The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

We all know that communication is the life-blood of any relationship, but in this episode, Roy challenges the listener to pay more attention to the motives behind their words rather than what actually comes out of their mouths. You will learn that there are really only two "love languages": Fear and Trust. We are either speaking from fear, which makes us conceal in order to control, or we are speaking from trust, which makes us reveal in order to relate. Identifying your REAL love language will radically change your life and relationships. (This is part two in a three part series.) Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Most people say they want a relationship characterized by authenticity, transparency and honesty. But what does that really mean? In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, invites the listener to be a "revealer" rather than a "concealer" by describing 5 devastating results of not being authentic. This is part one of a three part series. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Do you ever feel like trying to find your life partner is like trying to find a needle in a haystack? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, Roy talks about two ways to find your "needle" (your life partner): You can either sift through all the hay, which will messy and take forever, or you can magnetically and effortlessly draw your "needle" out of the haystack without you having to sift through all the hay. If this second way sounds more appealing to you, then don't miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

I tried so hard to come up with a title for this episode that would cause you to listen—because it's that important. I hope I succeed, because I interview Jim Dethmer, one of the world's leading voices in the field of living, loving and leading consciously. We talk about the root of suffering and drama, what it means to be the creator of your experience, and how to let go of uncomfortable feelings and emotions using "The Triple Welcoming Process." Would it help if I begged you to listen to this episode? Yes? Ok, then I beg you to listen. ABOUT JIM DETHMER Jim Dethmer is the co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership (easily found on Amazon) and the co-founder of The Conscious Leadership Group (https://conscious.is). Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In this episode, Roy explains something most of us know—that we are our own worst enemy. The mind functions like our "inner relationship coach." It's our Matchmaker, Translator, Secret Service Agent, Psychologist and Psychic—giving us advice and wisdom to aid in our pursuit of intimacy. However, even though our minds mean well, its wisdom backfires, sabotaging our ability to attract a healthy, sustainable relationship. If you want a great relationship, then you have to learn about this enemy within. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com The Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Most Popular eCourses: The Radiant Woman: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-radiant-woman/ The Superior Man: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-way-of-the-superior-man-how-to-attract-women-advice-tips-more-dates-get-more-sex-wife/ Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Even though Gary Chapman's blockbuster book, "The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts" is extremely popular, it's actually based on a dangerous premise. The commitment to speak in another person's "love language" won't produce "love that lasts," as the subtitle suggests. Instead, it will create co-dependence, power struggle, score-keeping and drama. Listen to this episode with an open mind and discover the type of communication that actually produces lasting love. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com The Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Most Popular eCourses: The Radiant Woman: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-radiant-woman/ The Superior Man: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-way-of-the-superior-man-how-to-attract-women-advice-tips-more-dates-get-more-sex-wife/ Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

None of us like drama and conflict, and yet not many of us understand its root causes and how to put an end to it. If you want to learn how to end conflict—with partners, parents, siblings, children, co-workers or friends—and create connection and harmony, then don't miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com The Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Most Popular eCourses: The Radiant Woman: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-radiant-woman/ The Superior Man: https://coachingwithroy.com/preview-ecourses/ecourse-preview-the-way-of-the-superior-man-how-to-attract-women-advice-tips-more-dates-get-more-sex-wife/ Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Would you like to feel alive, happy, passionate, energized and full of love and joy almost all of the time? Well, in this episode, Roy explains how to make that your "new normal." Roy shares that although we all want to feel alive and happy, we don't have to go searching for those feelings as if it were missing. Rather, the beautiful energy we seek—love, passion, joy—all of it is fully present within us, it's just blocked. Feeling good almost all of the time is about removing 6 barriers that block the flow of our life force. And when we do that, we'll feel as if we are "walking on sunshine." Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In this episode, Roy offers practical, mindful wisdom on what to do when you're an emotional wreck. He discussed the two major mistakes that most people make: They either AVOID their feelings via distraction or some other sort of numbing activity, or they ATTACH to their feelings and hold on to them. But there is a "middle way" — feeling your feelings — and Roy explains how to do that without oversimplifying or overcomplicating the issue. We all experience times when we're an emotional wreck. If you want to learn what to do in such moments, then this podcast is for you. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In this episode, Roy discusses the issues surrounding making smart sexual choices. No other issue can lead to such pleasure or pain, and so it's a critically important issue to discuss. Roy talks about the three waves of the sexual revolution. The first occurred in the mid sixties when we evolved beyond sexual repression to sexual expression. The second occurred because of STD's and AIDS, causing us to embrace safe sex. And now we're in the middle of the third wave, which is the movement toward smart sex. Roy shares that smart sex is recognizing that sex can be a celebration of either chemistry or commitment—two very different things—and understanding the difference is the key to a happy heart rather than a broken heart. Don't miss this important discussion. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

