The Positivity Xperience

The definition of a boundary in the dictonary: ....a line that marks the limits of an area; a divding line. This is something to remind yourself of when developing and establishing your boundaries. Think of that dividing line and the limits in which you need to establish a healthy boundary that originates withing\ and for yourself. To establish a boundary you must first know what it is that your will and won't allow to protect your peace & well being. To execute that boundary you must accept that not everyone will approve of this boundary, which is how you know that your boundary is in fact working. Become a Patreon! Socials, Services & Website

What if this doesn't work, what if I live alone for the rest of my life & What if they cheat on me are just a few examples of what if catostrophic thinking. While linked to OCD, anxiety and depression doesn't mean that you have to struggle with this forever but you do have to want to release the control and need to know. In order to do that you have to redirect those thoughts to the OPPOSITE of the catstophy. Ego does still play a part of this thining pattern by feeling as though you need to know the why at all costs....you do not. Mindfulness, staying present and journaling are all going to be your best friend with flipping that narrative. Join the Patreon here! Socials, services and website below! www.thepositivityxperience.com

Self love is a love like no other. It is the most fulfilling love you will ever know in your life. You read the meme's and do the things to work towards that feeling but do you beleive that you deserve it? You have to start at the basics with self love of accepting that you are in control of that love and you alone can provide that for yourself. The voices inside your head that tells you that self care is selfish is NOT your voice at all. To Join Patreon click here Services, Socials & Website Click here.

Grounding is a technique in which you allow yourself to be connected to that moment in time and connected to breath. When you allow yourself to stay in the moment with the understanding that you control and own nothing then you are operating from a neutral energy and can allow for abundance. When you are mindful of the present moment, the thoughts of the past and future do not exist in that space. Join the Patreon Here! For Services, Socials and YouTube follow the website here!

Low self esteem is something that holds you back from living a peaceful life. You focus on the negative and what you aren't doing and how you may be "less than" Low self esteem is a huge root cause to transactional relationships and fear of taking risks. To switch the narrative of the negative talk you have to focus on the things that you ARE good at. I promise you are good at something. Be ok with people not knowing your side of the story and realize that when people judge you, its a huge reflection of the person who is judging. Do NOT give the people who can only see it from their lens to control the vision of who you are. Join the Patreon here For all socials and services click here

Who are you seems like an easy question until you strip yourself of the titles and labels you are attached you. To know who you are you need to discover what your own beliefs are not what others have told you to believe of yourself. The introspective work attached to this question also allows you to start to rewrite that narrative and default that has been instilled over your lifetime. www.thepositivityxperience.com

There are 4 main attachment styles. The goal is to settle in secure attachment where you are balanced and confident. There are three other types of attachments that create codependency, negativity, avoidance and other traits that contribute to unhealthy realtionships. You are not destined to stay in a negative style unless you choose to stay there. You style may wander through all of them except secure. Typically when you get to that space you are consistent with the tools you need to have the balance. For Services, Socials and Website visit www.thepositivityxperience.com

Procrastination is not you being lazy, it is your lack of a system that creates the overwhelming feeling and lack of inspiration. Focusing on on the goal and not the process is what makes the task feel undesirable. When you have a system that is specific to the task it becomes an automatic routine. Microgoals are the elixer that prevents procratination and allows for better time management. Services, Socials and Patreon HERE

Religious trauma is a contributing factor of your social and emotional maturity, feelings of guilt and shame, adult relationships and so much more. You can only believe what you were taught in your childhood but you have the ability to rewrite those beliefs. It is especially traumatic when you are told that if you belive or live differently that you will burn in hell and may lose the community and family in which have since become codependant on for your identity. This week we unbox a lot of those beleifs For the Patreon, socials and services, visit me @ www.thepositivityxperience.com

Failure, mistakes and the unkown is not a scary place but rather a place of redirection and opportunity. Perfection is always rooted in insecurity and the need of approval and usially a big road block of you taking the risks to provide you with that direction. Fear of failing isn't even your stuff that you are carrying. When you realize that failure and mistakes WILL continue to happen to help guide you then and only then will you forge through and follow YOUR journey and not others. Patreaon, services and all socials www.thepositivityxperience.com

We attached emotions to various situations that happen in our life. One of the biggest tools I learned on my own healing journey was "It is what it is". This practice has and continues to allow me to process my feelings and emotions without attaching it to a situation. It's a practice that requires patience and consistency. Your feelings are ALWAYS valid to YOU and this practice allows for you to process those valid feelings. To Join Patreon or to find other links and services, visit www.thepositivityxperience.com

