailing list at www.rebeccahaydon.com Book a clarity call with me - https://rebecca-haydon.as.me/claritycall Join my Linked In Group 'Women Creating Unstoppable Confidence' - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/10529781/

"It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you are not" – Dennis Waitley The definition of Imposter Syndrome is the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills. We can definitely link imposter syndrome to other feelings of self-doubt – fear of success, fear of failure or self-sabotage for example, but imposter syndrome is a little more than that as it involves a constant fear of exposure, isolation or even rejection. Impostor Syndrome often strikes at moments of success: starting a new job, receiving an award or promotion, or taking on extra responsibility such as teaching others, starting your own business, or becoming a first-time parent. So those out there, who are resonating with these experiences and feeling, believing they are struggling from Imposter Syndrome, or for those listening who might know they have it, here are some examples I’ve picked up along the way with my coaching clients. “A weird feeling, I have that somehow I got where I am by accident” “I constantly wonder when they're going to come and tell me that my acceptance letter was a mistake” “At work, sometimes I literally wait for someone to approach me and tell me I don't know what I'm doing. No matter how many good appraisals I get or praise from people, in my head I feel like I'm clueless and it's only a matter of time before I'm found out." “I won't be able to believe that I'm good enough – even if others believe I go above and beyond” “Feeling like an imposter leads me to second guess myself a lot at work. I'm constantly undermining myself with 'This is probably a silly question,' or 'you could do probably do a better job than me, I'll let you take the lead' You may have found yourself thinking these thoughts, or you may be able to find a few examples that you’ve experienced yourself? One of my missions for this podcast is for women to own their success; a big part of this is getting over imposter syndrome. So, with that at the forefront of our minds, let’s see what we can do to get rid of those imposturous behaviours? 1. Who has actually told you these things? Who has told you that you are not good enough; who has told you that you’re a fraud? With that in mind, can you link the feelings you have, about these limiting beliefs, to something you’ve created for yourself, and just simply convinced yourself that it’s true. 2. Visualise your success. Before any situation where you may feel the imposter syndrome creeping in, I want you to use the art of visualisation. Close your eyes and think of successfully finishing the speech, the meeting, the evaluation, whatever it is for you. Think of how well that particular moment went; what you were feeling, seeing and hearing, and how successful it was. 3. Compliment/Praise Bank. Yes, this might sound scary or maybe a little egotistical, but it absolutely isn’t. This is for you to celebrate your success, actually see hard proof in front of you that you ARE good at what you do and you are not a fraud or a failure. People don’t praise or compliment for the sake of it, so don’t ever shy away from praise or compliments! Our subconscious mind works so hard for us to achieve our goals and if we leave it hanging and don’t celebrate it will begin to work against us, such as self-sabotage and not for us. CLICK HERE to join my LinkedIn Group - Women Creating Unstoppable Confidence Join me over on Social Media: Facebook Instagram LinkedIn

'𝐄𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫, 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡, 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠.’ How often do you doubt yourself and your abilities? Does it hold you back from doing what you have always wanted to do? Often a lack of self-belief stops us from feeling confident in our abilities. Feeling less confident in turn, stops us from living the life we should. Self-confidence is not shallow. It’s a deep sense of self-awareness within you that makes you confident without the clothes or modern-day armour we love to cover ourselves in. Believing in yourself is what allows you to rise up and reach your potential. The more we can cultivate unstoppable confidence the more we believe and trust ourselves. So here are my 5 steps to cultivating unstoppable confidence: Step 1 - 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐨𝐬𝐞 Your very own quick ‘life hack’ where your posture makes you feel powerful. Whether that is Wonder Woman or Superman, stand in this posture for two minutes with a great big smile on your face and feel the change in your physiology and psychology. Click here to watch Amy Cuddy’s talk on The Power Pose. Step 2 - 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 ‘𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬’ We never ever fail, we just learn. Pick out the three positive learnings from all the time you fell on your butt, use them and move on. Step 3 -𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐬 Go back to a time you are most proud of in your life and list 5 strengths you used in that time. What strengths do other people say you have? How can you be using them now? With all those strengths in play what could you achieve now. Step 4 - 𝐀𝐜𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐟 - 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 Put pen to paper and journal all the ways you would be if you were confident and had belief in yourself and your abilities. Keep journaling till you feel the power within. If you want to be confident, act as if you are confident and other people will start to feel confident in you. If you wanna be healthy and fit, start feeding your body a healthy person would feed herself. Step 5 - 𝐀𝐧𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐠 What song makes you feel empowered, alive and motivated? Use this song as an anchor in times of need. Turn up the volume and let it make you feel amazing. If we try out all of these 5 steps, work on them daily and use repetition we will be able to see that self-confidence cultivating. CLICK HERE to join my LinkedIn Group - Women Creating Unstoppable Confidence Join me over on Social Media: Facebook Instagram LinkedIn