If you love "aha" moments, then this is your episode! Roy discusses the REAL reason you're still single, and yes, it's not what you think. Yet this real reason is sabotaging your love life and keeping you from attracting a healthy, fulfilling relationship. If you want a happy ending to your love story, then dive in. But beware. You need an open heart and a strong "seat belt," because you're in for a wild ride of self-discovery and life transformation. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website The Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love & the Pursuit of Intimacy Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers That Keep You Single A Drink with Legs: One Man's Journey from the Darkness of Drama to the Dawning of Intimacy Roy's Most Popular eCourses: The Radiant Woman: Becoming the Woman that Evokes a Man's Full Devotion The Superior Man: Becoming the Man Every Woman Wants and the World Desperately Needs Roy's Group Coaching Program: Online Relationship Bootcamps Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: Request via email: [email protected]

In this episode, Roy interviews his wife, MaryMargaret Biancalana. The two of them share the hilarious story about how they met and how each of them took the risk of being incredibly authentic with one another—from the very beginning. Additionally, they engage in a deep discussion about their "incompatibility" and how they handle their significant personality differences. Finally, Roy asks MaryMargaret to put on her "clinician's hat" and share how she helps her clients deal with sadness, anxiety and other difficult emotions. MaryMargaret Biancalana has a Master's in Social Work (LCSW) from Western Michigan University. She has worked as a therapist for almost 30 years, while raising two children. Roy and MM married in May of 2008. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Chemistry and compatibility are the two essential components of a meaningful intimate connection. But while most everyone understands chemistry, the host, relationship expert, Roy Biancalana, believes compatibility is radically misunderstood. In this podcast, Roy will talk about what's important and what's not when it comes to compatibility in an intimate relationship. Most people put far too much emphasis on some things and far too little on the things that really matter. Chemistry is the energy that gets you into a relationship, but it's compatibility that allows a relationship to flourish and last. Don't miss this important episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

"The Law of Attraction works and that should scare the hell out of you." That is the provocative but very important message of this podcast. Even though the LOA is all the rage and almost every dating and relationship expert sings its praises, using the LOA as your relationship strategy will backfire and actually ruin your chances at creating a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. The host, Roy Biancalana, not only outlines 9 different reasons why the LOA is dangerous and counter productive, but he also describes a healthier and more trustworthy approach to attracting lasting love. This podcast contains a very powerful and important message and it requires a courageous and open heart to truly hear its wisdom. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, discusses the conscious approach on how to start a new relationship and create a connection that will last. You will learn where to go to meet someone special, how to approach them (or get them to approach you!) and what to say in those initial, crucial moments where first impressions are made. Once a person is "ready for something real" (the topic of episode 006) and once a person has gotten themselves in great "relationship shape," then they're ready for the nitty-gritty details on how to create a "new beginning," a relationship that is built to last. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

This podcast is NOT for engaged couples or those thinking about getting married, though its message would apply to them. No, this podcast is for anyone interested in knowing what it takes to attract lasting love. Because we will never be in a relationship that is healthier than we are, this podcast explores what it means to be in "relationship shape," and how to get yourself ready for something real. The host, Roy Biancalana, describes 7 "relationship muscles" that need to be "strong" if a person wants to experience a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. This podcast will help you identify exactly what you need to work on in order to make your next relationship (or your current one) a lasting, beautiful connection. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In this episode, Roy takes everything he's learned, both personally and professionally, about how to do online dating successfully and packages it into a single episode. Roy presents a mindful or conscious perspective on the "5 P's" of Internet Dating: Preparation, Principles, Practices, Profiles and Pictures. There's a gold mine of info offered here, and if you're doing or thinking of doing online dating, don't miss this. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Do you ever feel like you attract the same kinds of partners, patterns, problems and pain, over and over again? If so, then this episode will change your life. In a very playful, practical and powerful way, Roy not only discusses why we get stuck in these repetitive nightmares, but more importantly, he shares a step-by-step approach on how to break free and attract a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. If you're ready to "wake up" to a "new day," then this podcast is for you. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

In the movie, "It's a Wonderful Life," George Bailey had a plan for his life and things didn't turn out. Well, when you think about your love life, can you relate to George? Probably. In fact, it's likely that things haven't gone as planned. In this episode, Roy examines our plans and offers insight, compassion and hope as to how to change your story from "It's a horrible Love Life" to "It's a Wonderful Love Life." If there was ever an episode where the conventional approach to finding a partner is contrasted with the mindful or conscious approach, this is it. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Love. Intimacy. Bliss. Are they really possible? Or are they fantasies, reserved for sappy love songs and romantic comedies? Those were the questions the host, Roy, asked himself after he went through a divorce and a heartrending break up with his fiancée. What was wrong? Why weren't his relationships working? Why was there so much conflict, drama and heartache? If you have ever asked similar questions, take heart. This podcast has the answers. Roy's disappointing love life led him on an inward journey where he discovered the root cause of relationship disappointment, drama and difficulty. Roy shares not only what he learned, but in a refreshingly personal and candid way, he shares his personal story of how he changed the the trajectory of his love life and how you can, too. It is doubtful that you will ever hear a coach and spiritual teacher be as vulnerable as Roy is in this episode. If you listen to only one of Roy's podcasts, it should be this one. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.

Like a movie trailer, this short episode introduces the host, describes what the podcast is all about and who it serves. Listen here first if you want to make sure this podcast is a good fit for you. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy's 3 Books: Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/ Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.