Feelings and emotions while two different things can be dibilitating if you don't focus on allowing yourself to feel them so you may process them. Feelings can take on the illusion as facts but feelings are the perception of facts to the person having them. Regardless of how painful they can be, labeling and processing them is how you release the hold that they have over you. Let's chat about it. www.thepositivityxpereince.com www.patreon.com/loriwheeler

Ego is actually how we live our lives. We have the ID, Ego and Super Ego. When they all work well together that helps us navigate through life. When however we allow the ID Ego to take over, we allow that negative part of the ego to rule your entire focus and mindset. In order to release ego you must first come to terms with the fact that you have no control over anything except your mindset. When you start to focus on self acceptance and appreication for your flaws, the ego starts to tame. If you would like to be a patreon, you can visit here: www.patreon.com/loriwheeler For all other social medis a private services: www.thepositivityxperience.com

Three types of people to surround yourself with to help elevate your vibe. The Supporter, The Boundary Respector and The Inspirer. You must also be those three things for yourself first and extend that same energy to those around you. If you do not have these people around you, its a good indicator to not only revaluate your circle but to focus on your own self love and growth. NEW PATREON episode out now! Become A Patreon

Releasing the need to have control over situations, things and people requires nurturing of your mindset and perspective. By enhancing and nurturing your mindset, your desire to control the unknown deminishes. The things you think you control is actually controlling you. What you are chasing, you will always chase and what you run from with always chase you. Mindfulness and acceptance that everthing is temporary, is where the foundation of relasing is rooted. Visit me here! www.thepositivityxperience.com

If you are an empath you know the difficulties of protecting your peace. While difficult it is not impossible as long as you are willing to accept that its not your job to actually absorb other peoples stuff. Empaths need structure and boundaries and a place to process what they are experiencing. The ability to distiguish the difference between other peoples pain and your own will allow you the ability to seperate from the absorbtion of others energy. For services and socials, follow me here! www.thepositivityxperience.com

To develop self love is to release the limited belief system that your parents, friends and social media has given you. You can't fully love yourself while trying to please everyone even if you were told that that is what you need to do. Allowing yourself the space to restructure your thoughts to be yours and not everyone else does take time and effort but the journey IS the progress and the reward is far more then any other human could provide you. For socials and all the services I provide, visit me at www.thepositivityxperience.com

We all have power but often give it away in hopes that other people will like us. We hold expectations that other people have the power to make us "happy". Only YOU can make you happy and expecting others to do so is draining your power. To protect your peace and maintain your power, you must be willing to release control and let go of the things you think will make you 'Happy". Harness your power by restoring your soul and making yourself a priority Let's chat about it ... www.thepositivityxperience.com For all links and services :-)

Boundaries are a foundation of healthy relationships when set with intention and consistent practice. When we have unhealthy boundaries, those lines get blurred and thouse boundaries become unhealthy. Trauma throughout your life can also lead to unhealthy boundaries. Focus on healing that trauma and establishing healthy boundaries. Let's chat about it.. For all socials and private sessions: www.thepositivityxperience.com

If you find yourself living in the past and feeling as though you will never be "happy" or at peace, you may not realize it but you are making your life even harder. The art of acceptance and letting go is the key to gaining self love and boundaries but you resist these things when they aren't comfortable. Let's chat about it... For all social links and services follow the website here

Encountering a narcissist is something we have or will face in our life. If you are lucky, its a brief encounter but more often then not we end up entangled with them. The importance of self love and boundaries is the key to avoiding the attachment to these people but let's discuss a few of the types of Narcissistic Personality Disorders so you have a bit more insight on what or who you are dealing with. Website to all services and links: www.thepositivityxperience.com

Starting your day committing 10 minutes of gratitude pen to pad can shift your entire mindset. There will always be things out of your control but gratitude and mindfulness allows you to be grounded, present and intentional. Building a gratitude practice into your daily routine along with other wellness practices will give you an amazing start to each day

Not being belived, humiliated or blamed are three reasons people are afraid to report abuse. It becomes even more problematic when poeple don't see evidence of what they assume abuse should look like. The idea that you have no other option then your current one can often make you feel like staying is the only option. Let's chat about it Domestic Hotline 1-800-799-7233 Text START 88788 Follow the Website for socials, blog and services www.thepositivityxperience.com

In this bonus episode the recent events in Ukraine and personal DM's surrounding the coping of anxiety when you feel so helpless and uncertain. Consistent scheduling and self care is mandatory to help maintain some sense of normalcy. We never know or can always prepare for a tragedy. Maintaining a daily wellness practice every day will allow you to always have a safe space. If you would like to help Ukraine, Here are a few resources for you. ifaw.org Voices For Children Revived Soldiers Of Ukraine For all of my Socials and Services Follow me here. www.thepositivityxperience.com

Feeling stuck, lost, sad and in fear can be overwhelming. It's often hard to look past your current situation but one decision can be the change of your entire life. It's overwhelming when you are looking at the entire picture as an emergency. When you sort and prioritize what is the most important to you, it allows you to process each area of your life without that overwhelm. Let's chat about it. For services and other social links follow www.thepositivityxperience.com

Are you feeling numb or depressed to the point of overwhelm and thoughts of leaving the planet because of it? Often we feel as though what we are going through in this moment may last a lifetime. Its hard to see light and hope at times but I promise you as dim as it may be, there is a light there. Pupose is something that has many legs and changes as you grow. Let's chat about getting through those darker days. Follow Me Here

Gratitude is key to a joyful life. True gratitude comes with zero expectation. Gratitude for the little things that you take for granite each day. The matching socks or warm coffee. Gratitude is grounding for your soul and fills that missing void you feel. Let's chat about it Follow Me Here

You want someone else's reason and then often debate that reason unless something fits the narrative that you have created in your mind. Their reason will never be valid to you. My Aha moment came 20 some years ago after a conversation with a cousin. That specific moment I released the need toi know why some of my traumas happened. Lets chat about it. Follow Me Here!

Do you use words like always or never, perfect or disaster? These are only a couple examples of all or nothing thinking. Finding the gray area is one of the keys to balance. If you go all in to only give up on whatever you went all in is also all or nothing. Finding the many shades of gray in your day to day life will not only help your mental health but will also enhance all of your relationships. Let's chat about black and white thinking and how to find the gray. Follow me here!

One sticking point on your journey of self love is accepting someone for who they are, not who you want them to be. Its accepting that just because you want someone in your life, they may not be in alignment with you and that IS ok. It is important to not chase but attract. Let's chat about it. For all my other socials and services, click here

Trauma is something that all of us have in one form or another. For years my trauma defined me though anger and the idea that the world and all my relationships owed me something. This led to years of anxiety, overthinking and all in all misery. This changed for me when I knew that there was something that I had to do for myself to feel better. I didn't know what better was but I knew it wasn't how I was living. Lets chat about it You can find all my links here All services are telesession and done over zoom or facetime.

How much time do you spend each day on social media? Do you find yourself scrolling for hours? Social media as a tool is an amazing wonderful thing. Social media as a distraction is a slippery slope that will send you on a constant need to scroll for the dopamine release. I will share with you my strategies and how long I am actually on social media each day. For all of my social media links and website, click here

When you find yourself in a space of reaction, you are engaging not from a place of communication but from a space of battle and being right. You fear someone getting over on you or feeling superior but the reality is you engaging is them already "winning" A person can't argue with an empty space. Walking away to process what you want to say is where the real peace in power is. This allows you to articulate your prospetive when you are not operating from emotion. Let's chat about it. Follow the website and other socials here

A spiritual practice is the foundation of alignment with the universe, abundance, peace and well being. Spiritual alignment when paired with Life Coaching and therapy practices is what will give you the full solid foundation to live your best life. It's all abut alloiwing yourself to be vulnerable and heal your human traumas while being open to recieve what is in alignemtn with you from the universal energy. Let's chat about it! Visit the website for services and other socials here

One of the biggest hurdles keeping you feeling stuck comes down to acceptance. To accept is to release what is holding you back. The art of acceptance is one of the best tools in your life. To accept is to release the control that that person/situation has over you. Let's chat about it. YouTube: Tik Tok @LoriWheeler Instagram: OfficialLoriWheeler WEBSITE:

Nothing will change until YOU change. Henry Ford said "Regardless if you think you can or cannot, you are right". When you say "I can't" or "But it's hard" then that is exactly as it will be. Our minds are facinating things that you have more influence over than you realize. We have developed these default responses that is up to us to change. Let's chat about it. YouTube Website Tik Tok @LoriWheeler Instagram @OfficialLoriWheeler

We have all been in a space of such deep hurt that is seems impossible to consider that ever going away until the other person "pays the price" for hurting you. What you don't realize is that deep anger is actually harming your energy. When you focus on self love and healing yourself, the need to seek revenge and hold grudges will not keep you at 3 am feeling this anger. Follow all my socials and website here Join my Tik Tok Live every Tuesday evening 7pm EST and Sunday morning (time varies) for coffee chat @LoriWheeler YouTube @The Positivity Xperience

Do you know the difference of self love and self confidence? While they do go hand and hand, they are different in nature. Self confidence is knowing you are good at something externally. Self love is knowing that you are good enough as you are right now. You do deserve to love yourself, it's just you beliving that. Follow all my socials and YouTube Here

Energy boundaries are the foundation of every other boundary you will ever establish. Understanding not only your energy but the energy of others. Being aware of how much you actually don't have energy boundaries is a great first step tp establishing them. Understand that your energy is your responsibility to protect which means you must know how to protect that energy in the first place. Let's chat about it. Follow me here!

Often you get caught up in other people and their reason as to why they say or think the way they do. You try to figure out their why and how you may or may not be able to change it. The fact is, you don't need their why but you do need your own. Focusing on other people's why is wasted energy. Let's chat about it. My website and other social links are here

If you have ever heard of manifestation and did a vision board to tell the universe what you want, that is often desperate energy. You will never attract from desperation, scarcity or fear. In manifestatipn you can't fake it till you make it. Manifesting is about being in alignment. In order to be in alignment, you must first achieve the feeling of that alignment. The feeling state and working towards that desire IS manifestation. Let's talk about it. For private appointments and all socials, FOLLOW HERE

Do you feel stuck in your life? Stuck is honestly just another word for overwhelm. You want new jobs and relationships but feel like you can't even put one foot in front of the other. Feeling stuck can also result from you wanting new things to "fill a void". I want to share with you five tips and clarity as to why you may feel "stuck". Allowing yourself to face that fear and allow yourself to take the steps to fill that void and THEN make the changes to get unstuck. Follow me here!

How many times have to started a project only to not feel motivated to complete it? You tell yourself you are going to accomplish these giant goals but feel that its overwhelming to the point of not doing any of it. Micro goals will be your very best friend in achieving these goals. Knowing when to implement the cut off time and actually stick with it. Let's chat Motivation and procrastination. Follow me here!

Intrusive thoughts can be scary and make you question your sanity. The key is to understand that intrusive thoughts are only thoughts and not facts. When you have OCD and Anxiety they are often more exacerbated but all people on the planet have intrusive thoughts. The key is not not overanalyze them and question the why. Not talking about them or fearing them does not allow for the thought to come and go like a wave. Let's chat about them. Follow me here!

Reaction vs response is one huge key in long term healthy relationships and especially the one in which you have with yourself. How many times have you been on the receiving end of someone in total reaction mode? You shut down and do not listen to what the person is saying. It's the self awarness of your responses that will cultivate productive relationships. Follow me here!

The Gabby Petito and Brian Laundrie case that continues to grow each day with more twists and turns also has a mental health aspect that so many people are facing in their lives currently. OCD and anxiety and according to some, Brian's "episodes". These are all things that many people are facing in their lives and realtionships today. The harsh reality is there are still so many people who are struggling with this RIGHT NOW. Let's chat about it Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-7233 Thehotline.org Follow me here

Do you set goals and start really strong but then fizzle out after a short time? Do you feel overwhelmed and exhausted by just the thought of the goals? Micro goals are your absolute best friend. This requires patience and consistency but will allow you to achieve your goals and sustain the momentum. Follow me here! Fly Lady Tidying Up With Marie Kondo Home Edit

September 11th 2001 was a day that like millions of other people will not forget. Blue skies, puffy clouds and an odd feeling of silence was the way the morning started. That would soon change for days, months and years to come. I wanted to share my 9-11 story with you all. Be kind and be consistent in that kindness. Follow me here

We get ourselves cought up and hurt when other people do not see or validate our feelings to the way we would like them to. This is because we are the only ones having our exact feelings and thoughts. A Fact is one that just is, it carries zero emotion. We attach our views, thoughts and emotions to them. They are valid to us. It becomes problematic however when you expect everyone to see it as THE FACT. Lets chat about it. For all things Lori and Postivity Xperience follow here! Tik Tok @LoriWheeler Instagram @OfficialLoriWheeler

You often feel stuck because you are hoping that other people support your decision. growth or boundaries. You start to second guess your goals and beliefs when other people start to show some form of doubt or judgement. Getting comfortable with other people not understanding your vision or goal is where you will really start to grow. This will come with therapy, mindfulness and daily practice of self love and trusting your own goals. You are often waiting for other people to validate those dreams. When you do that, you will always be waiting. For all things Positivity Xperience click the link below Follow Here: